Yeah It may work if both parties involved agree ro it at the beginning of it Some people evidently are happier that way But doing ot in the middle is just not something that can just be accepted And sleeping with someone else even before agreeing to that is juat cheating
@@Fiercetits I'm not one for polygamy or open relationships personally But some people ARE happier that way I just think if everyone involved is an adult, aware of all the terms and agrees to them then all sorts of relationships are valid But cheating is an absolute deal-breaker And if one person wants an open marriage and the other doesn't then clearly they are an ill fit for each other So if someone during a relationship feels like they need to change the term they should think real hard about it because it is absolutely possible that this will destroy they relationship they have
- Did you cheat on me ? - No, it's different. - How is that different ? - I heard about open relationships and... - B*tch are we in an open relationship ? - No. - So you did cheat on me. - ... No. What is she on about ?
Its fine if both people are open to the idea and like the idea I have a few friends who have been together for years while having an open relationship with one another but the main thing there is consent and openness from both parties communication is key but how the wife went about it in this story was an absolute dog move
@@bluehornet197nah just because you are fine doing it, it doesn’t mean that what you doing is fine. Marriage is exclusive and involvinf other people ruins it. The people who do it are incapable of commitment.
@@alexjoseph8257 I think this depends on the person I know 2 people who have been in an open relationship with one another for 15yrs now they are commited to each other but they still sleep with other people but I also think you are partially correct though as I do think most people who go into these open relationships aren't capable of commitment in a relationship
@@rdpillsforall6884 bullshit. the man got his emotions messed up. he didn't want an open relationship and he loved his wife. he couldn't decide to do anything so he was slowly suffering being in the relationship instead of moving on and only feelings for another girl helped him to resolve it. though, all the thing sounds fake as hell - how the wife didn't notice that her husband is suffering? even though it was his responsibility to set his boundaries and do something about the hurt (disagree to open a relationship, for example)
Yeah it works for some people either right until it blows up or they just become roommates and do other people. Open relationships/marriage is not possible in a relationship where people actually and genuinely love each other. Exclusivity is a must for a healthy marriage and a family. @@zero.mission
The typical open relationship story. She admits to cheating but tries to claim it's not cheating. Wants an open relationship and threatens to leave if she doesn't get her way. Happy to bang her lover but once OP finds a lover she starts to get jealous. Says OP drifted away when it was actually she who drifted away first. Don't open a relationship just because you want to validate your cheating if you get jealous and can't hack your partner also getting some.
One of my ex's told me right off the bat that she only wanted a poly open relationship. I explained to her that this was a really really bad idea, but she said she was accustomed to that lifestyle and preferred it. She proceeded to absolutely lose her shit when she saw how many women I slept with. I figured since we weren't taking our relationship seriously, I would do exactly as when I was single. We split after about a year.
If someone suggests an open relationship, it's already wide open. Good on you, dude. I'm glad you found happiness and put her onto the streets where she belongs 👏
Bro, that's not an open marriage. That's just cheating. An open marriage is where both parties consent to that shit. Not one person being manipulative and shitty to coserse someone into an open relationship. That's fucked, I'm sorry that happened to you.
He should have divorced her as soon as she confessed to cheating on him. But at least he grew a backbone in the end. Also, she clearly didn't expect him to be able to find anyone else to sleep with. While she went out to get her guts rearranged and came back to the house he was paying for.
Idk what she expected after forcing a poly relationship on her husband and for a year at that. Did she just run his monogamy would disappear or that he would wait around for her forever? Not wise. She played a stupid game and now she must live with her bitter prize
As much as the revenge is satisfying on a superficial level I think OP is only hurting himself in the long term by staying in the marriage solely to hurt her. Dude should have left the moment he realized he didnt care about her and be done with it.
As someone who was in a woefully similar situation years prior: Don’t do it gents, open relationships are a trap. If you do do it however, and don’t like it, have the guts to follow your instincts if you start throwing up when trying to be with another woman. It’s ok and actually really normal to have eyes for only one woman. But just remember: Choose that woman wisely.
@Shoe89 A few days ago my gf told me that she wanted an open relationship because she found a guy that think she love.. I accepted because I love her, we have been together for 4 years.. I'm not feeling good right now and I think I need someone to speak about it..
It's obvious that she lied about making him jealous bro was literally crying for the first month and she didn't care, she probably got dumped by her coworker
The fact that she was just doing this to make him jealous is so pathetic. They are not teenagers anymore. They are full grown adults! She is clearly not mentally mature enough to be a wife. She’s only upset because now he’s finally happy with someone someone who really appreciates him. If she didn’t want that she shouldn’t have done this BS in the first place. She can go cry alone for the rest of her life now.
Yup, who in their right mind fck other people just to make his/her spouse jealous even though that said spouse is not doing anything bad or wrong in their relationship. I mean making your partner jealous is like texting someone or giving more attention to someone and that's enough to make your partner jealous, but telling your partner face to face that you will F someone and he/she cannot do anything about it is a straight up cheating and not just making your partner jealous. 😅
You cheated, opened the relationship to continue to sleep with others knowing it would upset him, then basically lie to say you only did it to make him jealous and now crushed to know that all you build with him is destroyed. You couldn't win bigger in the game "Play dumb games, win stupid prizes".
the "open the marriage/relationship" idea is prolly the biggest red flag for me. Launching the idea is a reason to stop the relationship in my opinion because she doesn't launch the idea from nowhere and if you refuse, she'll prolly cheat on you anyway
Completely false. If they both really want it works, but they have to tell each other what they want, what they do etc... If even one of them has doubts it can't work, and the other has to accept it and continue the relationship or break up
@@gaetano2435if that’s stated in the first date then yes, it’s not something you pull out while married, you don’t “open an marriage” if you truly loved your spouse
My ex admitted a month into our marriage that she wanted an open relationship. She said all the same b.s. and made me out to be the bad guy for not wanting it. She had several relationships while we were married. It destroyed our marriage. She told me about most of them and it killed all the love I had for her.
Can anyone explain to me how having a open relationship and a marriage is beneficial in the long run? What are the pros and cons? Because how can you actively be okay messing around with other people while claiming to be in love with your married partner? If you loved someone so much to be married to them, isn’t an open marriage making them step down in rank to let someone else in their place? If they want to do those things and be all care free like when they were single then it sees that they’re for the streets. It’s so wild that people think that this is normal and okay- imagine having a baby from all that and having to explain why their parents are with other people or how their mom or dad is married to someone else but is also with your mom or dad at home too. That’s so messed up.
Its a new concept made my singles to get married folks to fuck up their own marriage so they're brought down to their level. Its a stupid concept that doesn't work unless stated right in the beginning of the relationship
It's an open cheating card , like y stop with just one , let's f around with multiple people to satisfy multiple fantasies but for the society we are a married couple , this concept sucks
@@TheGintama86 ohh fuck off an open marriage begins with a married couple. single people have noting to do with it. its always the men of women in the marriage that wants to fuck a single or sometimes even a married person.
I know someone whose been in a terrible accident and is paralyzed by the waist down. He refused to get a pump for his wife,(High S Drive) and has suggested that she get 'boyfriend' to take care of those needs. She's denied going beyond their marriage, for now anyways. He's completely fine with it and is quite persistent that she does, but she refuses. Personally, I don't think open relationships are all that good. It's demoting your relationship to the stage where you've been on a couple of dates, but aren't exclusive.
Its basically the same thing that makes people cheat. Apparently we aren't evolutionarily monogamous lifelong. Nature prefers more genetic diversity, so it prefers half siblings with varying genetic diversity than more siblings with more common genetic materials. Marraige or even being with only one partner their whole life, is a social construct we came up with in pretty recent history. The shame associated with divorce or even widowed remarrying wasn't even a thing in many places until colonization. But, what's not anything to do with evolution is dishonesty and cheating. Our ancestors were way more straightforward with ending a union truthfully and moving on with someone else.
Sounds like my story. The moment I found a girlfriend my wife wanted me back. We are divorcing and I am happy with my new girl. In fact I have been living the best time of my life with her.
“Happily give half of my money”… last sentence of the video ruined it all. I don’t support pity parties for those who hurt you, why give a penny? Money is extremely valuable, your just gonna split your economic self in half for the person who sent you through emotional torture, regret, years of wasted time, manipulation, etc.?
The sense of resentfulness is all over the mind when smthng like this happens, OP’s love not only died for her but he started to feel disgust around her, at this moment money doesnt matter he just wants her out of his life
Thats why u need a prenup. If they cheat on you or they wanna open the relationship just hand her a bag, and open the door. Trust me, there are more needy women than proper men with a house and a job. Im 8 years of relationship with my wife. If she wants to leave im fine. House is mine, car is mine and even the dog is mine. I sleep good every night knowing that if she cheats on me she will have the worst part.
@@ascended1924 i love her. I wanna grow old with her. BUT. I cant control what she will do in the future. And i like to sleep tight at night, so i pay for everything and put everything under my only name. You cant control people, and its never just about you, having a security rope just in case she decides to let you go feels good.
@@ascended1924 do you think i lover her less just because i wanna have a security rope to live without fear? Women initiate 75% of divorces. Mainly because they earn more from divorcing that by staying in the marriage. I just dont wanna go into a relationship where my wife benefits more from divorcing me than by staying with me.
“Did you really cheat on me?” *admits to cheating* “No” Lady do you not know how open relationships work? You can’t just retroactively justify something.
I would never contemplate being with anybody who thought that I was NOT enough. YOU shouldn't either. YOU ARE ENOUGH, and if somebody doesn't think you're enough, the problem isn't you, it's THEM.
90% of open relationships end in separation/divorce. Even the planned before agreed ones. The very few that work get the glory and attention. Meanwhile many who follow this treacherous path end up in ruins. I even saw a story from someone who ran a swingers clubs, and even in that environment. Divorce and separation are really high. Very few are successful and some reason they get the glory of "This is working and the new norm"
I always love the idea that people think "I opened the marriage so I can close it when I want", because that's not how it works, whoever opens the marriage gets no say in when the marriage closes back up, you reap what you sow
Why do these people get married in the first place? What they really want is the safety net of someone to pay the bills and provide for them while they get run through by everyone else. Open marriage or relationship is how every relationship starts out. It is usually the woman that brings it up to take the relationship to the next level and become exclusive. Then they get engaged and it gives her certainty that he ain't goin' anywhere and waits until they are married to spring the idea of an open marriage. The term "open marriage" to me is a total contradiction of the marriage vows. They all remember the part for better, for worse , and til death do we part , but they forget about the part about "FORESAKING ALL OTHERS".
Not if two mature adults GENUINELY want it. Being mature is realizing there are people who want this and they can have it if they want to - It's their marriage.
@@bakedandbeaded If you do it from the start, but trying to make your monogamous partner go open is awful, because even suggesting it says you want to cheat.
@@bakedandbeaded Sure it can work. But the likelihood is so low that you actually need to have two individuals that transcended the Physical needs to a point where they are genuinely soul bound........ I don't know about you, but all can tell me how happy they are. I will bet against that because the chances are too low that it actually is like that
@@Thoma5380 In my humble opinion for a long term relationship to work the male must fulfil *both* the stereotypical beta "provider" and alpha "badboy" roles. Spending time money and attention on your partner will only fulfil the provider side of this coin. That's not to say that cheating is ever justified though.
Honestly open relationships disgust me to the core. If ur not committed or capable to have a one on one relationship, then get help. It rlly truly disgusts how sick ppl are who think this is okay.
The woman essentially cheated and then proposed an open marriage to make him jealous, and then when it didn't go well, she cried and begs and does things to make the relationship keep going but ultimately fails. The man has a right to be sad for something he didn’t want to happen in the first place. However, he didn’t make a good decision to leaving although one might say his love was too powerful he should've realized that the connection is not there. (In my opinion) open relationships are an absolute abomination and something like this being proposed ...those people shouldn't be married in the first place. Marriage is something exclusive between man and woman of loyalty and no separation between them and the man owns the womens body and the woman owns the mans body ...without these basic fundamentals marriage is dead
Although this story is probably fake, it feels right, so lets assume it is. Lets also make an important distinction, regarding open relationships and cheating: The wife cheated first and then wanted to pass it as an open relationship. This is a double violation of the initial marriage contract and is on its own already a reason to terminate the relationship. End of story, the rest is just fluff. You can try to treat the rest of it as a separate story, and then we can have good moral discussions about immaturity and regret and how honest we assume the wife has been, and whether to give her another chance. Again, she cheated first, and liked it. This seals the deal unfortunately.
I am not sure. This from OP's perspective, and also this is clearly a clumsy statement coming from a relationship that doesn't know how to communicate. Many of these stories come with alot of retrospect so you can never be sure what came first. This is over all a very difficult situation, except for one thing: The wife cheated first before declaring an open relationship. Cheating on its own is already a transgression on its own, the rest is just fluff to the story and can be seen as separate.
Ask Destiny how it went for him after he opened his marriage because of his wife 😂😂.. You got to be some kind special person to play those kind of games and not let it break you..
She wasn't crying because she realized her strong undying love for her husband. She was crying because she realized she was nothing more than a piece of azz. This happens almost every time they want an open marriage. They catch feelings for the other guy, but he let's them know they were never anything more than something to play with.
Ah yes, the classic 'open for me, but closed for thee' marriage. If your partner/spouse suggests an open marriage it means they have, at the very LEAST, been thinking about cheating for a not-insignificant amount of time. Nobody just thinks about this, and immediately brings it up to their partner, because people aren't entirely dumb and have the understanding that there's a high chance it could just end their marriage/relationship. It's amazing to me that so many of these stories the person agrees to it despite it not being what they want. They're already emotionally cheating on you by just asking this question, it's time to seek therapy, or just end it. This particular story is even worse, because she just flat out DID cheat on him. Guy should have just gotten a divorce. She would have taken some stuff in the divorce but wouldn't have gotten alimony because she cheated.
Honestly good for him, he did nothing wrong imo, I wouldn’t give my boyfriend the time of day to explain anything if he basically acted cold and ghosted me for a year while sleeping with other people and telling me not to cry about it. That’s dirty manipulation and she reaps what she sows. She messed up and now that he doesn’t love her anymore I think she’s done enough damage to him and herself and should move on, never doing something stupid like that again. She also shouldn’t try to take half of his assets during divorce because, again, she’s done enough damage to him and herself. If she has any respect left for herself or him she’ll just leave on somewhat good terms and not bother him again.
It’s like a punch in the face. A punch in the face is a much bigger deal to one who gets punched, than to the one who threw it. To a spouse sleeping outside their marriage, their act doesn’t seem like much, just a bit of fun, no big deal. To the other spouse it’s devastating. Their whole world just unravels before them. And, the straying spouse won’t understand until it happens to them.
This happened to me. We tried it for a while because I loved her so much. I had been in love with her since middle school. We got together and got married in our early 30’s. I couldn’t take it anymore and I told her I wanted a divorce. That was 7 years ago.
Open relationships are an excuse for lunatics to go and cheat without having to feel guilt. The though of me getting together with anyone even after a breakup made me sick, if you don't feel that theres no more love
My ex wanted an open relationship to try having her way with girls and I rejected it, moving her as far away from me as possible. It broke my heart as we had a 4 year relationship then, and she was my first in everything, resulting me still trying to find another lover and stand on my feet.
A few days ago my gf told me she wanted to open the relationship after 4 years being together.. I accepted because I love her.. Now I cant sleep at night and I have nobody to talk about it, i dont know what to do
If he sat around like a sad sack of shiza, she wouldn’t given a care in this whole world. But because she saw he was happy with the situation after a while, then it became a problem, and now she wanted a closed relationship. Yeah, only she was allowed to get some, not him. She already cheated anyway, and pulled the open relationship thing out of her cheeks
I consider open relationships to be for weak willed individuals. Monogamy requires self-discipline and the will to avoid lustful intrusive thoughts. It's easy to cheat, just be a selfish asshole. It's much harder to practice temperance and other virtues.
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I liked it, relaxing minecraft video. Better than most people that just do it in shorts
It was of good quality
If you want kind words add an epilepsy warning for the love of God
I always heat stories about “open relationships/marriages are so popular now” but they never mention all the divorces that happen because of them.
Exactly, it's usually a member of the couple hates it or they're family hates it
@@clamp7123 yeah once family and friends find out it doesn’t go well, especially if their open relationship involves the friends.
Yeah
It may work if both parties involved agree ro it at the beginning of it
Some people evidently are happier that way
But doing ot in the middle is just not something that can just be accepted
And sleeping with someone else even before agreeing to that is juat cheating
@@nayriacadera6048 possibly yeah, just overall seems like a bad idea to do.
@@Fiercetits I'm not one for polygamy or open relationships personally
But some people ARE happier that way
I just think if everyone involved is an adult, aware of all the terms and agrees to them then all sorts of relationships are valid
But cheating is an absolute deal-breaker
And if one person wants an open marriage and the other doesn't then clearly they are an ill fit for each other
So if someone during a relationship feels like they need to change the term they should think real hard about it because it is absolutely possible that this will destroy they relationship they have
"I slept with another man"
"Did you really cheat on me?.."
*NO. LISTEN THERE'S THIS THING*
These women man hahahah Shiiiii
- Did you cheat on me ?
- No, it's different.
- How is that different ?
- I heard about open relationships and...
- B*tch are we in an open relationship ?
- No.
- So you did cheat on me.
- ... No.
What is she on about ?
It's definitely cheating this woman is tripping😂
Women will do all sorts of insane mental gymnastics to avoid accepting responsibility for their actions.
The point of a relationship is exclusivity. It’s supposed to be special. If it isn’t exclusive, it’s not a relationship, it’s an FWB situation.
This.
If your partner needs an O.R , then that person isn't for you.
Its fine if both people are open to the idea and like the idea I have a few friends who have been together for years while having an open relationship with one another but the main thing there is consent and openness from both parties communication is key but how the wife went about it in this story was an absolute dog move
@@bluehornet197nah just because you are fine doing it, it doesn’t mean that what you doing is fine. Marriage is exclusive and involvinf other people ruins it. The people who do it are incapable of commitment.
@@alexjoseph8257 I think this depends on the person I know 2 people who have been in an open relationship with one another for 15yrs now they are commited to each other but they still sleep with other people but I also think you are partially correct though as I do think most people who go into these open relationships aren't capable of commitment in a relationship
moral of the story - if you don't want an open relationship - don't fucking agree to it
I’d say it’s never trust women’s emotions.
@@rdpillsforall6884 bullshit. the man got his emotions messed up. he didn't want an open relationship and he loved his wife. he couldn't decide to do anything so he was slowly suffering being in the relationship instead of moving on and only feelings for another girl helped him to resolve it.
though, all the thing sounds fake as hell - how the wife didn't notice that her husband is suffering? even though it was his responsibility to set his boundaries and do something about the hurt (disagree to open a relationship, for example)
If your wife asks for open marriage, it’s already over. Run.
@@IRedpunk it works for some people
Yeah it works for some people either right until it blows up or they just become roommates and do other people. Open relationships/marriage is not possible in a relationship where people actually and genuinely love each other. Exclusivity is a must for a healthy marriage and a family. @@zero.mission
"It's not cheating, it's this thing called open relationship" ..Cheat first ask later, typical cheater behavior.
Don't be a doormat. she cheated & confessed, now asked for a written & recorded prove for divorce proceedings. The end.
The typical open relationship story.
She admits to cheating but tries to claim it's not cheating.
Wants an open relationship and threatens to leave if she doesn't get her way.
Happy to bang her lover but once OP finds a lover she starts to get jealous.
Says OP drifted away when it was actually she who drifted away first.
Don't open a relationship just because you want to validate your cheating if you get jealous and can't hack your partner also getting some.
Idk man, if someone cheats on you and tries to go "let's do an open relationship." It's already too late for me
One of my ex's told me right off the bat that she only wanted a poly open relationship. I explained to her that this was a really really bad idea, but she said she was accustomed to that lifestyle and preferred it. She proceeded to absolutely lose her shit when she saw how many women I slept with. I figured since we weren't taking our relationship seriously, I would do exactly as when I was single. We split after about a year.
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@@okamiexe1501Yooo 💀💀
Listen you are not in the wront
I’m surprised you guys lasted a year
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Simp grows a spine, woman regrets, story as old as time. Good for him 👏👏👏
If someone suggests an open relationship, it's already wide open. Good on you, dude. I'm glad you found happiness and put her onto the streets where she belongs 👏
Bro, that's not an open marriage. That's just cheating. An open marriage is where both parties consent to that shit. Not one person being manipulative and shitty to coserse someone into an open relationship. That's fucked, I'm sorry that happened to you.
“Open relationships are so popular now.”
Uhhh…. In what universe???
fr. if your partner wants an open relationship than you should just end the relationship
He should have divorced her as soon as she confessed to cheating on him. But at least he grew a backbone in the end.
Also, she clearly didn't expect him to be able to find anyone else to sleep with. While she went out to get her guts rearranged and came back to the house he was paying for.
She almost had the perfect cake and eat it to situation.
Idk what she expected after forcing a poly relationship on her husband and for a year at that. Did she just run his monogamy would disappear or that he would wait around for her forever? Not wise. She played a stupid game and now she must live with her bitter prize
Ong bro, similar shit happened to me and it fucking sucks. Luckily I'm in highschool so I didn't have any major commitments
Remember guys, even Jesus Christ permits divorce in cases of adultery.
🤣
even the lord has to show some restraint
This is facts.
Amen, gets the stones (kidding)
If she propose open marriage, she already cheated.
As much as the revenge is satisfying on a superficial level I think OP is only hurting himself in the long term by staying in the marriage solely to hurt her. Dude should have left the moment he realized he didnt care about her and be done with it.
So she wants the freedom of not being in a relationship while being in one. Plus, she cheated on him. ☕
While enjoying the benefits of being in one
women ☕️
As someone who was in a woefully similar situation years prior:
Don’t do it gents, open relationships are a trap. If you do do it however, and don’t like it, have the guts to follow your instincts if you start throwing up when trying to be with another woman. It’s ok and actually really normal to have eyes for only one woman. But just remember:
Choose that woman wisely.
If you are in a heterosexual monogamous straight relationship DO NOT OPEN THE MARRIAGE. It will end in chaos and tears.
If the topic of opening the marriage came up then it's already doomed at that point.
@Shoe89 A few days ago my gf told me that she wanted an open relationship because she found a guy that think she love..
I accepted because I love her, we have been together for 4 years.. I'm not feeling good right now and I think I need someone to speak about it..
It's obvious that she lied about making him jealous bro was literally crying for the first month and she didn't care, she probably got dumped by her coworker
She got played on the streets hsrd and was passed around more than a basketball
Now I'm starting to understand why people date for decades and still don't get married..
And i misogynists.
@@Starkiller2725 I mean.. its no good to hate on one community as a whole but I see where you're coming from too.
The gaslighting is one of the worst parts. Doing the wrong thing and then trying to make the other person blame and punish themselves....
She just wanted more for herself, until she realized it would cost her something.
She cheated and then gaslighted him into an open marriage. Toxic AF
100% she did
Literally the definition of “Dont dish it if you cant take it” 💀💀
- "I slept with another man because open relationships are popular nowadays"
And I shoplifted from your store because charity is popular nowadays
She technically did cheat on him, the relationship wasn't open when she slept with that co-worker
wtf is even open relations ships people these days just take marriage as joke
@@rushikeshghonmodecsf9007 marraige has been a joke since no-fault divorce.
That's not a technicality at all. She absolutely cheated on him.
not technically, she literally cheated lmao
@@Muhammadwasapedo100% right, and it can be legal robbery too
The fact that she was just doing this to make him jealous is so pathetic. They are not teenagers anymore. They are full grown adults! She is clearly not mentally mature enough to be a wife. She’s only upset because now he’s finally happy with someone someone who really appreciates him. If she didn’t want that she shouldn’t have done this BS in the first place. She can go cry alone for the rest of her life now.
Yup, who in their right mind fck other people just to make his/her spouse jealous even though that said spouse is not doing anything bad or wrong in their relationship.
I mean making your partner jealous is like texting someone or giving more attention to someone and that's enough to make your partner jealous, but telling your partner face to face that you will F someone and he/she cannot do anything about it is a straight up cheating and not just making your partner jealous. 😅
You cheated, opened the relationship to continue to sleep with others knowing it would upset him, then basically lie to say you only did it to make him jealous and now crushed to know that all you build with him is destroyed.
You couldn't win bigger in the game "Play dumb games, win stupid prizes".
Add to this the idea that "I've opened the relationship, so I have the right to close it".
As if it was some kind of window
the "open the marriage/relationship" idea is prolly the biggest red flag for me. Launching the idea is a reason to stop the relationship in my opinion because she doesn't launch the idea from nowhere and if you refuse, she'll prolly cheat on you anyway
Amen bro
It's sad they she can do all this and still walk away with half of this guy's life savings.
OPEN MARRIAGE MEANS THE ONE WHO WANTS IT DOESNT LOVE HER SPOUSE ANYMORE BUT, DOESNT WANT A DIVORCE !!!
Completely false. If they both really want it works, but they have to tell each other what they want, what they do etc... If even one of them has doubts it can't work, and the other has to accept it and continue the relationship or break up
@@gaetano2435if that’s stated in the first date then yes, it’s not something you pull out while married, you don’t “open an marriage” if you truly loved your spouse
My ex admitted a month into our marriage that she wanted an open relationship. She said all the same b.s. and made me out to be the bad guy for not wanting it. She had several relationships while we were married. It destroyed our marriage. She told me about most of them and it killed all the love I had for her.
Sorry you went through that
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Social media has rotted their brains and ruined them. Hopefully you can find peace. I'm still working on it.
You should have left when she first brought it up. It's your fault.
@@tedbundywastheultimatechad8400 easier said than done.
FFS. A relationship is dead the second someone cheats
This is what happens when fools confuse love and lust.
If your partner asks for an open relationship. Just leave. Yes, it might not be simple depending on the situation such as if youre married.
I lived the EXACT same thing! Only we were about to be married. So I dodged a bullet…
THE WORST THING A WOMAN CAN HEAR FROM A MAN "i'm happy"
Open marriage = end of marriage
“… our marriage was lost the day she decided to sleep with another man.”
Good for you, now you know.
Can anyone explain to me how having a open relationship and a marriage is beneficial in the long run?
What are the pros and cons? Because how can you actively be okay messing around with other people while claiming to be in love with your married partner? If you loved someone so much to be married to them, isn’t an open marriage making them step down in rank to let someone else in their place? If they want to do those things and be all care free like when they were single then it sees that they’re for the streets. It’s so wild that people think that this is normal and okay- imagine having a baby from all that and having to explain why their parents are with other people or how their mom or dad is married to someone else but is also with your mom or dad at home too. That’s so messed up.
Its a new concept made my singles to get married folks to fuck up their own marriage so they're brought down to their level. Its a stupid concept that doesn't work unless stated right in the beginning of the relationship
It's an open cheating card , like y stop with just one , let's f around with multiple people to satisfy multiple fantasies but for the society we are a married couple , this concept sucks
@@TheGintama86 ohh fuck off an open marriage begins with a married couple. single people have noting to do with it.
its always the men of women in the marriage that wants to fuck a single or sometimes even a married person.
I know someone whose been in a terrible accident and is paralyzed by the waist down. He refused to get a pump for his wife,(High S Drive) and has suggested that she get 'boyfriend' to take care of those needs. She's denied going beyond their marriage, for now anyways. He's completely fine with it and is quite persistent that she does, but she refuses.
Personally, I don't think open relationships are all that good. It's demoting your relationship to the stage where you've been on a couple of dates, but aren't exclusive.
Its basically the same thing that makes people cheat. Apparently we aren't evolutionarily monogamous lifelong. Nature prefers more genetic diversity, so it prefers half siblings with varying genetic diversity than more siblings with more common genetic materials.
Marraige or even being with only one partner their whole life, is a social construct we came up with in pretty recent history. The shame associated with divorce or even widowed remarrying wasn't even a thing in many places until colonization.
But, what's not anything to do with evolution is dishonesty and cheating. Our ancestors were way more straightforward with ending a union truthfully and moving on with someone else.
“Rules for thee but not for me.”
Sounds like my story. The moment I found a girlfriend my wife wanted me back. We are divorcing and I am happy with my new girl. In fact I have been living the best time of my life with her.
Fuck yeah man, I'm glad to hear your happy
Nice man, good stuff 🎉🎉
“Happily give half of my money”… last sentence of the video ruined it all. I don’t support pity parties for those who hurt you, why give a penny? Money is extremely valuable, your just gonna split your economic self in half for the person who sent you through emotional torture, regret, years of wasted time, manipulation, etc.?
Nothing but the truth here. If i were in that situation i would see that bitch in court 😂
You act like he has a choice. It's either lose half his shit, or be jailed by the courts.
@@river7874 you re right. he has no other choice.
The sense of resentfulness is all over the mind when smthng like this happens, OP’s love not only died for her but he started to feel disgust around her, at this moment money doesnt matter he just wants her out of his life
no fault states mate, they automatically give half so he probably just would rather pay to get her gone than fix anything
Thats why u need a prenup.
If they cheat on you or they wanna open the relationship just hand her a bag, and open the door.
Trust me, there are more needy women than proper men with a house and a job.
Im 8 years of relationship with my wife.
If she wants to leave im fine. House is mine, car is mine and even the dog is mine.
I sleep good every night knowing that if she cheats on me she will have the worst part.
You still love her tho, right? Like, at least for now?
I take it you are childfree
@@ascended1924 i love her. I wanna grow old with her.
BUT.
I cant control what she will do in the future. And i like to sleep tight at night, so i pay for everything and put everything under my only name.
You cant control people, and its never just about you, having a security rope just in case she decides to let you go feels good.
@@ascended1924 do you think i lover her less just because i wanna have a security rope to live without fear?
Women initiate 75% of divorces. Mainly because they earn more from divorcing that by staying in the marriage.
I just dont wanna go into a relationship where my wife benefits more from divorcing me than by staying with me.
He should leave his wife and marry Cecilia because she seems much nicer than his wife
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes
Guy just sounds like a simp, should have just kicked her out when she told you she cheated.
Behold, the effects of a gynocentric society.
“Did you really cheat on me?”
*admits to cheating*
“No”
Lady do you not know how open relationships work? You can’t just retroactively justify something.
I would never contemplate being with anybody who thought that I was NOT enough. YOU shouldn't either. YOU ARE ENOUGH, and if somebody doesn't think you're enough, the problem isn't you, it's THEM.
The moment my girl asks me for an open relationship is the moment it ends im out
why can‘t women just have normal hobbies to feel fullfilled? Why does it always have to be attention seeking?
90% of open relationships end in separation/divorce. Even the planned before agreed ones. The very few that work get the glory and attention. Meanwhile many who follow this treacherous path end up in ruins. I even saw a story from someone who ran a swingers clubs, and even in that environment. Divorce and separation are really high. Very few are successful and some reason they get the glory of "This is working and the new norm"
I always love the idea that people think "I opened the marriage so I can close it when I want", because that's not how it works, whoever opens the marriage gets no say in when the marriage closes back up, you reap what you sow
This is true, I was the breakfast
In a relationship, my two fundamental rules are be honest and no cheating. If the latter is broken, I leave. No exceptions.
Wait, so she claimed she wanted open relationship *AFTER* she cheated on him????
No you don't get ity it wasn't cheating 😂😂😂 She just opened the relationship and then told her husband about it
Simp of the decade
Why do these people get married in the first place? What they really want is the safety net of someone to pay the bills and provide for them while they get run through by everyone else. Open marriage or relationship is how every relationship starts out. It is usually the woman that brings it up to take the relationship to the next level and become exclusive. Then they get engaged and it gives her certainty that he ain't goin' anywhere and waits until they are married to spring the idea of an open marriage. The term "open marriage" to me is a total contradiction of the marriage vows. They all remember the part for better, for worse , and til death do we part , but they forget about the part about "FORESAKING ALL OTHERS".
Open marriages are the worst idea in the long, sad history of bad ideas.
Not if two mature adults GENUINELY want it. Being mature is realizing there are people who want this and they can have it if they want to - It's their marriage.
@@bakedandbeaded I have a better idea. Just stay single.
@@bakedandbeaded If you do it from the start, but trying to make your monogamous partner go open is awful, because even suggesting it says you want to cheat.
@@bakedandbeadedfound the cheater
@@bakedandbeaded
Sure it can work. But the likelihood is so low that you actually need to have two individuals that transcended the Physical needs to a point where they are genuinely soul bound........ I don't know about you, but all can tell me how happy they are. I will bet against that because the chances are too low that it actually is like that
"Our bedroom life was also great and we both sleep satisfied"
Press X to doubt
Women will cheat just because the relationship is "boring", don't matter how much money time and attention you spend on her it'll be never enough
@@Thoma5380 In my humble opinion for a long term relationship to work the male must fulfil *both* the stereotypical beta "provider" and alpha "badboy" roles. Spending time money and attention on your partner will only fulfil the provider side of this coin.
That's not to say that cheating is ever justified though.
@@winstology101 Sounds like a lot of works for a buch of hoes 😂
Honestly open relationships disgust me to the core. If ur not committed or capable to have a one on one relationship, then get help. It rlly truly disgusts how sick ppl are who think this is okay.
The woman essentially cheated and then proposed an open marriage to make him jealous, and then when it didn't go well, she cried and begs and does things to make the relationship keep going but ultimately fails.
The man has a right to be sad for something he didn’t want to happen in the first place. However, he didn’t make a good decision to leaving although one might say his love was too powerful he should've realized that the connection is not there.
(In my opinion) open relationships are an absolute abomination and something like this being proposed ...those people shouldn't be married in the first place. Marriage is something exclusive between man and woman of loyalty and no separation between them and the man owns the womens body and the woman owns the mans body ...without these basic fundamentals marriage is dead
Couldn’t have said it better myself.
Yeah, no, she cheated on her husband and then proceeded to gaslight him into thinking it was an open relationship and so was okay.
People who cheat and still say they love you are lying. You can't love someone and do that to them
True that
Sure you can, humans are very contradictory. Have you ever heard of love killing?
Its never an open relationship. Its i want to cheat and you cant. When the other person finds someone its pikachu face close open marriage
Ambushing a partner with an open relationship shouldn't be rewarded with assets and prizes if a divorce happens.
Although this story is probably fake, it feels right, so lets assume it is. Lets also make an important distinction, regarding open relationships and cheating:
The wife cheated first and then wanted to pass it as an open relationship. This is a double violation of the initial marriage contract and is on its own already a reason to terminate the relationship. End of story, the rest is just fluff.
You can try to treat the rest of it as a separate story, and then we can have good moral discussions about immaturity and regret and how honest we assume the wife has been, and whether to give her another chance. Again, she cheated first, and liked it. This seals the deal unfortunately.
She wanted to make op jealous but ended up jealous herself. Great job op for calling her out on her hypocrisy
Op should just divorce her. The wife just wanted to make hubby jealous..eww.
I am not sure. This from OP's perspective, and also this is clearly a clumsy statement coming from a relationship that doesn't know how to communicate. Many of these stories come with alot of retrospect so you can never be sure what came first.
This is over all a very difficult situation, except for one thing: The wife cheated first before declaring an open relationship. Cheating on its own is already a transgression on its own, the rest is just fluff to the story and can be seen as separate.
It was supposed to be a normal monday
I see why garfield hates Mondays
Yeah the family cat witnessed it all !
The streets… they’re calling for her…
Ask Destiny how it went for him after he opened his marriage because of his wife 😂😂..
You got to be some kind special person to play those kind of games and not let it break you..
The funniest part was that everyone told him this was going to happen, and he brushed it off!
She wasn't crying because she realized her strong undying love for her husband. She was crying because she realized she was nothing more than a piece of azz. This happens almost every time they want an open marriage. They catch feelings for the other guy, but he let's them know they were never anything more than something to play with.
i ain't gon lie, being single sounds a lot better now
Its not his fault AND he wants to give her his money. I can't even begin to understand
He doesn't have a choice either court will eventually make him do it
Nah Man, bro humbled her so hard She started regreting her life decisions 🗿
She e’ffed another guy then told him they’d open the marriage. Nope. Cheating. Don’t let the door hit her on the a** on your way out.
Ah yes, the classic 'open for me, but closed for thee' marriage. If your partner/spouse suggests an open marriage it means they have, at the very LEAST, been thinking about cheating for a not-insignificant amount of time. Nobody just thinks about this, and immediately brings it up to their partner, because people aren't entirely dumb and have the understanding that there's a high chance it could just end their marriage/relationship. It's amazing to me that so many of these stories the person agrees to it despite it not being what they want. They're already emotionally cheating on you by just asking this question, it's time to seek therapy, or just end it. This particular story is even worse, because she just flat out DID cheat on him. Guy should have just gotten a divorce. She would have taken some stuff in the divorce but wouldn't have gotten alimony because she cheated.
I've said this on another post about this story buuuuuuut,
HEY KING YOU DROPPED THIS 👑
If there's anything that would make you want to close an open relationship, you dont want an open relationship.
Bro had every right to divorce her.
Honestly good for him, he did nothing wrong imo, I wouldn’t give my boyfriend the time of day to explain anything if he basically acted cold and ghosted me for a year while sleeping with other people and telling me not to cry about it. That’s dirty manipulation and she reaps what she sows. She messed up and now that he doesn’t love her anymore I think she’s done enough damage to him and herself and should move on, never doing something stupid like that again. She also shouldn’t try to take half of his assets during divorce because, again, she’s done enough damage to him and herself.
If she has any respect left for herself or him she’ll just leave on somewhat good terms and not bother him again.
It’s like a punch in the face. A punch in the face is a much bigger deal to one who gets punched, than to the one who threw it. To a spouse sleeping outside their marriage, their act doesn’t seem like much, just a bit of fun, no big deal. To the other spouse it’s devastating. Their whole world just unravels before them. And, the straying spouse won’t understand until it happens to them.
Facts man, I've been in a similar situation and it feels fucking terrible
The village bicycle playing mind games and it backfired lol.
This happened to me. We tried it for a while because I loved her so much. I had been in love with her since middle school. We got together and got married in our early 30’s. I couldn’t take it anymore and I told her I wanted a divorce. That was 7 years ago.
You did the right thing. I hope you’re live the happy life you deserve.
Aw man :(
Open relationships are an excuse for lunatics to go and cheat without having to feel guilt. The though of me getting together with anyone even after a breakup made me sick, if you don't feel that theres no more love
Mf give some warnings on epilepsy. What the hell was that?
the ai is trying to kill humans lol
Wtf? Why didn't you just leave?
Wife just wanted to cheat. She just wanted her cake and eat it too.
My ex wanted an open relationship to try having her way with girls and I rejected it, moving her as far away from me as possible. It broke my heart as we had a 4 year relationship then, and she was my first in everything, resulting me still trying to find another lover and stand on my feet.
A few days ago my gf told me she wanted to open the relationship after 4 years being together.. I accepted because I love her.. Now I cant sleep at night and I have nobody to talk about it, i dont know what to do
Synopsis: She thought she could monkey branch but kept getting pumped and dumped. Hilarious
Basically your wife is a room mate.
If he sat around like a sad sack of shiza, she wouldn’t given a care in this whole world. But because she saw he was happy with the situation after a while, then it became a problem, and now she wanted a closed relationship. Yeah, only she was allowed to get some, not him. She already cheated anyway, and pulled the open relationship thing out of her cheeks
As with everything on reddit, i will think this is fake
Ye. It is acccurately alike another story. This one lacked details compared to The other one tho
SIMPing is a fate worse than death.
I consider open relationships to be for weak willed individuals. Monogamy requires self-discipline and the will to avoid lustful intrusive thoughts. It's easy to cheat, just be a selfish asshole. It's much harder to practice temperance and other virtues.