I am 53. Let's start talking more about women's health. It would be nice to see commercials on tv or panels on popular programs discussing the natural processes that affect women at all ages. Women cook, clean, raise children, and work. We make the world go around. It's time to teach our children. There should be no embarrassment talking about our beautiful bodies. I started seeing a functional medicine doctor and pay cash to get what I need to understand my changing body. Menopause is a shit storm no-one wants to talk about. I have watched too many friends go down hill! They lose their jobs because they can't get the right help. I applaud you ladies!!
Being married for 40 years, (67 yrs old) sex was just fine until my wife had a radical hysterectomy 12 years ago. Instant surgical menopause. No sex. Sometimes I feel resentment, but I also feel for my wife. She didn't ask for it. But she can be like a FN barn cat sometimes over the littlest thing. Due to having cancer in the ovaries (which were removed) she was advised not to use any estrogen therapies for the chance of it bringing back the cancer especially in the breasts.. Still, if this was 3o years ago I would probably have to move on, but at my age what's the use? I had my fun in the sun for a number of years. Life moves on daily. This an issue that may not have a solution. For better or worse. THE WORSE CAN BE CHALLENGING.
I've got a question. My wife is a Pelvic Floor specialist. We have been married for 1yr October 8th and we have not had intercourse for 4 months now and I am at a loss at this point. We used to be like the 4th of July, I've been asking my wife to explain to me what she is going through and what can I do to help me understand menopause for her. I was with my former wife for 21yrs and she was 4yrs older than me and my current wife and I are only three days apart in age. I've explained to her I'm not going to make any advancements for intercourse or anything until she is ready... I am the youngest of 6 siblings [adult women] and was not raised like my male counterparts. What I'm most concerned about is she is very educated 2 bachelor degrees and attended graduate school in Scotland for 7 years and had a private practice in Bermuda for 5. She knows her body and I'm patiently waiting and she doesn't want me to be intimate in any way. I just started day two of sleeping on the couch. I tend to roll over and spoon with her and snuggle and that bothers her. Any advice would be nice.
My wife is postmenopausal and her energy and drive has went down, but the doctor did not want to put her on estrogen because of some lumps that are in her breast. How can she raise her estrogen and feel better? Plus her hair is falling out.
I am on HRT for over a year. And now intercourse does not hurt anymore. But I am just not interested anymore…. Even no positive effect from testosterone - tried it for 6 months and bloodvalues were really high…
Wow guys. It is tough not having support and with change but your partners need support. I would recommend therapy together. Sex for women requires they feel safe and supported and from your comments this may not be the case.
I'm 39 and my wife is 55 and she hasn't been intimate with me in over 4 years and I had to research myself to find out what's going on. Wtf am I supposed to do?
I am sorry to hear this. Hopefully you can talk to her about it. Help her feel safe to have this discussion and be patient. She will probably need time to reflect and do her own research. I know for me it helped for my husband to approach me in an open and loving manner. He introduced the subject and let me think about it for several days before I brought it up again. I think most women feel completely broken when their sex drive packs a bag and leaves the state. She will need to find a practitioner/physician that specializes in hormone replacement therapy (HRT), preferable bio-identical HRT. You need someone who really knows the subject well, and most OB-GYNs and primary care doctors do not have the knowledge. Keep the faith. There is help. This can change. If she is open to reading a book I would recommend The Secret Female Hormone: How Testosterone Replacement Replacement Can Change Your Life, written by Kathy Naupin. (It's not just about testosterone.) Maybe you can also read it.
That won’t work. Your wife won’t smell like a woman on trt. It’s the estrogen that she was producing with her cycles that draws you in. Once they pass menopause … it’s like they just don’t smell and feel like they used to.
I've got a question. My wife is a Pelvic Floor specialist. We have been married for 1yr October 8th and we have not had intercourse for 9 months now and I am at a loss at this point. We used to be like the 4th of July, I've been asking my wife to explain to me what she is going through and what can I do to help me understand menopause for her. I was with my former wife for 21yrs and she was 4yrs older than me and my current wife and I are only three days apart in age. I've explained to her I'm not going to make any advancements for intercourse or anything until she is ready... I am the youngest of 6 siblings [adult women] and was not raised like my male counterparts. What I'm most concerned about is she is very educated 2 bachelor degrees and attended graduate school in Scotland for 7 years and had a private practice in Bermuda for 5. She knows her body and I'm patiently waiting and she doesn't want me to be intimate in any way. I just started day two of sleeping on the couch. I tend to roll over and spoon with her and snuggle and that bothers her. Any advice would be nice.
Truth is. I realize it's not just physical. Mine thinks oral is the answer to everything. I have been dealing with Lack of 😺 for 12 years. I thought when
Be brutally honest with your wife & if she won't seek help or attempt to change to help your marriage, get out. Life is too short to be in a loveless/seekers marriage. I was in one fir twenty years. I stayed for my children. But I should have ran. Life is so amazing with a partner you can be 100% honest & open with, share intimacy & bond during sex. It's the way we men feel loved & connected to our wives. I'm no doctor. I'm a engine machinist. Just my personal experience. I remarried, now 6 years later we have better sex today, 3-4 times a week on average. She's my best friend, post menopausal & she struggles with low drive, but knows to keep our family healthy & happy we need to be intimate.
I am 53. Let's start talking more about women's health. It would be nice to see commercials on tv or panels on popular programs discussing the natural processes that affect women at all ages.
Women cook, clean, raise children, and work. We make the world go around. It's time to teach our children. There should be no embarrassment talking about our beautiful bodies. I started seeing a functional medicine doctor and pay cash to get what I need to understand my changing body. Menopause is a shit storm no-one wants to talk about. I have watched too many friends go down hill!
They lose their jobs because they can't get the right help. I applaud you ladies!!
Being married for 40 years, (67 yrs old) sex was just fine until my wife had a radical hysterectomy 12 years ago. Instant surgical menopause. No sex. Sometimes I feel resentment, but I also feel for my wife. She didn't ask for it. But she can be like a FN barn cat sometimes over the littlest thing. Due to having cancer in the ovaries (which were removed) she was advised not to use any estrogen therapies for the chance of it bringing back the cancer especially in the breasts.. Still, if this was 3o years ago I would probably have to move on, but at my age what's the use? I had my fun in the sun for a number of years. Life moves on daily. This an issue that may not have a solution. For better or worse. THE WORSE CAN BE CHALLENGING.
Brilliant video, thank you so much, your information is invaluable. I hope this video reaches more women. Best wishes from Ireland.
I've got a question.
My wife is a Pelvic Floor specialist.
We have been married for 1yr October 8th and we have not had intercourse for 4 months now and I am at a loss at this point. We used to be like the 4th of July, I've been asking my wife to explain to me what she is going through and what can I do to help me understand menopause for her. I was with my former wife for 21yrs and she was 4yrs older than me and my current wife and I are only three days apart in age. I've explained to her I'm not going to make any advancements for intercourse or anything until she is ready... I am the youngest of 6 siblings [adult women] and was not raised like my male counterparts.
What I'm most concerned about is she is very educated 2 bachelor degrees and attended graduate school in Scotland for 7 years and had a private practice in Bermuda for 5. She knows her body and I'm patiently waiting and she doesn't want me to be intimate in any way. I just started day two of sleeping on the couch. I tend to roll over and spoon with her and snuggle and that bothers her. Any advice would be nice.
My wife is postmenopausal and her energy and drive has went down, but the doctor did not want to put her on estrogen because of some lumps that are in her breast. How can she raise her estrogen and feel better?
Plus her hair is falling out.
Excellent info.
I am on HRT for over a year. And now intercourse does not hurt anymore. But I am just not interested anymore…. Even no positive effect from testosterone - tried it for 6 months and bloodvalues were really high…
I am three years post menopause have no sensation can’t have an orgasm and no desire can we talk about that nobody can help
Yep! Sex after anything.
as a man menopause really sucks big time why should i put up with the mouth when i get zero sex?
Agreed i’ve been paying doctors visits she’s using creams but nothing works. I am in a sexless relationship and I’m about to move on.
Wow guys. It is tough not having support and with change but your partners need support. I would recommend therapy together. Sex for women requires they feel safe and supported and from your comments this may not be the case.
do you have a menopause org in canada
No we don’t but I would look for a pelvic PT as a resource to help navigate your area
We need real help😡😡😡😡😡😤😤😤😤😳
I'm 39 and my wife is 55 and she hasn't been intimate with me in over 4 years and I had to research myself to find out what's going on. Wtf am I supposed to do?
I am sorry to hear this. Hopefully you can talk to her about it. Help her feel safe to have this discussion and be patient. She will probably need time to reflect and do her own research. I know for me it helped for my husband to approach me in an open and loving manner. He introduced the subject and let me think about it for several days before I brought it up again. I think most women feel completely broken when their sex drive packs a bag and leaves the state. She will need to find a practitioner/physician that specializes in hormone replacement therapy (HRT), preferable bio-identical HRT. You need someone who really knows the subject well, and most OB-GYNs and primary care doctors do not have the knowledge. Keep the faith. There is help. This can change. If she is open to reading a book I would recommend The Secret Female Hormone: How Testosterone Replacement Replacement Can Change Your Life, written by Kathy Naupin. (It's not just about testosterone.) Maybe you can also read it.
That won’t work.
Your wife won’t smell like a woman on trt.
It’s the estrogen that she was producing with her cycles that draws you in.
Once they pass menopause … it’s like they just don’t smell and feel like they used to.
I've got a question.
My wife is a Pelvic Floor specialist.
We have been married for 1yr October 8th and we have not had intercourse for 9 months now and I am at a loss at this point. We used to be like the 4th of July, I've been asking my wife to explain to me what she is going through and what can I do to help me understand menopause for her. I was with my former wife for 21yrs and she was 4yrs older than me and my current wife and I are only three days apart in age. I've explained to her I'm not going to make any advancements for intercourse or anything until she is ready... I am the youngest of 6 siblings [adult women] and was not raised like my male counterparts.
What I'm most concerned about is she is very educated 2 bachelor degrees and attended graduate school in Scotland for 7 years and had a private practice in Bermuda for 5. She knows her body and I'm patiently waiting and she doesn't want me to be intimate in any way. I just started day two of sleeping on the couch. I tend to roll over and spoon with her and snuggle and that bothers her. Any advice would be nice.
Truth is. I realize it's not just physical. Mine thinks oral is the answer to everything. I have been dealing with Lack of 😺 for 12 years. I thought when
Be brutally honest with your wife & if she won't seek help or attempt to change to help your marriage, get out. Life is too short to be in a loveless/seekers marriage. I was in one fir twenty years. I stayed for my children. But I should have ran. Life is so amazing with a partner you can be 100% honest & open with, share intimacy & bond during sex. It's the way we men feel loved & connected to our wives. I'm no doctor. I'm a engine machinist. Just my personal experience. I remarried, now 6 years later we have better sex today, 3-4 times a week on average. She's my best friend, post menopausal & she struggles with low drive, but knows to keep our family healthy & happy we need to be intimate.
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