Barbie Doll Collector Troubles: Guilt, Social Media, Stress and High Expectations
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 เม.ย. 2023
- Hello everyone, hope you all are well and having fun.
Just wanted to update you all on where I have been and where I am going. I am still here and ready to make more content but there will be changes in how I manage my social media and how I collect. I was doing everything the wrong way for a long time but my break from social media has helped me reevaluate and reset.
Thank you all for sticking with me and for being there for me.
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Intro/2022 recap: 0:02
Dissatisfaction: 3:30
Social Media: 6:14
Expectations: 7:57
What Now: 11:26
Good video. Bottom line is ‘change’ comes to everyone, and here is yours…you do you, don’t justify yourself. If those things don’t interest you anymore then they are signs to move on. It’s your life, live it….enjoy it. Don’t build yourself around objects. Go travelling, sew..Be happy.
I guess that's a good way to sum it up 😂❤️😊 Thank you. I think the only reason it has been so hard is because it was such a huge part of my life. I am still enjoying it but so much less than before. Time for new adventures i guess 🤷🏼♂️😊❤️
The kind of stress we endure these days is insane! Remember when we used to watch a tv show and just sit there undisturbed? Today, we're surfing the web, responding to comments on IG or FB, checking our email, texting someone, listening to music AND trying to watch a movie on a screen the size of a business card. Meanwhile, our lives keep rolling on.
The most important thing is our mental health. It's the only thing you can't replace when you burn it out. Love yourself first then recharge your battery with fresh air, sunshine and the love of your family and close friends. The online community will still be here when you come back!
I've collected for over 50 years. Sometimes, I have to just walk away from collecting for a few months. It's normal. Sometimes your brain just needs a break. You're doing great and I love your channel. Keep up the great work!
Thank you ❤️😊 Yes, I am sure I will go through all of this again 😭 Just a very startling experience for me 😂
I can only imagine the pressure you must have been feeling with all you have dealt with recently. I’m so sorry about one of your grandparents passing. I’m glad that you are feeling better now , as I believe sharing all of this means you are feeling more in control of everything. Please don’t ever feel pressured to make content or to answer comments ( like this one ). Wishing you all the best in life. I think you are an interesting and smart person with a great future ahead of you. Plus you are very cute too ! (with all due respect to your husband)
There was a whole lot more I cut out or didn't even mention. It's hard for me to be so personal. Thank you for your support ❤️ Definitely in more control. Even in filming this I understood it a little bit more. Hahaha, he saw this comment before me and told me about it BTW! Thank you so much ❤️🥰
I love your videos I’m glad you are back the whole reason to do video’s is for your enjoyment and sharing your passion I’m sorry people made you feel pressured and stressed i personally have watched all your videos enjoyed them and found them to be informative I collect only vintage 1959 to 1976 within my budget when I can I collect when I can’t I make a wish list and focus on my other talents until I can collect again hope that helps you no one should feel bad about what they enjoy
You have given so much to this community already. Your work is timeless and will be of use for many many years. Take care of yourself! You are greatly appreciated.
Oh wow, thank you ❤️ That is very touching and very sweet. Thank you so very much 😭❤️❤️
I've been collecting dolls for many years, they are my love and therapy. but from time to time is good, HEALTHY to me just to stop and ENJOY! I hope to see you soon.💜💜
Oh yes, I think there is a definitely therapeutic element to the hobby. I guess the point is to make sure one has balance and isn't relying on it too much ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Dean, I hope you're well. Sorry for the loss of your grandparent. That's awful about the bullying. I don't understand why people get a kick of spreading hate. I hated having covid. I had memory issues from it. I've cut down on dolls now. I've become super picky with dolls I had to downsized. I've noticed they are getting expensive now, dolls as for barbies. I gave them all away to my niece for Christmas. I only have 4 now, and probably by June, that will end up being 2. I like how your look keeps changing. I didn't have a good relationship with my dad before he passed away, and then when he passed, I learned to let go of the hate. I didn't see the point of holding onto hate. You said what I'm thinking about social media to much competition and polished. I don't let youtube become overwhelming now. I just go with the flow.
I'm so glad you are feeling better, Deanie. As your internet mum I am appalled that you had any bullying!! Let me at them!! I love your hair and moustache, makes me think fondly on the old days at Flickr and the haircut photos, lol! Keep enjoying what you're doing and only do what you enjoy. Love you!
Hahaha, thanks internet mum! It was pretty intense. One person quit but another kept creating new accounts whenever I blocked them. Eventually they gave up though. Thank you. It is a mess in this video though. I have booked in for a haircut on the 27th 🎉 I do really miss the old Flickr days. Happiest time of my life I’d say. Love you too ❤️
You are such a sweet and beautiful and kind soul, Deeny! I think it’s great how you have worked some things out and don’t be mad at yourself if you have to do it again. You are SUCH a strong empath! It’s no wonder why things affect you so profoundly. I’m happy to see you’re doing well. I always am wishing you the best and I’m always excited to see where this world will take you ❤❤❤ I think you should do more of these journal videos. Feels healthy! 😍😍😍
Thank you so much ❤️ You are always so kind to me 🥰 Thank you, I hope I won’t get mad if I have to do it all over again. Hopefully now I am over the shock of it all next time it will be easier. Aww, seriously! So sweet! I always wish you the best too. I am always think of you and my other friends here like Joey and Blake. I hope you are doing well ❤️
Actually... feeling to make a change if something doesn't sit well emotionally and doing so on your own terms and in your own pace is very precious. Kudos and respect! You have every right to be and feel happy!!
I hear yuh, I use to create content for all the wrong reasons for views for subs to satisfy, man i changed that mentality now I create to keep track of inventory or to share my little bit of knowledge, if people watch great if not it's not the end of the world. I hear u on that covid I got it in 2020 I suffered from insomnia I had a burning pain from my hips to my knees n the only way it felt relief was to walk to keep moving sadly I got it from my dad, he ended up passing away from complications of covid a month after his death the first vaccine was being administered. I wish u a full recovery from all your stresses, worries and anything else that is bothering u. Keep staying blessed.
Inventory is a very good reason to create. I actually started making videos purely to document to unboxing experience so I could relive it. But eventually the more I did it and the more people watched I became so wrapped up in providing the audience with information and good views that my experience was secondary and my view was actually of a camera or I was more focused on having the doll in frame. Omigosh! I am so sorry. I don’t know what to say. It is such an awful time. I didn’t lose any family to covid but my husband did. I hope you are all well and you are in my prayers. Stay safe ❤️
@@DeanReen thank you.
I very much relate to this. I got into doll collecting hard and fast just buying indiscriminately while I was very ill. When my health imrpoved I had a clearer head and was kind of disgusted by my actions and purchases. Just immense remorse for my overconsumption. But I’ve since deleted apps like ebay and focused my interests. So much better in the regard!
This is very similar to how I felt when I decided to take a step back, too. The pressure to keep doing well, keep growing the channel… but it was like the things I was reviewing weren’t really engaging my viewers. But that’s what I was interested it so I didn’t want to just do a Barbie Color Reveal video to keep the numbers growing lol. You spread yourself too thin, just like I did. I’m glad that you’re feeling more like you again. It’s definitely good to spend time doing other things that interest you- I know for me, if I have one flavor of something for too long, I get tired of it 😅 And I think that’s what happened with me and dolls. I got tired of people only associating me with dolls, like it was the only thing I liked or could talk about. Maybe that sounds funny, but it’s true. On top of that, worrying about buying things to review, whether things are getting likes, whether things are getting comments… then I turn around and worry about that stuff for Regina etc. It is absolutely DRAINING to worry about frankly very frivolous things like numbers. I guess that’s why people have teams 😅😂🤣 I’m curious to see what Deanie will do next. Looking forward to more photography. I recently did a series on my Barbie and The Rockers Diva doll. I found her a few weeks ago and was instantly inspired and took a bunch of photos. I’m planning more and maybe a review. Don’t pin yourself as a one trick pony because you have a lot you can do 😊 Let the creativity draw you back- until then, do something that gives you THAT feeling! ❤️
Oh yes, colour reveal! 😂 I actually bought one online but it arrived and it was from a different collection than the one I wanted and that was pictured. It was a desperate attempt to keep relevant anyway so I gave it to Eddi as I knew he finds that kind of thing interesting.
I am into record now finally and into Polaroid, and into dressing myself rather than Barbie for once. It is very refreshing. But I still like dolls, but not as much as I used to.
It was funny because Danielle had bought me a Barbie travel mug just before the repulsion happened and she was like “omg, why are you doing this to me!” 😂 It is definitely the default for people in terms of conversing with me or buying gifts so it is going to be a bit harder for them now.
You didn’t have Rockers Diva already? I think she is so you! I love her, especially the second issue.
So happy to hear from you ❤️
Can definitely relate to that feeling of the things you love being hard to look at, but for different reasons. It's definitely good when you can come out of that place. And I think it's great that you were able to take some time to reflect on why this was all happening. That's a really healthy thing to do. Will always be happy to see any videos from you, and will gladly support anything you want to do moving forward. Wishing you all the best. :) 💞
I start collecting just a week ago , I think nostalgia of my childhood,
Wow, that is fairly recent. How exciting! 💖😊
Same, I love clone dolls they are almost always unique
I get how you feel. Alot of the time I personally get overwhelmed with dolls, even lately i havent really been consuming because I get overwhelmed with the amount i already have. Same goes for making content I constantly feel like i have to make content to please others but i feel its best to do what makes you happy. Ultimately this is your platform and you control what you wish to do and how you wish to create :) being overwhelmed or tired or frustrate happens alot. I feel however once you find why you feel that way you can find a solution and what works best to make you feel :) sending u lots of love - always!!! 💕💕💕
I have had that feeling so many times too. The overwhelm is intense. A few people thought it was just that again and that I would get over it. Maybe it is the same thing, but this time it seems really different. I think maybe the reason I kept getting overwhelmed is because I did nothing to fix the problem, which is probably because I wasn’t aware of what the problem was. And maybe this time is different because it was so intense that I had to think it through. I could never do away with dolls completely though. In a strange way they have become like family, and this community of ours is like family too. Sending you love too! ❤️ Thank you so much ❤️
Thanks so much for your transparency. I love your videos and the rarity made them even more special to me. I liked that your collecting was more personalized to your tastes and not driven by the commercial machine.
You get to figure out what works for you in collecting and in content creation. What anyone else says or thinks doesn't matter. Your mental health comes first. One of my fave creators took a long break, filming all the while and disabled comments. And now posts their backlog of videos without the stressor of comments. So figure out what works for you, even if it means you are not posting.
I had a similar moment where an order of dolls arrived - I was stress collecting - and I burst into tears. I cried for awhile and realized I had never processed my dad's death and the impact it had on me. Ultimately this was a good thing because I healed a lot... even though for a while I thought I was done with dolls.
Now I collect again but on my own terms, at my own pace, knowing that I may change and my collecting may change and that's okay.
I'm so glad you are pursuing more balance in your life and other interests. ❤❤❤❤ Be encouraged.
Thank you so much ❤️ I am glad you like my videos. I am afraid that popular taste or “the commercial machine” has influenced me once or twice but for the most part it has been all me.
Thanks for the support. I love that idea of filming while on break. I have filmed a few bits and pieces but not enough for full videos. But that is a great idea and make the return less stressful I am assuming.
Oh my, I am so sorry. Sorry for your loss. I almost cried when I read your comment ❤️ It is so hard to process such things. When my dad died I had only just left my job and I begged for it back. They rehired me but sent me to another store and made me senior, and then I practically ended up running the place. I got abused daily by people on drugs plus the usual Karens. Eventually it became too much for me combined with the fact I was avoiding the processing of my father’s death.
I am so glad you managed to work through it and are collecting healthily.
Thank you so much ❤️
❤ I had to stop also. Its everyone on Insta now just trying to out-do each other by treating dolls like status objects. Theres one really manic person who broke me with their braggy posts. Im sorry you got down but it sounds like you have some clarity now.
I think that aspect of it has affected quite a few collectors. It is such a shame that so many get drawn into all of that. I found Flickr so different and so much more pleasant although there was a little bit of drama there but nothing compared to IG or FB. I hope you are OK ❤️❤️
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Sending Love always, Deany! You know I have your back.❤
Oh SIS! Hello! Love you too! I came across your outfit in the abandoned doll mess on the weekend and felt dreadful. I will send it out sometime this week or early next week. I will see if there is anything worthy of sending you in addition (I know you will say no but I will look anyway 😂) ❤️ Thank you so much sis! ❤️
@@DeanReen Ohh Deany, No worry at all! I know you had a lot on your plate. Please no worry. No rush. Take all the time you need. I love you so so much! Mike too always asks about you. We are here for you,okay? If you and Ollie ever need a getaway, come stay here with us. I love you to the moon and back! 🎆♥♥♥
That was an awesome video. So heartfelt.
I wish you loads of success on this journey and thanks for the great videos.
Thank you so much! ❤️ I am surprised it has gotten so much attention. I was thinking it would get one or two comments 😂 Honestly, it was such a hard film to make. I felt so uncomfortable and wasn't sure if I should upload it or not but I am glad I did.
I send you love ❤️, great to see you again, please keep doing what you love.
Thank you so much for the support! Sending you love too ❤️😊
I'm sorry all that happened and about your grandparent passing its ok if you want to take a break or stop collecting cuz u need breaks sometimes
Thank you so much for the support ❤️
we'll love any content that you put out for us ❤
Aww, thank you 😊❤️
Great seeing you Mr. Dean!! whatever your content will be in the future, i will watch. and i watch because you are such a nice guy. no pressure, post only what you like, and we will follow.
Thank you ❤️ Great to be back 😊 Aww, that is so sweet. Thank you so much. I will definitely be sharing some other stuff but I will try and keep some dolls in there or even bring dolls into the other hobbies.
@@DeanReen we need more people like you in this world✨
I think diversifying your interests will be a big help in keeping your inspiration for each individual interests. I love doll collecting, but it's not just about buying dolls for me, I restore dolls, I sew, I make dioramas, etc. But I also play Dungeons & Dragons, and I get really into that. And I also sing karaoke, and make song parodies. It's all about finding different outlets for different creative desires.
I also think it's important to recognize that you aren't responsible for how other people feel, *they* are. I am responsible for how I feel, nobody else is. We should always be kind and considerate, but we should never assume the burden of 'making' someone else feel a certain way. That's always going to be a game no one can win, for obvious reasons.
Thank you ❤️ Yes, I hope you are right. I feel like the interests can overlap but I am already feeling much happier with other hobbies and such. Oooh! Dungeons and Dragons, that is exciting. I have never played myself but I know many people that do. When we were in Paris Ollie and I were asked to join a game in a small restaurant but we had to decline because our French is really bad 😂
Come & go as you please
& show what you want.
Thank you ❤️
I totally understand where are you coming from and also believe you're taking this way too seriously, the same thing happened to me at Flickr at one point and it kinda killed the joy of the site for me as it was just so much to keep up with and try to not hurt other people's feelings...
With the doll and companies aspect maybe you should look into thrifting and buying second hand in charity shops and markets, I can proudly say I don't buy any of Mattel's products unless they are second hand and for a very reasonable (sometimes crazy cheap) price as I don't want them producing more straight to the landfill dolls and my way to help with the issue is preventing some of such from becoming landfill by buying them myself in markets and restoring them or turning them into something worth owning...
I mostly buy and own vintage dolls from Mattel that I paid under one euro for them, some I repaint, some I rebody and some I just pass along to other collecting friends, it feels fun this way and I also am no longer so active in social media myself.
I am happy for you that you saw an issue and took active action to improve your mental well being.
Take good care!
It’s not just a regular slump. I have had those many times before where I have gotten overwhelmed and taken a break for a month. This was something very intense, and very scary for me. I don’t think I am taking it too seriously. The dolls are not what was serious. The serious thing was me using the dolls to cover up other things rather than dealing with them. Which lead to even more troubles.
I actually used to buy 80s and 90s dolls at thrift stores as a kid but I can’t thrift here anymore. I know people in VIC (a state here in AUS) have loads of thrift stores that carry toys and dolls but here in NSW they don’t stock doll and barely any toys at all. Someone in QLD said it is the same there and that when they asked they were told that they are required to do too much cleaning and inspecting to make sure the toys are safe for children so rather than going to all the trouble they just send them on to landfill. I have also noticed that the Salvos list any vintage dolls online rather than put them in stores as they are aware they can get hundreds that way instead of a dollar or two.
Thank you so much for your support and your comment ❤️ I love how honest and up front you are 😊❤️
omg..where have you been? I thought you fell off the face of the earth!
My condolences! I'm concerned about my 80 yo dad's dementia.
Bullies get blocked...and often reported.
Dolls are not you. You are you. Dolls are just a hobby. You just needed some time to realize who YOU are. It's like parents that are so wrapped-up in their kids, that go bonkers when their kids get married or move out.
I hit rock-bottom back in 2020 and realized that nothing else can fill that void in my life except the Maker. He completes me. Dolls don't. Toys don't.
"The likes, the views..." It's like that Newsboys song "Chasing after this world makes me tired"
Everyone rags on Walmart, but then they shop there. People are People, so what should it be...oh, that's another song.
Don't worry about replying to comments. No one ever responds to my comments. There's a youtuber that does dolls (not you). I comment on every video of his. dozens of them. He never responded to ANY of the positive comments. The ONE time I disagree with him, he hawks on me because i'm not on board with something he is. So, yeah, that's on him. It's not wise to respond negatively especially if it is the only response to give. You've responded before, and it was positive. It was about a guy insulting me for collecting "toys made for little girls" and I just wanted to see what others said. Sorry if i added to your frustration. didn't mean to. Just wanted some insight from the pros that prolly already got that comment prior.
Have a nice day!
Hahaha, you were not alone in that thought. Which is why I felt the need to explain. It was so hard to work through it all and then to build up the strength to come back. Oh no, that is awful. I am so sorry. Dementia is so tough for everyone involved. My prayers are with you all. I am in my late 20s and I am still trying to figure out who I am. I think that is why this shook me so bad. I am sure I will figure it out when the time comes. Oh, that's not good, I try to let everyone have their opinion. As long as it is not aggressive or mean. I often talk about comments I get and people say "why not just delete it" but I don't believe in silencing people for having different opinions. I am going against what I said and I am trying to respond to all comments on this video but I feel like this video is different to the regular kind of video. I hope I have the strength to control myself with future videos 🙏🏻 ❤️ Thank you so much ❤️
@@DeanReen i only delete obnoxious ppl's comments. Some ppl are just not worth my time. I'm almost 53 (next monday) and I don't have time for foolishness. My Mom, My Dad, My Family...THEY are worth the time that trolls try to steal.
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Is your Myers Briggs type INFP? You have a really genuine presence. Also, INFPs are concerned about what feels right/wrong to them and trying to stay true to their identity.
I have taken that test a few times over the years and it always changes 😂🤷🏼♂️ I guess people CAN change 😊❤️