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If your not also dedicated to zero drugs and alcohol, exercise and building muscle, extreme clean eating and fasting, and growing spiritually than your wasting your time. The point is to seek excellence on all levels. Women and your social anxiety issues should be the least of your worries.
You are correct about the "women/social anxiety issues," but most men will need to experience the drama/unsatisfaction with women so they can eventually move on to the deeper self-improvement & spiritual benefits of SR. The only way past it, is through it.
I disagree on the first part of your comment . Reguardless of if you’re doing those things also, you’re not wasting your time. You don’t HAVE to focus on exercise and building muscle or spirituality if those are not your goals. I didn’t do any of those things but I’ve been on retention for 6-7 months and my life is 100x better
Let's face the fact that the release of sexual tension and semen feels awfully good! If a man is to give that up, for whatever extended duration, he must be willing to believe up front that the benefits are worth the sacrifice. Those of us already established in retention as our chosen states know that the physical benefits (such as testosterone and energy), mental benefits (such as confidence and freedom from social anxiety), and spiritual benefits (such as peace and closeness to God) are indeed worth it; but the newby is uncertain. This is why it usually takes short trial streaks and a series of longer learning experiences before he becomes ready and even eager to become a fully self-contained man.
I am in this phase rn, around day 50. It's definitely true that whatever you direct your thoughts/energy towards is amplified. My energy levels are off the roof, if I think confident thoughts I feel infinitely powerful, when I am in nature I feel super high, at night when I lay in the dark I have spiritual/psychedelic visions and can see/feel energy patterns moving around/through me. But it doesn't solve bad habits. I also have many days where I'm not productive, or if I get in a bad mood then unwanted things can manifest more quickly around me. But overall this is the best thing I've ever done, I have no desire to take any sort of drugs because I feel high on life, and I have little desire to be with a woman unless I really connect with her on a spiritual level because my life feels so much more amazing and I can sense all of the wonderful manifestations which will come to me in time.
So basically I am reaffirming what he says in the video. Changing habits takes time and practice. But I am now in the processing of learning to see myself as confident, attractive, outgoing, etc. When you FEEL this to be true, then you can actually BELIEVE it to be true, and then MAKE it true.
I have no idea how long im on it i stopped countig and the last 3 times i relapsed was in my dreams and im pretty sure its because i gave in to lust and opened doors thru it. Right know i kind of not really feel the sexual energy and its really hard think about sex. I almost dont think about it anymore wich is super nice actually. I kinda also dont knownif females are atracted to me but if i think about sex (i have to to it willingly) i immetiately get a erection lol.
I also feel anything that harms my body way more. I actually stopped smoking weed after years of consumption. But i still smoke cigarrets and i feel every single one i smoke it makes me feel bad but right now i cant stop. Im going to ask god to help me as he helped me with sleeping and quiting weed to. But its hard to make the step and let it go
@jonasfetz8904 I smoked for 8 years heavily. I tossed packs of cigarettes out the window just to buy another one later. Eventually I just said enough is enough and cold Turkey quit. Have not smoked in 14 years and they gross me out now. You got this, if I could do it you can do it too. 👊
I love this.... All the negative emotions buried in your subconscious begin to come to the surface.... I think that is the hardest part. But the fact we are going to heal makes it beautiful.
Yo I’m dealing with this right now and it’s the hardest part of it all… it’s like waves of it … especially since I’ve gone sober from alcohol and mj. Why is this? Is it ur brain recovering or is it ur old self breaking out ? It’s almost like I’m loosing my mind sometimes.. does it go away ??
@@Rtb323 I think it eventually does go away.... I think the uncomfortable feelings you have after stopping the addictions are the reason you started the addiction in the first place. Now when you stop you have to face those uncomfortable feelings so you can be healed. I believe if one can stay through those uncomfortable feelings then the addiction will no longer hold any power, cause the root issue has been solved.
Thanks, I needed this. Been feeling super depressed and low energy lately (On day 35), and it makes sense now, everything I've avoided and hidden from is coming up to the surface...
On day 38 thought i would have had the confidence to get a job by now. These thoughts of not getting a job are making my mood low. Still going through with it though dont want to go backwards i feel like better days are coming
Spend some time visualizing how much better your life will be after you get a job. A couple minutes a day will make a big difference in your mood and overall outlook on life.
On day 16 and feeling the energy rising through my spine and outward toward the world. Totally psyched and motivated to make it to the 30 day mark, and god willing, inshallah, to make it to 100 days for the first time in over 15 years 🙏💪
Tomorrow will make a week for me ! Trying to wait my birthday which is 11/12 if I don’t do anything for my birthday I’ll try to push through until the new year
"Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." -Philippians 4 : 6-7
I’d suggest no trying to resist those “negative thoughts” so you’re not giving them energy by resisting them. I would either see that those beliefs are valid options to choose from but there are thousands others you can can choose on the same experience so choose the one you prefer, OR inquire to see what you think that having those beliefs are giving you. You have the beliefs for a reason, so inquire what you think you will gain deep down by choosing the belifs you are consciously or unconsciously choosing. Sending love your way my man! ❤❤. (Oh and maybe test that the belief you can’t eliminate them may just be another belief, just a option :)
I am on day 73...I can relate to every word...I have changed a lot from inside...life is so much stable and simple...I have become very spiritual...I feel Shiva with me all the time... semen retention is my best decision...
Can you make a video for 3-4 months plus? Does it change even more after 90 days? I definitely feel way more connected to god on every level / i also started talking to myself alot haha and its very easy to show my emotions / feelings for me
@@thealignedmen love it thank you!! Sometimes i really forget im on SR but yeah everything feels so natural and effortless i thank jesus so much for opening my eyes on it. I got on this journey thanks to marc the messenger
Thank you Bro.. This is very helpful... Im on my 8months and im starting to question it cuz my negative emotions starting to grow and im starting to ask mysel where are the freaking benefits,,?then the last part of ypur topic enlightened me...🙂
Apparently when you flatline, it is when your brain is rewiring. It’s like having a withdrawal. So don’t see it as a bad thing but a great thing in order for your brain to get to the next level
I’ve gotten this far, but it actually hurt my ability to flirt with women because I got erections so easily. Is there any way around this or do I just have to wait until well into adulthood once my libido is lower?
Is it normal to be flatlining from day 21 (now on 25)? Originally I was on day 19 but relapsed a couple of times within a week so maybe i didnt really go back to zero so im further than I think. Just wondering if its normal to flatline around this time because I thought they came a bit later? Cheers, thanks man, ya vids rule.
There is no normal, everyone is different. It's helpful to get happy chemicals (dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endorphins) in healthy ways (exercise, cold showers, meditation, working towards goals.) Also if you are not doing breathwork to circulate energy it can get stuck. Personally exercise, gratitude, meditation & breathwork have been biggest keys for me. Keep going, it's worth it.
Hey Koen, currently on day 30 here. I have a question, would you count precum as a relapse? Didn't have any wet dreams or anything but I've been having random erections and idk if I should count it as a loss
My opinion, or POV, is there’s a body component apart from the mind component. The body is running its course, not aware of progress but rather built on habits and routines. Like breathing and the heart beating, it runs “automatic programs”. In the mind is where the changes happen, choices are made, the inner conversation finds place. So if your body does something, or does something not, it is just running the program. It doesn’t know better and doesn’t count in going through a change yes/no.
@@MartinParma-g3r when thinking for a moment of our body as a computer The bodyparts are all kinds of hardware, interlinked with eachother and run by the brain, which is the control panel so to say When you install / update / delete certain software, the hardware gets different commands and will function differently. Smoother, more efficient. Software can be seen as the habits and beliefs your brain runs on. Based on your habits, based on your perception of what is important so to say, it gives commands to the body to act all day. Now let's add Semen Retention to this analogy: It's like updating your sexual perception of the world. Bit by bit, you will look & hear & smell & touch differently. Pornography will likely create a direct connection of: woman equals sexual object. Detaching from that ("updating") will create more of a connection like: woman equals fellow human beings with thoughts & feelings & passions for life.
in short: the body will always listen to the signals the brain sends to it adjust in the brain, and the body will (by time, by consistency and persistency) follow
The creative intelligence underlying the totality of the universe. No religion will argue this point. It is simply that with human dogma layered over it again and again.
Not sure how this came up on my watch feed........Its 100% healthy to ejaculate, you don't need to consciously retain semen to find deeper meaning or inner power... it's not shameful to ejaculate it is instinctual and good for you..... The things people come up with "the path to purity" since when is it un-pure to ejaculate... I would honestly argue the opposite. sexual release is good for people this type of crap promotes a negative stigmatism around it... what happens if this is a teenager watching these videos and he decides to believe in it then he has a wet dream because he is so pent up...? is he now not-pure? does he lose the superpowers granted from avoiding his instincts? is this like a masturbation addiction video or what? cause simply avoiding ejaculation isn't going to ascend you to some higher power and focus I would say it's going to do the opposite and cause you to be more frustrated and less focused.
Thank you for saying that. May we agree to disagree to come to a mutual understanding. Personally, when I watch porn or masturbate or anything of that degree, I feel regret, shame and depression. I feel clearer, more disciplined, stronger and happier overall quitting fapping. God bless.
I gave up weed and fapping and sugar about 2 weeks ago. Hopefully I can give up cigarettes also. That's the only bad habit left. I've been a vegan for 15 years also. Mr koen, do you think after 30 days or so I will be able to give up cigarette smoking? Thanks brother Much love and respect. And know that YOU are appreciated friend!!!!!!! Namaste.
You need the right Sadhana bro. I personally have different mestice positions I sit in to bring to energy to my crown. You have to bring the energy up.
Book a FREE 1:1 call with me to discuss:
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Recently hit a month and I’ve developed the habit of praying and doing affirmations every night to reprogram the way I think 🙏🏾☀️
If your not also dedicated to zero drugs and alcohol, exercise and building muscle, extreme clean eating and fasting, and growing spiritually than your wasting your time. The point is to seek excellence on all levels. Women and your social anxiety issues should be the least of your worries.
You are correct about the "women/social anxiety issues," but most men will need to experience the drama/unsatisfaction with women so they can eventually move on to the deeper self-improvement & spiritual benefits of SR. The only way past it, is through it.
I disagree on the first part of your comment . Reguardless of if you’re doing those things also, you’re not wasting your time. You don’t HAVE to focus on exercise and building muscle or spirituality if those are not your goals. I didn’t do any of those things but I’ve been on retention for 6-7 months and my life is 100x better
True. Needs a Holistic view of fitness. Health. Spiritual, mental and so on...
I noticed that if I smoke weed it makes me lose my will power.
@@MylesJayy Spirituality is a waste of time. Never did anything for my life other than clutter my mind with "spiritual knowledge".
Let's face the fact that the release of sexual tension and semen feels awfully good! If a man is to give that up, for whatever extended duration, he must be willing to believe up front that the benefits are worth the sacrifice. Those of us already established in retention as our chosen states know that the physical benefits (such as testosterone and energy), mental benefits (such as confidence and freedom from social anxiety), and spiritual benefits (such as peace and closeness to God) are indeed worth it; but the newby is uncertain. This is why it usually takes short trial streaks and a series of longer learning experiences before he becomes ready and even eager to become a fully self-contained man.
I've seen you username on various SR channels. I know I'm in the right place whenever I see that Texas avatar.
@@Remember-Death Aww, thanks for the appreciation.
@@MikeV8652any recommendations on some other good channels?
I am in this phase rn, around day 50. It's definitely true that whatever you direct your thoughts/energy towards is amplified. My energy levels are off the roof, if I think confident thoughts I feel infinitely powerful, when I am in nature I feel super high, at night when I lay in the dark I have spiritual/psychedelic visions and can see/feel energy patterns moving around/through me. But it doesn't solve bad habits. I also have many days where I'm not productive, or if I get in a bad mood then unwanted things can manifest more quickly around me. But overall this is the best thing I've ever done, I have no desire to take any sort of drugs because I feel high on life, and I have little desire to be with a woman unless I really connect with her on a spiritual level because my life feels so much more amazing and I can sense all of the wonderful manifestations which will come to me in time.
So basically I am reaffirming what he says in the video. Changing habits takes time and practice. But I am now in the processing of learning to see myself as confident, attractive, outgoing, etc. When you FEEL this to be true, then you can actually BELIEVE it to be true, and then MAKE it true.
100%, thanks for sharing 🙏
I have no idea how long im on it i stopped countig and the last 3 times i relapsed was in my dreams and im pretty sure its because i gave in to lust and opened doors thru it. Right know i kind of not really feel the sexual energy and its really hard think about sex. I almost dont think about it anymore wich is super nice actually. I kinda also dont knownif females are atracted to me but if i think about sex (i have to to it willingly) i immetiately get a erection lol.
I also feel anything that harms my body way more. I actually stopped smoking weed after years of consumption. But i still smoke cigarrets and i feel every single one i smoke it makes me feel bad but right now i cant stop. Im going to ask god to help me as he helped me with sleeping and quiting weed to. But its hard to make the step and let it go
@jonasfetz8904 I smoked for 8 years heavily. I tossed packs of cigarettes out the window just to buy another one later. Eventually I just said enough is enough and cold Turkey quit. Have not smoked in 14 years and they gross me out now. You got this, if I could do it you can do it too. 👊
I'M HERE!!!! NOT SURE WHAT DAY BUT IT'S WELL OVER 100 ... I FEEL FUKN AMAZAZING!!!
ALL PRAISE BE TO THE MOST HIGH!!!!
Thank you for this!
Currently on my longest streak of 26 days. I’m going for 90 days tho
Going to break the curse insha Allah
Woooow I needed the last part about healing the old parts from the negative parts that appear
Im day 60+ !!!
I love this.... All the negative emotions buried in your subconscious begin to come to the surface.... I think that is the hardest part. But the fact we are going to heal makes it beautiful.
Yo I’m dealing with this right now and it’s the hardest part of it all… it’s like waves of it … especially since I’ve gone sober from alcohol and mj. Why is this? Is it ur brain recovering or is it ur old self breaking out ? It’s almost like I’m loosing my mind sometimes.. does it go away ??
@@Rtb323 I think it eventually does go away.... I think the uncomfortable feelings you have after stopping the addictions are the reason you started the addiction in the first place. Now when you stop you have to face those uncomfortable feelings so you can be healed. I believe if one can stay through those uncomfortable feelings then the addiction will no longer hold any power, cause the root issue has been solved.
This was very helpful, thank you! Now 64 days in and moving forward.
Thanks, I needed this. Been feeling super depressed and low energy lately (On day 35), and it makes sense now, everything I've avoided and hidden from is coming up to the surface...
Thats the key. The longer we go, the more power we have over the urge💯
absolutely
On day 38 thought i would have had the confidence to get a job by now. These thoughts of not getting a job are making my mood low. Still going through with it though dont want to go backwards i feel like better days are coming
Spend some time visualizing how much better your life will be after you get a job. A couple minutes a day will make a big difference in your mood and overall outlook on life.
God sometimes shuts certain door that you thought would be perfect for a reason.38 Days is amazing keep going, something good will come your way.
Thank yous I don't want to go back to my old self. A life of running has taken a toll on myself, my family and kids
Im almost 2 months, and it helps fasting, and meditating
On day 16 and feeling the energy rising through my spine and outward toward the world. Totally psyched and motivated to make it to the 30 day mark, and god willing, inshallah, to make it to 100 days for the first time in over 15 years 🙏💪
Love the effort put into this series
my pleasure 🙏
Tomorrow will make a week for me ! Trying to wait my birthday which is 11/12 if I don’t do anything for my birthday I’ll try to push through until the new year
Bro day 0 to week 1 is the hardest. I pray you stay strong for the upcoming months 🙏
Wow! Koen.
Oh, i cannot eliminate negative thougths, im full of rage ... Like a Sith Lord from the Star Wars ... :D But i will try to find Inner Peace.
Gotta exercise hard
"Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." -Philippians 4 : 6-7
@@MikeV8652 Thank you.
I’d suggest no trying to resist those “negative thoughts” so you’re not giving them energy by resisting them. I would either see that those beliefs are valid options to choose from but there are thousands others you can can choose on the same experience so choose the one you prefer, OR inquire to see what you think that having those beliefs are giving you. You have the beliefs for a reason, so inquire what you think you will gain deep down by choosing the belifs you are consciously or unconsciously choosing. Sending love your way my man! ❤❤. (Oh and maybe test that the belief you can’t eliminate them may just be another belief, just a option :)
@@ourloveourjourney215 Thank you, i will try.
I am on day 73...I can relate to every word...I have changed a lot from inside...life is so much stable and simple...I have become very spiritual...I feel Shiva with me all the time... semen retention is my best decision...
This is all so true - I agree completely, and I am so ready to get back to this stage and beyond.
I’m on day 58 and am now addicted to chocolate
You are %100 percent correct in everything you said.
Outstanding dude, let's gooooo!! 🤙
🙏🤙
Thank you for giving out value and putting in effort and work into this channel it’s appreciated
my pleasure brother 🙏
Great work bro. Love the knowledge and wisdom. God bless 🙏🏼
Thank you! 🙏
You are a blessing keep it up!
My nofap journey now 40+ and going after 30days 3night falls because of imagination don't do imagine, I hope my journey successful to 90days.
Do 430+ days. No one talks about it and I’ve been Stuck since day 350
Love your channel…
Appreciate it! 🙏
Can you make a video for 3-4 months plus? Does it change even more after 90 days? I definitely feel way more connected to god on every level / i also started talking to myself alot haha and its very easy to show my emotions / feelings for me
coming soon 😀
@@thealignedmen love it thank you!! Sometimes i really forget im on SR but yeah everything feels so natural and effortless i thank jesus so much for opening my eyes on it. I got on this journey thanks to marc the messenger
Good stuff, Keep going it's really helpful.
appreciate it 🙏
Thank you Bro..
This is very helpful...
Im on my 8months and im starting to question it cuz my negative emotions starting to grow and im starting to ask mysel where are the freaking benefits,,?then the last part of ypur topic enlightened me...🙂
happy to hear that!
Stay strong
day number i did not count but its more than 10,it feels better than before,its not magic but works fine i like it
Day 25, in the middle of a horrible flatline. Hope it will get better from day 30 💪
What exactly is this flatline thing?
@@LimeintheCoco it’s when the benefits seem to reduce/disappear during some period of time despite being on sr
@@matefazekas3107 thanks
I’m on day 25 too, and experiencing a horrible flatline as well 🙃
Apparently when you flatline, it is when your brain is rewiring. It’s like having a withdrawal. So don’t see it as a bad thing but a great thing in order for your brain to get to the next level
Great content!!!
I’ve gotten this far, but it actually hurt my ability to flirt with women because I got erections so easily. Is there any way around this or do I just have to wait until well into adulthood once my libido is lower?
Is it normal to be flatlining from day 21 (now on 25)? Originally I was on day 19 but relapsed a couple of times within a week so maybe i didnt really go back to zero so im further than I think. Just wondering if its normal to flatline around this time because I thought they came a bit later? Cheers, thanks man, ya vids rule.
There is no normal, everyone is different. It's helpful to get happy chemicals (dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endorphins) in healthy ways (exercise, cold showers, meditation, working towards goals.)
Also if you are not doing breathwork to circulate energy it can get stuck.
Personally exercise, gratitude, meditation & breathwork have been biggest keys for me.
Keep going, it's worth it.
Day 7
Is retention days calculated day and night?
Think about it like this: every time the clock hits midnight, you get another day.
Hey Koen, currently on day 30 here. I have a question, would you count precum as a relapse? Didn't have any wet dreams or anything but I've been having random erections and idk if I should count it as a loss
not at all relapse
My opinion, or POV, is there’s a body component apart from the mind component.
The body is running its course, not aware of progress but rather built on habits and routines. Like breathing and the heart beating, it runs “automatic programs”.
In the mind is where the changes happen, choices are made, the inner conversation finds place.
So if your body does something, or does something not, it is just running the program. It doesn’t know better and doesn’t count in going through a change yes/no.
@@RuudAwakening what you say is interesting. But in that case, do you think that the body is capable of undergoing changes on its programs?
@@MartinParma-g3r when thinking for a moment of our body as a computer
The bodyparts are all kinds of hardware, interlinked with eachother and run by the brain, which is the control panel so to say
When you install / update / delete certain software, the hardware gets different commands and will function differently. Smoother, more efficient.
Software can be seen as the habits and beliefs your brain runs on. Based on your habits, based on your perception of what is important so to say, it gives commands to the body to act all day.
Now let's add Semen Retention to this analogy:
It's like updating your sexual perception of the world. Bit by bit, you will look & hear & smell & touch differently.
Pornography will likely create a direct connection of: woman equals sexual object.
Detaching from that ("updating") will create more of a connection like: woman equals fellow human beings with thoughts & feelings & passions for life.
in short: the body will always listen to the signals the brain sends to it
adjust in the brain, and the body will (by time, by consistency and persistency) follow
The creative intelligence underlying the totality of the universe. No religion will argue this point. It is simply that with human dogma layered over it again and again.
day 44, lost all libido. Feeling kind whack but not too bad either. When does this end?
Part of the cycle brother. Accept it fully
Day 30. Easy way for me until there. No wet dreams at all, very easy. But today man......shit......I will win this warrr aaaaaaaaaaaaa
ok reached day 30 nothin' happened
Das rye
You are in great shape! Do you like pizza? I do
Not sure how this came up on my watch feed........Its 100% healthy to ejaculate, you don't need to consciously retain semen to find deeper meaning or inner power... it's not shameful to ejaculate it is instinctual and good for you..... The things people come up with "the path to purity" since when is it un-pure to ejaculate... I would honestly argue the opposite. sexual release is good for people this type of crap promotes a negative stigmatism around it... what happens if this is a teenager watching these videos and he decides to believe in it then he has a wet dream because he is so pent up...? is he now not-pure? does he lose the superpowers granted from avoiding his instincts? is this like a masturbation addiction video or what? cause simply avoiding ejaculation isn't going to ascend you to some higher power and focus I would say it's going to do the opposite and cause you to be more frustrated and less focused.
Thank you for saying that. May we agree to disagree to come to a mutual understanding. Personally, when I watch porn or masturbate or anything of that degree, I feel regret, shame and depression. I feel clearer, more disciplined, stronger and happier overall quitting fapping. God bless.
The real question is why are you so triggered?
defend your drugs
I gave up weed and fapping and sugar about 2 weeks ago.
Hopefully I can give up cigarettes also.
That's the only bad habit left.
I've been a vegan for 15 years also.
Mr koen, do you think after 30 days or so I will be able to give up cigarette smoking?
Thanks brother
Much love and respect.
And know that YOU are appreciated friend!!!!!!!
Namaste.
0 problem for me since i started to use carriage for my two big galoons
You need the right Sadhana bro. I personally have different mestice positions I sit in to bring to energy to my crown. You have to bring the energy up.