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We all are all connected and family . A lacking there is not a mindset that u have everything u need and are where u need to be Is what thay dont teach u
yeah, i know, we don't need anybody except ourselves, true, Although, Living an entire life for nothing except myself? idk. For me it's either i meet that one person or i head to the 'monk' 'life', so i guess it depends on the person.
“What happens is people who experienced emotional abandonment as a child, as adults, they will then abandon themselves “ That is the realest thing I’ve heard in years
Ok so i go kill myself again?! No! There's a way of getting out of this shit, i know deep in my heart, healing is possible. Parenting ourselves with nice best intentions is possible, maybe when we feel we belong to something bigger than us (can be a band, a family, but can also be some idea as Life) and then we feel that we deserve love too
@@voleurdepoule2934 NO. Not right away, anyways. "deserve"? Yes! That can be IT for some. Unworthiness is a symptom of the "issue-at-hand", whatever that may be in the moment. Mistreating ourselves is a "habit" carried from "before". "We must unlearn" - Yoda. There's a lot of help to be found here on you tube, Vegas nerve exercises, Mental Health advice of various, useful types, and encouragement such as this.
My grandmother told me once she said, there is no body or thing outside of you that can make you happy, you need to be happy with you and love you most , so you can enjoy those things outside of you! And she said DONT DWELL !
Idk who needs to hear this today, but you are deserving of love and respect. Once you start to value yourself, others will value you as well and the world will open up to embrace you. The trauma you experienced in the past is not your fault, but it is something you can repair when you take the steps to love yourself.
NEEDY IS CREEPY. Bottom line. Until I did my shadow work and uncovered the source of my neediness in relationships I was playing out the pattern of not getting what I needed emotionally when I was very young...I feel 1000 lbs. lighter now. Thank you brother!
@Mark McKenzie nothing wrong with having needs. we all do. however "neediness" is an energy that feels creepy and it repels and sabotages what you attract into your life. Lord knows I've done it enough times myself. Good day
Troll of the Year What you’re describing is having needs based upon unfortunate situations in life which sucks, I was homeless for about 4 months once bit that s different than being “needy”, that’s a personality trait that repels that which you think you need, or at least makes it harder to get because it’s vibrationally unattractive
I cried so hard through the whole video.. I have extreme codependency, neediness, fear of abandonment. I am diagnosed with severe Borderline personality disorder.. but I suffer so much despite many years of treatment. You are saving me with this video Aaron, I am saving me by watching it. Thank you so much for helping lost souls like me, bless you
I learned to love myself by asking myself " Why" when I give myself the answer, I then ask myself " Why" again. It will get you to the root cause, then ask yourself " Why" are you hanging on to it. When sad/mad thoughts comes to mind, sit and go through this list. Why are you codependent, Why do you need them to take care of you? Why are you needy, why can't you do it on your own? Why do you need that to make you feel better? Why do you need this to make you happy? Why are you blaming childhood memories on your life's choices? Why are you letting it bring you down? Why are you NOT letting it go? Why are you visiting it again just because it comes to mind? Why are you not saying " I can do this" Why do you need someone to tell you you are good? Why do you need someone to validate you? Why does the opinion of someone else make you who you are? Why are you NOT giving "0" shits about what people think about you? Why do you need to please other people? Why do you need people to like you? "Why Do I Care?" Love from a Sister.
I have abandoned myself but never got real love from the outside. This time I’ll abandoned everyone and be selfish enough to love myself and the hell with everyone.
Loving yourself is not selfish. It is the best thing for everyone including me..at the heart we are all the same.... but by truly loving yourself and say "hell with everyone" what you will be doing in reality is RECONNECTING with everyone, not separating but rather healing the wounds that caused the separation in the first place.... but on your Spirit's terms, not others' terms.
@@TheMediumChannel or not reconnect. Some people are narcissistic and drainers. By healing yourself you will come to learn that if they don’t heal as well, you may want to consider to let go of that connection. Or limit the time you spend with them. No matter how much you heal and detach, you’re not a robot. You’ll have triggers, and if some people deliberately trigger you, I think it’s wise to chose what you’re spending your energy on. ♥️
Bruja, we dont need to think about "others"; "hell to oders"; or things like "others"... focus on yourself, there's no others.. Everything is actually about you, darling! Cut off the cables
”“Sometimes you don’t even realize you’re blocking your own blessings by holding onto to the past or thinking negatively. Start letting go.”* Love from a small youtuber💙
I feel free once I quit smoking weed. No it's not bad like other drugs but a good highlight from this video in terms of that is.. being authentic attracts. Being under the influence on weed I feel it has taken away from my authenticity due to it being a superficial state of mind not naturally getting there but being altered by an exterior substance.. like he stated I used weed to become likeable because as a kid all my family left me after my mom died I felt that I wasnt good enough sober so I needed to change myself somehow to have people stay and love me... I never received love by being something I wasnt. If you dont love and know yourself it will be 10xs harder for someone else to. They cant read minds but they can read fronts ... very beautiful video💙💙
This reminds me of learning social skills and the concept of drawing people into your energy, like the party is wherever you are instead of trying to join others people's party.
That's the thing, that when you experienced, child neglect or formed some beliefs your whole life what your gut is telling you is not right. Exactly the point he is trying to make. Don't follow your gut. Get past the co dependent, needy instinct that you formed. When you never had boundaries, and you start drawing them. Is gonna feel unnatural at the start. And your gut is gonna tell you to go back to safety. So ignore it and keep going. At some point you're gonna balance out.
This is what I've been battling with for ages now. Far too often I detach from needing validation from other people and in turn I become magnetic, but then my mindset shifts to "yeah, it worked, they like me now" and the opposite happens where I become needy and repulsive. I would really like a meditation where you help me let go of my neediness.
Story of my life! I’m currently watching this crying because I attracted a relationship I loved, and it was amazing, then obvs I started to loose me and started focusing on him, and boom. Out of the blue he ends it. Now Here I am watching this 🤷🏼♀️ well at least we know... and learn to maintain it!! But still... ouch.
Very good lesson. I feel I lose a lot of my self when I’m in a relationship thinking more of the other person’s life than my own. Thank you for bringing me back to my frame!
We are social creatures who are naturally dependent on the judgment of the "pack" so we have unlearn a lot of things, especially if we experienced abandonment, neglect, alcoholic parents, etc, as children.
I was texting to a girl for long hour and i was being more than nice to her , i was trying to say i am a nice guy and she was texting late , ignoring and being rude and making fun of me at the same time i clicked into this video and daam my eye opener and immediately i said i don't need any validation with anyone what type of guy i am, i don't need anything and anyone to make me complete and stop texting. I went to take a shower and came back and she said she is so sorry. This is magical my friend ! I like most of your videos, your content are unlike other self help gurus. keep up the good work.👍
As a person who specializes in healing work and inner child work, you spoke nothing but FACTS in this video 🥳🙌🏽 I honestly feel like this has been one of your best "teaching" videos I've seen this far, Aaron 🔥🔥🔥 Have a great week ahead!
Hi Stef, I do psychic coaching too and of course mediumship and I wanted to say hi. .I agree with your assessment of this video as I've done a super amount of shadow work the past year so I could clear the blocks to doing videos after Spirit instructed me to do youtube...to make a long story short I had a full on phobia when it came to performing on camera..I totally reprogrammed myself.and like one of my first teachers said "we are not our bodies we have bodies, we are not our thoughts we have thoughts, we are not our emotions we have emotions". Spirit I Am
@@TheMediumChannel Hi Adam! Lovely to meet you! ☺️ Congrats on all your inner work! It's not always the easiest thing looking at one's shadows but it's well worth it so it's great to hear that you worked through the stuff that kept you from showing up online to share your gifts and light with others 🥳🙌🏽 Keep up the good work!
Man, I was in the EXACT same frame! I was too attached to my old story; my old self. It kept me chained and bound down to these tracks that led nowhere. I always expected a train to come run over me, and you know what? It didn't for a while, which confused me. But it eventually did. And then I would question why it did. Sometimes I was the one who chose to lay on those tracks, and other times I allowed someone else to push me onto them, but it was still my own doing. Self-sabotaging because of how you were treated as a kid, whether it was to "make" your parents "proud," or to "fit in," or have some sort of false fulfillment meanwhile you felt some void... NONE of it can continue if you simply choose to stop the cycle. STOP the train. STOP the negative self-talk. STOP the FEAR. Your videos have worked wonders, Aaron. Thank you for sharing your insight! It definitely resonates with a lot of people, I'm one of them. Keep up the good work!
i first understood this whole thing about protecting my energy and being in my own frame, when i watched your videos. it is specific for empathetic and sensitive people. for example in the past i never realized before, that i always felt responsible for others when they felt uncomfortable in a certain situation, so i changed to make everyone comfortable. now i'm more conscious and sometimes it feels a bit selfish, but it's a very good feeling. thank you very much for the videos.
Very true. And remember, the only reason you ever lose yourself is so that you can then experience the joy of finding yourself. You forget so that you can remember. That's how duality works. So, if you've been needy, it's only because now you can become the opposite of that. And you are doing it already...❤️
I am the type of person who is very easily to bond with someone when I jump into a relationship, it's hard for me to detach myself from that person and make me a someone who is needy and become dependent on that person, the only way for me is to separate myself from that person in an energy, and it helps me a lot so I'm not lacking of self anymore, know that I am a whole person and complete...
Great timing. I was struggling with detaching. I don't want to be the empath, nice one or the victim anymore, it doesn't get me anywhere. I still want to be me I just want to be the better version of myself who has it all of my heart desires because I know I deserve to be happy. Thank you for another amazing video, I always learn a lot from your videos and get reminders.
P.S: Yes, please do a powerful meditation and I’ll send it to friends and family. I learned how to be in my power over ten years ago now and sadly I learnt the hard way through toxic relationships.
I just found your channel. Thank you, seriously. My situation was heavy. Horrifically abusive relationship, have been single since 2012, and I was completely broken. I have since come farther than I ever imagined. Four months ago I met someone, and it is mind-blowing. Up until a few weeks ago, and I'm feeling disgusting. I hate that needing validation BS...so, I'm all in. You keep it 💯. Thank you for that.
I totally get this. A lot of us in the spiritual community are too much in the higher chakras and this makes everyday life difficult. We need balance throughout
I am so like you just described. Years of failed relationships. Definitely parental emotional abuse that went on. I am going to start the meditation. I have read countless books, tried to separate myself from others, especially in relationships, watched videos. I just want to know how to stop. I want to know how to heal that inner child for good. It has definitely taken a toll on my life.
The pandemic quarantine is one of the best things to ever happen to me personally. I have always valued my alone time. The quarantine provided all of the alone time that I've dreamed of having. It allowed me the time, space and solitude for proper introspection. I looked at what causes me stress and anxiety. Then I took an honest, objective look at what was internal and what was external. In the end, essentially 100% of my stress and anxiety wasn't the issues in my life. It was how I reacted to them. My perfectionist tendencies were becoming a problem. I made mountains out of molehills for absolutely no reason. Once I realized that, I changed my approach to life. Things changed for the better almost overnight. My stress and anxiety disappeared and I am happier now than I've ever been. I spent years shooting myself in the foot but I'm glad that I fixed it.
I think the more you recognize the feeling and stop and deal with it at that moment (reminding yourself it's past trauma and what do you need within yourself) leads to stopping the feeling.
This makes sense. I've been going back and forth between totally shutting people out and pushing them away, to being needy. My fear of abandonment caused both. I would shut them out for fear of getting attached. Then when I'd finally let them in I'd get overly attached. I think it's finding that balance between the two where you're not afraid of letting people in but not afraid of them abandoning you.
After 6 years in a horrible relationship, I discovered through googling for insight, I find the word narcissist. My 50 plus years I never knew. One year out of it. Now I find your videos. So good. Thank you for sharing your gift. Stay blessed.
It’s all about detachment. Feeling the separation between you and the flame from the candle 🕯 this is a way of integrating your energy. Thank you Aaron for your the valuable knowledge about being in your frame. This is going to change my perspective on so many things. Much love to you ❤️
ANTHONY HOPKINS - Powerful words. ′′Let go the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don't want change. Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it's a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health. When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn't mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren't ready to accompany you. If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you don't do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you. That's what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are. The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else. There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment. The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want. Maybe if you stop showing up, you won't be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it. This is not love, it's attachment. It's wanting to give a chance to those who don't deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should not be in your life. The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence. When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that don't suit you and shouldn't be around you, your energy is stolen. You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed. You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It's not your work to exist for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favours you have granted. It's your only obligation to realize that you are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve. Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don't waste time with people who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve."
People are social species and there is nothing wrong about being attached to someone, being in healthy trusting relationships with someone, being able to take someone as positive ownership, to provide containment, to be taken care of in the same context. The only problem I see is that to create this oneness with someone, we've got to be completely honest about our needs and desires to be able to find the right person for the attachment. There is a fine lane between being egocentric and emotionally indepepand.
Thank you Aaron. I’m in that spiritual awakening. I’m going through a break with my loved one and it’s tearing me up but I am grateful because it allows me to see what I need to work on. Been using your videos to help guide myself to enlightenment, and to overall love myself fully and heal that inner child🙏🏼 thank you so much and I’m looking forward to that meditation
this vid is very well done - the graphics, clear speech, cinematography. 1) please provide a 5min vid with a candle and flame only (i do not want to burn our house). 2) please explain how the other people who are "in their frame and in their body" actually feel; what our target is, as i have no idea. 3) please elaborate in detail on how one can believe in kindness and at the same time be authentic and more self centric, fulfilling his individualistic (edging narcissistic) intentions (is it not ego?); it's confusing.
Appreciate you so much. I was raised by narcissistic mom too It annihilated my sense of self Created a hole 🕳 in my soul I stopped beating myself up for it and started to pay attention to it, talking to it, then just allowing it to be and I sat through the pain of it. Finally I put my bright shining golden sun in the hole and have been feeling whole every since. It’s hard to figure things out without a sense of self. I felt like nothing, worse than nothing. I started giving myself love like I would a baby. I’d look at my baby pics and just say lovely things to that little baby. And yes.. many times I cried because I felt so ridiculous doing all these things but I did them nevertheless. Just thought I’d share. Thank goodness for TH-cam, technology, and people like you ❤️💯
Very well put! I should have valued my own passions and talents all along. Then I wouldn't have attracted so many narcissists, who chipped away at my self-esteem. I wish I had been able to embrace this concept decades ago. Thanks Aar!
You look like from heaven… I will commit to this practice and that’s something coming from me… been studying for 3 years nothing has drawn me in like this… bless your light 💙♾🧿♾🦋 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Hola Aaron thanks so much for this. A meditation would be Amazing. If you get to see this, I am in deep gratitude for all you do and all your shares. By being authenthically you, your videos have helped me to see myself with a different pair of eyes. This video was crucial for me to understand all the years of self sabotage and self abandonment.
Yup, thats what was happening with me for so long . In trying please and help everyone else , i lost myself in the process. But thankfully , ive learned to find myself again. I refuse to fall back into those old patterns and habits again. I want to live and not just survive.
Wow excellent, Aaron! I was just reading last night about detachment in the 'Codependent no more' book. I love your analogy with the eggs, since I'm a visual learner. Thank you so much for helping us all! I know I need to detach from thinking my elderly Narcissitic mother needs me, because she can take care of herself. She asked me to 'help' her 4 years ago and I am still here. I have abandoned my values and life and business for her.
Yup i was the codependent chaser tf and had to remember i was my own totally separate person with distinct needs, issues, desires that i didn't need anyone to accommodate me with. Such a good feeling when you remember or learn to just be yourself and do things for yourself without worrying about what "others will think" or being afraid to "rock the boat" by expressing my truth
I would absolutely appreciate the meditation, while practicing the separation 🙌🏼 Thank you very much as always Aaron, I really needed your advice at this moment 🙏🏼
May God bless Aaron with a long and healthy life! And May God bless everyone here with a long and healthy life of 100 years. God bless us all with amazing health and a long life ❤️
When I had a spiritual awakening, I broke most of my boundaries with people, especially with my twin flame, and he hit me the worst... I destroyed my most important boundaries just because of this oneness thinking, in fact I sacrificed myself to a thought that I thought was worth doing anything. Thank you for this video
im so moved from your video, I never knew or thought about it...I always give more than I receive even with my friends, ppl ghosting me with no reason. I start doubting myself maybe there's something wrong with me, its like a pattern..but still, I thought, talking to ppl saying hi being nice and show love, make them feel loved is what the world needs and what I wish for myself....thank you so much!
I’ve realised so much from this. I struggle everyday with communicating with people, everywhere, everyone, I have to be extra nice, attentive, and smiley. I feel almost like I’m on my tippy toes. I worry if they aren’t as smiley or rude etc but could never speak up. It’s validation, huge breakthrough for my consciousness
Dear Aaron, i write you from Berlin and try to give my best english🙏. Thank you so, so much for your valuable Videos. I've been traumatized as a Baby and now i understand more why i do things, the way i do them. I'm in a therapy, but some things you explained it so clearly, that brings me an lightning in my mind. So from soul to soul 🙏💗💫🧝♀️
Thank You Aaron 💖 🕊️💜 grew up in abuse so I so needed to hear this I struggle with loving myself I feel the pain in my Inner Child so much I struggle to be in touch with her yet my inner child longs to be loved ....I have a good relationship with God this helps even He is challenging me to heal my inner child with His unconditional love ...taking baby steps 💖🕊️💖💜
“Not the unity oneness stuff” I love your gestures and body language 😍🥰😘but the teaching of this video, oh boy, is just another thing, so brilliant and liberating, thank you love, you rock big time!!
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Hey everyone! I'll be going live for 21 days starting on July 1st to help you heal and release love blocks so that you raise your love vibration and become a more magnetic version of you in less than 21 days! Join here: ➡ AaronDoughty.com/Love
Once you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you😌
You are the entire Universe
True
Like that🌠
We all are all connected and family . A lacking there is not a mindset that u have everything u need and are where u need to be Is what thay dont teach u
@@highermind4151 you
If you're searching for the one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.❤
The man in the mirror is somewhat alright, but it is not the missing piece to complete that man.
yeah, i know, we don't need anybody except ourselves, true,
Although, Living an entire life for nothing except myself? idk.
For me it's either i meet that one person or i head to the 'monk' 'life',
so i guess it depends on the person.
This hit me harder than any TH-cam comment has a right to.
@@whatthefox6303 🙌🏻👑
@@lorettaelainecorson4035 💗🤍🤎
*When you stop needing things to be happy that is when they all show up* 🤯
So truuuue 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Truth!!!
Crazy accurate 😂
Really?
When you're NOT needily looking for it.....it comes☺️
I'm sick to death of being NOTHING & NO GOOD just cause of a negative _____!😠
Thank you Universal
“What happens is people who experienced emotional abandonment as a child, as adults, they will then abandon themselves “
That is the realest thing I’ve heard in years
Unfortunately yes
Wow 😳 that comment’ stopped me in my tracks! I just had’ an aha’ moment!
Yells when he talks. Good topics but can’t listen for long.
Ok so i go kill myself again?!
No! There's a way of getting out of this shit, i know deep in my heart, healing is possible. Parenting ourselves with nice best intentions is possible, maybe when we feel we belong to something bigger than us (can be a band, a family, but can also be some idea as Life) and then we feel that we deserve love too
@@voleurdepoule2934 NO. Not right away, anyways.
"deserve"? Yes! That can be IT for some. Unworthiness is a symptom of the "issue-at-hand", whatever that may be in the moment. Mistreating ourselves is a "habit" carried from "before". "We must unlearn" - Yoda. There's a lot of help to be found here on you tube, Vegas nerve exercises, Mental Health advice of various, useful types, and encouragement such as this.
Remember you don’t have a soul. You ARE a soul, and you have a body. 😌
I really need to hear this. Thank you
That’s deep!
Wow, that’s deep 💕
Very wise!
U also have a spirit. Belongs to God or death. It’s up for grabs when we are born. It’s up to us to choose a side
My grandmother told me once she said, there is no body or thing outside of you that can make you happy, you need to be happy with you and love you most , so you can enjoy those things outside of you! And she said DONT DWELL !
She was 100% correct x
Awsome advise
Your grandmother was ahead of her time. 💕 What a gift.
Do not allow yourself to wait for validation from another person. Be the person you have forgotten about who you used to be.
Yes absolutely! 😍
So true I forgot the old me
basically don’t get in a relationship with ppl who make you feel like you bothering them
Neediness = repulsion 🥀
Sovereignty = attraction 🌹
Who has read a book called the paradise of Jesus and Nirvana of Bhudda?
As within , so without ...
It is said that the kingdom of God is within you...
Ooo I love this , thank you for sharing sister !
💯💯💯
Idk who needs to hear this today, but you are deserving of love and respect. Once you start to value yourself, others will value you as well and the world will open up to embrace you. The trauma you experienced in the past is not your fault, but it is something you can repair when you take the steps to love yourself.
Thankyou I needed this right now❤
NEEDY IS CREEPY. Bottom line. Until I did my shadow work and uncovered the source of my neediness in relationships I was playing out the pattern of not getting what I needed emotionally when I was very young...I feel 1000 lbs. lighter now. Thank you brother!
Love this
@Mark McKenzie nothing wrong with having needs. we all do. however "neediness" is an energy that feels creepy and it repels and sabotages what you attract into your life. Lord knows I've done it enough times myself. Good day
How do I learn about shadow work
@@TheMediumChannel Neediness is fear arising from the fear of being homeless.
Troll of the Year What you’re describing is having needs based upon unfortunate situations in life which sucks, I was homeless for about 4 months once bit that s different than being “needy”, that’s a personality trait that repels that which you think you need, or at least makes it harder to get because it’s vibrationally unattractive
I cried so hard through the whole video.. I have extreme codependency, neediness, fear of abandonment. I am diagnosed with severe Borderline personality disorder.. but I suffer so much despite many years of treatment. You are saving me with this video Aaron, I am saving me by watching it. Thank you so much for helping lost souls like me, bless you
I learned to love myself by asking myself " Why" when I give myself the answer, I then ask myself " Why" again. It will get you to the root cause, then ask yourself " Why" are you hanging on to it.
When sad/mad thoughts comes to mind, sit and go through this list.
Why are you codependent, Why do you need them to take care of you?
Why are you needy, why can't you do it on your own?
Why do you need that to make you feel better?
Why do you need this to make you happy?
Why are you blaming childhood memories on your life's choices?
Why are you letting it bring you down?
Why are you NOT letting it go?
Why are you visiting it again just because it comes to mind?
Why are you not saying " I can do this"
Why do you need someone to tell you you are good?
Why do you need someone to validate you?
Why does the opinion of someone else make you who you are?
Why are you NOT giving "0" shits about what people think about you?
Why do you need to please other people?
Why do you need people to like you?
"Why Do I Care?"
Love from a Sister.
Have you tried EMDR? It helped me a lot and I know nie everyone heard about it xx
I have abandoned myself but never got real love from the outside. This time I’ll abandoned everyone and be selfish enough to love myself and the hell with everyone.
Loving yourself is not selfish. It is the best thing for everyone including me..at the heart we are all the same.... but by truly loving yourself and say "hell with everyone" what you will be doing in reality is RECONNECTING with everyone, not separating but rather healing the wounds that caused the separation in the first place.... but on your Spirit's terms, not others' terms.
@@TheMediumChannel that’s a nice explantation!
@@TheMediumChannel or not reconnect. Some people are narcissistic and drainers. By healing yourself you will come to learn that if they don’t heal as well, you may want to consider to let go of that connection. Or limit the time you spend with them. No matter how much you heal and detach, you’re not a robot. You’ll have triggers, and if some people deliberately trigger you, I think it’s wise to chose what you’re spending your energy on. ♥️
@@Ladyinred001 💯💯
Bruja, we dont need to think about "others"; "hell to oders"; or things like "others"... focus on yourself, there's no others..
Everything is actually about you, darling! Cut off the cables
”“Sometimes you don’t even realize you’re blocking your own blessings by holding onto to the past or thinking negatively. Start letting go.”*
Love from a small youtuber💙
👏🏼👏🏼❤️
Yes
Bro your not small 🙏🏼 your blessed ❤️
When we stop chasing the “wrong things”, we give the “right things” a chance to catch us. “Purge” what does not help you evolve my friends 🖖
I feel free once I quit smoking weed. No it's not bad like other drugs but a good highlight from this video in terms of that is.. being authentic attracts. Being under the influence on weed I feel it has taken away from my authenticity due to it being a superficial state of mind not naturally getting there but being altered by an exterior substance.. like he stated I used weed to become likeable because as a kid all my family left me after my mom died I felt that I wasnt good enough sober so I needed to change myself somehow to have people stay and love me... I never received love by being something I wasnt. If you dont love and know yourself it will be 10xs harder for someone else to. They cant read minds but they can read fronts ... very beautiful video💙💙
This reminds me of learning social skills and the concept of drawing people into your energy, like the party is wherever you are instead of trying to join others people's party.
Great
This pops up after my boyfriend doesn’t answer his phone. 🤣🤣
“Never be needy again.”
And your mind always defaults to the worst possible scenario!
I just broke up with my ex today, and lucky me I found this
@@MJA5 oh yeah that’s the bad part. Sometimes I default to the worst case scenario even if it’s during happy times. Holy
This made me crack up🤣
Coincidence? I think not.😄
When you have courage to say no to what doesn't feel right in your gut... you're amazing.
That's the thing, that when you experienced, child neglect or formed some beliefs your whole life what your gut is telling you is not right. Exactly the point he is trying to make. Don't follow your gut. Get past the co dependent, needy instinct that you formed. When you never had boundaries, and you start drawing them. Is gonna feel unnatural at the start. And your gut is gonna tell you to go back to safety. So ignore it and keep going. At some point you're gonna balance out.
“Whatever you hold in your mind on a consistent basis is exactly what you will experience in your life. “- Tony Robbins🌟💯
Powerful
I am validation!! I am enough. My life is exactly what I think it should be. I attract not chase ❤😊
This is what I've been battling with for ages now. Far too often I detach from needing validation from other people and in turn I become magnetic, but then my mindset shifts to "yeah, it worked, they like me now" and the opposite happens where I become needy and repulsive. I would really like a meditation where you help me let go of my neediness.
Story of my life! I’m currently watching this crying because I attracted a relationship I loved, and it was amazing, then obvs I started to loose me and started focusing on him, and boom. Out of the blue he ends it. Now Here I am watching this 🤷🏼♀️ well at least we know... and learn to maintain it!! But still... ouch.
He sounds like an asshole. He should have communicated to you before just leaving. I’m sorry that happened. ❤️🩹
Very good lesson. I feel I lose a lot of my self when I’m in a relationship thinking more of the other person’s life than my own. Thank you for bringing me back to my frame!
Same here. This video brings more perspective. I am the universe. Filling my own cup.
It's boggling my mind how easily I believe that I am "not ok" based on other people's opinions!!
Ohhh girl, I felt that!
We are social creatures who are naturally dependent on the judgment of the "pack" so we have unlearn a lot of things, especially if we experienced abandonment, neglect, alcoholic parents, etc, as children.
Lol same
Yes ..felt that too
I was texting to a girl for long hour and i was being more than nice to her , i was trying to say i am a nice guy and she was texting late , ignoring and being rude and making fun of me at the same time i clicked into this video and daam my eye opener and immediately i said i don't need any validation with anyone what type of guy i am, i don't need anything and anyone to make me complete and stop texting. I went to take a shower and came back and she said she is so sorry. This is magical my friend ! I like most of your videos, your content are unlike other self help gurus. keep up the good work.👍
Omg Aaron, When you said “they abandon themselves” my world stopped. Thx so much Aaron for walking in your truth as it’s inspired me to walk mine.
As a person who specializes in healing work and inner child work, you spoke nothing but FACTS in this video 🥳🙌🏽 I honestly feel like this has been one of your best "teaching" videos I've seen this far, Aaron 🔥🔥🔥 Have a great week ahead!
Hi Stef, I do psychic coaching too and of course mediumship and I wanted to say hi. .I agree with your assessment of this video as I've done a super amount of shadow work the past year so I could clear the blocks to doing videos after Spirit instructed me to do youtube...to make a long story short I had a full on phobia when it came to performing on camera..I totally reprogrammed myself.and like one of my first teachers said "we are not our bodies we have bodies, we are not our thoughts we have thoughts, we are not our emotions we have emotions". Spirit I Am
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@@Scorpio37 Thanks so much 🙏🏽 I hope the content on my channel helps you 💜
@@TheMediumChannel Hi Adam! Lovely to meet you! ☺️ Congrats on all your inner work! It's not always the easiest thing looking at one's shadows but it's well worth it so it's great to hear that you worked through the stuff that kept you from showing up online to share your gifts and light with others 🥳🙌🏽 Keep up the good work!
Stef Ventura Coaching - Psychic Coach Thank you. always a work in progress but as you said, so well worth it,
OMG- inner child work completely changed my life. I started this summer and boom: new me!
Perfect timing with the upload was just looking for something to watch
Man, I was in the EXACT same frame! I was too attached to my old story; my old self. It kept me chained and bound down to these tracks that led nowhere. I always expected a train to come run over me, and you know what? It didn't for a while, which confused me. But it eventually did. And then I would question why it did. Sometimes I was the one who chose to lay on those tracks, and other times I allowed someone else to push me onto them, but it was still my own doing. Self-sabotaging because of how you were treated as a kid, whether it was to "make" your parents "proud," or to "fit in," or have some sort of false fulfillment meanwhile you felt some void... NONE of it can continue if you simply choose to stop the cycle. STOP the train. STOP the negative self-talk. STOP the FEAR.
Your videos have worked wonders, Aaron. Thank you for sharing your insight! It definitely resonates with a lot of people, I'm one of them. Keep up the good work!
i first understood this whole thing about protecting my energy and being in my own frame, when i watched your videos. it is specific for empathetic and sensitive people. for example in the past i never realized before, that i always felt responsible for others when they felt uncomfortable in a certain situation, so i changed to make everyone comfortable. now i'm more conscious and sometimes it feels a bit selfish, but it's a very good feeling. thank you very much for the videos.
Very true. And remember, the only reason you ever lose yourself is so that you can then experience the joy of finding yourself. You forget so that you can remember. That's how duality works. So, if you've been needy, it's only because now you can become the opposite of that. And you are doing it already...❤️
The art of detachment will change your life for sure 🙏🏽😁❤️ you get when you least want
I am the type of person who is very easily to bond with someone when I jump into a relationship, it's hard for me to detach myself from that person and make me a someone who is needy and become dependent on that person, the only way for me is to separate myself from that person in an energy, and it helps me a lot so I'm not lacking of self anymore, know that I am a whole person and complete...
Great timing. I was struggling with detaching. I don't want to be the empath, nice one or the victim anymore, it doesn't get me anywhere. I still want to be me I just want to be the better version of myself who has it all of my heart desires because I know I deserve to be happy. Thank you for another amazing video, I always learn a lot from your videos and get reminders.
Same here
it’s like you took the words right out of my mind. couldnt agree more!
Not only healing your inner, but also your energy, and BE what you want to attract.
P.S: Yes, please do a powerful meditation and I’ll send it to friends and family. I learned how to be in my power over ten years ago now and sadly I learnt the hard way through toxic relationships.
I just found your channel. Thank you, seriously. My situation was heavy. Horrifically abusive relationship, have been single since 2012, and I was completely broken. I have since come farther than I ever imagined. Four months ago I met someone, and it is mind-blowing. Up until a few weeks ago, and I'm feeling disgusting. I hate that needing validation BS...so, I'm all in. You keep it 💯. Thank you for that.
I totally get this. A lot of us in the spiritual community are too much in the higher chakras and this makes everyday life difficult. We need balance throughout
The lower chakras aka being in the body, is more of an illusion/dream, though?
Wow, I feel like I just healed repressed trauma in my mind, heart, and body. Thank you so much for spreading the wisdom Aaron!
I learned we are responsible for our own happiness, I'm happy by myself and it's like people just want to be around you, and staying positive.
I am so like you just described. Years of failed relationships. Definitely parental emotional abuse that went on. I am going to start the meditation. I have read countless books, tried to separate myself from others, especially in relationships, watched videos. I just want to know how to stop. I want to know how to heal that inner child for good. It has definitely taken a toll on my life.
Hi Aaron & community hope you're all having a good Monday
Oh boy you know there is so much wisdom in this video. It applies in all context.
This is exactly my issue right now! I was literally just asking the universe how to fix this in myself and here you are! Please tell me more!!!
The pandemic quarantine is one of the best things to ever happen to me personally. I have always valued my alone time. The quarantine provided all of the alone time that I've dreamed of having. It allowed me the time, space and solitude for proper introspection. I looked at what causes me stress and anxiety. Then I took an honest, objective look at what was internal and what was external. In the end, essentially 100% of my stress and anxiety wasn't the issues in my life. It was how I reacted to them. My perfectionist tendencies were becoming a problem. I made mountains out of molehills for absolutely no reason. Once I realized that, I changed my approach to life. Things changed for the better almost overnight. My stress and anxiety disappeared and I am happier now than I've ever been. I spent years shooting myself in the foot but I'm glad that I fixed it.
I need to learn more specifically how to "feel the separation". I can think it but not sure I feel it.
I think the more you recognize the feeling and stop and deal with it at that moment (reminding yourself it's past trauma and what do you need within yourself) leads to stopping the feeling.
Don't be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.💙🙏🏽💫
Aaron. You are now the older brother version to the younger brother version in your earlier videos. Its quite distinct but also seems very natural.
Great video Aaron
He looks more masculine now
This makes sense. I've been going back and forth between totally shutting people out and pushing them away, to being needy. My fear of abandonment caused both. I would shut them out for fear of getting attached. Then when I'd finally let them in I'd get overly attached. I think it's finding that balance between the two where you're not afraid of letting people in but not afraid of them abandoning you.
I needed to hear this, considering how I'm struggling to let go of my past relationship. 🙏🏽
Aaron is a good egg. He is a practical man who has experienced certain difficulties and has clearly handled them well.
I need this guy in my life
After 6 years in a horrible relationship, I discovered through googling for insight, I find the word narcissist. My 50 plus years I never knew. One year out of it. Now I find your videos. So good. Thank you for sharing your gift. Stay blessed.
It’s all about detachment. Feeling the separation between you and the flame from the candle 🕯 this is a way of integrating your energy. Thank you Aaron for your the valuable knowledge about being in your frame. This is going to change my perspective on so many things. Much love to you ❤️
That's exactly right. You've hit the nail on the head
ANTHONY HOPKINS - Powerful words. ′′Let go the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don't want change. Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it's a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health. When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn't mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren't ready to accompany you. If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you don't do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you. That's what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are. The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else. There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment. The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want. Maybe if you stop showing up, you won't be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it. This is not love, it's attachment. It's wanting to give a chance to those who don't deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should not be in your life. The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence. When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that don't suit you and shouldn't be around you, your energy is stolen. You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed. You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It's not your work to exist for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favours you have granted. It's your only obligation to realize that you are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve. Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don't waste time with people who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve."
I’ve been binge watching your videos, I feel like my vibration is already changing. It’s helping so much with depression and anxiety.
love that you touched upon the "dark" side of spirituality, which is forgetting your individuality
“Knowing is not enough, we must apply. Wishing is not enough, we must do”* - Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Love from a small channel💙
I feel like crying n feeling sad for myself.
Little girl child inside me is transforming now.
Tha you Aron
God bless 🦋
This is amazing and life changing advice! As a codependent and a highly sensitive person I needed to hear this.
People are social species and there is nothing wrong about being attached to someone, being in healthy trusting relationships with someone, being able to take someone as positive ownership, to provide containment, to be taken care of in the same context. The only problem I see is that to create this oneness with someone, we've got to be completely honest about our needs and desires to be able to find the right person for the attachment. There is a fine lane between being egocentric and emotionally indepepand.
Thank you Aaron. I’m in that spiritual awakening. I’m going through a break with my loved one and it’s tearing me up but I am grateful because it allows me to see what I need to work on. Been using your videos to help guide myself to enlightenment, and to overall love myself fully and heal that inner child🙏🏼 thank you so much and I’m looking forward to that meditation
Hope you didn’t give up on it!
this vid is very well done - the graphics, clear speech, cinematography. 1) please provide a 5min vid with a candle and flame only (i do not want to burn our house). 2) please explain how the other people who are "in their frame and in their body" actually feel; what our target is, as i have no idea. 3) please elaborate in detail on how one can believe in kindness and at the same time be authentic and more self centric, fulfilling his individualistic (edging narcissistic) intentions (is it not ego?); it's confusing.
Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the one thing that will set you free🙏🏽💙💫
Appreciate you so much. I was raised by narcissistic mom too
It annihilated my sense of self
Created a hole 🕳 in my soul
I stopped beating myself up for it and started to pay attention to it, talking to it, then just allowing it to be and I sat through the pain of it.
Finally I put my bright shining golden sun in the hole and have been feeling whole every since.
It’s hard to figure things out without a sense of self. I felt like nothing, worse than nothing.
I started giving myself love like I would a baby. I’d look at my baby pics and just say lovely things to that little baby.
And yes.. many times I cried because I felt so ridiculous doing all these things but I did them nevertheless.
Just thought I’d share.
Thank goodness for TH-cam, technology, and people like you ❤️💯
Very well put! I should have valued my own passions and talents all along. Then I wouldn't have attracted so many narcissists, who chipped away at my self-esteem. I wish I had been able to embrace this concept decades ago. Thanks Aar!
Same here
I’m so connected to others and I don’t like myself. I’m scared of being lonely. Thanks for your video. Please post more of this good stuff🌹
Ironically, this video pops up when I'm connecting more with my real authentic self.
You look like from heaven… I will commit to this practice and that’s something coming from me… been studying for 3 years nothing has drawn me in like this… bless your light 💙♾🧿♾🦋
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Your vibe truly is so strong and magnetic, and more masculine! Thank you for sharing all of that recently, your process really helped me in my own xx
Aaaaamazing. I procrastinate this practice so much because I know it's gonna solve my current problems 😢😨
Hola Aaron thanks so much for this. A meditation would be Amazing. If you get to see this, I am in deep gratitude for all you do and all your shares. By being authenthically you, your videos have helped me to see myself with a different pair of eyes. This video was crucial for me to understand all the years of self sabotage and self abandonment.
I'm dealing with the energy of finding my own ground, doing things on my own and making things happen for myself
It's new 👩🏾🚀💫
When you realize that you are God, feeling whole and complete is a side affect and is not forced. Change your identity and you'll change your reality
The vibration of neediness, fear, doubt, worry and anxiety repels. The vibration of love and joy attracts.
I definitely was that old person because my parents didn’t accept me , once I put myself in my own frame I’m sooo much happier
Yup, thats what was happening with me for so long . In trying please and help everyone else , i lost myself in the process. But thankfully , ive learned to find myself again. I refuse to fall back into those old patterns and habits again. I want to live and not just survive.
Keep in mind people don’t like clingers whether it’s a partner or friend. Overly neediness is within and about you.
Wow excellent, Aaron! I was just reading last night about detachment in the 'Codependent no more' book. I love your analogy with the eggs, since I'm a visual learner. Thank you so much for helping us all! I know I need to detach from thinking my elderly Narcissitic mother needs me, because she can take care of herself. She asked me to 'help' her 4 years ago and I am still here. I have abandoned my values and life and business for her.
Learned something new today. Thank you.
I’ll practice it and see how it goes! Thanks 🙏🏼 much light and love to everyone watching this video. ❤️
Yup i was the codependent chaser tf and had to remember i was my own totally separate person with distinct needs, issues, desires that i didn't need anyone to accommodate me with. Such a good feeling when you remember or learn to just be yourself and do things for yourself without worrying about what "others will think" or being afraid to "rock the boat" by expressing my truth
I would absolutely appreciate the meditation, while practicing the separation 🙌🏼 Thank you very much as always Aaron, I really needed your advice at this moment 🙏🏼
May God bless Aaron with a long and healthy life! And May God bless everyone here with a long and healthy life of 100 years. God bless us all with amazing health and a long life ❤️
"Feel the barrier of the flame"- my new mantra, Thank You Aaron!!!
Changed my whole mind set .. after all these years ! Mind blowing .. !
What if - the eggs are already in their own frame (eggshells)! They just don't know it yet 🤭
thank you, the candle exercise was acrtulaly very helpful i really felt the barrier 'my energy is mine, your energy is yours'
*Googles how to become a shadow integration coach*
Great video, Soul opener. Would definitely like to hear more about.
When I had a spiritual awakening, I broke most of my boundaries with people, especially with my twin flame, and he hit me the worst...
I destroyed my most important boundaries just because of this oneness thinking, in fact I sacrificed myself to a thought that I thought was worth doing anything.
Thank you for this video
im so moved from your video, I never knew or thought about it...I always give more than I receive even with my friends, ppl ghosting me with no reason. I start doubting myself maybe there's something wrong with me, its like a pattern..but still, I thought, talking to ppl saying hi being nice and show love, make them feel loved is what the world needs and what I wish for myself....thank you so much!
I’ve realised so much from this. I struggle everyday with communicating with people, everywhere, everyone, I have to be extra nice, attentive, and smiley. I feel almost like I’m on my tippy toes. I worry if they aren’t as smiley or rude etc but could never speak up. It’s validation, huge breakthrough for my consciousness
Dear Aaron,
i write you from Berlin and try to give my best english🙏.
Thank you so, so much for your valuable Videos. I've been traumatized as a Baby and now i understand more why i do things, the way i do them.
I'm in a therapy, but some things you explained it so clearly, that brings me an lightning in my mind.
So from soul to soul
🙏💗💫🧝♀️
Simple but effective, thank you Aaron. Spent a very long time exhausting myself on others behalf’s and now I know why
I'm glad you are still walking around and not behind a big Microphone I much prefer it ty Aaron
Thank You Aaron 💖 🕊️💜 grew up in abuse so I so needed to hear this I struggle with loving myself I feel the pain in my Inner Child so much I struggle to be in touch with her yet my inner child longs to be loved ....I have a good relationship with God this helps even He is challenging me to heal my inner child with His unconditional love ...taking baby steps 💖🕊️💖💜
“Not the unity oneness stuff” I love your gestures and body language 😍🥰😘but the teaching of this video, oh boy, is just another thing, so brilliant and liberating, thank you love, you rock big time!!