Protect Your Man... From Yourself!
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- Men take on a big responsibility when they are with a woman. There is a silent contract between a man and a woman that says the man will protect the woman from evils. But do women have any responsibly to protect her man? She most certainly does.
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Most men learn when growing up that being annoying has physical consequences. Most women didnt get that lesson.
Someone else mentioned that, it's really a profound truth that no one seems to want to discuss or remedy.
OMG.... spot on dude. Most grade school punches to the face came as a result of getting what you had coming to you. Or lying or cheating .... eventually said person was gonna pay.
@@JenniferMoleski But wouldn't the only 'remedy' be after we realize this, to enforce physical consequences on girls? And we as a society are moving in the opposite direction. Seems a harsh reality, but the truth.
I say that all the time but a little differently.
Women grow up without learning the lesson of respect the way men do. As kids boys learn that if you say the wrong thing or act out in a way that is disrespectful to another boy, you usually get punched in the nose or stomach and you learn real quickly about how to act and when to keep your mouth shut. Young girls don't get that.
I'm not promoting physical violence or saying punching people is a good thing, but it makes a huge difference in the way that adult men and women treat one another. Women would act a lot better if they had been taught that lesson.
There's a joke about the woman who has two black eyes and that's because she didn't listen the first time.
It's a really messed up joke but it is based on reality like all jokes.
How do you teach a grown woman that lesson when she's never learned to respect others and thinks she can act and say anything without consequence?
So true, men often get "disciplined" when they are being awful by other men, women almost never are
Apparently, teaching a woman how to be a decent human being is now considered sexist?
I thought it was classified as hate speech.
You may be right.
Yes…but things are changing as men are not willing to put up with it
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No such thing as sexism
This is the type of stuff that makes me wanna be better. When women take accountability, it makes me, a guy, do it too and wanna be better. It's a team effort.
I tried to find the quote I was looking for exactly, but all I got were quotes about strong women and women in business. I am not kidding so make of that what you will. But here is the gist - The lady in you brings out the gentleman in him. It's generally true, even if it can no longer be found on an internet search.
What women select is what men become.
@@AbstractAngelArtist: Please, just watch the video and pay attention.
@@AbstractAngelArtist: Okay, so which part of the video makes you unable to comprehend the original post and go off on irrelevant tangent?
Clearly, the original post is talking about individual women taking personal accountability for their own conduct interacting with individual men.
Thank you.
"Women are emotionally violent". That really does sum it up. That emotional violence hurts more than the physical violence.
Then why isn't emotional violence prosecuted like physical violence??????????
@woooooooh no it shouldnt. Just look what is happening with so called "hate speech".
So true. Especially psychological and emotional abuse as well.
First wife….no matter what I did, it was never enough. Was never unemployed a single minute, nice house that most would love, but it was never enough. “I should have married a doctor”. Nothing was enough. I think she thought life was a romance novel, and I was supposed to ride home from work on a white horse every day. She started drinking, a lot. Took her to the doc, and he put her on some meds because she was bipolar. But, she wouldn’t take the meds because she couldn’t drink. Our 21 year old daughter passed away from complications from pregnancy, and it went south REAL fast. Put her in rehab 3 times, no good. She literally tried to kill me 3 times, once with rat poison, two with a gun. The last time, a cop actually witnessed her with a gun in my face. I wrist tapped and took it away from her while she was looking at the cop. And what were the cops reaction???
“What did you do that made her mad enough to want to shoot you?”
Now mind you. I have never laid a hand on any woman in anger. I was brought up that way. And I hate fighting and arguing. So, after 32 years,
I asked for a divorce, which she refused. I said F it, and got an apartment, and I didn’t tell her where it was. She was texting me like crazy trying to find out where I lived. I told her no. She can have the house, my retirement, everything. I just want out.
A month later she killed herself. The detectives said she was going to kill me and then herself.
No more women for me!!!!
Well, was doing a weekly acoustic gig at a coffee house, and this pretty girl came back every week to watch. We got to talking, and asked me about the tat on my arm of my daughter. So I told her the whole story that I just made you endure.
Turns out, she had a very bad, abusive marriage. She also had a son that severe mental issues. She literally watched her son murder her husband, and then walked up to her while she was on the phone with the authorities and said sorry mom, I can’t live with this, and ate the gun standing right in front of her.
We are married now. She understands everything that the girl in the post has said.
Men and women are different for a reason. We compliment each other’s strengths and weaknesses. Yes, men are physically stronger, but women have that tongue. I would rather take a good ass whipping than what a woman can say.
Be respectful, be honest, be kind and be faithful to each other, and it’s much much easier.
Thanks for putting up with me writing this. I don’t usually mention it in public.
It's cathartic to get it out; NO apologies needed! Sounds worse than horrific! But it was STILL your fault, according to the clown cops! LOL 'Women Are Good' fallacy rears its head again! All the best to you, man, in your new life! If you have the time, say a prayer for us single guys! Its a horror show out here!
That's some story. I had to read it twice! Will add more later. Have the kid for the weekend.
Sorry for all you had to go through. You are so lucky u left when u did and also to not tell the wife where ur new apartment was. Enjoy ur new lease on life. Remember polarity is key u the masculine and she the feminine. Cheers.
Takes balls to put that out there...especially in our male-shaming culture.
You have my respect.
Mine said ( during a 33 year marriage ) - “ I should have married a plastic surgeon “
Not quite “ your “ horrible experience , but it was very dark at the end and God got me through it for sure .
Thanks for sharing ; praying for you and your new life and I’m glad that you two found each other .
God bless .
My nicest, sweetest and sometimes naughty tone is reserved for my man. I have another for young kids and then a social vs professional tone. Code switching is imperative and if you can't muster up your nicest self for your man then chances are you don't deserve him and you certainly aren't being a good partner. The world is cruel enough without coming home to your own personal witch..
Amen!
A lady in a church I used to go to always sat in the pew ahead of me, with her husband, who I knew as my vet. One day after church she asked me why I was single and didn't have my own woman. I said, I don't know, I guess I need some help. She said maybe she could help and asked me what I was looking for. I answered, it isn't what I am looking for, it is what I am not looking for: not loud and not bossy. That eliminated all the single women she knew.
LMAO! Not even shocked!
Facts. Hell, 80% of dudes would settle down with the first halfway decent woman that is just nice to them. But honestly that really does disqualify most, especially western women. They can for a bit but eventually the facade is shown.
props to her for looking to help and recognizing the truth when she heard it.
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Respect makes a man feel loved.
My wife, and indeed every woman I know, has a big mouth. They say nasty things constantly because they've rarely had their brains beaten in. Men learn this lesson early - say the wrong thing and it comes to violence fast. Most men have been in a fight at one time or another - maybe all of us, I don't know. It teaches temperance. How can women be taught this?
I don't think women can. Ask Sean Connery.
@@jasoncarter4343 I'm afraid i agree!
@@jasoncarter4343 hahaha, "just a little slap..."
Surprised Barbara Walters face
The modern woman doesnt respect men. The majority of them have no self respect or shame, so why would you expect them to respect other people. This isnt of course all women, but enough to where it makes the behavior normalized and accepted.
You can beat them into submission, but that just ignores the base problem. And I dont think most men want to beat the person they love. Society expects a modern woman to be a woman and mother at home, while being a faux man at work. Thats abusive and emotionally and mentally impossible.
Most men know what the answer is., even if they cant put it into words And its starting to happen now. Women who chose hearth and home will find a man to marry them. Those who chose the corporate board room will have a string of lovers and a monthly order of wine and kitty litter. The problem is we are still teaching all girls the latter without explaining to them that if they do that they will not have the former.
The greatest lie we have told women over the last 60 years is, you can have it all. No one can.
See what my man Johnny Depp went through with that disgusting narcissist Amber Turd💩
OMG! Thank you for pointing out that talking "to" your spouse, or anyone else, is different than talking "at" them! Not to mention "time and place" don't air dirty laundry in public and give your partner space during a misunderstanding.
Jennifer you have some very good suggestions for communication. Self reflection is a seldom used view point requiring a desire for deep understanding and action.
Wow! Mind blown. Fifteen years ago I gave up looking for a woman who would have my back. The solitude has been wonderfully peaceful.
It refreshing to hear a woman giving this type of advice in a society that seems to just dump on men all the time. I'm working my tail off to provide for my wife, not only in the present, but to have enough through retirement someday. It's a whole lot of pressure, actually. It's exhausting at times. It's just nice to get some respect for that. That's all I ask.
A good man, a good husband/boyfriend never shows his woman just how physically violent he can get. That's something we learn from a young age to contain. I expect my wife, my woman, to afford me the same... restraint; to never show me how emotionally violent she can get. And luckily, my wife agrees with me. 22 years of married bliss, solving problems, taking on the world... together... as actual adults :)
Excuse me sir, could you please let me know how you were able to access a time machine?
Well said. These are some of the things I’m asking my wife to do if she wants me to stay. You can share your day or problems with me but don’t take them out on me. It’s unacceptable. I don’t deserve that and won’t tolerate that. Same can be said for passive aggressive behavior. I want peace in my house, not drama.
My daughter was taught and learned at 12, when her period started, "If you feel like crap, that does not give you the right to treat other people like crap." The discipline learned from behaving like a decent human being, even when she didn't feel like it, has paid off for her. While in Air Force basic training, her group would get extra pushups if someone started crying. Quoting my daughter, "Cry in the bathroom like every body else." Point for me is that she is in control of her emotions, so she can perform the tough task when needed, not fold, and then deal with her emotions when appropriate. Sadly, the maturity my daughter grew into is not the norm for most women.
We men aren't your emotional tampons. Boom.
Exactly!
What she said should come as naturally as breathing. You can't fix these women, thier fate has been sealed.
Well aren’t you a understanding charmer? Being the man of the house does not mean being the dictator of the house. I predict your wife is going to finally get tired of your “I am the king!” routine and send you packing OR you will emotionally abuse her to the point that she is silently miserable, perhaps for her entire miserable existence with you. God help her.
I'm a 52yr old man from Tacoma, WA and I'd like to say to you Jennifer Moleski, "Well Said and Well Done".
Unfortunately, most are too selfish and self-absorbed to even comprehend the idea.
Husbands should also be prepared to shut down the conversation when wifey is communicating through her emotions. Be a masculine man and know when to tell her "alright, that's enough." If you can't or won't do that, she will not respect you.
Such a great point. Guys should not have to feel afraid to say something when she’s communicating badly etc.
We both know what comes next if you tell a woman "that's enough". I get what your saying but Ive seen men walk around on eggshells and jump through hoops to keep their partner happy. You can apply it to almost everything. Sex, compromising, etc it's all held over their heads UNLESS A), B), or C) happens
@@Bl913 1st: a womAn. Not a women.
2nd: "that's enough" should automatically be understood as that's enough for now / you need to pause that shit.
Basically a much more direct, manly, way of saying go cool off and we'll talk like adults later. She got a problem with that, she needs to adjust that problem herself.
Took the words right out of my mouth. I’m a married man and I had to learn this for myself. Us men have to be masculine, despite what feminism tries to tell us. You can’t expect a woman to respect you by herself, you have to command respect. We have to stop adhering to women’s emotions and be men. A lot of us don’t know how to be men anymore. We’re either submissive, or abusive. Both are bad. We have to be strong and authoritative, while still being loving.
I once dated a girl that told me there was no such thing as equality between a man and a woman. It’s either I control her, or she controls me. Somebody has to be in charge. Lol she was a terrible partner, but hey she taught me something.
I’m starting to really, really like this woman. It’s a woman helping women in a different and profound way. I know EXACTLY what you mean with the “tone” but then you ask “what’s wrong, are you upset” and you get “I’m fine” 😠 that drive me INSANE!!!!!
Spot on. A woman with self awareness, genuine empathy for men and the ability to critically self reflect? If this is not only words but also actions, it would be truly amazing.
When a woman says "Look in the mirror" to a man, it's usually because they don't want to admit their own hidebound abusive ways.
2:25 “I love you so much and I might say something that I don’t mean.”
Kudos to you for saying this because men will walk away from disrespect and never look back.
The verbal power of peace… vs. the power of doubt with drama…
Thanks Jennifer for being strong enough to say it. But be careful because the modern American woman doesn't have any room for that message. ☮
Have stated here before, my husband often asks my opinion, sometimes it leads to great conversations.. sometimes, life just goes on. I honestly don't get women that use hateful tones and disparaging comments to their man. My husband is by far "my best friend" and truly believe I am his also. Of course we don't always agree but I would suggest if you don't agree, have a damn good reason and facts to support it. Enjoy life, it truly is way to short!! Men deal with facts, learn to bring those to conversations, I bet you'll be pleasantly surprised. Mom and grandma both taught me that. IT WORKS!
Thank you
so for a man it really pays off to thoroughly talk to a potential partner's mother and if possible, grandmother too. My dad gave me only one piece of solid advice about women: observe her mother before you marry her.
"Men deal with facts, learn to bring those to conversations, I bet you'll be pleasantly surprised." I love it, where do you find women like that?
Great message, my wife has been working on this exact thing for the last year and life is better.
Excellent point. And if you do give your opinion, using a question is just so much gentler and let’s him know you aren’t “demanding” he do your opinion. “Do you think we could…?” “What do you think about…?” “Could you…?” It gives him the opportunity to hear what you have to say and then kind of guilt free decline. You can’t really bully him with genuine questions.
Sure glad I'm a life-time (61 year old) bachelor. I only care for myself. I'm selfish, narcissistic, hedonistic and deliriously happy being that way. Or at least women have told me I'm those things. I've watched three brothers be destroyed by their wives, and I've never had to deal with it. Two of my older brothers committed suicide over their wives many, many years ago.
It's Friday, and I'm off to play with my X-Box and have a pizza delivered. No married man can say that.....
Wow, thx!
Impossible to battle life and a battle axe at the same time
Exactly.
The man provides and protects the home & provisions.
The woman provides the sanctuary, for her and him, within that home.
If either breaks down, it’s no good.
You nailed it Jennifer. Excellent. Thank you!
LOVE Jen' .............. it's so rare to see positive messages on the internet
Absolutely.
That's the same problem and the same solution in the same sentence.
The problem is.... Most Men half ass their leadership roles and most women don't want a traditional womanly role in western society because "it's sexist, misogynistic, chauvinistic, and expectational" to do anything that a man wants or needs from his woman. People that are in relationships, dating, married, soon to be divorced, and dating again outright refuse to meet the opposite sex's wants and needs, but expect their own to be met like the day before yesterday. They all keep asking...."Why does this keep happening to me" But they don't want to assume their roles. Ladies... I am telling you the honest truth. Men don't have their own expectations of you for the sake of being misogynistic. They have them and do what they do and say what they say because they want a healthy relationship with you for the long haul. If the most of you are not going to care or respect a man's wants, needs, desires and expectations, if you are not going to meet him with enthusiasm with everything you do, think, say, and act upon. If you are going to continue to be resistant, selfish, bitchy, petty, contradicting, inconsistent, unattentive, hypergamous, monkey branching, dramatic, combative, and hostile. If you place your social order like your family, your friends, your pets, your co workers, etc. Above him... Don't expect any kind of commitment from any of us men for the long long haul. We can't trust you anymore. Most of us don't want to trust you either after all the games short term and long that have been played on us. A good man will move mountains for you if you would just gain his favor for his own gain and not yours.
@@AutomationDnD I would love to see more woman preaching on street. Helping woman find Jesus Christ. Turn into respectful wives. Honor thy husband.
One of the hardest part of growing up from a kid to a man is learning your strength, as the wrong movement around the same kids you played with can cause serious damage. We have to learn to use our strength with respect and moderation to those around us. If women can moderate their strength which is raw emotion.. we would live in a far less chaotic place.
Hallelujah, sister! Thanks for the term, "emotional violence." This is spot on for describing someone in my proximity, who is incredibly destructive. In an effort of providin feedback, I reflect that emotion, which makes her more upset. I'll try this, Jenn... thank you.
Psychologists call it relational aggression.
typical female double standard.
Yes it would make some one madder if you "reflect" their anger... Sorry you have to go through that, though
I love this. For a long time now I've felt like it's always on the man to "deal with" the women's behaviors, no matter how irrational. So women essentially get a free pass for bad behavior. It's bullshit. We should all be accountable for our actions, PERIOD!
I wish that my Ex could have listened to this. After 25 years, she brutally divorced me. Apparently she got bored and wanted the next shiny new toy. Her new boyfriend moved in with her, in my house, before the ink was even dry on the divorce papers. At my age, I was left with nothing, and will have to rely on Social Security to survive when I retire.
Currently I am building an RV out of a 2003 Ford Econoline. When the time comes, I will be living out my golden years, in a van, as a Hermit in the Desert or Mountains.
We watch your videos as a family - 4 men, 3 women. Great message and great delivery, 🙏
Wow! That's a huge compliment! Thank you!!!
Whoa, that's fascinating. Do you talk about the video afterwards? What is that like?
@@bros4654 We talk about the message, the perception, the reality. Just an open convo.
My daughter will be watching your channel she is six and she needs to hear this coming from a woman, this world is not easy and if we learn how to understand ourselves and not contribute to the calamity that would amazing, you are a awesome.
I think you make some valid points. I explain to any woman that I become involved with, that I expect life to be War, but not in my home. Home is sanctuary, and any woman sharing my home is part of that sanctuary.
A source of constant, high intensity conflict, in my home is going to be viewed by me as a hostile invasion, and I will respond accordingly by ejecting the cause of that conflict. Permanently, and without regret.
Who needs an enemy in the camp? Nobody.
Never tolerate the intolerable. Don't even try. It's not healthy and it'll NEVER be worth it.
It's better to be contentedly alone, than miserably together.
"Because you listened to the woman, you shall surely die" - God
Lmaooo damn
Context, "You are now mortal"
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Not a punishment, a blessing.
@@basedlifeform5413 that reminds of of the joke about why married men die early, "because they want to".
Listen to what she says girls, listen carefully and learn a great deal from her; these are words of wisdom!
Nailed it. Every woman needs to watch this, esp. the "millenial" women. Thank you, Jennifer.
JENNIFER!...---THANK YOU!!! we men "love" & "need" YOU!!! and other like-minded "YOUS"!!! Stay the course!!!
Jennifer, one of the things I appreciate about you is your forthright honesty. The only thing I would add to this latest post would be that men need to be equally cognizant of shielding their women from the times when they're not at their best (which, sure, I know goes without saying, but it still bears mentioning.) The way I heard it phrased best came from my grandfather, who said, "You should treat your friends and family at least as well as you treat strangers when you're on your best behavior." It's easy to go down the slippery slope of taking those closest to you for granted, and in my experience at least, making the conscious effort to appreciate them and hold them in a degree of reverence pays huge dividends in terms of keeping a relationship whole and healthy. Dang...if you weren't married already, I'd propose! Cheers!
We hurt the ones we love, because we perceive hurt from them! It always bears reminding, because when WE are emotional, we dont act good!
She briefly stated that. I don’t believe that was her audience for this video.
@David Lafferty - If she wasn't already married, you'd have to go through me first.
SHE'S MINE!
@@PHSPictures If either of you is thinking about marrying ANYBODY, you need your head examined. The "writing on the wall" that gives fair warning against getting married is so big, you can see it from outer space ffs.
the problem is that if you treat her like a queen she will start to wonder why she is with a peasant like you. your advice only works for women grounded in reality, which is an uncommon feature these days.
If my ex had taken this information to heart I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be my ex. From my experience women really are Their Own Worst Enemy when it comes to relationships.
And avoid the corrosive effect on your relationship that comes from holding him in contempt...
The second you started describing the voice.. i recoiled in fear. Lol all men know “that voice”.
Shout it from the roof top! Great job, Jennifer, & stay fearless!
I wouldn’t say “cunning”, I would say well-practiced in manipulation
When you mentioned 'civil' I think you have a good point. In my experience, I've had partners that were 'uncivil' (downright 'savage') with me but I put up with it when I was young. I've always made more effort to be 'civil' with my partner than anybody else (and I'm pretty 'civil' as it goes with everybody). Yet, I've found some relationships where I'm the 'only' one making an effort to be civil and I'm dealing with a 'savage beast'. When I approached 30, I was done with the 'savages'. I'd find, even on a first date, savage behavior _even_ with the wait staff (next). Sometimes I'd get best behavior for a "little while" and when things got comfortable the "savage beast" came out behind the facade.
There are wonderful women with self control out there and won't take out their moods on you or will "maintain perspective" before engaging in tongue lashing or running of the mouth. As I've gotten older, I see fewer making any effort worth 'squat' or thinking it's their god give right to be brutal. Right or wrong, I've taken the attitude that it's just harsh acceptance for me that most folks past 30 and unmarried are unmarried for a reason (aka: not marriageable, not civil enough even for cohabitation). I'm welcoming, but patient and suspicious, when I deal with 'civil' women for a period of time as I'm looking to see if there's a beast beneath. I don't think any guy likes "walking on eggshells" or 'traversing a mine field" in a relationship and that just leads to tragedy (there's going to be casualties and it's going to be the man).
I think the vocal demonstration is a great example of how for women in particular it's much easier to catch flies with honey than vinegar, particularly if what you are saying is as considered as the way you are saying it.
My lady needs to hear this. She drives me crazy & her attitude is never the problem
Walk away, let her be miserable to someone else.
I've learned to squash my white knight complex. If you don't let yourself get emotional. Treat women like a man.
God help us if we find out one day, Jennifer was once a guy named Bruce.
The vast majority of women need a great deal of training in order to be good relationship material...same for men. YOU dear Jennifer are knocking it out of the PARK!!! Keep up the great work!!!!!!!!
Name an edged weapon, which grows, not duller, but sharper with each use.....
A woman's tongue.
Jennifer , I've watched your videos for awhile , and you are a positive + spokeswoman for women , hopefully your husband really appreciates you and both of you are happy and full-filled until the end of time ,
sooooo many women and men have lost their morals and values to modern times , it's truly sad ,
Keep moving forward with you content , if two women on the planet get it , it's worth the effort ,
Dating in today's time is suicide for men , the cost is too much to even try .
This hits harder than my wife's narcissistic and irrational criticisms. But seriously, can we get the correct spelling for "ickiddy"? 😆
You Rock Jennifer
Emotional violence is never talked about yet so so important topic. Thank you for bringing awareness.
From a man's perspective, we can do similar emotional damage as well. We should change how we speak to the women in our life as well. We often talk down to, belittle, or otherwise verbally attack women. Your perspective on tone of voice can go for men as well. We should talk to women in a way that makes them feel safe and respected.
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The term "emotional violence" is so true for women. I would include your sons with your boyfriends and husbands. All too often, children can be weaponized against whomever. IMO, all forms of violence leave a mark.
The silent treatment or the loudness. Can’t decide which hurts more.
Your thoughts and ideas and even the way you articulate them, is extraordinary. Thank you for sharing!
Jen,
I watch your videos and your spot on. It’s easy to become complacent in our close relationships. I sincerely hope viewers take this good advice, and work to make themselves and the people they love happier on a daily basis.
Viewers, do it. It works your spouse will notice immediately.
She said it very clearly. Wife can easily destroy a man with words. Fast or slowly over time. Profound. But it all society says it’s my fault. Don’t hear her words just my fault. Thank you
Jen...Great imitation of " the Whiner" voice... There aren't many women who would agree w you!!
Spot on 100%. Your words of truth are powerful and yes every man prays for a soothing voice after his grind each day.
Madam, you pretty much deserve a Standing Ovation for delivering that Old, Eternal, Womanly Wisdom. You hit it directly on the head effortlessly and concisely.
Especially the whiney part she talks about...how women should record themselves
@@frama7545 Exactly!!! That part was expertly true. Even other Women, Children, and Animals don't like that bullshit behavior.
Jennifer, please don’t stop making these videos. Keep up the awesome work even in this growing woke society.
Great point but the overall truth is that most women are NOT worth the trouble to deal with. It's rare to find a woman that will TRULY stick by a man and love him for who he is without being nasty and vindictive or evil. And the older we get the harder it is to find someone good for ourselves.
I'm so Happy you started this I remember months ago I was one of the first persons to tell you not to quit because you have so much to offer regardless of the fiery hate mail!!! You got this keep going!!!!
My wife passed away but I love the way she wanted to argue or have a disagreement
We would lay down naked on the bed holding each other looking each other in the eyes and explaining our sides of the issue we never raised our voices we never used hurtful tactics
We would simply explain our issues or our side of the problem and come to a solution that we was both happy with!!!
A lot of times it was one of us being unaware of a issue upset the other side
The main thing is never let anything come between you not even air
Something about this just sounds so hot
As a man, I will say that most men have a long way to grow in emotional intelligence and setting boundaries. It is in women's nature to "test" their partners security. In my situation, I couldn't handle that test which led to emotional abuse and divorce. It's great to hear this woman guiding other women to be supportive spouse. We as man need to hold up our end as well. When the criticism starts to come, being able to confidently explain that there will be consequences for criticism, if not brought up in a loving manner. There are ways to express that things need to change without making it a personal attack. As a man, it's our job to say, "I'm willing to discuss this issue with you, but I won't be discussing it while emotions are high where we could hurt one another." Don't tolerate raised tones, yelling, accusations, and past wrongs. And if they won't stop, kick them to the curb and let someone else tolerate their BS.
My God, I love you! Platonically of course. I'm forwarding your channel to a number of people women and men that need to hear your message desperately.
So nice to see you back. Haven’t seen you in my feed for a looooong time. Thanks for your perspective!
The first time any woman ever starts raising her voice at me will be the last time I'm dealing with her PERIOD. I will NEVER tolerate any form of disrespect.
@ZooyZoé first of all, I treat people the way I like to be treated. I don't give what I don't like receiving. And second of all, if you have a problem with your partner, you address the issue respectfully. There's no reason for any form of disrespect towards your partner and vice versa whatsoever. Once where things are just going to escalate as to where you are name-calling or raise your voices at each other, it's just going to get worse. That's when it's best to just end it. You have to show respect to get respect. Learn that!
@ZooyZoé if only more people would learn to respond as opposed to being reactive and saying or doing something they are going to regret, then these issues can be minimized. Now, are there going to be disagreements that happen in relationships? Absolutely. However, there's a right way and a wrong way of handling them. By the way, you got a couple of typos in your last response. More specifically common as opposed to commen and original as opposed to orginal.
@ZooyZoé no worries. It's all good. And you're absolutely right, the way people respond is a reflection of their intelligence and along with how they treat others and themselves. When you see people who lash out and disrespect their partners, they're not only dishonoring their significant others, they are dishonoring themselves too. That's why I also emphasize not only respect for others, but respect for oneself when it comes to personal conduct.
@ZooyZoé as long as I've been around, I've seen the pendulum swing both ways when it comes to people conducting themselves very poorly. And most times, it's because they witnessed their parents conduct themselves in that manner. Not that it's an excuse for their behavior, but that's where those problems usually originate. Children will emulate their parents in the form of "monkey see, monkey do". With that being said, it's also important that people learn to lead by example. Otherwise, we're going to have some really disrespectful individuals who will usually end up being alone and miserable.
@ZooyZoé regrettably, that is so true. They have this preconceived notion that despicable behaviors are cute and funny, when in reality it is not. Therefore, that is why we try and do better and don't follow people who exhibit these types of behaviors.
Where is left audio channel? It sucks big time listening on headphones
An experienced man will protect you from yourself and will protect your relationship too. It typically comes in a form of "No"
There's a health nurse that comes to my job... She has such a soft caring voice and idk I get such loving caring vibes and makes me melt... Until I noticed the giant rock on her finger. That explains it ;)
Jennifer - you’re doing great stuff here. Love your messages. Very pro-woman, man, and family.
As a man who stopped dating or caring about having a wife this just reinforces my decision to do so. Women were meant to be submissive to their spouse, not attempt to exert authority over the man or try to defeat him in words. In the time before feminism if a woman unjustly argued against her husband it was grounds to be disciplined. If she continued it was grounds for divorce.
You sound like a real catch, I don’t understand why relationships don’t work out for you
Well that four year program was supposed to be their childhood were there mom and dad nurture their children to be better men and women. But cheating,being fat, not trying, and divorcing sounds easier
Other that religious beliefs, the open ended marriage contract offers nothing to decent men. You can have everything without the marriage contract in a society without ethics /morals/accountability/obligation. So why get married?.... Society has moved on from that, so should the laws, from a viewpoint of equality of the sexes.
The feminist agenda and need of two incomes,has changed the loving,gentle,peaceful beauty of today's woman. I won't stop desiring a woman though!!!
@@edgarcruzsr9695 Agree. Biological drive is mother natures way to perpetuate the species. But intelligent species learn to control it, and not allow it to control them.
You have a art.. You see a pattern by being able to read someone. Mad respect too you.
She is SO correct.
That is correct Jennifer. When a woman respects you, her voice is calm sensual & very feminime. When she loses interest interest, her voice changes.
Sexless marriage for over ten years and after she moved into another bedroom I bought a life like sex doll and now she’s accusing me of cheating on her
File for divorce now!!!
@@snowplow7883 thanks at the lawyers office as we speak
I started dating my hand. I learned to love myself.
Don't get married again.
She has a video for that! Go find it.
"I am woman, hear me roar?"
I just want you to burn your bras until you have to register with Selective Service when you turn 18........you know......so you can be equal?
Thankyou for this I thought I was the only man with this problem
I feel like this channel is going to blow up. Certainly hitting some kind of algorithm - as.... I am here :) Thank you. I believe that men, as you say, should be thinking about their wife/partner in exactly the same way. Men and women are designed to truly compliment each other in the best of ways. A harsh word misspoken can be as damaging as a physical confrontation.
bigsiegee -- I know you're not asking for my opinion about what you wrote, but you are correct about TH-cam's algorithm working. The problem is it is working in not helping men.
This channel is created for women to hear another woman call out women's bad behavior and then to teach women how to change for the better to be better partners to men.
So why then is this woman's channel showing up as recommended viewing for men? How many females do you see commenting in here? I asked the creator in this comment section how many female viewers and subscribers there are and I got no response so far after about a week.
I think this channel isn't getting the correct demographic on purpose. I think TH-cam doesn't want to help straight people be stronger together.
YT pushes and promotes alternative woke thinking about sexual preference and LGBTQ???? and pedo people and they push the feminist agenda and videos of women bashing men using what they themselves call hate speech if men say it, and get our channels banned or demonitized, but women can say actual hateful things and call for violence and abuse against men and their channels remain with no strikes. But if a man replies in their comment section with the truth without name calling or hateful things being said, our comments get removed and we get blocked and warning of strikes or strikes for defending men. It has happened to me before a couple of times.
I’m interested in what is driving you to spread the message? It must for the sake of humanity.
Because there are so many women who don't know that it's OK to aim high as a wife. They email me and tell me that until they heard me, they thought they were all alone in their thinking.
There are so many women searching for direction; they want a solid relationship, but no one is discussing the how-to-be-a-great-wife part of the bargain.
I'm old enough to be in a mentor position and if I don't speak up I might be prolonging someone's epiphany while forsaking what I have to offer.
That's pretty much why.
Your message is crystal clear refreshing, the voice of reason! I can think of many experts who would enjoy talking with you. The truth itself is a fantastic subject we are preprogrammed with it.
@@JenniferMoleski well said, thank you!
@@JenniferMoleski Love this comment. You know what's funny? I am by no means a relationship expert. Going through a divorce, raised by old school type parents where my mind for conversation about life and relationships was nurtured by my mother, and my attitude was toughened and tempered by my father, not in such a good way, (more like a mildly abrasive abusive way.) but with masculine backbone. So I have a nice balance of empathy and understanding, but impatience and brashness about myself. Either way it's made me a deep thinker and a great conversationalist with all walks of life. On the other hand it's made me a bit of a recluse at times because society in general has gone mad.
Anyway where I am going with this is I notice a pattern in society today. No matter what women I speak with about relationships, dating, acquaintances, friends. Etc. The pattern that I notice is the majority of women don't care about men's problems, men's emotions , men's reasoning, men's logic, or men's disposition experiences or facts. Even the ones that are somewhat attentive in their listening and empathy don't have the curiosity or enthusiasm to explore why things and climates currently are the way they are and how we got here in society as a whole. Furthermore. Some not all, but most don't really care what men want for their own reasons and why for the long haul. They dont understand or care for the intentions behind most of our reasoning. But they expect us to not only be the rock and the sympathetic ear for theirs, but selfishly make so many unreasonable expectations and demands. Emotional, physical, and financial. They dont want to try or care to. It's just about how we can serve them, listen to "damn the patriarchy " narratives and expecting of us what they refuse to provide, do, ask, live or say for themselves. I can't tell you how many times I have gotten into friendly debates with my wonderful friendly neighbor upstairs about "toxic masculinity" for hours only to have rebuttals served up to me before I could even present the issues on the women's side of things and the toxicity of what men are experiencing en masses. I guess as a Christian (who has his own backsliding issues.) The only thing I can come up with is that society has gone so far past secular that it destroys everything around it, including relationships and the family. We have gotten here IMO from the degradation and acceptance of such from one generation to the next. It's a strange paradox how behaviors have gotten better yet worse along with morals whether societal or spiritual, lack of control, restraint, etc. Everyone is mostly broken and love has gone cold.
@@JenniferMoleski We are now reaping the benefits of Women's liberation, single mothers pensions, no-fault divorce, me too etc, etc. The breakdown of the family has transferred into the breakdown of society. Young women don't know how to be a woman because their mothers don't know and many think that behaving like a man is empowering, most men are over it. The unnecessary drama that most women effortlessly seem to bring into your life vastly out weighs any benefit !!!
I sat and listened to this whole video to learn . I didn’t look at the the comments at all . Thank you for this , I have better understanding how to operate in a healthy relationship. Thank you honestly ! U give me hope that one day I’ll earn and maintain a healthy relationship.
Good points here. I was married once for about two years. She had a tendency to try to correct what I was doing to "the right way." I don't recall her ever doing the whiny voice but she did complain about things and never did the softer voice, either.
That softer, soothing voice you did was more attractive to me than your normal voice...aaaand maybe slightly arousing, despite how brief it was. I can't recall that ever happening to me before.
Good video Jennifer. All the women in my family, except for one, emotionally abused their men. Being hypersensitive to that, I fired my wife when she persisted in treating me that way. You could say I didn't pick well, but so many women seem to do this, as a default, that it's hard to find one who won't do this. 55 years ago, as a teen, I experienced some of this from teen girls when pursuing them. It disgusted me then, and still does. Maybe you could call it shit testing, but to me it was just plain rude. They obviously learned it from their own family situations. These days, I'll just say, "There's the door," when I run into this with women.
Cheers.
It’s almost like you are comparing my ex to my current wife.
The ex went on and on nagging and demanding to know why I’m so lazy. I used to mentally shut down and walk away. She even wrote out a list of problems for me to work out.
My current wife is quiet, subtle and grateful. Last week she just mentioned that the driveway was slippery. I went straight outside and pressure cleaned . Nearly every day she has mentioned how clean it looks, great job, etc.
BTW, the first wife claimed to be a feminist. Chicks can do anything, well, except for use a lawn mower, hold a paint brush, etc.
No it just your ex's behavior is like my ex's behavior and everyone elses ex's behavior. Most of these women act the same toxic way, narcissistic and self centered. Congrats to you from getting away from it. It can utterly suck your soul out.
@@worndown8280 Thanks, mate, yes absolutely narcissistic!
@@bigm383 no more dodging wine bottles or words for me.
@@worndown8280 Good work! Have you found a normal human being to replace her?
Jennifer - You are so right. Women use critiquing and tone of voice as weapons. They show huge disrespect to him and to the value of the relationship they are supposed to have with each other. It is degrading. Men feel it in the pit of their stomach and all they want to do is get away from her.....forever.
Well said, Jennifer. Like you said, I take a walk before I unload undeserving. But it's misunderstood as not caring anyway.
A 4 minute video on why Bachelor life is mans best option🙄😂
I appreciate what you said with one exception when you casually dismissed women's violence toward men as the studies and government records overwhelmingly document women are equally as physically violent as men and instigate domestic violence 70% of the time. Perhaps you will do the research and make a video on this topic specifically. I recommend the title "Not sugar and spice and everything nice".
You are indirectly addressing the topic of women instigating violence by approaching it by soft peddling and allowing your viewers to not face the issue through self accountability which is useful only if the audience practices accountability in the first place. I sincerely hope some do but it is rarely demonstrated.
Thank you.
Why do people want to pick fights with their one team mate? The one person who is really supposed to have your back through all life's struggles. The one person who you chose to be in a team with. The only person who I truly like or want to be with. Neither me or my wife try to start arguments. We all get in them but try not to. Enjoy your differences and shared likes.
Seriously.... God bless you. Real woman are a rare thing now days and both men and woman need you're message.
You are a rare jewel among women.
I secretly think she is a man born in a woman's body! She is far too logical to be a real woman! LOL
Hey Jenn, I hope you read this. You are always on point!
Also, lately, your sound has been coming out of one speaker only.
I thought I would let you know so you find out how to fix it.
I wish I could do it for you, but this is as much as I can do to help.
I noticed this too, with headphones on, on the last video in the awesome warehouse.
Wow, best video I've seen in awhile. Thank you for this. You are a Saint and blessing for couples everywhere.
Good on you love for speaking up and saying what needed to be said.