How You 30+, With No Career or Confused? Instagram Success Ain't For Everybody
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ต.ค. 2024
- Chile, i woke up feeling real reflective this morning so I figured I'd journal visually. Careers, lack thereof, and the confusion surrounding people getting their career life together is what was on my mind. So here are my thoughts...
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I was struggling with this exact thing about 3 years ago. Here i was, 2 years til 30 and i had no clue what i wanted to do. I was the girl that everyone thought was gonna be that doctor, or lawyer,or teacher, but there i was doing absolutely nothing. I was good at everything, but passionate about nothing. Not until it was my nephew's birthday and i suddenly wanted to make him a spongebob cake. I took to youtube and made a FABULOUS cake. It was so amazing that i immediately got orders and yet i had no clue about running a business. But here i am now 2 years later with my own business and im doing really well. It was not what i had expected me to be doing, but i absolutely love it!
Wow that's fantastic, how'd you start your business ?
Thank you for sharing! Sometimes it's just difficult because it is all overwhelming!
That's amazing!
Erin Hubbard thank you!
Sabrina Ashley Yes it is. Even now i sometimes still have those lingering doubts, but i can say that i am truly happy doing something that i love.
I’m passionate about not being broke. “Work ain’t honest but it pays the bills.”
capricorns1st I no that's right
I feel you!!!
capricorns1st lol that’s me honey! I’m passionate about owning property and traveling.
Amen to that! Lol. 😆
Girl i found my tribe.
I went back to school when I was 27 I am now 30 and I’m graduating this year! I’m proud of myself and I am continuing on with my education! #MasterGoals it’s never too late!! Don’t use kids as a clutch, they’re the motivation!
Ki_Kierra Congrats to you 🎓🎓🎓🎓🎓🎓
DKDAY26ALLDAY01 Thank you 😊
Ki_Kierra Congratulations 👏👏👏 yes ma'am that is wonderful 🌈🌈
Ki_Kierra Congrats!!👏🏽
Congrats beautiful!
Ole nasty Whitney Houston fairy godmother wig 💀😂
TimoteoDeBaum yaassssssssss lmaoooooo
TimoteoDeBaum that shole is Whitney Houston fairy god mother wig!!!!
Yessssssssss
+Headchampion IMPOSSIBLE IS NY FAVORITE SONG FROM THE MOVIE YESSSSSSSSS YOU RIGHT ON POINT
Things are happening everyyyydayyyy
I dropped out of nursing school to pursue my passion of being a makeup artist. I knew 20+ years from now I wouldn’t be happy. Family and friends told me I was dumb and that wasn’t a smart decision. I was doing makeup in my small home studio. Again, frowned upon for doing makeup “out my house.” All the while I was saving money( $30K) to open a makeup bar. We opened Nov 2017 and I have my own team of artists. Now I don’t have to work as much and can concentrate on other businesses. I said all this to say there are a lot of people who don’t dream in color. Don’t let that stop you from pursing your passion. Only you and God need to understand your vision. SN: It was not easy but I can say I’m happy😊
GinaGlam05 I really needed to read this, I just left a medical assistant program because I knew I wouldn't be happy. My mom was very supportive but I still felt bad. She knows I've always wanted to sew and go into the production part of theater. I've been to afraid but, reading your story has made me very hopeful. It's so inspiring I'm so happy you succeeded.
Thank you. Best wishes!!!
Awesome
“Ppl don’t know how to dream in color”....a word
msjasluv
Indeed!!!! A word from on high!
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One thing that I have learned in my 31 yrs of living is that entrepreneurship is NOT for everyone and its soo many ppl saying that making someone else rich is just a waste of your time and I am here to say that is absolutely false. I am ok working my 9-5 without the stress of taking work home and stressing over managing and dealing with making folks happy to keep my business afloat. Too much b.s. on social media that portrays entrepreneurs to be more morally and intellectually superior to the avg worker. As long as you have a career, who cares what others got going on. Too many ppl keeping up with the Joneses not knowing they broke!
Shakiera Wright thank you for this!
🙌🏾 I don’t want that stress either
Shakiera Wright Thank you! I know a few people who had their own businesses in the 80’s and 90’s and found themselves w/no retirement or healthcare in the 00’s. They’re entering the workforce at 50-60 yrs old trying to get some piece of a retirement plan and insurance. Self-employment is not for everybody 😒
IHave 2Ques man that's awful!!!
Shakiera Wright yes! I agree 100%.
If you NEVERRRRRRRRR EVER do a another video, you have PREACHED one of the most AUTHENTIC messages I have Ever heard! Coming from an experienced Professional Hair Stylist of 23yrs!! It's Not as easy as it looks or seems!!
HighMain10nance Tara Cosmetology school was going to be my last option because I like doing hair for practice, but I heard that being a hair stylist you are paid on commission
Renee Sanders Hi I'm my own Salon owner, & before that I was a Booth Renter! No commission for me, just straight HUSTLE, ADVERTISEMENT, CHANGING MY HAIR STYLE WEEKLY, PUTTING CARDS IN EVERY HAIR STORE, Etc! Now you can start off the Commission eat by working under someone if you haven't gotten your Clientele up during Cosmetology school & after! It truly depends on YOU & or your PASSION for it baby! If you love it, go for it! But you have to be a people person w/ a great patience. That's any field when wanting to be an Entrepreneur ok😉
HighMain10nance Tara Agreed...he did that!! Definitely dropped some *gems* !! #TrueTea #RealWisdom #Motivational
I loved this video! I’m 35yrs old and until I found myself I didn’t find my purpose. God was showing me this entire time my spiritual gifts and talents through things I naturally liked. I made my own walk difficult by doing things MY WAY, until I finally had enough of walking in my own confusion I got studious and heard my calling I had no clue I’d be on this path today. But I’m beyond thankful I got my ass together this was just what I needed for motivation to get it together and keep going I have a purpose and will fulfill my destiny. Thank you so much🙏🏼✨💙
I'm here to hear you say "when I went down to Florida State University and got my degree in economics" . Please don't let me down girl...LOL. 11:35 Yes Dineva!!!!
If Jlo can sing you can too
GhoodVibes Lately ...Ciara... Rihanna
Exactly
aaaahhhhh, sis when I say I hollered so loud, but you speak nothing but facts 😂😂😂😂😂😂
If JLO can sing ANYBODY can sing! Lol
Dead wrong! 😂😂
I cast away the spirit of "confusion"...thanks FD..This is a word!!
won't that a word!!!!
SunshineLove 😂😂😂
Amen!!
Shit. I'm almost 60 and still don't know what I want to do. I have been a scientist, gallery owner, cosmetologist, bartender, poet, author, perma culture designer, interior designer, I'm a great cook, antiquarian, finish carpenter, bibliophile... etc.
I have made millions. Nobody has to "pick one". Be a renaissance person. Be a lot of things.
I advise people not to target wanting to be a certain thing. Instead, I ask them what they like to do and what they want to have.
I live to read, eat, travel, cook, and wear beautiful clothing.
I did it all and did it without being a model, cook or travel writer.
BE as many things as you can dream of. It is unnatural to simply choose a certain career and stick with it all your life.
Also, in the nitty gritty..almost no career is as fabulous as tv or media makes it seem.
For instance, epidemiologists. Everyone thinks it is like tv. It is not. Most epidemiologists stay in a cubicle creating graphs. Math intense. No glamour and jumping into hot zones.
For whatever you THINK you want to do, find out a REAL PERSON with that career and talk to them. It is NOT what a college, or a tv show pushes.
Just BE. ..and yes, you can be successful and never decide on one thing.
I did it. I agree with this vlogger..just persevere.
All I can say is ..... “Bravo!”..... I’m 55 years old coming off a job of 20 years and you talked to me too! I applaud your transparency... multi-faceted, I love it. I have sooooooo many people to share this with. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm 44 and wrapping up my MA in Nonprofit Management in June. I took every route and reroute I could (Like Dineva said) until I finally acknowledged what I was supposed to be doing. Once it clicked I was off to the races!
Why was this so motivating!!! I really needed this I was feeling pretty down thanks Gurrrrl 😍💙❤💜💚💛
Shundara Castion You can do it, follow your passion.
Chile, you are in your niche, realm of talent, purpose! Etc ! I could watch you all day because you always stay true to yourself and drop gems😘
Come through with the Alfre Woodard wig but you’re speaking truth!
Lol
Lol...dont do Alfre 😂😂😂
Spot on!😂
This my “The kids missed the bus, and I gotta run and drop them to the school. And I might as well run by the post office and get me a book of stamps, Look”
Lol
I've been a makeup artist for ten years, I do it because I love it. It DOES NOT pay the bills. I have a full time job & I love that too, but you are absolutely on point. Someone had to say it. Find what you love & make it happen!
Marina Nunez Always have a plan B. Something that gonna pay the bills. I reading about this actress that finally got Netflix series, but she said she kept her waitress job, because acting can be very unstable
also again!! These sequin glitter backgrounds are so perfect...they enhance your glow!!
You put on your Loretta Divine wig to give up a word today. This video is so timely. We live in such an artificial culture. Folks want accolades for the most hollowest of things.
Carlos Harris yes Loretta Divine wig! Lol
Truth.
going through this now! Im 27, 2 kids, 1 baby daddy and a ex husband, flunked out of school sooo many times, and finally had to do a self evaluation and really tap into who am I and where my passion was. I thought about when I was a child and what I was great at. and that was writing. I would write short stories and songs but lost that passion along the way. so now, I am starting my career as a freelance writer and writing a book thats been on my spirit for years. great topic!
anita ford Good luck to you! your story sounds identical to mine seriously
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🙏🏽 go get it girl
I literally had to delete my Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat because it started to become a Miss Universe competition. And I saw myself becoming something that I was not. I felt like I needed to have a bomb ass car, inches, nails done every week and poppin clothes. But now I just don’t give af! I spend my money on things I need and occasionally some wigs 😂😂.
Facts
Corresha Stewart ❤️💯
Omg, I know someone that calls themselves CEO and they have no employees and no clients. 🤦
Ammina Rose 😂
Call em to the mat! Lol
Ammina Rose I miss your videos! Hope all is well ❤
Rude 😂😂😂😂 it’s funny cos it’s true.
Ammina Rose, can you be the Chief Executive Officer of your own life.
Im 27 and Im tired working jobs that not fulfilling. Lately God been pushing me with my gift. Mostly because people played me in past that why I pit a pause on it, and my living situation.
I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. Hopefully you've become alive since the past dead situations of the goblins who took a stab at your destiny.
Loving this video! I swear you were talking to me, Chile lol. I know what I DON'T wanna do 😂😂 But I'm not sure about what I DO wanna do 😴😭...I'm 33 btw.
Chitown ShaSha Same here and I’m 31. I have always wanted to be a lawyer. I can argue down to the T with facts but as I’m getting older I don’t care for it that much. But I’m growing a love for DIY. But it don’t pay as much. 😂😂
Im 25 and done changed my major four times and I feel like its over for me. But he said 30! I judge my life based on what I see of my peers saying theyre graduated I should've been graduated too. But I Do now know everyone path is different and a degree doesnt mean PAID hustle and heart does
I just turned 34 and I have a career in management but I still am finding myself and have other talents.... just still on the fence about what I want to do I just know its not what I’m doing right now
Everyone comes to this in their own time. Best believe not everyone just knows what their purpose in life is. I have struggled with this question since I turned 30 and I am now 34, but I trust and believe God will reveal my purpose to me when I am ready to receive it. So just keep moving forward and it will come to all of us.
I knew soon as I saw that wig, it's about to go down! LOL
derlamtay right lmao
Lmfaooooooo
Social media has messed a lot of ppl up... some ppl want it quick and easy🤷🏽♀️
Lawd this video was for me. I have been putting off going to school for nursing bc I’m scared of failing. Dineva done got my ass together with this video.
bee shar I’m currently in nursing school. It’s worth it. DO IT!
Kat Walton thank you!! I’m enrolling I’m going in August. I can’t keep putting it off.
bee shar don't be scared of failing because if your passionate about the human body and dedicate to reading and studying you'll pass! I didn't graduate nursing school yet, only because my finances became scarce after my daddy caught a bad stroke but I'll never give up.
Raven HereForIt thank you for your advice. I’m sorry to hear about your dad ... and good luck on your journey
bee shar thank you but I think you'll be very successful in nursing school mainly because you will develop a family and support system with people in nursing school with you. You'll be just fine don't even get nervous just ask God for endurance to finish!
I could listen to Dineva speak for hours.
"It's never too late to be what you could have been". Just do not consider medical school at the age of 65.
Yomiko Miyamoto lmao
lol okayyy
Yomiko Miyamoto 😂
I haven't yet started this video, but before I do.... PREACH Doll!!! Preach! I often hear that this is the "age of information" but it seems more like the "age of I DON'T KNOW"!! I teach ELA and my students aren't allowed to say, I don't know! Giving up should be harder than trying!! And to anyone reading, you don't have to pick A career or 1 thing to do! Exercise all of your gifts and do what brings out the best you!!!!
I CAN'T WITH YOU TODAY!!!! I AIN'T NEVER READY FOR WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY! YOU ARE SPEAKING TRUE FACTS THO DOLL!
Q your work ethic is impeccable and can not be rivaled. Thank you
Dineva listen believe it or not you help me get through Monday-friday. I just started following u and you are literally on my work schedule lol .you are extremely funny, intelligent and relatable. I went to look at your subscribers and am mad you don’t have a million yet . People need to find you . I think I have watched all your old videos already. Keep the good work. 😍
Omg I almost got in trouble at work last week listening to one of your old videos about DMV workers. Am telling you I burst out laughing and everyone turnt around looking at me like I was high . I told them no just go on TH-cam and type Funke Dineva and I promise u will feel the exact same way lol . I even listen to some of your reviews on shows I have no idea about just for laughs and commentary
Well im 22 and a 9 to 5 is not for me. I want to be a author (writing has always been my passion) and after doing a few videos on you tube I think I could make it. One even made it over 10k views ( though that is low it's a lot to me) but like he said passion and persistence are key to making it in entrepreneurship.
Bralon Thompson I also think by not engaging in the workplace. People miss out on opportunities to network and make connections in the industry they desire. People close the door on themselves literally trying to make it on their own.
Southernsuga thanks a lot
When dineva said “many of you hoes not looking for success, you looking for popularity” I felt that in my spirit.
I can’t stand my generation for that, want all the perks but don’t want to put in no damn work. Thanks dineva for always speaking the truth. I’m a mommy to a 1 year old, working on my second degree. And I will absolutely do everything in my power to give my son the world 🌎❤️- nessa
I’m just gonna live my life the way I want too, “the only person your destined to be is the person you choose to be”.
At 27, I went back to college. I’ve always known writing and tv were my passion, and after seeing 40 year olds in call centers and getting laid off, I knew then I needed to concentrate on college and get the hell out of that environment.
Oh yes, I went back to school and got out of call centers quick also.
"Just Do It!" is a noble idea in theory. It's a great slogan, in practice - it doesn't always work out that way. This is a great motivational video, but you can't always point to someone's lack of motivation about the job that they do for a living as the overall motivation of the PERSON. I live in a house. I have car notes. I have a family that I help (way too often). I have a lifestyle. What I would love to do with my life, doesn't necessarily pay all the bills at my house. Because of that, I get up daily hating to go to work, but I look at the trade-off... is being happy at work, but cash and house poor worth it? I'm not willing to give up my house and my car and my financial stability in favor of writing for a living. I'd like to have both, but if I have to make a choice between being financially comfortable and not to happy and super happy, and making payment arrangements with Sprint - I'm going with stability.
Isn't there a compromise? Like passive income (lately I've used Forex and Crypto for that) to give yourself more financial room to write?
Carrington Lei - I like just do it. I find, when I don't plan and just get started, that's when things get done! And when I'm under the gun!
Bravo. Your logic kicked in, that's why. Many people don't get this.
I usually don't go up for your "preachy" videos, but this one got me together. I got a career in Human Resources, but everyday in my mind I'm thinking "Momma, I wanna sing"...but I'm past 30 and ain't in the mood to be a struggling artist like I'm 18. This motivated me to get up off my ass and pursue my dream while I keep my lights on at the same time. Much Love!
Man I feel you I grew up in church singing but, I stopped for personal reasons. Keep soaring!!
You dropped a couple true jewels though. 👌🏾
Dineva serving mama going to the PTA meeting in that wig.
Ohhey Bih 😂😂😂😂😂
First time i’m ever this early! Yasss save me from this boring day at work Dineva lol
Dinvea I am blessed to say that at 24 years old I know where my true passion resides. You really was giving the word and keeping it honest as usual! 🙌🏾
UK fan been watching you for years Dineva I'm loving your new look and all this content. Makes my work night so much better.Thanks guurll x
I’m at that point right now so this video was right on time
This video hits it right on the nail. Especially the part where everyone seem to copy what they see on social media. I couldn’t tell you how many old classmates messaged me talking bout “make money from home” “diversify your income”, and things that they really have no prior training in, but they just want to get rich quick and fast.
I agree to an extent, but I think for many of us TH-cam and other social media mediums look really good when you're considered overly qualified or not qualified enough in the corporate world. I have a Master's degree, 4 insurance licenses, and an IT certification and have found myself at a crossroads because I'm either too qualified or not qualified enough depending on the positions. I have a slew of talents and have found myself contemplating walking within a creative spectrum because I'm tired of the mess. I'm wanting to relocate (Atlanta)but even with that you still have to find resources, networks, and connections to even get your foot in the door.
This hair is serving adversity and strife. Due for a cowash.
I CAN NOT 😂with this Sherri Shepherd circa "2008 The View" wig 😂😂😂
Warning: Paragraph Below! 💃 Don't let negativity overtake you. Constantly chip away at getting into your passion. Prepare. Buy books. Get a mentor. Intern. Something! **Just don't let your talent die.** Invigorate yourself and your passion weekly, but slowly. Too many people get a great inspiration, a bit of business, and a supportive word from family & friends, then taking a flying leap off of a tall building. Success, no matter the industry, is more about productivity, progress, and patience. People saying they are "overnight successes" won't tell you the rest of what they've had to endure. Don't believe the hype. Lots of people have "sponsors." Don't let these people who have someone else helping them pay all their bills convince you that you should leap like that. Be mindful and know that people ALWAYS leave parts out of their story. Build, keep your eyes open, don't become complacent, finish something, network, and smile at work about the talent you have that will one day become a self-sustaining career. *If you need a visual, watch more Shark Tank*.
Focus on establishing regenerative income (like royalties, dividends, or stocks). Fix your credit and get a loan. Work hard at being smarter; at having income that is not solely based on going in to work. Diversify your talents (learn something) and assets (buy something). Study the field. And, most of all, when the time comes, be ready. **"If you stay ready, you ain't gotta get ready."**
So until then, I'll just go ahead, make my money and enjoy it... as long as that job/career ain't killin' my soul...(But that's a whole 'nother conversation ((from a former high school English teacher 😉))). **"Living today ain't living tomorrow"**
Charlene P LOVE THIS!!! Thank you it's just what I needed 😄😄😄
lacebabydoll Be great!!! (But slowly!) Be busy. Don't settle. Practice your craft. Hone it. When you have your wits about you, when it feels wonderfully comfortable, and when you have a damn good safety net, STRIKE!
If you want someone to listen, I will.
Charlene P Thanks again, I sure will and you give wonderful advice I'm soaking all of it in lol
I believe you should do more videos like this I am 27 years old I work as a custodian at the local University I am blessed to have my tuition waiver at 100% I am going to school to study neuroscience but everyone around me is resistant to positive change and fear of growth this video is very inspiring and motivating
Come through with them background changes.
Shenice Says and back to back vids, the wigs, the content etc
Ms Dineva, you need to understand that there are valid reasons and circumstances in which why some people actually CANT and won’t do most things for a reason. Put into consideration that they have anxieties, mental illnesses or financial disadvantages or even family obligations that keep them from achieving something so “simple” to you as getting a “real job” or staying in schools. Also Please PLEASE be aware that SUCCESS HAS NO EXPIRATION DATE. Sure You have people who are 30+ with a struggling IG account/music career/ etc. and have no idea what they want to do in life NOW, but then fast forward and they’re either making it BIG or graduating college with an associates in medicine at 50! Shit, you have celebrities who did that mess, Like give people time Dineva everyone’s on their own life path with obstacles you don’t even know about, and you’re here judging them! Let them be, You don’t have to agree with what’s going on and how they live their lives but at least THINK reasonably on WHY some people can’t and won’t live the life that seems so “achievable” to others instead of judging so quickly.
Cheyenne Colin associates in medicine?
YASSSSSS, Bravo! Exactly what I was thinking. This is why people give up on life, because they are judged and if they don't achieve certain things at a certain age they feel worthless. It's not cool at all. I hope your post reaches and encourage others that want to give up.
gudgurlgonebadd ...or whatever you get what I meant😂
Cheyenne Colin A woman with logic and reason! Agree 💯
This is super true! Mental illness can be in the way a lot of times. I was in school for something I loved and stopped because of mental health reasons. Thanks for touching on that.
I just subscribed but Im so glad to see you speaking truths and talking to us about real life issues along with Reality Tv show reviews, it’s the total package! Thanks Dineva!!! 💋💖❤️💕🎉
Oh is that all I have to do is find my passion..people kill me with this.
It’s like telling someone, “just don’t care what people think”. Oh is that all. I’m going to start on that.
SIMPLE DOESN’T EQUAL EASY!
"Its only passion that gets you through the pursuit." 🙌🏾 Love your perspective on this subject matter!!
If Instagram disappeared tomorrow them insta-famous people wouldn't know WTF to do. Like Instagram done pissed me off so bad cause I wanted to become a makeup artist but so many hos on IG do it and got everyone thinking they can do makeup and it done saturated the field so damn much that I can't nobody make no money off the shit.
You're PREACHING today!!!!
You just spoke to me...I will be 50 this year and I am really trying...I have written a book and have 2 more coming out...I wish my TH-cam channel was more popular but I know I am not for everyone...I will continue to press forward...
Chai's Room thats great ! You written two books what type of books are they romance drama crime drama biography or etc . I wouldnt mind reading your books and what is your youtube channel aswell i watch are you entertaining are you giving game advice etc about your history with things
I tried my hand at several different things but working in finances for the last 4 years is what I stuck with. I started as a Tax Preparer, now I've expanded to credit repairing and notary public. I had to go thru some stuff to find what I truly loved to do! Great review!
I know folks pushing 30 that still dont know what they wanna do. High school was almost 10 years ago & they've done nothing. But you covered that in your "Sorry 20 something year olds" video
This is the 3rd time I've heard this in 2days. I get that this is a message. I'm on it.
I needed this, I'm only 23 but I was stuck in a rut for a year and I couldn't figure out what my purpose is in life. Not because I don't want to work but I was afraid of committing to career and being unhappy. Nonetheless I got my degree in psychology and I going back my masters. You hit the nail right on the head in this video and the video you did a while back on this subject when you bought up IG models. People want quick, fast, easy money but this social media life isn't for everybody.
I really needed this today. I’ve been struggling with this for some time and i just really needed to hear this. I got my first class of the semester starting today and watching this video was a good wake up call for how lazy and complacent I’ve been, just going through the motions. Thank you so much for this!
I'm a career advisor at a non profit that's what I'm here for. People who have been fired laid off terminated or just want to change careers. I kind of help guide them through the process and provide encouragement them on the joirney
Hello. I could really use your help. How much do you charge?
That was a word @FunkyDineva . I thank you, I needed this. I’m 31 and I’m in this rut and have been a little depressed because I did have goals and I think there was a fear of failure that I let cloud my view towards the end of my 20s and here I am @ 31 trying to get back to that inspired, passionate me and it’s like this video was confirmation. Damn it all, aim for the moon and as long as I’m happy working in my passion and truth if I land amongst the stars I’ll be alright.
Seriously, Thank You.
So much!
Im 30 and this has been my whole life since I was in HS. Even in HS I was like WTF am I gonna do when I get out of here? Ive been at my job for almost 5 years, I got a lot of shit wrong with me medically and I Know I use it as an excuse as to why I don't try to create and do better for myself. The other issue I've always had is that I feel like IM NOT GOOD AT ANYTHING. My friends would beg to differ, they say oh but you know how to decorate so well. You know how to set up a beautiful table and make a great party. You know how to dress people and yourself so well (but thats when it comes to vintage style). So its like yeah maybe I am good at a few things but nothing that can actually afford me a living. So I work at my little job that gives me benefits and vacation ect. But don't really pay me enough to live on my own Because I happen to live in an area that has gone crazy with housing prices. Im for sure not moving hella far that I could afford, just to commute 2 hours to this job. Im not really qualified for much else. I feel you on the youtuber thing (I thought about it a few times) but I don't think Id be good at it. I have friends who have and do follow there passion and its hard for them. I think my fear of being in a worse situation that what I am in now because of the uncertainty of if I fail. I've got people I know who've struggled there whole lives and never got it together and There old now and sick and broke and I am like I don't want to be that ever (which is why I try to not spend myself broke or go into to debt). Im a mess always have been.
Jonathan Belmares I'm there. U just spelled out my life. I'm a 10 plus year chronic migrainur.
Jonathan Belmares HI, I just read your post and I think you’re selling yourself way too short. I understand your sense of security at your job and you may fear leaving it for the unknown. Just ask yourself whether you want to work for someone else and give away your youth over the next 30 years or do you want to begin taking baby steps toward a career that you’re in charge of. Interior design might be your calling. I’m sure you’ve considered that. Have you posted any pics showcasing your decoration skills on instagram and Facebook? If not you should and provide your contact information for potential clients. Also, have some business cards made and carry around a portfolio with pictures as well. Attend open houses and go to networking events where you can distribute your business cards. Sorry if I sound too preachy but you seem like you’re sitting on an opportunity to capitalize off off something you already know you’re good at. Be brave and do it. Plus you’ll be working with high end clients who can continue to refer you to their peers🙂
I really needed to hear a lot of this, this morning. Nothing but truth; I will gift this video to some others that need to hear this
Yasss! I'm tired of whole grown adults refusing to own their actions and take control of their lives. Done wasted bout two decades 😒
Jazzybelle And then play lile they are a victim.
I don't agree with you. I started a business at the age of 34. Why? Bc I really didn't know what I wanted to do. You yourself have started a few business ventures that haven't worked out the way you wanted. Hence you had to start over. People change careers and start over all the 🕙. And it may not be the ideal thing. I personally think that people can do whatever they want to do at 40 50 60. 💋
sebrina clark he actually had a career as an accountant while being an entrepreneur.
I agree!!!!!
I think he is talking more about the people who haven't completed anything but are 30+. Those who have no degree, nor trained in anything, nor have even tried to complete anything because they don't want to do the work.
😂😂 See you took it personal...
He clearly said he wasn't talking about you personally but speaking in general
I love videos like this!!!! I love the reality reviews but these true tea advice videos give me life
Exceptional advice/commentary but everyone and everybody’s circumstances/upbringings is different so take the advice and do you. Live your life and don’t get down that you don’t know what you want to do. I’ve been to college 3 times and still work a crap job. I want to go back to school. I just feel feel like there’s no understanding or compassion when people address this subject. People are just categorized as lazy or whatever. Or they want it easy. Oh well.
LazloSon Agreed. I agree with Dineva, but I also feel that people feel that your lazy and comfortable with your situation when your not sure about your path.
Katharine Alexander Yes I understand what your saying. Also there are so many people who don’t make it big or find their passion until later in life. Vera Wang became successful at 40 I believe. There are many people like that.
What I love about what you wrote is that it shows that this is such a "grey area" subject.
Funky Dineva... you hit the nail on the HEAD!! I have this conversation with people all the time. It don't take NOTHING to get a business license, and print off business cards.
“Founder & Owner/Operator” usually does the trick. Unless you’re a public company or damn near it CEO doesn’t apply.
You got me in tears. I'm 44, had a colorful journey of a life and guess what?, I don't have a career. It's really crazy how you're talking about this right now cuz I'm definitely feeling like a loser. I can say that I will definitely try your advice and see where it goes from here... Thanks fr. This is why I love you though...
tinaanneworship it’s not too late. Like a friend told me “as long as you have breath in you, it’s never too late to pursue your dreams.”
C C05 thanks for the encouragement
You aren't a loser. Never 2 late. About to change careers at 43. FD is correct. If I can do it so can you! Best of luck 2 you!
tinaanneworship I’m 34 and SAME!!! I NEVER thought this would be my life. NEVER EVER considering how wonderful it was in the past. I’m outgoing and a people person. I know what I want to do but I just keep hitting these massive road blocks and I’ve been climbing them for years. I’m just soooooo tired. I haven’t given up but sometimes I just feel like.... depressed. I won’t even get into a relationship because of it and in my opinion I shouldn’t be in one! Not the way things are going now. I’m so tired and I’m often sad inside. Life HAS to change and be better than this. I am better than this.
Melanie Garfield thanks so much for even replying, means a lot
I love this!!!! this is so true and soooo many people needed to hear this. People only the rewards or "glamour" but no one wants to talk about the hard work/effort/sleepless nights and being fatigued. thank you Dineva for this. :)
We need to make videos like this a weekly thing! Yasss, motivation Wednesday!!🙏🏼
“Easy come, easy go” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Patiently waiting for you to have your own show one day (when the situation is right).
Also, are you still doing the reality show? (Not being nosey just eager to see you on TV) ❤️
I do agree with 98% of what was said in this video. But, there is a percentage of women that feel like they're good at a lot of things and are even passionate about some of the same things that they're good at, but what they really don't understand is how to get started on doing those things and/or how to monetize those things. I can't say that I'd chalk it all up to laziness just ignorance or miseducation. You did speak a word in this video though. I do get a good keke on the reality show reviews, but these are the types of videos that I enjoy most from you.
Dineva let me just state that i am FOREVER GRATEFUL for this video! you kept it 100%, laid it low and spread it wide & i appreciate that because some people think they are too good & mighty to give someone advice that would not only change the condition they are in but change their life for the better. this was VERY informative. Thank you!
Lmfaooooo I'm a CEO of my 2 employers 💀💀
Ms. Dineva! Idk who the 21 people are that did not like this video, but you are speaking words of TRUTH today!! Now I must tell you that one of my all time FAVORITE videos is the "MY HAIR IS LAAID LIKE NIA/NYA -> Evelyn's assistant on BBW) This video that you posted today will now be placed in that list, but for different reasons. This video was extremely motivating and real, I watched it twice! I feel like so many people are going through this or have gone through this. You dropped jewels -> "You can be anything you want to be, within your realm of talent." Not to be pushy or anything, but I wouldn't mind this type of video every once in a while if you felt up to it. Great job!!
That "and scene" look you gave us at the beginning. Yasssss!
Preach!! I love it! You are stepping on plenty of toes. A message that needs to be heard by everyone💯SOLID
Omg..i love the way you keep it real...Instagram offering a pension plan? You netter be smart and have a plan B, here today gone tomorrow, be smart people and get a real education that no one can take from you!!
SheVieBee67 chile nobody offering pensions
Right! Hardly any employer. You gotta save and invest your own coins.
DopeSpirit23 folks be on here trying to sound informed but uninformed lol
LOL Right!
this is the BEST video you've made yet!!! very educational & helpful info in regards to informing your viewers (i.e. explaining the barrier to success). more videos showing your intelligence that I've seen for years
So here for the CEO comment. CEO's are more common in corporations that have a board of directors to report to. SO its best to just say your the owner NOT a CEO LOL LOL
I'm so guilty of the "IDK " But I truly feel like I didn't know. I'm 29 and I'm starting school in 2 months. I've been at jobs that I hated getting up to go to... Thank you for this video because what I'm going to school for is truly something I would be happy to go to everyday....😘😘
Some people are just lazy, and they want somebody to give them a career, no GO WORK FOR IT, I DID! 😒😒😒😒
somethingaboutmary 12 Say That
somethingaboutmary 12 so true!
somethingaboutmary 12 This is basically that a-hole line self centered line rich/privileged folk ask homeless/ underprivileged people: “Why don’t you just stop being so poor and get a real job instead? I mean I did it look at me”
Cheyenne Colin I'm not privileged, but I have the same opportunities like everyone else, I applied myself and now I'm educated with a great career. Sweetie please miss me with the BS, some people are just LAZY!😒
The video ain't even done yet and i'm here to say u just spoke a mouthful about how ppl only post the most glamorous parts of their lives on social media. DOJESUS!
Im 43 and just move to boston to be the best hairstylist that i feel im and your right 3year ago i was looking in the mirror and tell myself that new york is not for us we is not cutting here its time to make a move ....and i did and its working for me ....cause when i was in the bronx i was working 2 jobs ,one i have my 2 kids 2 take care of but now that one is in college and my older one is 23 its my time .
This is why I love to watch you. You go across the spectrum and back giving ideas and advice we can apply to our lives.
Giving me Mushiya from Cuttin’ it in the ATL.
Galliano runway curls 😂😂😂😂
Ice Queen ahaha exactly! WERK DEM RUNWAY CURLSSSS
Funky Dineva thank you for the wisdom today. I needed to hear your message. I do have a desire to let people in and use my life and experiences to help the next person to discover themselves. I have experienced my own share of trials and tribulations, but it did not break me. I feel I possess words of encouragement and knowledge for the next/current/past generations to grow. Keep it up girl you doing it and you have lit a fire under me.
Serving me Beyoncé in her “Work it Out” video tease....💁🏾♀️
You got me ALL the way together this morning. That spirit of confusion is no joke but I bind that all that up. You are truly a force to be reckoned with and I’m so happy that I stumbled across your page. Keep up this amazing work and get these girls together. BYEE
I needed to hear this. I mean I know what I want to do in life I just don't know how to get started or into it if that makes sense. I also think my fear gets in the way. Always thinking about the obstacles and then I get scared.
Oooo Dineva! You show know what to say! I started my event planning business last summer. I just got my first client last month and she’s been my only one so far and her event isn’t until September. Small progress is BIG progress. & I am thankful for all progress. If you’re in entrepreneurship, you have to stay prayed up, focused, and determined. It’s hard work. Always keep pushing. Now I’m back in school to get my MBA to become a better businesswoman. It takes WORK! You are absolutely right! You can’t be lazy. Anything that comes easy ain’t worth having.
Hol up.. let me hook this up to the Bluetooth speaker. My cousin Miranda is here & she needs to hear this. She in the bed but my speakers get loud, she gon hear this
Cheetah you so messy
Cheetah Child Dineva beat me to it😂😂😂