Thank you for your videos. They are helping me as I am in psychotherapy now and my way of healing is understanding what’s happening and what has happened. And you do that perfectly and smoothly 🕊💕
I like very much your videos. You teach me while making me relax: good combo. As a teacher, I always consider this aspect crucial to devote thought. You might be a good analist. Analists - in my judgement - have to be down-to-earth = not too much embellishment. Strong coffee - no sugar added. Obrigado.
Acting out is a great example of a person who wants to open up but is having difficulty and embarrassed . Only a good empathetic transparent. Communicative analyst can help the patient to open up. When I listen to these research findings I only realise they had limited understanding of human psychology because of their lack of empathy communication and security
Yes I think the unconscious meaning etc. is really overstated, in the sense that we need to figure something out about their past. People have become in some way restrained and 'act out' as attempts to express and free themselves. They need our help to free themselves, and I think that requires mutual freedom, meaning also our freedom as therapists/analysts from out rigid methods and ways of thinking. We need to be able to be present as a person, and not hide behind a method.
@@rleclaire87 Yes. I like to add and emphasise that unless a practitioner has empathy and open minded, a patient or a client would not open up. Because people have opened up in the past and has seen apathy. I listen to many research findings and practical recommendations, and my understanding of them is that therapists' understanding of the person in front of them is increasingly redistricted to what is in their head. It is like they have forgotten to put themselves in the position of the other person and feel the world the way that person does, and that is not limited to looking empathic or sounding nice. Personally this is my criterion; I cannot connect to someone- who isn't willing to feel how life is the way I experience it (now). This is for my sake and their sake, not wasting anyone’s time and sanity.The best way to learn to overcome barriers to resistance is to ask, communicate, be transparent, do not assume, do not distance, communicate.
I see clearly now, that I was acting out, and it was triggered by a comment my Analyst made to me, dozens and dozens of years ago. Yes, I remember his comment, yet his remark was inaccurate. However, there was a double reason I acted out. The real reason was one I was emotionally unprepared to face, until very recently!
Very clear explanation of acting out. Thank you for the reference to Love’ s executioner.
Fantastic stuff. Very glad I stumbled upon your channel and you have a great way of clearly presenting what can be quite dense materials.
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Thank you for your videos. They are helping me as I am in psychotherapy now and my way of healing is understanding what’s happening and what has happened. And you do that perfectly and smoothly 🕊💕
I like very much your videos. You teach me while making me relax: good combo. As a teacher, I always consider this aspect crucial to devote thought.
You might be a good analist.
Analists - in my judgement - have to be down-to-earth = not too much embellishment. Strong coffee - no sugar added.
Obrigado.
Acting out is a great example of a person who wants to open up but is having difficulty and embarrassed . Only a good empathetic transparent. Communicative analyst can help the patient to open up. When I listen to these research findings I only realise they had limited understanding of human psychology because of their lack of empathy communication and security
Yes I think the unconscious meaning etc. is really overstated, in the sense that we need to figure something out about their past. People have become in some way restrained and 'act out' as attempts to express and free themselves. They need our help to free themselves, and I think that requires mutual freedom, meaning also our freedom as therapists/analysts from out rigid methods and ways of thinking. We need to be able to be present as a person, and not hide behind a method.
@@rleclaire87 Yes. I like to add and emphasise that unless a practitioner has empathy and open minded, a patient or a client would not open up. Because people have opened up in the past and has seen apathy. I listen to many research findings and practical recommendations, and my understanding of them is that therapists' understanding of the person in front of them is increasingly redistricted to what is in their head. It is like they have forgotten to put themselves in the position of the other person and feel the world the way that person does, and that is not limited to looking empathic or sounding nice. Personally this is my criterion; I cannot connect to someone- who isn't willing to feel how life is the way I experience it (now). This is for my sake and their sake, not wasting anyone’s time and sanity.The best way to learn to overcome barriers to resistance is to ask, communicate, be transparent, do not assume, do not distance, communicate.
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I see clearly now, that I was acting out, and it was triggered by a comment my Analyst made to me, dozens and dozens of years ago. Yes, I remember his comment, yet his remark was inaccurate. However, there was a double reason I acted out. The real reason was one I was emotionally unprepared to face, until very recently!