I had just received negative feedback prior to watching your video, and I must say that I fully agree with your ideas and "coping strategies". I like how you don't encourage your viewers to simply dismiss negative feedback as a reflection of the "moodiness" or the frustrations of the person giving feedback, but that you want people to also uncover the hint of truth that is hidden within this negative feedback. Thanks :)
That's probably a nice way of talking to oneself & analysing about negative feedback... It's still critical to respond to a negative feedback... I often realise that once you respond it with humility, it is like giving a confirmation that they were totally right & you did not make enough efforts or meet the expectations... If we say we disagree, it will be like we don't accept feedback at all or become offended or defensive... I would really love to see if could create a way to respond in such a way that both the parties- the one who's giving a negative feedback & the one who's receiving it can come to a positive agreement! 😊 By the way I admire your videos totally... 😊🌈
Glad you are enjoying the videos, Manjusha! One great strategy is to simply reflect back what you heard that person share as their feedback. But rephrase it into your own words. This often leads to their editing their feedback and perhaps coming closer toward agreement. ALTHOUGH, disagreement is perfectly okay too. We all have our own personal truths and that is one thing that makes the world beautiful-and a bit messy at times.
Chad, I so appreciate your energy and insights!! It makes my day to listen to you. I'm a freelance Learning & Development consultant looking for more work and you're videos sustain my hope. I want to be as dynamic and on-message as you are!
Thanks, Jessica! Sending you heaps of gratitude! By far the best book on the topic of building up your practice is called Thought Leaders Practice. It just might help you move toward that goal/aim :-)
Thank you! I am working at a new job on a potential nice sales oppty. and I had to take a few minutes to decide how I am going to react to what I consider to be negative feedback from my boss/mentor (via text message). I feel better about it now, after watching your video, and I think for now I am just not going to respond to the feedback at all.
So glad this landed for you at a perfect moment. To the "nonresponse plan," indeed, a mentor of mine used to say "a fire without fuel is bound to go out." 👍👍
Hey Chad, Okay back to this video! When you did that action of "catching" the feedback, it made me think of baseball (I'm not a huge baseball fan, but it reminded me of the sport). Particularly, how a pitcher would catch the ball. Right before the pitcher would throw the ball again, he takes a couple seconds to analyze (how you said to analyze the feedback and see what is more of a reflection of that person, than it is of you"). And then throw the ball again (could be reaction of individual after analyzing the feedback) Really was able to connect it with the sport? Perhaps it can help your ideas or future videos of relating it to sports or other common elements everyone can relate to! Thanks Chad Robinson C.
Ooof! 8th graders! This is a tough one. It depends greatly, but I would argue that the vast majority of hurtful things things 8th graders say are more a reflection of their own insecurity and trying to fit in. When I have my head screwed on straight and my toddler is losing it, I just "listen" to their behavior as an indicator of a deeper need. I completely forget about the CONTENT they are saying. Totally ignored. And I just respond to the need I assume is being expressed.
What a lovely opportunity to practice what I'm preaching at 8:55 referencing a comment like this 🤣 ^ ...comment mentally deleted 🙂Though listening for the "hint of truth" in what you're saying...I have been working quite hard at getting RIGHT down to it in my most recent videos.
I had just received negative feedback prior to watching your video, and I must say that I fully agree with your ideas and "coping strategies". I like how you don't encourage your viewers to simply dismiss negative feedback as a reflection of the "moodiness" or the frustrations of the person giving feedback, but that you want people to also uncover the hint of truth that is hidden within this negative feedback. Thanks :)
So glad this message was perfectly timed for you, Thorben! Thanks for taking the time to share.
That's probably a nice way of talking to oneself & analysing about negative feedback... It's still critical to respond to a negative feedback... I often realise that once you respond it with humility, it is like giving a confirmation that they were totally right & you did not make enough efforts or meet the expectations... If we say we disagree, it will be like we don't accept feedback at all or become offended or defensive... I would really love to see if could create a way to respond in such a way that both the parties- the one who's giving a negative feedback & the one who's receiving it can come to a positive agreement! 😊
By the way I admire your videos totally... 😊🌈
Glad you are enjoying the videos, Manjusha! One great strategy is to simply reflect back what you heard that person share as their feedback. But rephrase it into your own words. This often leads to their editing their feedback and perhaps coming closer toward agreement. ALTHOUGH, disagreement is perfectly okay too. We all have our own personal truths and that is one thing that makes the world beautiful-and a bit messy at times.
Chad, I so appreciate your energy and insights!! It makes my day to listen to you. I'm a freelance Learning & Development consultant looking for more work and you're videos sustain my hope. I want to be as dynamic and on-message as you are!
Thanks, Jessica! Sending you heaps of gratitude! By far the best book on the topic of building up your practice is called Thought Leaders Practice. It just might help you move toward that goal/aim :-)
It's by Matt Church and Peter Cook
Thank you! I am working at a new job on a potential nice sales oppty. and I had to take a few minutes to decide how I am going to react to what I consider to be negative feedback from my boss/mentor (via text message). I feel better about it now, after watching your video, and I think for now I am just not going to respond to the feedback at all.
So glad this landed for you at a perfect moment. To the "nonresponse plan," indeed, a mentor of mine used to say "a fire without fuel is bound to go out." 👍👍
Looking forward to the next three videos
Haha! Thanks 🙂 And I think about 300 additional videos have been posted to the channel since recording this one.
Your inspiration and energy is SUPER cool Chad. Thank you!
Glad to be connected through cyberspace, Debbie! Thanks for taking the time to connect.
Hey Chad,
Okay back to this video! When you did that action of "catching" the feedback, it made me think of baseball (I'm not a huge baseball fan, but it reminded me of the sport). Particularly, how a pitcher would catch the ball. Right before the pitcher would throw the ball again, he takes a couple seconds to analyze (how you said to analyze the feedback and see what is more of a reflection of that person, than it is of you"). And then throw the ball again (could be reaction of individual after analyzing the feedback)
Really was able to connect it with the sport? Perhaps it can help your ideas or future videos of relating it to sports or other common elements everyone can relate to! Thanks Chad
Robinson C.
Fun way to take the metaphor further! Thanks for thinking alongside me!
And how do I deal with negative feedback of my students in 8th grade (secondary education)?
Ooof! 8th graders! This is a tough one. It depends greatly, but I would argue that the vast majority of hurtful things things 8th graders say are more a reflection of their own insecurity and trying to fit in. When I have my head screwed on straight and my toddler is losing it, I just "listen" to their behavior as an indicator of a deeper need. I completely forget about the CONTENT they are saying. Totally ignored. And I just respond to the need I assume is being expressed.
You’re great at saying nothing lol
What a lovely opportunity to practice what I'm preaching at 8:55 referencing a comment like this 🤣 ^ ...comment mentally deleted 🙂Though listening for the "hint of truth" in what you're saying...I have been working quite hard at getting RIGHT down to it in my most recent videos.