When people in my life say, "I'm Ok" and it doesn't sound quite right or there isn't a smile that goes along with it, I go in for a hug and I don't let go until they pull away. I also whisper in their ear, "I love you". Generally, their shoulder's will relax a little and they are safe for the moment.
When I hear someone say “I’m ok” I immediately think are they are “just ok” and there might be some underlying issue that may be bothering them. If you want them to expound on what’s on their mind you have to be ready and able to be the friend for them to feel safe to share whatever is on their mind. Conversely, if I respond with “I’m ok” I open the door to inquiries as to what is on my mind. I am a private person and I’ve been accused of not being able to open up. That’s from childhood trauma and trust issues that I’m working through. However I’m generally ready to be the one to have the sympathetic ear or shoulder to lean / cry on.
Actually, Jaks, I reply that all the time, when my physical limitations certainly are not. But, it is just easier to say that, because many people ask on automatic with no real interest in finding out how the inquiree truly is or feels. Both parties just go through the verbal motions, I think. Herman
When people in my life say, "I'm Ok" and it doesn't sound quite right or there isn't a smile that goes along with it, I go in for a hug and I don't let go until they pull away. I also whisper in their ear, "I love you". Generally, their shoulder's will relax a little and they are safe for the moment.
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Very good advice, Jaks. Laughter is the best medicine.
I hope you are more then ok and love finds you with much joy
When I hear someone say “I’m ok” I immediately think are they are “just ok” and there might be some underlying issue that may be bothering them. If you want them to expound on what’s on their mind you have to be ready and able to be the friend for them to feel safe to share whatever is on their mind. Conversely, if I respond with “I’m ok” I open the door to inquiries as to what is on my mind. I am a private person and I’ve been accused of not being able to open up. That’s from childhood trauma and trust issues that I’m working through. However I’m generally ready to be the one to have the sympathetic ear or shoulder to lean / cry on.
Everyone is not ok or fine
We all have our currents
Our desire is to be ok and there is more to the story ❤
There was a self help book "I'm OK You're OK", by a psychiatrist named Harris. (1967) Good Book for someone feeling depressed.
Thats where Im at most of the time. Precisely correct!
I am glad you are OK. I am OK too!
I get around this kind of thing by making everyone aware that if I want their opinion, I'll ask them.
The problem is with talking is that you can talk but nobody really listens. In the end we are all on our own.
I'm actually not ok
R u saying... "Tum apna ranjo gum .. apni pareshani mujhe de do" !
hi I am glad you ok❤
Same when you answer that you're... 'Fine'. At least there my term to use when I'm far from being... Fine.
Actually, Jaks, I reply that all the time, when my physical limitations certainly are not. But, it is just easier to say that, because many people ask on automatic with no real interest in finding out how the inquiree truly is or feels. Both parties just go through the verbal motions, I think. Herman
OK is sort of like "I'm fine." The 12 Step folk explain this as F'd up. Insecure, Neurotic, and Emotional. FINE
yes, you look OK.