Definitely relate to your struggle here. Left a toxic workplace a few years ago, was unemployed for 4 months before I found my current job. It took me ~350 apps as well. Managed to get a job in a new industry, lucky to have friends and family to help me through it.
Hi John,- I’ve been enjoying your channel and wanted to say thank you. You have a gift for talking about sensitive topics, and it means a lot. From personal experience, I know that sharing yourself the way you do can help so many people-including yourself. You’re a brave young man, and I’ll keep following and supporting you. Keep sharing what you know and staying true to yourself-you’re making a bigger difference than you realize. Wishing you a peaceful and healthy New Year.
Thank you kindly Joseph. As I shared with another commentor, these topics are gruesome to discuss publicly, but there are many people who live in fear. I want to break that mold and share my stories with others. I have struggled so much, and I empathize for those who do as well.
I am an older guy and happily retired, but I really appreciate how hard younger folks struggle just to keep their heads above water. Your message is truly one that those struggling need to hear.
Hi John, when I got my Bachelors Degree from Purdue North Central I had to take a Statistics 300 level course. That was one of my more difficult courses so can't imagine what you had to take to get a Masters in Statistics. Can see through this video the toll that this has taken on you so hope that your situation improves going forward. Your Humble and Caring disposition really shines through on your videos so wish you the best.
@@benburns5995 Thank you kindly Ben; your words mean well. I wonder who your Professor was....I went to Purdue Calumet :). I share some of my research/background on my LinkedIn if you are interested in checking out!
@@johnsharestories Hi John, the professor I had for that Statistics 301 course was a Dr. Kenagy. He was awesome because he could breakdown the difficult concepts so we could understand them easier. I was fortunate to get into his class, as it fit well in my schedule, as the other professor that taught the course failed quite a few students every Semester.
I am on your side 1000 percent. I think it’s very unfair what you’re going through . You are doing the right thing by expressing your thoughts. I would recommend looking into community resources. When I was in a similar situation I called churches in my area and tenant councils . I live in TX and thank god I was able to get him but I’m So sorry this is happening. Don’t give up you will find something. I could go on and on but please don’t give up
It takes courage to say how you feel. And your real friends will stick with you in the hard times. Many of us are encourage to be complicit, but that gets you nowhere. One day at a time, brother. Listen to your inner voice. Follow your intuition. It’s about getting back up. Don’t settle working with the wrong people.
Thank you for your story! You mentioned Europe, but finally haven't come here. In 1989 I had a possibilty to make research work in US as a physisist, but I stayed in Hungary because of the political changes. These was not succesfull , I worked only 10 years at University of Pécs because of my problems and illness.
I relate with your situation, that's why I drive for Uber. I'm my own boss, I have good days and not so good days. Just like the food service servers who depend on the public. I'm 60 years old and it's not easy to survive but I would love to be with you.
Thank you for sharing your journey. I can totally empathize that. I was once in a situation where my mental health was significantly impacted by my job back then. What’s worse, as an immigrant whose visa was dependent on my employment, I had no choice but continue that job. I saw in the comments that someone said to take this video down. In my view, you didn’t share any excessive detail or make any personal attack against anyone. I don’t think any reasonable person would disqualify you from this video alone, provided that you have proven to be the best fit to that job. To be honest, after being in the industry for more than a decade, it’s far more common for people to disqualify you based on your sexual orientation or other characteristics, rather than watching this one video of yours (that’s an unfortunate fact, although no one will publicly admit it, they will just ignore your application). Best of luck, I hope things will become better for you soon.
I also quit my job a year ago. My boss was also a psychopath. Total lack of empathy and constant terrorism because he has no self-worth drove me out of the job. I was his favorite employee, but it gave me no benefits. On the contrary. I should also be there for him on the weekend. Such a weirdo, that guy. It took me months to recover after that job. Never again! Since then, I've been careful about who I let into my life.
From an old Playtex living girdle advertisement, I am my only visible means of support. I learned years ago, there is nothing more unattractive to a perspective employer, than an applicant that is unemployed. I have been told they will hire someone working at McDonalds, before hiring someone not working. It is not fair, it just is. If possible, never leave a current employer before firmly securing new employment. Best to you, beautiful boy!
I work in HR - I’m glad you were persistent and applied non stop. Unfortunately jobs are cyclical and tech jobs were battered the last 2 years with massive layoff. It all moves in cycles. Sometimes it’s finance, then it’s retail, hospitality, etc. I don’t agree with the other person that commented that you shouldn’t have shared your previous employer experience. You didn’t mention a name or company so you should be fine. It’s your truth and mental health is a real problem in America and we should not be ashamed to say it . We are working on overcoming that stigma in corporate America with mental health awareness and wellness programs. I don’t think there is anything wrong with sharing a diagnosis. We don’t criticize or shame a worker for saying they have cancer or high blood pressure or diabetes. We should not shame mental health.
@@jazzyflorida3757 thank you kindly for your comment. It is incredibly heartbreaking to recognize how much other individuals struggle with the job process. And your comment on mental health is especially extraordinary. Thank you for being a stellar advocate!
@ you remind me a lot myself when I was 23 I moved to Chicago, lived in Lincoln Park/Lakeview and went to Columbia for undergrad and Roosevelt for Grad School. It was a great city for coming out and exploring my sexuality, dating, and meeting boys! I had a great time in Chicago! Lived there for 13 years and had extremely positive relationship experiences and also career growth and upward trajectory. It’s still one of my favorite cities, although I love living in Florida now in my mid 40’s with my hubby!
What a barbaric system where healthcare is tied to one's employment. Healthcare ceos should fear for their safety FOREVER until #M4A is law. Thanks for sharing John. Ive been in a similar situation a few years ago and it was an incredibly radicalizing experience. Good to know I was not alone. This too shall pass fellas. Hang in there.
Hi John. I've recently discovered your channel and I'm really enjoying watching your content. In one video, i believe you said you had a link to your instagram here if anybody wanted to check it out. I've looked but I can't seem to find that link. Also, I hear you mentioning that you are from Indiana originally. Me too. Without being too specific can you disclose broadly what part of the Hoosier state you hail from? Looking forward to seeing your upcoming video content.
@@kevingave748 I understand a video like this is extremely uncommon and nerve-wracking to discuss, but this story is profound to me. Just as being gay is still viewed, by some, as disgusting or immoral, this video touches upon my blatant sentiment toward unemployment and what I experienced.
Thank you for this deep video. I can relate in a way. I think that possibly one of the reason for such a long job search was your OF channel. As far as I understand background check will show it and not everyone is comfortable with that. Also I think that you are too smart for that shit. I am not trying to blame - just something for you to consider.
Also, I know hindsight is 20/20, and this is useless information to you now, but always at least try and have a new job lined up before quitting an old job. Makes it easier. We love you.
Basically, you are over qualified in the eyes of corporations. In addition they want to pay less and recent graduates are those that are preferred, because they are paid much less than you would be paid if employed. I had the same issue when I was in the States and I very much relate to what you are saying; I have an MBA in Information Systems. By the way, an advise would be to go for a PhD and become a professor if you have the time to do it, because stopping half way is not realistic for people like us with Masters degrees. Now, that AI is taking over most of the science backgrounds, the future seems very gloomy. Good Luck!
I somewhat agree and understand what you are saying, but I will not be a Professor. For a Phd student, the stipend is incredibly low and barely aids in this economy. Additionally, being a Professor requires the possibility of being tenured. If you are not chosen to be tenured, then you are kicked out of the university you worked at because "your research is not publishable enough". Finally, so many positions are extremely hard to come by. Working in tech helps a lot, but it is more competitive as a result of fewer job openings and more graduates. The fewer openings is a choice companies make to solely save more money.
Please make sure you have a job lined up before you leave the job that you are at. I have been where you are at. It is frustrating. Since you are in Chicago. You should look at United Airlines working that the Corporate HQ. They are located in downtown Chicago. Just a thought.
I left a comment and it vanished which is weird. I had said I think it would be helpful if you gave more specific examples of stuff that happened at your job that made you so unhappy.
I'm 23 years i don't has job and don't ended my studies and live and humiliated by may family IS so strange like order of othersed link How feel disampared
As someone older than you, I offer the following advice. I'd edit or take this video down. Discussing your mental health and/or medical issues in this detail and especially trashing your former manager and/or employer in a public forum doesn't look good to a future employer. There's no upside to you in the short and long term professionally (especially trashing a former employer). As you said, competition for jobs is fierce. If you and another candidate are the two finalists for a job, and that employer finds this video, it makes it easier to go with the other candidate. Publicly trashing a former employer isn't a good look. Sorry to say that this is self-sabotage. The truth isn't always meant to be public information. Nothing speaks louder than silence. Less is more. Sometimes being right about something doesn't matter. This message sounds harsh but it's reality. Good luck.
I appreciate that you are sharing your perspective, but I don't agree with the fear-based mindset behind your comment. My experience and truths are valid (just as yours), and I choose to speak about them because they matter. If that makes me less appealing to a potential employer, then that employer isn't the right fit for me anyway. I'm focused on being authentic and finding opportunities that align with who I am, not silencing myself to fit a mold. I had over 200 US jobs that never notified me for an interview and learned how name discrimination, nepotism, etc. make one easily desired for a position. Thanks for your input, but I will handle this my way.
Hey honey. I think it would be helpful to make a video with more examples of what was happening at work to make you so unhappy. Also, hindsight is 20/20, but maybe next time line up a new job before quitting.
@@johnsharestories if that's your attitude you may never find a job keeping your clip online. Now you're making TH-cam clips to earn a living spreading your personal life online to a possible future employer. Good luck with that.
Bro, employers look up candidates...if they look you up and see that you are on here talking about your sex life, your relationships, your past job situations....and using TH-cam as a public venting outlet...most aren't going to take the risk...no matter your qualifications. I'm an employer and I sure as hell wouldn't hire you. You scream lawsuit waiting to happen. I get it; I've been where you are...in the gutter, no direction, but shit man, life sucks sometimes. You reach out and keep moving forward until you find an opportunity or lead and then you grab that shit by the balls; you keep grinding, you learn and you play it smart. Sorry, brass tacks. Much love.
Definitely relate to your struggle here. Left a toxic workplace a few years ago, was unemployed for 4 months before I found my current job. It took me ~350 apps as well. Managed to get a job in a new industry, lucky to have friends and family to help me through it.
I am glad it worked out for you Paul. It is brutal and disappointing that we live in a society where we have to "compete" for jobs..
Hi John,- I’ve been enjoying your channel and wanted to say thank you. You have a gift for talking about sensitive topics, and it means a lot. From personal experience, I know that sharing yourself the way you do can help so many people-including yourself. You’re a brave young man, and I’ll keep following and supporting you. Keep sharing what you know and staying true to yourself-you’re making a bigger difference than you realize. Wishing you a peaceful and healthy New Year.
Thank you kindly Joseph. As I shared with another commentor, these topics are gruesome to discuss publicly, but there are many people who live in fear. I want to break that mold and share my stories with others. I have struggled so much, and I empathize for those who do as well.
I am an older guy and happily retired, but I really appreciate how hard younger folks struggle just to keep their heads above water. Your message is truly one that those struggling need to hear.
Hi John, when I got my Bachelors Degree from Purdue North Central I had to take a Statistics 300 level course. That was one of my more difficult courses so can't imagine what you had to take to get a Masters in Statistics.
Can see through this video the toll that this has taken on you so hope that your situation improves going forward.
Your Humble and Caring disposition really shines through on your videos so wish you the best.
@@benburns5995 Thank you kindly Ben; your words mean well. I wonder who your Professor was....I went to Purdue Calumet :). I share some of my research/background on my LinkedIn if you are interested in checking out!
@@johnsharestories Hi John, the professor I had for that Statistics 301 course was a Dr. Kenagy. He was awesome because he could breakdown the difficult concepts so we could understand them easier. I was fortunate to get into his class, as it fit well in my schedule, as the other professor that taught the course failed quite a few students every Semester.
I am on your side 1000 percent. I think it’s very unfair what you’re going through . You are doing the right thing by expressing your thoughts. I would recommend looking into community resources. When I was in a similar situation I called churches in my area and tenant councils . I live in TX and thank god I was able to get him but I’m
So sorry this is happening. Don’t give up you will find something. I could go on and on but please don’t give up
My hope for myself personally is to find something permanent job wise by 30.
It takes courage to say how you feel. And your real friends will stick with you in the hard times. Many of us are encourage to be complicit, but that gets you nowhere. One day at a time, brother. Listen to your inner voice. Follow your intuition. It’s about getting back up. Don’t settle working with the wrong people.
Great video, well done!
Thank you for your story! You mentioned Europe, but finally haven't come here. In 1989 I had a possibilty to make research work in US as a physisist, but I stayed in Hungary because of the political changes. These was not succesfull , I worked only 10 years at University of Pécs because of my problems and illness.
I relate with your situation, that's why I drive for Uber. I'm my own boss, I have good days and not so good days. Just like the food service servers who depend on the public. I'm 60 years old and it's not easy to survive but I would love to be with you.
Big hugs to you my friend ❤️ thank you for your vulnerability and generosity by sharing yourself w the world
Thank you for sharing your journey. I can totally empathize that. I was once in a situation where my mental health was significantly impacted by my job back then. What’s worse, as an immigrant whose visa was dependent on my employment, I had no choice but continue that job. I saw in the comments that someone said to take this video down. In my view, you didn’t share any excessive detail or make any personal attack against anyone. I don’t think any reasonable person would disqualify you from this video alone, provided that you have proven to be the best fit to that job. To be honest, after being in the industry for more than a decade, it’s far more common for people to disqualify you based on your sexual orientation or other characteristics, rather than watching this one video of yours (that’s an unfortunate fact, although no one will publicly admit it, they will just ignore your application). Best of luck, I hope things will become better for you soon.
I also quit my job a year ago. My boss was also a psychopath. Total lack of empathy and constant terrorism because he has no self-worth drove me out of the job. I was his favorite employee, but it gave me no benefits. On the contrary. I should also be there for him on the weekend. Such a weirdo, that guy. It took me months to recover after that job. Never again! Since then, I've been careful about who I let into my life.
Venting is ok . Just don't stay stuck. You will be ok . Down grade you living situation roommate Chicago is a caring City
From an old Playtex living girdle advertisement, I am my only visible means of support. I learned years ago, there is nothing more unattractive to a perspective employer, than an applicant that is unemployed. I have been told they will hire someone working at McDonalds, before hiring someone not working. It is not fair, it just is. If possible, never leave a current employer before firmly securing new employment. Best to you, beautiful boy!
I work in HR - I’m glad you were persistent and applied non stop. Unfortunately jobs are cyclical and tech jobs were battered the last 2 years with massive layoff. It all moves in cycles. Sometimes it’s finance, then it’s retail, hospitality, etc. I don’t agree with the other person that commented that you shouldn’t have shared your previous employer experience. You didn’t mention a name or company so you should be fine. It’s your truth and mental health is a real problem in America and we should not be ashamed to say it . We are working on overcoming that stigma in corporate America with mental health awareness and wellness programs. I don’t think there is anything wrong with sharing a diagnosis. We don’t criticize or shame a worker for saying they have cancer or high blood pressure or diabetes. We should not shame mental health.
@@jazzyflorida3757 thank you kindly for your comment. It is incredibly heartbreaking to recognize how much other individuals struggle with the job process. And your comment on mental health is especially extraordinary. Thank you for being a stellar advocate!
@ you remind me a lot myself when I was 23 I moved to Chicago, lived in Lincoln Park/Lakeview and went to Columbia for undergrad and Roosevelt for Grad School. It was a great city for coming out and exploring my sexuality, dating, and meeting boys! I had a great time in Chicago! Lived there for 13 years and had extremely positive relationship experiences and also career growth and upward trajectory. It’s still one of my favorite cities, although I love living in Florida now in my mid 40’s with my hubby!
@jazzyflorida3757 I am happy for you :). Thank you for sharing your experience in Chicago. I wish you well.
What a barbaric system where healthcare is tied to one's employment. Healthcare ceos should fear for their safety FOREVER until #M4A is law.
Thanks for sharing John. Ive been in a similar situation a few years ago and it was an incredibly radicalizing experience. Good to know I was not alone.
This too shall pass fellas. Hang in there.
Hi John. I've recently discovered your channel and I'm really enjoying watching your content. In one video, i believe you said you had a link to your instagram here if anybody wanted to check it out. I've looked but I can't seem to find that link. Also, I hear you mentioning that you are from Indiana originally. Me too. Without being too specific can you disclose broadly what part of the Hoosier state you hail from? Looking forward to seeing your upcoming video content.
This was quite unexpected but very heartfelt.
@@kevingave748 I understand a video like this is extremely uncommon and nerve-wracking to discuss, but this story is profound to me. Just as being gay is still viewed, by some, as disgusting or immoral, this video touches upon my blatant sentiment toward unemployment and what I experienced.
I look for your videos each day.
Thank you for this deep video. I can relate in a way. I think that possibly one of the reason for such a long job search was your OF channel. As far as I understand background check will show it and not everyone is comfortable with that. Also I think that you are too smart for that shit. I am not trying to blame - just something for you to consider.
Also, I know hindsight is 20/20, and this is useless information to you now, but always at least try and have a new job lined up before quitting an old job. Makes it easier. We love you.
Basically, you are over qualified in the eyes of corporations. In addition they want to pay less and recent graduates are those that are preferred, because they are paid much less than you would be paid if employed. I had the same issue when I was in the States and I very much relate to what you are saying; I have an MBA in Information Systems. By the way, an advise would be to go for a PhD and become a professor if you have the time to do it, because stopping half way is not realistic for people like us with Masters degrees. Now, that AI is taking over most of the science backgrounds, the future seems very gloomy. Good Luck!
I somewhat agree and understand what you are saying, but I will not be a Professor. For a Phd student, the stipend is incredibly low and barely aids in this economy. Additionally, being a Professor requires the possibility of being tenured. If you are not chosen to be tenured, then you are kicked out of the university you worked at because "your research is not publishable enough". Finally, so many positions are extremely hard to come by. Working in tech helps a lot, but it is more competitive as a result of fewer job openings and more graduates. The fewer openings is a choice companies make to solely save more money.
Please make sure you have a job lined up before you leave the job that you are at. I have been where you are at. It is frustrating. Since you are in Chicago. You should look at United Airlines working that the Corporate HQ. They are located in downtown Chicago. Just a thought.
I left a comment and it vanished which is weird. I had said I think it would be helpful if you gave more specific examples of stuff that happened at your job that made you so unhappy.
I'm 23 years i don't has job and don't ended my studies and live and humiliated by may family IS so strange like order of othersed link How feel disampared
Bro, where area do you live in Chicago??
Yes share some deets about the job from hell love a good terrible job story
As someone older than you, I offer the following advice. I'd edit or take this video down. Discussing your mental health and/or medical issues in this detail and especially trashing your former manager and/or employer in a public forum doesn't look good to a future employer. There's no upside to you in the short and long term professionally (especially trashing a former employer). As you said, competition for jobs is fierce. If you and another candidate are the two finalists for a job, and that employer finds this video, it makes it easier to go with the other candidate. Publicly trashing a former employer isn't a good look. Sorry to say that this is self-sabotage. The truth isn't always meant to be public information. Nothing speaks louder than silence. Less is more. Sometimes being right about something doesn't matter. This message sounds harsh but it's reality. Good luck.
I appreciate that you are sharing your perspective, but I don't agree with the fear-based mindset behind your comment. My experience and truths are valid (just as yours), and I choose to speak about them because they matter. If that makes me less appealing to a potential employer, then that employer isn't the right fit for me anyway. I'm focused on being authentic and finding opportunities that align with who I am, not silencing myself to fit a mold. I had over 200 US jobs that never notified me for an interview and learned how name discrimination, nepotism, etc. make one easily desired for a position. Thanks for your input, but I will handle this my way.
@7135HOLLY. Wise advice.
Hey honey. I think it would be helpful to make a video with more examples of what was happening at work to make you so unhappy. Also, hindsight is 20/20, but maybe next time line up a new job before quitting.
@@johnsharestories if that's your attitude you may never find a job keeping your clip online. Now you're making TH-cam clips to earn a living spreading your personal life online to a possible future employer. Good luck with that.
Baby boomers had it good, thank God’s the birth rate is going down
Bro, employers look up candidates...if they look you up and see that you are on here talking about your sex life, your relationships, your past job situations....and using TH-cam as a public venting outlet...most aren't going to take the risk...no matter your qualifications. I'm an employer and I sure as hell wouldn't hire you. You scream lawsuit waiting to happen. I get it; I've been where you are...in the gutter, no direction, but shit man, life sucks sometimes. You reach out and keep moving forward until you find an opportunity or lead and then you grab that shit by the balls; you keep grinding, you learn and you play it smart.
Sorry, brass tacks. Much love.