My Sister Died Of Cancer / An End Of Life Story
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- There's so many ways to approach telling Naomi's end of life story; but I'll be true to what we always said we'd do and make the content we'd have wanted to hear. Honest and Open stories that help us prepare for what we were living through. I searched for stories that would make what came ahead easier for us; since she died I've listened to podcasts and watched all the TV Shows. She'd have wanted you to know how wonderful Hospice Care is. How much it was the piece of the puzzle we were struggling to fathom; it's life care, family care, your needs and things you couldn't do before are possible. They told me over 50% of people are there to go home again with a medical reset. But hospital isn't the best place, home isn't the best place - I wish I'd heard this story 2 years ago as it's not a sad story. It's a love story, and real love stories don't have endings. SJ xxx
* hopefully you understand more people were involved in this story including her husband and her daughters and my parents. This is my story only so I only want to tell my part and what Naomi and I had shared for thoughts for this video in anticipation.
We will welcome donations to St Richards Hospice in preference of flowers in Naomi's name: www.strichards...
This was a wonderful tribute to a clearly incredible human being. Sitting here ugly crying and wondering how you're so eloquent in your grief. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry to hear of your losing your beautiful sister. I’m sobbing right now. Thank you for sharing her life, your lives together, and all of the love for her!
Crying is never ugly when a loved one dies.
Not only was Naomi so wonderful and proud but SJ you should be so proud of handling this incredibly difficult situation with such grace. You’re so very brave! ❤
boo hoo
@@christhomson8924you are a disgrace
Although the curtain has been drawn on this life Naomi will be waiting on you in the next life. Keep strong you had a e tra special bond and your brzve beautiful sister loved you zs you did her. . Xxxx
I'm so sorry for your loss, I wanted to let you know Naomi's journey encouraged me to finally get a colonoscopy, after years of IBS symptoms and next week I have a small operation to remove a growth in my colorectal area, which needs to be removed as it could turn cancerous. It was too big to remove at colonoscopy. I used to be embarrassed talking about these things but now I don't care. Thank you ❤
That's brilliant ❤
Sending lots of 🙏🏼 your way! 🤍
You’re so precious and I’m sorry your dear sister had to go so soon. Praying for your peace.
Sending positive vibes and wishing you all the best.
Wow this is what she wanted - I’m so amazed you found it and understand the courage it took. I’ll high five my sister tonight and she’s be smiling so so much to hear she had a part xxxxx
You helped us name our children. We helped give her hope with the immunotherapy. We are forever in each other's lives. I think of you two often when I say my daughter's name, Aspen Noelle. I'm so glad I got to know Naomi, even if it was online and from across the pond. You both have enriched my life more than you know. Your love is contagious and tangible! Thank you for sharing it with us. We love you both forever ❤️
My heart breaks for you. You should be so proud of yourself and Naomi for the awareness and information you’ve given others about end of life care. It’s so true that there isn’t enough conversation about it. A persons last steps are just as important as their first. Their last words just as important as their first. Sending so much love to you and your extended family 💞
I’ve worked as a hospice doctor and I’m so pleased to hear you speak so beautifully and eloquently about end of life care. Thank you. I’m so sorry for your loss ❤
It’s the most incredible occupation - thank you for doing it. I know you have changed end of life for so so so many patients who represent the 1000’s of people who love them xxxxx
Thank you for sharing the end of Naomi’s journey. What a wonderful and eloquent tribute to your lovely sister. She was clearly so very loved and will live on through her girls and through your memories. X
couldn't put it better. thank you SJ and may you be blessed x
"everyone needs a purpose" ... I'll keep Naomi's words with me, she is such an inspiring lady and it's been a privilege to have a tiny peak into her world through the podcasts , you tube and Instagram. All I feel from your words in the video is so much love and peace and I know so many will draw comfort from this now, or in the future when they need it 🕊️💖 thinking of you so much and lifting you up as you go through this journey of grief xxxx
Whenever I don't want to get out of bed and go to work, rush around do chores, I remember what Naomi said in one of your videos. That she would give anything just to have a normal boring day. To get up and go to work. SJ you too should be proud of yourself for walking through this with such humility and strength, and love. Thank you for sharing.
Agree, you were / are , a loving loyal devoted sister x
I'm so so sorry. I lost my little sister when I was 28 and she was 25. It's a loss that's just unlike anything else. One thing that helps me is to know that my grief and sadness is a reminder of how much I loved her. It's how I love her now that she's gone. It sounds like Naomi died with such dignity which is all we can hope for. Sending you healing
Yes I feel like we’re inseparable- even in death. As our love was so strong. I’m sorry you carry this grief too - thanks for sharing as it’s an isolating grief being an only sibling xxxxx
SJ
I don’t know if this the first time you are dealing with grief or if this your 100th time dealing with grief but what I do know is I hope you don’t let ANYONE tell you how to do it. This is a very personal journey and it’s amazing that you have chosen to share your pain with us in the hopes that someone else feels less alone but remember at the end of the day it’s okay not to be okay.
You and your family are so loved and it will get easier…I promise
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@@SJ_Strum. I have stage 4 non small cell lung cancer Adenocarcinoma ,,no pain meds ,, in three weeks I go for my second pet scan to find out if it metastasized I’m sorry for everything that you’re going through. Breaks my heart to see somebody like you sad and you’re too young and your sister looked very young. I’m very sorry. 🌹
What a tremendous gift you gave to your sister to help her feel proud of her life. That was a selfless and courageous act of love.
I'm so sorry to hear that Naomi passed away. As a fellow stage 4 colon cancer patient, I was praying for a miracle for her. My heart breaks for you and the whole family. Sending love and prayers.
I'm praying for you as well.
Sending you love.❤🙏
@@sawdust2556 Thank you so much!
@@solarqueen2555 Thank you!
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I’m so sorry SJ. We lost my mum to bowel cancer 20 years ago, aged 59, and I have to echo your sentiments about the hospice. My mum went into our local hospice in the hope of them managing her pain and never left. I will never forget his kind the staff were, to Mum, and to her family. Truly amazing people. ❤
This was a beautiful way to honor your sister. I very unexpectedly lost my Mom a year ago. She had a leukemia and lymphoma. Was doing great. Then she took a sudden turn.
I understand that feeling of what happened. You were planning one thing. Because your loved one is doing great. And then something out of nowhere changes everything.
I'm praying for you and your family. Grief is hard to shoulder. Especially if you aren't prepared to say goodbye. I pray that you can find some comfort. Hold your memories tight. That way, you'll always have your sister. 🤍
All my love to you. She was a soul that would brighten up any room and you have been the most amazing sister to her. Until you meet again 🤍💫
SJ, I dont know what to say to you other than my sincerest condolences. I started following you because my dad also has terminal cancer and I came across your videos because of the youtube algorithm. I am very close to my own sister also and it breaks my heart that you lost yours. Just know that you have become somewhat of a role model to me, especially as I am currently pregnant with my first child and admire you so much as you are being the best mom despite the absolute most difficult obstacles life is throwing at you. I have watched many of your videos on parenting since discovering your channel and I have gained so much knowledge already. I thank you for being so open about topics ranging from baby names to parenting to cancer and even to death. It is everything that preocupies my mind currently yet so few people (let alone youtubers/influencers) talk about it. I think I will follow you for a very long time as I believe that you have what counts in life and what so many influenceres and so called role models lack: true character!!!
Again, I don‘t know what to say to you other than that I am thinking of you you and wishing for peace and love for you and your family ❤
Thank you sarah: I’ll probably read this 100 times as it’s so heartfelt and lovely. When you walk things, you just know how it is and sounds like we share a lot of the same things. It’s so hard when no one close knows. Then you find someone who does - maybe so far away, thank you so much for taking the time to message me xxxxxxxxxxx
Hospice is absolutely a blessing. My daughter passed last September from colon cancer. I know your pain, Sweetheart. Keep walking and go at your own pace with Grief..it is a brutal thing..Do not push yourself….I believe our Loved Ones are always with us and are waiting for us on the Other Side. Glad to know you have “signs” as well. May God give you Peace❤❤❤
I've been following and commenting on Instagram since you first announced her diagnosis, but I still wanted to say here how deeply sorry I am. Your loss is tangible; you're so articulate and considerate in how you share. I hope you feel our love SJ. I hope Naomi felt it. All across the world; she truly has impacted people. She has changed us. I'm so glad there was so much joy; even at the end. She deserved nothing less than endless joy ❤️ Love and support to you, and the whole family
This is lovely to hear. She felt it I’m sure and it means so much to me to hear xxxz
@@SJ_Strum sending hugs 😢 sj love the baby name videos
@@SJ_Strum how old was Naomi
My job is end of life care and I am a champion in the role…I feel end of life should be much more transparent…and that no assumptions should be made…and no question is too silly. This is so important as people don’t talk about it enough…we need to know what to expect…I think you have all handled this with a lot of dignity.
My stomach did a "hard cringe" when this just popped up in my feed. Having lost 4 siblings (2 to terminal illnesses) now I feel I know what you are going through. Your sis was so brave & having you by her side must have really helped her. Sending you many hugs.
I’m so devastated to hear what you’ve been through. I know the pain of the nights and the hard days that floor us. Thinking of you xxxxxx
Were they at least older? 😢
You both did absolutely everything you possibly could to prolong her life and fought hard to self advocate. You should be so proud you were such a credit to your sister and I bet she appreciated you so much and you were the reason that helped her to keep fighting. Thanks for sharing your story it’s raised awareness to me of how important it is re health stuff and I’m sure her story has helped other people to go and book an appointment or have knowledge incase. She’s saving lives, and her legend will live on through her children. Much love x
My sister passed away from cancer 4 years ago. She was my other half. We called and texted 100 times a day. One day it all just stopped. I was broken. If it wasn’t for my kids, I don’t know where I would be today.❤
That’s the hardest isn’t it; I have so much I’d tell her everyday. I can’t replace her with any other relationship. Just have to keep talking to her 😞😞😞
My tears are falling listening to your story. You were incredibly lucky to have that sister bond and the love shared. My Dad passed away after a short but harrowing 5 week cancer illness three months ago. He died in the hospice. I can't say I found the peace there you did but I try and make peace with it and how he passed. Sending you healing hugs x
SJ, yours and Naomi giggles and laughs are forever etched into my heart and memory. I have a distinct memory of listening to the first podcast episode with you two and thinking “wow this is special, what they have is special” and it is. I’m so thankful to have heard your laughs and feel your bond through my headphones every week. I’m so sad that she is no longer here with us but I’m so glad you were able to experience the life you did with her. Thank you for sharing her story. Sending love and light xx
Yes it was. I’m so happy we got to share it and everyone knew her and how special she was. It will be something I will treasure forever and her girls I know will love listening x
Dear SJ,
Give yourself permission to grieve and more importantly, when the time is right, give yourself permission to turn the page and start a new chapter. You didn't choose this chapter but that doesn't mean it won't be healing and beautiful. Your children will learn so much from that and you deserve some peace and joy again! Cherish the memories and cherish your newfound strength. You were there for her when she needed you most and that is something to be proud of. Well done, good and faithful servant!❤
Naomi forever! How fun and kind she seemed, and how admirable in her approach since her diagnosis. We’re lucky you shared her with us, and she was lucky to be supported so beautifully through her end of life. You’ve both done a ton to spread awareness and make folks feel less alone - really amazing stuff. Wishing you more of the strength and resilience you’ve exhibited over the last years as you adjust to life without your sister earthside, SJ. Love to all those who knew and loved her.
Thank you for your story and sharing. I lost two of my sons suddenly and it still helped. It was wonderful and really beautiful in the kindest of way. Some of the things you spoke of give great hope, comfort and informative help that is so lacking. Sorry for your loss but what a lovely relationship you were able to have with your sister, a real gift. ❤
This was honestly the most beautiful tribute to a beautiful person. From your words you can tell how loved Naomi was and how much she loved you and all of her family. Grief is such a personal thing and everyone deals with it differently so don't put too much pressure on yourself because you're healing and you're learning to be able to carry on without her. You kept mentioning how proud you were of her but I couldn't imagine how proud she was of you; you were her rock and the person who stayed by her side through everything not matter how hard it got. She would be so proud of how far you've come since her passing. You're strong, you're brave and Naomi's life and legacy will live because of you and the stories you will tell to anyone who will listen. I know how hard it can be to think of a loved one who has passed but after time you find yourself smiling at the memories, the funny conversations you had and the way she walked through life with a smile on her face even when she was struggling. Remember to be kind to yourself as you will have bad days where all you want to do is cry, validate those feelings because it shows how loved she was. My love and thoughts are with you and your family x❤
Thank you for sharing this journey with us. I’ve watched several of your videos that include Naomi and it’s clear you have a special bond with her. My daughters boyfriend has terminal cancer and I’m trying to support her as best I can. It’s hard to find the right words. Please accept my sincere condolences to you and your family.
Your love for your sister is beyond inspiring and will live forever no matter what. It sounds like Naomi understood life, it’s complexities but also it’s many joys more than many of us ever will. Her life may have been too short but it sounds like it was abundantly rich. Love to you. ♥️
Thank you so much SJ for sharing this video with us and invited us in to hear the stories of the end of Naomi’s life. I feel like I can picture the 2 of you laughing in the hospice together, like a beautiful film you watch and cry along to. Your sisterly bond is so special and you two were both so lucky to have each other. I have been keeping you and your family in my prayers over the past few months and will continue to do so. ❤❤
I know your sister was so proud of herself but I must say how really proud i am of you and all your loved ones. You speak so lovingly, eloquently and wisely. I have learned so much. Sending you love and strength. Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful tribute. xxxxx
Thank you so much. I lost my mom and have had a really hard time with processing it. And hearing your end of life story with your sister was so healing and so comforting and gave me peace. Thank you.
Sounds like Naomi had a beautiful passing. I’m so happy this was the case. SJ, I am so so sorry that you’re all going through this, but I hope you can find solace knowing that she left this earth in peace. I lost my Dad to pancreatic cancer and his passing was very difficult and traumatic. Sending you all the love! And thank you for sharing - you’re very brave and Naomi is proud of you; like you are of her! x
this was so beautifully said. naomi will always be with you. she helped me so much when i was getting tested for bowel cancer and wrote messages to me before my colonoscopy. it was negative and she was so happy for me despite her situation. it was obvious the love the two of you had for each other. im sure you will continue to recieve signs from her as even though she wouldnt want to hover over you 24/7 like you said, i feel she couldnt help but be proud of you and watch you with pride. ive always had a fear of death but the way you spoke so eloquently and knowing how brave naomi was, it makes me feel peace. my heart goes out to her girls having to face their life now without their mum but im sure like the two of you were, they will be able to lean on each other. those podcast episodes are a gem as the beginning was pre cancer and she had such a big personality. i was often on her side over some of the names you came out with lol. you never get over losing someone you love but you do learn to live with it and the love lives on and the love you all gave her is with her wherever she is now. she will always love you 💗
I am so sorry for your loss!! Finding the strength to continue sharing Naomi’s story to help and support others is exactly what she would’ve wanted. She will be with you whenever you need her most❤ You have all shown such great strength at such a terrible time xx
Yours and Naomi's relationship is the most beautiful, rare thing in this world. You could just feel it. I named my son Sonny after watching the two of you go on about the name. I just knew it was the one. I continued to listen just because I enjoyed hearing the two of you talk about names... something you both loved. I have two daughters, who are the best little friends, and I wish nothing in this life more for them, than what the two of you have. Bless you both. Sending love and healing from Barbados/Canada. xx
Sorry for your loss! Sending support! Thoughts are with you and your family!
Awww, my love you grief and loss is so deep and so profound, yet you have given so much comfort. Prayers always.
I have stage 4 colon cancer and I have two sisters and although mine isn’t terminal, I’m so scared it will become terminal and I’ll have to leave them. This video had me sobbing at your experience. I’m so so sorry what you’ve been through. She clearly had so much love and shouldn’t have been taken so soon. I’m sending you love and healing energy and thank you for sharing your experience.
I’m so so happy to hear yours isn’t terminal - your sisters will keep you and accept all the care and love you give our normally; it’s your time to be looked after - so you have a lifetime together xxxxxx
I've followed you since before I was pregnant with my 2nd baby and I've been inspired and moved by so many things you've shared over the years. None more than yours and Naomi's experience with her cancer diagnosis. Thank you for sharing Naomi with us and letting us get to know a part of her. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry to hear of Naomi’s passing. Sending condolences to you and your family 🙏🏽💐
So sorry for the sad and heartbreaking news. Your sister would be so proud. The video was very brave and informative which will help others. Grief is such a rollercoaster. Big hugs ❤🤗
I have been so amazed to see such an authentic story of a family and sisters who love each other the way you all do. Because I didn’t have that in my family and when I see it in other families I think ‘wow’ Although I’m raising my daughters to love each other like you and Naomi and I think they will. I love your gentle parenting advice. There are no words that I can say except that I wish you all strength. RIP Naomi ❤
I lost my sister to cancer in September. The pain is almost unbearable. Thank you for sharing her journey and yours as well. I’m really sorry love. ❤
Thank you for sharing yours too - it’s a hard inexplicable loss. I’m so sorry you have it too xxxxx
❤️ thank you for being so honest and vulnerable!!!
I feel this, we lived this around the same time with my mum in law who passed on May 1st, from Leukemia at the hospice. It's been the worst time but it makes you value every single day, and strive to live life to the fullest. It's our first experience as adults dealing with end of life care/hospices/dashed hope /harsh realities for a parent and an important reminder to do the will, get the life insurance and make plans for our children.
Thank you for talking about this x
I am incredibly sorry for your loss. I lost my sister, very unexpectedly on May 10th. Just 2 days after that, my beloved Mom passed away. My heart goes out to you.
I'm so sorry for your losses 😢
Sending prayers of comfort and peace 🙏
Hugs❤
Ty for sharing. My son in law has been fighting strange 4 cancer for 4.7 years. Ty😊
May Naomie rest in peace and in the loving arms of our Lord 🙏. Much love and thank you to you SJ for your vlogs and for sharing both of your journeys with us. Sending love to you and family 💛✨
Most people grieve in completely individual ways, even if the person lost was a shared relative or friend. But on the other hand, grief, sadness, heartbreak, pain; these things are all universal. I lost my mom, not my sister, and though her loss was incredibly sudden and unexpected, I can still relate to your pain. I can understand you getting to her bedside too late, and not getting to be there to say goodbye. The photo idea so they travel with her body was such a beautiful idea that I wish I had a few years ago. The belief that she is not always with us, because her work is done and she is gone, but that she also visits us when it’s needed, is so incredibly powerful.
Your video ended 5 minutes ago now and I am still weeping as I type this. Grief never goes away. I don’t say that to scare you, just as hospice should not scare us, it’s just a fact I’ve come to terms with over 3 years. To me, it just means what you said at the end - that she will always live on through you. I will carry my grief for my mom forever, because I will also always carry my love for her. And now those things coexist.
This was an incredibly moving video. I hope you are proud of yourself for creating such a platform for yourself and others. I’m sure Naomi is proud of you for doing so. I’m sure my mom, Julie, is proud of me for always sharing my stories, and my perspective of hers as well.
All my love to you and your family during this unimaginable time.
Thank you for this. Truly, I cannot explain its impact. Just, thank you ❤
SJ , what a gorgeous , glorious tribute you have given us today, in allowing us to relive through you some of the brighter moments with Naomi in her last days. I am so sorry for your pain, and for the days you will face in coming times, coming to terms with not having your darling sister to share your memories and your life with past this point, but, I really really do believe you will feel her with you and know that you are never alone, as long as your memories still find her in your heart..
I am sorry for your loss. I have lost a brother and a father. It is hard and they will forever be in your memories.
All I can say is, if I ever die of cancer I hope someone like you would be there by my side to help make it easier. I fear if I get cancer I will be all alone. So, thank you for being there for your sister. That is one of the greatest gifts you could have given her.
But I will say, after my brother died I visit the area where he died. I felt nothing but complete peace and comfort and after that day I never worried about him anymore. I still think of him but I’m not worried about where he is or how he is doing bcs I felt he was okay.
Wow I’m going to the hospice this weekend and hope I find peace there too. Thanks so much for letting me know if your losses - it often goes into a kind of unspoken area but we keep them alive by talking about them. Naomi is my favourite thing to talk about xxxxxx
I am so sorry for your loss. Because of you both and your story I went to get a poo test! My dad had bowel cancer a while ago and it made sense for me to just get a test done. I ended up blocking the loo and flooding the bathroom floor somehow. 😂 I hope your sister would have giggled about that! But I got it done and the loo unblocked and it came back fine. Thank you, I will never forget your story, you are very brave and strong x
I'm broken-hearted for you. You're so strong in sharing your story and your love for your sister beams through as you tell it. You were so lucky to have each other. I lost my brother very suddenly and never had the chance to say goodbye. I hope you can hold on to all of these moments with her as you find your peace with this immense loss.
My sister was dx with Hodgkin's Lymphoma at the age of 18yrs old. She fought it until she was 22yrs old. I was her stem cell donor in 2004 and she passed in 2005. I didn't get to say my last goodbye. She was my only sibling. The pain 18yrs later is still there. The emptiness and the oddness of looking back of my childhood. It seems like my childhood was a dream, like it was not real. She is the reason I am a Patient Advocate. I am so sorry for your pain and grief.
How do you become a Patient Advocate?
Xo.😢
A terrible and probably true quote "Childhood ends when grief starts". You didn't get to take your sister with you into adulthood, no wonder it feels like a dream. You will always be with her.
I don't know what to say. I didn't even know either of you and I feel personally connected somehow and channeling your pain through me, which is upsetting (for you guys) and making me tear up.
Just know Naomi is pain-free and being cared for. I know this doesn't help anything me saying this, but she's smiling down on all you and your family did in her last year of life. You're an awesome sister and hang in there, she'll be with you always, I promise.
Thank you for recording this. You have helped more people than you will ever know with this. I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤
I'm in bits!!😢 Thankyou for sharing your cancer journey with us!!❤ You and your sister are beautiful people inside and out!!❤ Time is a healer,I lost my sister 23 yrs ago she was 31 she has 3 beautiful girls,who now are beautiful ladies with there own children!!❤I few months having my sister passed I went to see a spiritualist,they told me my sister was with me and told me things about her onone would know....that made me so happy inside.I feel her with me now and again and I get different signs...sounds weird but very true!!❤ sending u loads of hugs xxxxx
Your love for Naomi shines through every moment. You left no stone unturned to help her and she received the best care. Thousands of us will remember Naomi in this online community. You have helped so many people by sharing your experiences, especially hospice care. Sending so much love to you and your family in this difficult time x
I lost my dad a year and a half ago and one thing he said was when I go you will always carry me with you. You carry Naomi with you ♥️♥️
Oh SJ. An amazing tribute to your wonderful sister. I’m so glad you had the hospice experience. I lost my mum to cancer and unfortunately it was only 12 weeks from diagnosis to death. She stayed at home with me the entire time because it was impossible to get any external help in such a short timeframe, at least in our area. And while I’m grateful for that time when she entered the true end of life stage, I was absolutely lost as to what to do for the best. We had emergency doctors call out to us but that was all. No Marie Curie nurse or anything. And at the very end she needed a lot of suction (no need to go into that, deeply unpleasant) and we were lucky to get help from 2 angels of paramedics who stayed with her way beyond the time constraints they were under as we were told that the local hospital were too overloaded to do anything other than put her on a trolley in a corridor somewhere. Thankfully she was too far gone to be aware of the trauma of the situation but for those of you with loved ones who do have time to put these things in place, please listen to SJ. The very least anyone deserves is dignity and peace in their final hours and I’m so thankful that Naomi got those two things. Sending love to you all. You’ve been so strong and now you all need to grant yourselves the time to regroup and heal together x
Oh SJ my heart is with you through this incredibly painful time. I have to be honest I have avoided these videos you have posted about Naomi because its so real in my life right now and just so painful. My dad has been battling cancer since 2020 when he was diagnosed with stage 3 colorectal cancer. Its metastatic and we are reaching a point where they are running out of options. Right now its very close to his spinal cord so he will undergo his third surgery asap before it paralyzes him. We are scared, emotional, overwhelmed...everything. I am going to watch your video diaries though and will keep this information in my pocket. I am so in awe of your courage and strength to share your families story. I am so very sorry she is gone, cancer is the absolute worst and it just isn't fair that it takes away the most special people in our lives 💔
SJ, I am so, so sorry! You and Naomi were very brave to share her story with us. I feel like I got to know Naomi through her journey. My sister was killed when she was 19. I was 18. I will never be the same. My father had Lymphatic Lymphoma starting when I was 14. It was so hard for him and our entire family. Cancer is ugly, mean, and unpredictable! My thoughts are with you.
How was your sister killed?
I know what it is like to lose a sister-so heartbreaking, - but not in this long drawn out way of hope and then being discouraged, more hope, etc. You are a wonderful sister-she is loving you and embracing you in spirit and always will.
I lost my older sister to cancer when I was 12 and the way you depict that specific grief spoke to my heart. She was my best friend. Thinking of you and your family. I’m so sorry ❤️
So sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing your story, I can only imagine how hard this journey was.
This video moved me so much. I am so so sorry but what a wonderful tribute I can’t explain how proud I am of people I haven’t even met. Sending you all love and strength x
Oh I am so so sorry 😢😢 heartbreaking my mother in law passed away In January at the age of 53 she had hospice at home so so hard . We miss her every day . Lots of love .xxx
I have absolutely NO idea how you managed to stay so composed, speaking so clearly and eloquently throughout all your agonising grief.
You have more strength in you than you even realise SJ and I’m so sorry that you’ve lost your beautiful Naomi. What a lovely tribute and your video of Naomi’s story will help others in this situation. ❤
This is a wonderful video to share. It is so hard to understand all the medical steps, hospice, what to ask, expect, etc. You sure got every moment of happiness, love and beautiful moments together, even the face of pain and fear. Naomi and you did so incredible!❤❤❤❤
I’m so, so sorry to hear that Naomi’s journey has come to an end. My husband’s a doctor and often talks about the concept of “dying well” and it’s always been a tricky concept for me to understand - but hearing you tell the story of Naomi’s final chapter, I think you and your family, as well as Naomi, should feel so very proud of yourselves for taking the end of her life so seriously and helping her to complete her time here on earth so beautifully. Thinking of you all now as you start this new and difficult journey of life without your precious sister, wife, daughter and mum. Bless you all x
Im so sorry you lost your Naomi. Ive literally just had your channel recommend on here.
I have also lost a Naomi. She died of cervical cancer when she was 29. She was my auntie but was only 3 years older than me. We were basically sisters and done so much together. I remember her cancer journey as if it was yesterday but she passed away in 1996.. She was so angry and sad. She just couldn't accept she was dying at 29. My uncal (her brother) got married yesterday. There were sunflowers in the church in her memory as she loved them 🌻🌻 the church was also where we said goodbye to her so it was a very emotional day as you can imagine. Im so proud of you for being as strong as you were for your Naomi. I understand just how hard it is/was.. It does get easier with time i promise. Just be kind to yourself and go with all your emotions.. Sending you so much love and strength. Tracy 🌻🌻🌻🌻
My mom passed from Glioblastoma in February. It still feels so unreal. I’m so sorry Sarah. I wouldn’t wish this pain on anybody ❤
Oh my gosh - the pain is so strong and we just carry it day to day. I don’t think it will get easier as much as life will get easier - if that makes sense - sending so much love to you tonight xxxx
Two lovely, kind sisters. Thank you for sharing Naomi’s last moments with us Sarah Jane. So sorry for your loss. The love between you and Naomi is there forever. God bless her wee girls and all the family.
I lost my sister 3 years ago. She was my best friend. It was so traumatic. We really didn’t talk about death in my family and made it so confronting. Sending love to you
i am so desperately sorry for your loss, there are no words, a sister bond is so special. i am glad that there was peace in her final weeks in her earthly body, sending so many hugs.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful sister. Thank you for telling us about her last days. Knowing she was still happy, helps. I’m not at EOL just yet, but due to my Hickman line and no immune system, I end up getting sepsis and the last one was touch and go again. They’ve said if it happens again, I won’t be able to fight it. So I worry the end will be really scary and me fighting, will be so hard for my boys. So hearing how Naomi managed to still be happy, fills me with calm. For the first time, I feel calm about it, rather than stressing for everyone else.
Your sisters beautiful heart will never be forgotten. Sending all my love to you all as you walk the difficult path of grief. ❤️
Sleep tight, Naomi 🤍🕊️ fly high and continue to be proud of yourself in heaven. You made a big difference to more lives than you’ll ever know ♥️ xo
That’s the most amazing thing; I’m so glad she gave you that calm and please do feel her with you and her experience I’m sure has been heard because it will help heal the hard times xxxxxxx
@@SJ_Strum I absolutely will. ♥️ You both have made a really positive impact on my journey. I just needed you to know. ❤️❤️ xx.
Your sister was incredibly lucky to have you in her life. She clearly loved you dearly. I am so sorry xxx
I’m so sorry for your loss!
My sister died of breast cancer in 2012 when she was 41 so unfortunately I know how you feel and what you’re going through. 😔
I am so sad to hear this update but so happy to hear that she was happy and herself through the end of her life. Both of you are such rays of sunshine and she will be very missed. I am happy that you have videos and the podcast to look back on to see such happy memories. You bring others so much joy and I wish you the best throughout the grief process.
GRIEF NEVER ENDS BUT IT CHANGES. ITS A PASSAGE, NOT A PLACE TO STAY. GRIEF IS NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS NOR A LACK OF FAITH. IT IS THE PRICE OF LOVE🙏🏻💙🙏🏻💙
Yes it is - it’s love finding a place ❤❤❤❤❤
I am so sorry for your loss. My dad passed away from lung cancer years ago. My prayers are with you and your family.
I lost my momma to lung cancer when I was 18 months old and she was only 32. Every day I feel such a massive hole in my heart because of everything she misses out on; my daughter growing up, watching me turn into the momma I’m so proud to be. But now, as I reach almost the age she lost her life to cancer… I stop and think of what I’d give to be with my momma in those last moments holding her hand, reminding her how loved she is. I can’t explain to you what this video did for me but I felt so much of my mommas essence in this: this was her reminder to me that just because cancer is horrific doesn’t mean her last moments had to be that way too. Thank you, SJ. The strength it took to share this is so admirable. I’ll carry this with me forever. Rest in peace to your beautiful soul and from one kiddo who last their mom to another, always remind them that their momma is always in their heart.
Dear SJ, I am so deeply sorry for you and your family's unimaginable loss. I absolutely loved when Naomi would be in your videos and your podcast together. She made me laugh so many times in my car. I am so sorry. So much love to you and your family ❤
I could listen you talk about Naomi forever, it’s lovely. How lucky you both were to have each other. I never met Naomi but I’m sure her remember her guts, grace and gratitude always. So much love to you all x
Sending so much love🤍 A beautiful Tribute xxx
Oh SJ my heart breaks for you all but I know she couldn’t have wished for a better sister. May she be in your heart and with you every day in the little signs and signals always. She was such a special person and this was a wonderful and eloquent tribute to your beautiful sister. You haven’t been far from my thoughts daily the last few weeks. So much love. Xx
Thank you for sharing your story, and for explaining what the hospice experience was like. I am so sorry for Naomi's passing. Sending you love.
I’m so, so sorry for what you’re going through. I actually found your channel because TH-cam recommended an update video you’d made with your sister. I was in awe of how positive her demeanor was when discussing something so serious. She seemed to have a friendly energy and it’s terrible she had to go through this. I hope you and your family can find peace.
Naomi and her daughters came into my work last year and she just seemed like the loveliest person. I’m so sorry for your loss SJ, she really was an angel xx
I’m so sorry SJ, I can see how close you were and how much you adored her. She was a tough cookie, she fought as long and hard as she could, and I hope she was so proud of herself for everything she achieved. Sending lots of love ❤
I definitely agree with if you get a chance to go to hospice.. Do it!
My mum went to a hospice and she had the most wonderful time under the circumstances of end of life care. The staff and volunteers are incredible, they do treat you all like a dear friend and go above and beyond for them and the family/friends. It also relieves the pressure off you having to look after your loved one, that can be so mentally, emotionally and physically draining. Thank you to all hospice workers/volunteers, you're amazing ❤️
Thanks for the update SJ. Although I’m heartbroken, I know Naomi is so proud of you for sharing this final chapter in her life and for giving her a voice, even beyond death. You are both so powerful 💕
So incredibly sorry for your loss SJ. I followed you and Naomi through this whole journey and would think of your family often before seeing the news of her passing on instagram. You speak so beautifully about your relationship and I'm sending every ounce of love to you, Naomi's daughters and husband, your parents and the rest of the family. x
I’m so sorry SJ. What a beautiful end of life tribute. I’m so glad you recorded this while you remember everything from those weeks. Not only for you to look back on but also for the girls. I’m certain this will be a huge comfort to them in years to come when they have questions and are ready to process this part of losing their mum. Sending you all so much love 💕
Oh no, 😢 im so so sorry. I lost my mum to cancer 5 weeks before I gave birth to my second baby and I have 4 now. She only met one of my kids. Time is a great healer SJ. Thank you for sharing ❤ sending hugs to you all.
I am so profoundly sorry for your loss SJ. Your family are in my thoughts and prayers x I absolutely loved listening to the podcast, particularly the daft games and how seriously Naomi took them! Xxx
I'm so sorry to hear of Naomi's passing. Prayers for peace, comfort, and strength during this trying time.