Hi, age 80, and still growing pains.. I did let go of a toxic womanizer Psychologist friend that often put me down by saying things like "Whatever made you do a think like that?, or your life was tragic, why did you stay in it?".. on and on. I'd shrink and feel small. Thank you for this series - I have failed a lot and won a few, but am intact emotionally. I do have fear of abundance via money. I have abundance feeling love for others and myself.
It is fear of people that drags me down 😢but thank you so much for your motivation am going to change that starting form now and will be back to this comment when am fully confident ❤🎉
I’ve always admired how Stoicism emphasizes focusing on what we can control. It’s helped me shift my mindset in tough situations. Thanks for breaking it down so well!
you did as usually a great job, your speech trigger inside on me a wonderful spark of hope, beside the voice and the slow music are just perfect , waiting for your next one gift!
But what if you are a disabled and middle aged woman like me who cannot work and has to live with my toxic partner of 30 years? I have no where else to go, We live in social housing and are joint tenants. I am not disabled enough to use a wheelchair but cannot use public transport. I can walk but cannot physically get off a train or a bus because I have a spinal condition and partial paralysis in my left leg. I am totally reliant on my alcoholic partner. He earns fairly good money and pays the bills and food shopping etc. He can be nice but only when I appear happy. If I have any physical or psychological pain he is not interested and just shows anger, sarcasm or distaste. I am 58 and he is 61. We live in the UK where there is a cost of living crisis and housing is very expensive and scarce. When he comes home from work, I feel very tense and have to show an interest in his day. I never know when he is going to start criticizing me so I have to act more like a slave. It is very draining psychologically. I don't know anyone I could share space with because they all live in small properties and are already overcrowded. Some people think the UK is a great country to live in - it is if you are rich.
It is a great message sir. I am happy to to go through all your talk .Still I have some doubts. I am a retired senoir citizen .Yet I like to work on my favorite project. But I am unabe to take off. My family y does not support it and I have fear of failure. I think that I can't tolerate the disaster.Any comment sir ?
*Confidence isn't something that magically appears overnight-it’s a muscle built through consistent action and a mindset rooted in self-mastery. According to Stoic philosophy, you will never truly become confident unless you start embracing five key habits: first, face your fears instead of avoiding them; second, cultivate self-discipline in both your thoughts and actions; third, accept what you cannot control and focus on what you can; fourth, practice daily reflection to grow wiser with each experience; and finally, trust in your own values and inner strength, rather than seeking validation from others. When you begin to live by these principles, confidence flows naturally-not because of external achievements, but because of the calm certainty you feel within. The Stoics teach us that true confidence comes from understanding yourself and acting with integrity, no matter the circumstances.*
My sincere appreciation to you Professor James always for loving humanity. May God Almighty give you good Health and happy stay.
Hi, age 80, and still growing pains.. I did let go of a toxic womanizer Psychologist friend that often put me down by saying things like "Whatever made you do a think like that?, or your life was tragic, why did you stay in it?".. on and on. I'd shrink and feel small. Thank you for this series - I have failed a lot and won a few, but am intact emotionally. I do have fear of abundance via money. I have abundance feeling love for others and myself.
Again useful, wise and supportive post from James! You are simply great! ❤ Looking forward to the next one.
Love your teachings you have saved my life thank you James.
It is fear of people that drags me down 😢but thank you so much for your motivation am going to change that starting form now and will be back to this comment when am fully confident ❤🎉
I’ve always admired how Stoicism emphasizes focusing on what we can control. It’s helped me shift my mindset in tough situations. Thanks for breaking it down so well!
These are powerful tips. Building confidence is a journey, and it all starts with small actions. Thank you for sharing
Many many thanks
you did as usually a great job, your speech trigger inside on me a wonderful spark of hope, beside the voice and the slow music are just perfect , waiting for your next one gift!
But what if you are a disabled and middle aged woman like me who cannot work and has to live with my toxic partner of 30 years? I have no where else to go, We live in social housing and are joint tenants. I am not disabled enough to use a wheelchair but cannot use public transport. I can walk but cannot physically get off a train or a bus because I have a spinal condition and partial paralysis in my left leg. I am totally reliant on my alcoholic partner. He earns fairly good money and pays the bills and food shopping etc. He can be nice but only when I appear happy. If I have any physical or psychological pain he is not interested and just shows anger, sarcasm or distaste. I am 58 and he is 61. We live in the UK where there is a cost of living crisis and housing is very expensive and scarce. When he comes home from work, I feel very tense and have to show an interest in his day. I never know when he is going to start criticizing me so I have to act more like a slave. It is very draining psychologically. I don't know anyone I could share space with because they all live in small properties and are already overcrowded. Some people think the UK is a great country to live in - it is if you are rich.
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It is a great message sir. I am happy to to go through all your talk .Still I have some doubts. I am a retired senoir citizen .Yet I like to work on my favorite project. But I am unabe to take off. My family y does not support it and I have fear of failure. I think that I can't tolerate the disaster.Any comment sir ?
*Confidence isn't something that magically appears overnight-it’s a muscle built through consistent action and a mindset rooted in self-mastery. According to Stoic philosophy, you will never truly become confident unless you start embracing five key habits: first, face your fears instead of avoiding them; second, cultivate self-discipline in both your thoughts and actions; third, accept what you cannot control and focus on what you can; fourth, practice daily reflection to grow wiser with each experience; and finally, trust in your own values and inner strength, rather than seeking validation from others. When you begin to live by these principles, confidence flows naturally-not because of external achievements, but because of the calm certainty you feel within. The Stoics teach us that true confidence comes from understanding yourself and acting with integrity, no matter the circumstances.*
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Thxx for these lessons! I have fear for failure and am going to start writing anyway!! 🫶👍💪🤜🙌❤️