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5:33 as a cancer survivor, I can say that Ana is definitely using her cancer as a way to steal the spotlight. I have 9 siblings and through my treatment I always made sure that they had the full spotlight on their milestones. Of course people asked how I was and I would tell them but I never did so in a way that would ruin my sibling’s celebrations.
I’m glad you beat cancer! And I pray that you stay cancer free for the rest of your life. Cancer is scary both grandfathers lost their lives to it but they were both in their late 80s still painful but they lived their lives to the fullest. I find you admirable for knowing that you were sick and still kept the ones you love have their moments as well.
Agreed. I feel like most people struggling with chronic conditions/ cancer often spend a lot of time pretending to be well and trying to keep things normal for themselves and others. Sounds like the person in that story was a manipulator who just happened to have cancer.
@@jenniferdevinney541 Fully, 90% of us spend our lives trying to establish our own "normal" and don't have the energy to focus on manipulating people (nor would we want to). The treatment most disabled people get is disgusting, it's not a privilege by any means, and we're not exactly screaming and begging to be stared at more than we already are.
🫂 ❤️ on your health being 💯
@@thinecuprunnethoverwithblood Agreed, I'm disabled too. There are a ton more of us pretending to be well than there are people pretending to be sick or exaggerating their sickness.
I pretend to be well several times everyday. When I smile and wave to coworkers, cook dinner and go about my life mimicking every able bodied person out there knowing that I'm feeling like absolute crap!
When the sister refused to tell people before the wedding, boom. Told on herself. She 100% announces these things on purpose to ruin op’s moments
For the first story, I was sold on NTA when the sister refused to tell people in advance. She didn't want people to know, so that, when she showed up in a wheelchair, they'd flock to her asking if she's okay.
OP should send out aass email telling everyone that her sister might be in a wheelchair, but she is really sensitive about it so please don't bring it up with her. Then you'd really be able to tell if she was vying for added attention 😂
@@cbpd89BRILLIANT
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Chil'...hw frustrating for the sib who's event is getting waylaid by the "sympathy" card playing sick sis.
Yeah. I would hv told ev-ery-one (wht ws up) just to keep her from hijacking the event...
NTA IMHO.
Honestly being sick doesn’t give you a free pass in acting out
As an ER nurse I have so many stories about the toxic, steal-the-spotlight, invalid family members; it’s incredibly common particularly, I’ve noticed with people that got sick as kids. When a kid gets sick society and parents typically shower them with attention and make excuses for all bad behavior. Their health and the attention from it very quickly becomes the only source of validation for them. It’s a sad situation for them, but also, going low/no contact with them is often the only thing family can do to keep from getting sucked into a never ending pit of codependency and manipulation.
This is absolutely correct. I do believe, although we can’t know for certain, this is what is going on.
OP should handle first situation as follows: I am so sorry about your illness, but it is clear that stress, whether it’s good stress, (parties, gatherings) or bad stress, seems to make your health situation worse. In an over abundance of caution and care for your tenuous health situation, I think it would be best if you stayed home for my wedding. It’s just going to be too much stress. We will have someone video it into the house so you can watch it if you feel up to it.
Absolutely correct. Forty years, mostly in the ER has convinced me that any parent/parents having a child with a serious injury or illness should take classes to teach them how to handle both the child with the illness and any siblings. Children learn incredibly quickly if their situation can be used to manipulate Mom or Dad and some of them can become quite cruel, putting their siblings ALWAYS at fault. Like anyone else but likely more significantly for children, they don’t come out the other side the same as they went in, parents are often so traumatized by fear they’re not capable of letting go or of returning to having reasonable expectations of the child. An adult who has latched on to the attention they discovered as a child which came from illness can be incredibly difficult and tiresome to deal with and there will always be the lurking fear that this one time they aren’t just being dramatic.
I have found that sick kids go one of two ways as adults, the world owes them or they owe the world.
Thank you to post this comment, especially from your professional experience. The sister has developed an psychological illness from the impact and family dynamics reacting to her physical illness. Very sad but very true.
I spit out my drink when 🎶THEY SEE ME ROLLIN🎶 captioned "Anna" came on 😂😂😂😂
Same 🤣
I still love that song tbh...
I almost died eating a sandwich, it was too much but at the same time perfect and what was needed🤣🤣🤣
I was just about to comment this😂😂😂😂
My fellow disabled people, having a disability is NOT an excuse to be rude/impolite. Most folks, including myself, are really grateful for help and attentive people. But don’t suck all the oxygen out of the room because just because you can get away with it.
THIS. for me, my big ass electric wheel chair is VERY apparent, but i try to get ppl invested in convo about anything BUT the wheelchair. it works and chatting ends up being the focus 🤷🏼
@@waltzthroughlife People are just jealous of your wheels! I know what you mean. My scooter folds up and becomes the conversation piece. Good luck with waltzing! Like your handle.
Same. I walk using a cane, have days where I'm so sick I can't leave the house, but there's so much more to life than talk about being sick. Yikes
Amen, having pain syndrome and bound to be run into by todlers/small kids at family gatherings, is like a pain that encompasses everything in the moment. i fall to my knees (not aware of this, nor my screaming, they sound far away) and i full on sob because the pain is worse than when i gave birth, so yeah, its bad when hit/rammed into). HOWEVER, i feel SHITTY to "take" attention at these gatherings when that happnens and always try to tell them "rather we joke around wiht my handicapped wheelchair ass than feel sorry for me. i am here for once and out of my sick bed, so huzza and lets have fun" (the jokes are both to make them more comfortable and me too bc i dont get their pity - i loathe pity 😓).
The whole "it can be nice that all come for your aid" thing. Not to me, bc thats just another reminder of their pity and how noone in the family knows what to say (i want everyone to be comfortable around me when i the few times a year gets to attend family events - all other times we had to cancel bc i couldnt even get out in the car due to pain)
i hate being fucked up medically but why ruin others archievements etc with my issues? i cannot imagine this...
My cousin got married outside in 90° weather when I was 9 months pregnant. I went. My water broke during the ceremony but I finished out the wedding, told them congratulations after and How much I love them but I couldn't come to the reception because I had to go to the hospital. I told my mom and my grandma so they wouldn't wonder and that was it. No need for drama. The bride (my cousin) was excited and said she understood.
There is no family drama when no one is toxic 😂
This is so sweet. :) And it is a very happy story, after these sad stories about wedding drama.
Did you get to tell them while the celebration was still going that your baby was born and everyone is fine?
You are a freaking champion, keeping it to yourself until the ceremony was over.
So your baby was born the same day of your cousin's wedding; two anniversaries to celebrate at some point lol
That's amazing :) And I love your last sentence there too
Now that's how to be an amazing Anna!
I knew for a fact that my golden child sister would've objected at my wedding, so I asked the Officiant to not ask if anyone objected. The look on her face when we skipped over that part was a mix of "Wait, What?" and sarcastic "Great." 😊
Wow she would've objected given the chance? She's an ass
😯
There's one in every family, right? I hope you've left that toxic person behind. If my older sister had been in the country to attend my wedding, I have no doubt she would have at least made some kind of obvious fidget, like about to stand up and proclaim, though I don't think she'd go as far as your sister wanted to. My sister could not, and never can, stand that someone else may have the spotlight. They're incredibly insecure, you know.
I have a cousin who treat everything in life as a joke, like laughing in funeral, fake snoring in mass, screaming "KISS! KISS!! " during the wedding, or interrupting solemn event.
Last year he wasn't invited to his own sister wedding since he jokingly said to his friend (a week before the event) he will staging an objection during ceremony. His sister didn't talk to him til this day.
@@Magami31Wow he sounds like an absolute nuisance!
The first story I was willing to give the sister the benefit of the doubt until she insisted on revealing her wheelchair at the wedding
2nd story, the op seems like the ultimate passive-aggressive AH. Won’t tell the fiance what she did wrong and then insist the boyfriend not honor his friendship with the groom out of loyalty to her. She’s definitely the AH.
For real!! And not even explaining the perceived slight in the post tells me it was something truly petty and not worth ruining friendships over lol 😂 like if it were that much of a betrayal OP would 100% spill the tea to make herself seem more justified.
Being sick is not an excuse to take over events. She definitely just wants the attention. I was told by my doctor that they thought I had esophagus cancer the day before a close friends wedding. You know what I didn’t do? Tell everyone at the wedding about my hospital trip the day before where a bunch of scary tests had been rushed for me. People with handicaps or health problems don’t get a free pass from being decent human beings. I hope she works things out with her sister
Good luck. I hope you do not have esophageal cancer, or if you do, I hope it was caught early. I will say a prayer for you. ♥️🙏🏻
@@glancycorner7425 Thank you. It ended up being another esophagus issue that I will have to maintain my whole life and they were able to cut some of the issue out. As long as I’m careful it won’t kill me thankfully.
Hey, just a side note, handicapped is actually a really offensive term. Please say disabled instead.
@@Sentariana wait, recently someone said disabled was the offensive term, and that handicapped was better, so are we just supposed to not use legal terms at all or is there a word everyone would be fine with cause I'm confused..?
@@SentarianaI'm handicapped due to ms, and I certainly don't think that's offensive.. .. are you disabled and offended by the term handicapped? If so then please only speak for yourself. And if you aren't, then please don't speak for us at all.
The second story made my skin crawl as soon as she said "She wanted to fix it but I felt like she should have known why I was mad". One of my biggest with relationships (romantic/platonic/professional) in life is people who don't communicate and then get angry that people don't know what they're thinking/feeling.
This?! Like people do and say a lot of dumb things and sometimes don’t realize it hurt or upset someone, like hells teeth just say what incident it was and what was said… for all OP knows it could have just been a rumor… and she is WAY too old to still be like “you should know” 🙄 like people aren’t physic
This crap has happened to me, when people were angry and declared that I knew exactly why. I did not. Things got resolved, but people need to be willing to communicate, even if they really believe that the other person already knows.
I think it depends how it happened. If it was a huge secret and I blasted it at a bonfire for all to hear. If you come to me asking how I could break your trust and hurt you, I should be able to connect the dots if I was actually remorseful. Or it could have been the fiance just trying to not take responsibility and pretend it did not happen. Or "I dont see the big deal" type response with OP feeling like she shoukd know why it is a big deal. I wish we had more info
Can you explain to me about the 2 story I kinda don't understand what actually happened
@@Alienhuehue OP had a falling out with the bride to be, over a supposed rumor? She doesn’t give details and when the bride to be wanted to know what she did wrong OP was like “she should know” which a lot of us find difficult as we can’t smell what people think. So now OP doesn’t want her fiancé to be the best man at the wedding even tho he and the groom to be have been best friends… cause she isn’t going to the wedding? And she thinks she and the baby are more important in this matter than her guy being the best man? I put ??? Cause it sounds wonky
The girl in the second story is a walking red flag. She is ruining childhood friendship over a hearsay. The guy should RUN.
Truth. It sounds so controlling to demand it. Her lack of communication is an issue needing addressed. What’s she going to be like in the future?
@@melissacooper8724 her BF. Is she can create such a huge issue over a hearsay then she is clearly too juvenile to be in a healthy relationship
I agree that op was entirely in the wrong in that story. It would be nice if she could realize that before the relationship is pushed past the point of no return, for their child's sake.
The fact that she did not enclose any details on what went down it is probably pretty bad! Something that could possibly end her current relationship. I wouldn't be surprised... It is so bad that she won't talk about it even anonymously.
He can’t run now. He knocked her up 🤷🏻♀️
I had a friend like "Anna". She always had to be the centre of attention. Like when my father passed, she never gave me any word of comfort, she never came to his funeral even though she used to live in front of the church (and she knew him-we grew up together) and when we saw each other again, the first thing she said to me was:"if I were you, I wouldn't have cried"
Lmao what. I'm sure if someone close to her passed, she would be like "I'm sad why aren't you helping me".
Wtf. I hope you left her. She probably has no friends now
@thecamillarose9806 she used to call me as a last resort (she told me once:"My other friends were all busy, that's why I've called you"). She even tried to have a pity party when her husband's stepfather passed. Yeah, I've been no contact with her for a while. She wasn't like this growing up. She changed when she realised she wasn't her mum's centre of attention (she has been on a wheelchair ever since she was born - her brother used to struggle with substance abuse, and that's when her mother's attention changed)
Honestly, the story is pretty long xD
This is not a friend. AT. ALL.
You're friends with that kind of person?
Did you beat her ass? 😅 tbh I'd consider it.
Speaking as someone who was in hospital at the same time as a concert my sis had tickets for. Her friends, and my wife, told her, “Look, they’re in a coma. Just go. If you don’t, you’ll hate them for this.”
She went to the concert. And was hospitalized with pneumonia. We still laugh about it. And yes, the hospital gave us rooms next to each other. It helped when I had to be in PT after waking up. My legs wanted to be noodles!
Oopsie 😂 The universe said I put a man in a coma and you all STILL didnt slow down, nothing left to do except take your breath away. 😅 Glad you all can laugh about it now. 😅
The first one sounds like one of those typical "Title sounds awful, but OP is actually being fairly reasonable."
Right. Does the sister not have her family's phone numbers? Call them! Why is she waiting until OP has a birthday or some other special occasion? Why is she making "announcements" at family gatherings?
And then there are others where the title sounds reasonable but then the person turns out to be an a hole 😂😂
Tatie Charlotte une femme stupide ma demandée de commentée en anglais alors que je connais pas la langue
@@KatFan537 going off what Trevor from Mythical has said about titles--the more innocent and unsuspecting a title sounds the more likely the story be the craziest and most unexpected (obviously it varies but funny how it does sometimes turn out that way)
Not the AH ! Her sister does this for attention as she has been the center of attention for years.
I'd tell everyone either stand with me or stay home
2nd story, “She should know what she did. I shouldn’t have to tell her” is straight from the “I can’t read minds” handbook. You can’t be mad at someone for something they don’t know they did. Be an adult and tell her exactly what she did and why it hurt your feelings.
No one should have to explain to you how to be a decent human being. That girl has made cancer her identity and is PURPOSEFULLY doing it and ONLY when it’s her sister’s announcements, achievements, etc. She should return to her no contact with her cancer, oops; I mean her sister. 🙄
Yeah. How much do want to bet op didn't want to go into detail about "what she did" because she (op) knew it would make her look even worse? The moment you go vague on what happened but want people to tell you you aren't being an AH, I pretty much assume you know YTA.
you absolutely can be upset at someone for something they are unaware of. Feelings are feelings and not always logical. HOWEVER, trying to punish someone who unknowingly upset you is just gross- you should tell the person how you feel and why, not just be a dick to them.
@@brittany2372pregnant women get so easily offended over everything that I'm 99% sure it was some nonsensical bs and also her wanting an excuse for her bf to prioritize her and have his attention
@@huginug random people in the internet get so upset when they heard the word "pregnant" and act like it's a free card to insult people and treat them like animals that cannot regulate their emotions. Pregnant people can regulate their emotions and can be logical just like any other person. Men can also regulate their emotions perfectly fine most times but sometimes they also so emotional that they start smashing things and shouting like someone stole their favorite candy, but i don't generalize them all as emotional because like I said there is some men that can regulate their emotions perfectly fine. Maybe go to get concealing, it doesn't seem like you can think logically.
That woman from the second story sounds like such work to be around. I hate people who refuse to tell me why they are mad at me, I'm not physic, I can't apologize for things I don't even know about. she doesn't even know if its true or not and instead of fact checking her solution is to ban her boyfriend for being in his best friends wedding ?????
OMG, yes. I used to have a friend like that. One time she just suddenly stopped talking to me, and I had no idea why. She then told the reason to some of our mutual friends, but forbid them from telling me. "You have to apologize to her for what you did to her, but I can't tell you what it is you did to her, I promised her I will not tell you. But you have to apologize, seriously." It was a total mindfuck for several months. I couldn't even apologize because she wasn't talking to me! After something like 4 months she started talking to me again and said that I had talked about her behind her back. That didn't make sense to me, as I had no issues with her prior that. And it was hard to prove to her that I never did, as it was 4 months after the supposed incident. Anyways, ex-friend for years now, and still telling mutual acquaintances some stupid little lies about me, as I found out some time ago. Good riddance.
@@dardegajust laugh that you live rent free in her mind if she is still trying to lie about you.
My mom does the thing where we can tell that something is up but when asked about it she says "nothing" until it all blows up. That is why I try my best to say something right away with my bf when something bothers me. She also complains to me about my dad, and when I ask her if she's brought it up with him she says no 🙄
Yeah, ITS the worst, also one of the reason I do Not get Allo people, Like often ITS Something you did Not say, Like, you Said Something and they read some compleatly different Subtext into IT to BE then Made about and ITS extreamly confusing and an ineffektiv way of communicating. People cant read Minds, Just say what you think and listen to what people say over what you think they could have ment, If you are Not Sure what they ment ask, clear Things Up and dont ever expect someone to appologised for something they never Said of you think they might have done in Something someone Else Said or whatever . . . .
Clear Open communication, why IS that so hard?!
I wonder if she’s just jealous and bitter than she’s not engaged , and maybe fiancé made a comment about not wanting kids til they get married.
I was the sick sister growing up and was given an infinite amount of room to grow in, particularly with my personality. I've definitely had moments where my sister was like "Can you, like, dial it back?" But it's not an unreasonable request and I'd do anything for her, so I was like, yeah babes. And kept my lips shut for like 8 hrs.
Then, the week before my brother's wedding I had a seizure and ended up on a ventilator. They weren't sure if I'd even make it to the wedding but I pulled through just in time. I wasn't in the wedding, which was fine, bc I had just woken up from a coma. Like, it's one day that's not about you. It's not that hard.
It is super hard honestly, you ARE LEGIT sick. But some ppl just like to be the center of attn, having narcissistic qualities. When u luv yur ppl, u will automatically do whatever you can to support and be there with and for them (sick and all)…not like this situation. Pray u are doing better and you and yur sibling are doing well.
The last one: I have not worn a bra in 6 years. I have very mild scoliosis between my shoulder blades but enough to impact the muscle movement of my back which can be painful. Wearing a bra heavily emphasises this effect and I’m in pain after just an hour or two. I wear nipple covers for tops and dresses that need it and since I’m from Europe, people don’t really give a damn.
I have scoliosis too and I HATE bras!! Thank God I’m part of the itty bitty titty committee 🤣
@@KaitlynMcCaryI love the “itty bitty titty committee”!!! I’m so stealing that!!
I’m asking out of genuine curiosity, so please don’t feel like I’m trying to tell you what to do, but I was wondering if you’ve tried a corset? I only ask because a couple of TH-camrs I watch tried one for costuming reasons and continued wearing them because they said it helped their scoliosis. Apparently, had to be more historically accurate corsets, rather than the cheap one you can just get off of Amazon, but I think you can get fitted ones at bridal shops.
@@catlover2223 that’s a valid question!! I actually looked into it and tried it hoping it would atleast fix the appearance of my curvy (not in a good way lol) shape. But turns out, it’s SUPER bad for scoliosis because it weakens your core muscles that make your curve worsen faster. Not to mention it was really hard to breathe in and with my anxiety.. it was a night mare 😢
@@KaitlynMcCary Oh wow! That’s great to know! Thanks for replying to my comment!
The sister in the wheelchair is jealous of her healthy sister. She's doing this on purpose to take away her sister's joy on her special occasions.
Agree, or she can't bare to not be the centre of attention. Just because you have a serious health issue doesn't mean you can't also be bitch.
That's what it sounds like to me. Sis may be getting stressed when attention is given to OP and that is triggering the episodes, along with the real thing.
Such a difficult situation, but I agree with you
Smart. Life's not been fair to her and she has no control over that. Punishing her sister though must make her feel crappier, and fixes nothing, talking about the feeling to her zister is the only possible help.
In the first story, the fact that “Anna” doesnt want to tell anyone about the wheelchair before the wedding, speaks volumes. She wants everyone to see her in the wheelchair and flock to her, ignoring the wedding. She wants the attention on her and only her.
Marie is the kind of friend you wish was your sister . Alice is the kind of sister you wish was your enemy so you can hate her without any guilt .
Yes, most definitely
I feel like when Charlotte said "you're just enabling her at this point" I mean, they've been enabling her her whole life.
Well put!
“You can stay home pissy and pregnant” is great and accurate. 😂
"The titties be tittying...." I'm dying!! I'm so stealing this!!! You are hilarious, girl!! ❤😂
Omg! Same!😂
I dropped a toxic friend once and NEVER expected my husband to drop his friendship with them. He eventually did, but all on his own when he got tired of the toxicity himself. I could never have forced him to stopped being in that friendship just because I did. She is the Ahole
At my grandparents' 50th wedding anniversary this lovely woman told me how she was a little girl when she went to my grandparents' wedding and she still remembered how her mother made her wear a white dress and she really didn't want to wear a white dress because you weren't supposed to wear white to a wedding. This was a little girl in the 1930s and she remembered the feeling 50 years later, lol. Even she knew not to wear white to a wedding!!
Sometimes, it's okay for the ring bearers or flower basket petal-strewing children to wear white.
It's all very Titania-esque. Am I rt?
Mini-fairies holding rings, & throwing petals abt. Cute as all get out!
Yeah, the babies (/toddlers/shorties) CAN wear white. They ENHANCE the wedding with it.
Adorbs!
@@TheNegZeroHaving toddlers and babies in white seem like a bad idea.
I mean gotta take the picture quickly because the clothes aren't gonna stay white long
The ONLY time a woman can wear white at a wedding when she isn't the bride, is if she''s a nun and her habit is white.
The first story… when she starts announcing her illnesses etc get the Groomsmen to get a sheet of paper and one of them say ‘right who got x time…?’ And when her sister and Mum asks what do they mean… they laugh and say ‘oh we had a book on how long it would take for the sister to make this day about her…!’ Then they start handing out money to one guy saying ‘you won’. And when she gets offended explain we’ve been doing this for years because she always stealing the limelight.
I loooooooove this!!!!
I love this!!
Ooooh I love it 😂😂😂
Wow, that is actually a great idea. She wanted attention, well... there it is ,lol!
I would totally do this! 😂
When the sister, Anna, announces that she has to go back to the hospital during all of her sisters milestones, does she actually go to the hospital? Does the "sick" sister ever show the parents or the sister any PROOF that she is having scary growths every time her sister has a milestone? If yes, then she is either legitimately sick, or really good at faking it. If no, then it's probably just INSANE JEALOUSY.
That was my question as well. In addition to the valid, is it only at the key points, I wanted to know if she was simply announcing it or actually having an appt, keeping in mind that even if they are actual visits, many are simply follow up to assess risk. Also, timeframe. If she knows for months she is scheduled for follow up but only announces it at key points, it’s suspect.
She had fucking cancer. And OP said all of the family "flocks" to her and the mom takes her to the hospital. So they obviously see the growths. What a fucked up thing to say about someone who had fucking cancer.
This story sounds familiar... I have a certain family member with a similarly extensive health history. So if Anna is the same, she does indeed have growths, but the pain or dizziness or whatever will suddenly flare when she has something hard to do or someone is getting attention or she's being criticized or.... and going to the hospital is an ER visit, not an oncologist visit. My relative would have come to my wedding in a wheelchair if she had thought of it.
Whenever people leave out crucial information like why they’re fighting, you know they’re withholding so they sound better. You know if the falling out was anything real it would’ve been included in the story.
I was thinking the same thing. I'm thinking the "personal information" was something really stupid and petty, and op knows it. She knows that if she said what the fight is actually about, then she would seem like a major butthole.
That last one I just kept screaming "JUST WEAR SOME CHICKEN CUTLETS!!!" 🤣 (This is what I call those reusable sticky nipple covers.)
My new job has a mock court room and I sat in the judges chair and said “All rise for the honorable judge Keana!” In the Charlotte voice 😂
😂❤
😂😂 that must’ve been so fun
Ur so real for that
@@haleytruslow7200 It was! 😂
@@BrianAndresScott 💕💕
I’m glad you’re doing a revised schedule for February and I think you deserve to make it your regular schedule if funding allows. You deserve time to enjoy the rest of your life and what you’ve accomplished.
Thank you so much. It’s been wonderful tbh but of course will still be posting content for you guys!
Good cuz we love you ❤@@CharlotteDobre
I agree 💯 🫂 ❤️
Props on the husband in the 3rd story for sticking by OP! 😂 Marie is the real MVP of that wedding!
I understand that he (as well as his other siblings) are already generally fed up with the bratty little sister, it's just the parents who enable her, so that was to be expected that he would back up his wife's best friend in this.
😂😂😂 YESSSSSSSS
My grandmother was "dying" for 25 years. She announced she had cancer and came to live with us because her seven other daughters weren't the "lucky" choice. My mother (her daughter in law) became my gran's cook, cleaner and carer while Gran continued to go out, go to church, visit her daughters and friends. After 10 years we came to the realisation that Gran had a skin cancer removed hence the cancer diagnoses. Cut to 25 years later during which Gran was ill for most family occasions but miraculously cured afterwards. My mother was hospitalised and Gran had to be cared for in a nursing home,once again the extended family curiously absent. Mother got home with her own diagnoses and within two days Gran was "dying" again. This time it took her a little over six months. She died in her sleep aged 102. I watched the woman suck the joy out of our home, every celebration and holiday for 25 years. I couldn't feel anything but relief that my Mum would be free during her last few months.
I had cancer at 13. At 17, we thought I had breast cancer, all my friends were going through final school exams. I waited until the exams were over.
Not the first time I’ve had a scare and something big was happening to a family member, sibling or close friend, while it cannot ‘wait’ you can keep it quiet until the big moments are finished for the people you love.
I must confess I LIVE for the AITA episodes with the "ALLRISEFORTHEHONORABLEJUDGECHARLOTTE" intro, so please don't stop doing it lol
Ikr!! I get more excited when I see she's uploaded an AITA video over any other one! 😁🫶
Story 1: there is a time and place to do this, there is no reason to not do it before the wedding where she will be proactively not take the spotlight off OP's day. Yes she is sick and it is severe... but waiting until the attention is on someone else to be the attention hog is a Keran move.
Story 2: Yeah pregnant and pissy, let it go honey and stop being the bitter wall. Yeah OP is in the wrong...
I am in a wheelchair and have chronic health issues from 12. Health issues with a child is so tough. It creates so much drama and often leaves the other kid struggling for attention. I go up and down in health too. I could never imagine saying anything at my brother's wedding. I did go to bed early at his wedding, but we were on great terms so he had prepared for my ability to do so, even having a silent disco so music was quiet. The attention can be one of the few perks of being sick. She seems addicted and jealous. I agree they should talk to family and set the boundary of tell everyone now or she doesn't come.
@@FunwithCFS sometimes. Mostly over health though. I can usually extend empathy over people in pain, because pain is relative, and they are often trying to relate. When they seem to be seeking sympathy, competing, or I just am completely spent I can be a bit short on grace though. Life events can create some grief and yeah maybe a little jealousy, but never to the point I ever wanted to hijack it. Not even close. At most I am struggling with empathy right now with a family member because they are struggling being a parent and taking care of my mother, who is now very ill herself, because he wants to be a partying teenager again. I recognize he is struggling, and I am putting my anger at my own helplessness on him, but it still makes me so mad and I can't muster much empathy. Those are the things that get to me. I can't speak to the sister's current health. She may truly need these treatments. Other times once people get very sick they get paranoid. I admit I never had cancer. That word itself is terrifying, whether your odds of survival are hard or not. I have a disease that makes me weak and hurt and leaves me vulnerable to extreme infections. I had a few scary ones where either amputation or death were possible. Fortunately they did get it under control. It is a different fear of death than cancer or diseases like that, so that is the one thing I can't speak to. I didn't face potential death until 10 years after I was diagnosed. I was an adult by then. Facing it that young may have caused some lasting issues she still needs to deal with.
But also, why does she need to announce it during her sister's milestones. Like, I think they should need to talk re: her behaviour.
Oh oh, I can finally contribute to one of these. My cousin is IDENTICAL to the sister in the first story. My fiancé works with mental health children and teenagers and is convinced it's a Munchausen's situation. And same deal, I'm getting married this summer and informed a few members of my family that I will not invite her. Except... for the most part... everyone agrees with me and understands. They all said "yeah if she comes she will end up making a scene and you will remember your wedding forever as the day 'She did that thing.' So yeah, I'm fully on the side of NTA. It's sad, but the world doesn't revolve around you.
The show "What We Do in the Shadows" has a type of vampire named an "emotional vampire". The sister of the first OP sounds exactly like that.
Emotional vampires are real, that's actually a real thing. I've known a few over the years and they are absolutely exhausting to be around.
I couldn’t stop laughing in that episode when he was running for office against Vanessa Bayer’s character. He’s boring the audience to death and she keeps telling stories about all the tragedies she’s survived to get the audience’s sympathy. Absolutely hilarious.
Story 1. As a 2time cancer Survivor I’d not let her anywhere near my wedding! And I had cancer! I had 9 surgeries! There is NO absolutely NO rush to tell anyone during a special event! I’d send out a mass email to tell everyone about here. So Yeah…..
and I have a Sister like this! I’d hire a guard to keep her away
Congratulations on beating cancer! 💪
Congrats babes 🎉
Two stories hit hard for me. The first, and the white dress. Why? My father was dying of cancer, in the hospital. His younger sister had been partially crippled by polio as a child and needed leg braces and sometimes cruthes. But when my dad was in the hospital and paralyzed below the waist, she showed up in a wheelchair.
Fortunately, one of my dad's friends stopped her before she entered the room and told her "you can walk, he can't, stand up and walk." She was always pampered because of her childhood illness. There is no excuse. Even when sick, my dad never asked for special treatment,and got upset when people.gave it to him.
Agreed! Congratulations❤. I was diagnosed and scheduled for surgery during the holidays, it was covid times. I kept it to myself and parents because ... why! Cancer is NEVER fun to announce, I couldnt imagine putting my siblings through that worry etc. Once the holidays passed, I shared. I don't share ever test/exam/follow up either. Ugh, using illness to get attention 😢
Congrats! Your amazing!
11 years is a long time to have a sick relative. I imagine you get desensitized to it. And being concerned for the sister doesn’t mean that OP isn’t allowed to have her own happiness.
Second story. OP sounds like she’s intentionally omitting information so that she doesn’t look like the AH.
anytime the OP omits info--they automatically are the AH. why omit info if you know you didn't do anything wrong?
Exactly!✌️
2nd story: conveniently left out. It's a hearsay and a throwaway account. Girl got nothing to lose. Such a juvenile attitude she has. Automatic AH
you can have cancer and still have tact and consideration for other people. cancer, or any other illness, doesn't mean you get to be an a-hole.
Yeah. One of my classmates is a cancer survivor and she is a wonderful person. If she has issues or appointments, she doesn't make a big scene about it for attention.
Agreed. I have a blood cancer that never goes into full remission. Most other cancer patients I have come in contact with are like me. We just want to get through this and we don't take it out on anyone else purposefully.
However. I have seen people who use their cancer as a manipulative tool. I've even called out a couple when I have been particularly cranky while receiving treatment. 😈
There was a time I almost died bc of medical reasons. It was slow but noticeable (losing weight and getting more and more tired looking). I never highjacked a family members special day.
There were times people asked how I was doing at certain events, but I kept it brief and didn't share any new (bad) news. I knew it wasn't the place for it. I would talk to them later about it.
I'm doing better now, thankfully. Despite the hardships I didn't take it out on family. My family relationships are still solid to this day.
Happy you are feeling better.
Classy!
So 2022 i was in the worst car accident ever. Back broken. Wheelchair. Working from home. I worked hard to make sjre i could walk at my sisters wedding. She said jt didnt matter if i was in a wheelchair or walking as long as i was there. I was a brides maid. I didnt want her qeddign pictures to have me in a chair. So by christmas 2022 i surprised my family with me walking on my own. J walked and danced at my sisters wedding with big smiles.
It was the "smuggling raisins" for me, I literally laughed out loud 😂😂
All those responses were pure gold 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I also LOL'ed 😂😂
Oh my god I can’t stop. Somebody please help me stop laughing 😂 omg
Chronically ill and disabled my whole life here 👋🏽 I would NEVER think to do that to one of my loved ones or friends. I show up for my people know matter what it costs me and I know the majority of people who live w disabilities do the same. The people and family that we surround ourselves w are crucial and to take advantage of or manipulate like that would do so much harm.
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I'm imagining the SIL 'alice' with the white dress/wine explaining to the salesperson at Ross why they were there.
"Oh no! At your wedding?"
"NO MY BROTHER'S WEDDING"
"side eye"
oh you know she told that sob story to everyone... and that the workers had a field day with it.
Re last story, I had a friend with a small chest and she would often not wear a bra to work. She had a very slight frame and liked flowy clothes. Unfortunately, that often meant that she flashed people because the material gaped around the chest. I wonder if that could be what the bride was worried about in this story.
I've thought the same! The worry of the bride seems a bit too specific. There has to be a history of flashing in the past. Perhaps even withouth noticing it on OP's part.
Currently engaged, and I'm obsessed with these wedding AITA reactions. The more I watch, the more I'm excited about eloping just me and my fiancé. Thank you Charlotte for your humor and being you. 😊
The first story: sister is a run-of-the-mill narcissist with slightly unusual leverage for emotional manipulation
Bingo.. and probably over time because her life hasnt been "normal" is insanely jealous that her sister has had typical milestones so gets attention back on herself whenever she can.
@@elizabethcrossley6853 Maybe she isn't even jealous. I had this same issue with someone constantly fighting for attention like the sister. Turns out the childhood treatment she received, similar to the sister's, made her equal love with attention. So if she doesn't have the attention then people don't love her and it takes a lot of work to get through something that's at over like 10 hardwired into your brain. The real assholes here are their parents actively hurting one child in favouring another and making sure the favoured one can't mature like an adult.
One of my sisters tried to cause drama the entire time I was planning my wedding, she even got arrested for DUI instead of coming to our rehearsal dinner. It was honestly a relief that she didn't show up on the day
Did she not show up because of the DUI???
@@DrawciaGleam02 yes she was in jail
Story #2: You said that someone told you that she was talking to about you at a bon fire and you believed that person. You're about to have a baby and you need to evolve beyond high school!!
yeah what the heck high school drama is that?
Maybe those I went to high school with had more maturity than most, but that seems more like junior high or even elementary school behavior to not check out the truth before doing something like that.
I had a miscarriage a month ago when both of my closest friends gave birth to their babies. Less than 2 weeks apart. I told them after both babies were 2weeks old. I didn't want to take their spotlight with my tragedy. I'm okay and they were there if I needed something. That sister is definitely trying to be the center every chance she can get.
The comments on that last one for describing the chest area had me lmao !!!!!! Also, wow, that first one is *definitely* NTA ! The sister obviously uses her illness at every opportunity to take the spotlight away from milestone moments, so I don't blame the bride at all for uninviting her! 😱
A lot of times, when someone is sick from a very young age, they will go out of their way to keep getting attention for their illness. It becomes an addiction for them. I have seen it many times in type 1 diabetics, even to the point that they harm themselves so they will have a crisis and need to go to the hospital. It's very manipulative and harmful to many relationships.
Munchausen, anyone???
munchausen syndrome yes even actual sick people get it. For sympathy
My mom was like this. Every single thing was ALWAYS about her. Now she wonders why her entire family is no contact
My mom was the sick one during childhood. The most she would use it to her advantage was when her sisters would send her their grandfather and ask for gum 😂
My aunt, (her younger sister) has always been jealous of my mom because *of all the trips mom got to go on to the nearby big city.* Those trips were to the hospital. Since then, my aunt will mimic other people's health issues and spread lies for attention. It's so bad, both of her kids went NC.
I dated a guy who would neglect his type 1 diabetes to the point that all his friends were "trained" to instantly react to his (many) emergencies.
It became almost a competition with his friends... as in who brought orange juice more often, or how many times they called the ambulance for him.
Yeah... I dumped him VERY quickly when I noticed this pattern.
Diabetes is a very serious disease, and playing games with it, just so you can get your friends to flock around you, and make yourself the center of attention... nope, no, noppity nope no.
I lost touch with him, and all his friends, decades ago. I do sometimes wonder if he is still alive. He pushed the envelope so hard, and so often, that it wouldn't surprise me that he finally pushed it too far.
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My sister is on the autism spectrum and not only uses it as an excuse to treat people like shit (including my husband - hell naw) but also make every major going on about her sensitivities and stressors triggering her fits. I grew up resenting the attention which was immature and unkind, but it only got worse and now it’s actually understandable. We got in a fight when she was mad my then-fiancé had to go to the ER while we were staying for Christmas so we had to stay an extra few days. I uninvited her from our wedding and my parents totally backed me up. Only people who love and care about you should be there.
as someone else autistic, I used to work with a girl similar to your sister, but she used it as an excuse to get away with sexual harassment, racism and homophobia. She lasted until the night of our Staff Christmas party when she was then thrown out for sexually assaulting a then-19 year old manager whom she was OBSESSED with. Long story short, she was fired 3 weeks before Christmas 2022 and still believes she didn't do anything wrong and we unfairly dismissed her. But a work friend of mine was in on her termination meeting and she had threatened a manager to be beaten up by her brothers which only made her be banned from our store
Being autistic doesn't make you an asshole but autists, like everyone else, are capable of being assholes.
I have Level 3 Autism and that is COMPLETELY unacceptable. Autism isn't an excuse to be a bitch. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
@@lucyhardy-styles-shield2728 wow. Good thing she got banned.
Oof. Good on you and on your parents.
I now have the image of "smuggling raisins" stuck in my head.
same!
Exactly!! 😂
I’m in a wheelchair, and because of my own past with wedding drama, I was ready to be angry at the first OP. Then I heard the letter. It is so opposite to how I behave, where I hate making big announcements about my health, and I prefer to just quietly tell the one or two best blabbermouths and let them do what they do best.
I feel for the sister, as she is dealing with an attention vampire and unfortunately garlic doesn’t work on them. I think her idea is a good one, and I wish her luck.
When my sister and I were younger, our mom got us both presents when we had a birthday. Of course, the birthday girl got more. The non birthday girl, I think, got 2. The reasoning behind this was because my mom and dad adopted us from Russia when we were little, and we didn't know the concept of presents because in the orphanage, you didn't really get any. So our mom didn't want us to feel left out. She only did this for like a year or 2. My sister was 6, and I was 8. After that, our mom stopped.
6:30 YTA. Just because you fell out with boyfriend's best friend's fiance, doesn't mean that your boyfriend should jeopardize his relationship with his best friend that he's known long before you. At that point, you're being manipulative.
In the first one, Charlotte did say "there is a place and a time" and a wedding is not a place to steal the attention from the Couple(bride). Its like when people propose to other people in a wedding or announce they are having a baby, it completely steals spotlight from the original purpose of a wedding....no matter the situation.
Last one - you can get a built in soft bra put into bridesmaids dresses depending on where you buy them. That's what was done at my brother's wedding since the bridesmaids dresses we wore were semi-low back and even a strapless bra would have shown. Kind of like a fabric shelf for "the girls" tailor fit to individual bodies without the discomfort of underwire.
Why even wear bras with underwire if you're small size ? It's like... Pointless.
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I'd get one put in EVERY dress I own! My "girls" need the support. 🥵
@@keerya4179
So much this. Heck, wear a vest or bodysuit, same result without the discomfort
She's keeping it a secret because she knows she is in the wrong. Leaving out the details is making her sound like a better person so she can get validation from strangers. 🙄🙄
The white dress issue...When my daughter got married her MIL showed up in a full blown white lace wedding dress. I was livid, but, I kept my mouth shut because I would never cause a problem that would affect my daughter's relationship with MIL.
All friends spilling red wine on not the bride’s white dresses are heroes and needs to get a hero of the year award 🥇
Literally this! I said "Marie is a hero" to myself while watching that part of the vid. 😂 Alice was buggin', she got what she deserved, just desserts!
For the last bridesmaid that doesn’t want to wear a bra I’m a seamstress and I have worked in the wedding industry I’ve also been the guest people at weddings frantically find because a bridesmaid has magically lost fifteen lbs since the final fitting. Usually the out of town one yes this also happened at my own wedding. The dress no longer stays up and ceremony starts in ten minutes. That is the point when I reach in my purse and pull out safety pins and ask if she’s wearing a bra because the best thing in that situation is to pin the dress to the bra. If you don’t wear one there’s nothing to pin it to so you borrow one or figure out how to get one in less than 10 minutes
Not just that, but she clearly doesn’t realize that others can see nips pointing out, or doesn’t care that others don’t want to see this. Get something comfortable, they exist, especially for us smaller ladies. Your itty bitty possible discomfort is a selfish reason to ruin a friend’s huge day.
The pregnancy excuse that her boyfriend can't be gone for one day while she is pregnant is insane to me. My husband was deployed overseas for most of my pregnancy (had to shovel 2 feet of snow out from around my car to go to the grocery store at 8 months pregnant). Unless you have a medical issue, being pregnant is not a handicap. It makes some things a lot harder, but with enough grit and determination it can be done.
All these parents and sister stories reminds me of one I recently saw. The op found out her parents would be willing to pay for her wedding provided her sister got to walk down the aisle in a wedding dress first. Op and the groom strung them along for an extravagant wedding and hired security to keep the sister out. The parents and sister ended up being humilated infront of all their friends and family
As someone who is chronically ill and always in and out of the doctor and hospital, Anna should be updating the family often when things develop. There is no reason to be waiting. And chances are the family members are already asking Anna how she is and what’s new, if she’s been sick awhile.
I have been in that exact situation of there being a wedding and I had a falling out with the bride but my fiancé was still friends with both and a groomsman at their wedding and I had just had my baby 2 weeks prior. I told him to go even though I wasn’t, my falling out had nothing to do with him or his friendships and I never thought to stop him or say he couldn’t go. There is never a need to deny your significant other just because there is issues with another person pregnant or otherwise.
The fact that OP #2 carefully doesn't say what the falling-out was about is pretty sus, I think...
Screams of immature to say she should already know why, especially when, even in OP’s words, she wanted to try to fix it and she looked confused.
"ALL RISE FOR THE HONORABLE JUDGE CHARLOTTE!!!"...it's true. It NEVER gets old =)
NEVER!!
💯 agree
I absolutely love her turkey gobble!
Literally NEVER!
I use that voice when judging arguments between my children 😂😂😂
My aunt has the habit of wearing white dresses to weddings. She’s done that multiple times. Including at my sister’s wedding. We’ve told her, she doesn’t care.
Bring on the red wine
I have a friend who decided not to go to a childhood friends wedding because her boyfriend who isn’t invited said she’s not allowed to go… the reason was one, because he “doesn’t know” the friend that’s getting married… they have met at many occasions where they spoke and partied. Two, because my friends ex boyfriend is going to be there, they dated 10 years ago.
No one in our group likes the guy, he’s controlling and manipulative towards her. Why do people stay with these types of people… literally love makes people blind…
People shouldn’t be telling their partners they can’t go to friends weddings even if they’re not invited🤦♀️
I have Crohn's and have had two resections. I will quietly excuse myself to the bathroom until I can plaster a smile on my face and continue. I do what I can to not mess up someone's special day.
Oh honey, that's rough. I had a housemate in uni with Crohn's and even though I saw what she'd go through it just didn't fully compute. I hope you have and/or find ways to manage the symptoms to keep it bearable.
Here, to give an informed opinion regarding wheelchair issue:
I was born significantly disabled (quadriplegic) and have used a wheelchair all my life. Obviously, my friends and family know this, so it would freak them out if I would suddenly show up NOT in a wheelchair. That being said, I’ve had that similar shock/reaction. When I’ve seen someone who was previously ambulatory enter into a room in a wheelchair. I everybody gets like this when they see someone in significant health decline with no warning.
It’s obvious that Anna and her family were not raised or exposed to appropriate etiquette regarding chronic illness. There are millions of tools, techniques, ways to manage healthy relationships with family and friends, while at the same time managing, and respecting your own chronic illness and having your needs met. Anna truly needs to work with a rehabilitation psychologist who specializes in therapizing folks with chronic illnesses who are having issues relating to their non-ill family members. I have a ton of empathy for Anna she’s probably experiencing really severe depression in a way that can make it hard for her to appreciate other people’s emotions. Again, obviously not diagnosing her, but totally familiar with this lived experience so those are my two cents.
Agreed. Anna needs to come to terms with her illness as a part of her life. She also needs to stop using it to hurt other people.
I'm one of those therapists! I own a private practice that focuses on working with people experiencing chronic pain, illness and/or disability. It sounds like her and her family need some help and support. I'm a "part time" wheelchair user. So sometimes I show up to events in my wheelchair ( lovingly named Priscilla). But most people in my life understand that sometimes I look like a perfectly healthy person and sometimes I look very sickly and I am in my chair. Is sounds like everyone needs some psychoeducation around chronic illness and how to live with one. Having someone with cancer on the family effects everyone in the family
I love therapizing, it's a great new word for me. I'm looking forward to sharing it with my therapist.
Thank you
That is the problem when narcissists have some form of problem that attracts empathetic individuals. They will weaponize that empathy for supply. Having lived experience with that sort, trust but verify. I agree with Charlotte that we need to know if she only makes these announcements at these key points or throughout life, as well as if she actually goes to the doctor after. While I have empathy, there are a number of people who have invisible illnesses which means no one is required to bend over backwards.
Being disabled myself (wheelchair) and around other disabled folk my entire life. Being sick absolutely can be weaponized by attention seekers. I kind of wonder whether there's some factor of Munchausen's in the sister. I could never imagine announcing whatever life-changing event *only* during my sister's wedding and not before...
I wonder this as well. Like, unless OP left something out, the precision of this does seem odd. Only when her sister has an event? Like, why???
Agreed. Especially because mother is backing her up.
Just a little bit of background. I discovered when I was 22 years old that I had Crohn's disease and, had emergency surgery then and have had 12 other surgeries since. I am now 60.
I had never used it to get attention... My sister asked me to be her maid of honor for her wedding. I ended up in the hospital the week before her wedding and forbade anybody to tell her. The day before the wedding I left the hospital against doctor's orders. My sister never knew any of this until after she got home from her honeymoon. My mom accidentally let it slip.
8:10 - Plus, she never actually explained why the falling out happened, she expected her friend to somehow just magically know like a mindreader....but honestly it is rare that people actually know each other well enough to just know without talking, and even if they do, it's still good to talk it out just to be clear 'cause that's how you get to know each other well enough to ever actually just know anything about what might upset someone and why. OP needs to do some self-reflection and growing, maybe, I think.😅
Sounds like the sick sister has grown to like the attention she gets (maybe nobody paid attention to her before?) because there's no reason to not tell everyone about the wheelchair unless she's looking forward to being fawned over because of it. After the wedding she should start planning events without family, it's a sick cycle that's not going to end anytime soon.
No, she's definitely got attention before. That's exactly why she keeps doing this. She wants the attention that she had when she was sick back. And she's making it clear that she wants all of the attention that goes to her sister for herself.
Especially given the fact her first bout was at a key development stage for the human ego and has shaped the way she sees the world. We definitely need more info, as Char said, as to whether these are the only times she does it and whether she actually goes to the doctor after or is just announcing it.
She probably thinks it is the only way she can earn people's attention and affection. It's also telling that she would use the celebrations of her sister's achievements to make it all about her. She probably has no achievements of her own, nothing to be proud off that could inspire respect.
I love the wine spill story. When my sister in law got married I told her if someone showed up in white id be that person to spill wine. Thankfully no one did
I think every wedding need that Wine Spiller for unruly guests lol.
First story: bride to go on social media asap and poste something like: "Lots of love to my fighter of a sister that canot be brought down by bad fortune. Neither the Wheelchair nor the prospect of her next hospital stay steals her smile. I'm so proud of you, stay strong sis!"
For the one before the last; fun fact: it's legally allowed for a bridesmaid to spill wine on a guest who wears a white dress for a wedding. In fact, it is expected of them to exercise that privilege. Saw it on a Tiktok, & it stuck with me 😜
Oh yes, I saw it on tiktok too so I got curious and search it. So it is a legal law in Europe and one of bridemaids' duty in medieval era (still legal to this day).
While groom's men's duty are helping the groom protect the bride, take the duel or challenge on behalf of the groom, the bridesmaids' duty is to take care of everything to make the bride's day is comfortable. Wine spilling and MIL removal are their duties lol.
I guess my wedding will be held in Europe then 😂@@Magami31
It would be hard to prove that it was intentional anyways. The worse they can do is sue you for the cost of the dress.
With the 'Alice' problem, Marie did a old school maid of honor thing! I love it❤
There should be a wedding rule.
The bride will designate someone to throw red on any guest wearing white , but they will never know when it will happen, they will be paranoid throughout the wedding.
Or have someone sitting at each entrance with a bottle of red wine. If any guest shows up in a white dress, they will be asked politely to go and change their dress. If the guest refuses, the red wine will immediately be thrown on the dress. Have bridesmaids on duty to soil any non-bride white dress they see that might get past the entrance.
I had a highlighter green T-shirt on standby for any person that tried
It oughta be me. I just show up to some random persons wedding, only known as the wine bandit
My late aunt (probably my favourite person ever) had polio. She didn't have mobility from her neck down and only a bit of it in her shoulders and left hand (just 2 fingers). Let me tell you, if you met her you would've stopped noticing her handicap in a _second_ . She was _literally_ the most sarcastic woman I've ever met, and would have verbally disassembled and reassembled you if she even sensed a _hint_ of pity coming from you.
I honestly feel bad for both of the sisters here. The handicapped one is so dependent on the attention she gets from being sick that she's not living anymore. She's become her sickness. Her sickness has become her whole personality. The abled sister is now caught in the crossfire of the social perception of insecure "abled guilt" people have, for which they cannot treat disabled people equally, which includes pointing out reprehensive behaviour.
I hope they can both start living life to the fullest, without letting health problems define/enslave them.
Also, for the last one I have two words: NIPPLE PASTIES
Marie is the mvp of all of those stories. We all need one friend who will do something like that for us.
I don’t even get my 2 year old a present on her cousins birthday, it tells them that when their loved ones get a present they get one. Bad habits
Honestly, if OP doesn't want to wear a bra all because it's "Uncomfortable" she should not be bullied into wearing one. Whenever I get invited to a wedding, I always wear nipple covers, since most of the dresses I wear are either backless, strapless or both. that way, I won't have to worry about "Flashing" anyone.
For the bride upset with her man about being the Best Man for best friend, he respected your wishes and understood your reason for not wanting to go and in turn you disrespect his wishes and friendship because you can get over a grudge you have with the bride? Who raised you? What lever happened to being cordial heck you dont even have to do that because you don't have to go but to expect him to ditch his friend for something that has nothing to do with either of them is beyond.......its just beyond 😮
In two years, her boyfriend will still be best friends with the groom. You and your boyfriend? 🤷♂ (Can you say, "co-parenting"?)
The beef is silly. Some other people were gossiping to her. She didn’t witness it herself. Is she jelly of her bf and the bestie and fiancé’s friendships? Also, op has chosen to make her bf miserable by putting him in a shit position. Let the man be there for his best friend. Also, I wonder if her bf will leave over this. I would.
@apollothehorse exactly, she's being petty and, in my opinion, unreasonable. If she doesn't want to go great, with her personality, she would probably ruin the vibe anyway. But for her to expect her bf to take on her issues as his own and miss out on a monumentous occasion, such as this means she has no idea how to be in a relationship and I don't see it lasting long.
As someone who has survived 3 types of cancer and is in a wheelchair ... I've never once used it for sympathy or to hijack someones spotlight. I think that is beyond tacky and downright classless. I have however been hijacked ... in my wheelchair. I was at a wedding and I was sitting quietly in the corner and someone thought I needed to "Par-Tay". So I was wheeled out onto the dance floor and was being spun around. I thought I was going to barf. But, that person got plenty of accolades for dancing with the disabled chick. I was a bit peeved .. but then let it go and decided to tuck it away for a funny memory 🤣
Had the exact same thing happen to me. I just wished they’d sincerely ask rather than just assume and force-wheel us away 😂😂🙄
That would completely piss me off. What an invasion of your personal space, and to be forced to wheel around when you don't have the power to physically stop it. But at least you seem to have a much more tolerable attitude and that you chose to find a positive out of it.
Sounds stupid and made up
@@TheWinterValkyrie you actually sound stupid
That's one of my fears when in a wheelchair. I feel like I have no control over it and even when I'm being pushed by a nurse ... Or even my mother... My heart is in my throat. Imagine someone grabbing the wheelchair out of nowhere. 😱
For that last story- I’m plus size, but majority of my bras are now bralettes or wireless bras. They’re a huge game changer- I have some that don’t feel like I’m wearing anything underneath my clothes. That OP can handle wearing a bra, bralette, etc for a few hours and find one that’s comfortable enough. Or even pasties, I’m sure that’d be an easy fix as well. It definitely sounds like it’s very noticeable if the bride privately asked OP about it, I think this bride was as respectful and reasonable as she could be.
Exactly. I’ve been bra-less since the beginning of 2020, but I will suck it up and wear a bra for a few hours if I need to. I have sensory processing disorder, meaning that my brain can’t filter out negative or overwhelming stimuli very well, and I often end up focusing more on my discomfort and attempting to fix it rather than focusing on what I actually need to do. If my sensitive, autistic ass can wear a bra for a few hours, so can she.
Heck just put bandaids on the dam nipples. That’s what my mother did after having breast implants. She never wore a bra. She just put bandaids on her nipples when going out lmao. My mom was something else. One reason she didn’t wear a bra. They never bounced. Lmao
I wish those were available in my size. 😢
Wireless bras are a LIFESAVER! Amazon has a LOT of those online and they are awesome!
My only issue with that is then have that same expectation with men cuz I’ve definitely seen their nipples poking from their shirts but nobody makes a big fuss about it for them. But I also understand that it’s probably not a hill worth dying on and she could just wear a comfortable bralette or wireless bra.
"Chest Buttons"??! Never heard that one before and I love iiiiit!!! I'm on the floor and dying 🤣🤣🤣
Chest buttons had me rolling
4:13 regardless if she just reserves them for her sister or not, dropping any announcements on a celebratory that’s not yours, is a BIG NO NO. Even if it’s a positive news or announcement. Rolling up in a wheelchair to a event that’s not yours like this wedding with anyone knowing of the wheelchair is like a white dress😅 don’t pitty the sick/ handicapped hold them accountable
Another cancer patient here:
Sister from story one is absolutely taking advantage. I can say wholeheartedly that I hate being the center of attention, so when the conversation isn't about me or my treatment, I'm actually quite happy. Of course everyone enjoys talking about themselves to some extent, but I hate it when all eyes are on me for the majority of the time. Case in point: just celebrated father's birthday, and with the exception of one five minute conversation, the event was about him and how he plans to celebrate. It ain't that difficult.
First story i completely understand because I had a mother who always in and out of hospitals , spinal disk rupture, mental health, blood clot scares, loss of feeling in legs, overdosing, Hella Hella more. I was upset one day that she was never ever home and I didn't understand my homework cause no one would help me. She then yelled at me "THATS CAUSE I HAVE BREAST CANCER"
She's a narcissist fr (not CAUSE of that but it WAS a tactic on her part yelling that during an argument to win )
I'm sorry for what you went through. I don't think you can just go in and out of the hospital without good reason tho and so if your mother really had those conditions, I don't think she'd have able to fake it. Where was your father in all of this, he needs to be held accountable too
@RaiunHana honey bless your heart but I had parents that saw me as a pet and not a child, my father fought to NOT see me and my sibling. My step dad was "taking care of us" and a horrible horrible person. I lived without clothes, food , water , medical attention, all so my mother could have her smokes and not deal w me.
She had good reaso. To go but would lie to get put faster then wonder why it never worked. The woman was home maybe collectively a month a year during my childhood.
When you watch your mother khs your entire childhood and play the victim with everything she did wrong , youd bitter too.
I never said the b faked it , she didn't, she beat it. They caught it in the earliest stages, but by this point she used her ACTUAL MEDICAL PROBLEMS AS AMMO FOR FIGHTS AGAINST A CHILD.
HER CHILD.
No one was held accountable for what they did cause apparently that's how the world works.
I'm not sure if anyone else mentioned it in the comments, but the friend who wanted to go braless, it might not have even been the bride who had the issue. My incredibly conservative older relatives would have flipped out about a woman not being totally made up before going to a fancy event. The bride may have to spend trying to prevent backlash from her family for having some nipples in her photos. I had a relative who made her bridesmaids dresses. They were structured so that a woman could go braless in them and there wasn't really space for a bra. But she didn't line the bust. So all of the photos of the wedding are a bunch of bridesmaids in a cold room
Chest buttons! I laughed out loud at that one! 🤣