Perfectionism Is Ruining Your Life (What to Do About It)

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  • @aliabdaal
    @aliabdaal  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    ✍Check out my journalling hub here: go.aliabdaal.com/21Y7ag

    • @fisicaDiferente
      @fisicaDiferente 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Interesting topic, because I find your channel and your work 100% perfect. Your editing, way of speaking, intelligence. I watch your videos, and when the animations come in, I think, "How did he do that? I have no idea or skill to do such a thing." So it's kind of disheartening to know that my best doesn't even come close to 20% of what you deliver. I feel limited, and often even think I'm stupid, even though I'm a teacher and author of Physics books here in Brazil. How can we improve to achieve something close to Ali Abdaal's standard?

    • @laurahoussain
      @laurahoussain 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you Ali. Really good video... One thing that has helped me tremendously is to free myself from wanting to control the opinion of others. Also, I have come in contact with my inner critics and trained them to treat me better... totally life-changing. The work I did was inspired from Jay Earley and the Internal Family system... but not only. If you read this comment and you a perfectionnist, try IFS as well. ❤
      There is so much I could say about the topic... I could write a series of books. 😂 Perctionism is a vampire draining the joy out life. Everyone deserves to break free from its grip.

    • @1MELODY_MAESTRO
      @1MELODY_MAESTRO 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      لمست شي احنا بنحسه يوميا شكرا لك ساعدتنا كثيرر

    • @warneredits5052
      @warneredits5052 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Just amazing, thank you.

    • @bookhuggah
      @bookhuggah 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have started uploading videos to my channel since watching your advice about starting

  • @zahinazham
    @zahinazham 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +484

    "I need the perfect camera, perfect mic, perfect lighting before i start my youtube channel". ended up starting my channel 3 years too late

    • @Neditarts.
      @Neditarts. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      Never too late you can start it now, you dont need to be perfect at start , you learn how to be more perfect after you upload your video and understand the mistake of your work
      Hope you to achieve sucess🌸🙏

    • @VectorApprenticeGraphics
      @VectorApprenticeGraphics 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Yeah I can relate, cause it’s been the same for me. Though I started with shorts last month, but am still struggling with being consistent 🫣

    • @justBCheung
      @justBCheung 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Better late than never!
      I still struggle with this for shooting videos, but slowly getting more comfortable with imperfection and just doing

    • @kimkilinski3816
      @kimkilinski3816 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Feel this. I just started something and I hope it works out. But now I'm somewhere in between "I love doing this" and "I hate myself for not starting earlier"

    • @alexmosutheskypirate
      @alexmosutheskypirate 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You're not alone brother

  • @rattlehead999
    @rattlehead999 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +308

    Blame school for being a perfectionist... they literally punish you for failure and don't let you correct yourself after making a mistake, but punish you instead.

    • @kimkilinski3816
      @kimkilinski3816 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Thi-hi-hi-hi-hissss!!

    • @celtpro
      @celtpro 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So glad I did not go to your school, my school for how little attendance I had, encouraged you not punished you, for not being a perfectionist. Mostly home schooled due to having a lot of surgery as a child.

    • @rattlehead999
      @rattlehead999 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@celtpro Every school that fails you and leaves that failure as a mark of your end result is punishing you for failure and want you to be a perfectionist.
      In the real world when you fail, you try again the moment you fail, with the knowledge you got from failing and with reading and learning on the spot afterwards.
      This doesn't apply only to surgeons, pilots and similar professions that actually require perfectionism.

    • @dodgerea8639
      @dodgerea8639 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agreed. That much more so for those who put pressure on themselves to go to highly competitive programs to follow. Really messes with you, while also serving you in confusing ways. It’s not easy to unwind the good from the bad when it’s now a habit to view all output in that way, too.

    • @rattlehead999
      @rattlehead999 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dodgerea8639 The worst part is that the education system produces weak, stupid useless people in 12-20 years and wastes their youth, goes doubly so for STEM, ask me how I know.

  • @em0_tion
    @em0_tion 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Perfectionism feels like the bane of my existence. This is why I currently don't have a job. This is not the perfect job, the perfect CV, the perfect salary... I'm not lazy, but this silly fear of not finding the best solution from the get go is really stunting my progress. Thank you for this dose of realization. 🙏👍

  • @cutsontheway
    @cutsontheway 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    I came across this video, and realized that I am facing this problem all of my time. I try to be perfect in every aspect rather than embracing myself and just start doing what I want to do.

  • @TheSismeon
    @TheSismeon 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    That's such an important topic. I used to be such a perfectionist and put so much pressure on myself that I simply wouldn't look for help, in fear of disappointing the people who said they were proud of me or inspired by my hard work, which lead me to burning out, feeling isolated and overworked. I took some steps to try to fix my perfectionism and imposter syndrome and I made progress but there's still quite a way to go.

  • @bravecarnage6635
    @bravecarnage6635 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    ..I have been battling random anxiety due to thinking I have to be high standards , in a short period.....this is the video I needed....“ progress over perfection "😢😢

    • @kevji
      @kevji 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      So many of us struggle with that feeling of anxiety in striving for excellence, you're not alone.
      You don't have to be anything than exactly what you are, then from there you will naturally start to progress because there is more self-acceptance!

  • @setarehmizani1596
    @setarehmizani1596 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    After watching this, I realized how much perfectionism exists in different aspects of my life and I really have to try to get rid of it.✌️

  • @wilbenportuguez
    @wilbenportuguez 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Thank you for making this video about perfectionism. I have been in the perfectionism trap in the past trying to be the best. I'm recovering from my anxiety and depression and it's been going well that I can say I'm more comfortable in making mistakes and accepting them as learning opportunities.

  • @gloriaobuzome
    @gloriaobuzome 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    This same issues almost made me miss the beautiful opportunity of baby steps.
    Picked up my channel this year and it's been a beautiful experience 😊.
    I'm not getting the traction that I want yet, but I'm so glad that i started. I'm learning so much along the way, and just remember that if there's no beginning because you're seeking perfection, there will also be no ground where you will even have to make an improvement 😊. There's actually so much beauty in imperfect things, because you will have the option of improving it and getting better someday 😊.

  • @reynardmhlahlo9864
    @reynardmhlahlo9864 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Feeling myself as someone who is in the perfectionism trap and I think I am definitely at the part where I am feeling guilty. You publishing this video has helped by verbalising the way I feel..... I am about to just start what I have been avoiding. Thank you Ali.

    • @kevji
      @kevji 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      SO much power in finally leaning into what you resist. I like to say that the Perfectionist Paradox is "what you avoid, you create more of" so it's finally time to lean into what we avoid!

  • @xkz92
    @xkz92 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    To get started I much prefer focusing on the input (e.g. I will spend the next 1 hour researching the topic, bookmarking resources and putting interesting findings on this random doc/ppt) than the ideal output, and if it's outside my comfort zone, I will tell myself "let's do it, and if I'm not good at it (yet) then let's do it badly"

  • @henryliu3770
    @henryliu3770 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ali, thanks so much for creating these videos! I was a perfectionist my whole life which pulled me backwards both academically and professionally. I decide to make a change today and tell myself that something is better than nothing.

  • @vanessaprincesssa
    @vanessaprincesssa 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Perfectionist here, need to start implementing these into my life. Thanks, Ali!

  • @lambotwentyseven
    @lambotwentyseven 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Haven’t watched the full video yet, but this has been my whole life, even though I’ve recognised it in the past I still struggle to start because I don’t want to fail.
    Thank you for the solutions I know will be in this video!

  • @michellecuneo2427
    @michellecuneo2427 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I have watched at least a hundred videos on perfectionism in my journey to letting go. This is definitely the best I’ve seen. Thanks for all the hard work, much appreciated 😊

  • @as_below_so_above
    @as_below_so_above 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Im glad I found this video when I did. Yesterday was one of the worst days I have had in nearly a decade, and a great deal of that pain was from my perfectionism. I spent almost my entire work day yesterday just sitting at my desk and ruminating rather than working. I always beat myself up when I make mistakes and I spiral into negative thoughts fairly easily. I feel like I constantly let myself and others down.

    • @as_below_so_above
      @as_below_so_above 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      But even watching this video made me do some kind of upward social comparison.. It's hard not to feel like a failure

  • @Adityakittoo
    @Adityakittoo 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Being in this circumstance and exhausting myself, today I asked God for help and surprisingly this useful video popped up.

  • @AlwaysPal
    @AlwaysPal 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I was facing difficulty watching your videos 😢. Because all of your videos were in English. But this video I watched in Hindi😮. I think this is a new feature on TH-cam but this is helpful for me.

  • @ricardamaier8462
    @ricardamaier8462 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank you for making this video. I really beat myself up on something in my work yesterday that did not go as I expected it to go. This put me more at ease.

  • @mvvassy
    @mvvassy 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Very helpful. after so many years, i just realized that i fall under perfectionist category. this Video was an eye opener

  • @mannys_faith
    @mannys_faith 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you Ali, as a perfectionist, this vid is helping me to overcome the constant need to be perfect.

  • @alexgb4596
    @alexgb4596 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    This video is aimed at me. Too many nuggets in this video, I am definitely rewatching to take notes.

  • @Dr_Ayman_1
    @Dr_Ayman_1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    0:00 - Introduction
    1:33 - The Productivity Paradox
    3:39 - The Perfectionism Trap
    6:21 - Imposter Syndrome
    8:08 - Set Reasonable Standards
    11:51 - Surrendering
    13:37 - Set Failure As Success
    14:46 - Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone
    16:18 - Sketch Your Goals

  • @penghanng883
    @penghanng883 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is an incredible video Ali! I guess to summarize, getting rid of perfectionism is to allow ourselves to get motivated to "do the work" and not work so hard to the point of burn out. And ultimately, the key to success is to simply put in the effort - day by day, week by week. Amazing lesson.

  • @sudheshnanimmakanti4979
    @sudheshnanimmakanti4979 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Instead of waiting to get a good camera, recording system etc, like I've been waiting for all these years, I've recently completed my 75days. 75 videos challenge. I posted each video every day. Some of them were good and some of them weren't. Doing this challenge put me in a place to push my self and record, edit post my videos each and every day no matter what and now it takes only couple of minutes to do that. It became a part of my routine. I used to plan everything and put them a side, wanted everything to be perfect which eventually lacked consistency. Though, my videos aren't perfect for me they are to others and I posted consistently for all these days.

  • @RobinMWaite
    @RobinMWaite 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The Fear Setting exercise is absolutely brilliant. I always do this with clients over goal setting.

  • @TechWithSabri
    @TechWithSabri 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I had this problem 4-5 years ago, when i was trying to start my youtube channel, but when I realized that i will never start, this year it was my year to start my channel whatever it takes.
    💪

  • @ErnestDuncan
    @ErnestDuncan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    By obsessing over the 'perfect' result, we often overlook the value of the process - the learning, the growth, and even the mistakes that ultimately shape us. By focusing only on the destination, we rob ourselves of the joy and wisdom that comes part and parcel with the journey.

  • @N...660
    @N...660 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Gracias Ali por traducir tus videos al español ya que tiene un gran impacto en mi vida y la mayoría de la comunidad hispanohablante ❤

  • @fahmidasharmin8182
    @fahmidasharmin8182 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I liked the video even before watching it. Nobody talks about this topic but everyone needs to know this.

  • @jay_morelli
    @jay_morelli 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Pragmatism is the way to go. I am a pretty perfectionism with my work and I try very hard to be more pragmatic about it. It is not easy but extremely important

  • @Msrojo1004
    @Msrojo1004 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Ali, Thank you so much for your study and insights. And thank you for presenting it in a way that I can apply it to my own self.
    I live in Australia and am in my mid 60s. I’m working on my Feel Good Productivity in the workplace. … There’s a follow-on title for you.
    For me this means managing a hyper-critical supervisor. The more she is picks on me, the perfectionist and slower I’ve become, and I’m now considering reporting her to my manager, as some of my colleagues have done.

  • @Intensemuch
    @Intensemuch 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is so important for me to hear! I am trying to work towards my dream job and it is so true that failing is such a great learning process! My soccer coach would tell me that success teaches us nothing, but failure teaches us and helps us grow!
    I still need to step outside my comfort and go forward! Thanks Ali! ❤️ I really needed this today!

    • @kevji
      @kevji 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      that's so beautiful to hear! there is so much freedom in allowing ourselves to fail.
      Keep going!

  • @heebakhalid
    @heebakhalid 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Your editor is amazing this video is so satisfying

  • @Chandank007
    @Chandank007 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I don't know how many people even have an idea of this issue.
    I aced my first set of exams. I didn't attempt the next semester because i wasn't prepared enough (the high standards). I have attended everyday of the 3 years, never wrote the exams because i didn't study enough to ace again. Wasted that 3 years. Mental health issues said "Hi".
    So yeah listen to him, don't make the mistakes i have made.
    Just do it❤

  • @drsravyaparashar
    @drsravyaparashar 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I know how distressing it is to be a perfectionist. We are people with a hypercritical mindset, low self worth, and an Obsessive Compulsive Personality (not to be mistaken with OCD). We painstakingly scrutinise trivial details and often miss the bigger picture. Ruminating over high quality in turn drains our minds and delays the outcome. The purpose is missed and most times we ourselves are not happy with the outcome because there is no more happy hormone left to access the reward !
    One thumb rule to always remember - ‘quantity over quality’! Get the job done with mediocrity which is still better than never getting it done in time.

  • @ajedreznoventa
    @ajedreznoventa 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I loved the part of the video dedicated to Buddhism, thank you. I have been interested by this eastern religion/philosophy for several years, and as an occidental citizen (Spanish to be precise 😄), I found the book "Don't Take your Life Seriously" by Ajahn Sumedho superb. Have a good weekend everyone!

  • @onepieone
    @onepieone 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Currently procrastinating on updating my CV for my upcoming job interview that has been set for nearly 2 weeks now. 3 more days to go and I feel this massive dread of not being good enough and to withdraw my job application just to get out of this feeling. I was on the fence so I decided to watch this video. So at least I started to get my laptop out and start to write things down.... and I am still on the fence. One hand I am grateful for the opportunity to even be offered an interview for a government job (quite a big deal where I come from), but on the other hand, it was too much pressure and I don't think I want it anymore....

  • @TinaCentaurides
    @TinaCentaurides 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Perfectionism is good just for when you are Famous enough!
    Thanks Ali Abdaal ❤

  • @crystal-f9y
    @crystal-f9y 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video but I also wanted to mention that I read your book. It is the book I needed! So many other productivity books have big ideas, lofty goals, or are just outright condescending. This book was a breath of fresh air. It is so practical, realistic, and relatable! It has actually helped and improved my productivity. I will definitely read it again regularly. Well done Ali! 👏🏾

  • @sejalb725
    @sejalb725 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Absolutely amazing timing, I was getting crippling anxiety just now

  • @Someone-qr2bm
    @Someone-qr2bm 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This really resonated with me, everything in this video and all the tips given in the video were actually the key to my liberation from perfectionism. It had become a loop in my life and was actually was what held me back all the more. It took me so much to go from all or nothing, to something is better than nothing. It is okay sometimes to just be. Also it becomes really suffocating when you're just focused on making something perfect that it steals creativity and joy from it, and you become the hamster on a wheel. Also you are NOT your accomplishments you're just you, society may not like that true, but unless it causes anyone intentional harm, it is okay to be just that.
    Another tip is to reward yourself a lil something after you're done with a task so that it makes it a Lil more enjoyable to begin.
    Also, really grateful for this video, I wish it had released before but I'll return to it everytime I need🌊

  • @okonekanem2789
    @okonekanem2789 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ali just spoke to me directly 😢

  • @jackoswald7392
    @jackoswald7392 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is the best video you have ever created. Thank you 🙏

  • @LeVienne07
    @LeVienne07 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Making a conscious decision to celebrate small achievements no matter how insignificant it may seem can also be a step in right direction alongside stepping out of one's comfort zone.

  • @yashmundhra3313
    @yashmundhra3313 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video was literally all I needed. Cannot relate more with each and every word you spoke in the video. I am personally facing this situation and was scrambling to handle it. This video came as a ray of light! Thank you!

  • @deezombiedude
    @deezombiedude 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It's a struggle. For me, I hold myself to high standards simply because forgiveness is just artificial. To have room for mistakes, another must be able to help provide that room.. it just doesn't come naturally, let alone do people do it willingly. Having gone through needing to drop out of a program of choice in college by my parents' command for not doing as well in my first semester, it's hard to believe that a mistake isn't the end of the world. Forgiveness comes at a cost, so unless someone is willing to provide or somehow you land in an area where your mistakes can easily be correctable, no approach to learning is viable.
    Then again, maybe I'm just too laser focused on the negatives here.

  • @mannya_realtor
    @mannya_realtor 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Perfectionism definitely hinders my growth. I struggle with putting something out when I KNOW I COULD do better 😣

  • @tabussumtamanna5949
    @tabussumtamanna5949 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Ali .You taught me to think differently .Though span of life is limited but there is no shortage of reasons to live well 😊

  • @Sabrinamay24
    @Sabrinamay24 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amazing video. I’m trying hard not to be a perfectionist, but I find it hard to convince myself, and I procrastinate a lot because of perfectionism. As an Asian, though my parents are always supportive and they never put too much pressure on me, I still feel I have to be perfect. Looking at my friends, it seems like everyone has achieved something in their lives while I’m still struggling to find the right career path for me. Honestly sometimes I feel quite left behind

  • @tobiasfenkart9892
    @tobiasfenkart9892 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    At 10:53, when Ali said: "What does good enough mean to you?". We see a clip of a dirty laptop screen. I wonder if that was intentional by the editor, since a shot like this is obviously not perfect. I liked it from a filmmaking perspective :)

  • @nicodemos.
    @nicodemos. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This vídeo is so necessary, can’t wait to watch the full episode, and understand from a specialist what defines a perfectionist

    • @kevji
      @kevji 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      perfectionism can be one h*ll of a drug! and one that we don't even know we're on.

  • @stcmkl
    @stcmkl 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for making audio in differents language, as a French I'm so happy !!!

    • @samainaurelie1525
      @samainaurelie1525 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Savez vous comment écouter en anglais si on le souhaite, depuis la France ?

  • @jonathanmw4216
    @jonathanmw4216 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you Ali and team. You’ve encapsulated lots of helpful tips in a practical and accessible way.

  • @aminuabdulazeez5774
    @aminuabdulazeez5774 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤ God I love ali's approach to action. It's not the distination that matters, it's the journey to the distination.

  • @Gokulanandas_714
    @Gokulanandas_714 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Just what I neede to stop worrying and start preparing for my Biology exam on Monday, Thank You Ali!!🙂

    • @yumshin
      @yumshin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Another CBSE student 😂

    • @Gokulanandas_714
      @Gokulanandas_714 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@yumshin ICSE Dah...

    • @yumshin
      @yumshin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Gokulanandas_714 my bad btw what's with your username ?

    • @Gokulanandas_714
      @Gokulanandas_714 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@yumshin what's wrong with it?

    • @yumshin
      @yumshin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Gokulanandas_714 your name is Goku?

  • @jaylarcher7410
    @jaylarcher7410 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love your book! I am a reading tutor for children ages 3 and up and I talk about parent mindset around learning all the time and how children thrive when they learn through play. I will be doing a series on your book on my IG and facebook community, on how they can implement the principles in your book to their child's education.

  • @starle4547
    @starle4547 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I absolutely love this. thank you so much Ali!!

  • @Nancymusic1717
    @Nancymusic1717 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was just watching part time youtuber academy and then i thought i have to have the perfect lighting and upgrade my camera and then i found you have uploaded this video!! Thank you so much Ali for your advice and push you give us !

  • @lightboardsaustralia4448
    @lightboardsaustralia4448 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks Ali, this was super helpful.
    You’re a Legend.

  • @TRYIT_ON_YOURSELF
    @TRYIT_ON_YOURSELF 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Great interview with Thomas! It’s really interesting to listen to other point of view

  • @AhmedHattab-zv7ww
    @AhmedHattab-zv7ww 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    هذا رائع اللغة و طريقة الحديث انسان مثقف و محترم و كاريزما ما شاء الله عليك ❤

  • @techkickin
    @techkickin 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love to see a video about Ramadan from your channel as a Doctor and productivity expert 😍

  • @mansoorbinabdulaziz9922
    @mansoorbinabdulaziz9922 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Asalamualikum warehmatullah ,ramzan mubark brodrs nd sisters

  • @gosuperva
    @gosuperva 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just watched your video on beating perfectionism with Professor Curran's insights! It was super enlightening and totally resonated with me. Thanks for sharing those awesome tips! Can't wait to put them into action! 💪😊

  • @1littlecoder
    @1littlecoder 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Tbh, starting a youtube channel with a perfect kit has much more compounded effect than starting scrappily! It's not often acknowledged but i've checked multiple genres and concluded youtube rewards high quality!

  • @plainyanieyoga
    @plainyanieyoga 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you. I am not that smart goal person , as I always think that life is full of unexpected things. I would prefer setting a clear open ended goal and thrive my best to see how far I would go.

  • @ariafelisha
    @ariafelisha 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love how “perfectionsim trap” is spelled in this video about perfectionism.

  • @SylwiaSkarbecka
    @SylwiaSkarbecka 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I started my first blog in 2006 and perfectionism prevented me from achieving my goals, especially when it came to starting a TH-cam channel. It was only when I started working on perfectionism that I realized that there is never a good enough project or the right moment to start a TH-cam channel. starting everything over again was my nightmare....

  • @katiescape
    @katiescape 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    At your section about procrastination I admired your macbook so much I started googling 'apple mac wrap covers' instead of listening. Procrastination do be hittin real. TIME TO FOCUSSSS.

  • @missminty1996
    @missminty1996 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just started taking content creation seriously this year, starting with TikTok, and it is so hard to see videos flop and have comparison syndrome.
    I watch your videos every single day so that I don’t feel discouraged about my efforts. Keep making these videos, they help so much. You’re the best!

    • @Dondillilochevrolet
      @Dondillilochevrolet 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is not a good idea lol he pushes over productivity and he’s biased as he had major success. It’s not reality. He’s an exception. Be carful with who you compare unrealistically too and it’s ok to unplug from hustle content if it’s hurting you

  • @Neditarts.
    @Neditarts. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Your examples in your video are so good 😍😍👌👌👌thank you so much for your awesome videos🙏🙏🙏🌸🌸

    • @JustHennaArtist
      @JustHennaArtist 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Heya !! Do have interest in mehndi art ??🦋☺️❤️

  • @rj13bayne2
    @rj13bayne2 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Literally just realized this week that the combination of perfectionism and trying to set smart goals was contributing to my struggle 🤦🏼‍♀️ 😅

  • @justBCheung
    @justBCheung 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    This is the video I need!
    Saw the notification and clicked so fast

    • @bravecarnage6635
      @bravecarnage6635 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Mn..me too this the video I needed

    • @vishalsharma00991
      @vishalsharma00991 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I Just created video about this

  • @ismail-olasunkanmi
    @ismail-olasunkanmi 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you so much for this video. I needed it

  • @justinortizluis2400
    @justinortizluis2400 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    this video came out at the perfect time, thank you so much ali!

    • @ltpdogtrainingNJ
      @ltpdogtrainingNJ 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same here! No coincidence! Very accurate & inspiring content from Ali!

  • @SithumMihiranga-mv2ob
    @SithumMihiranga-mv2ob 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's hard to get out of the loop of perfectionism once you started it. People start to expect for from you each an every passing day.

  • @shavy07
    @shavy07 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much Ali, this video is gold

  • @FrankBendler
    @FrankBendler 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As a German native speaker : hey Ali the translation to another language works very well. Viewable. I still watch it in the original.

  • @adoocree
    @adoocree 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes, I'm embracing mediocrity :")
    That's what I needed today, thank you!! There's nothing wrong with being mediocre, just relax and enjoy the process

  • @DannyHatcherTech
    @DannyHatcherTech 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My sports coaching degree experience makes me question why more people don't take the degree.... self-help/learning science seems to always fall back to the sports studies I read in my first year.
    The concept of periodization is what I am thinking about throughout most of this video.
    PS: Looking forward to hearing back about the PTYA student supporter application 👀

  • @OOComfortZone
    @OOComfortZone 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This was such a good video and deeply resonates with me! Thank you for this video! I love the idea of "good enough"

  • @user1999-x3n
    @user1999-x3n 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is a wonderful video. It is not very specific yet value adding and that makes it very relatable, be it for a student or a working individual or a at home individual. Thank you! Definitely a video worth watching multiple times to get the most benefits out of.

  • @munmunima9001
    @munmunima9001 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Overcoming perfectionism in summary :
    1. Set reasonable standards
    2. Surrendering (wabi- sabi)
    3. Set failure as success
    4. Stepping out of your comfort zone
    5. Set nice goals

  • @freelanceguyzach
    @freelanceguyzach 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You continue to inspire me in my TH-cam journey! Thank you so much!

  • @SchwarczSarah
    @SchwarczSarah 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for this wonderful insights!
    I feel very seen! Started my YT-Channel in February and I'm struggling to put out one video in 2 weeks (my goal one video in 1 week). My standards for my first videos are set way too high!
    Thanks so much! Now I now how I can achieve my goal of making one video a week 😍

  • @CHEFPKR
    @CHEFPKR 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When I work on new menu items, it's never perfect the first time. We would go through dozens and dozens of iterations before landing on one that is "good enough".

  • @a.ahmadi5872
    @a.ahmadi5872 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I kind of needed this video. During the past years I lost so many opportunities just because I thought I was not ready enough for that. It is really sad when I look past.
    May I give you a feedback?
    For me you speak a little fast and makes it hart to concentrate and follow on what are talking.
    I do follow your content and enjoy it.

  • @ІгорБовт-г4с
    @ІгорБовт-г4с 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for great job! Really interesting and educational video. If be honest, this video opened my eyes on term “perfectionism”, because all my life I thought it’s something positive and correct. But reality is another and our distorted perception makes a lot of problems for us… problems, that we don’t notice. I guess the main problem starts from school with stupid marks system, from childhood with old education methods. But later this problems transfer in other parts of our life and it makes it realy more difficult

  • @OlgaCreator
    @OlgaCreator 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    For me, when I have critic (or manipulations) from other people, I feel like I am a bad person, but my ego riots "It is not true", and I burn outside or inside

  • @wantingwang6836
    @wantingwang6836 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Much needed video!! Thank you Ali:)❤

  • @mahamkoaiua
    @mahamkoaiua 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    for me i was like: i need to wake up at 5 am to work,i need the best laptop to work while it could be done with my previous laptop at least 50% of it,i need to get protien powder befor starting my gym member ship..... thanks for the video ali, it will help me more and more to overcome perfectionisim

  • @TheProductivityDoctor
    @TheProductivityDoctor 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The dangers of perfectionism are so underrated!

  • @bedhead-studio
    @bedhead-studio 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'm so happy to see you wearing a blanket sweater. I wear them in my own TH-cam videos, but I often worry about others opinions.

    • @Goodz2010
      @Goodz2010 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      stop caring about others opinions

    • @bedhead-studio
      @bedhead-studio 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@Goodz2010 That's the goal

    • @Goodz2010
      @Goodz2010 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      hopefully you can achieve that sometimee soon ;)@@bedhead-studio

  • @eliasmantilla523
    @eliasmantilla523 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sinceramente que tengo ganas de llorar. El perfeccionismo me ha ralentizado. Está información es oro

  • @PokhrajRoy.
    @PokhrajRoy. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    “The perfect is the enemy of the good.”
    Something I’m still tussling with. Mostly because no one’s asking me to be perfect. Atleast not directly.

  • @cdroxj
    @cdroxj 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Best teacher have ever had existed

  • @whybhav
    @whybhav 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ok mr. ali swagged tf out abdaal

  • @leadgenjay
    @leadgenjay 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Perfection can be the enemy of progress. Instead of aiming for flawless, focus on consistent, small improvements.