Thanks to Sakuraco for sponsoring our video! Use our code "RNJ" to get $5 off of your first Sakuraco box team.sakura.co/racheljunadventures-SC2401 now! WOOBOY it's been a long time since we just sat down and talked about ourselves to the camera and... I'm so nervous?! It was really fun and I feel like we have so much we could say about our relationship after all this time, so if you guys also/still enjoy these types of vids please let me know??
I really had missed your "sit down and have a chat about anything" videos! I love the cozy, casual feel of them. Feels like just hanging out with friends! Happy 14 years together and I hope we still get to enjoy your videos for years to come ❣
Rachel mentioned she doesn’t know what the public wants. I can’t speak for everyone, but what I want is to see you guys. Doesn’t matter if you’re cleaning the beach, going to a festival with friends, purchasing stuff for a DIY project…. I’m here for the vibe, because you two are amazing people! ❤ Not to mention the cats! Such a bunch of cute ball of fluff
I found the channel because of cats (and Japanese moving company) and I come back to see how much time Jun spends filmings cats when he is supposed to make a video of whatever Rachel is doing.
I was thinking this exact thing. I remember in their early videos thinking he seemed like he was always unhappy/reluctant to participate in videos. Since then he’s become so fun and goofy on camera!
“He’s a very mentally healthy person, which, as a not mentally healthy person, makes me angry” GIRL SAME 😭 literally this is exactly the relationship I have with some people in my life.
I also complain a lot less if others already do. But if noone complains and everyone is just fine... well, if there seems something wrong and annoying to me: someone has to complain about it XD
In Portugal we call it either "lugar do morto" which means "seat of the dead" (because it used to be the most likely seat for a person to die in a car crash) or "lugar do pendura" which means "hitchhiker's seat". So yeah, none of them very positive.
Honestly, if I met Jun in the US, i'd believe he was born here. He has little to no accent now, which is incredible for someone who has never even lived abroad. Jun, you should be proud of your skills, it's rare and amazing!
Yeah. Tour guide or interpret may become a nice avenue if job is slow or lacking. That or Japanese teacher... in fact anything teacher if we judge by how his kitty kitchen class is going.
@@lindsiriathe first time I watched one of their videos, it was focused on the cats and Jun was behind the camera so I just heard his voice. I thought he was American.
I love how Jun has opened up when talking. He used to seem shy but he's definitely much more expressive and lively now. And it's been great watching Rachel be so creative with everything from beauty to fixing up the bathroom. I love how you've both grown together. After 16 years together, my husband and I have both changed in so many ways. We've definitely grown because of each other. I also have the whole spending money problem. I'm like "this is cute. not for $20 it isn't!" and my husband will just throw it in the cart. Aggressive support XD. He's my rock in life.
2:26 "Jun has a sometimes infuriatingly positive mindset. He's a very mentally healthy person, which as a not mentally healthy person, makes me angry" is extremely relatable
It could be he's just hiding and suppressing anger and annoyance because it's not socially acceptable in Japan to express it. There has to be some expression of "negative" emotions to be mentally healthy.
@2degucitas this is accurate. You can't really talk about your mental health in japan as it is seen as you are a selfish person that can't help others. It isn't healthy.
@@2degucitas Agreed. I'm a very "it's fine, no worries" kind of person on the outside, but "very worried 24/7" on the inside. It's just that when I've tried to open up, people have downplayed my concerns or flipped the focus on themselves, so I keep things to myself now. Plus, I tend to surpress strong emotions to avoid the discomfort of experiencing them, which can leave the impression of being mature and balanced when in fact, it's the total opposite. Not saying it's the case with Jun, but people's inner worlds are a lot more complex than their smiles let on and we should be careful with the unhealthy/healthy labels.
@@brittm1960 the fact that he is feeling stable makes him healthy. As andrew tate said, people should have grasp on their emotions. Recognize them, but dont let negative emotions affect you.
@3:38 , I wouldn’t call it complaining, as an American I would call it commiserating. Which is basically a fancy word for complaining as a group lol. As Americans we do use ‘complaining’ as a way of bonding. “Gosh the weather is awful out there.” “The Yankees are awful this year.” “Traffic on the expressway is terrible today!” “Can you believe the price of milk?” It’s not complaining for the sake of complaining, it’s the acknowledgment we’re sharing a common experience!
Yeah, I guess this misunderstanding definitely comes from culture shock. The two culture originate "complaining" from different hidden agendas and that's completely fine. They can understand where their SO is coming from, still, hard to shake off your meaning of the action.
but it has to be done in moderation because if there is too much "commiserating" or "group bonding" as you call it in this way then it's not good. It makes you sound like a very critical, sarcastic, or negative person all the time. Learning to be a positive, likeable, or a reasonable person will cause you to change your wording too. "I hope the weather changes more comfortably soon." "Hopefully the Yankees train harder and do better next year." "Traffic congestion on the expressway is really slow." "The price of milk has gone up again."
I think Chinese in general are just like Americans, no matter where the Chinese is from, be it China, Singapore, Malaysia, etc. We complain as a way to give vent to anger and disappointment, and to people who prob feel the same way. I think it's healthy to complain instead of bottling up but to do it on trivial things and on an every basis can get tiresome to the one who complains and to those who have to listen. Japanese in general may complain little, but that bottle up feeling may manifest in more dangerous ways, like suicide, bullying, stabbing etc. Also because Japanese don't verbalise their thoughts even in things they have a strong opinion about, you wonder sometimes to believe what they say due to them being overly cautious about offending people with their opinions. Edit: To anyone who disagree with what I say about Japanese in gen, check out what the Japanese who hv left Japan say about their own people's reticence of opinions, work culture etc: th-cam.com/video/sHIAQP7OTS8/w-d-xo.html
@@ymhktravel whoever said to vent in order to release that bottled up frustration & anger to avoid potentially regretful violent acts, gave really bad advice
I used to have it bad. I'm good now but I was bad. Like I secretly loved pink but would pretend like I didn't because it made me feel superior all for guys to be able to say that I'm better than the other girls.
I think there's a big generation in Western society right now that was taught to dislike and judge women for about everything. We were taught basically every type of woman is wrong. It's finally shifting away from that, and we're allowed to be who we want, but it really reached a peak in the 2000s and girls growing up at that time had to internalize it.
It used to be so bad for me. It came from jealousy and insecurity. Once I got over that I'm a girl's girl and rarely does the internalized misogyny pop up and when it does I shut that shit down immediately.
I've personally seen more internalized misandry than internalized misogyny but both are real and have the same roots as to why one would become like that. 1) They're taught to hate themselves and others of the same sex, either by family members, school staff, social media, entertainment, influencers and/or propaganda. 2) They had really bad experiences with the same sex, such as bullying and betrayal. 3) They witnessed others of the same sex do terrible things to other people and/or to their loved ones. 4) They were the only son/daughter in the family thus naturally grew to like and adopt things those around them did and enjoyed, thus thinking what is typically normal for boys/girls is weird. 5) Out of pure jealousy because they aren't getting attention from the opposite sex while others are, thus resort to demonizing and insulting other men/women, portray themselves to be an ally and what the opposite sex desires just to have a chance of getting a romantic partner or laid out of desperation - also known as a 'pick me' (best examples of this are JustPearlyThings, Rachel Wilson, and a good portion of male feminists).
Okay so my MIL always taught my husband the phrase “I’d rather know twice than not at all”. This is a great mindset to not let things like “back seat driving” bother you. You just have to understand that the person pointing things out doesn’t do it because they think the other person is dumb, they do it because they care. And the one time they point something out that you don’t see might be really important so you don’t want to discourage them from speaking up! We also call the passenger seat the co-pilot seat and that helps make it less of a weird thing and more of a fun / helpful thing.
I feel the same way. I'd rather annoy the driver by pointing out things that they did actually notice than have something bad happen because they didn't see something that I saw.
Honestly whatever you're interested in you can propably make videos and we will enjoy them. A lot of us started following for Japanese culture stuff when we were younger but cooking, cats, home building, gardening, health, diy's, everything has been interesting. Most of us are propably adults now and we just enjoy having adults talk about whatever is going on in their lives. We enjoy you as personalities and whatever you are passionate about you have a way to make it entertaining. Love from Finland, I hope you and furbabies are healthy. ❤
This comment makes me feel nostalgic. I've been following Rachel for an extremely long time. I was in my mid-20s at the time. She, her life and her relationship with Jun have always been an inspiration to me. The fact that they are still in a happy relationship makes me really happy. 🙂
As a recently-diagnoses autistic, I realise that I always used negativity and complaining as a way to make conversations, because I had trouble relating to people outside of my interests and hyperfixations.
Completely me. I was run through the ringer working in customer service for 5 years and I still can't have "normal" conversations with people without restrained negativity. People have always disliked me for it, but it really feels like I either don't talk, don't connect, don't socialize...or I just do all those things really imperfectly, and keep living. Idk. It's hard. (Autistic too)
I've got a question, I am suspected of having autism and I have always had an extreme interest in both psychology (specifically autism) and Japanese culture. Am I the only one who has seen a lot of similarities in how autistic people and Japanese society generally seem to function? From what I have seen, a lot of Japanese based mannerisms and general social structures seem like they would be much easier for an autistic person to function in compared to, let's say, an autistic person trying to function in America, where it is expected for people to do things like: make eye contact, make small talk with everybody, even physically touch people regularly by patting their back sometime or touching their shoulder before passing by them. America often seems more like a generally more emotional and free willed society compared to Japan, which is often perceived as a more logical/structured society almost making america feel like it is very incompatible for autistic people. And like Rachel talked about, myself and a lot of autistic people I've met seem to have similar struggles with the arguments of only saying, "I love you" in very serious/specific situations or not saying it at all, pointing things out as a passenger just making sense but people often taking it as an insult, and PDA being uncomfortable. I don't know, I have been thinking about this for years, when I started learning more about how their schools are structured and how they seem to function more through strict rules and structures whereas Americans are notorious for being terrible at following rules and generally seen as more expressive, free flowing, and defiant. This may all be coincidental, or me just projecting my interest in autism onto my interest in Japanese culture, but I have always wondered if it were possible for certain cultures to be better suited for certain types of brains due to them possibly having a larger percentage of their population having a specific disorder, like autism, but being undiagnosed. If that were the case it theoretically could lead to their leaders also having a higher percentage of people who are neurodivergent, leading to rules being proposed that would make the most sense for functioning with their disorder. And if there was a higher percentage of their populace with the same undiagnosed disorder they would most likely think the same way and would be likely to support those rules. Slowly creating a society that would be built to better support that type of disorder. I don't know, these are all things I have thought about for a long time now but have never had anybody who had any interest in both autism and Japan to share the thoughts with, so if yoy read this far, thank you for coming to my TED talk and I'm very curious if anybody else has ever wondered the same things. P.S. this has a lot of HUGE generalizations and I understand that no two people are the same, let alone whole demographics of people. I am strictly speaking on the possibility of certain countries having higher percentages of specific disorders and that leading to a society that would better support/be more comfortable for people with that disorder to function in. I'm also hinting at a personal hypothesis of Japan possibly having a higher percentage of autistic leaders/people in the past, leading to a society that could be more attuned for autistic people. And I am in no way trying to say that I am definitely right or that what I'm saying is fact. I'm also not trying to insinuate that all Japanese people are autistic or that all autistic people act the same way as Japanese people. I am only trying to share a coincidence that I have noticed and a really wild theory that I made to try and explain it. If anything I said is offensive or disrespectful I apologize profusely and will do my best to correct my mistake
I've always called the person in the front passenger seat, "co-pilot." The co-pilot has jobs: looking out for blind spots, re-wrapping food bought on the road (so the driver can eat while driving and not spill), changing the radio, helping with directions or spotting destinations, and spotting speed traps.
Seconded. Help keeping the driver focused and aware. Especially if it was a long drive, or at night. I can't drive, but I'll talk to the driver and such for the whole drive.
I always tell the person in my passenger seat when I need help. XD Like, I'm from an area where we don't have animals darting out into the road. So if I'm driving at night especially and I have a passenger I'm like, "Yo, your job is to help me took for animals." Sometimes the passenger doesn't have a job. But sometimes they do. XD I just ask them to do what I need them to do.
Totally agree; the co-pilot, when I'm driving on a road trip, keeps me awake, keeps an eye on the road for safety, helps with food, and so far as I'm concerned doubles the chances of getting where we want to go unharmed and happy. If I go on trips alone I'm always a lot more anxious without someone beside me who can see what I can't. And the co-pilot is the navigator; it's so much better to travel together!
honestly so interesting to hear jun talk about how language offers permission for different personality traits, its so true that culture seeps in subconsciously
I love that Jun uses Japanese and English words together in the same sentence! I used to do that with Spanish because some words just sound better in certain languages
I do that in German and English with my kids (and other people who know both languages). Some words just work better for expressing ideas in one language than the other.
I live in Southern California and took Spanish in high school and French in college. Now when I speak Spanish I sound like I'm from Mexico's French colonial period with the mash up of languages.
I live on the east coast of Canada where there are large pockets of French communities, so a lot of folks mix English and French together. People either call it franglish or the specific area I'm from chiac. It can sometimes be difficult to understand because you have to use different parts of you brain constantly and depending on where you are the accents can be real thick and names for things different even between Nova Scotia and New Brunswick
A Canadian here who enjoys listening to you both and watching your adventures in life. I'm 79 next month and was with my husband for 60 years. You have a healthy, loving and respectful relationship and long after I'm gone I'm certain you will still be the same. You are nice people and it makes me feel better about the human race knowing that there are people like you in the world. I began watching because of your cats but keep watching because of you two. Love from Alberta. Xxx💕👩🏻🦳
You can also call it the place for "apukuski" (drivers helper) or "kartanlukija" (map reader). So many names are used, but that one is definitely proof of our dark humour 😂
they don’t seem happy to me. she seems anxious and worried to fix herself according to his standards and he seems avoidant and dismissive of her feelings, at times even annoyed when engaging with her. i don’t know how everyone doesn’t see it. it’s right on their faces and body language. being avoidant and dismissive of another’s feelings is actually emotional abuse and she being so fixated over fixing and changing herself instead of being received by him and embraced emotionally… i can tell who holds the power in the relationship. i hope they can find a truer and more authentic harmony.
@@blue_sky_bright_sun7599 ok maybe the last part was a bit dramatic but still, this is the type of consequences that people of this mindset should face.
I wish you were correct about good mental health being common, but with the ongoing pandemic, political situation and economic crisis across the globe, it isn't.
@@katiehettinger7857You do also see people talk about the negative more than the positive. So you’ll see on the internet and the news about people who are unwell. That’s not to say there are no mental health problems but I do think people often forget that the internet and news isn’t every day life. Like after reading a lot of Reddit stories I was convinced for a couple months every relationship sucked now and saying was horrible and no one was nice me everyone was controlling or toxic because that’s all I saw. Then I realized that a big majority of people you meet will actually be chill and have no clue about the deep creepy internet things and opinions I’ve had to bleach my eyes over.
Yeah it's not for a lack of trying. Mental illness often isn't just willed away by wanting to be more something. At least I have never heard of anyone going "i am stopping my anger issues now" or something similar, if it was that easy, why wouldnt everyone do that...
Not really, most “normal” people actually have unhealthy minds, they just dont talk about it. Jun ACTUALLY has a healthy mindset, which is why its rare.
The backseat driving made me laugh I'm from Canada, and I agree with Jun, but also with Rachel! When I'm at a stop sign, I ask my wife if cars are coming on "her side" and expect her to look out the window and let me know if she sees anything coming, so I can focus on the left side and get in the lane. She hates it and says I need to drive myself, which I do, but if you're sitting there also looking at oncoming traffic, make yourself useful! 😂
When you ask. Or if there is a valet reason for someone to react. I am fine with it. It becomes a issue when someone information you just don't need and is more distracting than helping. I did it my self last week siting in the car with my mother. she was about to cross a red light and I warned her. Wich she did appreciate.
I have the habit of saying "you're good this direction " when we are getting ready to turn. My thinking is the driver can't see through me and might miss something .
@@Mommee77 It really helps when you cross a rout that would fall behind the doorpost. (about 4 to 5 a clock.) In a empty car you would still not be able to see.
I have mobility issues and so does my father, so it's hard for either of us to turn around and look out the back window to see anything behind us. And we're not rich enough to afford a new vehicle with backup cameras. Anyway, i got into the habit of watching out the back and on my side of the car to call out for any traffic. Now i live on my own and whenever I ride with someone that habit is still there to watch for traffic on my side and call out "you're clear on this side" or "you got [X number of] cars coming".
Canadian here! My partner and I do this with each other too. Especially helpful when you're making a large turn without traffic lights. We also do this when jaywalking 😅
i like how Jun doesn’t like to generalize when it comes to culture. it’s really important not to generalize and feel like we need to all compartmentalize each other and i am working on this every day!
Rachel gave me an existential crisis talking about being a tomboy and how internal Misogyny influenced that. It spoke to me so deeply. I was a huge tomboy and rejected anything girly and tried to be the different kid so bad! It was authentically how I felt at the time but I didn't know it could have been subconciously influenced by misogyny. gah!
You're not alone. I was (unintentionally) raised to believe that those feminine traits/habits/perspectives were frivolous and/or useless, or even straight burdensome. Not true. Not true At All. Its been an unlearning process, letting myself investigate and enjoy the more feminine aspects of life, and not feeling shame for it.
@@X3nophiliacSame. Even the “oh you’re a girl. WHEN YOU GET OLDER AND MATURE, you will start liking 💐 feminine 💐things and being a Real WomanTM” like having tomboy interests or personality is something immature and meant to be outgrown.
That's how I felt! I genuinely didn't like what would be considered stereotypically "feminine" things at the time but I did judge other girls for it and that's where my issue is. @@X3nophiliac
I don't think there has ever been a video by Rachel & Jun that I haven't actively enjoyed. The DIY stuff is great, the cat stuff is lovely, the chatty videos are super interesting. I love seeing Japan through your videos. Keep up your amazing work! Do what makes you happy, through that you make ys happy 😊
Happy (nearly) 14 years together!! I didn't think about how cringing at your younger self means you've grown- makes me feel a bit better about my cringiest moments 😅 I hope you two continue to stay happy and healthy with the cats!!
I used to a complained a lot person so I feel Rachel. Then a smart friend who is a medical school lecturer stopped me once I was started complaining and make me change my mind to a positive way 😊 Somwetimes we did not realized how we was acting in a negative way until a positive one show us and repaired us
A garden update please! It's been 9 months since the trees were purchased and it's fun to follow along as the garden is adapted to your wants and needs. Since gardens also evolve seasonally it's good to see them at different times of year. Plus all the cute critters are such fun. And the cat content is always a crowd pleaser.
It may not be perfect but y'all have one of the healthiest relationships, talking about this and even disagreeing openly with each other is a true sign of maturity in relationships. Y'all are awesome and peaceful. 🌄
In a car, if you are relying on your passenger for directions, or looking for a specific address, they are the navigator. If they just shout "turn here" suddenly, loudly, and you are going someplace you are familiar they are a "back seat driver".
I remember when I first watched you guys and I was going through a bad breakup, like a really stupid bad break up at age 17-18, now I'm with a better person and we met when we were both 19 (I'm September, he is August) and we've been together for 12 years now, and I have watched about all of your videos throughout my relationship. You two are my favorite comfort youtubers, and reminds me that I have come a long way, and though you don't record EVERYTHING, you have also come a long way too and we're all proud of you for how long you've been a youtuber for, and how much you've grown. Thank you for staying around for sooooooooo many years.
@@ΛηδαΑυγερινου-ι3χ Well first, relationships CAN work if you're the polar opposite of your partner, it's nice to have things you like and dislike and finding that alone to be considered the perfect relationship, with that said, my boyfriend and I have been together for 12 whole years, no breakups, no fights, we are different from each other, and that's what I love about him. I love the fact my boyfriend is so much different than I am, and that's what I love about him the most, I love that this relationship of mine has been peaceful. We don't fight over who is making how much from their job, we don't make the relationship work based off income (I have seen this), though I do know why, but for me that's not what a relationship should be all about. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and soul, at this point I call him my husband lol But true love exists out there, reading from google, apparently 67% of the human population has found true love.
By quite a few metrics, Japanese and English are the most different languages to each other, at least of the major world languages, and thus the most difficult to learn, so the fact than Jun is as comfortable with English as he is, to the point of using colloquialisms and making jokes, is very impressive.
@phantagirlable The Foreign Service Institute, a sub-department of the US State Department, survayed 63 world languages and ranked them according to difficulty; five were ranked at the highest difficulty, requiring 88 weeks of full time study for fluency: Arabic, Cantonese, Mandarin, Japanese and Korean. In addition, both the FSI and the National Virtual Translation Centre noted that Japanese was especially challanging even among those five.
@@Eden_Laikabut what parts were they assessing? If they're also assessing the writing part of language then japan is super hard. I think that when people say Japanese is easy they mostly mean pronunciation and grammar and aren't factoring in the writing.
@@arowace498 It was a holistic survay, so looking at fluency in both speech and writing. But in terms of pronounciation, English and Japanese are very phonemically distinct, and there are plenty of videos, including on this channel, of Japanese speakers struggling with English pronounciations. I get that difficulty is largely subjective, but I can't see a Japanese speaker finding English easier than Korean or Mandarin, if only phonologically, especially given how broad English phonotactics are compared to those other languages.
@@Eden_Laika In my experience I think differences in tonality make up a lot of difficulty. If you aren't used to the tones you can't even hear your mispronunciation. I only took Mandarin for a little bit and didn't make any progress... I was quiet young but I don't anticipate I've made any progress on that front. Anyways, English is more tonal than Japanese, which is much more monotone. It's easier to speak flatter than to speak with tones you can't hear. Which is why i think English speakers find Japanese easier, and Japanese speakers find English hard. Going from Japanese to Spanish or visa versa also seems easier. They use most of the same sounds with vowels. Someone in my family took in a Japanese exchange student and they learned more spanish than english, even while living in the US. I thought that was kinda sweet in a way.
@@arowace498 Okay, now I really don't know what you're talking about. Japanese _is_ a tonal language, in that it has pitch-accent, English isn't. Do you mean prosody? Or are you talking about non-phonemic tone, like for expression?
Rachel, at the end of this video, you said you don't really know what content we want to see from you. I honestly just love all your content. 😊Especially your DIY videos! Your cat videos, home updates, life updates, shopping videos - they're all great! Your and Jun's channels are the only ones I actually keep an eye on these days. I look forward to any new content from you two. I hope you don't feel 'boxed in' to making any particular kind of content, the most important thing is creating content you enjoy and love to make. All the best from a fan!
07:19 actually this is quite a thing! In 2013 Korean Air implemented English as their work language, after accidents that involved bad cockpit resource management (CRM). If you have good CRM, everyone knows what person is in charge, but at the same time, people will speak up or if necessary take over controls. But because of Korean society being so hierarchical, it even shows up in the way they speak to different people, implementing a better CRM was difficult. So eventually the decision was made to only use English, because it takes away from the rigid hierarchical structures.
It’s a kind of linguistic relativity. Bilingual speakers have attested that they think differently when using different languages, because different languages require you to pay attention to different things or to speak in terms of different concepts
It's almost 4am rn in the UK and I suddenly remembered that I used to watch you guys back when I was like 13 or 14, I'm 20 now and it's so nice seeing you guys again. Nostalgic
Rachel, you nailed it, Americans DO love to complain... I'm more like Jun and when i try to start conversations with strangers they always try to move it to complaining!!!😂
Not just Americans but Canadians too...It's a conversation trap that is very easy to fall into...and even when I try to lead it away from that it can be difficult because there are just certain people who only want to complain/vent...it can be so exhausting, and as someone who is very in tune with peoples emotions it's very hard for me to block it or not take it on as my own (I hope that made sense) it becomes even more exhausting
@@laurathiele9591it's still nicer than in my country. Their greeting not just good morning or how are you? But why you still not married? Are you pregnant? Or when you have another child? Or maybe job 😅 so they could comparing to their own jobs. 😂 I choose to stay at home comparing to chit chat with them 😂
I think internalised misogyny is from shame. We are shamed into conforming. So when we see someone acting outside of what we've been told is proper our brain remembers that shame and replicates it.
Shame is one of the reasons as to why one would become an internalized misogynist or even an internalized misandrist (personally I've seen more of the latter than the former - depends where you are and what you see). That shaming usually comes from family members, school staff, social media, entertainment, influencers and/or propaganda. There are other reasons as well, such as: -Really bad experiences with the same sex (such as bullying and betrayal) -Witnessed others of the same sex do terrible things to other people and/or to their loved ones -They were the only son/daughter in the family or boy/girl in a friend group thus naturally grew to like and adopt things those around them did and enjoyed, thus thinking what is typically normal for boys/girls is weird -Out of pure jealousy because they aren't getting attention from the opposite sex while others are, thus resort to demonizing and insulting other men/women, portray themselves to be an ally and what the opposite sex desires just to have a chance of getting a romantic partner or laid out of desperation - also known as a 'pick me' (best examples of this are JustPearlyThings, Rachel Wilson, and a good portion of male feminists).
I think the backseat driver thing is all in how it's executed. You don't want someone gasping or freaking out with everything because it can scare you unnecessarily. But I think it's helpful when everyone in the car is alert and helpful because like Jun said, we only have 2 eyes.
The complaining about him not complaining is what sold me on subscribing to this channel lol. Love that so much. This was very cute. Also 14 years is a long time, congratulations to you both.
My in-laws share a bit of a trait that you don't consider American, Rachel. My husband's family is much more reserved with affection. They are affectionate with infants, and little girls, but beyond that, they are very reserved, almost stoic in that regard. I don't think my parents-in-law would have ever told us they loved us unless their priest suggested they do it. A story that got back to me was from when my son was an adolescent, he was out with his grandfather, who said, "You know, X, I hate to say this, but I love you." That was the first and only time he ever told my son he loved him. The story amuses me because it demonstrated how challenging it was for him to express that type of thing. He didn't hate that he loved his grandson, just verbally expressing it. I never saw my in-laws show any open affection towards each other: no passing touches or caresses, no hand holding unless it was a safety issue, no hugs, nothing. My mother-in-law would hug me if I initiated it, but I wouldn't think of trying it with my father-in-law. I think he'd be repelled or startled.
With the I love you conversation. I've been with my husband (1/2 Japanese, grew up til highschool in Kyoto) for 16 years, married for 7. He would never say I love you and neither would his family (Even American mother). His mom recently said when myself and sister in law (also American) came into the family she noticed that everyone started saying I love you more often to each other. But My parents also remember my older sister coming home when she was little and saying that she wanted us to say I love you more. I think that was more of a generational thing, My grandparents on both sides didn't say it very often and were more hard-working farm families. So I think part of it is generational but also cultural. ❤❤
It's so beautiful to see how Rachel unlocked Jun's personality to the world, over the years! She's so vivid and colourful and loud as a person, that it's impossible for someone, not to get carried away by her! Jun on the other hand, is like a silent, calm power, that manages to control her fierce nature! Like an old soul living in today, with a little pixie flying around him, giving him meaning to otherwise, boring days! You're completing each other so well, I always enjoy watching you two! I wish you and your kitties, always have a blessed life together, wrapped with wonderful memories, sprinkled with love! ❤️ from 🇬🇷
Jun, Rachel has a point! I think studies have been done that showed people actually bond stronger over shared hate than shared love. So complaining together is a very social thing that people in North America do a lot hahaha
I love that Jun speaks Japanese for half his sentances, it gives me the chance to practice my Japanese without it being too tiring/ requiring 100% focus because it's not for the whole video! I also find it interesting talking about the way he speaks English/Japanese, because I'm a native English speaker, but though working internationally and learning new languages, the way I speak English now is completely different. People even comment on it when I speak to them versus when I speak to friends and family from home, not because of an accent but just because of the way I speak and construst sentances!
I'm so amused at the backseat driving thing. XD Here, when I'm passenger I even tell my husband "All clear on my side!" at an intersection, like, that's my job. :) He also stopped me from totalling our rental car in miami, so that's a bonus. XD
I started watching you guys when I was 20 and my bf was 21! We’ve been together 13 years and he’s from Mexico but we live in the US and he’s quiet and calm like jun so I’ve always loved your videos because we are so similar in many ways. I like seeing the contrasts and differences it’s also just nice watching a couple grow together 🥰🫶🏽
I am so happy to see a video from y'all! This is the first video since the January First earthquake. I was worried enough to look up which city you live in to make sure it was no where near where the earthquake happened. I am glad you, your cats, and your home are safe.
I’ve been following you guys for years, and I can tell you something that hasn’t changed. - I always walk away from your videos feeling inspired to be better. Thank you for being genuinely good people. ❤
Aw... I love this kind of videos too. Don't worry, Rachel, I can see that you complain way less now, along with your whole demeanor (?) and approach. It's actually the thing I noticed the most when revisiting your older videos. Compared to your previous video, you do complain and give out strong exasperated sighs less. In recent videos, even if you were kinda complaining, it sounds more calm, matter-of-fact, with a hint of "oh well... Haha". I'm not saying if one approach to life is better than the other. Just wanna say, hearing you say that you dont want to make Jun feel bad, even though he never forces you to change, warms my heart. I hope you know your effort don't go unnoticed ❤ Same goes with Jun about PDA or expressing love. From what I get, he doesn't think one way is better than the other; they're just different. Still, he changed and appreciate those changes because it helped him being more in tune and connected with you... from what I get. This is a beautiful video, thank you for opening up with us! I'm looking forward to whatever videos you want to make, as the other commenter said before, what I want to see is you guys and how life's going. I love seeing you go around your city, I love seeing you do projects, I love seeing you playing with the cats. If I can request, though, I'd like to see how you both maintain the aquarium!
I kind of love that in every video you guys do with the Tokyo treat box it turns into a little segment on its own, like a video within a video. It’s just like “OK it’s snack time!”
Jun is code switching!!! I do that a lot in Spanish and English!! It's genuinely sweet to do, so please!! Don't stop now Jun it's good for both practice and wholesome to watch
it's amazing how much more open and talkative jun is right now, he's not awkward at all. i remember watching you guys since i was a young teen and you all seem the same to me as you did many years ago. it's wonderful to see updates! thanks!
ive been with my wife for just about 12 years now and what i can say for sure is that you dont really know a person until you start living with them. ive seen so many other couples falling into this trap of quickly getting married before even moving together and most of those marragies like a mistake. some already failed.
Exactly! Been with my husband for nearly a decade and the worst fights we had was the first two years of living together! Now he’s the only person I fully can be myself now and relax better at home bc we worked through it and are still together!
Wow, Jun makes you feel like you deserve something you don't need, but just yearn for. What a prize he is! Lucky, lucky Rachel! (Gee, he's handsome, too!) ❤
5 years ago I decided to change my life and move to Japan. I used to watch you guy's videos and always admired your relationship and communication. It's been a while since I last watched you because I didn't know this second channel but coincidentally now I found it right before celebrating my first anniversary of moving to Japan from the other side of the world. My boyfriend is japanese and we've been together for 7 months now and this video came to me like a gift from above hahah He reminds me sooo so much of Jun, especially the way they speak and how they express themselves. Although we come from radically different cultures we have a lot of fun learning about each other's way of thinking and I love him so much. I've been having a hard time recently exactly because of this difference in showing affection - even though he is extremely affectionate for a japanese person. This video was ridiculously relatable for us, and I had no idea you two have been together for such a long time! Thank you so much for this, really. I wish you two and your furry children the absolute best in life
I do love and miss these sit down talk videos because they're so chill :) You don't always have to upload a video of a DIY or a project. I will say if you do not know what the viewers want, an easy answer is always your cats 😆
if i have to be honest, Jun and Rachel are opposite, idk how they are still together after 14 years. Their personalities clash. I think thats pretty amazing that at the end of the day, if you really love someone, both accomodate each other despite of differences. That's what love is all about, you sacrifice for each other (both ways), and get along. This can last until old days.
You guys can even just upload short ASMR videos of your furkids and we wouldn't even complain honestly. I'm always looking forward to any of your videos, both this channel and Jun's. It's fascinating that it's just your normal day to day yet I learn a lot ❤❤❤
A healthy, hardworking, compromising successful couple. Culture differences on top of personality differences are difficult, you guys are great. Wishing you continued happiness.
Rachel and Jun is my favorite and only "comfort couple", I've followed you guys for quite some time and it's so heartwarming to know that, somewhere, there is a couple living life to its fullest. I wish you guys a happy new year and continue to put out more slice of life videos!
You guys could share daily live of yours, morning/evening routine, cat’s routine, garden, how to take care garden in winter (which im struggling rn😅), going to the park/beach with cats, hiking(?) Anyways i would be happy to watch any videos of u guys, i always find it comforting.
Thanks for sharing your learnings as a couple that has grown together. About the back-seat driving question, I think it's deeper than it seems on the surface level for Americans. It's about trusting someone else's competence. On the other hand, from a Japanese perspective, collective safety trumps competence and also there might be more openness to being corrected by people around you. Both of these perspectives are great and equally valid. The solution might be something along the lines of how can a passenger offer constructive criticism to the driver without undermining their competence? Similarly, how can the driver show humility and openness to correction without feeling attacked? Food for thought.
You were smart, you recognized you were right for each other and started a lifetime commitment together. By doing this you have grown together and made your relationship stronger. Wishing you a long and happy life together.
Congratulations ♡ I have followed you for over 10 years. You are both lovely in and out. Individually and together. I was following other 'j-tubers' back in the day; I still follow Sharla too. Thank you for checking in every now and then. xx
16:32 BLEACH (the anime!) uses this cultural connection, in its own myth: a red 'spirit ribbon' connecting a soul to its source! Thank you for mic-ing Nagi on the outro! That purrrr was heartfelt, and super-cute. 🥰🥰
I definitely want more of videos like this!!! I love hearing about your years together and how you’ve grown together Over time!! Been watching your channel for the longest time and I miss the videos where your together like this!! ❤❤👏👍
Thanks for speaking about internalized misogyny. Been watching you two for years. It’s relaxing to hear you two chat about go about your lives. And I like the couple chats and games because it’s relatable and it’s good to hear about the ups and downs of relationships. This video inspired me to sit down with my current boyfriend and chat through what we appreciate about each other more often
To answer Rachel's question about what content I'd like to see it doesn't matter. I'm here to see what you've been up to. Every video has a wholesome and fun atmosphere and that's what I come back to always. :)
As others have said, your channel is just a vibe, no matter what you're doing! Not very helpful for your content ideas but that's just really what i'm here for. Just people living in Japan that like plants and fun diy projects that have cute cats. Basically living vicariously through your every day life, if that helps.
I literally dont care what you post as ling as it contains you (Rachel), Jun, the kitties, and WHATEVER activity of your choice. Ive enjoyed watching you build things, clean things, exploreJapan, so i really think whatever you like, as ling as it’s you guys ill likely enjoy it, im just glad you guys still post ❤
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WOOBOY it's been a long time since we just sat down and talked about ourselves to the camera and... I'm so nervous?! It was really fun and I feel like we have so much we could say about our relationship after all this time, so if you guys also/still enjoy these types of vids please let me know??
I really had missed your "sit down and have a chat about anything" videos! I love the cozy, casual feel of them. Feels like just hanging out with friends! Happy 14 years together and I hope we still get to enjoy your videos for years to come ❣
Yes! This was awesome! Your comment section is poppin off with love and people relating to what you've said!
Love this type of content! It's so interesting to hear your perspectives and your journey together.
Very insightful!
Please make more videos like this!!!! ❤❤❤
Rachel mentioned she doesn’t know what the public wants.
I can’t speak for everyone, but what I want is to see you guys. Doesn’t matter if you’re cleaning the beach, going to a festival with friends, purchasing stuff for a DIY project…. I’m here for the vibe, because you two are amazing people! ❤
Not to mention the cats! Such a bunch of cute ball of fluff
Yup, I’ll watch anything
I found the channel because of cats (and Japanese moving company) and I come back to see how much time Jun spends filmings cats when he is supposed to make a video of whatever Rachel is doing.
i love that too when he drifts to the cats when shes talking lol@@riku3716
Can't agree more 🥰
Well said! 🙌🏻🙌🏻
Jun smiles now more often. In your first videos you had to explain why he never smiled, and now he's smiling a lot. That's so great!
I was thinking this exact thing. I remember in their early videos thinking he seemed like he was always unhappy/reluctant to participate in videos. Since then he’s become so fun and goofy on camera!
“He’s a very mentally healthy person, which, as a not mentally healthy person, makes me angry” GIRL SAME 😭 literally this is exactly the relationship I have with some people in my life.
I also complain a lot less if others already do. But if noone complains and everyone is just fine... well, if there seems something wrong and annoying to me: someone has to complain about it XD
@@Datenauflauf lmao it's all about balance xD
@@zainebhidoussi1498 exactly! That's actually what I try to explain to others XD it is!
That's like a line from a character-driven dramedy right there.
Gotta balance each other out
In Finland the seat next to driver is called "pelkääjän paikka" which translates rougly to "seat for the one who's about to be scared" 😂
😂 love this
In Hungarian we call it "seat of the mother-in-law"😂.....I guess because mother-in-laws like to criticise the driving skills of their son-in-laws 😅
In Portugal we call it either "lugar do morto" which means "seat of the dead" (because it used to be the most likely seat for a person to die in a car crash) or "lugar do pendura" which means "hitchhiker's seat". So yeah, none of them very positive.
@@ladybirdgirl88 haha, i wanted to write this one as well, but I saw your comment. So nice to see it. 😊😊😊
それは可愛いですね😂
To be able to joke in a second language is so next level. Jun, your English is perfect! 👏🏻
Honestly, if I met Jun in the US, i'd believe he was born here. He has little to no accent now, which is incredible for someone who has never even lived abroad. Jun, you should be proud of your skills, it's rare and amazing!
yes!! English is my second language and people know me as someone who never jokes with my English speaking friends. 😂😂 so I’m very impressed
Jun’s English is a perfect American English.
Yeah. Tour guide or interpret may become a nice avenue if job is slow or lacking. That or Japanese teacher... in fact anything teacher if we judge by how his kitty kitchen class is going.
@@lindsiriathe first time I watched one of their videos, it was focused on the cats and Jun was behind the camera so I just heard his voice. I thought he was American.
I love how Jun has opened up when talking. He used to seem shy but he's definitely much more expressive and lively now. And it's been great watching Rachel be so creative with everything from beauty to fixing up the bathroom. I love how you've both grown together.
After 16 years together, my husband and I have both changed in so many ways. We've definitely grown because of each other. I also have the whole spending money problem. I'm like "this is cute. not for $20 it isn't!" and my husband will just throw it in the cart. Aggressive support XD. He's my rock in life.
2:26 "Jun has a sometimes infuriatingly positive mindset. He's a very mentally healthy person, which as a not mentally healthy person, makes me angry" is extremely relatable
It could be he's just hiding and suppressing anger and annoyance because it's not socially acceptable in Japan to express it. There has to be some expression of "negative" emotions to be mentally healthy.
@2degucitas this is accurate. You can't really talk about your mental health in japan as it is seen as you are a selfish person that can't help others. It isn't healthy.
@@2degucitas Agreed. I'm a very "it's fine, no worries" kind of person on the outside, but "very worried 24/7" on the inside. It's just that when I've tried to open up, people have downplayed my concerns or flipped the focus on themselves, so I keep things to myself now. Plus, I tend to surpress strong emotions to avoid the discomfort of experiencing them, which can leave the impression of being mature and balanced when in fact, it's the total opposite. Not saying it's the case with Jun, but people's inner worlds are a lot more complex than their smiles let on and we should be careful with the unhealthy/healthy labels.
@@brittm1960 the fact that he is feeling stable makes him healthy. As andrew tate said, people should have grasp on their emotions. Recognize them, but dont let negative emotions affect you.
@@webnovelsatu1455 Ooohh yes that famous and very wise philosopher, known to be in jail for trafficking women.
@3:38 , I wouldn’t call it complaining, as an American I would call it commiserating. Which is basically a fancy word for complaining as a group lol. As Americans we do use ‘complaining’ as a way of bonding. “Gosh the weather is awful out there.” “The Yankees are awful this year.” “Traffic on the expressway is terrible today!” “Can you believe the price of milk?” It’s not complaining for the sake of complaining, it’s the acknowledgment we’re sharing a common experience!
Yes. Group bonding.
Yeah, I guess this misunderstanding definitely comes from culture shock. The two culture originate "complaining" from different hidden agendas and that's completely fine. They can understand where their SO is coming from, still, hard to shake off your meaning of the action.
but it has to be done in moderation because if there is too much "commiserating" or "group bonding" as you call it in this way then it's not good. It makes you sound like a very critical, sarcastic, or negative person all the time. Learning to be a positive, likeable, or a reasonable person will cause you to change your wording too. "I hope the weather changes more comfortably soon." "Hopefully the Yankees train harder and do better next year." "Traffic congestion on the expressway is really slow." "The price of milk has gone up again."
I think Chinese in general are just like Americans, no matter where the Chinese is from, be it China, Singapore, Malaysia, etc. We complain as a way to give vent to anger and disappointment, and to people who prob feel the same way. I think it's healthy to complain instead of bottling up but to do it on trivial things and on an every basis can get tiresome to the one who complains and to those who have to listen. Japanese in general may complain little, but that bottle up feeling may manifest in more dangerous ways, like suicide, bullying, stabbing etc. Also because Japanese don't verbalise their thoughts even in things they have a strong opinion about, you wonder sometimes to believe what they say due to them being overly cautious about offending people with their opinions.
Edit: To anyone who disagree with what I say about Japanese in gen, check out what the Japanese who hv left Japan say about their own people's reticence of opinions, work culture etc: th-cam.com/video/sHIAQP7OTS8/w-d-xo.html
@@ymhktravel whoever said to vent in order to release that bottled up frustration & anger to avoid potentially regretful violent acts, gave really bad advice
Hearing other women talk about internalized misogyny is really affirming. I have issues with it too and I’m much more aware of it now.
I used to have it bad. I'm good now but I was bad. Like I secretly loved pink but would pretend like I didn't because it made me feel superior all for guys to be able to say that I'm better than the other girls.
I think there's a big generation in Western society right now that was taught to dislike and judge women for about everything. We were taught basically every type of woman is wrong. It's finally shifting away from that, and we're allowed to be who we want, but it really reached a peak in the 2000s and girls growing up at that time had to internalize it.
I used to have it too, but once I started letting go of the internalized misogyny I realized I was truly a "girly girl" deep inside.
It used to be so bad for me. It came from jealousy and insecurity. Once I got over that I'm a girl's girl and rarely does the internalized misogyny pop up and when it does I shut that shit down immediately.
I've personally seen more internalized misandry than internalized misogyny but both are real and have the same roots as to why one would become like that.
1) They're taught to hate themselves and others of the same sex, either by family members, school staff, social media, entertainment, influencers and/or propaganda.
2) They had really bad experiences with the same sex, such as bullying and betrayal.
3) They witnessed others of the same sex do terrible things to other people and/or to their loved ones.
4) They were the only son/daughter in the family thus naturally grew to like and adopt things those around them did and enjoyed, thus thinking what is typically normal for boys/girls is weird.
5) Out of pure jealousy because they aren't getting attention from the opposite sex while others are, thus resort to demonizing and insulting other men/women, portray themselves to be an ally and what the opposite sex desires just to have a chance of getting a romantic partner or laid out of desperation - also known as a 'pick me' (best examples of this are JustPearlyThings, Rachel Wilson, and a good portion of male feminists).
Okay so my MIL always taught my husband the phrase “I’d rather know twice than not at all”. This is a great mindset to not let things like “back seat driving” bother you. You just have to understand that the person pointing things out doesn’t do it because they think the other person is dumb, they do it because they care. And the one time they point something out that you don’t see might be really important so you don’t want to discourage them from speaking up!
We also call the passenger seat the co-pilot seat and that helps make it less of a weird thing and more of a fun / helpful thing.
Ooo I really like that phrase, thank you for commenting 📝!!
I feel the same way. I'd rather annoy the driver by pointing out things that they did actually notice than have something bad happen because they didn't see something that I saw.
in my country we call it co-driver seat similar to the japanese word, so i think also there is not as much negative conotation to it :)
Honestly whatever you're interested in you can propably make videos and we will enjoy them. A lot of us started following for Japanese culture stuff when we were younger but cooking, cats, home building, gardening, health, diy's, everything has been interesting. Most of us are propably adults now and we just enjoy having adults talk about whatever is going on in their lives. We enjoy you as personalities and whatever you are passionate about you have a way to make it entertaining. Love from Finland, I hope you and furbabies are healthy. ❤
+1 to this ❤
This is such a good way to put it! A lot of us are also now little grandpas/grandmas into house design/DIY/gardening. All of it is great!
Well said
This comment makes me feel nostalgic. I've been following Rachel for an extremely long time. I was in my mid-20s at the time. She, her life and her relationship with Jun have always been an inspiration to me. The fact that they are still in a happy relationship makes me really happy. 🙂
Hei torille! I'm from Finland too. 😄
As a recently-diagnoses autistic, I realise that I always used negativity and complaining as a way to make conversations, because I had trouble relating to people outside of my interests and hyperfixations.
Completely me. I was run through the ringer working in customer service for 5 years and I still can't have "normal" conversations with people without restrained negativity. People have always disliked me for it, but it really feels like I either don't talk, don't connect, don't socialize...or I just do all those things really imperfectly, and keep living. Idk. It's hard. (Autistic too)
Saaaame 😭 It's either complaining or just talking about the subjects I'm interessted in
I didn't know that this was an autism trait. I think I need to get diagnosed 😮😮
Not necessarily. But it's common. @@akiheavenly6
I've got a question, I am suspected of having autism and I have always had an extreme interest in both psychology (specifically autism) and Japanese culture. Am I the only one who has seen a lot of similarities in how autistic people and Japanese society generally seem to function? From what I have seen, a lot of Japanese based mannerisms and general social structures seem like they would be much easier for an autistic person to function in compared to, let's say, an autistic person trying to function in America, where it is expected for people to do things like: make eye contact, make small talk with everybody, even physically touch people regularly by patting their back sometime or touching their shoulder before passing by them. America often seems more like a generally more emotional and free willed society compared to Japan, which is often perceived as a more logical/structured society almost making america feel like it is very incompatible for autistic people. And like Rachel talked about, myself and a lot of autistic people I've met seem to have similar struggles with the arguments of only saying, "I love you" in very serious/specific situations or not saying it at all, pointing things out as a passenger just making sense but people often taking it as an insult, and PDA being uncomfortable. I don't know, I have been thinking about this for years, when I started learning more about how their schools are structured and how they seem to function more through strict rules and structures whereas Americans are notorious for being terrible at following rules and generally seen as more expressive, free flowing, and defiant. This may all be coincidental, or me just projecting my interest in autism onto my interest in Japanese culture, but I have always wondered if it were possible for certain cultures to be better suited for certain types of brains due to them possibly having a larger percentage of their population having a specific disorder, like autism, but being undiagnosed. If that were the case it theoretically could lead to their leaders also having a higher percentage of people who are neurodivergent, leading to rules being proposed that would make the most sense for functioning with their disorder. And if there was a higher percentage of their populace with the same undiagnosed disorder they would most likely think the same way and would be likely to support those rules. Slowly creating a society that would be built to better support that type of disorder. I don't know, these are all things I have thought about for a long time now but have never had anybody who had any interest in both autism and Japan to share the thoughts with, so if yoy read this far, thank you for coming to my TED talk and I'm very curious if anybody else has ever wondered the same things.
P.S. this has a lot of HUGE generalizations and I understand that no two people are the same, let alone whole demographics of people. I am strictly speaking on the possibility of certain countries having higher percentages of specific disorders and that leading to a society that would better support/be more comfortable for people with that disorder to function in. I'm also hinting at a personal hypothesis of Japan possibly having a higher percentage of autistic leaders/people in the past, leading to a society that could be more attuned for autistic people. And I am in no way trying to say that I am definitely right or that what I'm saying is fact. I'm also not trying to insinuate that all Japanese people are autistic or that all autistic people act the same way as Japanese people. I am only trying to share a coincidence that I have noticed and a really wild theory that I made to try and explain it. If anything I said is offensive or disrespectful I apologize profusely and will do my best to correct my mistake
I've always called the person in the front passenger seat, "co-pilot."
The co-pilot has jobs: looking out for blind spots, re-wrapping food bought on the road (so the driver can eat while driving and not spill), changing the radio, helping with directions or spotting destinations, and spotting speed traps.
Seconded. Help keeping the driver focused and aware. Especially if it was a long drive, or at night. I can't drive, but I'll talk to the driver and such for the whole drive.
I'm a backseat driver. I like that Jun thinks it's a good thing lol
I always tell the person in my passenger seat when I need help. XD Like, I'm from an area where we don't have animals darting out into the road. So if I'm driving at night especially and I have a passenger I'm like, "Yo, your job is to help me took for animals."
Sometimes the passenger doesn't have a job. But sometimes they do. XD I just ask them to do what I need them to do.
Yes! I hope people doing more like this, a long drive will be less boring.
Totally agree; the co-pilot, when I'm driving on a road trip, keeps me awake, keeps an eye on the road for safety, helps with food, and so far as I'm concerned doubles the chances of getting where we want to go unharmed and happy. If I go on trips alone I'm always a lot more anxious without someone beside me who can see what I can't. And the co-pilot is the navigator; it's so much better to travel together!
honestly so interesting to hear jun talk about how language offers permission for different personality traits, its so true that culture seeps in subconsciously
Yes, I think it is a common thing for people to have different personalities when speaking in different languages.
I love that Jun uses Japanese and English words together in the same sentence! I used to do that with Spanish because some words just sound better in certain languages
There is spanglish for me in Miami
There is Konglish when I watch Kpop stuff
There is Japanglish when I watch this
I do that in German and English with my kids (and other people who know both languages). Some words just work better for expressing ideas in one language than the other.
I live in Southern California and took Spanish in high school and French in college. Now when I speak Spanish I sound like I'm from Mexico's French colonial period with the mash up of languages.
My mom did that too, forgetting my husband couldn't understand hungarian, lol. Miss it and miss her 😢.
I live on the east coast of Canada where there are large pockets of French communities, so a lot of folks mix English and French together. People either call it franglish or the specific area I'm from chiac. It can sometimes be difficult to understand because you have to use different parts of you brain constantly and depending on where you are the accents can be real thick and names for things different even between Nova Scotia and New Brunswick
A Canadian here who enjoys listening to you both and watching your adventures in life. I'm 79 next month and was with my husband for 60 years. You have a healthy, loving and respectful relationship and long after I'm gone I'm certain you will still be the same. You are nice people and it makes me feel better about the human race knowing that there are people like you in the world. I began watching because of your cats but keep watching because of you two. Love from Alberta. Xxx💕👩🏻🦳
Awe, you sound like such a lovely person
Fun fact: the seat beside the driver in finnish is called ”the seat of the one who fears” sounding nicer in finnish as ”pelkääjän paikka”
are finnish bad drivers???
@@aprilbox3766 Finns are statistically very good drivers. There are relatively little car accidents on our roads. The phrase is finnish style humor.
You can also call it the place for "apukuski" (drivers helper) or "kartanlukija" (map reader). So many names are used, but that one is definitely proof of our dark humour 😂
In France is "la place du mort" " the died place". Yes the French are routh and driving in Paris is not romantic😅
big rally culture lends to the humour.
This is why intercultural relationships ( romantic or friends) are SO much fun. You get to learn so much from each other. You make a wonderful family.
Yall have such a lovely relationship, it's nice to see that you're still happy
A good one online compared to the thousands of bad ones
Seeing them makes me and others feel better
Its cute. you can seen the moment rachel said 14 years juns eyes lit up.
they don’t seem happy to me. she seems anxious and worried to fix herself according to his standards and he seems avoidant and dismissive of her feelings, at times even annoyed when engaging with her.
i don’t know how everyone doesn’t see it. it’s right on their faces and body language.
being avoidant and dismissive of another’s feelings is actually emotional abuse and she being so fixated over fixing and changing herself instead of being received by him and embraced emotionally… i can tell who holds the power in the relationship.
i hope they can find a truer and more authentic harmony.
@@blue_sky_bright_sun7599 so the racist troll exposes himself again
@@blue_sky_bright_sun7599 ok maybe the last part was a bit dramatic but still, this is the type of consequences that people of this mindset should face.
Jun being mentally healthy IS NORMAL. We need more Jun's in our lives and we should strive to he more like him. 💙💙💙💙💙
I wish you were correct about good mental health being common, but with the ongoing pandemic, political situation and economic crisis across the globe, it isn't.
@@katiehettinger7857You do also see people talk about the negative more than the positive. So you’ll see on the internet and the news about people who are unwell.
That’s not to say there are no mental health problems but I do think people often forget that the internet and news isn’t every day life.
Like after reading a lot of Reddit stories I was convinced for a couple months every relationship sucked now and saying was horrible and no one was nice me everyone was controlling or toxic because that’s all I saw.
Then I realized that a big majority of people you meet will actually be chill and have no clue about the deep creepy internet things and opinions I’ve had to bleach my eyes over.
Yeah it's not for a lack of trying. Mental illness often isn't just willed away by wanting to be more something. At least I have never heard of anyone going "i am stopping my anger issues now" or something similar, if it was that easy, why wouldnt everyone do that...
Not really, most “normal” people actually have unhealthy minds, they just dont talk about it. Jun ACTUALLY has a healthy mindset, which is why its rare.
The backseat driving made me laugh
I'm from Canada, and I agree with Jun, but also with Rachel! When I'm at a stop sign, I ask my wife if cars are coming on "her side" and expect her to look out the window and let me know if she sees anything coming, so I can focus on the left side and get in the lane. She hates it and says I need to drive myself, which I do, but if you're sitting there also looking at oncoming traffic, make yourself useful! 😂
When you ask. Or if there is a valet reason for someone to react. I am fine with it.
It becomes a issue when someone information you just don't need and is more distracting than helping.
I did it my self last week siting in the car with my mother. she was about to cross a red light and I warned her.
Wich she did appreciate.
I have the habit of saying "you're good this direction " when we are getting ready to turn. My thinking is the driver can't see through me and might miss something .
@@Mommee77 It really helps when you cross a rout that would fall behind the doorpost. (about 4 to 5 a clock.)
In a empty car you would still not be able to see.
I have mobility issues and so does my father, so it's hard for either of us to turn around and look out the back window to see anything behind us. And we're not rich enough to afford a new vehicle with backup cameras.
Anyway, i got into the habit of watching out the back and on my side of the car to call out for any traffic.
Now i live on my own and whenever I ride with someone that habit is still there to watch for traffic on my side and call out "you're clear on this side" or "you got [X number of] cars coming".
Canadian here! My partner and I do this with each other too. Especially helpful when you're making a large turn without traffic lights. We also do this when jaywalking 😅
i like how Jun doesn’t like to generalize when it comes to culture. it’s really important not to generalize and feel like we need to all compartmentalize each other and i am working on this every day!
can your people and americans learn this?? you are the main ones generalizing usually
Rachel gave me an existential crisis talking about being a tomboy and how internal Misogyny influenced that. It spoke to me so deeply. I was a huge tomboy and rejected anything girly and tried to be the different kid so bad! It was authentically how I felt at the time but I didn't know it could have been subconciously influenced by misogyny. gah!
You're not alone. I was (unintentionally) raised to believe that those feminine traits/habits/perspectives were frivolous and/or useless, or even straight burdensome. Not true. Not true At All. Its been an unlearning process, letting myself investigate and enjoy the more feminine aspects of life, and not feeling shame for it.
Me too
i think i just hated being pigeonholed into "oh your a girl so you must like pink, etc"
in my case i was a tomboy to rebel, not misogyny lol😅
@@X3nophiliacSame. Even the “oh you’re a girl. WHEN YOU GET OLDER AND MATURE, you will start liking 💐 feminine 💐things and being a Real WomanTM” like having tomboy interests or personality is something immature and meant to be outgrown.
That's how I felt! I genuinely didn't like what would be considered stereotypically "feminine" things at the time but I did judge other girls for it and that's where my issue is. @@X3nophiliac
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Rachel: "That's not normal, right?!"
Jun: "No, no, no, you're not normal!"[JUMPCUT]
😂 lol, RIP Jun
I was looking for this comment! LOL
Thank you Orange Cat for your garden work.
I don't think there has ever been a video by Rachel & Jun that I haven't actively enjoyed.
The DIY stuff is great, the cat stuff is lovely, the chatty videos are super interesting. I love seeing Japan through your videos.
Keep up your amazing work! Do what makes you happy, through that you make ys happy 😊
Happy (nearly) 14 years together!! I didn't think about how cringing at your younger self means you've grown- makes me feel a bit better about my cringiest moments 😅 I hope you two continue to stay happy and healthy with the cats!!
I used to a complained a lot person so I feel Rachel. Then a smart friend who is a medical school lecturer stopped me once I was started complaining and make me change my mind to a positive way 😊 Somwetimes we did not realized how we was acting in a negative way until a positive one show us and repaired us
A garden update please! It's been 9 months since the trees were purchased and it's fun to follow along as the garden is adapted to your wants and needs. Since gardens also evolve seasonally it's good to see them at different times of year. Plus all the cute critters are such fun. And the cat content is always a crowd pleaser.
It may not be perfect but y'all have one of the healthiest relationships, talking about this and even disagreeing openly with each other is a true sign of maturity in relationships. Y'all are awesome and peaceful. 🌄
In a car, if you are relying on your passenger for directions, or looking for a specific address, they are the navigator. If they just shout "turn here" suddenly, loudly, and you are going someplace you are familiar they are a "back seat driver".
I remember when I first watched you guys and I was going through a bad breakup, like a really stupid bad break up at age 17-18, now I'm with a better person and we met when we were both 19 (I'm September, he is August) and we've been together for 12 years now, and I have watched about all of your videos throughout my relationship. You two are my favorite comfort youtubers, and reminds me that I have come a long way, and though you don't record EVERYTHING, you have also come a long way too and we're all proud of you for how long you've been a youtuber for, and how much you've grown. Thank you for staying around for sooooooooo many years.
How did you manage to stay together? Id like for you to share your wisdom. 🙂
@@ΛηδαΑυγερινου-ι3χ Well first, relationships CAN work if you're the polar opposite of your partner, it's nice to have things you like and dislike and finding that alone to be considered the perfect relationship, with that said, my boyfriend and I have been together for 12 whole years, no breakups, no fights, we are different from each other, and that's what I love about him. I love the fact my boyfriend is so much different than I am, and that's what I love about him the most, I love that this relationship of mine has been peaceful. We don't fight over who is making how much from their job, we don't make the relationship work based off income (I have seen this), though I do know why, but for me that's not what a relationship should be all about. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and soul, at this point I call him my husband lol But true love exists out there, reading from google, apparently 67% of the human population has found true love.
By quite a few metrics, Japanese and English are the most different languages to each other, at least of the major world languages, and thus the most difficult to learn, so the fact than Jun is as comfortable with English as he is, to the point of using colloquialisms and making jokes, is very impressive.
@phantagirlable The Foreign Service Institute, a sub-department of the US State Department, survayed 63 world languages and ranked them according to difficulty; five were ranked at the highest difficulty, requiring 88 weeks of full time study for fluency: Arabic, Cantonese, Mandarin, Japanese and Korean. In addition, both the FSI and the National Virtual Translation Centre noted that Japanese was especially challanging even among those five.
@@Eden_Laikabut what parts were they assessing? If they're also assessing the writing part of language then japan is super hard. I think that when people say Japanese is easy they mostly mean pronunciation and grammar and aren't factoring in the writing.
@@arowace498 It was a holistic survay, so looking at fluency in both speech and writing. But in terms of pronounciation, English and Japanese are very phonemically distinct, and there are plenty of videos, including on this channel, of Japanese speakers struggling with English pronounciations. I get that difficulty is largely subjective, but I can't see a Japanese speaker finding English easier than Korean or Mandarin, if only phonologically, especially given how broad English phonotactics are compared to those other languages.
@@Eden_Laika In my experience I think differences in tonality make up a lot of difficulty. If you aren't used to the tones you can't even hear your mispronunciation. I only took Mandarin for a little bit and didn't make any progress... I was quiet young but I don't anticipate I've made any progress on that front. Anyways, English is more tonal than Japanese, which is much more monotone. It's easier to speak flatter than to speak with tones you can't hear. Which is why i think English speakers find Japanese easier, and Japanese speakers find English hard.
Going from Japanese to Spanish or visa versa also seems easier. They use most of the same sounds with vowels. Someone in my family took in a Japanese exchange student and they learned more spanish than english, even while living in the US. I thought that was kinda sweet in a way.
@@arowace498 Okay, now I really don't know what you're talking about. Japanese _is_ a tonal language, in that it has pitch-accent, English isn't. Do you mean prosody? Or are you talking about non-phonemic tone, like for expression?
Rachel, at the end of this video, you said you don't really know what content we want to see from you. I honestly just love all your content. 😊Especially your DIY videos! Your cat videos, home updates, life updates, shopping videos - they're all great! Your and Jun's channels are the only ones I actually keep an eye on these days. I look forward to any new content from you two. I hope you don't feel 'boxed in' to making any particular kind of content, the most important thing is creating content you enjoy and love to make. All the best from a fan!
07:19 actually this is quite a thing! In 2013 Korean Air implemented English as their work language, after accidents that involved bad cockpit resource management (CRM). If you have good CRM, everyone knows what person is in charge, but at the same time, people will speak up or if necessary take over controls. But because of Korean society being so hierarchical, it even shows up in the way they speak to different people, implementing a better CRM was difficult.
So eventually the decision was made to only use English, because it takes away from the rigid hierarchical structures.
It’s a kind of linguistic relativity. Bilingual speakers have attested that they think differently when using different languages, because different languages require you to pay attention to different things or to speak in terms of different concepts
It's almost 4am rn in the UK and I suddenly remembered that I used to watch you guys back when I was like 13 or 14, I'm 20 now and it's so nice seeing you guys again. Nostalgic
Awwwww, 14 years!!!!!!!!! That's so awesome!
14 years together with 4 fluffy kids.
That (Jun) is a kind, caring person. Please, be grateful.
Long form content is really normal now. People are happy to sit and watch/listen to 1-4hrs of talking as long as it has a point.
I haven't seen a rachel and jun video in about 8 years... I feel old I'm so glad you're still doing well and making videos ❤❤❤❤
Rachel, you nailed it, Americans DO love to complain... I'm more like Jun and when i try to start conversations with strangers they always try to move it to complaining!!!😂
Not just Americans but Canadians too...It's a conversation trap that is very easy to fall into...and even when I try to lead it away from that it can be difficult because there are just certain people who only want to complain/vent...it can be so exhausting, and as someone who is very in tune with peoples emotions it's very hard for me to block it or not take it on as my own (I hope that made sense) it becomes even more exhausting
@@laurathiele9591it's still nicer than in my country. Their greeting not just good morning or how are you? But why you still not married? Are you pregnant? Or when you have another child? Or maybe job 😅 so they could comparing to their own jobs. 😂
I choose to stay at home comparing to chit chat with them 😂
finding a common enemy is how i quickly made friends in college lol
I think internalised misogyny is from shame. We are shamed into conforming. So when we see someone acting outside of what we've been told is proper our brain remembers that shame and replicates it.
Shame is one of the reasons as to why one would become an internalized misogynist or even an internalized misandrist (personally I've seen more of the latter than the former - depends where you are and what you see). That shaming usually comes from family members, school staff, social media, entertainment, influencers and/or propaganda. There are other reasons as well, such as:
-Really bad experiences with the same sex (such as bullying and betrayal)
-Witnessed others of the same sex do terrible things to other people and/or to their loved ones
-They were the only son/daughter in the family or boy/girl in a friend group thus naturally grew to like and adopt things those around them did and enjoyed, thus thinking what is typically normal for boys/girls is weird
-Out of pure jealousy because they aren't getting attention from the opposite sex while others are, thus resort to demonizing and insulting other men/women, portray themselves to be an ally and what the opposite sex desires just to have a chance of getting a romantic partner or laid out of desperation - also known as a 'pick me' (best examples of this are JustPearlyThings, Rachel Wilson, and a good portion of male feminists).
Thank you for that comment.
@@davinky1229 You're welcome :) Have a nice day and night!
I think the backseat driver thing is all in how it's executed. You don't want someone gasping or freaking out with everything because it can scare you unnecessarily. But I think it's helpful when everyone in the car is alert and helpful because like Jun said, we only have 2 eyes.
The complaining about him not complaining is what sold me on subscribing to this channel lol. Love that so much. This was very cute. Also 14 years is a long time, congratulations to you both.
My in-laws share a bit of a trait that you don't consider American, Rachel. My husband's family is much more reserved with affection. They are affectionate with infants, and little girls, but beyond that, they are very reserved, almost stoic in that regard. I don't think my parents-in-law would have ever told us they loved us unless their priest suggested they do it. A story that got back to me was from when my son was an adolescent, he was out with his grandfather, who said, "You know, X, I hate to say this, but I love you." That was the first and only time he ever told my son he loved him. The story amuses me because it demonstrated how challenging it was for him to express that type of thing. He didn't hate that he loved his grandson, just verbally expressing it. I never saw my in-laws show any open affection towards each other: no passing touches or caresses, no hand holding unless it was a safety issue, no hugs, nothing. My mother-in-law would hug me if I initiated it, but I wouldn't think of trying it with my father-in-law. I think he'd be repelled or startled.
With the I love you conversation. I've been with my husband (1/2 Japanese, grew up til highschool in Kyoto) for 16 years, married for 7. He would never say I love you and neither would his family (Even American mother). His mom recently said when myself and sister in law (also American) came into the family she noticed that everyone started saying I love you more often to each other.
But My parents also remember my older sister coming home when she was little and saying that she wanted us to say I love you more. I think that was more of a generational thing, My grandparents on both sides didn't say it very often and were more hard-working farm families. So I think part of it is generational but also cultural. ❤❤
OMG we need a plant tour! Please. Inside and out! The progress and new arrivals!
agree!!! plz
ahh yes please a plant tour would be great! 🥺🙏
I remember watching Jun more than a decade ago and he looks exactly the same now this man is a vampire
Haha thank you! Maybe it’s all the tomato juice…lol
@@RachelandJunAdventures tomato juice... got it, will start drinking daily! haha
The matching outfits are adorable!
It's so beautiful to see how Rachel unlocked Jun's personality to the world, over the years! She's so vivid and colourful and loud as a person, that it's impossible for someone, not to get carried away by her!
Jun on the other hand, is like a silent, calm power, that manages to control her fierce nature! Like an old soul living in today, with a little pixie flying around him, giving him meaning to otherwise, boring days!
You're completing each other so well, I always enjoy watching you two! I wish you and your kitties, always have a blessed life together, wrapped with wonderful memories, sprinkled with love! ❤️ from 🇬🇷
Jun, Rachel has a point! I think studies have been done that showed people actually bond stronger over shared hate than shared love. So complaining together is a very social thing that people in North America do a lot hahaha
Oh wow theyre still together and seem pretty happy, im impressed af
I love that Jun speaks Japanese for half his sentances, it gives me the chance to practice my Japanese without it being too tiring/ requiring 100% focus because it's not for the whole video!
I also find it interesting talking about the way he speaks English/Japanese, because I'm a native English speaker, but though working internationally and learning new languages, the way I speak English now is completely different. People even comment on it when I speak to them versus when I speak to friends and family from home, not because of an accent but just because of the way I speak and construst sentances!
Not me randomly remembering your channel after like 8 years and looking up to see how you were. Happy you’re both doing well!!!
I'm so amused at the backseat driving thing. XD Here, when I'm passenger I even tell my husband "All clear on my side!" at an intersection, like, that's my job. :) He also stopped me from totalling our rental car in miami, so that's a bonus. XD
I started watching you guys when I was 20 and my bf was 21! We’ve been together 13 years and he’s from Mexico but we live in the US and he’s quiet and calm like jun so I’ve always loved your videos because we are so similar in many ways. I like seeing the contrasts and differences it’s also just nice watching a couple grow together 🥰🫶🏽
I am so happy to see a video from y'all! This is the first video since the January First earthquake. I was worried enough to look up which city you live in to make sure it was no where near where the earthquake happened. I am glad you, your cats, and your home are safe.
I’ve been following you guys for years, and I can tell you something that hasn’t changed. - I always walk away from your videos feeling inspired to be better. Thank you for being genuinely good people. ❤
Aw... I love this kind of videos too. Don't worry, Rachel, I can see that you complain way less now, along with your whole demeanor (?) and approach. It's actually the thing I noticed the most when revisiting your older videos. Compared to your previous video, you do complain and give out strong exasperated sighs less. In recent videos, even if you were kinda complaining, it sounds more calm, matter-of-fact, with a hint of "oh well... Haha".
I'm not saying if one approach to life is better than the other. Just wanna say, hearing you say that you dont want to make Jun feel bad, even though he never forces you to change, warms my heart. I hope you know your effort don't go unnoticed ❤
Same goes with Jun about PDA or expressing love. From what I get, he doesn't think one way is better than the other; they're just different. Still, he changed and appreciate those changes because it helped him being more in tune and connected with you... from what I get.
This is a beautiful video, thank you for opening up with us! I'm looking forward to whatever videos you want to make, as the other commenter said before, what I want to see is you guys and how life's going. I love seeing you go around your city, I love seeing you do projects, I love seeing you playing with the cats. If I can request, though, I'd like to see how you both maintain the aquarium!
I kind of love that in every video you guys do with the Tokyo treat box it turns into a little segment on its own, like a video within a video. It’s just like “OK it’s snack time!”
Jun is code switching!!! I do that a lot in Spanish and English!!
It's genuinely sweet to do, so please!! Don't stop now Jun it's good for both practice and wholesome to watch
it's amazing how much more open and talkative jun is right now, he's not awkward at all. i remember watching you guys since i was a young teen and you all seem the same to me as you did many years ago. it's wonderful to see updates! thanks!
ive been with my wife for just about 12 years now and what i can say for sure is that you dont really know a person until you start living with them. ive seen so many other couples falling into this trap of quickly getting married before even moving together and most of those marragies like a mistake. some already failed.
i’ve been living with my partner for just over a year now, and it’s true 😅 it’s been a learning curve! (in a good way) ❤
Exactly! Been with my husband for nearly a decade and the worst fights we had was the first two years of living together! Now he’s the only person I fully can be myself now and relax better at home bc we worked through it and are still together!
Living together before marriage is a BIG NO 😊. Marriage is sacred, and that's when I consent to share my life with someone else.
I love when you guys just sit down and talk- more talking videos are totally welcome
😅 jun has such healthy mental health it makes me angry because im jealous! Trying to be more like jun in 2024
Congrats on the many years together ❤️ love your videos too thanks for everything
Wow, Jun makes you feel like you deserve something you don't need, but just yearn for. What a prize he is! Lucky, lucky Rachel! (Gee, he's handsome, too!) ❤
5 years ago I decided to change my life and move to Japan. I used to watch you guy's videos and always admired your relationship and communication. It's been a while since I last watched you because I didn't know this second channel but coincidentally now I found it right before celebrating my first anniversary of moving to Japan from the other side of the world. My boyfriend is japanese and we've been together for 7 months now and this video came to me like a gift from above hahah He reminds me sooo so much of Jun, especially the way they speak and how they express themselves. Although we come from radically different cultures we have a lot of fun learning about each other's way of thinking and I love him so much. I've been having a hard time recently exactly because of this difference in showing affection - even though he is extremely affectionate for a japanese person. This video was ridiculously relatable for us, and I had no idea you two have been together for such a long time! Thank you so much for this, really. I wish you two and your furry children the absolute best in life
I do love and miss these sit down talk videos because they're so chill :) You don't always have to upload a video of a DIY or a project. I will say if you do not know what the viewers want, an easy answer is always your cats 😆
if i have to be honest, Jun and Rachel are opposite, idk how they are still together after 14 years. Their personalities clash. I think thats pretty amazing that at the end of the day, if you really love someone, both accomodate each other despite of differences. That's what love is all about, you sacrifice for each other (both ways), and get along. This can last until old days.
Happy (almost) anniversary!
Rachel you are wonderful. Jun you are wonderful. You both are unique. Please do not change.
You guys can even just upload short ASMR videos of your furkids and we wouldn't even complain honestly. I'm always looking forward to any of your videos, both this channel and Jun's. It's fascinating that it's just your normal day to day yet I learn a lot ❤❤❤
A healthy, hardworking, compromising successful couple.
Culture differences on top of personality differences are difficult, you guys are great. Wishing you continued happiness.
Rachel and Jun is my favorite and only "comfort couple", I've followed you guys for quite some time and it's so heartwarming to know that, somewhere, there is a couple living life to its fullest. I wish you guys a happy new year and continue to put out more slice of life videos!
You guys could share daily live of yours, morning/evening routine, cat’s routine, garden, how to take care garden in winter (which im struggling rn😅), going to the park/beach with cats, hiking(?)
Anyways i would be happy to watch any videos of u guys, i always find it comforting.
Jun is so chill which I always admired that about him because I get fired up so easily.
Still loving this couple after so many years of following your channels. Once again, thanks for sharing with us.
Thanks for sharing your learnings as a couple that has grown together.
About the back-seat driving question, I think it's deeper than it seems on the surface level for Americans. It's about trusting someone else's competence. On the other hand, from a Japanese perspective, collective safety trumps competence and also there might be more openness to being corrected by people around you. Both of these perspectives are great and equally valid. The solution might be something along the lines of how can a passenger offer constructive criticism to the driver without undermining their competence? Similarly, how can the driver show humility and openness to correction without feeling attacked? Food for thought.
You were smart, you recognized you were right for each other and started a lifetime commitment together. By doing this you have grown together and made your relationship stronger. Wishing you a long and happy life together.
Congratulations ♡ I have followed you for over 10 years. You are both lovely in and out. Individually and together.
I was following other 'j-tubers' back in the day; I still follow Sharla too.
Thank you for checking in every now and then. xx
お二人の話してること、単語はわかっても文法がわからなくてあまり聞き取れてないのですが、それでも笑い合ってるお二人を見てると本当に心から幸せな気持ちになります！
動画を上げてくださってありがとうございます！
本当に、お二人と猫ちゃんたちがずっと幸せでいてほしいです
Your relationship is old enough to be a high schooler! Congratulations 🎉❤ 😊
Yes Jun, your English has improved a lot! And Rachel complains less, your relationship is so wonderful, cheers for more years to come 🎉.
16:32 BLEACH (the anime!) uses this cultural connection, in its own myth: a red 'spirit ribbon' connecting a soul to its source!
Thank you for mic-ing Nagi on the outro! That purrrr was heartfelt, and super-cute. 🥰🥰
You two are so sweet together, hoping you have many more years together with a lot of happiness!
I definitely want more of videos like this!!! I love hearing about your years together and how you’ve grown together Over time!! Been watching your channel for the longest time and I miss the videos where your together like this!!
❤❤👏👍
14 years!!! Congratulations and it’s so nice to see you guys doing a video like this again!
I love how they both still use their native languages back and forth and just understand each other perfectly
I didn't know how much I was missing Rachel's voice! ❤ Hearing it gives me a warm, safe feeling. 🥰
You two are /such/ a cute couple!! ❤❤ Congratulations for almost 14 years together!
Im just leaving this. I know it helps the channel 👍☺
Thanks for speaking about internalized misogyny. Been watching you two for years. It’s relaxing to hear you two chat about go about your lives. And I like the couple chats and games because it’s relatable and it’s good to hear about the ups and downs of relationships. This video inspired me to sit down with my current boyfriend and chat through what we appreciate about each other more often
The matching gray shirts make my heart happy ❤
Awwww, Rachel & Jun are an awesome couple 🎉🎉
ほんとにお似合いのカップルですね！
これからも末永く幸せにね！
英語は分かりませんが...私は昔から視聴させていただいております。
いつも、ご視聴ありがとうございまいます！🙂
Thank you Rachel for speaking up about your experience with internalized misogyny. It’s good hearing that one’s experiences are not isolated
To answer Rachel's question about what content I'd like to see it doesn't matter. I'm here to see what you've been up to. Every video has a wholesome and fun atmosphere and that's what I come back to always. :)
As others have said, your channel is just a vibe, no matter what you're doing! Not very helpful for your content ideas but that's just really what i'm here for. Just people living in Japan that like plants and fun diy projects that have cute cats. Basically living vicariously through your every day life, if that helps.
I literally dont care what you post as ling as it contains you (Rachel), Jun, the kitties, and WHATEVER activity of your choice. Ive enjoyed watching you build things, clean things, exploreJapan, so i really think whatever you like, as ling as it’s you guys ill likely enjoy it, im just glad you guys still post ❤