Why More Nigerian Marriages Are Taking Divorce Option Abroad | Your View Hot Topic
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- The ladies of Your View got a call from Canada, raising alarm over the rise of divorce cases amongst Nigerian couples. Why is it that when Nigerian couples migrate abroad, they tend to fall apart? Here's what the ladies of Your View had to say, and we had a few calls from the diaspora. What are your thoughts?
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Even though I live in the US, I can relate to the Nigerians in Canada. I think their problem is this since most recently migrate from Nigeria. Men don't do any house chores or cook in Nigeria because they have maids, here at abroad it's a teamwork. Men must cook and do house chores. Both husband and wife are both working hard to pay the bills.
In the US, its also the men don't want to help pay the bills. When the wife is paying all the bills by herself, husband is flirting around, one day she will decide that I had enough. The funny thing is if they are married to White or African American they behave right, they cook and do house chores but when married to a Nigerian woman after getting the Green card, they start having their big egos.
You nailed it.
You said it all!
Stop lieing we all living in 🇺🇸 here too
Lol, Nigerian women just want who can keep them in that country. They’re there for green card and not love.
The issues is a lot
Many marriages in Nigeria are built on a toxic foundation. there's a lot of control rather than leadership. If some of this men really think the way they treat their is right in Nigeria they shouldn't have an issue carrying the same at the behaviour abroad if its right why are you afraid of law? You marry a foreigner and you are involved in cooking, cleaning and caring for "YOUR CHILDREN" .
Just as men are independent and have freedom to do as they like, get used to a woman being independent too. she is just as human as you are.
A marriage built on a rocky foundation of Ego, pride and less communication will definitely have issue abroad. To thrive abroad both spouses must work well together, respect eachother. The men will have an issue because the government supports women's right which is not the issue - "Treat yourselves with kindness"
No support system abroad you are your own support system so both spouses have to figure how it would work.
Men- Leadership is not = Control it is = Influence. If you have to exert control you have missed it somewhere.
Women- Submission is NOT oppression change how you were thought about it. submission in marriage is a wife making a choice not to overtly resist her husband's will. That is not to say she cannot disagree with him or that she cannot express her opinion.
Even bible after giving wives and husbands their roles in the later verse it said "Submit to one another" but everyone skips that part.
By the way i live abroad, have children and i must say it is not as hard as people take it, they just make it tough on themselves - IT CAN WORK AND WORK WELL.
I knew Tope would give one analogy wey no enter😁. I so much love BeeCee’s perspective, she got it all👏🏾👏🏾. I’m a doctor in the UK, married to a doctor too and God blessed us with two boys. The main thing is adapting, both of you work together, communicate and become flexible! SIMPLE!! It’s working perfectly for us in our home.Aunty Morayo, switching ain’t hard at all. If you LOVE each other, you won’t have issues.
The first guy that called gave himself away with his "control" statement. Why should anyone be looking to control their spouse? He is putting down Nigerian marriages abroad because he realises that the allowed premise of being able to control his wife in Nigeria is not the same abroad, and the misogynist that he is, he doesn't like it. Tough. Women are waking up from oppression rightly so. Deal with it!
The lady in the yellow shirt have spoken. Is all about team work and maturity anywhere in the world. Don't let the culture kill your happiness.
My take on it is that if couples understand the fundamental principles of marriage and have true connection, then their marriages should thrive no matter where it exists. However, a lot of marriages in Nigeria take place due to reasons related to financial gains (especially for the woman). When these couples migrate abroad, most of the women suddenly become financially independent thus removing the fundamental reasons why she needed marriage in the first place this leading to the high rate of divorce. Most couples in Nigeria are really just managing their marriages due to the accessible family support that is obtainable.
My sister, you just said it all..
My sister, you just said it all..
You nailed it and that's what is happening
I agree with you 100%
There needs to be constant effective communication and understanding. And be honest with your selves and each other.
A Marriage built on the Foundation of God will survive anywhere. If you really want to test the strength of your Marriage move out of your comfort Zone. Those Marriages that fails no matter how you dice amd slice it will fail. Men have egos and Women have egos, God doesn't!!! Ms Tope, Women don't always get the advantage in Marriage. The Laws does. A man that's controlling in Nigeria will be controlling in abroad, a woman that came abroad and became wayward was already wayward in Nigeria but was suppressed. A Marriage built on God's Foundation will last !!!
Two genuine, kind, mentally sane and fair people in a marriage succeed in a marriage no matter where they are. Secondly marriages in Nigeria oppresses women.
The way people paint abroad tho... this thing about women submitting isn't only an African thing, though we can be very extreme in our approach. One day, I missed my way in New York and a women drove by and stopped to help me, But first she said I will have to drive home to inform my husband then if you are still here, we will come get you. I was wawued😁.... All that matters is mutual respect of each other's opinions/actions
Huh???? Nawa ooo
Was this before cellphones ????
Naija women in diaspora, marry oyinbo let them show you love and pamper you biko! Let the best man win. ❤️
Same thing with black men , Nigeria men in USA are into white women and black American women nobody need Nigeria women here
@@immaculate2197 that's why it's unwise for Nigerian women in diaspora to limit themselves to Nigerian men especially when these same Nij men have widened their pool by considering Latino, African American, white American etc.
@@faa8882 am dating a black America woman and she is the best women on earth , many nigeria men love black America women and other western women because they don’t pretend they show you their real selves unlike Nigeria women after helping them along the line many get cheated on. Tbh Nigeria men don’t even care or bothered about who Nigeria women date or marry when we have many things to deal with
White people are just as evil, let the best man win not the race.
Here comes another Ignoramus. You think because you marry oyibo therefore, you'll be pampered? The same people that have more divorce cases than us
Abroad the system guaranteed women independent and survival especially when they have children unlike in Nigeria where you are financially dependent even if you have a good job the fear of the unknown is what is keeping many nigerians women in the marriage, they're not fully assertive and often Walk in the man's shadow unlike abroad a woman with 4 children is as good as anyone especially if she's a career oriented unlike in Nigeria where spinsters are still struggling to get husband not to talk of after one or two... it's just unfortunate and that gives the Men a mental edge to misbehave in Nigeria unlike abroad when the woman choices are unlimited
Tbh am a Nigerian american ,marriages is on a constant declined mode here . The rate of single mothers here is alarming no well to do will want to marry a single woman with four children except she is a celebrity
You're indeed wise, God bless wisdom
‘If a woman is submissive and a man can control her’…. Mr Ade is the typical naija man that want to control women rather than have a partnership
Exposure and freedom of choice, is what rocks the boat.
This discussion is dynamics.
I will start with the Indians and Nepalese. These people also migrated and they don't have these problems. As a matter of fact, their men are more masculine than Nigerian men, and not all Indian men assist at home.
The truth is, a woman is an emotional being and most Nigerian women quickly start to use the system once they 'feel' they are not happy again. For most marriages, there are ups and downs, and there is continuous "talking". I have seen situations where the man does everything you have mentioned, and the woman still divorces because she feels she can do it herself, perhaps, the system can help her to achieve what she wants and she does not need her man. After all, she will still get the children and the man will pay for child support. Who won't be happy to break a contract that you are rewarded for breaking it? Marriage is hard everywhere in the world. Now, imagine not having to do much, just break the marriage, then you still have your kids and the man is made to pay for it. You can go ahead and have sex with whoever you want (in most cases, that is always sweeter 😁 being the first time and you are tired of your husband. I might be wrong in this case). Anybody that does not have family values will jump at this nonsense, at least she is not losing much, but the man, who is now your new 'enemy' losses everything.
Let us call a spade a spade, most of these women will come out and talk about how men don't assist and all that BS. Most men assist in the Western world, and you can't really satisfy a woman and she will always bring something up when her emotions start playing up. I have seen great men their wives divorce them, and when the wives are asked; the response is always something very trivial.
Another thing I have seen is that most married women have casual sex or start to feel someone outside is making her feel more like a woman. This is in two ways.
The first one, life is extremely hard abroad. Now a man that has gone for multiple shifts and he's lying there like a log of wood. When his wife demands sex, most men won't last more than 2 minutes or so. And if this persists, these women will eventually 'nack' their colleagues or someone they feel attracted to. Once these happened, the woman will bring all problems in the world and tell you all what the man did wrong, and she wants 'out'. She will never tell you her emotions have shifted toward someone outside the marriage. Remember, a woman is only loyal to her emotions. In most cases, they won't tell you they have cheated. It could be by sex, sexting (texting someone you are emotionally connecting with), nude video etc. Remember, it started by both doing 2 or 3 jobs and not having great time to talk, having no energy for sex etc. Most of these women do this when they want to feel validated, and the truth is a strange man will do all that just to get in between her legs. I realized most married Nigerian women had had affairs before divorcing. The once that did not quickly retrace their steps once they start that path of affairs.
In addition, finance is another problem. A woman is hypergamy by nature. In Nigeria, you earn good money when you do a good job or do good business. In the Western world, you can make the same money as a software developer doing gardener, you just to do 2 or 3 jobs. Now, when this happens, most women don't see the value of their husbands in that relationship anymore. Especially if the man is telling her how to spend the money. Know that men are more frugal with money while a woman like spending. Most women grew up knowing men spent their money on them. So spending is not a big deal for a woman. Back in Nigeria, because the man might be, in most cases the one providing the cash, the woman is okay with the man telling her how to spend "OUR MONEY" and navigate through finances for the good of the family and all she knows is how to spend the money. Now abroad, if he tries to tell her how to spend "OUR MONEY", then it becomes a problem. Now the man's money becomes "OUR MONEY" and the woman's money becomes "MY MONEY". In most cases, these will annoy any reasonable man. Remember that this man has been doing this alone all along without wifey helping out. There is a saying that the loyalty of a woman is tested when her man has nothing. But these days, her loyalty is tested when she earns up to or slightly more than her man and this is very possible abroad.
So, let us leave the crap that men don't help. Some men do not, but most men do, but there are other underlying factors that most women can not publicly say that has happened. That is why in most cases, women will tell their mother or her family what was wrong, but won't discuss it with the man or people that know the man, because she knew the man will be hinted and the man will say the truth and she will be blamed for her action. If she really wants to keep her home, she should try marriage therapy or counselors first, and not after affairs, please.
If you say it is our black men, what about whites that are divorcing and their husbands help with house chores and do not work as hard as our men. Most Nigerians ladies that married whites end up working as twice or as equal to the man. Because of the hypergamy nature of a woman, she will stick with the man because her brain tells her the white is superior to the black, even when the whitey is an old man or low-level person. The truth is, you cannot satisfy a woman and she will do whatever to have her way, and if she doesn't get it, the system is there to help her get it. It could be more sex she wants, it could be more money, it could be more freedom etc. Like @Iphie (@emmanuellaonaku911) said, if couples understand the fundamental principles of marriage and have true connection, then their marriages should thrive no matter where it exists. But there is no true love in most Nigerian marriages, most women married because the guy can provide and once they get to abroad, if she can do it for herself, then she does not need the guy.
I love this lady in yellow. so true.
Mr Ade is yarning dust. They plenty for London😂😂. I’m sure it’s men like him that will support Tope’s analogy. How many diaspora women will insist that they want to go to Paris instead of staying with children??🙄🙄. He’s a joker. Y’all should go and follow ObodoOyinbo Tv and know what’s going on in the diaspora. Paris ko, Venice ni 🙄🙄💁🏽♀️💁🏽♀️
Thank you sis,Exactly go to Paris for which party? They have join bills to pay and I will go for a party all the way to Paris.
no be small "yarning dust" 🤣🤣
In Nigeria we recognize man as the head of the house and man provides for his family but abroad women are given a bit of preference making a working Nigerian woman wants the man to continue funding the home while she still claims equality by not having to cook for house.
Abroad the system guaranteed women independent and survival especially when they have children unlike in Nigeria where you are financially dependent even if you have a good job the fear of the unknown is what is keeping many nigerians women still in the marriage back home.
Much needed discussion. Good job ladies! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Responsibility and communication is the keys without pride, arrogance
My take on this is that, in the western world marriage is like partnership btw husband and wife, but in Nigeria that is not so, women are like second class, we have to be submissive, even if we are going through hell. Because society always favor men over women. Divorce is almost not an option, you just have to bear everything, we have to make that marriage work.
Refer to my post...Most men..me inclusive are not scared of house chores I can cook and clean but under the conditions that those functions considered men's roles would have to be shared as well.....EQUITY AND FAIRNESS...Do not remind me I am the man of the house when it is time to pay bills period ...bills have to be equally shared.....women are quick to cite imbalance on the side of women but completely ignore other areas were men are extra active more than them.
The same things we see as the causes of divorce abroad are happening back home. Here in Nigeria, women are encouraged to speak out when abused by their husbands and seek for help from the Authority. Also, when a man marries from another tribe, he and his family respect and pamper her. Reason being that she's a stranger and should be treated right so that her family/tribe will not have a negative opinion about the man's family/tribe. It's also worth mentioning that there're career women in Africa/Nigeria (Engineers, Doctors, Nuses and Entrepreneurs) whose jobs are so demanding and are still good housewives. The world is now a global village with the advent of social media.
Western Culture is being practiced in one way or the other in every home. Notwithstanding, it's an individual thing to be responsible or irresponsible. Having lived abroad, I believe the most important things in marriage are expected of the parties involved - respect, understanding and consideration for each other.
My take on it is that if couples understand the fundamental principles of marriage and have true connection, then their marriages should thrive no matter where it exists. However, a lot of marriages in Nigeria take place due to reasons related to financial gains (especially for the woman). When these couples migrate abroad, most of the women suddenly become financially independent thus removing the fundamental reasons why she needed marriage in the first place thus leading to the high rate of divorce.
Most couples in Nigeria are really just managing their marriages due to the accessible family support that is obtainable. However, in abroad there’s usually no close family support thus making the difficulties the couples may face more glaring and difficult to manage which in turn may lead to divorce.
I wholeheartedly agree with your submission!!
@@wahabodusola6484 thank you 😊
In Nigeria here divorce rate is also skyrocketing o, it is a global thing.
My wife and I have been married for 47 years. 15 yrs. in Cameroon and 32 yrs in America. In Cameroon I earned 3 times more than my wife. Here now my wife earns 4 times my salary but we have no issue because first, we love one another, second we are Christians and God hates divorce, third we work on our marriage every day, forth when we came together she knew I had no money, finally we trusted God to supply our needs, resolve our issues and He has never failed us why should we fail Him?
Tope - never wear this gold helmet on your head again. You're on TV. Honest opinion lol
Hey, it's looks nice on her, if u don't like it that's ur opinion.
The only way to enjoy marriage and have a crisis free marriage in to imbibe Christian values
Any other value be it western or Nigeria will certainly end up in crisis
Stats doesn't support that. Religious people get divorce at about the same rate.
@@boukimalice7909 Being religious is entirely a different issue
Almost everybody you come across is practicing one religion or the other
I am talking about loving your wife the way Christ love the church
This is an instrument that when you work obedience, you will nerver experience divorce
If any one say he is in Christ and you divorce your wife, the person is fake and the truth is not in him
Most marriages has issues because there were never true love . Some people brought their spouse's only to find out they didn't know each other well while in Nigeria. The problem is on both sides man and woman.
I love your Program. Thanks for encouraging us and everything you do
Na wa o,. A foreginer watching this will think Nigerian women in Nigeria are very soft and docile people. Western women are more gentle than Nigerian women, from my years living abroad.
Tbh you are very correct . Am a Nigerian American black American women are more understanding and even caring compare to a Nigeria woman
Nigerian men are known to be very controlling and dominating. Most western women can attest to this.
It depends on how you define docile
Nigerian women are sometimes aggressive and selfish
One thing that should also be taken into account, some women in Nigeria marry bcos of economic support n freedom from their parents, the man is the king of the house, bcos he provides for n protects this home , he demands loyalty n submission from his wife n children, he is in charge of the system of his home , but when they move abroad, the government control the system the couple would have to live with, the system Favours the woman over the man, the system support n protects the woman more than the man, so even if the man is the bread winner of the house, he may find it difficult to demand that respect loyalty n submission from his wife and children bcos the man is no longer in control of the system,
Control within marriage is not healthy but being a cooperating partner is better.
That analogy from the blond lady is dope, also the system supports women more to the detriment of men
You are wrong, the system gives equal rights to both men and women, unlike in Africa, women are like second class, we have to be submissive, even when our husbands beat us, we don't want to leave the marriage because Africa society will always look down on divorce women, compare to the man. Our men are not use to that equal right, and the ladies see it as freedom.
@@eduanozie7561 no it is not designed to favor one gender over another it's fair and just. The partner making more money pays the child support and maybe alimony to the other party that's not making much and has the child custody. If the wife is making 6 figures and hubby not so much she will pay alimony for a year or two till the guy stabilize and vice versa. Some African women who are tired of bullying called submissions, selfishly use the the system to get their freedom and they don't work much the hubby does most times so they tend to be at the receiving end. If the 6 figure earning wife has the kid's custody the court will still take a minimal fraction of the hubby's paycheck just to signify that he contribute to their welfare. They both have visiting rights to the kids. They stay with one parent all week and the other parent every other weekend or however they work it out. If a spouse move out of state, then the kid's spend the summer break with the other spouse.
The system is fair but 9ja men think it's not because it's not like in Africa where the woman walk away with nothing including 0 access to the kids till they become adults.
@@elizaleke8373 you said it all, thanks.
@@elizaleke8373 you can say it any better
Good job ladies
You Ladies nailed it with your Analogies about change of environment, orientation, cum value system in the new countries that our people relocate to.
We must always know that we are first, Africans; a people with a very strong cultural value system built around patriarchy.
When our people change environments, they are too quick to dump the core of their identity, to embrace everything about the oyinbo system.
See the Indians, Pakistanis, Chinese, Japanese etc.
Though, we should still aim at balance o
Very true
The major problem affecting marriages in abroad is documentation When a man has to marry to get papers
Oby is on point here, Nigerian men loves to dominate and do not care of their spouses feelings.
*Some
I year later, are you not still with a Nigerian guy. Lol
Yes they treat foreign women differently
I love Mariam
This topic is serious, Out there the laws favor women when the law is suppose to be just and fair. why should i pay the whole rent when you want equality. the divorce laws should be fair especially both agree to both their separate ways
These ladies talking are the same people that preaches a man bear the financial responsibilities and all....they carry the same mentality abroad, while she gets to do whatever she likes with her own money....that's already a recipe for disaster
BeeCee has nailed it!!
I just love this
Is it a bad thing to respect ladies? Why do you want to over control an adult?
It’s that need to want to control another full adult. Why not think of collaboration? Why can’t the men recognize the new environment and reduce their need to control their spouses? Can’t they learn a little bit from the men in their new environment?
Beecee's last view is just the root of it all that a lot of singles going into marriage fails to hold. Most singles need to reconstruct their mentality and perception about the institution called marriage in order to have a marital bliss.
Love all the Ladies of Your View. I miss Mrs Nymar on this.
I am sorry to say ladies. Why do you wear such terrible wigs you are already beautiful these colours do nothing for you.
But why is it dat all this stuff happen in africa community do not find it among asians and india community
How do you know that asians n indians dont hv marital issues? Are you in their community? You have not heard of how asian women are emasculating their men n leaving them for oyinbo abi? And what about the indians deleting their wives in america? The grass is not greener anywhere. Only where you water your grass. Instead of looking at race - ppl should really take their time n clear mind when choosing a spouse. It is a very important decision
Keep blaming the man instead of working on yourselves.
The British accent confuse some people😂😂😂
Our problem is simple, our people are foolish to try to be who they are not in a foreign land.
I live in New York. Only some of our people throw away our culture when we travel out, please my Mum raised me to go to market from the age of 7, help her in the kitchen & chores.Marriage is a tram work.
Some of Our women come here and make useless friends, who have messed up their marriages already and out there to break other women’s marriage.
Why do the Indians, Jews, Chinese, Whites succeed in marriage except black people abroad?
They stick to their culture while adapting to team work to beat the system abroad.
Couple must help each other as a unit. A husband must love his wife & a wife must submit to her husband. And both must submit to one another, yes, they must
How do you know that asians n indians dont hv marital issues? Are you in their community? You have not heard of how asian women are emasculating their men n leaving them for oyinbo abi? And what about the indians deleting their wives in america? The grass is not greener anywhere. Only where you water your grass. Instead of looking at race - ppl should really take their time n clear mind when choosing a spouse. It is a very important decision
Tope always reason out of emotion, seriously her husband is lucky
You all forget that no system, western or African will support your emotional needs. And newton's 3rd law comes into play "to every action there is an equal and opposite reaction". Please God bless the wise woman with the TOPE with coloured wig.
And you guys shouldn't forget that women are wired to be stronger spiritually and men fisically
As Christians the Bible is clear on what marriage should be like and each person's role is defined. I'm sure d other religions hv a clean template on theirs as well. Tope well-done for sharing ur tots today
Have you actually read the bible?
@@boukimalice7909 if I don't read d Bible I won't make reference to it ...
Why are you all having this conversation without a man representative?
This is an interesting discussion ladies and gentlemen. I would suggest you look at statistics of relationship particularly in advanced countries like UK, Canada and America before anybody jumps to conclusions.. 50% of marriages or relationship ends in separation or divorce in UK and Canada every year. Worst still, the statistics is shameful amongst the ethnic minorities. The simple reason being that amongst other things, women are financially and materially independent. I would say, stand to be corrected though, that in Europe, particularly in UK, 2 young british born couple in relationship or marriage is most probably would end in divorce before their 10th year anniversary of their wedding. Please, lets forget for a minute the issue of you are foreigners or Nigerian-born or immigrants, this is happening amongst the real indigenes, aliens inclusive. According to recent statistics, there are 32 reasons why marriages fail particularly in UK. However, please have a guess how many reasons that would make marriages work in UK..?. Not too many to be honest, just 4 reasons, I am sure your guess is as good as mine.... Its an established fact that women, with due respect, are genuinely loving, career-minded and indulge in independence. Needless to say, this is one of the reasons why young women are leaving relationship or marriages till later age(30s and upwards) which I believe, from medical point of view, is dangerous to their productive system, if women would like to reproduce. Though every woman's physiology and medical history are different in terms of conceiving to have children. A young lady said the other day that, marriage is old school now... By and large, honesty, respect, tolerance and compromise as well as love are the key ingredients of relationship..so its not geographical location or where you come from, particularly in advanced countries. However, without doubt, the law and custom favour single women. As a trained marriage therapist, I can tell you for nothing that marriage's challenges affect everybody, but its those who can hold on and steady the ship in the deep sea survive. Therefore, wherever you come from or parental's background experiences are NOT the 'de facto' of marriages' successes but the couple's mindset. Every marriage is different but it requires the couple to rekindle the love and understanding at all times.....Thanks.
Marrying later is not good for men either. This ageism against women is getting old. Your sperm quality diminishes n men are getting ED in their 30s. Everyone needs to be accountable. You cannot blame women for their independence when you want to be bachelor for life while married.
I don’t think anybody is blaming anybody but it’s collective responsibility as all the contributors have said..This is not definitively against a man or a woman..The data are in public domain about modern marriages failure and successes. We are living in a society where there’s maximum respect for rules of law. Just think about it for a second..amongst other things the consequences of dysfunctional or failed marriages especially when there are young children involved, particularly among the ethnic minorities. 1. According to recent data, domestic violence has risen dramatically. 1 woman is being seriously abused or killed every 3 days in UK during the domestic violence. 2..The social media has not helped few married couples because, you can easily cascade information that are detrimental to both parties. 3..There are higher percentages of youngsters in prisons today as a result of broken homes or single parent or failed marriages amongst ethnic minorities. There’s no patience anymore amongst couple to resolve their matter amicably without involvement of external parties. Consequently the law will take its course. Don’t get me wrong, single parent or unmarried parents kids have made significant achievements. However a home without a father or mother due to broken marriage is a recipe for disaster. Every home needs a royal model…otherwise there would be continuous challenges…Marriages as defined are one of the fundamental importance of human existence. There’s a marriage ceremony going all over the world as we speak..so it’s awesome let’s make it work please…
Just marry your friend. They're right about people coming abroad and getting divorced shortly after. It's
high now with more Nigerian couples migrating to Canada. The reason is because most people get married for selfish reasons, the 9ja economic and judgemental environment make people stay in marriages that's not working anymore etc. So they get abroad and make use of the financial independence and non judgmental society to walk away from the union they are enduring.
Once again marry your friend, love and submit to one another, whatever you don't want don't do it to the other party.
@@sweetspice9120 great..so please get married at 45..cheers.
Control means ,jagbe mo iyawo,koma le soro means control
Trouble makers,why are you all having this conversation without a man representative?
You guys love to be in charge so much and don't want to have a man making decisions,then simply stay single and age gracefully alone. You can't have two captains in a ship with equal decision making capacity.
Men’s ego Nigerian men has plenty ego
And Nigerian women have what?? Remember, it takes two to tango.
All the time Nigeria man blame woman for divorce
Mr. Ade is a bush man.
You should respect elders. Also try to learn from elderly wisdom. Just my thought. :)
Men in Nigeria are use to controlling everything and women does not have any say in their marriage whether you are doing your wifely duties or not. Marriage is met for mature people and not a servant master relationship.
Understand this,when two or more people come together leadership must be established. The bible clearly shows God's wisdom is that the man has to be the head and that means bearing the burden on the family and the woman supports by being submissive and showing a pattern of behaviour for the children to follow.
They don’t love ich other,the woman got married to Europe or American and other way round,omo,iro is key to bad marriage
The lady on yellow is the real deal ❤
I will tell you that families are built by women,
That's why oyibo will tell you that you pay for the bill's but don't live together
Many of those guys trying to please thier oyibo wives are looking for papers, do they have to play along
Many naija live thier oyibo wives successfully because oyibo women perspectives about life in general is different from the way awa see life or marriage....too much unnecessary drama
Don't you see how well oyibo women treat awa naija brothers even if we give 30% of what we give to awa naija women.....naija men are truly underappreciated in our society
You will cheat on your hubby and you still take him to court to collect his house, pay child support, while your new boyfriend is fucking you in the house he bought......
U doing bitter
Your analysis is baseless. 9ja men respect their oyinbo wife and that's all every woman ask for not materialism be it 30% or 100% not all of us want material things. We pay our bills and take care of our responsibilities.
Don't bully your African wife in the guise of African culture and no woman cheat on her husband without a reason while men cheat on their wives as an ancestral right. Friendship and mutual respect is key.
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My take on it is that if couples understand the fundamental principles of marriage and have true connection, then their marriages should thrive no matter where it exists. However, a lot of marriages in Nigeria take place due to reasons related to financial gains (especially for the woman). When these couples migrate abroad, most of the women suddenly become financially independent thus removing the fundamental reasons why she needed marriage in the first place this leading to the high rate of divorce. Most couples in Nigeria are really just managing their marriages due to the accessible family support that is obtainable.
Abroad the system guaranteed women independent and survival especially when they have children unlike in Nigeria where you are financially dependent even if you have a good job the fear of the unknown is what is keeping many nigerians women still in the marriage back home.
Not in 2021 o, They are leaving marriages in Nigeria too.
@@edwardbanjo5146 well many or some are holding on to the marriage for financial support and the fear of the unknown for survival which the system literally eliminated abroad
My take on it is that if couples understand the fundamental principles of marriage and have true connection, then their marriages should thrive no matter where it exists. However, a lot of marriages in Nigeria take place due to reasons related to financial gains (especially for the woman). When these couples migrate abroad, most of the women suddenly become financially independent thus removing the fundamental reasons why she needed marriage in the first place this leading to the high rate of divorce. Most couples in Nigeria are really just managing their marriages due to the accessible family support that is obtainable.
My take on it is that if couples understand the fundamental principles of marriage and have true connection, then their marriages should thrive no matter where it exists. However, a lot of marriages in Nigeria take place due to reasons related to financial gains (especially for the woman). When these couples migrate abroad, most of the women suddenly become financially independent thus removing the fundamental reasons why she needed marriage in the first place this leading to the high rate of divorce. Most couples in Nigeria are really just managing their marriages due to the accessible family support that is obtainable…
Thank you my sister. Your reasoning is highly appreciated and seconded by me. The principle of marriage is not know by many couples, hence misbehaviour abounds here and there.
Thanks
@@halidsheriff8002 thank you my brother. You are most welcome.
Why the message repetition!!
My take on it is that if couples understand the fundamental principles of marriage and have true connection, then their marriages should thrive no matter where it exists. However, a lot of marriages in Nigeria take place due to reasons related to financial gains (especially for the woman). When these couples migrate abroad, most of the women suddenly become financially independent thus removing the fundamental reasons why she needed marriage in the first place this leading to the high rate of divorce. Most couples in Nigeria are really just managing their marriages due to the accessible family support that is obtainable.
My take on it is that if couples understand the fundamental principles of marriage and have true connection, then their marriages should thrive no matter where it exists. However, a lot of marriages in Nigeria take place due to reasons related to financial gains (especially for the woman). When these couples migrate abroad, most of the women suddenly become financially independent thus removing the fundamental reasons why she needed marriage in the first place this leading to the high rate of divorce. Most couples in Nigeria are really just managing their marriages due to the accessible family support that is obtainable.