Never agree to meet again after break-up, especially at a private place. Always ask for someone to go with you and, if legal make audio/video recording just in case. Men: you might get accused of rape/assault and then get beat-up by friends/family for said "rape". Women: you might get kidnapped/raped/assaulted or murdered (yes, opposite are possible but less frequent)
If my ex dared to ask me to meet in a public place where she expects us to be just the two of us, I'd pretend to go through it with but I won't actually show up, just hopefully make her waste her time going to that place for nothing because I never showed up. That's one way to put it.
03:52 Never. Ever. Go to someone's house right after breaking up with that person. I don't think I have to explain why. Anyone who knows not everyone is a "good guy" will know what I'm talking about.
I mean, sometimes... most of the time it just makes them hurt more, seeing you but no longer being able to be with you, and the wound being so raw it can prolong their grieving of the end of that relationship. And then occasionally you end up impulsively fricking, and while better than what you were thinking, not ideal if you have no intention of getting back together.
Get all your stuff out of their property first (preferably with someone else), break up in a public place where they can't assault you and never come back alone.
Get all your stuff out of their property first (preferably with someone else), break up in a public place where they can't assault you, and never come back or walk alone for a while.
No joke, that line sounds like the lyrics in some breakup song. Because if you're dying from overdosing on beer and pills, the only thing that's going to save you is getting your stomach pumped at the hospital.
Literally what my ex has been doing these last two weeks : "Don't leave me, I can only be happy with you" - I wasn't "Guess Lucifer will come take my soul.." - And watcha want me to do about it "Only you can save my heart.." - Goddammit please, frick off I'm tired of this bullshit
Then there's me, an impulsive, emotional person who suffers from mental health issues, who somehow managed to break up amicably and be mature about it even as the dumpee, and is still friends with all my former bfs to this day (probably at least partially due to lack of post-relationship drama), wondering wtf is actually wrong with these people.
No coping skills. Abandonment issues. Anxious attachment styles. Lack of good parenting that couldvr repared them for relationships and break ups in their adult life. Oh, and codependency and for some I'm sure some NPD, borderline personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder. Those are some of the culprits for nasty reactions to break ups
I have officially. I work in a psych ward. One morning going over the names of new patients their was and ex girlfriend. I was like F.. that I'm outta here until she is transferred to another ward. Most uncomfortable experience ever. Just to know that I could go over her journals and stuff was downright awful.
Folks….please never be dumb enough to believe someone who says they won’t believe you unless you tell them to their face. Now they know why you’re going to meet them and they could be planning harm. It’s over when you said it’s over. No matter how you’ve informed them. Period.
I was in a severely abusive relationship from the age of 15-17. She was 20 when we got together (Yes I know it was a bad desicion and I was a dumb teen) She didn't want me to see friends, wouldn't work while she was living in my parents house, I was paying for her makeup, essentials, and her pot. Probably between $400-500 a month. Would constantly leave my house and ghost me for days, manipulate me into feeling terrible even though I was going to school and working full time. Refused to get a job or even clean up after her self. On our 1 year anniversary she decided to leave town and go to a convention despite me saying I was uncomfortable with it and ghosted me for the whole 10 days she was gone. After that she became incredibly physically abusive and I finally was able to get away when my parents kicked her out of the house. When I finally broke up with her she threatened to kill my whole family in front of me, then kill me, assault my body, then kill herself. Yeah I blocked her pretty quickly and now 3 years later I'm in a healthy, happy, and loving relationship. I still have a lot of trauma but it could've been worse I think
Had a crazy ex years ago. She would often find herself in a frenzied anger every time I blocked her on social media, even going as far as making TH-cam videos about me and getting her subscribers to bomb me with PMs. This was back in the old days of TH-cam, mid-2000s era to early 2010s. Glad I finally managed to turn the tables on her, though it finally took five years to pull it off because I was stressing out over school (grade school as well as high school up until graduation). At least no one ever knew about my secret relationship, none of my classmates or even my family members... well, except one classmate and my younger brother, though she only came in contact with said classmate (albeit briefly), not my brother. That really put me on the edge because I was terrified she would harass all my high school classmates on Facebook and if that happened, people would come up to me and give me shit because of her, so I felt like I was powerless throughout high school, especially when she had so many accounts to keep me under her thumb. (Yeah, she's that borderline obsessive with me) Fast forward from 2012 to 2021 and I haven't heard from her since "the incident", which had something to do with me finally turning the tables on her. At least I don't have to worry about her messaging me through EVERY social media as well as her obnoxious phone calls and flooding my inbox with her pointless voicemails and all that---no, I did not give my phone number to her; I totally forgot to remove it when we added each other on Skype, especially when she called me. I should have lied and said it was an old number, even pretended to be someone else, but... I'm not blaming anyone but myself for getting into this mess for several years. EDIT 8/12/2021: No, she still hasn't messaged me and I haven't messaged her, either, so I'm still good. Plus, my "getting out of a toxic relationship" anniversary is coming up in a month, celebrating 9 years so far!
When i broke up with my ex Massimo, he called and threatened to kill himself in front of my parents house. I had to go to court to get a restraining order from him.
I've never not stayed friends with an ex after some time apart, and the breakups were pretty drama free and I think we were fairly mature on both sides whether I was the one broken up with or the one who broke up. Just be careful about who you choose to be with in the first place and you'll probably be fine
@@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access ah yes, I should cut some of the coolest people in my life off because of some random study, seems reasonable. Edit: it doesn't even make sense... seeing them as a person as opposed to some accessory which you can just throw away when you're done with them... makes you a psychopath? Make it make sense.
This didn't happen to me, nor is it really a conventional "crazy ex following breakup story", but I'm gonna share it: My friend's girlfriend broke up with him after dating for 2 months. How it happened was really messy. The girl literally brought 4-5 of her own friends to gang up against him, each of them citing to him every instance where he had fricked up or let her down. My friend was not a perfect guy, but he was a good person at heart and really didn't deserve that. Imagine a group of 5 people towering over you, alone, and repeatedly insulting you and telling you why you suck. Following that, the ex-girlfriend and her friends spread all kinds of nasty, and some false, rumours about my friend, and even cut off friendships with people who stood by him. My friend suffered from depression for months because of them. Looking at that girl now, she still continues to be a haughty, arrogant bitch, and I despise her for it.
I hope your friend is able to heal from that emotional abuse. Try take him out for walks or do something that doesn't require drugs / alcohol to help increase his endorphins (our natural happiness our brains make when active). As for his ex and her friends, may they get explosive shits in public.
The last one: you would think after two years of no contact and no one responding to his psychotic e-mails, he'd finally get the hint it was over. Glad that he finally stopped after he found out you were pregnant, OP. He sounds like the kind of guy that would try to claim paternity.
When me and my bestie broke up, we both were initially a bit angry with each other, but we still managed to get over it soon, and we're great friends still!
Anyone who freaks out disproportionately when someone breaks up with them, doesn't have a full grasp of their own identity (finding it in another person) and believes in the crap spewed in Jerry McGuire: "You Complete Me." I know this because I used to be one of those girls. Not crazy-Ville, just felt like I was dying when my first love in HS broke up with me. I'd felt lost, empty. It was scary! Now, at 41 I know who I am and no one "completes me", I am my own person. My husband is his own person. It's the happiest I've ever been! I hope these people find themselves ♥️🙏🏻
Yes, yes I have. I broke up with him because he was just starting to become emotionally and verbally abusive (and as we all know, things only go downhill from there), among other things (all kicked off by him lying about having gone off his meds for bipolar, as well as *unsuccessfully trying to hide his not-at-all-functional alcoholism and refusing to get help). I told him when we very first got together that I had 0 tolerance for that shit (meaning abusive behavior of ANY kind) and that if he ever tried it we were done. He did try it and thus we were done... I thought to myself "Wow, that was easy! I nipped an entire bad situation in the bud before it even began and I'm proud of myself for standing up for myself!"... Yeah... 3 days after I broke up with him I came home from work to find him drunk off his ass. I had moved him into my apartment a couple months prior, and had given him a very gracious 3 weeks to move out when I broke up with him so he still had his keys. Anyway, I heard my cat howling from inside my room and went to go see what was going on. He had zipped her into a duffel bag and stuffed her in my closet as revenge. As soon as I freed my cat I stormed over to him to tell him to get the hell out TONIGHT. He responded by tackling me and first trying to strangle me with his phone charger, then trying to choke me with his bare hands, then smothering me with a pillow over my face. He broke 3 of my ribs and I broke my right wrist (and his nose) during the struggle. I had told him that if he ever got physically aggressive with me in any way then that was his automatic eject button- no discussions to be had. I think that his fucked up brain told him it was ok to attack me since I'd already broken up with him. They say that the hardest part of leaving an abusive relationship is the fear of increased/escalated violence if/when you do. The first and only time he attacked me was BECAUSE I broke up with him, so I'd say that's true. The lessons I learned? Things don't have to be absolutely or obviously horrible during the relationship for them to go apeshit AFTER the breakup, so have a breakup plan in place (meeting in a public place, retrieving all keys and/or making sure the person has moved out first, etc.)- ESPECIALLY if you already know or found out that the person is mentally/emotionally/psychologically unstable.
Had an ex kidnap me (while we were still dating). It started as him coming to get me to hang out but he took me to his friends house & I was there for 2 days. Slept on the floor, only ate chips. They wouldn't even let me use the bathroom, they wouldn't let me leave the room! Whenever I went to grab the phone they took it from me & eventually hid it. Cops eventually showed up. I remember seeing his parents (never actually met them) and his dad looked at me as if it was MY fault. Two days later I was at a friends house & he called there looking for me. I was too scared to talk to him so I had a friend (another ex) break up with him for me. For two weeks straight he prank called my house incessantly. Saying a bunch of just weird & messed up stuff. The last phone call my mom took. Ex said something to the like of "go suck a walrus dick" Mom countered with "Yeaaa, I like that. I'll suck it all up" or something purely gross. I guess he found it disgusting & never called back. Dude was 17, I was 15. Bonus: My moms ex. She dated this guy for a few months. Never liked him. He never took the time to get to know me or my brother. She broke up with him. The same night she had went out with a few friends and my brother & I were home. The phone rings, we don't answer numbers we don't know. So when the machine gets it this dude is just hurling insults at my mom through the machine. Calling her all kinds of names. My brother & I look at each other & without a word we picked it up. I started with "who the fuck do you think you are calling my mom those names you dumb prick piece of shit? Mom was right to dump your sorry ass" Brother took the phone & ended it with " if you EVER speak to our mother again, we WILL bury you" We made the decision to erase the message, mom didn't need to hear that. Haven't heard from that douchebag since.
There was this guy I was with that was SUPER controlling. Very insecure and very manipulative. Overtime I just lost my attraction to him and I’m already really bad at letting ppl down bc I don’t wanna hurt their feelings. I tried to break up with him and he immediately threatened to harm himself and do even worse. He knew I had a past with self harm and fear of losing ppl so he knew this would make me stay. I kept going back to him despite me not being attracted to him at all. Three times later I broke up with him and ghosted him just for him to have his friends constantly call and text me and call and text me from other other numbers wishing death on me and telling me to kms and threatening my life. Good times ☺️
I’m one of the kids who had to endure it. So, my father was an alcoholic and his nice girlfriend finally broke up after about four years of mental/emotional abuse and my dad went mental. He finally showed his true self and I can’t really remember what else he did but he made her get together with him again when she was at her most vulnerable state. They act all lovey dovey now and It’s been a few months after they got together again now. He literally manipulated her and tricked her into loving him again. Although he quit drinking, he still shows signs of the same behavior.
Also, depending on who your STBX is, it may not be a good idea to break up in person, for your own safety. Mom says she broke up with a BF she dated in her teens, via a letter, because he made a fist at his mom. Grandma kinda scolded her, because under normal circumstances, breaking up via an impersonal method (letter, via a mutual friend, or texting) is tacky. But granddad defended mom and said no, that was the right decision.
I said this before on a similar video, but some of these people sound like they need genuine mental health aid...especially the guy who lost it over that picture he drew getting thrown out. Like, that was dangerously obsessive for something so trivial.
My cheating ex-fiancé wanted me to keep quiet about why I was calling off the wedding and let her tell our friends what happened. Sensing she was going to lie, I sent copies of her text messages with her affair partner to our friends. Sure enough, she tried to make it seem like I had called off the wedding by falsely accusing her of cheating on me. Eventually, one of those copies made its way to her parents who cut her off.
I have a story, but the crazy person was me, it was my first boyfriend and i was really depressed, but i grew up and changed, i learned from my mistakes.
One of the threads is how much abuse the poor person being attacked in various ways takes. I think it's necessary in life to quickly react, because the person you forgive many times will continue to dump on you. I'm very happy I finally dumped two toxic friends but I could have done it a long time before.
I “went out” with a guy from college last year, I made it absolutely staunch that I wasn’t wanting anything serious or affixed, yet he kept on acting like we were boyfriends, he stalked me and my friends on social media, got really jealous of another girl I followed, and said shit like “I can convince you” and “I want you all to myself” I knew he was way too devoted to me so I had to stop whatever the hell it was we had, he didn’t take it well and kept texting me for me to come back to him and him making me feel bad for leaving him saying I’ll “hurt someone else” then later on he tried to patch the works by saying we could be friends but It was all a fucking ruse, he was still invasive and even asked if we could kiss again, then I told him to get to fuck and he started getting pissed off at me calling me a “predator” I knew he was insane after that moment, so I blocked him, luckily that was the last I ever saw from him, however he got a new girl to pick his shit up and tried sucking up to me on the college group chat, I’m still recovering
Broke up with an ex twice a couple years ago, first time he did it due to family issues. The second time was me, during the relationship he was being a jerk, not letting me talk to my little sister, etc. About six months in, he sends me a text with 3 choices to take a break, stay, or break up, I chose the latter. After we broke up, I blocked him on everything. About a year later, I moved out of my parents house to my own apartment,he’s spouting lies about me saying I shouldn’t have moved out on my own, I’m stalking him etc, he even tried calling my little sister to spout some bs, my dad then got involved, let’s just say his sister got told about it, I don’t what happened, hasn’t tried to talk to me since. And he was also a terrible kisser and I was girlfriend number 8.
Not my story, but my coworkers. She dated a dude and after they broke up, he started showing up at the restaurant we worked at. Talking shit about her service when she wasn’t there, saying terrible rumors, etc. He made the mistake when he showed up on a day she worked, he started cursing her out and kept trying to get close to her while I stood between them, threatening to beat his ass (I’m 5,4” skin and bones and he was much taller). Our manager came out, put him in a chokehold and dragged his ass outside. We watched from the window as he ran to his car and drove away. Didn’t come back after that
There was a guy in high school one of my best girlfriends dated. The guy had serious anger problems and violence issues. When she broke up with him because he got mad over her ordering a cheeseburger, he literally looked for the smallest weakest looking kid and beat the crap out of him to a pulp and nearly killed him. Three school security guards had to hold him down and he was tasered by cops. He was tried as an adult for almost killing the kid and got 5 years at 17. Last I heard he went back to prison after joining a gang. The kid he beat to a pulp actually forgave him which I commend him for. The kid is now a sales manager. Good for him.
@25:29 > yah, my BF said they'd break into my house, trash it and kill my cats if I broke up with them. I told them I had their photo, SSN, DL number, License plate number and their address . . . .If they were going to kill my cats, they should pack first as they would be going directly to jail and I would make their demise my hobby. They didnt kill my cats. No cops had to be called. Win win.
When I broke up with my now ex she stole my prized possession and threw it in the garbage, threatened me and my family, then proceeded to smear my character for years after when she got no reaction from me. It’s been 4 years and I’m still healing from what I was put through.
I didn’t break up with him as we were never together but he thought we were. I was friends with a kid when we were both in fifth grade; I wasn’t interested in dating for religious reasons and just the fact that I wasn’t crushing on anyone, but this kid thought I was. He brought flowers to school one day and announced to the whole school that I was his girlfriend and that he was so proud.I was mortified, but it got worse. Anytime I would try to tell him I wasn’t his girlfriend, one of my friends would show up with a black eye and say he had punched them. A good friend of mine and the boy who was convinced of being my boyfriend stopped talking to both of us after showing up one day with a black eye, several bruises on his face and neck, and a busted lip. One day, I finally got it through his head that I was never interested in dating him and that I no longer even wished to be friends; as soon as I began to walk away, he jumped on my back and tried strangling me with his elbow and kept squeezing my ribs (I never quite figured that part out). A teacher heard my screaming for him to get off me and saw the stunned kids around us and got him off me. A couple of weeks of him trying to harass me into getting with him later, he moved away and I haven’t heard from or seen him since.
I have a few stories about my dad's exes. - One refused to discipline her son, even when he full on assaulted my sister by cornering her and refusing to let her go inside our house. - That same gf gave my dad the silent treatment when he drove back to a hotel we were staying at to get my sister's blanket (a sentimental comfort object from our late mother). - A different insane gf purposely triggered my sensory overloads/panic attacks (I have severe anxiety for which I'm on meds for) by taking me to loud parts of town, typically filled to the brim with smokers (I'm sensitive to the smell). Dad theorizes she did this to make herself look sane in comparison. When I told them about my incoming panic attack, she FLIPPED OUT and yelled at me to stop being selfish and making everything about me. Dad found me a quiet room to relax in while I calmed down. He broke up with her soon after. Lucky for me and my sister, he is now engaged to a perfectly sane person and is perfectly happy with her.
When my ex broke up with me. He started dating my best friend (aka my closest friend) immediently after. She, and several of his friends noticed i became disturbingly distant from everyone, and completely stopped talking to everyone. Even the teachers were concerned at this point. A couple of my other friends managed to get me to talk and I told them what happened, and they told my closest friend. She got MAD (note that she is very protective of me and my well being), within a day the entire school knew what had happened. She immediently broke up with him and got alot of other students and his friends to help her get me back to my shy (yet lively) self. That was a couple of years ago, she is still my closest friend and now she is cheering me on for now being a subject to a potentially new relationship. 🌌 Wish me luck 🌌
@@marcissmiley3131 Nah, they asked her and she told them the truth. Nothing wrong with the op on one. I only have one question tho: if she was the close friend, wouldn't she know who the ex was? Sus
@@karmakameleon113 she saw me as an Atm, once she heard the words 'family trust' she started taking every class A drug she could find and spreading her legs to anything. She accused a mutual friend of sexual assault, then upgraded the false accusation of groaping to full rape to dodge the fact that she got knocked up by one of the side boys. Would you like me to continue?
My ex and I stayed roommates after we broke up. He recently moved out after snooping through my groupchat with my two closest friends and seeing me talk shit. He had been gone for a couple weeks when he got a package at my house. I told him to drop off the stuff of mine that had been in his car on my table and get his package. I got home from work and every single drinking glass in my house was shattered on the floor in my kitchen, dining room, living room and dog room. Two of my dogs were out of their kennels and walking around on broken glass. One of the two is very sensitive and fearful and he was quivering under the dining room table in a puddle of his own pee when I got home. I have never in my life been so pissed. He insists he didn't do it.
so i’ve been broken up with and i went crazy. i was so in love with this girl and i messed everything up. when she broke up with me i threatened to burn all her stuff, followed her home from work (we worked at the same place) and damn near stalked her. i regret it so much now and we have since been on good terms and i apologized to her more times than i can count for it all. i still regret it…
My ex broke up with me and I fell apart. It happens. Never tried to kidnapp or kill her tho. Never really thought of that as a good way to show her how good we could be togheter hahaha
A FRIEND WENT ON A FOUR DAY CAMPING TRIP WITH THE GUYS. WHEN HE GOT BACK, SHE HAD MOVED OUT, STOLE HIS STUFF, AND TRASHED THE HOUSE. HE WAS SERVED WITH A RESTRAINING ORDER. THE SHERIFF WHO SERVED HIM, SAID SHE'S KNOWN IN THE DEPARTMENT. DOES THAT WITH GUYS SHE BREAKS UP WITH. SHE HAS THEM SERVED, THEN FOLLOWS THEM TO A BAR ONE NIGHT, THEN CALLS THE COPS ON THEM, SHOWING THE COPS THE ORDER, AND THE COPS ARREST THE UNSUSPECTING GUY.
My ex got a group of his friends to harass me until I cried because I disagreed with him politically, and then when I went to a friend for comfort, he accused me of cheating on him with the friend. We only dated for 3 months but he was so surprised when I broke up with him and complained that he already told his parents we were going to get married.
Ive never had a horrible story like this happen to me personally, but when I was in highschool I had a very pretty bff and she had a boyfriend. One day she broken up with him and he drove 30 minutes to outside my house and wouldn't leave until she came outside, he eventually left. But it made me really fucking angry he was waiting outside of my house stalking the door for her and refused to leave.
I had a girl break up with me when I was 22, but we stayed friends. A YEAR LATER, when I started dating the woman that is now my wife, I was on the phone with the ex. I told her that my new girlfriend was coming over, and when she did and I had to hang up, my ex got so mad that she drove 8 hours to hand deliver a letter detailing how awful I am.
I can understand how you want someone to breakup with u in person cause over the phone seems to signal to people they don’t care enough to meet in person
I feel you on this 100%. My generation (idk how old you are but I'm in my mid 30s) sees it as cowardly and disrespectful to break up with people in any other way than in person. No different from the outrage you'd feel if you got fired from your job via text/email/DM/etc.
He accused me of cheating ALOT. To mention, I never did it. I had just started college so this relationship strain wasn't helping. Finally on a call where he is screaming at me I decide to end things. Hung up and apparently he threw his phone so hard it was destroyed. He then tried to get my friends to hate me. Luckily I had good friends and they believed me over him. Also had another guy literally break into my house when I'm not home and he would leave notes and gifts
My ex threatened to, commit not alive, if I broke up with her, stayed for 2-3 more months and finally decided it just wasn't worth it anymore so I officially broke up with her
Yes! I broke up with an ex he would stalk me and send me messages leave them on my doorstep or car windshield. Then all of a sudden I see him. I made it seem like I wanted him back. Oh no I just wanted my friend to serve him paperwork to not stalk me.
We had problems for years and i was beyond sick of it at this point. Then his birthday was coming up, and he blamed me for everything on it, if anything went wrong it was me and how i should feel awful about it kinda deal. I was stuck there, so i just went numb and got through the day, the next day he asked me why i was so awful and i decided to explain how unfair he was being, (he blamed me for not bringing a cable with me, for someone else’s gift i knew nothing about. as 1 example). And i ended it on that he can be hard to deal with sometimes. i got silence for most of the day, told the only thing that would make it better is a BJ (He didn’t get what he wanted), and basically sulked. Second i left he sent me a text saying if he was so hard to deal with then don’t bother, So i said okay. Next month and a half i get none stop texts and guilt trips, friends of friends asking me why wont i talk to him because he was bothering them now (because i blocked him in the first week). He’d get people to tell me how he doesn’t care if I’ve moved on, he’s coming to my house etc To do what i don’t know, nor do i know if he ever did. Next time i saw him he yelled in public that i cheated on him, also a lie but i just guessed he was bitter.
The guy who took his ex to a fancy restaurant so that he can break up with her and she can't cry as much is a douche and I'm glad she was like "ok ... Well I'm going to order this now"
@G Kab if you thinking breaking up with someone in a public place where you are expected to be self composed and professional of all settings is a "flawless example"then you're no better. It's not "triggering"it's messed up and cowardly. Breaking up with somebody is painful for both parties, but to disregard the other person by putting them in a situation where they can't show raw emotion because otherwise they'll be seen as "crazy" in a fancy restaurant just makes the person breaking up with them a douche. Now if he took her to eat AND THEN ended things in private that would've been decent. However he broke up with her BEFORE THEY EVEN ORDERED. How tf do you expect that to be kind? To share a meal with someone who just broke your heart? But ya according to your "logic" that's a flawless example. Wtf
@G Kab yikes. Well you clearly don't care about how the other person is feeling so it's no surprise that you would see this guy as a "legend". We can part with our own fundamental principles differing.
@@oz_jones I did, but our fundamental moral compasses are completely different that there's no point in trying to change their mind or have a common ground so best to leave it as is. Also as a woman who can easily be overpowered I agree that it's better to do it in a public place BUT NOT at a fancy restaurant right before you order where you aren't allowed to really cry. That's just cowardly. Maybe do it at a bar or a park, but not in a place where you have to be at your best behavior. But I guess you find it ok to break up with someone and expect them to have dinner with you? You do you
I broke up with a girl face to face in private because she demanded marriage after two months, she was in tears and I took her back because of guilt. What followed was two years of hell.
My ex was an emotional manipulator. She would yell at me, didnt care for my feelings, and used my $$ for tobacco. It wasnt until my family tearfully told me to dump her. Know what she said next? "What am I going to do about my social security card/job/etc". Never a "Ill miss you/cant live without you". So after that, I dropped her core things to the homeless shelter and my family bought a bus ticket to her uncles home state.
She broke up with me. Then started treating me like I was the bad one. Turned goth and even her friends had enough and baled on her. The second also dumps me. Then goes out her way to try and make me jealous. Messes around with several other guys. Lies. You name it. Even trash talks me. I met a woman online and decided to move. Well this bag of nuts then tries to play it off. Then after I moved to a new state she kills herself. Apparently her logic: I was supposed to fight for her attention and beg to be with her and when it was clear her crap failed, slashed herself
I dated a girl online, we'll call her Jane. Well Jane constantly asked me for Money I didn't have. It got to the point where she'd make up stuff about her being a Model, and doing fashion shows, and that her "Agent" would be giving her first Paycheck soon. She tried to convince me to open a Bank Account (Which costs $50, Money I didn't have) and eventually, I had to call it quits, and I broke up with her. I lied to protect her feelings, and told her that she deserved better than me, and that I couldn't make her happy. She refused to accept it. So she still messages me months later acting like we're still together. Please. Help. Me!
I broke up with my ex a few months ago, and while he didn't go full on crazy as such, he turned into a completely different person when I ended it. I'd been at work and I'd been thinking about things, and I realised that I needed to get out of that relationship. When I got home, we sat down and talked, and I told him it was over. He started pleading with me and trying to convince me we could make it work, even going as far as to make a pouty face at me, fake tears and quivering lip and all, before he finally started packing his shit up to leave, all the while going back and forth between pleading and being passive aggressive with me. He eventually left, and the aftermath was worse. We spent about 3 weeks just being mad at each other and saying some horrible shit to each other. In our last text conversation, we were arguing and he called me an evil sociopath as a way of projecting his shit onto me. He accused me of being cold and sociopathic, like I didn't care, and saying things that were blatantly not true. Then, after I'd helped him get all of his shit out of my house and blocked him on everything, he started doing creepy shit, like leaving his zippo lighter that id bought him for his birthday on my front doorstep without a word. A friend who'd been over randomly found it, and it hadn't been there that long because he'd only been there an hour or so, and the lighter wasn't there when he arrived. And of course he was posting shit on his Facebook the whole time, making me out to be this horrible person and spinning lies about me to anyone that would listen. I ended up getting back in contact with some of his close friends who all told me they knew it was bullshit, and that they were trying not to get involved and watch the shit show. He completely went off the deep end after I broke up with him, and now he wants nothing to do with me. That wouldn't be so bad if we hadn't tried to be friends for a bit. After we were done being mad at each other and we actually talked about everything, we decided to try and make a friendship work. We chatted on messenger a bit, and met up a few times in person about a month or so after the breakup, and things seemed to be going fine. Then a few weeks ago, he just blocked me out of nowhere, and his best friend told me he wants nothing to do with me. It came out of nowhere. I don't care. I'm more than happy to live my life without him in it.
I had a "I'm going to speak to your father about this" guy, too. His mistake was showing up and calling me out of my name while we were woodworking in the garage. I chased him down my driveway, beating him with the first piece of wood I could grab. Did not realize it had nails in it until after about the 7th hit and noticing the stains in his shirt.
1:33 I thought this person was talking about me, but then I realised it wasn't a traditional drawing, and we didn't argue at all. I thought I was a crazy ex for a second
Not me but had a girl that worked under me who broke up with her POS bf for the millionth time. He called her obviously standing in front of a room fan trying to pretend he was going to jump off a cliff unless she took him back. Thing is... There are no cliffs around here. He'd have to drive several hours to get to anything close and this was like 15mins later. Sadly not the only story like that.
@@dannyjack659 yep, perfect description. I got to meet him a few times and that's the definition of his identity. Got the feeling he'd be would have been a con artist if he wasnt so obviously a dumb loser the moment he opened his mouth.
I have never broken up with anybody. I was the one dumped. I decided never again to allow anybody next to me after beubv used, betrayed, and painfully abandoned last time. I need no friends nor a girlfriend.
My ex at one point said she was pregnant to try to guilt me into coming back to her. I reminded her that it was 8 or 9 months since we had sex and she didn't get me off so she needs to speak with one of the guys she cheated on me with. She shut up and left me alone with that. Truth was she was desperate for me to help pay for her bills nothing to do with a relationship, I knew this, she can rely on her boy toys if they mean so much to her
i was once friend's with this guy in highschool it started out okay but then one day he just started buying me snacks and soda out of the blue i just thought he was being nice after a yr of doing this he asks me out and i said no I'm fine with just being friends then asks how about pretending to be in a relationship ship i was like wtf?? nope not doing that either it took getting a bf my senior yr to get him to stop also didn't realize he was stalking me all 4 yrs of highschool which is how he knew where all 7 classes were and would run to every single one to talk to me before class til my ex bf told me that guy was a creep.
I dated someone for 4 years. I still wanted to b friends with him when we broke up. But then he started calling me and nagging me to come see him to talk things out. According to him I abandoned him in the middle of the pandemic. I tried my best to be open with him about my feelings at the time and why I wanted to break up. We finally talked things through this past weekend. He tried very hard to get me to sleep with him again casually, but I fended him off. I thought we had worked everything out, but he’s sent me some dramatic texts about wanting me to do certain runs with him and how emotional it was when he finished a race without me the other day.
7:45 "He _chucked_ a tantrum." Why do people keep saying this??? Do these people also celebrate birthdays by _"chucking a party?"_ When they fight, do they _"chuck down?"_ Is there a problem with the word "throw?"
My husband tried to break up with me about 4 years into our relationship. I told him if we break up anyone that he dates I will post our sex videos on social media. He laughed, called me crazy and we have been married for 7 years now. I love him so much!!!
3:35 She's the drama queen doing the Big Reveal at the end of her tale. If your ex is a boozer, be real and put that up front. "Here's the kicker" is always for dramatic effect.
Ok, so my ex bf broke up with me, by using a "different person". We talked like normal, then this "different person" ( it was obviously my ex, but he made his voice deeper) said "You should break up with him". Did so and sobbed. Afterwards, I go to hang up and that's when he normalized himself and acted like nothing happen. Later, he asked if we could hang out. I was under the impression it was platonic. We hung out, and made it seem like we were dating again. OK. Whatever. Broke up with me a second, even though we never got back together. His excuse for breaking up? "You're just not ready for a relationship." Yep . Apparently, I wasn't ready for a relationship. Not him. Did I mention that this was also over text? The second breakup? Yeah..
It wasn’t a ex significant other- my ex friend harassing me over me deleting her fB from my profile; cue death threats, Instagram rants, shit on twitter. In hindsight she was pretty crazy. Lied about meeting famous ppl, fake gay friends (she thought It was cool to have gay friends and used them as fanfic smut writers.) Oh, and she and her “boyfriend” tried grooming me when I was 13. Yeah. Dodged a fuckin bullet
Are locks on the doors of toilets (bathrooms) not that common in the US? I seem to hear lots of stories about people just walking into bathrooms when someone else is in there, as a Brit this is very strange to me .
The person who tried to burn the laminated photos had me dying laughing.
Hopefully how pathetic he behaved made him learn.
This is why you go to Office Max and get a shredder ...
@@josepherhardt164 .
the dong spitting one had me rolling.
Never agree to meet again after break-up, especially at a private place. Always ask for someone to go with you and, if legal make audio/video recording just in case.
Men: you might get accused of rape/assault and then get beat-up by friends/family for said "rape".
Women: you might get kidnapped/raped/assaulted or murdered
(yes, opposite are possible but less frequent)
Make the recording even if illegal. It may come down to a choice of lesser evils.
I support this message 100%.
I breakup with a woman, we are not meeting anywhere, much less private places.
If my ex dared to ask me to meet in a public place where she expects us to be just the two of us, I'd pretend to go through it with but I won't actually show up, just hopefully make her waste her time going to that place for nothing because I never showed up. That's one way to put it.
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Never. Ever. Go to someone's house right after breaking up with that person. I don't think I have to explain why. Anyone who knows not everyone is a "good guy" will know what I'm talking about.
Good advice.
I mean, sometimes... most of the time it just makes them hurt more, seeing you but no longer being able to be with you, and the wound being so raw it can prolong their grieving of the end of that relationship.
And then occasionally you end up impulsively fricking, and while better than what you were thinking, not ideal if you have no intention of getting back together.
Get all your stuff out of their property first (preferably with someone else), break up in a public place where they can't assault you and never come back alone.
@@_lil_lil you have written the nice version. Sadly the horrific version is death bc some people cannot handle rejection.
@Essene Sea after breaking up, or just stop interacting with him/her without saying a word?
16:22 the voice had a stroke reading these stories
23:52 it happens here too
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@@wingdingfontbro it sounds like Eminem in rap god
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Pretty sure they do it on pourposee to pass time for ads maybe? Would make sense wouldnt hold it against em
Get all your stuff out of their property first (preferably with someone else), break up in a public place where they can't assault you, and never come back or walk alone for a while.
When my ex broke up with me, I just went quiet and blocked him and his friends.
Healthy. Well done.
@@kanaboshii sss you esssße
Now that's having class.
You should have smiled
@@cloutscout1003 lol
"OH GOD IM DYING AND ONLY YOU CAN SAVE ME"
"welp, looks like i have to get back together with this person."
No joke, that line sounds like the lyrics in some breakup song. Because if you're dying from overdosing on beer and pills, the only thing that's going to save you is getting your stomach pumped at the hospital.
I like the one where they responded, "Tell me what funeral home to send the flowers to."
Just saw this comment when it started playing, word for word 😂
Literally what my ex has been doing these last two weeks :
"Don't leave me, I can only be happy with you"
- I wasn't
"Guess Lucifer will come take my soul.."
- And watcha want me to do about it
"Only you can save my heart.."
- Goddammit please, frick off I'm tired of this bullshit
Then there's me, an impulsive, emotional person who suffers from mental health issues, who somehow managed to break up amicably and be mature about it even as the dumpee, and is still friends with all my former bfs to this day (probably at least partially due to lack of post-relationship drama), wondering wtf is actually wrong with these people.
abandonment issues and narcissism
In 4 words my ex. For a very first one, what an experience
No coping skills. Abandonment issues. Anxious attachment styles. Lack of good parenting that couldvr repared them for relationships and break ups in their adult life.
Oh, and codependency and for some I'm sure some NPD, borderline personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder. Those are some of the culprits for nasty reactions to break ups
I like these replies
Damn, impressive
The amount of untreated mental illness walking around out there every day is frightening.
Alas, I think 40-45% of the population qualifies. It amazes me that we even HAVE civilization.
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And this is why...
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Or these folks are just naturally extreme assholes whose entire self-worth hinges on others.
I have officially. I work in a psych ward. One morning going over the names of new patients their was and ex girlfriend. I was like F.. that I'm outta here until she is transferred to another ward. Most uncomfortable experience ever. Just to know that I could go over her journals and stuff was downright awful.
You did the right thing, obviously.
16:20 I love how this happens in every single video.
It’s not updoot studios if there’s not ai having a stroke
It happens like 2 separate times. Freaks me out honestly
Ikr hahahahahaha
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Folks….please never be dumb enough to believe someone who says they won’t believe you unless you tell them to their face. Now they know why you’re going to meet them and they could be planning harm. It’s over when you said it’s over. No matter how you’ve informed them. Period.
I was in a severely abusive relationship from the age of 15-17. She was 20 when we got together (Yes I know it was a bad desicion and I was a dumb teen) She didn't want me to see friends, wouldn't work while she was living in my parents house, I was paying for her makeup, essentials, and her pot. Probably between $400-500 a month. Would constantly leave my house and ghost me for days, manipulate me into feeling terrible even though I was going to school and working full time. Refused to get a job or even clean up after her self. On our 1 year anniversary she decided to leave town and go to a convention despite me saying I was uncomfortable with it and ghosted me for the whole 10 days she was gone. After that she became incredibly physically abusive and I finally was able to get away when my parents kicked her out of the house. When I finally broke up with her she threatened to kill my whole family in front of me, then kill me, assault my body, then kill herself. Yeah I blocked her pretty quickly and now 3 years later I'm in a healthy, happy, and loving relationship. I still have a lot of trauma but it could've been worse I think
Had a crazy ex years ago. She would often find herself in a frenzied anger every time I blocked her on social media, even going as far as making TH-cam videos about me and getting her subscribers to bomb me with PMs.
This was back in the old days of TH-cam, mid-2000s era to early 2010s. Glad I finally managed to turn the tables on her, though it finally took five years to pull it off because I was stressing out over school (grade school as well as high school up until graduation). At least no one ever knew about my secret relationship, none of my classmates or even my family members... well, except one classmate and my younger brother, though she only came in contact with said classmate (albeit briefly), not my brother. That really put me on the edge because I was terrified she would harass all my high school classmates on Facebook and if that happened, people would come up to me and give me shit because of her, so I felt like I was powerless throughout high school, especially when she had so many accounts to keep me under her thumb. (Yeah, she's that borderline obsessive with me)
Fast forward from 2012 to 2021 and I haven't heard from her since "the incident", which had something to do with me finally turning the tables on her. At least I don't have to worry about her messaging me through EVERY social media as well as her obnoxious phone calls and flooding my inbox with her pointless voicemails and all that---no, I did not give my phone number to her; I totally forgot to remove it when we added each other on Skype, especially when she called me. I should have lied and said it was an old number, even pretended to be someone else, but... I'm not blaming anyone but myself for getting into this mess for several years.
EDIT 8/12/2021: No, she still hasn't messaged me and I haven't messaged her, either, so I'm still good. Plus, my "getting out of a toxic relationship" anniversary is coming up in a month, celebrating 9 years so far!
When i broke up with my ex Massimo, he called and threatened to kill himself in front of my parents house. I had to go to court to get a restraining order from him.
Now this is seriously messed up
Reason 6509: On why I don’t want to be in a relationship..
I've never not stayed friends with an ex after some time apart, and the breakups were pretty drama free and I think we were fairly mature on both sides whether I was the one broken up with or the one who broke up. Just be careful about who you choose to be with in the first place and you'll probably be fine
@@_lil_lil
Studies show that people who keep exes as friends have a higher chance for psychopathic tendencies. So maybe don’t do that.
@@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access ah yes, I should cut some of the coolest people in my life off because of some random study, seems reasonable.
Edit: it doesn't even make sense... seeing them as a person as opposed to some accessory which you can just throw away when you're done with them... makes you a psychopath? Make it make sense.
@@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access anyways “we’ll still be friends” just means “stay away from me”
This didn't happen to me, nor is it really a conventional "crazy ex following breakup story", but I'm gonna share it:
My friend's girlfriend broke up with him after dating for 2 months. How it happened was really messy. The girl literally brought 4-5 of her own friends to gang up against him, each of them citing to him every instance where he had fricked up or let her down. My friend was not a perfect guy, but he was a good person at heart and really didn't deserve that. Imagine a group of 5 people towering over you, alone, and repeatedly insulting you and telling you why you suck.
Following that, the ex-girlfriend and her friends spread all kinds of nasty, and some false, rumours about my friend, and even cut off friendships with people who stood by him. My friend suffered from depression for months because of them. Looking at that girl now, she still continues to be a haughty, arrogant bitch, and I despise her for it.
I hope your friend is able to heal from that emotional abuse.
Try take him out for walks or do something that doesn't require drugs / alcohol to help increase his endorphins (our natural happiness our brains make when active).
As for his ex and her friends, may they get explosive shits in public.
I lost friendships with quite a few people cause I didn’t believe the lies that were being spread
Better off for it
The last one: you would think after two years of no contact and no one responding to his psychotic e-mails, he'd finally get the hint it was over. Glad that he finally stopped after he found out you were pregnant, OP. He sounds like the kind of guy that would try to claim paternity.
My ex still sends me psychotic E-Mails more than 4 years after breakup.
Idc anymore. I moved far away (unrelated). He doesn't even know where I live.
Really concerning that this video is almost 31 minutes long...
In my bubble, dating ain't worth it.
No kids, no partner, no problem.
Like a wise man once said: No woman, no cry.
14:59 shit that’s the closest thing you can get to an irl yandere
This is why I'm afraid of being in a relationship for
Most relationships end in a mature and still semi amicable fashion, at least for me and most of my friends.
People are afraid of bungee diving but it tends to be all in your mind, once you jump you discover the joy. Love is pain, accept that.
Holy crap i agreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
@@_lil_lil not for me they didn’t and it wasn’t even strictly a relationship
It’s why I’d much rather be open than inclosure
When me and my bestie broke up, we both were initially a bit angry with each other, but we still managed to get over it soon, and we're great friends still!
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Damn. Text-to-speech turned into a machine gun-
this made me laugh so hard 😂
Anyone who freaks out disproportionately when someone breaks up with them, doesn't have a full grasp of their own identity (finding it in another person) and believes in the crap spewed in Jerry McGuire: "You Complete Me."
I know this because I used to be one of those girls. Not crazy-Ville, just felt like I was dying when my first love in HS broke up with me. I'd felt lost, empty. It was scary!
Now, at 41 I know who I am and no one "completes me", I am my own person. My husband is his own person. It's the happiest I've ever been!
I hope these people find themselves ♥️🙏🏻
Yes, yes I have. I broke up with him because he was just starting to become emotionally and verbally abusive (and as we all know, things only go downhill from there), among other things (all kicked off by him lying about having gone off his meds for bipolar, as well as *unsuccessfully trying to hide his not-at-all-functional alcoholism and refusing to get help). I told him when we very first got together that I had 0 tolerance for that shit (meaning abusive behavior of ANY kind) and that if he ever tried it we were done. He did try it and thus we were done... I thought to myself "Wow, that was easy! I nipped an entire bad situation in the bud before it even began and I'm proud of myself for standing up for myself!"... Yeah...
3 days after I broke up with him I came home from work to find him drunk off his ass. I had moved him into my apartment a couple months prior, and had given him a very gracious 3 weeks to move out when I broke up with him so he still had his keys. Anyway, I heard my cat howling from inside my room and went to go see what was going on. He had zipped her into a duffel bag and stuffed her in my closet as revenge. As soon as I freed my cat I stormed over to him to tell him to get the hell out TONIGHT. He responded by tackling me and first trying to strangle me with his phone charger, then trying to choke me with his bare hands, then smothering me with a pillow over my face. He broke 3 of my ribs and I broke my right wrist (and his nose) during the struggle.
I had told him that if he ever got physically aggressive with me in any way then that was his automatic eject button- no discussions to be had. I think that his fucked up brain told him it was ok to attack me since I'd already broken up with him. They say that the hardest part of leaving an abusive relationship is the fear of increased/escalated violence if/when you do. The first and only time he attacked me was BECAUSE I broke up with him, so I'd say that's true. The lessons I learned? Things don't have to be absolutely or obviously horrible during the relationship for them to go apeshit AFTER the breakup, so have a breakup plan in place (meeting in a public place, retrieving all keys and/or making sure the person has moved out first, etc.)- ESPECIALLY if you already know or found out that the person is mentally/emotionally/psychologically unstable.
Had an ex kidnap me (while we were still dating). It started as him coming to get me to hang out but he took me to his friends house & I was there for 2 days. Slept on the floor, only ate chips. They wouldn't even let me use the bathroom, they wouldn't let me leave the room! Whenever I went to grab the phone they took it from me & eventually hid it. Cops eventually showed up. I remember seeing his parents (never actually met them) and his dad looked at me as if it was MY fault. Two days later I was at a friends house & he called there looking for me. I was too scared to talk to him so I had a friend (another ex) break up with him for me. For two weeks straight he prank called my house incessantly. Saying a bunch of just weird & messed up stuff. The last phone call my mom took. Ex said something to the like of "go suck a walrus dick" Mom countered with "Yeaaa, I like that. I'll suck it all up" or something purely gross. I guess he found it disgusting & never called back. Dude was 17, I was 15.
Bonus: My moms ex. She dated this guy for a few months. Never liked him. He never took the time to get to know me or my brother. She broke up with him. The same night she had went out with a few friends and my brother & I were home. The phone rings, we don't answer numbers we don't know. So when the machine gets it this dude is just hurling insults at my mom through the machine. Calling her all kinds of names. My brother & I look at each other & without a word we picked it up. I started with "who the fuck do you think you are calling my mom those names you dumb prick piece of shit? Mom was right to dump your sorry ass" Brother took the phone & ended it with " if you EVER speak to our mother again, we WILL bury you" We made the decision to erase the message, mom didn't need to hear that. Haven't heard from that douchebag since.
There was this guy I was with that was SUPER controlling. Very insecure and very manipulative. Overtime I just lost my attraction to him and I’m already really bad at letting ppl down bc I don’t wanna hurt their feelings. I tried to break up with him and he immediately threatened to harm himself and do even worse. He knew I had a past with self harm and fear of losing ppl so he knew this would make me stay. I kept going back to him despite me not being attracted to him at all. Three times later I broke up with him and ghosted him just for him to have his friends constantly call and text me and call and text me from other other numbers wishing death on me and telling me to kms and threatening my life. Good times ☺️
I’m one of the kids who had to endure it. So, my father was an alcoholic and his nice girlfriend finally broke up after about four years of mental/emotional abuse and my dad went mental. He finally showed his true self and I can’t really remember what else he did but he made her get together with him again when she was at her most vulnerable state. They act all lovey dovey now and It’s been a few months after they got together again now. He literally manipulated her and tricked her into loving him again. Although he quit drinking, he still shows signs of the same behavior.
Also, depending on who your STBX is, it may not be a good idea to break up in person, for your own safety. Mom says she broke up with a BF she dated in her teens, via a letter, because he made a fist at his mom. Grandma kinda scolded her, because under normal circumstances, breaking up via an impersonal method (letter, via a mutual friend, or texting) is tacky. But granddad defended mom and said no, that was the right decision.
I said this before on a similar video, but some of these people sound like they need genuine mental health aid...especially the guy who lost it over that picture he drew getting thrown out. Like, that was dangerously obsessive for something so trivial.
Not gonna lie the ex bf making characters of them in the WWE game was pretty fucking funny. Savagely insane but it had me Lol.
My cheating ex-fiancé wanted me to keep quiet about why I was calling off the wedding and let her tell our friends what happened. Sensing she was going to lie, I sent copies of her text messages with her affair partner to our friends. Sure enough, she tried to make it seem like I had called off the wedding by falsely accusing her of cheating on me. Eventually, one of those copies made its way to her parents who cut her off.
I have a story, but the crazy person was me, it was my first boyfriend and i was really depressed, but i grew up and changed, i learned from my mistakes.
One of the threads is how much abuse the poor person being attacked in various ways takes. I think it's necessary in life to quickly react, because the person you forgive many times will continue to dump on you. I'm very happy I finally dumped two toxic friends but I could have done it a long time before.
I “went out” with a guy from college last year, I made it absolutely staunch that I wasn’t wanting anything serious or affixed, yet he kept on acting like we were boyfriends, he stalked me and my friends on social media, got really jealous of another girl I followed, and said shit like “I can convince you” and “I want you all to myself” I knew he was way too devoted to me so I had to stop whatever the hell it was we had, he didn’t take it well and kept texting me for me to come back to him and him making me feel bad for leaving him saying I’ll “hurt someone else” then later on he tried to patch the works by saying we could be friends but It was all a fucking ruse, he was still invasive and even asked if we could kiss again, then I told him to get to fuck and he started getting pissed off at me calling me a “predator” I knew he was insane after that moment, so I blocked him, luckily that was the last I ever saw from him, however he got a new girl to pick his shit up and tried sucking up to me on the college group chat, I’m still recovering
Broke up with an ex twice a couple years ago, first time he did it due to family issues. The second time was me, during the relationship he was being a jerk, not letting me talk to my little sister, etc. About six months in, he sends me a text with 3 choices to take a break, stay, or break up, I chose the latter. After we broke up, I blocked him on everything. About a year later, I moved out of my parents house to my own apartment,he’s spouting lies about me saying I shouldn’t have moved out on my own, I’m stalking him etc, he even tried calling my little sister to spout some bs, my dad then got involved, let’s just say his sister got told about it, I don’t what happened, hasn’t tried to talk to me since. And he was also a terrible kisser and I was girlfriend number 8.
Not my story, but my coworkers. She dated a dude and after they broke up, he started showing up at the restaurant we worked at. Talking shit about her service when she wasn’t there, saying terrible rumors, etc.
He made the mistake when he showed up on a day she worked, he started cursing her out and kept trying to get close to her while I stood between them, threatening to beat his ass (I’m 5,4” skin and bones and he was much taller). Our manager came out, put him in a chokehold and dragged his ass outside. We watched from the window as he ran to his car and drove away.
Didn’t come back after that
i broke up w my ex an she clinged on the thought of us being tg for a while. i dont blame her but... yeesh. that was incredibly overwhelming
I had an ex that told me that Ted Cruz would arrest me if I left her 💀
There was a guy in high school one of my best girlfriends dated. The guy had serious anger problems and violence issues. When she broke up with him because he got mad over her ordering a cheeseburger, he literally looked for the smallest weakest looking kid and beat the crap out of him to a pulp and nearly killed him. Three school security guards had to hold him down and he was tasered by cops.
He was tried as an adult for almost killing the kid and got 5 years at 17.
Last I heard he went back to prison after joining a gang. The kid he beat to a pulp actually forgave him which I commend him for. The kid is now a sales manager. Good for him.
@25:29 > yah, my BF said they'd break into my house, trash it and kill my cats if I broke up with them. I told them I had their photo, SSN, DL number, License plate number and their address . . . .If they were going to kill my cats, they should pack first as they would be going directly to jail and I would make their demise my hobby.
They didnt kill my cats. No cops had to be called. Win win.
When I broke up with my now ex she stole my prized possession and threw it in the garbage, threatened me and my family, then proceeded to smear my character for years after when she got no reaction from me. It’s been 4 years and I’m still healing from what I was put through.
I didn’t break up with him as we were never together but he thought we were. I was friends with a kid when we were both in fifth grade; I wasn’t interested in dating for religious reasons and just the fact that I wasn’t crushing on anyone, but this kid thought I was. He brought flowers to school one day and announced to the whole school that I was his girlfriend and that he was so proud.I was mortified, but it got worse. Anytime I would try to tell him I wasn’t his girlfriend, one of my friends would show up with a black eye and say he had punched them. A good friend of mine and the boy who was convinced of being my boyfriend stopped talking to both of us after showing up one day with a black eye, several bruises on his face and neck, and a busted lip. One day, I finally got it through his head that I was never interested in dating him and that I no longer even wished to be friends; as soon as I began to walk away, he jumped on my back and tried strangling me with his elbow and kept squeezing my ribs (I never quite figured that part out). A teacher heard my screaming for him to get off me and saw the stunned kids around us and got him off me. A couple of weeks of him trying to harass me into getting with him later, he moved away and I haven’t heard from or seen him since.
I have a few stories about my dad's exes.
- One refused to discipline her son, even when he full on assaulted my sister by cornering her and refusing to let her go inside our house.
- That same gf gave my dad the silent treatment when he drove back to a hotel we were staying at to get my sister's blanket (a sentimental comfort object from our late mother).
- A different insane gf purposely triggered my sensory overloads/panic attacks (I have severe anxiety for which I'm on meds for) by taking me to loud parts of town, typically filled to the brim with smokers (I'm sensitive to the smell). Dad theorizes she did this to make herself look sane in comparison. When I told them about my incoming panic attack, she FLIPPED OUT and yelled at me to stop being selfish and making everything about me. Dad found me a quiet room to relax in while I calmed down. He broke up with her soon after.
Lucky for me and my sister, he is now engaged to a perfectly sane person and is perfectly happy with her.
When my ex broke up with me. He started dating my best friend (aka my closest friend) immediently after. She, and several of his friends noticed i became disturbingly distant from everyone, and completely stopped talking to everyone. Even the teachers were concerned at this point. A couple of my other friends managed to get me to talk and I told them what happened, and they told my closest friend. She got MAD (note that she is very protective of me and my well being), within a day the entire school knew what had happened. She immediently broke up with him and got alot of other students and his friends to help her get me back to my shy (yet lively) self. That was a couple of years ago, she is still my closest friend and now she is cheering me on for now being a subject to a potentially new relationship. 🌌 Wish me luck 🌌
Your ex is allowed to date whoever he wanted to you sound the like the crazy ex for being so obsessed with who he dates
@@marcissmiley3131
Nah, they asked her and she told them the truth. Nothing wrong with the op on one.
I only have one question tho: if she was the close friend, wouldn't she know who the ex was? Sus
@@marcissmiley3131 best friends don't date each other's ex.
Yup, she tried to top herself spent 12 days in the secure ward before getting kicked out to find that all her friends sided with me....
There's a story behind this and I wanna hear it, goshdarnit! You can't just write something like that and then leave people hanging.
@@karmakameleon113 she saw me as an Atm, once she heard the words 'family trust' she started taking every class A drug she could find and spreading her legs to anything. She accused a mutual friend of sexual assault, then upgraded the false accusation of groaping to full rape to dodge the fact that she got knocked up by one of the side boys. Would you like me to continue?
My ex and I stayed roommates after we broke up. He recently moved out after snooping through my groupchat with my two closest friends and seeing me talk shit. He had been gone for a couple weeks when he got a package at my house. I told him to drop off the stuff of mine that had been in his car on my table and get his package. I got home from work and every single drinking glass in my house was shattered on the floor in my kitchen, dining room, living room and dog room. Two of my dogs were out of their kennels and walking around on broken glass. One of the two is very sensitive and fearful and he was quivering under the dining room table in a puddle of his own pee when I got home. I have never in my life been so pissed. He insists he didn't do it.
Oh, hey! It's a subreddit full of Ashfurs!
Just once I want one of these stories to end in "he wouldn't stop bothering me so I had my father break his legs"
When you break up with possibly psychotic people GHOST ALL TEXTS AND VM’S. Ghost like mad!
Yepp and it's not even ghosting if you told them you were breaking up. It's common sense that you won't be replying to their petty shit then.
I know these situations can be terrifying , but can be pretty hilarious in hindsight 😂
so i’ve been broken up with and i went crazy. i was so in love with this girl and i messed everything up. when she broke up with me i threatened to burn all her stuff, followed her home from work (we worked at the same place) and damn near stalked her. i regret it so much now and we have since been on good terms and i apologized to her more times than i can count for it all. i still regret it…
Okay, Good, See, You Bettered yourself, Congratulations!
My ex broke up with me and I fell apart. It happens. Never tried to kidnapp or kill her tho. Never really thought of that as a good way to show her how good we could be togheter hahaha
12:39 Shoulda called there cops after the second time
A FRIEND WENT ON A FOUR DAY CAMPING TRIP WITH THE GUYS. WHEN HE GOT BACK, SHE HAD MOVED OUT,
STOLE HIS STUFF, AND TRASHED THE HOUSE. HE WAS SERVED WITH A RESTRAINING ORDER. THE SHERIFF WHO
SERVED HIM, SAID SHE'S KNOWN IN THE DEPARTMENT. DOES THAT WITH GUYS SHE BREAKS UP WITH. SHE HAS THEM
SERVED, THEN FOLLOWS THEM TO A BAR ONE NIGHT, THEN CALLS THE COPS ON THEM, SHOWING THE COPS THE ORDER,
AND THE COPS ARREST THE UNSUSPECTING GUY.
"Her family called and convinced me not to press charges", . . that would have been a flat "no" for me. How quick can I dial 911?
My ex got a group of his friends to harass me until I cried because I disagreed with him politically, and then when I went to a friend for comfort, he accused me of cheating on him with the friend. We only dated for 3 months but he was so surprised when I broke up with him and complained that he already told his parents we were going to get married.
Ive never had a horrible story like this happen to me personally, but when I was in highschool I had a very pretty bff and she had a boyfriend. One day she broken up with him and he drove 30 minutes to outside my house and wouldn't leave until she came outside, he eventually left. But it made me really fucking angry he was waiting outside of my house stalking the door for her and refused to leave.
I had a girl break up with me when I was 22, but we stayed friends. A YEAR LATER, when I started dating the woman that is now my wife, I was on the phone with the ex. I told her that my new girlfriend was coming over, and when she did and I had to hang up, my ex got so mad that she drove 8 hours to hand deliver a letter detailing how awful I am.
WHAT THE F 😂🤦♀️
I can understand how you want someone to breakup with u in person cause over the phone seems to signal to people they don’t care enough to meet in person
I feel you on this 100%. My generation (idk how old you are but I'm in my mid 30s) sees it as cowardly and disrespectful to break up with people in any other way than in person. No different from the outrage you'd feel if you got fired from your job via text/email/DM/etc.
He accused me of cheating ALOT. To mention, I never did it. I had just started college so this relationship strain wasn't helping. Finally on a call where he is screaming at me I decide to end things. Hung up and apparently he threw his phone so hard it was destroyed. He then tried to get my friends to hate me. Luckily I had good friends and they believed me over him. Also had another guy literally break into my house when I'm not home and he would leave notes and gifts
I hope you informed the cops.
This entire story has Inspired me to take any breakup/rejection as calmly as possible.
[4:57] Surprised she knew to nuke the floppys, as thats an easy way to ensure data is destroyed.
23:56 bro idk what he speakin but I’m vibing
Oh no....the narrator found a laser gun
12:34 Gosh. That has got to be distressing to receive hundreds of text messages for a long time.
I'd have blocked but ppl get other phones.
2:54 🤣 why this make me laugh so hard
My ex threatened to, commit not alive, if I broke up with her, stayed for 2-3 more months and finally decided it just wasn't worth it anymore so I officially broke up with her
Yes! I broke up with an ex he would stalk me and send me messages leave them on my doorstep or car windshield. Then all of a sudden I see him. I made it seem like I wanted him back. Oh no I just wanted my friend to serve him paperwork to not stalk me.
We had problems for years and i was beyond sick of it at this point.
Then his birthday was coming up, and
he blamed me for everything on it, if anything went wrong it was me and how i should feel awful about it kinda deal.
I was stuck there, so i just went numb and got through the day, the next day he asked me why i was so awful and i decided to explain how unfair he was being,
(he blamed me for not bringing a cable with me, for someone else’s gift i knew nothing about. as 1 example).
And i ended it on that he can be hard to deal with sometimes.
i got silence for most of the day, told the only thing that would make it better is a BJ
(He didn’t get what he wanted), and basically sulked.
Second i left he sent me a text saying if he was so hard to deal with then don’t bother, So i said okay.
Next month and a half i get none stop texts and guilt trips, friends of friends asking me why wont i talk to him because he was bothering them now (because i blocked him in the first week).
He’d get people to tell me how he doesn’t care if I’ve moved on, he’s coming to my house etc
To do what i don’t know, nor do i know if he ever did.
Next time i saw him he yelled in public that i cheated on him, also a lie but i just guessed he was bitter.
Sounds like he peaked at 14.
The guy who took his ex to a fancy restaurant so that he can break up with her and she can't cry as much is a douche and I'm glad she was like "ok ... Well I'm going to order this now"
@G Kab if you thinking breaking up with someone in a public place where you are expected to be self composed and professional of all settings is a "flawless example"then you're no better. It's not "triggering"it's messed up and cowardly. Breaking up with somebody is painful for both parties, but to disregard the other person by putting them in a situation where they can't show raw emotion because otherwise they'll be seen as "crazy" in a fancy restaurant just makes the person breaking up with them a douche. Now if he took her to eat AND THEN ended things in private that would've been decent. However he broke up with her BEFORE THEY EVEN ORDERED. How tf do you expect that to be kind? To share a meal with someone who just broke your heart? But ya according to your "logic" that's a flawless example. Wtf
@G Kab yikes. Well you clearly don't care about how the other person is feeling so it's no surprise that you would see this guy as a "legend". We can part with our own fundamental principles differing.
@@oz_jones I did, but our fundamental moral compasses are completely different that there's no point in trying to change their mind or have a common ground so best to leave it as is. Also as a woman who can easily be overpowered I agree that it's better to do it in a public place BUT NOT at a fancy restaurant right before you order where you aren't allowed to really cry. That's just cowardly. Maybe do it at a bar or a park, but not in a place where you have to be at your best behavior. But I guess you find it ok to break up with someone and expect them to have dinner with you? You do you
I broke up with a girl face to face in private because she demanded marriage after two months, she was in tears and I took her back because of guilt. What followed was two years of hell.
@@dannyjack659 oh geez I'm so sorry. Thanks for being a decent gentleman and breaking up with her private. That takes a lot of courage
My ex was an emotional manipulator. She would yell at me, didnt care for my feelings, and used my $$ for tobacco. It wasnt until my family tearfully told me to dump her. Know what she said next? "What am I going to do about my social security card/job/etc". Never a "Ill miss you/cant live without you". So after that, I dropped her core things to the homeless shelter and my family bought a bus ticket to her uncles home state.
10:15- make it look positive by diluting it? Not how that works.
She broke up with me. Then started treating me like I was the bad one. Turned goth and even her friends had enough and baled on her.
The second also dumps me. Then goes out her way to try and make me jealous. Messes around with several other guys. Lies. You name it. Even trash talks me. I met a woman online and decided to move. Well this bag of nuts then tries to play it off. Then after I moved to a new state she kills herself. Apparently her logic: I was supposed to fight for her attention and beg to be with her and when it was clear her crap failed, slashed herself
17:50 woah, that one was... the worst
I dated a girl online, we'll call her Jane. Well Jane constantly asked me for Money I didn't have. It got to the point where she'd make up stuff about her being a Model, and doing fashion shows, and that her "Agent" would be giving her first Paycheck soon. She tried to convince me to open a Bank Account (Which costs $50, Money I didn't have) and eventually, I had to call it quits, and I broke up with her. I lied to protect her feelings, and told her that she deserved better than me, and that I couldn't make her happy. She refused to accept it. So she still messages me months later acting like we're still together. Please. Help. Me!
Just ignore her dude, She'll get over it soon.
There was this one person story where when he broke up with her she took anything she can like clothes, food, and decorations
"He kept harassing me with texts and emails for months/over a year!"
Me - do people not know how to block?
I broke up with my ex a few months ago, and while he didn't go full on crazy as such, he turned into a completely different person when I ended it.
I'd been at work and I'd been thinking about things, and I realised that I needed to get out of that relationship. When I got home, we sat down and talked, and I told him it was over. He started pleading with me and trying to convince me we could make it work, even going as far as to make a pouty face at me, fake tears and quivering lip and all, before he finally started packing his shit up to leave, all the while going back and forth between pleading and being passive aggressive with me.
He eventually left, and the aftermath was worse. We spent about 3 weeks just being mad at each other and saying some horrible shit to each other. In our last text conversation, we were arguing and he called me an evil sociopath as a way of projecting his shit onto me. He accused me of being cold and sociopathic, like I didn't care, and saying things that were blatantly not true. Then, after I'd helped him get all of his shit out of my house and blocked him on everything, he started doing creepy shit, like leaving his zippo lighter that id bought him for his birthday on my front doorstep without a word. A friend who'd been over randomly found it, and it hadn't been there that long because he'd only been there an hour or so, and the lighter wasn't there when he arrived.
And of course he was posting shit on his Facebook the whole time, making me out to be this horrible person and spinning lies about me to anyone that would listen.
I ended up getting back in contact with some of his close friends who all told me they knew it was bullshit, and that they were trying not to get involved and watch the shit show.
He completely went off the deep end after I broke up with him, and now he wants nothing to do with me. That wouldn't be so bad if we hadn't tried to be friends for a bit. After we were done being mad at each other and we actually talked about everything, we decided to try and make a friendship work. We chatted on messenger a bit, and met up a few times in person about a month or so after the breakup, and things seemed to be going fine. Then a few weeks ago, he just blocked me out of nowhere, and his best friend told me he wants nothing to do with me. It came out of nowhere.
I don't care. I'm more than happy to live my life without him in it.
I had a "I'm going to speak to your father about this" guy, too. His mistake was showing up and calling me out of my name while we were woodworking in the garage. I chased him down my driveway, beating him with the first piece of wood I could grab. Did not realize it had nails in it until after about the 7th hit and noticing the stains in his shirt.
1:33 I thought this person was talking about me, but then I realised it wasn't a traditional drawing, and we didn't argue at all. I thought I was a crazy ex for a second
Not me but had a girl that worked under me who broke up with her POS bf for the millionth time.
He called her obviously standing in front of a room fan trying to pretend he was going to jump off a cliff unless she took him back.
Thing is... There are no cliffs around here. He'd have to drive several hours to get to anything close and this was like 15mins later.
Sadly not the only story like that.
He had the will to be a manipulative piece of shit, but lacked the brains and effort.
@@dannyjack659 yep, perfect description. I got to meet him a few times and that's the definition of his identity.
Got the feeling he'd be would have been a con artist if he wasnt so obviously a dumb loser the moment he opened his mouth.
14:25
This really hits home… my ex did this minus. Makes me sad remembering it.
16:22 nice stroke 😂
The photo one and the spitting of the dong.....wow. Wow.😂😂😂
I have never broken up with anybody. I was the one dumped. I decided never again to allow anybody next to me after beubv used, betrayed, and painfully abandoned last time. I need no friends nor a girlfriend.
I came here just to see if any of my exes wrote me in. Hahahahahah
My ex at one point said she was pregnant to try to guilt me into coming back to her. I reminded her that it was 8 or 9 months since we had sex and she didn't get me off so she needs to speak with one of the guys she cheated on me with. She shut up and left me alone with that. Truth was she was desperate for me to help pay for her bills nothing to do with a relationship, I knew this, she can rely on her boy toys if they mean so much to her
The amount of women using made up pregnancies... Weird.
i was once friend's with this guy in highschool it started out okay but then one day he just started buying me snacks and soda out of the blue i just thought he was being nice after a yr of doing this he asks me out and i said no I'm fine with just being friends then asks how about pretending to be in a relationship ship i was like wtf?? nope not doing that either it took getting a bf my senior yr to get him to stop also didn't realize he was stalking me all 4 yrs of highschool which is how he knew where all 7 classes were and would run to every single one to talk to me before class til my ex bf told me that guy was a creep.
I dated someone for 4 years. I still wanted to b friends with him when we broke up. But then he started calling me and nagging me to come see him to talk things out. According to him I abandoned him in the middle of the pandemic. I tried my best to be open with him about my feelings at the time and why I wanted to break up. We finally talked things through this past weekend. He tried very hard to get me to sleep with him again casually, but I fended him off. I thought we had worked everything out, but he’s sent me some dramatic texts about wanting me to do certain runs with him and how emotional it was when he finished a race without me the other day.
Sometimes it isnt worth working things out with an ex. They’ll use that as a way to try and get back with you by any means necessary
Or, just keep you hanging around, for convenience.
Some of these people need to get restraining orders.
Two people can be aholes and be in a relationship. I believe thats the case with painting trasher. What a terrible human move on her part.
Ahhh, yes. Dong meet crazy. There’s just something great that happens there. Everything else may be hell, but that right there can be sheer heaven.
7:45
"He _chucked_ a tantrum."
Why do people keep saying this???
Do these people also celebrate birthdays by _"chucking a party?"_
When they fight, do they _"chuck down?"_
Is there a problem with the word "throw?"
My husband tried to break up with me about 4 years into our relationship. I told him if we break up anyone that he dates I will post our sex videos on social media. He laughed, called me crazy and we have been married for 7 years now. I love him so much!!!
3:35 She's the drama queen doing the Big Reveal at the end of her tale. If your ex is a boozer, be real and put that up front. "Here's the kicker" is always for dramatic effect.
Ok, so my ex bf broke up with me, by using a "different person". We talked like normal, then this "different person" ( it was obviously my ex, but he made his voice deeper) said "You should break up with him". Did so and sobbed. Afterwards, I go to hang up and that's when he normalized himself and acted like nothing happen. Later, he asked if we could hang out. I was under the impression it was platonic. We hung out, and made it seem like we were dating again. OK. Whatever. Broke up with me a second, even though we never got back together. His excuse for breaking up? "You're just not ready for a relationship." Yep . Apparently, I wasn't ready for a relationship. Not him. Did I mention that this was also over text? The second breakup? Yeah..
😂😂😂😂😂 I'm sorry but that different voice thing killed me.
If your friend was that clingy she was in love with you
It wasn’t a ex significant other- my ex friend harassing me over me deleting her fB from my profile; cue death threats, Instagram rants, shit on twitter. In hindsight she was pretty crazy. Lied about meeting famous ppl, fake gay friends (she thought It was cool to have gay friends and used them as fanfic smut writers.) Oh, and she and her “boyfriend” tried grooming me when I was 13. Yeah. Dodged a fuckin bullet
Are locks on the doors of toilets (bathrooms) not that common in the US?
I seem to hear lots of stories about people just walking into bathrooms when someone else is in there, as a Brit this is very strange to me .