I was diagnosed as "gifted" at a young age and expected to become extraordinary in some way. I'm 34 now and really struggling with depression & feeling like a failure. I don't have a stable job, or money, or a partner. And improvement feels pointless when I keep comparing myself to the "special" person I was supposed to become. Hearing this discussion is incredibly calming and reminds me to keep reading about Buddhism & psychology. Thank you so much for this video.
I think this video is the MOST articulate presentation I’ve listened to of what creates suffering and separation and feeling stuck, and reframing the way to approach these common human difficulties, based on the insights of these people who have given deep thought and dedicated their lives to understanding what works and what doesn’t.
this was the best and most relatable podcast ever. i’ve been severely struggling with self esteem and comparison this helped put things into perspective and think differently. 👏🏼
I loved the topic and the great discussion offered by three of you in a very understandable way. I have seen many ordinary people who have been victimized by their strong desire to be extraordinary. Thank you all!
We are both ordinary and extraordinary in this life. Knowing it's a continuum and practicing self compassion along the way is one way to find balance. We are this and that . These days its very rare to find well adjusted humans. These discussions are very appreciated.
Ronald Seigal is a favorite because he is so down to earth and always helpful, when listening to him, to feel OK about oneself.... and one's life... and a sense of belonging and realizing the vicissitude of praise and blame etc...and how it affects everyone. Dharma talks about that: i.e. (1) pleasure and pain, (2) gain and loss, (3) status and disrepute, (4) praise and blame. In short, we are all human with same human feelings. BUT then personal traumas or issues may take a human into extremes... like people like Putin,, Netanyahu , Trump..... these kinda humans need regulation.... Seems to me, bottom line, it is all an addiction to something ... like power .... etc...
'Safe social connection' can be nearly impossible for many Autistics. Many are unable to form even a handful of real and safe connections in their entire lifetime. Even if they/we can make a connection, the likihood of keeping it is highly unlikely. So all this is great to hear and listen to but not realistically obtainable for many. It is heartbreaking.
"Absolutely appreciating the particular constellation of strengths and weaknesses, culture and identities; that makes up each of us. That's Fantastic. (But) It's the it's the putting value judgements on it and the emotional experience of getting attached to the ups and avoiding the downs. That's what seems to be problematic." - Ronald Siegel 26:27
Love the decor and the vibe, Dr Siegell! You seem so incredibly mindful and calm Thanks for another excellent episode Hanson Boys! (That's what me and my girlfriend refer to you as, when we mention things we've learnt from you both a gazillion times ♥️)
Interesting the talk about safe social connections . I have friends from 40 years ago that I pick up with easily although we don’t see each other often . I believe it’s because of complete acceptance and connection that is loving and non judgmental. I don’t have that with “newer friends”.
Is there a podcast or talk by Dr. Hanson that goes more into retroactive repair and how to do that? I'll see if I can find something online, but that really resonates with me and I'd like to investigate. I definitely didn't get what I needed as a child emotionally, or psychologically. Thanks!
Hey Carol, we have a bunch of content on the podcast focused on repairing old wounds (and also going through a repair process inside our relationships). All the episodes aren't up on TH-cam, but you can find us on Spotify/Apple/Google Podcasts/etc.
I think that feeling inadequate or ordinary actually reflects in mind the real condition in which we are powerless to get what we want from the nature and society. This is existential condition and can't be escaped. As non-priviliged individuals in society, unlike the privileged people, we face a lot of difficulties to survive and to get pleasure from life. So, our mind subconsciously or consciously understand this reality and thus, start to suffer due to not getting what it wants. Mind understand that we can't change harsh realities of life and are actually victim of blind casualties of "fate". I don't believe in happiness and peace without having material resources which helps us to achieve success. And I don't believe that the modern psychology can do something about this.
I was diagnosed as "gifted" at a young age and expected to become extraordinary in some way. I'm 34 now and really struggling with depression & feeling like a failure. I don't have a stable job, or money, or a partner. And improvement feels pointless when I keep comparing myself to the "special" person I was supposed to become. Hearing this discussion is incredibly calming and reminds me to keep reading about Buddhism & psychology. Thank you so much for this video.
I think this video is the MOST articulate presentation I’ve listened to of what creates suffering and separation and feeling stuck, and reframing the way to approach these common human difficulties, based on the insights of these people who have given deep thought and dedicated their lives to understanding what works and what doesn’t.
Thank you!
Thanks!
These are just the absolute best conversations, the combo of dr Rick and Forrest bring out the best on each guest. Please keep ‘em coming!
this was the best and most relatable podcast ever. i’ve been severely struggling with self esteem and comparison this helped put things into perspective and think differently. 👏🏼
brilliant episode, love the somatic "exercise" demonstrating deflation/inflation, thank you
I loved the topic and the great discussion offered by three of you in a very understandable way. I have seen many ordinary people who have been victimized by their strong desire to be extraordinary. Thank you all!
Thanks for listening!
Another EXCELLENT discussion! Bravo, all three of you. I am grateful 🙏
Thank you for having this discussion. It helped me not feel like I’m the only one who suffers with this.
We are both ordinary and extraordinary in this life. Knowing it's a continuum and practicing self compassion along the way is one way to find balance. We are this and that . These days its very rare to find well adjusted humans.
These discussions are very appreciated.
Ronald Seigal is a favorite because he is so down to earth and always helpful, when listening to him, to feel OK about oneself.... and one's life... and a sense of belonging and realizing the vicissitude of praise and blame etc...and how it affects everyone. Dharma talks about that: i.e. (1) pleasure and pain, (2) gain and loss, (3) status and disrepute, (4) praise and blame. In short, we are all human with same human feelings. BUT then personal traumas or issues may take a human into extremes... like people like Putin,, Netanyahu , Trump..... these kinda humans need regulation.... Seems to me, bottom line, it is all an addiction to something ... like power .... etc...
'Safe social connection' can be nearly impossible for many Autistics. Many are unable to form even a handful of real and safe connections in their entire lifetime. Even if they/we can make a connection, the likihood of keeping it is highly unlikely. So all this is great to hear and listen to but not realistically obtainable for many. It is heartbreaking.
Three wise human beings. Thank you so much for such wise insights. I appreciate the information.
Forrest & Rick, love your new? Logo (bottom right). Another fabulous session, helped to gently release my [self] pressure valve. Thank you!
This video was suggested to me at the perfect time. Thank you for the tips!
Glad to hear it!
Just tuning in and already I’m really enjoying the conversation and resonating with it. 😊
This is yet another amazing episode
This was immensely helpful. thank you!!
"Absolutely appreciating the particular constellation of strengths and weaknesses, culture and identities; that makes up each of us. That's Fantastic.
(But) It's the it's the putting value judgements on it and the emotional experience of getting attached to the ups and avoiding the downs.
That's what seems to be problematic."
- Ronald Siegel 26:27
Thank you Forrest! Very helpful!!
Than you for this insightful session. It was immensely helpful! 😊
Love the decor and the vibe, Dr Siegell! You seem so incredibly mindful and calm
Thanks for another excellent episode Hanson Boys! (That's what me and my girlfriend refer to you as, when we mention things we've learnt from you both a gazillion times ♥️)
This is just wonderful
Unconditional self-esteem. Excellent and inspiring talk. Thank you, greatly! It’s a whole new way of looking .. ❤
so therapeutic for me. Thank you.
Very concentrated but good information,
Interesting the talk about safe social connections . I have friends from 40 years ago that I pick up with easily although we don’t see each other often . I believe it’s because of complete acceptance and connection that is loving and non judgmental. I don’t have that with “newer friends”.
Bought the book after watching this
Is there a podcast or talk by Dr. Hanson that goes more into retroactive repair and how to do that? I'll see if I can find something online, but that really resonates with me and I'd like to investigate. I definitely didn't get what I needed as a child emotionally, or psychologically. Thanks!
Hey Carol, we have a bunch of content on the podcast focused on repairing old wounds (and also going through a repair process inside our relationships). All the episodes aren't up on TH-cam, but you can find us on Spotify/Apple/Google Podcasts/etc.
@@ForrestHanson thank you so much! I so enjoy your podcast and Dr Hansen's Wednesday night meditations. So helpful and a great resource!
Wow, 3 people who look so at peace.
I just remind myself that the people I might be comparing myself too are likely comparing themselves to someone else, possibly even me!!
I think that feeling inadequate or ordinary actually reflects in mind the real condition in which we are powerless to get what we want from the nature and society. This is existential condition and can't be escaped. As non-priviliged individuals in society, unlike the privileged people, we face a lot of difficulties to survive and to get pleasure from life. So, our mind subconsciously or consciously understand this reality and thus, start to suffer due to not getting what it wants. Mind understand that we can't change harsh realities of life and are actually victim of blind casualties of "fate".
I don't believe in happiness and peace without having material resources which helps us to achieve success. And I don't believe that the modern psychology can do something about this.
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