As someone who isn’t religious (please don’t come for me) but is very open to listening and taking what aligns with me.. this sermon was very very profound and had some great ‘ahhh haaa’ moments that I feel will benefit my family immensely. Thank you Pastor Mark for your generous teachings.
Honey, real Christians aren't religious either.❤ We have a relationship with our Creator, all 3 of His personalities, that gives life meaning, guides us and makes our lives better. If you can dump that word "religious" you will probably see that you are closer than you think! Be well, Friend. 😊
You aren't supposed to be religious anyway. Jesus didn't die for us to seek religion. He died so that we may be in relationship with Him and so that we may have eternal life if we choose to accept Him as our Lord and Savior. I pray your strength in the Lord IN JESUS' NAME. I pray that you choose to come to truly know Him for yourself someday in Jesus' name. I pray that you choose to receive His true and unconditional love for yourself IN JESUS' NAME. AMEN. Because God TRULY does love and care for you AND SO DO I. AMEN. ❤❤❤
I have just recently discovered this pastor and his ministry. He is such a breath of fresh air. No nonsense, straight to the heart of the truth of the matter. I love his sermons. He's biblical, a spirit-filled Man of God. Oh how we need it today in the cupcake body of christ. We'd better Toughing up because what's coming down the pipe at us ain't nice
This is the sermon I needed to hear today. For many years, I have asked my parents to move so I can take care of them when they get old....but Mom loved her home too much to leave it. Now 86 and frail, she also refuses to consider assisted living, or live-in home health care. Instead - she wants me to abandon my job/home/husband and move across the country to live in her house as her care taker. She has absolutely no concern that this would put my finances in jeopardy and place a strain on my marriage. When I said "no", she chewed me out and hung up on me. She will no longer take my calls, or allow me to speak with my father. Please pray for me friends...it's a terrible situation. Thank you. PS - the only bible verse she can quote is "Honor thy mother and father". Pastor Mark nailed it.
Seeing a lot of negative comments here. I listened to the whole sermon and from my perspective he is not telling people to estrange themselves from their families at the drop of a hat. His overall message is to prioritize your marriage and new family unit over your biological family. There is one part of his sermon where he says that essentially not supporting the new married couple causes tension can lead to either enmeshment or cutoff. He’s not cheering people on to cut contact with their biological family. He also speaks about scripture commanding a man to “leave and cleave”. He’s breaking that scripture down for us and the overall message I got from that was to prioritize your spouse and children over your biological family. He doesn’t say you should leave their house and never speak to them again. Sounds like he has a wonderful relationship with his adult children and grandchildren so he must be doing something right and living by God’s word.
Thank you pastor Mark! This video is super helpful and explains how healthy family system has to function so well. It’s a real tragedy there are so many families who suffer from intrusive and controlling behaviour of in-laws which leads to divorces😢 Making your adult children build their life around you is definitely selfish and will only leave them lonely, incompetent and unfulfilled.
I’m always looking forward to a new sermon. This series is great. Learning a lot. I’m evening thinking about my gf’s parents and vice versa. Lord be with me in the decision I will make.
How I wish I had been brought up in an emotionally healthy and Godly home. I possibly could have been spared a lot of heartache and confusion. Instead I spent most of my life trying to heal from so much trauma and dysfunction. God's way is best. I love this pastor's teachings.
I absolutely love these sermons. I have lived this sermon with my in-laws. Our family died due to people pleasing. We did a quick Christmas to get it over to just get in the car to head out to mom and dad’s. Weekends were the target at mom and dad’s. Vacations automatic with mom and dad. Birthdays automatic at mom and dad. Holidays mom and dad. Kids birth wanted grandma with her not me was her first comment. Yep lived all this. Guess where we are now. Every sibling in that family was broken also. Good job mom and dad.
@@starrystarrynight6281 Have you asked yourself why your adult children have become disrespectful and or controlling? Children are a product of their environment !
Im so done with dysfunctional family members, they destroyed my family dynamics between me and my daughter im so done with toxic family. members and im prayer for generational curse breaking. I ask for prayer in these area's me my daughter have gone in a tramotrious dysfunctional break down .do to betrayal,deceite , manipulation and devision.I ask for prayer 🙏 in healing, deliverances, Restorations,
Such Wisdom! The church body has needed this message for some time! Thank you for sharing your gift of teaching, Pastor Mark, so that our families can glorify Him with a life well lived. ✨️
It is religious zealots like this Driscoll guy who are dangerous and toxic. He can't even keep his thoughts together. He's like a lost child, screaming for his mommy.
Thank you for this Pastor Mark! Over Thanksgiving break my ex and mother called the police on me for coming to her house to see my son. This has been an ongoing battle for 4yrs. I could use some prayer to navigate this.
Thank you so much Pastor Mark. I am so thankful for this sermon series. This made so much sense of our family journey since we had to cut off on both sides. I just wish we had these resources as we raised our kids and struggled through raising them mostly knowing what we did not want to do. Thanks for providing this blessing of Biblical instruction poised to impact the legacies of so many families.
Family first!!! The toxicity gots to go!!! I don't care who it is. Ill pray for you, but no more chances when it comes to family... we've given too many chances...our fault for not putting God first.
So true; my step daughters consistently compromise God's holy word. Though I have blessed them over the decades, I will not endorse their lifestyles... I continue to pray for them...
Yes. We must choose to put God first. The church, society, and toxic family will tell you otherwise. It is apart of the enemy's plan to get us off track and further away from Christ if we are not careful.
Rock On Mr Driscol! You are such a tonic and super-blast for good. I had to do this and it was heart breaking - now rising again. This is such an important topic - when a whole entire family goes to Jezebel - they leave us no option but to walk away. It is known in clinical psychology as FSA - Family Scapegoat Abuse - and this is trending globally now. Thank you so much for all you do - this helps us all rise and rise. Bless you all!
conditional love is a major major red flag trying to put you into their box on their beliefs and conditions. this is a way bigger problem than many think. and why a lot of parents end up been ditching into homes in the end. am from cork
Love this Pastor Mark! Back in the 70's Bradshaw presented this concept by using a baby mobile to describe the family, similar to the spider web. If one of the items on the mobile was removed the mobile would hang lobsided. In a dsyfunctional family the lobsidedness is not a good thing, meaning everyone is off center because they are so enmeshed in the family. Learned about this in early recovery, (alcoholic father) it saved my life. Wonderful to hear it explained by a Pastor. All churches need to talk about this sort of stuff. It will affect the church family as well.
My inlaws tore my family apart. After I set some boundaries every bump in the road we bumped into the used to tell her to leave me. I have since forgiven them but I will never forget.
"a man's foes shall be they of his own household"... Matthew 10:35-36 KJV For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man's foes shall be they of his own household. Hope this helps some see, Enoch (PROPHET) (Watchman for this LAST GENERATION)
I needed to cut off ties with almost all family members. As much as I've tried over the years to reach out to them and trying to get healthy relationships in existence, I had to reach a point realizing they have chosen damnation and dysfunction, and the concept of God to them is totally rejected, I just could no longer stay yolked to that. It is better to be away from them rather then isolated with them.
I’ll be sharing this video with people I know need to hear not just the process of how things should be but the truth and circumstances that may arise if not done properly
Just started listening to you Mark, great stuff, love how you tell it as it is....what the word says. Got a lot out of it. Bless you and your family. Len-Australia.
This is the absolute truth I’m speaking from experience, if your extended family is toxic, hypocrites, narcissistic, whatever it may be, you’re in the world of trouble. For those who are not married believe me get to know his or her family really well. If you’re a believer, you know God is Order so every decision matters. Before you pop the question be 1000% certain you and the extended family members can coexist otherwise do not go through with it. The only other option to go through with it would be if you will have little to no contact with them, and you will make a separate life together. Good luck to all!
I WISH I'd have had this kind of back-up with my late husband and the family, the story at the start of this is WAY too relatable ...unfortunately it's way too late but the aftermath still lingers with our daughters and I.
This tangentially brings up an interesting topic; those family members who are born sociopaths and psychpaths. Clearly, we pray for them. For their healing and deliverance. They are, however, dangerous individuals. I ask because I know a diagnosed sociopath who professes to be "saved". Intellectually, they know the bible from cover-to-cover. Simultaneously, however, they only ever use it to judge others around them to eternal hellfire (manipulation), and commit heinous...sometimes illegal...acts against others. Lots of physical violence which had landed them in jail a number of times. Because their brain is wired as a predator, they feel zero guilt. Ever. They cannot ever feel genuine repentance. And they cannot feel love. Ever. Possessiveness, yes, but not love. Other than running full-speed from these individuals, what can be done?
The grandpa you described is my dad to the tee. My husband and I have since not had contact, very very little. My husband and I have our beautiful family and we have had to unlearn and heal from toxic behaviors and ways we learned growing up from our families.
Well I am not sure if my family is to be labelled "toxic", but there is definitely a history of wrongdoing followed by denying/tabooizing the issue...not only, but among others at my expense. We were a large family, and for real it's sweet and sour at the same time and memory. Then God in his mercy put it behind me (or at least its day to day basis) by leading me to move out of town and county.
I’m pretty sure when you described Grampa, you met my father. My brother has taken the leader Lord of the Flies. My siblings have resented for 35 years that I left our hometown, got married and started a life. I haven’t been back home for a couple of years because of the judgement and condemnation and that’s if they even talk to me.
I'm sorry that you have gone through that and are going through that. Only God knows. I pray your strength in the Lord in Jesus' name. The most important relationship that we can ever have is with Jesus Christ. We are to only focus on doing God's will and God's will alone. We are not to be people pleasers. We are to be focusing on obeying our Lord and Savior and be willing to fulfill the plans and purpose that HE has for us. AMEN. I pray that you truly choose to trust, know, believe, and understand that God truly does love and care for you AND SO DO I.
I really appreciate this pastor and his messages, but the one question that know one has answered is how do you honor your parents when they are toxic and committed emotional and physical abuse. To add a note both my wife and I have forgiven both parents, and we are both faith filled strong Christian’s but still toss up the honoring them?
You don’t and he addresses this in several other sermons. Honoring your parents is directed at children. Once you’re an adult and especially when you marry it doesn’t apply the same way.
I can say that you treat them with compassion and follow the way of JESUS when you interact with them and calmly end the conversation before or when things get ugly. I personally read proverbs and psalms daily for help in having the right heart with someone who will likely never repent or even remember what to repent for. They truly know not what they do and because they are following the world it makes their words less painful. GOD Bless you!
Fellow adult of an abusive parent. I went through stages. When I was younger and hadn't forgiven her yet, I *had* lost lots of respect for her. Only things I respected were that she was a fellow person, and had given birth to me. Time passed, things happened, my respect bottomed out. Only reason I respect her now is because she is a person whom God loves and wants to have come back to Him. I cannot love her. At all. She ruined the relationship (I'm not perfect, for sure, but I - as a child, especially - was in no position of *any* power or authority). I will not reconcile - I gave her chances, and she blew them. I gave her times to talk with me, help me, and she blew them. Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself, and in keeping with God's word, is to separate. Don't treat them badly or with outright disrespect. Simply keep away, and say, "Go loves you, but this won't work between us" if they try anything. Or something you'd feel comfortable and capable of saying.
Love this series. What I’m dealing with right now is that me and bf want to take a 4 day trip and my parents are against that. They are very religious…any guidance on this would be really helpful…
If your not married then none of this applies to you. Your parents are probably well meaning and you should respect their decision until your married, then you are on different terms.
Honour your parents wishes. Your boyfriend needs to do the same. He will never have the respect of your parents, especially your father, if he doesn't. Your bf needs to earn it. I have a feeling even you will hold him in higher regard.
Does Pastor Mark mean “notable” events? I have never heard of “notel” before? This was an absolutely amazing sermon. Thank you SO much, Pastor Mark!! 🙏🙏
Father‘s accept your daughters were not born to be with you forever. Some men have issues letting go of their little girls. Now they are grown women. This is the cycle of life. I agree with Pastor Mark once you hand them over all you can do is be there when they need you & accept your new role as a counselor to her husband and her kids so they can love her just as much as you do.
My wife in 2014 after 1 year of marriage abandoned me for her family. My in laws were cruel and always made sure to know I didn’t matter and I wasn’t one of them. I tried everything but they hated me. I prayed and we reconciled about 2 months later. I didn’t pray and ask if I should take her back. She drew me away from God and after 10 years I finally went back to Jesus. On June 3, 2023 I finally gave my life to Christ and then on July 1, 2023 my wife abandoned me again. This time we had two kids though and so my 6 and 8 year old are having to go through all of this. She didn’t want to serve God. Before she left she told me she hates God and I’m nothing to her. I won’t compromise on my relationship with Christ, but it is hard. I truly loved my wife. She got involved with witchcraft and she ran off with this family she barely met. She has a boyfriend. He’s the son of the witch she ran off with and he’s just some bum who’s never worked a day in his life. His mom always took care of him. She’s supposedly pregnant by him and I did fight for my marriage. I even offered marriage counseling and I would forgive her and the affair. She didn’t want any of that. She chose the world. Some days I feel hopeful, and some I’ve lost all hope.
Im sorry to hear this and your story breaks my heart. At this point you have to let her go according to 1 Corinthians 7:15 (But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.) Move on and do what’s best for your kids.
thank you.this is vital information. However the ladies sitting closest to the stage upfront are calling attention to themselves, and away from the message
What do I do if I’m the one with trauma in my family? I’ve tried leaving myslef a few times but now I’m focused on God. Still stuck In that negative and fearful thinking and it’s still effecting my family.
I love my mother in law ❤ but yes the plan always starts with we are going to moms for ________. I would love to just stay home for Christmas make them come to us for a change.
When a man and woman fall in love and get engaged to marry, I think it's incredibly important for each of them to understand that they are NOT marrying into each others families. They are "leaving and cleaving" and starting their own nuclear family and their family of origin then becomes "extended family". This is important, because many mother in laws will treat their daughter in law as if she is marrying into HER family where SHE is the "matriarch" and therefore must strive for MIL's approval and be under her authority and scrutiny. This happened to me and I am now ZERO CONTACT. My MIL tried to give me orders in my own home. Unnacceptable. It broke our relationship. A married man is also a son. Yet, as soon as he marries, his loyalty shifts from his mother to his wife and his wife now becomes his top priority. His role as a husband is now more important than his role as a son and he must make that clear to his mother from the very beginning. He must remind his mother that his wife is his new family and that his wife has not become a member of his original family. Wife now gets an opportunity to become the "matriarch" of her own nuclear family unit that they have created together. She gets her "turn". Because if an MIL thinks that you do not know the Biblical laws of marriage, such as "leave and cleave", "forsake all others" and "let no man put asunder" she will manipulate your naivete in order to gain control over her sons new family and dominate and take the power position. This is what happened to me. It has been one of the most devastating things that happened to me in my lifetime. To be treated like an incompetent child in my own home. I am still healing from the humiliation of it. My husband allowed it to happen.
Pastor Driscoll just wondering if you would contemplate the situation when a daughter gets divorced and has to return home with a child of her own. Patents leaders in the church, being that they know alwsys whats better takes over, dismissing the daighter in the eyes of the child. Becoming the parents to that child even teaching her to call them " mommy and daddy". Please speak on parents dismissing the true parents in front of their children. Pastor D the daughter was a correct woman, Godly and submitted to her parents and now the grandmother is the one loved as the mother and the true mother (the daughter is looked down on and has been separated even from the daughters only granddaugh😢😢) The daughter doesn’t even know what was said all she knows is that she isnt welcome.😢
WHAT IT MEANS TO BE TOXIC? TOXIC: containing or being poisonous material especially when capable of causing death or serious debilitation. (Merriam-Webster) So, a toxic person is someone who is poisonous and who poison others. In the Word of God, bitter is a poison… “Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” (Hebrews 12:14-15 NIV) BITTERNESS: marked by cynicism and rancor. (Merriam-Webster) Every attitude that is motivated by bitterness is a poison.
Awesome video. Wish this is part of marriage preaches. Please rebook the title because sharing it will come across as overly harsh where the message itself is very helpful
I've heard that pastor Mark is controversial, but I don't hear any pastors talking about this, and frankly, it's happening under the church's noses as far as I'm concerned. Some churches even promote abuse by shaming those who leave these toxic family systems.
Please help us who are divorced. My marriage was this way the whole marriage. I was married 28 years been divorced for 4 years. He is remarried 5 months after we divorced. I want to be married but unsure about marriage now. I always thought it would be a lifetime commitment. So many divorces and broken homes. In this culture I wonder if I can find a man that understands this concept of the priority of marriage and that covenant. It should come first over everyone else
My religious parents won't let me go on dates because they want me to stay home forever and obey their every word. I'm almost 22. They hate me for loving God more than them.
I appreciate the message, but not one I would share with my spouse or stepsons. Why is almost every example slamming the man in the family? It’s like this in a lot of sermons. It’s the uncle, the dad, the grandpa who are bad and abusive but grandma is who brings everyone together. Women are abusive too. We shouldn’t get a pass.
He is being tactically because Wmn are controlling the social narrative and in an evil way. They take slight quickly and will try to destroy his message.
I think he did mention several women. He gave good and bad examples, but I heard him throw in “mother in law” and “mom” as an example of overbearing as well. He may just talk about men more if that’s been his experience, but I don’t think he’s dismissing any other types. I would know too - my MIL is my issue lol.
JESUS came to bring division not unity. We go to Heaven "individually" and we are Judged "individually".. Luke 12:51-53 KJV Suppose ye that I am come to give peace on earth? I tell you, Nay; but rather division: For from henceforth there shall be five in one house divided, three against two, and two against three. The father shall be divided against the son, and the son against the father; the mother against the daughter, and the daughter against the mother; the mother in law against her daughter in law, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. Hope this helps some understand, Enoch (PROPHET) (Watchman for this LAST GENERATION)
Pastor Mark it would be great to know more about how this plays into a blended family which makes it way worse. My first marriage. Her second to me. Now divorced. The intrusion of her family was insane upon our family. Respect went to the gutter on my end as the head and constant counsel went to her folks when we disagreed. What I want to know is what does a husband do when caught in a situation when the wife couldn’t care less for the husband and simply wants what the parents want. We were roommates in a house. Every sibling she had has been in relationship chaos or divorce. This all happened after our marriage so could not evaluate before saying I do. I see a generational curse in a major way. A jezebel spirit running the homes. Many of the things you are speaking of. These teachings may not relate to some until you have lived through it, then one would understand. These are awesome teachings. I never remarried. Not sure I ever will or would want to again due to damage I feel. Forgiveness is really hard for me in this. Thank you though for teaching me about God’s word in the midst of how life plays out. Good or bad. Blessings!
Seriously? Commercials during the sermon? You’re okay with random people running up on the stage and interrupting you with their completely unrelated sales pitches? That’s essentially what these commercials are doing.
@BiblicalTruthforToday yeah...I don't think the content creators have a choice. TH-cam puts out the commercials and the viewers decide if they want to see the commercials or not by buying TH-cam Premium monthly.
I’m a 1 Tim 5:5 widow because my late husband and I fled evil. The former MIL tried to start control by shunning us… when that didn’t work she eventually offered him $1k “for his love”. We don’t know if that meant for sex (as she complained her husband couldn’t perform for years) or for his loyalty for her over me. Either way, we moved cross-country and never spoke to them again. When he died his mother never said a word. There is so much more to the story, and maybe one day I’ll write a book. Just know, Jesus has been faithful to our faithfulness - and now mine - to Him over anyone else. God’s will be done!
I ran away at 14 never looked back FAMILY IS A CURSE im so happy without PARASITES and SNAKES i probably would have been in prison for muder if i didn't run away from that CRAP.
Things don’t even need to be that blatant. The demonic parental spirits of control under the guise of ‘nice’ amputates the family spirit in the same way as aggressiveness, The result is total disaster. Like going forward in life with a disability. Whoever wrote Hansel and Gretle knew this. Devouring mother syndrome.
Correct. I walked away from my entire family for this.’ Reason. My mother had been secretly grooming me to be a son husband. While abusing nd tormenting me to instill fear. My father didn’t really see me as a man either. (I don’t look like any of them and have a strange look. She made me the scapegoat and had been running a smear campaign for years behind my back that I was mentally incompetent. The icky stuff started progressing and I just snapped. When I started to pull back they claimed I was going insane. It left me no choice. Just me and God.
If you notice your extended family being manipulative, you have to address it with your spouse. Anything that is not healthy for your life together and happiness limit your interaction or cut it off completely. All you men or young men out there avoid years of headaches, frustration, and heartache obtain biblical Knowledge and seek those who can give you biblical wisdom in these situations.
THE PROBLEM is... PASTORS dont know who "the children of the devil". are. Most don't even know the scripture that tells how to know. Instead, they call them merely (tares) at worst.... saying "let the wheat grow with the tares" 42:22
Ah that grandpa....is my husband 😂....we are the ones with the conspiracy theory and government drama and my brother-in-law and fam is Catholic so there is always a grenade there
Who are my brothers and mothers? But those who are in Christ. Those are my family. As it's written if you love father or mother more then me you are NOT worthy of me. The truth is parents or inlaws are the 3rd voice in marriage. The same way the serpent was the 3rd voice with Adam and eve. That 3rd voice destroyed that marriage an it will do the same today
I really enjoy the sermons and I really don't like the self-conscious, not really funny teasing, kinda "put down each other" intro couple. Can't the guy just introduce the content coming, introduce the girl, and not put anyone down?
Reading in this comment section, this sermon certainly brought out all the negativity of people living in their family units. Not so sure this was a good sermon or not. People here are really negative on their family experiences. Why not focus on the positive of their family experiences here?
Not all of us have positive family experiences. I’m sorry. I wish I could say different. We can sympathize with the neighbor of a ped o file putting up a privacy fence, but not the broken, sexually abused child that grows up thinking they have to be a happy family, continuously suffering in silence. They can’t talk about it locally, even as adults, due to the stigma that stays with them. There really are people out there suffering. Don’t they deserve guidance too. Life doesn’t always have a positive in family areas. That’s the reality of today’s nasty world. Trust me, we would give almost anything to change that.
Is it possible that you are a "harmony-person" more than a "truth-person"? Is harmony more important to you than truth? To clean up, you first of all have to look at the dirt, name it and find the right tool to cope with it, be it a broom, a sponge or a lawn mower! We all want to have holy, joyful, heartwarming honest relationships. So that's why, if there is dirt, you first of all have to clean up. And you need to find out what exactly the problem is, and how to "name" it, so that you can find the appropriate tool to deal with it! There is no short cut. There is no "restoration" without first getting honest, naming the problems, searching for solutions and getting in the new habit of doing it the new way. That IS restoration. There is no short cut to harmony. We need to do the work.
I’m a therapist and it is refreshing to hear a pastor who has done his homework. Excellent and accurate message! ❤
As someone who isn’t religious (please don’t come for me) but is very open to listening and taking what aligns with me.. this sermon was very very profound and had some great ‘ahhh haaa’ moments that I feel will benefit my family immensely. Thank you Pastor Mark for your generous teachings.
Honey, real Christians aren't religious either.❤ We have a relationship with our Creator, all 3 of His personalities, that gives life meaning, guides us and makes our lives better. If you can dump that word "religious" you will probably see that you are closer than you think! Be well, Friend. 😊
@@annamineer2521 Relationship > Religion
@@cmanweavster8357 you're preaching to the choir, bud.
That’s all it’s about. Good for you
You aren't supposed to be religious anyway. Jesus didn't die for us to seek religion. He died so that we may be in relationship with Him and so that we may have eternal life if we choose to accept Him as our Lord and Savior. I pray your strength in the Lord IN JESUS' NAME. I pray that you choose to come to truly know Him for yourself someday in Jesus' name. I pray that you choose to receive His true and unconditional love for yourself IN JESUS' NAME. AMEN. Because God TRULY does love and care for you AND SO DO I. AMEN. ❤❤❤
I have just recently discovered this pastor and his ministry. He is such a breath of fresh air. No nonsense, straight to the heart of the truth of the matter. I love his sermons. He's biblical, a spirit-filled
Man of God. Oh how we need it today in the cupcake body of christ. We'd better Toughing up because what's coming down the pipe at us ain't nice
This is the sermon I needed to hear today. For many years, I have asked my parents to move so I can take care of them when they get old....but Mom loved her home too much to leave it. Now 86 and frail, she also refuses to consider assisted living, or live-in home health care. Instead - she wants me to abandon my job/home/husband and move across the country to live in her house as her care taker. She has absolutely no concern that this would put my finances in jeopardy and place a strain on my marriage. When I said "no", she chewed me out and hung up on me. She will no longer take my calls, or allow me to speak with my father. Please pray for me friends...it's a terrible situation. Thank you.
PS - the only bible verse she can quote is "Honor thy mother and father". Pastor Mark nailed it.
I will pray for you ❤ God knows what's right. He will help us
@@19miraclesarehere Thank you, my friend.
Pastor Marks daughter married literally the SAME eccentric personality as Pastor Mark and it’s so wholesome 🤗♥️😭
Seeing a lot of negative comments here. I listened to the whole sermon and from my perspective he is not telling people to estrange themselves from their families at the drop of a hat. His overall message is to prioritize your marriage and new family unit over your biological family. There is one part of his sermon where he says that essentially not supporting the new married couple causes tension can lead to either enmeshment or cutoff. He’s not cheering people on to cut contact with their biological family. He also speaks about scripture commanding a man to “leave and cleave”. He’s breaking that scripture down for us and the overall message I got from that was to prioritize your spouse and children over your biological family. He doesn’t say you should leave their house and never speak to them again. Sounds like he has a wonderful relationship with his adult children and grandchildren so he must be doing something right and living by God’s word.
Thank you pastor Mark! This video is super helpful and explains how healthy family system has to function so well. It’s a real tragedy there are so many families who suffer from intrusive and controlling behaviour of in-laws which leads to divorces😢 Making your adult children build their life around you is definitely selfish and will only leave them lonely, incompetent and unfulfilled.
It's not always in laws. It can even be children. I know, I have a toxic daughter who wants to rule the family
I’m always looking forward to a new sermon. This series is great. Learning a lot. I’m evening thinking about my gf’s parents and vice versa. Lord be with me in the decision I will make.
How I wish I had been brought up in an emotionally healthy and Godly home. I possibly could have been spared a lot of heartache and confusion. Instead I spent most of my life trying to heal from so much trauma and dysfunction. God's way is best. I love this pastor's teachings.
❤ It can be hard, I made the same experience.
I absolutely love these sermons. I have lived this sermon with my in-laws. Our family died due to people pleasing. We did a quick Christmas to get it over to just get in the car to head out to mom and dad’s. Weekends were the target at mom and dad’s. Vacations automatic with mom and dad. Birthdays automatic at mom and dad. Holidays mom and dad. Kids birth wanted grandma with her not me was her first comment. Yep lived all this. Guess where we are now. Every sibling in that family was broken also. Good job mom and dad.
What about disrespect and hateful grown children?
@@starrystarrynight6281 Have you asked yourself why your adult children have become disrespectful and or controlling? Children are a product of their environment !
Im so done with dysfunctional family members, they destroyed my family dynamics between me and my daughter im so done with toxic family. members and im prayer for generational curse breaking.
I ask for prayer in these area's me my daughter have gone in a tramotrious dysfunctional break down .do to betrayal,deceite , manipulation and devision.I ask for prayer 🙏 in healing, deliverances, Restorations,
Such Wisdom! The church body has needed this message for some time! Thank you for sharing your gift of teaching, Pastor Mark, so that our families can glorify Him with a life well lived. ✨️
Thank you so much for this teaching . It's a life changer for me . I am going to make my family with my husband my priority. God bless you 🙏🏻
My own family is a toxic family. They are all unbelievers. Being around them is exhausting and stressful. I keep praying for them to come to Jesus
It is religious zealots like this Driscoll guy who are dangerous and toxic. He can't even keep his thoughts together. He's like a lost child, screaming for his mommy.
Jesus understands you more than anyone. Keep praying.
Thank you for this Pastor Mark! Over Thanksgiving break my ex and mother called the police on me for coming to her house to see my son. This has been an ongoing battle for 4yrs. I could use some prayer to navigate this.
im so sorry - i have had the same. God Bless you. These folk are demonic.
I can only imagine how painful and frustrating that would be. I prayed for you and will continue to do so.
Bind up Jezebel n witchcraft ❤
Thank you so much Pastor Mark. I am so thankful for this sermon series. This made so much sense of our family journey since we had to cut off on both sides. I just wish we had these resources as we raised our kids and struggled through raising them mostly knowing what we did not want to do. Thanks for providing this blessing of Biblical instruction poised to impact the legacies of so many families.
Family first!!! The toxicity gots to go!!! I don't care who it is. Ill pray for you, but no more chances when it comes to family... we've given too many chances...our fault for not putting God first.
Amen to that hundred percent
So true; my step daughters consistently compromise God's holy word. Though I have blessed them over the decades, I will not endorse their lifestyles... I continue to pray for them...
Yes. We must choose to put God first. The church, society, and toxic family will tell you otherwise. It is apart of the enemy's plan to get us off track and further away from Christ if we are not careful.
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@@jarrettowensphd9608 But they are your stepdaughters, seems you don't call them your daughters, maybe an gentle hand is needed.
when you coming over ahhhh I’m just praying for the rapture! Hahaha! That was hilarious. Thanks for the laugh! So true though 😂😊
Pastor, I would love to share this sermon with family and inlaws, wish it was nAmed differently.
This is amazing sermon. God bless you.
Rock On Mr Driscol! You are such a tonic and super-blast for good. I had to do this and it was heart breaking - now rising again. This is such an important topic - when a whole entire family goes to Jezebel - they leave us no option but to walk away. It is known in clinical psychology as FSA - Family Scapegoat Abuse - and this is trending globally now. Thank you so much for all you do - this helps us all rise and rise. Bless you all!
Absolutely. Gotta break those generational curses aka chains. THANK YOU PASTOR MARK!!!!!!!
Hard truths and keyword is truth! Thank you Pastor Mark! God bless everyone!
conditional love is a major major red flag trying to put you into their box on their beliefs and conditions. this is a way bigger problem than many think. and why a lot of parents end up been ditching into homes in the end. am from cork
Love this Pastor Mark! Back in the 70's Bradshaw presented this concept by using a baby mobile to describe the family, similar to the spider web. If one of the items on the mobile was removed the mobile would hang lobsided. In a dsyfunctional family the lobsidedness is not a good thing, meaning everyone is off center because they are so enmeshed in the family. Learned about this in early recovery, (alcoholic father) it saved my life. Wonderful to hear it explained by a Pastor. All churches need to talk about this sort of stuff. It will affect the church family as well.
That is a really good analogy.....
Thank you pastor Mark for all of your great sermons
Hi Mark. I find myself drifting between Eager Beaver and Burnout. Though with that story you made my day and for that I thank you.....
My inlaws tore my family apart. After I set some boundaries every bump in the road we bumped into the used to tell her to leave me. I have since forgiven them but I will never forget.
"a man's foes shall be they of his own household"...
Matthew 10:35-36 KJV
For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
And a man's foes shall be they of his own household.
Hope this helps some see,
Enoch (PROPHET)
(Watchman for this LAST GENERATION)
I needed to cut off ties with almost all family members. As much as I've tried over the years to reach out to them and trying to get healthy relationships in existence, I had to reach a point realizing they have chosen damnation and dysfunction, and the concept of God to them is totally rejected, I just could no longer stay yolked to that. It is better to be away from them rather then isolated with them.
I’ll be sharing this video with people I know need to hear not just the process of how things should be but the truth and circumstances that may arise if not done properly
This is so important for families to understand
Thank you 🎉 for understanding and teling us that it can be the right thing to do leaving the family and concentrating on good relationships.
I have never felt so happy in my life before !!! Thank you for this sermons.
Just started listening to you Mark, great stuff, love how you tell it as it is....what the word says. Got a lot out of it. Bless you and your family. Len-Australia.
This is the absolute truth I’m speaking from experience, if your extended family is toxic, hypocrites, narcissistic, whatever it may be, you’re in the world of trouble. For those who are not married believe me get to know his or her family really well. If you’re a believer, you know God is Order so every decision matters. Before you pop the question be 1000% certain you and the extended family members can coexist otherwise do not go through with it. The only other option to go through with it would be if you will have little to no contact with them, and you will make a separate life together. Good luck to all!
I WISH I'd have had this kind of back-up with my late husband and the family, the story at the start of this is WAY too relatable
...unfortunately it's way too late but the aftermath still lingers with our daughters and I.
Thank you for providing the whole video
Amazing sermon. Agree 100%
This is brilliant Pastor Mark! Thank you!
Just listening to this story makes my heart speed up.
Sound advice. I think we are born among our enemies and that's how we learn to love them, otherwise we never would.
I am so incredibly thankful I found your channel! Thank you soo so much for what you do!
This tangentially brings up an interesting topic; those family members who are born sociopaths and psychpaths.
Clearly, we pray for them. For their healing and deliverance. They are, however, dangerous individuals.
I ask because I know a diagnosed sociopath who professes to be "saved". Intellectually, they know the bible from cover-to-cover. Simultaneously, however, they only ever use it to judge others around them to eternal hellfire (manipulation), and commit heinous...sometimes illegal...acts against others. Lots of physical violence which had landed them in jail a number of times.
Because their brain is wired as a predator, they feel zero guilt. Ever. They cannot ever feel genuine repentance. And they cannot feel love. Ever. Possessiveness, yes, but not love.
Other than running full-speed from these individuals, what can be done?
The grandpa you described is my dad to the tee. My husband and I have since not had contact, very very little. My husband and I have our beautiful family and we have had to unlearn and heal from toxic behaviors and ways we learned growing up from our families.
My sister in law did it like that, she had her husband walk down the isle to her. 😬 His mom “gave him away”
Wow... 😮
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Yikes!
one family didnt want him God put another family in his path that appreciated an loved him amen great story mark God bless
Just make sure that if you’re in Christ that your the brightest light in your family I know I had to repent and become brighter for my unsaved family.
Well I am not sure if my family is to be labelled "toxic", but there is definitely a history of wrongdoing followed by denying/tabooizing the issue...not only, but among others at my expense. We were a large family, and for real it's sweet and sour at the same time and memory.
Then God in his mercy put it behind me (or at least its day to day basis) by leading me to move out of town and county.
Wow!! This is SOOOOO GOOD!! Thank you Pastor. This is real conversation that must be spoken of.. sadly not many leaders are speaking.
I’m pretty sure when you described Grampa, you met my father. My brother has taken the leader Lord of the Flies. My siblings have resented for 35 years that I left our hometown, got married and started a life. I haven’t been back home for a couple of years because of the judgement and condemnation and that’s if they even talk to me.
I'm sorry that you have gone through that and are going through that. Only God knows. I pray your strength in the Lord in Jesus' name. The most important relationship that we can ever have is with Jesus Christ. We are to only focus on doing God's will and God's will alone. We are not to be people pleasers. We are to be focusing on obeying our Lord and Savior and be willing to fulfill the plans and purpose that HE has for us. AMEN. I pray that you truly choose to trust, know, believe, and understand that God truly does love and care for you AND SO DO I.
Thank you Pastor Mark
Wow ! I hear stories like the woodworkers , all the time .
I am happy the 2nd marriage worked out
I really appreciate this pastor and his messages, but the one question that know one has answered is how do you honor your parents when they are toxic and committed emotional and physical abuse. To add a note both my wife and I have forgiven both parents, and we are both faith filled strong Christian’s but still toss up the honoring them?
You don’t and he addresses this in several other sermons. Honoring your parents is directed at children. Once you’re an adult and especially when you marry it doesn’t apply the same way.
@@chisanainoris5364untrue, he says we aren’t to obey our parents as adults. Honouring your parents is for ever.
I can say that you treat them with compassion and follow the way of JESUS when you interact with them and calmly end the conversation before or when things get ugly. I personally read proverbs and psalms daily for help in having the right heart with someone who will likely never repent or even remember what to repent for. They truly know not what they do and because they are following the world it makes their words less painful. GOD Bless you!
Fellow adult of an abusive parent.
I went through stages. When I was younger and hadn't forgiven her yet, I *had* lost lots of respect for her. Only things I respected were that she was a fellow person, and had given birth to me.
Time passed, things happened, my respect bottomed out. Only reason I respect her now is because she is a person whom God loves and wants to have come back to Him.
I cannot love her. At all. She ruined the relationship (I'm not perfect, for sure, but I - as a child, especially - was in no position of *any* power or authority). I will not reconcile - I gave her chances, and she blew them. I gave her times to talk with me, help me, and she blew them.
Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself, and in keeping with God's word, is to separate. Don't treat them badly or with outright disrespect. Simply keep away, and say, "Go loves you, but this won't work between us" if they try anything. Or something you'd feel comfortable and capable of saying.
To live your life in such a manner that any mature Godly parent would be proud of.
Awe. Really nice pictures. ❤❤❤
Love this series. What I’m dealing with right now is that me and bf want to take a 4 day trip and my parents are against that. They are very religious…any guidance on this would be really helpful…
If your not married then none of this applies to you. Your parents are probably well meaning and you should respect their decision until your married, then you are on different terms.
Honour your parents wishes. Your boyfriend needs to do the same. He will never have the respect of your parents, especially your father, if he doesn't. Your bf needs to earn it. I have a feeling even you will hold him in higher regard.
Does Pastor Mark mean “notable” events? I have never heard of “notel” before?
This was an absolutely amazing sermon. Thank you SO much, Pastor Mark!! 🙏🙏
Nodal, as in node, 'point of connection (or division). Like lymph node.
@@rachelbartlett1970 Thank you so much!! I never heard of that term used in that way. I like it. Thanks!!
Father‘s accept your daughters were not born to be with you forever. Some men have issues letting go of their little girls. Now they are grown women. This is the cycle of life. I agree with Pastor Mark once you hand them over all you can do is be there when they need you & accept your new role as a counselor to her husband and her kids so they can love her just as much as you do.
Message starts at 8:00 🙃
My wife in 2014 after 1 year of marriage abandoned me for her family. My in laws were cruel and always made sure to know I didn’t matter and I wasn’t one of them. I tried everything but they hated me. I prayed and we reconciled about 2 months later. I didn’t pray and ask if I should take her back. She drew me away from God and after 10 years I finally went back to Jesus. On June 3, 2023 I finally gave my life to Christ and then on July 1, 2023 my wife abandoned me again. This time we had two kids though and so my 6 and 8 year old are having to go through all of this. She didn’t want to serve God. Before she left she told me she hates God and I’m nothing to her. I won’t compromise on my relationship with Christ, but it is hard. I truly loved my wife. She got involved with witchcraft and she ran off with this family she barely met. She has a boyfriend. He’s the son of the witch she ran off with and he’s just some bum who’s never worked a day in his life. His mom always took care of him. She’s supposedly pregnant by him and I did fight for my marriage. I even offered marriage counseling and I would forgive her and the affair. She didn’t want any of that. She chose the world. Some days I feel hopeful, and some I’ve lost all hope.
Im sorry to hear this and your story breaks my heart. At this point you have to let her go according to 1 Corinthians 7:15 (But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.)
Move on and do what’s best for your kids.
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thank you.this is vital information. However the ladies sitting closest to the stage upfront are calling attention to themselves, and away from the message
I am crying . 😢
Great sermon.
A great message.
What do I do if I’m the one with trauma in my family? I’ve tried leaving myslef a few times but now I’m focused on God. Still stuck In that negative and fearful thinking and it’s still effecting my family.
I love my mother in law ❤ but yes the plan always starts with we are going to moms for ________. I would love to just stay home for Christmas make them come to us for a change.
When a man and woman fall in love and get engaged to marry, I think it's incredibly important for each of them to understand that they are NOT marrying into each others families. They are "leaving and cleaving" and starting their own nuclear family and their family of origin then becomes "extended family". This is important, because many mother in laws will treat their daughter in law as if she is marrying into HER family where SHE is the "matriarch" and therefore must strive for MIL's approval and be under her authority and scrutiny. This happened to me and I am now ZERO CONTACT. My MIL tried to give me orders in my own home. Unnacceptable. It broke our relationship. A married man is also a son. Yet, as soon as he marries, his loyalty shifts from his mother to his wife and his wife now becomes his top priority. His role as a husband is now more important than his role as a son and he must make that clear to his mother from the very beginning. He must remind his mother that his wife is his new family and that his wife has not become a member of his original family. Wife now gets an opportunity to become the "matriarch" of her own nuclear family unit that they have created together. She gets her "turn". Because if an MIL thinks that you do not know the Biblical laws of marriage, such as "leave and cleave", "forsake all others" and "let no man put asunder" she will manipulate your naivete in order to gain control over her sons new family and dominate and take the power position. This is what happened to me. It has been one of the most devastating things that happened to me in my lifetime. To be treated like an incompetent child in my own home. I am still healing from the humiliation of it. My husband allowed it to happen.
Pastor Driscoll just wondering if you would contemplate the situation when a daughter gets divorced and has to return home with a child of her own. Patents leaders in the church, being that they know alwsys whats better takes over, dismissing the daighter in the eyes of the child. Becoming the parents to that child even teaching her to call them " mommy and daddy".
Please speak on parents dismissing the true parents in front of their children. Pastor D the daughter was a correct woman, Godly and submitted to her parents and now the grandmother is the one loved as the mother and the true mother (the daughter is looked down on and has been separated even from the daughters only
granddaugh😢😢)
The daughter doesn’t even know what was said all she knows is that she isnt welcome.😢
That is such a terrible situation.
WHAT IT MEANS TO BE TOXIC?
TOXIC: containing or being poisonous material especially when capable of causing death or serious debilitation. (Merriam-Webster)
So, a toxic person is someone who is poisonous and who poison others.
In the Word of God, bitter is a poison…
“Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” (Hebrews 12:14-15 NIV)
BITTERNESS: marked by cynicism and rancor. (Merriam-Webster)
Every attitude that is motivated by bitterness is a poison.
Awesome video. Wish this is part of marriage preaches. Please rebook the title because sharing it will come across as overly harsh where the message itself is very helpful
I've heard that pastor Mark is controversial, but I don't hear any pastors talking about this, and frankly, it's happening under the church's noses as far as I'm concerned. Some churches even promote abuse by shaming those who leave these toxic family systems.
I'm an older woman. When I think about how I should be and react, I ask What would my mother in law do.? Then tell myself, Don't do that.
AMEN. I AGREE. ❤❤❤
Please help us who are divorced.
My marriage was this way the whole marriage.
I was married 28 years been divorced for 4 years. He is remarried 5 months after we divorced. I want to be married but unsure about marriage now. I always thought it would be a lifetime commitment. So many divorces and broken homes. In this culture I wonder if I can find a man that understands this concept of the priority of marriage and that covenant. It should come first over everyone else
Your marriage should come first before parents and even your children- grown children
God first
My religious parents won't let me go on dates because they want me to stay home forever and obey their every word. I'm almost 22. They hate me for loving God more than them.
Don't be so hyperbolic
I appreciate the message, but not one I would share with my spouse or stepsons. Why is almost every example slamming the man in the family? It’s like this in a lot of sermons. It’s the uncle, the dad, the grandpa who are bad and abusive but grandma is who brings everyone together. Women are abusive too. We shouldn’t get a pass.
This guy is not on it biblically- TH-cam Religious Narcissist. God bless you for not buying into this’
He is being tactically because Wmn are controlling the social narrative and in an evil way. They take slight quickly and will try to destroy his message.
Women are more abusive
I think he did mention several women. He gave good and bad examples, but I heard him throw in “mother in law” and “mom” as an example of overbearing as well. He may just talk about men more if that’s been his experience, but I don’t think he’s dismissing any other types.
I would know too - my MIL is my issue lol.
JESUS came to bring division not unity. We go to Heaven "individually" and we are Judged "individually"..
Luke 12:51-53 KJV
Suppose ye that I am come to give peace on earth? I tell you, Nay; but rather division:
For from henceforth there shall be five in one house divided, three against two, and two against three.
The father shall be divided against the son, and the son against the father; the mother against the daughter, and the daughter against the mother; the mother in law against her daughter in law, and the daughter in law against her mother in law.
Hope this helps some understand,
Enoch (PROPHET)
(Watchman for this LAST GENERATION)
Pastor Mark it would be great to know more about how this plays into a blended family which makes it way worse. My first marriage. Her second to me. Now divorced. The intrusion of her family was insane upon our family. Respect went to the gutter on my end as the head and constant counsel went to her folks when we disagreed. What I want to know is what does a husband do when caught in a situation when the wife couldn’t care less for the husband and simply wants what the parents want. We were roommates in a house. Every sibling she had has been in relationship chaos or divorce. This all happened after our marriage so could not evaluate before saying I do. I see a generational curse in a major way. A jezebel spirit running the homes. Many of the things you are speaking of. These teachings may not relate to some until you have lived through it, then one would understand. These are awesome teachings. I never remarried. Not sure I ever will or would want to again due to damage I feel. Forgiveness is really hard for me in this. Thank you though for teaching me about God’s word in the midst of how life plays out. Good or bad. Blessings!
Seriously? Commercials during the sermon? You’re okay with random people running up on the stage and interrupting you with their completely unrelated sales pitches? That’s essentially what these commercials are doing.
That's TH-cam. If you don't like the commercials you have to pay for TH-cam Premium.
That's not Pastor Mark, that's a TH-cam thing.
@@jodismith665 I’ve never uploaded any videos. I thought you could choose to monetize your channel or not.
@BiblicalTruthforToday yeah...I don't think the content creators have a choice. TH-cam puts out the commercials and the viewers decide if they want to see the commercials or not by buying TH-cam Premium monthly.
I’m a 1 Tim 5:5 widow because my late husband and I fled evil. The former MIL tried to start control by shunning us… when that didn’t work she eventually offered him $1k “for his love”. We don’t know if that meant for sex (as she complained her husband couldn’t perform for years) or for his loyalty for her over me. Either way, we moved cross-country and never spoke to them again. When he died his mother never said a word. There is so much more to the story, and maybe one day I’ll write a book. Just know, Jesus has been faithful to our faithfulness - and now mine - to Him over anyone else. God’s will be done!
What about the single people who are stuck in their own family?
Is the truck giveaway still going on? 😅
Don’t say you will die before your children. My son died a few years ago.
How can i do it and inherit the house?
I ran away at 14 never looked back FAMILY IS A CURSE im so happy without PARASITES and SNAKES i probably would have been in prison for muder if i didn't run away from that CRAP.
Understandable. The largest cause of parental unaliving is ABUSE.
The media hides this
I agree
Things don’t even need to be that blatant. The demonic parental spirits of control under the guise of ‘nice’ amputates the family spirit in the same way as aggressiveness, The result is total disaster. Like going forward in life with a disability. Whoever wrote Hansel and Gretle knew this. Devouring mother syndrome.
Correct. I walked away from my entire family for this.’ Reason.
My mother had been secretly grooming me to be a son husband. While abusing nd tormenting me to instill fear. My father didn’t really see me as a man either. (I don’t look like any of them and have a strange look.
She made me the scapegoat and had been running a smear campaign for years behind my back that I was mentally incompetent.
The icky stuff started progressing and I just snapped. When I started to pull back they claimed I was going insane. It left me no choice. Just me and God.
Please tell me you don't do the enneagram. That's numerology, an Occult practice. 😳
If you notice your extended family being manipulative, you have to address it with your spouse. Anything that is not healthy for your life together and happiness limit your interaction or cut it off completely. All you men or young men out there avoid years of headaches, frustration, and heartache obtain biblical Knowledge and seek those who can give you biblical wisdom in these situations.
THE PROBLEM is...
PASTORS dont know who "the children of the devil". are.
Most don't even know the scripture that tells how to know.
Instead, they call them merely (tares) at worst.... saying "let the wheat grow with the tares" 42:22
Ah that grandpa....is my husband 😂....we are the ones with the conspiracy theory and government drama and my brother-in-law and fam is Catholic so there is always a grenade there
Who are my brothers and mothers? But those who are in Christ. Those are my family. As it's written if you love father or mother more then me you are NOT worthy of me. The truth is parents or inlaws are the 3rd voice in marriage. The same way the serpent was the 3rd voice with Adam and eve. That 3rd voice destroyed that marriage an it will do the same today
This message is for anyone looking for a quick fix! It’s way more complicated than that! 😮
Did Pastor Mark says that? No. You gotta start somewhere, and he did just that. How many times did he mention therapy? Multiple times.
Is it bad not to have 1 bank account?
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I really enjoy the sermons and I really don't like the self-conscious, not really funny teasing, kinda "put down each other" intro couple. Can't the guy just introduce the content coming, introduce the girl, and not put anyone down?
My family is toxic
Genesis 2:22
I dont watch any thinglike that i don't have a TV. 1:03 😊
I can late to that
Reading in this comment section, this sermon certainly brought out all the negativity of people living in their family units. Not so sure this was a good sermon or not. People here are really negative on their family experiences. Why not focus on the positive of their family experiences here?
Not all of us have positive family experiences. I’m sorry. I wish I could say different. We can sympathize with the neighbor of a ped o file putting up a privacy fence, but not the broken, sexually abused child that grows up thinking they have to be a happy family, continuously suffering in silence. They can’t talk about it locally, even as adults, due to the stigma that stays with them.
There really are people out there suffering. Don’t they deserve guidance too. Life doesn’t always have a positive in family areas. That’s the reality of today’s nasty world. Trust me, we would give almost anything to change that.
@@megbertch138 wow - didn’t mean to bring MORE rain on your parade. Where is the JOY in Christ?
Because this a sermon about MD personal family experience and the way he treats people. Beware the truth sprinkled with lies.
Is it possible that you are a "harmony-person" more than a "truth-person"?
Is harmony more important to you than truth?
To clean up, you first of all have to look at the dirt, name it and find the right tool to cope with it, be it a broom, a sponge or a lawn mower!
We all want to have holy, joyful, heartwarming honest relationships.
So that's why, if there is dirt, you first of all have to clean up. And you need to find out what exactly the problem is, and how to "name" it, so that you can find the appropriate tool to deal with it!
There is no short cut.
There is no "restoration" without first getting honest, naming the problems, searching for solutions and getting in the new habit of doing it the new way.
That IS restoration.
There is no short cut to harmony.
We need to do the work.
Maybe you should stop reading comments that lead you to a leave a negative comment and listen to pastors message.