my crush is an enfj and im an infj and we are literally the same exact person except he's more extroverted and always encourages me to talk more and be less shy, and we can sense what eachother is feeling at the moment i dont think anyone has ever put so much effort for me, enfjs and infjs def have chemistry together.. like theyd just be the perfect parents
Hm..I have an ENFJ at work. I can appreciate her for what she's doing and how she talks with everyone and I can learn from her some things about how to take care of people but at the same time I find her a bit noisy, too into other's business, superficial opinions and likes people to need her (likes people who need to be saved). Two faces of the same coin.
Interesting. I think INFJs get criticized for acting like others need to be saved sometimes too. But it's actually quite different since as INFJs can be surprisingly insighful, they can deduce what you would need to make your life better for yourself and since they observe you, they already get that would be something you would enjoy based on who you are and what you consistently complain about. it's more like feeling a moral obligation to at least tell you they can help you, but they won't force you if you don't want. Actually they can feel pretty guilty during their life for not saying anything while they could have helped others in so many occasions. And some will even congratulate them for not being pushy while they don't realize the INFJ feels incredibly guilty for not having helped them when they could, and people could be pissed of if they knew about this. So this sort of double standard can be insanely hard to deal with cause you just don't know what to do.
Indeed, there is a complex and very existential dynamic that exists because of Ni that directly influences how Fe is used. But this can also apply to ENFJs even if perhaps not as frequently. Main thing I wanted to say is don't be too hard on ENFJs really. Over the years, I came to realize that, even if we tell ourselves we are the ones in the best position to decide what we want for ourselves, sometimes that's not true. We might end up in a very particular state of mind that blinds us. Depression and grief are good examples. That's what is complicated to deal with when it comes to the Ni function. You might know better than people themselves sometimes simply because you can read their patterns they can't see themselves from the outside. You know like when a woman continuously falls into bad relationships and doesn't get why for example and will need a therapist to understand (maybe too late). When you combine this tricky aspect of Ni with Fe that spreads love and harmony, you can't ask an ENFJ or even an INFJ to look at you slowly destroy your life every day and do nothing. You don't ask a firefighter, a policeman or a doctor permission to save you. Same thing. Since they're empaths, others' emotional state directly impacts their own. What hurts you hurts them. That's just how they're wired because they're externally emotional. So that's why ENFJs and even INFJs they will be pushy sometimes. But please forgive them, as they have their reasons to be and everything they do, they always do it for you. Even if you reject them, do it nicely because they just want to make people's life better. The way they feel is comparable to parents in the end (doesn't mean they take others for kids of course). Sometimes you know your kids take bad decisions for themselves and take a dark path, but you still love them, even when you don't have many things in common despite all the hardships and try to guide them in the right path for them. That's the same with Fe users. They're connected to every human being because they profoundly love them and are wired this way. And you could never change that. Of course ENFJs like people who need to be saved and there is nothing wrong with that since they love to help others if they can do anything in their power to do so. Also think twice about the fact ENFJs and other Fe users are probably the only types who will listen to other's business when they need to share when nobody else will care. Then you'll find very handy to have someone to vent and who will genuinely care about what you have to say. ENFJs can have superficial opinions sometimes yes, but you know what? They're usually spot on anyway because their social awareness allows them to see that society is very superficial. So sometimes you should consider their superficial opinions because it will help you to fit better in society. Keep in mind that superficial opinions they share with you might not even be their personal opinion but more social advices that take how much society values certain things into account. Next time maybe ask them if these superficial opinions are what the ENFJ personally subscribes to. You might be surprised to discover they personally have a very different opinion on this if this ENFJ is mature enough to have their Ti awakened. But they acknowledge how society factually is at large no matter what they think because does it matter anyway?
my crush is an enfj and im an infj and we are literally the same exact person except he's more extroverted and always encourages me to talk more and be less shy, and we can sense what eachother is feeling at the moment i dont think anyone has ever put so much effort for me, enfjs and infjs def have chemistry together.. like theyd just be the perfect parents
Asi es casualmente acabe de conocer un chico y el es ENFJ y yo soy INFJ
Another interesting one to compare would be the ESTJ and the INFJ.
Ah yes… that’s an interesting one 😅
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I would love to see you compare the INFJ and the ESFJ. Pretty please. 😁
Hmmmm 🤔 we could make that for you.
Man l need more haha😂❤
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Could you analyse the compatibility between Infp and enfj / esfj please?
Aye. That we can. 😊
@personalityguy anything specific good or not so good to add for context plz? - romantic, working relationships, etc.
I am an ENFJ with E at 56%only.. in other tests i got ambivert as a result 😅
You may find value in chatting with someone who can look at you / observe you in both public and private circles. This removes the percentage bias. :)
Hm..I have an ENFJ at work.
I can appreciate her for what she's doing and how she talks with everyone and I can learn from her some things about how to take care of people but at the same time I find her a bit noisy, too into other's business, superficial opinions and likes people to need her (likes people who need to be saved).
Two faces of the same coin.
Interesting. I think INFJs get criticized for acting like others need to be saved sometimes too. But it's actually quite different since as INFJs can be surprisingly insighful, they can deduce what you would need to make your life better for yourself and since they observe you, they already get that would be something you would enjoy based on who you are and what you consistently complain about. it's more like feeling a moral obligation to at least tell you they can help you, but they won't force you if you don't want. Actually they can feel pretty guilty during their life for not saying anything while they could have helped others in so many occasions. And some will even congratulate them for not being pushy while they don't realize the INFJ feels incredibly guilty for not having helped them when they could, and people could be pissed of if they knew about this. So this sort of double standard can be insanely hard to deal with cause you just don't know what to do.
I hear you. Which MBTI are you then? and yes, they certainly can be quite boisterous wherever they find themselves for sure.
aye. indeed. well said! very in depth thank you! Ni to Fe plays a big part in that for INFJ.
Indeed, there is a complex and very existential dynamic that exists because of Ni that directly influences how Fe is used. But this can also apply to ENFJs even if perhaps not as frequently. Main thing I wanted to say is don't be too hard on ENFJs really. Over the years, I came to realize that, even if we tell ourselves we are the ones in the best position to decide what we want for ourselves, sometimes that's not true. We might end up in a very particular state of mind that blinds us. Depression and grief are good examples. That's what is complicated to deal with when it comes to the Ni function. You might know better than people themselves sometimes simply because you can read their patterns they can't see themselves from the outside. You know like when a woman continuously falls into bad relationships and doesn't get why for example and will need a therapist to understand (maybe too late).
When you combine this tricky aspect of Ni with Fe that spreads love and harmony, you can't ask an ENFJ or even an INFJ to look at you slowly destroy your life every day and do nothing. You don't ask a firefighter, a policeman or a doctor permission to save you. Same thing. Since they're empaths, others' emotional state directly impacts their own. What hurts you hurts them. That's just how they're wired because they're externally emotional.
So that's why ENFJs and even INFJs they will be pushy sometimes. But please forgive them, as they have their reasons to be and everything they do, they always do it for you. Even if you reject them, do it nicely because they just want to make people's life better. The way they feel is comparable to parents in the end (doesn't mean they take others for kids of course). Sometimes you know your kids take bad decisions for themselves and take a dark path, but you still love them, even when you don't have many things in common despite all the hardships and try to guide them in the right path for them. That's the same with Fe users. They're connected to every human being because they profoundly love them and are wired this way. And you could never change that.
Of course ENFJs like people who need to be saved and there is nothing wrong with that since they love to help others if they can do anything in their power to do so.
Also think twice about the fact ENFJs and other Fe users are probably the only types who will listen to other's business when they need to share when nobody else will care. Then you'll find very handy to have someone to vent and who will genuinely care about what you have to say.
ENFJs can have superficial opinions sometimes yes, but you know what? They're usually spot on anyway because their social awareness allows them to see that society is very superficial. So sometimes you should consider their superficial opinions because it will help you to fit better in society. Keep in mind that superficial opinions they share with you might not even be their personal opinion but more social advices that take how much society values certain things into account.
Next time maybe ask them if these superficial opinions are what the ENFJ personally subscribes to. You might be surprised to discover they personally have a very different opinion on this if this ENFJ is mature enough to have their Ti awakened. But they acknowledge how society factually is at large no matter what they think because does it matter anyway?