How Pornography Distorts Intimate Relationships - Bret Weinstein
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- In this video we examine the impact of pornography on romance, intimacy and social development. There has been a sharp decline in relationship satisfaction and partnerships in general. Many young people are opting out all together. This is due to many factors, but a primary cause is the exposure to graphic, hyper-stimulating, taboo material found on the internet.
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I enjoyed this format very much. However , all of your stuff is very good. 👍🏼 Thanks!!!
If you want to see where the problem lies look no further than the dudes attacking me bc I have an opinion on your video. 😘
What is the painting at 2:42 ?
I enjoyed the blend of your animation and the podcast recording. The animations seemed faster. Keep it up!
I think it was a good mix between animations and the real podcast! Awesome work and keep it up 🙏
The problem is “it” is basically a drug and that when you start viewing it’s so hard to quit even when you know it’s bad. 2024 is the year I’m going to try and stop, and abstain from it. We can do this boys
It's even harder when you've been doing it since you were 12. Luckily I have a decent amount of time "sober" from porn that I've lost count of the days.
Just demeaning women.
I agree its like a drug but its NOT a matter of "just say no". Just look how well that "worked" regarding drugs. Sure, you can always personally do that but, there is no avoiding its consequences entirely for most ppl most of the time. We'll do anything but just admit to our own damn selves that despite ANY & ALL laws, the "illegal" drug trade IS a significant proportion of the global economy & therefore isn't going anywhere, EVER. The same is true here. The ONLY optimal solution in ALL such cases is acceptance that it exists, & maximizing EDU about it & help resources & such. Like Bret, I am surprised that this conversation hasn't already begun, far & wide that is. The old "Us Vs. Them" distraction is still working like a champ.
@@realcygnus it Can go away. Who is it Good for? No one.
@@slasheztech5390 sad
The most dangerous part of what's going on is that we're not talking about it. Discussions like this one are helpful. Thank you for covering this issue.
The other issue is if you do try to talk about it, you’re a prude, sexist, a member of the patriarchy, etc.. People have been pushing for sexual liberation and acceptance and look where it’s getting us… a large spike in children consuming porn.
It’s really eroding the concept of healthy relationships and has also facilitated the rise of hookup culture. Few people even seem to know what a healthy relationship looks like anymore.
Most critiques of porn are the Christian "SEX IS OF THE DEVIL" pseudo-moralistic posturing. We need to understand that what's at fault here isn't the sexy part; it's that it's commodified. Blames social alienation, capitalist hyperindividualism, or the continued collapse of the inadequate "traditional" social order, it's a problem we don't have a solution to.
No the most dangerous part is men will be 100% of the blame placed on them
Porn is popular, I've heard it is estimated 20%-70% of the internet bandwidth worldwide is porn consumption. So regardless of the atheticism-based opinions in this thread, a large percentage of the population worldwide consumes porn material regularly.
@@DanCook75044 that's huge variance. But yea ppl are hungry they will eat McDonalds if it's all they can afford.
My relationship was ruined because of porn. I hate when other people talk about porn like its harmless when it has ruined so many relationships and lives.
yup, porn is satanic
@@tata570
Porn corrupts the soul.
@@obscurum6 i'm happy you stopped dating that guy, saved yourself a lot of tears
@@simoly7893
I didn't comment about dating. 🙄
I think you've replied to the wrong person.
Anyone who says porn is harmless fun has never lived under the same roof with a porn addict.
I work in a high school with students who are at risk of dropping out, and I’ve definitely noticed a lot of these cultural shifts that have happened in how people are relating to one another, and even themselves. A couple of weeks ago a student was preparing for finals. She became frustrated and was like “whatever, I’m just going to become a stripper.” I mean no disrespect to people in that profession, but I’m worried that young women feel that is where all of their worth lies. I’m nearly 10 years older than most of the students I work with, and I was definitely taught to be well rounded and apply myself in school, sports, and other activities. But a lot of the teenagers I work with are getting the message that those things don’t matter. With so much emphasis being on social media and one of the top careers young people aspire towards being an influencer, a lot of them are getting the message that what matters most is how they look and what their online presence reflects. I see all of the students as multifaceted individuals who are capable of more than selling products- or themselves- online. More messages like the ones reflected in this video need to be online to reinforce that. So, thank you for this content! And to all of the gen z people who might see this post, I want you to know that you are so much more than your appearance , and you deserve love and genuine human connection.
I heard a story recently about a woman, who had been in an 7 year relationship, and got out with a deep fear of men. Why? Because she admitted she felt "used like a wh0re". I take this to be an extreme case for a general principle in the modern world; use each other people for your own benefit. We need to take a new direction.
I mean if you see how much money women do with things like onlyfans or similar plattforms, i really can understand why young people think that way.
You just need to be good looking or beeing good at doing make up to earn tons of money. And the best thing: you dont need any qualification. You can be as unintelligent as something, but it will still be easy money without much effort.
@@alexanderjanke1538 Exactly - FAR more money than a man working hard after years of gaining qualifications could get. So why wouldn't she.
@@hunchanchoc8418 Because you sells her "worth"? Women fight for equality and against getting sexualized and then there are these women that just give a sh!t about that and objectify themselfs better then any men could do. All those thirst traps and more.
I think you get me wrong. I dont support onlyfans women.
I dont know which one i "hate" more. The women doing onlyfans, or the hard working men spending their money on them for some worthless photos
I see your point but that was a thing when I was in highschool, 10 years ago. Life is too easy and people lost the point. Shame would fix it, but people over here tend to go overboard with that stuff. Like sex has nothing to do with sex. Who knew? Lots of people! They just don't talk about it, and for good reason. Sex is the kind of thing you can teach yourself. But you need to take a detached view on it. Like get away from it. People really suck. I don't blame them. There's something different about the world, and it has to do with our gut.
Let's talk about how fantasy in general distorts intimate relationships. Sit coms, soap operas, rom coms. People model their relationships subconsciously as if they are in a TV show or movie.
Agreed.
I agree with you there. I've found so many people expect real sex and real relationships to be just like they see in movies or "other media". That's not how it is at all in real life.
very good point that has been on my mind a lot lately. Everything from Hallmark shows to all the series that are now on Netflix like Yellowstone or whatever. These are definitely life sucking fantasy lands that people don't seem to be be aware of at all.
This is deflection.
Disney has so much to answer for.
On top of relationship dismorphia but also anthropomorphism.
i’m a woman and i discovered porn by accident when i was 8 years old. it ruined a lot of my childhood for me. completely changed who i am and my sense of self. i attribute a lot of my mental health issues to my early porn addiction.
Girl same 😭
I understand, I became addicted & it ruined my life. Porn is a terrible thing.
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You aren’t alone thank you for speaking up
It’s been studied that being exposed to porn at a very early age has the same effect on your brain as being molested
As a 20 year old guy, I grew up as the guinea pig for social media apps. The last few years I have constantly wished that I never joined these apps and think about what life would be like without them. Crazy thing also is that I’m certain 90% of people between the ages of 25-18 wish the same thing as well. This video is the turning point for me, and just motivated to delete every social media page from my phone. Thank you guys for spreading positivity and hope for the world.
Way to go dude! I did the same thing a few weeks ago and I haven't missed them a bit! I highly recommend telling friends about it and trying to get other people on board. It's been very helpful to me at least. Great choice! I hope you enjoy all your new free time
Very clever! All the best to you 😊
good on you bro. Im about to turn 24 and feel the same way--grown a healthy distain for media and tech companies that use people as products.
Delete it all. I did it years ago man. Only have Facebook to connect to jobs and make money. Nothing else
I deleted my instagram and just completely got off of it for about 3-4 months now. It's been pretty great. The ppl who care about me and know me have my info, and they will reach out, and they do. And I reach out to them as well.
never did the porn things, tho, felt weird watching two ppl get it on like a peeping tom, and watching someone else get railed does nothing for me
People are definitely waking up! Finding a community can be hard since most of society will label those who’ve made such decisions as “prudes”, so a lot of people likely keep their decision to abstain to themselves.
I used to think watching porn was harmless. It's not, it's self destructive, and destructive to humanity.
Whats made to be thought of as porn continues human slavery.
Should humans be making more humans to enslave (when theyre not forced to as is required)?
Do you/others act…like they want to continue [current society]?
Me too
for most of my life (im 32) i also thought it was harmless. until 2 years ago when i tried to have a romantic relationship with someone who was secretly addicted to it. although im still not sure if he realizes how addicted to it he was. finding podcasts and interviews with psychologists who study sex addiction has helped me to understand the addiction better and not be so angry at my ex . i found hundreds of forums from men and women whos partners were also addicted to sex and porn which helped me not feel so alone. the destruction of watching porn is real and scary af. i wish more people *openly* talked about it and would advocate against it
@@aminabdullah350 thats pretty insensitive to call it a 'duh' moment. It's so normalized in western society that it can be difficult to truly see the destructiveness of it
That’s why it’s one of the 10 sins from ze bible and one of the devils who’s responsible for lust
Been saying it for years. Needs to be a movement to do away with social media period. We clearly can’t handle it and it is destroying us. We don’t connect anymore or strive for deep relationships. There’s no romance. It’s all on the surface. I was born in the 80’s and was a teenager in the 90’s. I remember when people connected. I remember finding love and the excitement of that connection. Now it’s such a foreign thing. I don’t feel or see it anywhere. One of the main driving factors is social media and yes the easily ready porn everywhere. Everything is hyper sexualized. And I mean everything. There needs to be a movement of disconnection from our phones. Do your part. Spread the word. Limit your time online and for Peet’s sake delete the social media apps. You don’t need any of them. You never did. Let’s get back to being human.
cos western women are 304s
And how are we going to spread the word, if we are offline while everyone else is stuck on their phones? I mean if there is already a movement, most of us won't know about it and it will not be covered by mainstream media.
Agreed
@@ChrissieL The original way. Word of mouth. Don't neglect your immediate 100. That's the people you interact with day to day. Family, coworkers, people at the grocery store. I never said do away with the internet either. Gaming buddies. Etc etc. Set the example. Be the small pebble dropped in the calm placid water and watch the ripple.
@@joshuatheargonaut4412100%!
I wish more people were having this conversation. It's so important and overdue.
Phenomenal! Ive been an animator myself professionally for 24 years and i keep thinking about making content like this that might impact peoples lives in a positive way but i just work too much lol. Keep up the good work!
I’m currently with a man who actually doesn’t watch porn and the difference between him and all my exes is STAGGERING. No guy I’ve ever been with compares to him as a romantic and sexual partner. I forgot what it felt like to be deeply desired until I met him. I also forgot that sex is meant to bond couples or for procreation… not a mechanistic way to just get off. I wish my younger self knew that men like him exist, so I wouldn’t have wasted time on men who claimed that porn was “normal”
Thank you so much for sharing this! It compares to my own experience as a male person very well.
When I used to watch porn (I would call myself addicted back then) sex with a woman would just feel like I was jerking off with another person. It felt like a means to an end - the purpose was the finish, the high.
Since I stopped watching porn and since I am with my girlfriend I really experience 'divine' sex. It feels so healthy, so mindful, so full of love & compassion.
I never want to go back to how it was before! ☺️
Nice and god bless 😊
Men that don’t watch porn are a GODSEND
I wish... I reject every man who watch porn and I'm single (I'm 22). I'm afraid I'm gonna be forever alone 😢.
You gave me hope ❤.
@@xdlol59 you will be alone. Porn is normal. It’s about moderation. Y’all are just weirdos who need something to be upset about.
We have normalized the profane, aggrandized the physical form, made narcissism the norm. What was once taboo is now mundane. What was once unthinkably violent and shocking is now readily consumable and accepted. The proverbial genie is out of the bottle; good luck getting it back in.
@@aminabdullah350 From my experiences growing up in a Roman Catholic practicing household it has been quite the opposite. The shame and guilt that was forced into my head regarding sex,, the shame that I still feel till this day anytime I even become aroused has made me develop a "fuck-it" mentality as to where now when I feel ashamed I act in the opposite direction,, attempting to bury those feelings deep enough that no one, not even myself will see. I have exploited myself on the internet and then regretting it all later after having a flash back to sexual assault from childhood. This is a much more complex issue as a world at large and especially for Gen z. This can't be solved within one year, 10 years, maybe even 100 but it all needs to start now or we will manifest a living hell onto earth.
@eb-pe8xg. "We have normalized the profane." Well said. I will have to borrow this one from you.
It is sincerely a profound way of putting it, nevertheless abundance on anything should not make you accept the deception and lies of your own self, it is and will be always in your conscious choice to pick the right act.
Excellent use of vocabulary, your comment read like poetry.
I agree, but the key is in whether you choose to acknowledge the genie or not.
I'm not disagreeing with anything said specifically in this section of podcast, HOWEVER - I think it is also important to point out that human beings have for the VAST majority of their time on this planet, lived in much smaller pools of people. We weren't competing with so many people at ALL TIMES, which is the situation people find themselves in more and more. It's said that a riot is the language of the unheard, and I think in a similar vein, people in subconsciously feeling defeated and overwhelmed. No matter how hard they try it's not good enough. There's always someone "better" on Tinder or Onlyfans. People will spend their time, money and attention trying to get the best at all times, which leaves many people without mates or matches. Others have mentioned fantasy (movies, etc) being part of the issue as well, and they are right. We constantly raise the bar to this unattainable level, but that's what everyone is conditioned to think is normal. Yes, porn doesn't help, but I think it's the natural end result of people trying their hardest and not getting anywhere, so that's what the can turn to. Many people have staggeringly unrealistic expectations.
Tried to have meaningful real life relationships. None ended well because all of them had better options, no matter how I tried. And 75% of people I know are divorced and broke.
F*ck it. I gave up. Now I am happy with my money, peace of mind, and freedom.
You don't sound like a person who tries very hard, though. I can see the origins of the problem. ;-)
@@lepidoptera9337 Typical prejudiced ignorant, doesn't know anything about me and still making judgments. Would you say the same to someone who has a disability? That's so nice of you. Go continue living your privileged and meaningless life.
Why aren't you a celebrity? Why aren't you a millionaire? Why don't you have seven wives or husbands? Why haven't you cured cancer? You don't sound like a person who tries very hard either.
Don't bother replying, I have already muted you.
@@donbasuradenuevo I can only judge you by the nonsense you wrote. If you want to appear like a serious human being, please write like one. I am always happy to give second, third and forth chances.
With regards to "me trying hard"... I am a physics PhD and happen to be the designer of one of the core components of one of the world's largest high energy physics detectors. There must be hundreds of times more celebrities, rich people and even oncologists in the world than people like me. So, yeah, at least in terms of rarity I actually do take the cake, even if it's not a very rich one. Physicists don't get paid much. :-)
Not sure what you are trying to achieve with that rant anyway. It doesn't matter to your situation who and what I am. The only thing that matters to you is how you behave. That's what people respond to. I can sense that you are bitter. Bitter doesn't sell. I do know how that feels. I was a bitter young man myself once, but then I decided to change and I did. The nicer I got, the better people were treating me. My life changed because I was making an effort to be liked. Will it get you fame, fortune and seven beautiful wives? No, of course not. But it might get you just enough to look back and not hate all of it.
@@lepidoptera9337he is absolutely fine, he did not write anything nonsense you did
If anyone is trying to quit pornography the best advice I ever received was to KEEP TRYING! You will try and fail but keep trying and eventually you will succeed! Never give up! It will change your life!
Saying you will fail just sounds like you are setting yourself up to fail. Have higher standards for yourself.
@@anti-consumerism6178 saying you will fail is just being real. You can live in your fantasy land of being successful on the first try with whatever you do, when you're ready come back down to the real world where trying and failing is part of life.
No it won't. You'll quit when you change your life. It's not the porn causing your life to suck. It's your life sucking that causes you to love porn
At some point it simply gets too late.
@@poiuyt975nothing is ever late unless you say it is
There definitely is a movement to get away from porn and other bad habits in gen z, it’s just not considered “normal” by any stretch. I think most gen z people can see and feel themselves how damaging this stuff is. Just look up no fap and there’s countless stories of how it’s changed a lot of guys lives for the better.
yeah im gen z and we know these things tbh
Your generation is responsible for much better conditions in the workforce as well, the work-life balance imperative and putting family first. You are even trying to reduce the time spent in the digital world. Us millennials started healthy living fad and may have started opting out of bad working conditions, but Zoomers are the ones who really took it to heart and made it better for all of us. I believe your generation will do a lot of good, don't listen to old people telling you you are worthless. You are not.
@@TheLordSheogorath What a kind & loving comment - thank you so much! ☺️
This makes me hopeful for the future…
@@TheLordSheogorathdon't forget though that millenials could not afford to be picky and cocky like gen z can nowadays due to worker shortage. A lot of us millennials entered the labour market after the 2008 financial crisis and even with advanced degrees it was extremely hard to find a half decent job, so whatever we got we had to take and hold onto it whatever unreasonable demands employers forced on us, otherwise we would have starved. Currently, workforce is so scarce that everyone with a pulse gets accepted. I see things happen on a regular at my job for which me and my older colleagues would have been fired for the tenth of that offense on the spot. Employers are desperate now to hold onto bodies, so employees can get away with demanding fair wage, work-life balance and boundaries etc. That would have been (mostly) unthinkable even 5 yrs ago. Millennials just did not have the luxury to demand those things. But this is just my experience and observation.
Bret is such an incredible communicator and teacher. He is able to bring perspective to things which most people would never even consider. Thank you for sharing this--I'd love to see similar animations in this digestible format.
Holy crap your illustrations are so good! They are so consistent in quality I was fooled into thinking they were generated by some kind of template somehow. Kudos!
100% I agree with the fact about pornography. Once you seen it, you can't unseen it. Now we have 3 whole generations who have grown up with pornography and the damage it has done to male - female relationships, dating, marriage are catastrophic. AI & sex robots will completely destroy the very fabric of human relationships all together.
We had the same arguement about watching violent movies and video games. Makes people more violent.. Maybe it does for some weak minded easily influemceced people. But for the majority I'm not so convinced.
Reminds me the old movie footloose. Listening to Rock Music will make the young become sex maniacs.
@@johnnyjones5385Yea people are more violent dude.
Every movie show and ad is sexualized. We saw it as kids and teens and that heavily lead to porn.
Don't sit on your high horse because porn has a grasp on you.
If you can't go without it for months and not think about it you have a problem. It's a coping mechanism that turns people into goddamn robots.
@johnnyjones5385 porn and video games aren't comparable. Modern porn is extremely destructive this isnt a boy finding a dirty picture magazine. it's videos that introduce you to things that are extremely taboo. Video games just waste time.
Society is more than romantic couples.
There’s nothing wrong with porn and there’s nothing wrong with sex. People gotta chill Tf out and learn how to put down the phones in public and talk to each other. Guys you gotta learn how to talk to women.
I've been following you for years now. You've been part of my healing journey and I will always be grateful for that.
Glad to be of service 🙏💚
@@AfterSkoolbro really love ur video it really changed my life pls do keep it up
Btw what is the song at intro where c I find such tunes
healing journey loool wtf
This is gold. The part from 11:55 to 12:25, where Bret Weinstein talks about sex having been lost as the driving force behind humanity and men accomplishing great things as it did in the past, is a very underrated point.
I thought it was an idealized view of lust that didn't do objective justice to the discussion. There is a reason lust has been deemed a deadly sin for thousands of years.
@igorgeller5601 you are kinda right. It's a romanticized take on lust. But if that lust drives one to achieve great things, then it's not such a bad sin to commit.
Mark I just want to say your animations are freakin bad ass. Love the channel and the speakers you bring. I recommend this channel all the time. Good work bro 👏
Your illustrations in this video are incredibly powerful. What scares me most is that people often choose to not believe what’s readily apparent. That people subconsciously know these things to be true but regardless continue to live hedonistic lives. It feels as if they were fated to be slaves never knowing how easily they’re influenced by corrupt societal values.
Truth is too scary for people nowadays
Ostrich mentality
Because the experts keep telling them "sex and porn are healthy". Which, sex is. The other, not so much, but ppl really conflate the two as one and the same. Especially people who started consuming porn way before they ever had sex.
i'm over in europe, and heard from time to time signs about it in the news..
also a movement that wants to make an alternative offer of 'womanfriendly porn'
but i don't like that term that much.. should it be : non-extreme, more realistisch , somewhat romantic with a bit a of crediable storyline porn? :)
mmm, that's a bit to long i gues :D ,
and soft-porn would probably be considered to 'soft' as a term?
But there is extra focus on sexual education in high school now, to give some small counter weigth to weird things teens often have seen of hard weird fetish porn on the internet!
none of that counter effort in the states?
it's all a bit small, mostly test case, but at least some counter movement does exist :).
As a no porn gen Z, i can tell you there are people like me who don't watch porn. We usually supplement it with erotic writing or art, the space online for that kind of thing is actually massive
Are you male or female?
Yep. I only use toys, but I refuse to watch any porn
there are dozens of us!
Ok but y’all are still weirdos who don’t have any real life experience. Y’all basically tina from bobs burgers.
Stopped watching after realizing it’s my downfall in life.
Fantastic upload. Excellent artwork to further emphasise the point of the talk. Great work.
Halfway through the video and i subscribed instantly... congratulations for the quality you are puting out in your videos...
We are seeing some of this in Japan, especially in young men, who spend their days in fantasy, never connecting with the young Japanese ladies who can't compete with their busty Anime/Manga/Henti rivals. This subject seems similar to a story you told some time back about a young warrior distracted by an evil spirit that could show him anything he desired. Eventually, he was weakened to the point where he could not fulfill his destiny and save his people. I think the same thing is happening, and has happened to our young, seduced by the show, and sucked dry for profit, and forgetting how to actually connect.
Oh shit! 👍🏻🤘🏻
Loved that video of the warrior! Thank you for the reminder of that great one!
Most of the men I've spoken to in Japan say that they simply can't make enough to impress women, and those that do have no time.
Pornography isn't a cause, it's a symptom.
@@VultureXV that might be a cause as well, it's hard to tell. That said, I think in general Japanese society is in trouble, declining birth rate, ironbound traditions in the corporate environment, it just spells doom.
There was actually an anime that touched upon this subject and critiqued this.
As a child who found porn young and got addicted pretty much my whole life 39 years old now I now see the damage its done. I have always been disconnected in my relationships. I have been off porn for 8 months and have seen some positive changes but neural plasticity does degrade as you get older. I really hope you younger guys an girls listen to this video and take heed. Dont make the same mistakes we made. Learn from the past to change your future.
Keep fighting the good fight. All the best to you.
You're on a offenders lists are u 😅
Go see a psychiatrist, it started with your parents
For enensis
Its weird how normalized porn has become in society, rampant sexual innuendos, memes where the punchline is a porn term or hentai clip, OF seen as liberating for women.
Even a lot of popular music lyrics are just straight up erotic novels, and its played on the radio with no issues at all.
I honestly think sex and eroticism should be taboo once more
People need to be reeducated on sex in general. Previous generations knew to keep it between a married man and woman, and treat it with the utmost respect. And while porn has always lurked in the background of human society, it's influence and presence today could be argued as being unrivaled because of technology and other social factors. Sex is beautiful, wholesome, and offers an intimate level of connection to another person as nothing else does, when treated with the moral decency and respect it demands. The problem lies in chasing only after the high it offers, while ignoring or rejecting those other aspects. It is something that cannot function properly apart from that. If all you did was eat candy for every meal, your body would deteriorate from lack of treating it with proper care and diligence. The same thing happens both physically and mentally when it comes to porn, and it's effects on a person. To the individual, it's dangerous. To collective society, it's utterly devastating.
The artwork in this particular episode disturbed me quite a lot. Well done!
Mission accomplished lol
i ruined mine because of this reason. I couldn’t communicate properly, didn’t show her how much i did love her, and how desensitized i was from common troubles. Even looking elsewhere for pleasure while making my partner feel like she wasn’t enough. I regret what i let it do to me for so many years. I’m working everyday to try to get her back and rebuild, but it seems like it’ll be time that i’ll have to wait, so she can see that i’m totally different.
I love that you are trying! When my ex told me how much he watched p0rn daily and satisfied himself, I was shocked. I asked him to give it up and focus on creating a living breathing adventurous relationship with me, he did for awhile but then told me he resented me.
Like all choices and addictions, you have to choose this for yourself and want it not because someone wants you to want it. Congrats on you making this choice, I hope it works out for you both 😊
Great job @character2179 for taking this decision! You did the first step and that is the hardest, just have a clear idea in mind of what type of man you want to be and try to have that in mind every time you take a decision: is it taking you closer to it or further away.
Also, I donno your situation and commitments, but, whenever you have such a big change/ paradigm change, if your partner is not ready to join you in the path of healing and washing off the past, it will be very hard. So, if you are not engaged/married with kids or smth like this, you might consider breaking up as the most heart-breaking thing you could get while struggling to change is to have your partners still keeping you connected to your past mistakes.
If she doesn't want to join you on your journey, understand her. She has every right to. You can change for someone else who is waiting to be found and still keep her in high regard as the one who made you change. And when she is in trouble help her with no strings attached, it will help you as well to ease the guilt you are feeling.
@TheLordSheogorath this might be the smartest comment I've seen anywhere in this discussion so far. I'd really like to see this stand alone as a pinned comment 🫶
Thank you for acknowledging your problems. The partners of people with this addiction take on so much trauma as well. It ruins a person. Imo there is no healthy way to consume porn. It’s all part of a sickness and more people need to realize it and speak out
It's hard to find that genuine, romantic partner -- after years of online dating, and having friends that date online, we finally ditched the apps (we tried many) and have yet to meet anyone in person. Online, I'd be ghosted, or absolutely no guy I dated wanted to commit to anything that's more than casual. Even the profiles I saw and didn't swipe on -- "just want to see where this goes" or "just casual" were the majority. Just from my POV/opinion, commitment is seen as "taboo" "crazy" or "needy" in dating culture. I assume it's it's similar for men swiping on women. I also hope for what was stated earlier in the video -- that the next generation can change how we date.
Can't even imagine looking on line for a partner.
Actually, for what it seems most men don't even get enough matches to "swipe" on. Men make 2 thirds of the people who use these apps, and its very hard for an average guy to compete with the hot dudes on the app, as the appearance is the first thing women see and no personality is able to be shown through the couple text messages you get with someone, so everyone sticks with the former.
@@flydrop8822dating isn't natural. I think as humans were supposed to be life partners with our mates.
@crispycream6882 how on earth would you approach someone at the church?
Most men cant find swipes since there's barely any women in the app anyway, there's only 10% of women in app and from that 10%, 70% are bots and onlyfans account.
For women who want relationship and not just a quick fck, it also won't work because men only swipe on pretty girls who want a quick fck, which are the bots and only fans account.
Hey Bret Weinstein. The movement you're missing has totally arisen already. It's just not so visible because we're people who don't take as much presence in the wide web as the commerce. I'd agree though that it looks like we're still a very small percentage compared to the masses who're just going along with all of the entertainment/distraction industry. Which is understandable as well. We're all addicted. And it takes a lot of awareness to notice one's own addiction and hell of a lot of strength to "opt out" as you called it. Thank you guys so much for your talk and wisdom and the beautiful art
I'm almost 2 months clean and in a healthy relationship. I started tracking my porn use on my calendar (just writing "xp" for "no porn" in the bottom corner each day) and it's motivating to write it on there every day for my significant other to see. It becomes routine to write it and the thought of breaking it and having to explain starts to feel like a non-option.
My husband's pornography addiction has ruined our family and I don't think it's going to be something that can be salvaged. My daughter is afraid of intimate relationships because of it. Thank you for your video. I hope it helps somebody.
I hope YOU tried to help him, and shared this video with him
Gonna go out on a limb & guess the guy had the joy of living in a sexless marriage. The plan was to withhold sex and break his will. He took matters into his own hands.
@@Mr._Anderpsonthat's ridiculous. Nobody "plans" that. There are other legitimate reasons why someone might experience a lower sex drive at times, and that does not make the partner's p0rn addiction their fault. People can be held responsible for their own actions.
to assume that is vicious. I could imagine that SOME people do that unconscious though. @@Mr._Anderpson
@@Mr._Anderpson this is the most incel shit to say lmao
My sister is an "influencer" a "tiktok baddie" and one of those "street interviewers" for RapTV. She had a video go absolutely viral for interviewing a man on the beach, while wearing a bikini, borderline harassing the guy into complimenting her appearance, while he stated multiple times he had a girlfriend. She wouldnt back off and got fucking roasted in the comments. Honestly, i feel pretty bad for her. Her generation is nothing without validation from strangers on the internet, and it mustve been soul crushing. Im glad i never felt the pressure she must feel to show her body and use her sexuality for money and "leveling up" in life. Shes only 21
Sadly something like 25% of youth say they want to be influencers when they grow up
@mamandapanda185 it's really scary. I've never understood why society puts certain people, especially people who have done nothing exceptional, on a pedestal. I'm studying Buddhism at the moment, and the more I learn, and the more I see of society, especially in the US, the more I want to retreat into monastic life. I'm scared for the future.
@@mlev1111have a look at Plum Village for a retreat! I went when I was 25 and it was a lovely experience to get out of the states and just be in the presence of gentle people and nature. 🙏🏼
@mlev1111 I used to feel the same way, was a practicing Buddhist. Found Gnosticism (essentially truth seeking) and Yeshua, then my views changed. I now feel that hiding from it all may not be the answer. Perhaps we are supposed to do our best to live like the monk, but amidst society. We can be the example by which others can gauge their progress.
Thanks for sharing this story! I was in a very unhealthy relationship a few years ago. She would start lying to me about basically everything, started an onlyfans without ever talking to me about it and was soooo hungry for male validation. I'm glad the relationship is over but it's very sad how she continued her life. She's still doing this & it gets more absurd - she's trying to be as childlike as possible and to adress pedophile older men to get money & attention out of it. It is so sad & so damaging for society.
I love buddhism aswell. Glad you're here! :)
Mark your illustrations are fabulous thank you ❣️🙏🏼
I started viewing very young and thought it hadn’t really affected me. I started my first real relationship at 20 and we’re still together 4.5 years later. But every passing year of the relationship, specially after the first period of head over heels falling, I’ve become more and more aware of how messed up I am because of this. I’m slowly trying to “reprogram” my mind in a certain way, but its been tough…
Hi! Can you explain in what way it ''messed'' you up? Thanks!
@@FearlessUntamed guess we’ll just have to imagine that response
This is a great conversation, I stopped watching porn 5 months ago and have never thought about going back. Stay Safe y’all.
Keep it up! I quit a year ago and never looked back.
Do you feel better? Do you feel changes in your aspects of your life?
Just passed 3 months. Congratulations on your 5 months ; wish you well on your journey brother
Don't make your addiction other people's crime
Yes, especially after you resist the moments where you're tempted to think it doesn't impact your life much.@@gergoszabo9252
Not only porn but the endless consumption and availability of entertainment. Which I’ve noticed with my kids and especially my friends kids. I don’t allow my kids to watch TH-cam at all or consume tv as much as possible. But I’ve been paying attention to my friends kids all ages 1-7 or so years old. But I hung out with my son and his best friend, both 5, and the friend has his own iPhone, iPad, switch etc and allowed to watch TH-cam and all that pretty much whenever. That kid is so demanding and has a horrible attention span. I think it’s that instant gratification mindset
True. Also onlyfans is only the tip of the iceberg, Instagram is already extremely bad in many cases.
Your observations are real and wise. Follow your instincts in Life and you will have a good chance of a more peaceful and meaningful life than others who don’t.
Yes. That abundance of entertainment is also cause for declining birth rates. Kids are no longer needed - be glad to have them!
@@Hawkeyefoxspirit I agree with you. Too often people try to convince us to ignore our instincts, but this is usually to benefit them, not us. When my radar indicates an issue, I pay more attention and sometimes can identify why the "ick" alarm went off, but even if I can't identify why, I am more on my guard.
yes, please continue to restrict their access to content. it's the true mind killer
It brought so much problems in my relationship, including my trust. Thank you for this video
This is a very good channel. Keep up the good work.
Bro I was literally about to grab myself gorilla style when this popped up. Perfect timing
Please explain what's gorilla style.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@jason4275 I don't think we want to know
There's always later bro 😊
@@jason4275
He was getting ready to go a couple rounds with the bald headed champ.
Understand now?
The animations are incredible, Mark. excellent drawing, and fits the narrative perfectly. Keep up the great work
I am 41 years old and for 25 years i have been related to pornography through the consume of drugs creating havoc in my life and my family. I am now sober from all drugs amd from the need of short gratification through pornography. Learning how to transmute this sexual energy has changed my life in all senses and using it as a extension of myself to be creative for example starting my own channel and trying to help others. Great job guys.
I’ve struggled with this for years and it really got in the way of me getting a real partner. The easiest way to understand why it should be avoided is it will never make you happy. I got back on the horse, recently met a nice girl (by pure dumb luck btw, I’m no Prince Charming) and abstaining from it has been a lot easier. I realized my personal issue causing the addiction was because deep down I was lonely and believed nobody would want me. Now that I’ve found somebody who so far, likes me for me, it’s like that issue’s being resolved piece by piece. This was a great video.
the problem is also that nearly all western women consider 80% of men as "below average" and compete for the top 20% of guys. how else are those bottom 80% of guys supposed to cope?
@@AustinKoleCarlisleBro for real. Porn is bad when it becomes an addiction. But for the average joe who is not getting any, it's a good alternative to help relieve some stress.
@@KingEgyptian thank you. this channel usually hits it out of the park, but it was a swing and a miss with this particular topic. totally didn't see the big picture at all. symptoms aren't the cause, they're the effect. the widespread porn addiction is the symptom.
@@AustinKoleCarlisle Exactly. Most men use it because its that or nothing at all. Same with AI girlfriends, and in the future, sexbots.
We use it as a way to fill a void. For most of us that void is a lack of romantic intimacy. Willpower isn’t enough for most us to give it up. We need love, but since love is so damn hard, we keep going back
I agree. Love is a need, not just sexual love either. I don’t really think of it as an addiction but rather a reaction to an adverse emotional environment. If a better option for living was available I know many more would choose it.
Chicken and the egg; what came first? The lack of romantic intimacy, or the pornography addiction? I’d argue the pornography addiction hinders the ability to find romantic love, to expect a woman to give that to you while still indulging in pornography to fill that hole is unrealistic. It’s like expecting someone to fill your cup while you’re actively poking holes in the glass. Nobody will ever be able to fill that hole, so long as you keep poking holes.
Figure out why you poke holes, patch them up, then maybe someone will actually be able to fill that cup and would want to, because it would be worth filling.
@@bugsquashed5509 The egg. The lack of intimacy is why most men TURN to porn in the first place. When I was in a relationship, I hardly, if ever, watched porn. I was satisfied. My needs were met. When my needs stopped being met, I went back.
@@jordanmatthews1466 people tend to start watching porn at a young age (before any real intimacy would have occurred). So, no, lack of intimacy is not a reason for porn addiction. Everyone goes through periods of time with lack of intimacy, but turning to pornography will only hinder any future relationship or form on REAL LIFE intimacy for you. Blaming not being in a relationship to make yourself feel better about watching porn is just an excuse. If you want a fruitful relationship in the future, you need to drop the porn NOW.
you'll never fill the void with porn. You need real, deep connections. Porn will only make things worse in the long run.
The thing I hate the most is that sex is considered dirty now. It should be a beautiful act of love between individuals.
Haha. You must be believing in pink ponyes too.
But it is dirty! I'm always in need of a shower afterwards.
Messy and dirty aren't the same thing.
@@scroletyper8286 No mather how you phrase it, the fact doesn't change.
I mean that all depends unless we're talking marriage or in that relationship that person has? 👀🤔🤔 Or Are we talking about sex as an making love to another person or porn the stuff that is very dirty for your mind & soul corrupting it from the inside out and vise versa.
Your animation is beautiful! Thank you!
I think porn is only a piece of this problem. There are those, like myself, who see porn as a mechanical ritual. We acknowledge that porn is completely unrealistic, but we consume it anyway, because we're single, so might as well -- as long as it doesn't deteriorate to the point where we cannot function daily. I personally don't consume extreme content and keep my taste as grounded as possible.
Something happened to me not very long ago that changed my perspective on this. I met a girl I was actually infatuated with. They come across quite rarely for me. The moment that happened, I lost all motivation to consume pornography. About a week after she told me she was not interested in dating, I returned to my old habits. So I can't empathize with anyone who is so addicted to porn that they find no interest in real sex.
My problem, and I imagine there are more like me out there, is that romantic relationships seem like an unintelligent risk. Most of our modern history leading up to now has taught us this lesson. Divorce rates are extremely high, and divorce is extremely punishing for the male, which I happen to be. There is the obvious risk of becoming involved with a mentally unstable person that tries to ruin your life. However, there is an even worse, more insidious risk; a relationship of complete mediocrity and dissatisfaction. The idea that I'd waste 2+ years of time with someone only to find out I'm not really interested in them any more, or perhaps because they stopped putting effort in once they felt comfortable, is quite soul-crushing. That idea has kept me trapped for my entire life.
Perhaps my romantic drive just isn't high enough. Perhaps I'm just picky. And no, most of my criteria do not involve appearance -- my friends always told me that I find women attractive that they wouldn't. But this is how my mindset approaches this problem.
Thank you for your candor! I started falling for a man I knew from old family friends. He was lively witty and fun and I thought I hit the Jack pot. We met up to discuss repairs on my dad’s house. It was so fun we decided to go for coffee. Cool! Well, we started to walk out to his truck, he opened the door and all this fast food junk fell out. He swings around suddenly and said he had to admit he likes “smut”. I was shocked speechless. I had heard of porn, but smut is super duper revolting. I reeled back and said I was not into that at all. I said it was nasty and disgusting. We mumbled hasty good byes and parted ways. There was no coffee date!! Yuk! At least he was honest, told me right off the bat. Whew!! Dodged a bullet there!
I was a porn addict for 20 years or more. I discovered porn very young unfortunately and the reason I watched it was to have some kind of connection with the opposite sex. As I got older starting dating. Every single girl I met was so damaged, had daddy issues, didn't need or want a man that porn became my way to make that special connection. When I met my wife everything changed. I realized I didn't need porn to feel loved anymore. I had someone that wanted to love me for all of me. So now I'm done with all the horrible porn and happily married. I do feel finally that connection with someone I've always wanted to feel. Just to be feel and be loved is all I was looking for. Don't give up guys. She's out there. Whether she's in the Philippines or Thailand she's out there. Don't give up.
Funny how you don’t mention about Western Women.
…hmmmm? 🤔
Some men don’t have the funds to find a wife in Asia and are stuck in the U.S.
Bro he just used that as an example to help expand your mind to the entire world and not settle. We should be proud of this man for kicking a destructive habit
Part of the allure and fantasy for us men is not just the seks act itself, but seeing vvomen treating men nicely and quite welcoming, as opposed to the aloof and even rude and hostile attitudes on the street and everyday life. Like you mention, for some guys it's the only outlet or sense of connection possible.
basically we have to outsource
Your animations are Fabulous. Well done.
My roommate watches soft porn daily and doesn’t understand why he’s not motivated. I was like ….how do you expect a drug Addict to be motivated on anything other than drugs
Or it's actually the other way round and your non-motivated roommate watches porn daily. The lack of motivation is the issue not the porn. Help your roommate find purpose in life, then they can be motivated and, if they choose, still watch as much porn as they want.
@@snooglehound1285 kind of make sense. Wonder what could interest him more than porn. He’s so hooked on it
thats a cheap skapegoat. you need to help him build hobbies instead of shaming him for enjoying a passtime thats perfectly healthy. there is nothing wrong with porn.
You should start fooling around with him. Yall could explore some shyt
it's his hormone levels.
if I am healthy I go after women even if I jacked it before heading out and I still get an erection...
porn has nothing to do with it.
it's coping for lousy health : low sunlight, bad food, lack of certain nutrients, lack of exercise, high stress levels, poor sleep, lack of deep meaningful connections/sense of community/belonging
So glad for this video I have had a huge struggle with pron it's affected how I've felt in my everyday life I will join the movement to opt out of this destructive habit whenever it forms thank u for bringing more light on this situation
@@aminabdullah350 also keep in mind nothing worth attaining is gonna be easy I have to keep fighting to overcome this awful habit
The movement has formed, it's called No Fap or Semen Retention.
@@aminabdullah350as if they are unaware...OP, you got this!! I can't remember the last time I watched porn and now have entered a stage of feeling intensely free and aware. It no longer holds any appeal! I look forward to that for you♡
Just do it and find a good woman.
When I was a child it was so much more difficult to access pornography. Now I have been shocked by videos shown to me by children of my wider family, videos they think are funny, but absolutely shock me. I like how one expert said, it is like we are all part of a very dangerous experiment. I had a very strict upbringing and I am very grateful to my mum for that.
Indeed these content farms are awful.
Seriously. On one site I found, I do not know of anyone that can download the files so easily like those sadly and with the kpbs and so on that I like, it is infested by spam images and I wrote to them (Might have been unread and fake adress who knows) but imagine when it is as horrible to adults then how horrid is it for kids if they also Just want to download some nice music videos, cartoons, mp3 files?
What did those kids, children, show? Also what did you say? Anything?
Can not learn if you do not teach them it is wrong sometimes, if they have a stupid brain, sane people instantly know something is stupid. Like for example those videos that is from people falling, I detect the sick ones being the ones who laugh and the sane ones would be like '''ouuuchh, ooh noo, aweee'' as in a more concerned way and wondering if they are alright. I do not want those kinda brainless friends around.
I never understood why some thinks certain videos are ''funny'' to them.
Something wrong in their head.
thats a lie. i am older than the internet, born in the 80s, and porn has always been two clicks away. there were no walls. people should be 18 before they look, but once you're an adult, look all you want! its perfectly fine. cumming is healthy.
Actually, as my friend Adam always says "It's completely healthy to watch porn from a young age, IF you pay attention to the cinematography more than the boobs and are self aware."
Congrats on 3 mill 🎉
I’m 27 years old and deleted all social media years ago except for TH-cam and Pinterest. I try to limit use of those occasionally. I will turn my phone off for 4-5 days at a time every once in a while just to get a clear head. I turn my phone off nearly every night before bed. I am the only person I know of that EVER turns their phone off. Does anyone else do this? It worries me how much people mindlessly scroll/ consume and it’s something we need to get a hold of because we’re screwed as a society if not.
I deleted IG and FB, spent a few yrs with an old Nokia. I move abroad to tropics and got a smart phone again. Airplane mode constantly unless using. People hate that but I tell them its not a right to be able to reach me 24/7. We used to plan. Airplane mode at night also for 9 years.
I turn my phone off regularly or put it in airplane mode. One time a coworker was telling me how strange it was to do that. All I did was smh.
I haven't turned it off for a year. Maybe I should try!
I haven't turned it off for a year. Maybe I should try!
I haven't turned it off for a year. Maybe I should try!
I was introduced to porn by other kids at age 12. Took me decades and years to fully get over watching it. Porn is more addictive than any drugs out there.
You obviously haven't tried good drugs then lol
@@Huey_Freeman357 There are no 'good drugs'. Stop propagating the quick fix.
The most dangerous things about it are the nearly limitless novelty, that it is completely normalized by society and that you always carry a free & limitless supply in your pocket.
Imagine if that was true for drugs like heroine. People would go from 1st time consumer to dead by overdose in a week.
Amen 🙏
Power is more addictive than porn
Congratulations!! Great channel!!
Thank you After Skool. You are appreciated
Not a lot of people know this, but Mark was actually speed drawing while doing the podcast with Bret. He had another camera above him pointing down. THAT is how good he is.
Nice to finally see the face of this great chanel.
That sounds so unbelievable, but is really incredible if true.
Mark ! Thanks for sharing your talents. I was a photo and illustraion major in art school in the 70s who became a chef... You inspired me to start drawing again after decades of inactivity with it. Your control of those dry erase markers is amazing ! ...and so many of the videos have great content and messages. Have a great day.
Wow! This comment warms my heart. Keep sharing your light 🙏
Just remember to never stop practicing. Good luck!
Great channel keep growing 🌸
Nice very well made. Perfect symphony!
I opened up email to make extra money at home, all of a sudden porn is all over my emails. Some of them are really gross, I’ve been trying to get rid of them for two months but more keeps popping up. I don’t want to see this, never did. Believe it or not I never liked porn, it ruins people’s lives. Thank you for this, I believe you put this up just in time
Mark, i am an artist too and i really admire your art. I really think your work is not only amazing,but inspiring as well. Thank You Mark!
P.S. plus you are saying some powerful stuff here!
Thank you!!
Its crazy how his art is always on point with the topics being discussed! 🤯🤯
Same!
@@gabrielWachong
There's an app for that.
;-)
I usually like his episodes but this one disappointed me. There were a lot of ideas in here that were misogynist, outdated, and sexist against women. Especially, where it's mentioned that women who show some skin somehow makes them less appealing to men for a relationship. That's his opinion.
And then the talk about possible human extinction due to the absence of breeding. Is this a joke? We are totally overpopulated and destroying the planet. Pausing the button and not breeding for a while would not be a bad thing at all.
So, it sounds he wants to get married to a woman that covers up her body and then wants to breed with her. That's cool. But he shouldn't put down people who don't want these things.
Love you so much and all you do started watching in 2020 and have been able to share your videos with so many people along with changing my life and perspectives thank you so much!
Videos like these help the movement happen! Thank you all for the hard work illuminating some of the worst problems of the pornography industry. A succinct example of what it does to the models and consumers.
Mate, you should show your face more often. TH-cam should see what kind of men (women are a different topic) produce the loveable, compassionate and absolutely appropriate and fitting content they adore and look up to. You are a (demi) god in animation and need to be called out as such. Thank you so very very much for all your outstanding work and please keep it up! 💚
Wow. Thank you!
@@AfterSkool so, do you draw the pictures and then erase it, and play it in reverse to get the animation effect?
@@AfterSkool You shame me by thanking me. I have a BSc. in Digital Media (Bremen, Germany) as well as a MSc. neuroscience & psychology (Goldsmiths, London) and really know my way around design and audio-visual media as well as how to use it in communication with people. Sorry for bragging, but you seriously rock and frigging hard for a retro-appreciative REAL designer/artist. You are entitled to this praise. So for f*cks sake: Live large and go on - the world needs you...bad! 😉
Oh gourd
Nice eyes too
Note that the chemical addiction to sex hormones of both sexes has not been addressed... the continual involvement of pornography allows the addiction to intensify over long periods and to become even more addictive... once the person involved tries to become uninvolved they suffer withdrawals like a drug or alcohol addict and it is not easy to quit.
Every quitting needs a positive alternative. Today's reality in our normal everyday's societies (in the West) ain't that positive alternative. It's a threat a lotta people do want to avoid entirely.
I use to invite incels to accompany me on my trips to SE Asia to meet girls. A lot were involved in heavy porn use, would meet a girl in Thailand, discover they were impotent with her. Basically, they needed to stay away from porn for a few months to get back to normal. At least they were motivated now.
What a good conversation, so many good points!
The problem is the addiction.
Addiction is an extremely difficult thing to get out of without the right motivations and that still that isn’t enough.
It’s a journey into the depths of our being.
This. Well said. I started my porn addiction at 8 years old. My whole life I subconsciously made my priorities around this addiction. "In order to get that hot sexy man with muscles, I need to look just as good." So the only thing I care about is looking hot. 🤦🏻♂️
@@foreveryoung1215 wanting to look good (hot) is fine, why not?
Wishing to appear desirable is a good thing IMHO, as long as it doesn’t get to be an obsession !
Like all things…indeed.
That's a problem but not nearly the fundamental one imo.
"by participating, by consuming that content (porn) you are destroying your sexual mind and harming your future partner."
Very on point! And might i add to that: youre also minimising your chances of having a future partner at all!
Once You realize how You won't grow taller than 5"6 as a man, Your chances for a reasonable future (hetero) partner are nil anyway, no matter how buff, how well-read or how humorous You might ever be. 😆
@@manfredschmalbach9023you keep telling yourself that
@@manfredschmalbach9023what are you on about? do you even know real women? many don't care about height. stop watching stuff that perpetuates false narratives. some women are like that ofc, but many aren't. there is hope.
@@manfredschmalbach9023 that's how a bitter and resentful person sounds like...don't be that, be better
@@Gabytzu95Pitestiexactly. Thank you.
It's not just that your artwork is so cleverly thought out and executed, what makes you stand out is that you are able to draw so quickly!
I doubt they’re drawn on the video, he doesn’t change pens despite the many colors. It’s probably predrawn and then edited to slowly appear, or some sort of white layer is wiped off. You seem them wipe off the board to let the drawing appear sometimes :) It’d be incredibly impressive to draw with no guidelines or structure as a sketch too, all while never erasing ^_^
And on my screen too!
This is important. Thank you for being brave and sharing this message. ❤
My pastor was a porn addict in college and even going through seminay. He is very candid about it, letting everyone know how God set him free and that porn addiction can happen to absolutely anyone. He has now done missions in Peru and has a beautiful wife and 3 kids, one grown.
Stop looking at porn and stop using dating apps. Just go into public and talk to people that attract you: It’s so simple and the best approach
But you get called a sexual harasser
What if you just don't find anyone attractive?
And hit the gym. Even 3 days a week will put you well above the average person, confidence and looks wise.
But the Outernet is scary...
Sound advice. met the person i’m talking to now in public .
no social media
no dating apps
just real life connection
I’m 25 so is my husband, I’m happy to see a video up like this because this is something we talk about all the time. People in this gen really need to wake up before it is to late.
ah of course so you put limitations on your guy and force him to choke down your ideology lmao. being 25 and a girl means you know absolutely nothing.
Hi i have really enjoyed this. Thank you so much. I am in my 60s and have only had real relationships. now i am learning that people in their 40s even are into polyamorous lifestyles where one or two "couples" may be attached to up to 30 or more different partners/co partners. thinking of the energetic connection between hyper dimensional influences that Indian gurus and spiritual gurus advise are energetic connections between each person and every single one of each partners that they have ever had sexual intimacy and taking on some of their darkness, karma etc etc. goodness so glad that i have been celibate for decades and on a spiritual journey of evolution. God help the younger generation exploited by rapacious content creators, businesses and their own self gratification. goodness. so glad i am older and wiser and not adversely affected by this dynamic. better to have nothing than the sorry state of what is on offer and its potential "contamination"
Congrats on your fiance! I didn’t know until this video! I think you’re a super cool human, and your art is awesome! I love it! It has helped me in more ways I can say! Also it’s so good to finally have seen your face! So nice to meet you!
Your animations, Mark, are brilliant, every one of them. It is really what caught my attention way back when. Combined with well selected music the effect is very powerful. I cannot say I agree with everything said, but I watch and listen anyway to gain those other perspectives we need to better understand each other and see the world through new eyes each time.
Mark, you are so talented! I love your art work, it is so inspiring and educational...I always wondered who was behind this amazing channel. Thank you for all you do! 💗
This is so good! Thankyou
I have always sought a connection through porn that I have never found. Last year I met a girl I love so much I think I would be doing her a disservice if I were to watch porn videos again. And we are not together. But I can see how much harm I have done to the people I have met by behaving in a totally unusual and inhumane way. Here I understand the cruelty of this industry that chooses to use human biology to its detriment having only one goal in mind, which is money and power (and forgetting who we are).
Love this comment
Some of us have started the movement. I'm a millennial technically and I was told today that I can't tell men that I'm not interested in a casual relationship. That I want a family and a child and a dude who doesn't watch porn or follow women who post half naked photos on Instagram. A gal friend told me that I can't just come out the gate with it. My response? Yes I can. If the dude can't handle it, then better not to waste my time or theirs. In my opinion, no one has to do those things, but if they want to be with me, they do. And I already 100% follow through with mutual respect on my end.
❤
Boundaries are healthy, anyone who tells you otherwise is probably an abuse victim you shouldn't be getting any advice from
Be careful doing this because men will lie their asses off, some very convincing, the minute they hear you say this. I go about it in a sneaky way. On the second date I ask about porn but i do it with a smile and casually so that they feel telling me the truth is going to be okay. Otherwise you will go thru a lot of liars
Basically the same for me but im a dude. People think you are strange but theyll eventually understand
Your art always hits hard.
Whoever does your art, really had some fun with this one lol
So much fun
I have to disagree with this guy when he says the desire to become worthy of a sexual relationship is what has motivated men to accomplish great things... If anything, it's the complete opposite. If we look at many of the so called "geniuses" and men who accomplished truly great things, it was infact do the transcending, or, rather, the Sublimation of the Sexual impulse that allowed them to accomplish those things. The Sublimation of the sexual energy and redirection of it towards more lofty goals, rather then its dissipation on the temporary satisfaction of carnal desires is what has produced the true polymaths and prodigies, helped awaken their creativity and allowed them to produce such incredible feats and lasting contributions to society. Many were celibate, or never Married, like Nikola Tesla. It doesnt seem that difficult to become worthy of a sexual relationship either tbh... Take her out to dinner, chocolate and flowers, one thing leads to another, etc... She isn't expecting you to chisel out a marble bust of her... The ones who could accomplish those incredible feats of architecture or timeless works of art were the ones who werent worried about "getting the girl" and instead understood the inherent power of harnessing the Sexual Energy (Which is the creative power in the Universe) to be used for more lasting achievements of renown and acclaim.
I agree with you
Brett was discussing how we perpetuate our species
Thank you for making this! I'm so sick of the normalizing of low morals and the push to get rid of families. P is a huge problem in relationships and prevents healthy love.
feminism
@shinzagu sure that's part of the problem, but so are the consumers
Feminism killed the family unit, women would rather be useless wh-res than serve their own families @@katrinaisalwayscorrect
@@shinzaguthats liberal feminism
as a boy i agreed, it's so confusing that it's naturally or society play role with our subconscious. So we believe and thought that way as an adolescent.
Excellent episode!
I love the artwork!
This is beautiful, Man. I've watched you since the beginning and this, to me, is a breakthrough video. Btw. Congratulations on the subscribers. You so deserve it. Also, I loved seeing you as you were executing your art. What you do is amazing. A good British term would be "brilliant". Thanks for all you do. I'm looking forward to your next production. Peace and blessings.
I love After Skool - your illustrations add so much to the topics of the videos - they are incredible. Thank you!
Hii mark youranimation are great keep u great work❤
I agree with the main points of the video but there’s a very important thing they did not touch upon. The same society that gives us easy access to porn, does not allow for young people to explore their sexuality in a healthy and taboo free manner, and more importantly there are no teachings of how to do so SAFELY. I think admitting that we are all sexual beings and that it is okay for us to explore sexuality with each other and ourselves from an early age with proper guidance and openness, such as with any other aspect of our lives, would go a long way.
Absolutely the best and most significant comment I've read on this entire thread!!! 💯👏👏👏
The primary group of people who have the greatest effect on whether or not children are watching porn are the group of people who refuse to acknowledge that it even exists, to a great extent anyway. I’m talking about mothers. The vast majority of mothers of teenagers, and especially teenage boys, are in denial about porn. Not only because they don’t want to think about their sons watching it, but also because they don’t want to think about their husbands watching it.
Is the problem the users or the dealers?
You’re right they don’t want to think about it because the dads are junkies. As a mother, I don’t let my kids have cell phones. We have discuss pornography and I put a dns filter on our Wi-Fi along with other filters through Microsoft and Apple. Anime seems to be a major gateway for children these days. I wish more moms would wake up and dial in on this topic before the exposure first occur to get ahead of it before the imprint is made.
@@mrs.marriedladyyes! I’m the oldest of three and both my siblings are addicted to porn,especially hentai. It’s crazy
@@mrs.marriedlady Unfortunately, putting restrictions on your kids and sheltering them is just going to alienate them from you. You have to make them actually understand why it's a bad habit and let them learn for themselves.