THIS Is Why You Don’t Fit In! [5 Tips To Fix It!]
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ก.ค. 2024
- Learn why you don’t fit in (the reason may surprise you!) and the 5 practical things you can do today to fix this problem.
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Yes, you don’t fit in. And yes, you feel like an outsider many times. And I know just how painful that can be.
But I’m also here to tell you that there’s a deep reason why you don’t fit in and once you know it, your days of feeling depressed or sad about being an outsider are going to end.
In this video, I’m going to show you why you feel like you don’t belong, why it can be so painful, and most importantly: what you can do to change this.
Here’s what you’ll learn in this video:
💥 Why you don’t fit in or belong (it may surprise you!) [1:51]
💥 The 3 main reasons why it hurts you to not fit in. [6:22]
💥 5 practical and actionable tips on what to do when you don’t fit in. [10:19]
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What has been the hardest part for you about not fitting in? Let me know all about it in the comments below!
The hardest part is now!
People looking at me , just like I got 3 heads and 10 eyes !!!That ok.
in that case yes realized that new souls are my soul familly
My way of thinking is completely different from my entire life. They always say that I’m the weird one🙄. Not even comfortable with my own
siblings. Out of 6 kids my mom have , I’m the only one different. Always seeing entities, spirits, angels. I used to tell my grandparents, that I don’t belong here. So, yes, I’m an empath, psychic, medium. My mom as well, my grandmother and my daughter. But my mother denies it by calling me a witch 😂, since she is so religious and I’m not . I’m also noticing that my youngest son is showing it too, he keeps telling me things about the universe and that he feels uncomfortable around negative people. Years ago an entity was in the apartment I was living, I got used to him, I didn’t care to see him or feel him. But when my relatives came to visit me, the entity didn’t like and began manifesting to make them go. It worked, they left😂, but my cousin stayed and he was furious that my cousin was there.
I had to internally identify and accept way early on that I'm genuinely trying to help people, and try to figure out what it is that's blocking them from recognizing that, or I wouldn't be able to cope with existing. Of course, that step was the result of first having been reliant on how others received me to define myself. God helped me see that other people's opinions aren't the best source of identity, while he was helping me develop my own inner standards to live up to and guide my self-evaluations with.
While that part of growth wasn't a simple task, it wasn't the hardest part of recurrent rejection in my case. It's been the opposition, and the fact that even my family is in that status quo box, for me. We all need a circle of support, especially as children, to give us the best chances of becoming economically self-reliant. If you replace that support with opposition and sabotage, life is so much harder. If the opposition is bad enough, hard becomes impossible.
The most hard is when i try to understand them and i do... but they don't even try. Lazy minds.
I have that all the time
Exactly!
I feel you.
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Wildboubou
I just realized that yesterday and it’s such a gift to have. I finally embraced that today. Not everyone has the ability to do that.
We don't fit in because we're here to stand out. Ralph Smart
I used to watch Ralf smart but he has a way of making me feel insecure, like I am not doing enough. I also noticed that he is not very honest.
Can I get a heelllllooo
But i don't want to stand out.....
I also noticed he started political standing too 😢
Oh, this is intriguing about your Ralph Smart views. Love him, for his positive vids and encouragement. I find his relationship vids a bit challenging to take on. Perhaps they stretch me too much and I'm living in my comfy box. What do you believe his political views to be? Thank you guys for sharing. Making my wheels turn. 💗
I quit trying to fit in when I was very young and now I just laugh when people try to either make me conform to their box and it drives them crazy. I love being me and although it can be lonely at times I wouldn't change a thing. ❤️
Good for you ❤️
Love it!
Very powerful. Mucho Mahalo, thank you in Hawaiian for your share. Extremely encouraging!!!
EXACTLY 💜
Ilove it. I am doing the same thing now actually. I dont really wanna push myself to people who doesnt wanna take me as me. It's myself who would make me feel complete in the end anyway.
I have struggled with this most of my life, I’m 65 and have finally accepted it. This is who I am, take it or leave it.
63 and finally have said this is me
My stillness and distance are often seen as a form of disrespect and a snub to them. It's hard when I feel misunderstood.
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Na sakai, I'm in the same boat. I don't gossip, and rather stay home to read, write, dance etc. I've been accused of being standoffish, mean and boring,while working on my own personal development. I guess we all lose friends when we want to better our lives. I sleep well at night . Nothing beats a clear conscience .
same here, people think i'm arrogant because i don't conform to their ways and have my own opinions in life
Worst thing for me is feeling that everyone else can’t be wrong it must be me! Thanks for the video.
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Denise, look up “Asch conformity experiments”. This might help you to get stronger in your own footing. I think there’s a few videos about it on You Tube. What you’re feeling is normal.
Son Of Hibbs This is very valuable information, thank you very much.
Meeee toooo
This is precisely how I feel. Sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy bc I flip flop between realizing that it really is everyone else’s problem, and then doubting myself and thinking something is inherently wrong with me. It’s so confusing and so exhausting 😣
Hardest part has definitely been feeling like there was something wrong with me. I was always on the outside looking in, born without that gene that allows one to blend well with others. I also sense that I’m a giant mirror. People are forced to be transparent with me, it’s obvious to them I know whether they’re being genuine or not. Some people are subconsciously deceitful while others are very conscious. Neither of these types of people like me at all lol. It took me a long time to accept the fact that I’m different. I’m in the dark night of the ego right now and the void... kind of flip flops. I’m feeling very lonely lately but I recently found a spiritual coach who’s giving me free sessions and reminding me of who I am.... and then I found you Christina. So thank you so much for the videos. I’m so grateful.
Gsss... this was 5 months ago but... I just couldn’t not reply because you have no idea how much I understand you. I totally know how that: “there must be something wrong with me” feels. I never heard (read) someone who felt the same way
I've felt alienated for a long time until I came across all these beautiful spiritual you tube channels. 💫 God bless all of you guides out there who try to connect this spiritual family together no matter where we are in the world. 🙏
Exactly
nancy rodrigue Amen! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
I love those channels too!
😞😞😞 very sad, really! I was thinking for this 2 hours ago. I was out with my colleagues, and I felt myself from another planet. They were talking and talking and none of subjects resonate with me. I felt so alone. For a moment I thought, ‘there is something wrong with me’. And then I saw your video. I resonate so much with you.😘😘. Love you Christina. You are beautiful soul. (sorry for my poor English). So much love 💕
Lack of connection has been the most difficult and feeling deep pain for what feels out of alignment.
These 2 are the things that I too suffer most about. The emotional pain is overwhelming and very deep, much harder than physical pain.
Me 2, I know I'm not alone though, I can feel the presence of Angels around me, do you?
@@matufeliciano8273 yes, I do. And other positive presences.
All my friends, old and new, and all my family, including my children and grandchildren, are living in that box in which I do not fit and - no matter what - are determined to drag me in there with them. I think they judge my 'alien state' as a sort of mental illness they're constantly trying to cure. I don't feel lonely by myself - I feel lonelier when I'm with them because I think so differently. A few days ago, I realised that I was born an empath and was outside the box from the moment I was expelled from my birthgiver's womb. I was never enmeshed with my psychopathic mother and consciously concluded BEFORE AGE TWO that she was not on my side and that I would have to raise myself. (I later raised my siblings from age four-and-a-half and became a parent to my own mother at the age of twelve.) So bollocks to the idea that a child is incapable of intellectual reasoning before the age of seven!
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You sound like an absolute star Paula! 😃
@@rachelmaxwell5953 from another planet maybe?
Jupp, did a lot of things at 4 isch that you are not supposed to need to do or be able to do.
at least you are brave enough to be you .
The hardest part of not fitting in is when you have no one to talk to that can really understand you and vibe with you
The hardest part of not fitting in is trying to fit in the box and being criticized for not fitting. Thank you for making me realize that I was never meant to fit, and to be happy that I don't.
I feel i dont fit in since i was a kid...until now. My family and friends said that im too shy and sensitive...i just dont like small talks and i feel the feelings of a person
Hardest thing for me not fitting in, I always feel there’s something wrong with me. Being sensitive as a child and growing up the narcissist has had a big impact on my life.
Thank you Christina this will help me so much, I'm 50yrs old female and have accepted how I am as I gotten older (so have my family, finally!!) I struggle so much in the workplace especially and find it harder as I get older. I have no children, and also have no close friends as I tend to cut people out of my life, people who have let me down or cause drama or distress. I just wont put up with it. I love being outside the box and value my space and peace. I am a true Empath. The hardest part for me, is that "I feel lost" big time and I'm depressed with it. Work has been so stressful. I need to escape and make plans. But I cant seem to clear the fog in my brain to make definite decisions. Yep.. I'm just lost... I'm gonna grab a hot shower and look for a Soul Retrieval Meditation, just glanced over a couple and I'm already in tears...Love from Julie xx
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I've had trouble in the work place my whole life. The work didn't cause me troubles. It was the people.
It took a long time getting to this point, but otherwise, its easy. Im ready to buy a camper so i can spend the rest of my life boondocking. The rest of life will be quiet, move when i want, eat, sleep when i want. No ones BS anymore
Me too with soul retrieval meditation, I'm going to hunt that down now as I was apprehensive before this video due to my tendency to absorb energy. Blessings to you 🙏
I'm 14 and the hardest thing about not fitting in is that i started getting bullied.
Hang in there! It will get better ❤️
It will get better Miruna, Good luck x
Bullies have so much pain inside and they try to put it on you. Keep strong and send them light and unconditional love from the divine, it will transform the energy right away from negative to positive. Maybe they won't change their attitude right away but it will diminish. Keep strong. Many blessings to all. 🙏💙🦋
That’s confirmation you’re a bright light. Don’t let them take it!
You are beautiful you, just keep being you!
There's no one else in this world like me and that is my superpower. I don't fit in, I fit out. Now thanks to you miss Christina I know why. ❤🌻❤
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i cried while i was watching your video because i am stuck at the moment alone wondering what should i do to move on and accept my unique soul
Accept your soul and be happy that you are diffrent!!!! Xxxx
I'm a gay guy in Morocco and teenager also an atheist in a Muslim family but I know it well get better but It steel kind of painful but whatever I love you Christina you're the best and I which you to tell me a specific advice if you want of course I give all the love from Morocco❤❤
Imagine you later in life, just,wow, inspirational!!!
be your self u r yourself! Be it! Own it! I love and accept you as a 'heterosexual male', but really, what is that? We are all fragments of each other. Much love and acceptance to u and all. Love is love
Walk away as soon as you can, if they can't love all of you, they will never accept you. I hope that your family don't feel like you have disgraced their name as this may be dangerous, love and light and a huge big hug for you.
You've chosen a very hard path, you're a worrier, carry your sword proudly, I always say, if you're going to walk through hell, do it like you own the place! Stay strong, you are not alone!
Sending Love, garmer att.
It’s nice to watch something about not fitting in. I’m gay, mixed race & an empath. My immediate family is closed minded. Narcissistic & always judging different groups of people. Living in a rural community where diversity is scarce can be very lonely and scary at times.
Though I have had people come to me and tell me thank you because you helped me come out or you listened to me or I thought you were going to be a certain way because you are gay or part black or part white. So this video makes a lot of sense, but along with the good I’ve seen a lot of hate and that can be scary in its self.
I was at a job for 5 years where I was discriminated against so badly I know it caused some trauma. I looked so hard for another job for years and something better came along thank God. When I was younger though I thought I was strong, but as I get older I feel that I’m not strong enough to go through this. It’s like a tug a war in ones emotions. Everyday I get up I have to fight to see the good where when I was younger I was naive and more loving. I just got a major sign last night that let me know that I need to learn to love myself and it’s so true. I have a lot of work to do, but I’m going to try my hardest.
Thank you for this video ❤️
Mostly that you feel all alone even when you're with others.
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Absolutely! There are those few that I can connect with and am grateful for that. We're here to light the way and stand out. That's why we cant fit in🤗
@Wild Bird would be interesting to know.
I know that feeling very well....
You said perfectly. I feel I am a “disruptor” and only recently have found the inner strength to seriously push some light into the world. One thing too: the light workers need awakened people with tarnished souls that can get down in the crap with the sheeple.
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The loneliness, the feeling I never belonged, feeling left out, rejected. It still really hurts and sucks. I've always been hated for speaking the truth and undermining and calling it how exactly how it is.
Loss of family and friends is hard but I call my power back now in Christ
When I was a little girl, one day my friends decided to outcast me. I spent recess in the library instead of outside because I had no friends.
I often had those feelings when playing sports, I quit because nobody had my back just went to natural talented people
That's what I experienced too as a teenager... There was a reading corner with couches in the library and I would spend there my whole lunch time.There was another girl doing the same thing and once in class, a teacher who had noticed that, suggested in between lines that we could spend our lunch time together... Another girl who sat ahead of me asked me what he had meant by that and I explained to her that we both spent lunchtime in the library because we had no friends, and this brought her to invite the two of us to join her group of friends... We lost touch over the years but I'm still so grateful I can't help but to have tears in my eyes as I am writing this...
@@sophiestj wow thanks for sharing that. My son is in high school and he says sometimes he eats lunch in library because he feels overwhelmed by people. I came to this video for myself but reading these comments makes me realize my son is experiencing it at a deeper level. I'm wondering how many people have felt this same way. Wish we could all be friends.
@@charolettemoody9894 It's beautiful how you care about your son and what he is experiencing at a deeper level! And how I wish that too :)
Felt like that too.
The hardest part of not fitting in was that I am extremely sensitive. I could not shake the feeling of being "different." I have the word different tattooed on my wrist. I also had a hard time shaking off the low self esteem. On the other hand a lot of people tell me that I am a light or they call me sunshine. Thank you so much for this video. It's like an epiphany! I'm proud of being different, a misfit or weirdo. I embrace it all!!!
My entire life I went from being a person that everyone loved to be around and was always the center of a attention at a party or gathering, to where I no longer seem to fit in with anyone. A lot of strangers would tell me that they know me or that I look familiar. (over time I've learned to say to them that I was in porn. Usually get a blank stare until I tell them Im joking) My entire life I was accustomed to be familiar to strangers for some reason but over the past 4 years. new relationships with anyone starts off great and strong but over months deteriorates because Im usually seeing how fake that individual is having a negative agenda. I don't have a poor or bad attitude, but have come to realize that I don't have the patience anymore to be with self centered people now who have no compassion towards others. Its an overwhelming sense I cant explain. Over time, I turn on these people because of my intuition, and they turn and make life more difficult. I have become a disrupter; and although it was never my intention, its become part of my life. Not a great feeling.
Gosh, this could be my life story... xx
It is that i just read about myself...
Sometimes i feel that people get "scared" and have too say that im not trueful or something...
Wow, you've had good practice. Good for you.
@IT NEVER STOP Its kind of nice though, knowing we're not alone in all this...x
The same ppl are soooooooo fake it’s irritating because I see right through to their bullshit.
I HAVE ELT SO LONELY ALL MY LIFE
Same. There have been some brief periods when it went away though they tend to be brief.
I have felt that way too. Really work on your connection to God. Prayer has helped me immensely.
The problem, Christina is that One often feels disrespected by people, that's what really hurts. And One have to learn to tolerate disrispectfullness every where But, I get The video's message. Thank you Christina
I have spent most of my life feeling like I don’t fit in and that something is wrong with me. Insecure ,feeling alone with no one to have deep conversations with and being misunderstood is so hard! I am definitely an empath and I have finally decided not to fight this anymore and to just be myself!! It feels great. Thank you for this video!
Never too late to understand. Feels lighter. Connects the dots. I don’t feel lonely anymore and don’t need to be understood. I accept now what is. Thank you Christina and you beautiful souls reading this.
The hardest part about not fitting in: Being COMPLETELY unaware as to "why" you don't fit in. So, gratitude🌼 Christina for all that you do🐝
They need to air THIS during the morning announcements in all schools across the world please!!! I love this!! And I love when you say “I am OUT!!” It’s so hip hop lol! 😂😉😘
WE/I was born to stand the fk out baby!!! Haha love and light to all my light workers keep shining even if it’s in the haters face! ✨✨✨✨✨😆✨✨✨shine shine shine!
Amazing ❤️
You're yet to heal as an Empath cos healed and awakened Empaths don't spite their haters, we love them but from a distance because of their toxic nature.
A song comes to mind, Shine on you Crazy Diamond. Yes to them we are. However we are meant to shine, and shine we will. Love and Light to all! 🙏🏼❤
Christina Lopes 😆✨✨✨💖
Roxy Kotlarek by who is that song from? Indeed!!! ✨✨✨✨🌙😆
For me it’s been finding the right career. I can speak to this in layers.My life has either been the agony or the ecstasy.
I crave community and connection, yet I don't fit in. That's the hardest thing for me. I hate gossip, I don't watch real housewives of whatever county, I only need one pair of sneakers( I'm a minimalist). I don't believe in religion, politics bore me. They wanna hang out, but I dont. Rather go for a bike ride alone. 😄
@@Jesboogie121 Never to late to learn, but yes, if you like to read and talk about quantum physics…😆…that could be social suicide, unless you find someone who has the same interest
Thank you Christina! As a child I was always "looking in" on my family, being the square peg amongst friends, knowing that I wasn't the same. Its been only a couple of years now that I know that NOT FITTING IN is actually STANDING OUT! So, I'm officially outstanding :-)))))
I can embrace and celebrate that now.
When I was a child I was extremely bullied/raped by a group of girls in middle school because i wanted to fit in with them so badly and be liked by the popular kids. It hurt me for many many years but in the recent years I’ve realized that I went through all of that to show myself my worth, to make a difference for other people in the world who have been hurt by others, and learned to never EVER let my lightness dim. I needed to go through all of that plus other stuff to help the weak learn to stand up for themselves and love themselves no matter what. I’ve been through a lot (as a lot of others have) but the one thing I never changed is I never ever let my smile and my love and positivity go away or go to waste. Thank you for this video.
You are brave, wow! You're truly a giant among mortals. I love you. Don't ever let the bad actions of others have power over you. I hope you continue to use that painful experience as fuel to fire you up and to give you more and more clarity as to your true worth which they can never diminish. They are weak, you are strong. Your purpose seems to support and heal others. And it's easier to have compassion for others when you're been hurt yourself. You just keep on moving up and onward. You're an angel. xoxo
A truly powerful inspirational video. For years I have never fit in with anyone, I have always felt I was totally on a different level from friends and when I had a real Spiritual Awakening over 30 years ago, I have always worked alone and never got involved even with Spiritual people (who turned out not to be that Spiritual).
Today I felt totally disconnected having spent my time on caring for two terminally ill people ( one my partner and one a member of my family). After both their deaths I felt deeply saddened but mainly because I had lost my connection to Source and that is the most important thing in my whole life.
Christina you are a beautiful light worker, an inspiration and I am so grateful to have found your channel. God bless you xx❤️❤️
I have been through very similar circumstances. I appreciate your feedback so much, as I don’t know many who endured two illnesses at once.
My whole life was a trial of fitting in before I had my first glance of awakening. Now I run away from boxes.
Ha ha ha
ME TOO😁
LOL that's right. Great post, thank you for being you.
I just quit trying to fit in and can already feel my power. its been a long time coming but better late than never xx Thanks Christina. i feel loved
I feel insignificant like my presence doesn't matter around certain people. Like I don't belong. This is something I struggle with far too much in my life and O want to change it.
I have gone through really lonely times & it's hard. I have ppl in my life but it's as though I have to fragment myself in a sense as....this person I can talk about spiritual things with, this person I can talk about every day things with, this person I can talk about current events with but there is noone I can just completely be myself with so I prefer to be alone. That was difficult for me as I had always been a very social person & loved being around ppl. Not so anymore. I also found myself pulling away from many "spiritual" groups as I didn't feel as though I fit in there either. And more than a light worker I'm a light warrior! I don't mind delving into the darker aspects that are taking place in the world today & taking a stand. I don't mind being in the trenches. I find many the claim to be light workers live in lala land & are more sheeple than "normies" in many cases. I also see ALOT of spiritual bypassing.
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I sometimes find it difficult when I come across situations where people feel instant dislike of me or instant love for me ..its a bit confusing that those emotions are so opposite ,I do withdraw as I do not want to make people feel uncomfortable ,but then I feel I am not being myself and scratch my head internally as if I am asking the source ..am I suppose to be assertive or timid ? I confuse myself ..ha ha .
Jeannie Campbell People either “love me or hate me” is my experience. It is troublesome because I can’t reconcile the two polarities. I withdraw too.
Yes !!! Completey agree. I find that instant love/dislike happens a lot as well. I usually find that these folks seem to have major preconceived notions and/or issues that they are either not dealing with etc..
Yes, I feel they are taken back, there is a look on their face rather like a :"beware of me" and won't take their eyes off me. Almost afraid of me.
Have the same...
Sometimes i often woundering what people want me And why they even want have connact with me...
Buuuirrr!!
Jeannie Campbell OMG SAME
Thank you Christina! The hardest part about not fitting in I would say would be feeling like the observer absolutely everywhere I go~As if I'm watching a movie but not actually a part of life.
Misty Lee hello tell me
Hell yeah! Exactly my thoughts today while walking in a shopping mall (my favourite thing to do 😝)
People inside the box are so many .. they seem very close to each other ... but when you zoooom in ... you will thank God million times that your are not inside ...
Some of the diseases inside the box are (gossiping , back biting , greed , climbing over each other’s shoulders ... etc).
Only lately I stopped trying to fit in .. not caring if I was spoken to or not .. yet being positive with manners as much as I can . That moment of not trying any more ... was a real life shift to me .
Thanks for this amazing vedeo.
Thank you for being here!! I appreciate you so much and love you and your wonderful guidance 💕 I was given a life lesson that almost gave me a nervous break down last year at work. Others allowed new people to treat me very rudely and drove me down to a shakey mess. I was able to rise above it and fully understand I can only change my reaction, I can't change people!
Thank you for this video. I have never felt like I fit in ever since I was younger. I'm 45 now and I've accepted my difference now. I also found out I was an Empath when I was in my 20s.
Thank you this really resonates with me. I had a very lonely childhood and teenage years. Nobody not even family understood me. I certainly shook things up. I felt I had lost my connection to God. Nobody told me to look for God within. There is a reason for everything. I have certainly found what I went through has helped support my kids. I found a supportive partner too who helped me. God bless you all my fellow lightworkers😊
I got a better understanding watching this video. I don’t think I have ever fitted in. My sister said “you are different” and I said “yes so realize it”. I just couldn’t act like everybody else. I have always been a loner but I like helping people with improving themselves. I’ve been married 34 years and still feel alone.
The hardest part is to be drained of my energy, and feel guilty to invest so much of it, and still feel not good enough. Thank you Christina!
The book "Illusions" by Richard Bach is a lovely addition to this explanation. It starts with a little light worker in a river..... who becomes a 'messiah'
I must reread it. It's been 40 plus years since. Thank you for reminding me.
The more i tried to fit in, the more i hurt myself!
I am also a rare INFJ Empath. I have been struggling a lot these past few months. I needed to see this today. Bless you Christina. 💗
Me too!
My inner being always reminds me that it's a good thing to fail at wearing the mask.. if your gonna fail at anything thats a wonderful thing to fail at..not being your self. i felt bad i just never could conform..it was be myself or bust basically. Which led to being alone a lot,but its better than the shitshow i finally climbed out of. The hardest part is not having a family or any friends(with humans) currently. I found my family very abusive and friends kept becoming more and more needy only coming around to get a hit of my energy and never there in return.
yet , making art, enjoying music animals,nature and meditation really helps. My best friends are 30 crows,4 stellar jays and a dozen squirrels that show up every morning to come get peanuts i give to them💚 they brighten my days.🙏🏼
Being contrarian has been challenging, as has my unique birth defect - I was born with both middle fingers extended.
Christina I love what you have done with this and I apologize, but I think an equally important question is: What has helped us survive this predicament? I found the corporate world unbearable, and finding a halftime job that I like has been very therapeutic. 40+ hours per week of a stressful job can be soul crushing.
Eric Houston ..omg , I have the same defect!
WOW! It took me so many years to find out who and what I am, my true purpose. I need to do mantra work. Thank you a million.
Not having direction in life, being lonely and not being able to talk about this with other people as they don’t understand are the hardest parts. Isolating myself And now getting out of this “black hole” into the world seems quite hard when you don’t know where to go.
I am 43 and feel the same way. You sound like me. Hope everything works out for you friend.
The hardest part for me was feeling like an unlovable defective freak 😱. I know now there is no truth in that, thanks Christina this video has helped seal this into my system! 💞
Holy i tried to denial almost 15 years,i guess i have to accept i am lightworker 😭
You got this ❤️
The hardest part for me was and still is receiving this whole lotta hostility for being different. I still have to make a living, I still have to move around boxed people and them refusing me to even be among them. It still hurts.
The hardest thing for me to not fit in is. Being tired and drained all the time especially with females, since I was a little girl. I always remember I tried to fit in but, I wasn't excepted. Regardless of what I did or any of that. I give more than I expect in return and recently have lost a best friend of 6 yrs because, I didn't reach out to her enough. Or even liked her MLM posts. It really crushed me because, I did alot for her because I wanted to. Not because I needed to that's just who I'm. I'm a giver, and truly put my whole heart into relationships that mean alot to me. She didnt know, I was focusing on myself even though I explained that to her. It wasnt enough for her to hear, so now I feel like my world has got even more lonely. But hearing this made a world of difference I'm slowly finding my soul tribe. So THANK YOU!!!!!!! SO MUCH
I'm exactly the same way since a young girl. It's so lonely
@@melaniemoon1089 it is I was struggling daily but these have helped
Proud to be a major disruptor lol
Walk the walk, indeed.
I've always had a very close walk with the Most High as far back as I can recall..I'm talking 3yrs old. I never fit in anywhere as a child rather with family or other kids, which was deeply painful. It carried on into young adulthood but it was revealed to me when I thought I was meant to be a Christian minister that I was not meant to express myself conventionally. I was even rejected by/or didn't fit in by all the church leadership at every church branch I joined myself to. I now know it was a divine announcement that THAT religious paradigm would never be able to receive me or capacitate my gift and purpose for being on earth.
As a High School math teacher that no longer cares what people think, I've been talking about quantum physics, sacred geometry, sonic geometry, etc... Which leads to spirituality. I feel my mission is to be the beacon to those youth that have such high depression. And anxiety with suicidal thoughts to the light. It's working but very difficult
You are an earth angel Ryan Sisco. Mind you well.
Dear Christina, I am SO VERY THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL for your spiritual lessons you share with all of us watching.
This video gave me so much peace and acceptance with who I am.
Thank you! 👐
I’m 55 and the hardest part lately is not ending everything
ferretapocalypse I’m here. Text me if you want.
Thank you Christina, so clear, the reminder and the confirmation I so, so needed. Amazing synchronicity!
I just could not understand why people did not see things in my view. Especially at work. It made me depressed and question my rationale. What a breath of fresh air this video is!!
This made my inner child happy… growing up I thought maybe something was wrong with me but finally understanding why I never fit in is healing
This is me all my life literally. I have felt like I don't fit in anywhere. It's funny because I keep making life choices that make me not to fit in even more. Now I am a firm believer in acceptance and I do agree that I have to find my power and I don't think I have all the tools yet to stand firm in my light but I am amazed at my progress and how I have remained sane through a whole spiritual awakening journey alone. I'm looking forward to openness in my journey ❤️. But in the past I had been open without being firm so for me personally the standing on my two feet is a great leap in knowledge and I am healing accordingly with no rush or pressure.
I just believe we are all here to learn I am just glad to finally understand why, and TH-cam is a lovely resource that helps in showing you all these different people not fitting in and staying true to the mission either way. It's an empowering gesture of the universe I feel, and I'm eternal grateful to have been born at this point in time.
Thank you for the knowledge Christina❤️
You go! U r NOT alone
Christina, I was just thing about how to claim back my power. People will try to steal it. Now I will call back my power, and say I'm honored to be out of the box. Shine on you Crazy Diamond, is my song to me. Love and light to you.
Oh my..how I wish I'd been taught this in school dear sister...I am a major disrupter.! ☺ ..I have always felt I didn't fit in and the loneliness has been terrible...I have had to leave my entire dysfunctional family of origin and friends because my lightwork and truth has promoted attacks and rejection from them...now I understand why...that's my power and instead of thinking something was wrong with me..now I understand everything is right with me...they can chose to accept or reject...I gave all my power away and was boundary less...but no more...I arise and claim my power back..those who resound are so welcome in my world bit those who attack I need to let them stay asleep..you are awesome and I love your energy. ..deep gratitude and my love. ..💖💜💖
WoW. That was exactly the video I needed to see at that moment. I’m struggling of late and this was a gentle nudge back into the right direction. Thanks Christina.
Love your voice. Love your spirit.
I am empath and a light being too. 🥰🧚🏻♀️
I used to take pride in being different and could do so without negative consequences because I had great self-esteem. But that all changed in my later years, for whatever reason, and I'm not blaming Kundalini, because it could have been other factors as well. But when my self-esteem dropped I started questioning being different and if it really was a positive thing.
This resulted in wanting to be more reclusive. Then of course I had to make peace with that!
I will say however, despite not having many "friends", the people who did seem to like me were very good genuine people. And of course as the saying goes, it's more about quality than quantity. There was a side effect of Kundalini however, that I think did make life a bit more difficult for me, and it supposedly is not uncommon. I lost interest in everything except Kundalini, the metaphysical and health/self empowerment. Which meant I had less patience or interest in the day-to-day drama other's would talk about. That's probably when TH-cam became big for me, because then I could surround myself with others who are passionate about the same topics, which inspires me. Now having said that, it works the other way as well. We all affect each other in some way. I know from experience, and I've been told this, that I have a calming effect on people. And to be quite honest, I can't think of a greater effect I'd like to have. A coworker once said to me as he passed by, "You're always smiling and seem to be happy". Now I can tell you in certainty, that is NOT entirely true! But that's the energy I put out there for others, and it brightens their day. As Christine says, we are LightWorkers and are intuitively tuned in to a reality much deeper, which may cause some awkwardness for us, but ultimately we have this gift to share, even it's simply to "just be" and exist in this timeline. 😊
I love this!! In many ways I've always felt alone. Ive been a christian since I was 5 but for a million years have struggled with addiction. Ive struggled fitting in at church which makes thing harder. Thank you for this message! so what I need to hear!!
your light is going to change this world I mean that you're so good at this and I've watched a lot of different people online from the bottom of my heart you're meant to be doing this you're not weird about it you bring a goofy refreshing essence to the teaching that it needs
I always wonder how do you know what's in my head? To make it even more mysterious - 5 minutes into this video, I literally start asking you questions and you answer them pretty much immediately. I just love your channel! You always heal my soul like no one or nothing else on this planet! Thank you so much again my beautiful soul! 😊
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Same here
I needed to hear this as a teenager! However, I'm happy that atleast I heard it now! Thank you 🤗
It’s over a year since you recorded this video. I found you because I kept seeing 1’s all over the place. I even parked in my parking spot right at 111,111. So I went through your videos for a month or so and then I cane across this one. I sobbed my way through it and had to watch it again, because I missed it the first time; and then again to really get what you were saying. I watched the Light Worker video too, and took notes, which I’ve been carrying around with me all day. Between laughing and crying, and telling my cats that I finally know who I am. “I’m a Light Worker, girls!” The crying because I just turned 59 and I know. I KNOW why I’ve been alone my whole life. Why I can’t keep friends or partners. Why I have no tribe. The way my family has treated me is coming clear. In one of your videos you said you pull a tarot card each morning. I do too and this morning I got The Fool. I’m so so happy. Now the work begins. I don’t know if you check your old videos for comments, but thank you. Thank you so much.
This video feels very spot-on - I can definitely relate. As a major loner and oddball from the get-go, I felt like an outsider and wondered why I didn't fit in (childhood issues/domestic violence didn't help either, nor did weird experiences with the supernatural). It can be really tough to break free from feeling flawed and see this as more of a 'gift'..
Teenage years were rough. I love being older and this video is awesome!❤️
Thank you so much for these wonderful explanations. They make my heart sing! 😊
So glad ❤️
Thank you, dear. I forgot all that today. Got sick and fragile and went in to my head. You remembered me what I know and saved my day. Thank you so much. Be well, happy and blessed 😘💙
Thanks so much Christina! This, along with your many other videos, really helped! The hardest part for me (which I am still trying to figure out) is to be unapologetically myself, shining my light, without making myself small in order to please others. Thank you and everyone reading this for being so full of love and kindness! ❤️🙏🏼
Thanks for this. I needed to hear this today.
As far as I could remember I was by myself playing and I remember being content about it. But noticed it at a young age my single mother committed suicide in 1986 when I was 8 and that's where life really was thrown in my face and how mean people really wade. Me me strong kid well I'm finding out that it's making me a week adult from all the trauma when I was a kid
Travis Vold I’m here with you
I feel like I can relate to your pain. I was 8 when my Mom attempted suicide. Life became like a hurricane after that. I hope that you can find many ways to feel blessed each day. Gratitude for the little things seems to expand and keep the light on for me so to speak. Thank you for bravely speaking up. I hope that you are receiving kindness, love and support.
@@JS-yy9cn thank you for your kind words.. You know this is a cruel world we live in.. The very reason why I stumbled across this video Was due to being caught in a narcissists Web lol which actually I'm grateful for, Which is what led me to find out that I'm an Empath because without that I would have never known that I really wasn't crazy there's a lot more people out there like me... Which started me on a whole new path in life whole new outlook, Also a whole new outlook on life and death itself We definitely Were put here to learn. That's improves graph for you and your family I also hope that you find the answers you been looking for
it took 40 years to understand that i was unique and was not supposed to fit in, it did not help that my family is NOT my soul family, not a single person is anyone i can resonate with. this was the hardest and perhaps that is why it took so long to break out of the energy of the old,, and find the new. but since the last five years or so, it has been a time of deep intense learnings, training myself afresh in things that seem exactly for me, and working in the healing world. the work brings me joy, i find i resonate with much younger people for some reason, people my age have never related to me as much... but i hope that will begin to change... i finally have let the new energy in. and i do feel i am finding more and more people who are from my soul tribe... i am letting go of old trauma bonds and connections that brought me nothing except pain. and i am learning to see my family for what it is - a place of learning, and i am learning to honour them for what they are, not expecting from them what they cannot give me. this has been such an amazing journey, and your videos have helped crystallise my learnings of the past few years so beautifully. it all makes sense now!
At 50 yo. I finally understand why I have never fit in. I have no friends, only family. I’ve struggled all my life with low self esteem / insecurity because I always wondered what was wrong with me.
As expected it helped me lot to have more understanding abt this subject.. thanks ... lots of love,♥️
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Only need to realise you can't disconnected from source
Sis Christina, you have hit the nail on the head for me in many of your videos! I am an empath. I had a very disturbing childhood where I witnessed abuse. My ego kicked in at four years old. I went numb as a result of being rejected by a parent who was narcissistic. Most of my relationships have been with diabolical narcissistic men. I do not fit in at all with my family. Until l listened to these videos, l couldn't figure out why any of this was. I don't know how to thank you! You've given me so much clarity and hope in a matter of minutes! Many the universe shower you with unlimited blessings and much love my friend!!! ❤
Letting go of old toxic relationships was tough. Your video is MAGNIFICIENT is makes total sense. Thanks so much! Namaste
Up until about 5 years ago I didn't know that I was a lightworker. Very painful to go through but everything you mention is true for me that I was meant to not fit in. I am very happy with that finding out who I really am and would not change anything. I'm happy on my own or with my tribe.
I love these videos thank you for sharing ♥️♥️♥️
Perfect, thank you so much
Thank you ❤️
Hello Christina, I can't believe all these decades I've been waiting to hear this! I never understood why I never fit in until now. I felt like a misfit among among among misfits, now I truly understand why I'm here. Thank you for being there for me and many others who now know what we are here for. Lightworkers! I completely get it now. God bless you
Wow everything you mentioned is what I have been going through. I have been in and out of friendship, family, groups at school, church and I was not fitting in. Now I know why thank you so much for this video.