This experiment gives a mind-blowing insight into the mind of teenage fangirls that fawn over famous boybands etc. They invest SO much time and effort into these people that of course their love for these people grows, and some are often surprised when they meet their celebrity love and the said celebrity doesn't instantly feel the same about them. It's because they've never been INVESTED in the fan their meeting. They haven't spend time pondering over them, among other obvious things such as initial attraction towards the fan etc. This video has helped me make sense of that and the mind of fangirls in that way so THANKS soul pancake, you're the best
I call it mutuality rule. It's not only about contributing to the happiness of your partner, but it's also about respect, gratitude, care, freedom, rights, and almost everything. One-sided things won't work in marriage. They got to be mutual.
Love should always be mutual--and when it is not it should always be thoughtful. To love another and not be loved back is still a wondrous thing: no person chooses how or who they feel for and this type of feeling should always be said and expressed for it is always worth saying and expressing. All I desire in this life is for us to face the truths of our reality, our mortality, and our humanity for all that it is--so that we may become the truest humans possible. I talk about philosophy and societal topics that pertain to this endeavor. That is all, no more no less. May we always progress and may we never stop learning from each other. Good day to you all :)
Thank you Julian, and everyone who were a part of this series to make it happen. Because of this video and others in the series, I chose to let someone know how i really felt about him. I was suuuuper scared; I was afraid he would never write to me again, or he'd say he only wanted to be friends but then our relationship would turn super awkward and crumble to dust. Or the world would explode, or something. But now i'm sooo exciiited! Because it turns out he loves me too!!!
The science of love videos always make me cry. Seeing people express their love through action is beautiful. So heartwarming. I fully support SoulPancake and their efforts to make a better & happier world. Seriously, keep up the good work.
damn this is the mistake i always make. i invest so much and get hurt when the other person isn't willing to invest anything. if i say that i am unhappy because they are not contributing, then i am made out to be the bad guy. i always get stuck with non-committal jerks that think its OK to take advantage of someones heart.
signiturelady Next time let us men be the one who does most of the planning of the dates.He should be the one calling you first early in the relationship.You do let the man play for the movie,concert and meal right? You need to enjoy your status as the lady in the relationship,but don't go overboard with it.Oh wait you're probably the last woman I should say that to.:)
There were plenty of comments complaining about the legitimacy of the "experiment" and it's important to recognize these videos don't believe they have solidly and flawlessly proven anything. I think it's to get people thinking by using cutesy psuedo-science techniques to get a positive idea out into the world. I Love these videos! Very inspiring and motivating.
I love these types of videos that make me realize the simple things. In my past relationship I never let my other half contribute and would always insist on paying things but I learned my lesson after watching this. Thank you Julian you really are a good guy and hope you find the love you deserve. :)
This was sincerely very helpful to me. It was a really beautiful video, and one day I hope to be like that couple about to celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary ☺
This makes sense. Relationships are all about give and take. If one person doesn't do anything to build the relationship they won't see it as important and valuable.
I love this series, but I couldn't help but point out that you were in the videos at the Nvidia booth at PAX east! It was cool! But seriously, this is the coolest series along with the happiness series, so keep it up :D!
Thank You so much for this video. I have experienced this with a friend of mine. I would always do stuff for him and even though I didn't always get my way I almost always insisted on paying for things or doing stuff for him. He has now since moved out of state and we barely talk anymore. Guess who makes the effort to call the other person? That's right, me. He never calls me and when I do call him he almost never picks up. I now can see why that happens and am extremely grateful for this video. Thank you again so much.
Ho-ly-shit ..... This is why me and my gf weren't working out ... I put in all the effort, I always picked her up, payed the bills, I did everything...
@SoulPancake Why didn't you tell us the change in attraction of the other person? It kind of defeats the purpose of the experiment if both actually find that they are more attracted now...
crystallclearr15 maybe cause she didn't say anything meaningful. She looked super pissed at the guy when she handed the coffee to him. And didn't seem like she appreciated the efforts she had to put in to be romantic. I bet if she were taken out of the study, that 5% jump would be higher. Soul pancake please tell us what the result is if this couple is taken out as an outlier.
Oh my goodness I love these videos! They always make me teary eyed and they make me miss my boyfriend xD but these videos are very very beautiful and heart warming!
I'm not sure, but maybe the "as much as 5% more attracted..." Is relating the two groups to each other - instead of to the pretest. Like saying that the change in the active group was 5% bigger than the change in the non active group?
I love it... and I will have this teaching more into account when it comes to my relationship with my bf... you know he invest always, I need to invest more...
This video would have worked out great 7 months back! I would have been glad to show my ex this that way she can at least put 1% in our relationship. 5 years down the drain..... And I still have no idea why she broke up with me.
The presenter of this show or series whatever!... Is Awsome... Dude I swear I just laugh when he makes this small remarks on things... He really makes this a little more awsome.... haha I used the word "awsome" twice..
You only have to invest time on making someone like you if you're ugly. Attractive people don't have to do anything, people will want them no matter what.
Sorry the ending wording was a little confusing. So correct me if im wrong: they tested again, and the ones who were receiving the favors become 5% less attracted that their counterparts who were giving the favors? Is this interpretation correct?. Or the ones giving the favors were 5% more attracted compared to themselves before? If the latter is correct, then what about those receiving the favors? Were they more attracted also or stayed the same or less?. This would change the whole meaning. Eg.g. If the ones receiving the favors were 10% more attracted, then it means you are still better off by doing favors than receiving them and the whole experiment would lose its point. Sounds like you are leaving important information out.
Barbara and I are proud to have been featured in this video.
Nice seeing you guys in the video as well :)
it was very wholesome
so sweet
This experiment gives a mind-blowing insight into the mind of teenage fangirls that fawn over famous boybands etc.
They invest SO much time and effort into these people that of course their love for these people grows, and some are often surprised when they meet their celebrity love and the said celebrity doesn't instantly feel the same about them. It's because they've never been INVESTED in the fan their meeting. They haven't spend time pondering over them, among other obvious things such as initial attraction towards the fan etc. This video has helped me make sense of that and the mind of fangirls in that way so THANKS soul pancake, you're the best
It is the same for sports fans!
I kept think about One Direction and BTS fans the whole time.
You're so right.. I'm still in Love with Emily Blunt, though.
This and the science of Happiness are 2 of my favorite things on youtube! Please keep going after you finish this series.
Thank you! We really love hearing that. :)
I call it mutuality rule. It's not only about contributing to the happiness of your partner, but it's also about respect, gratitude, care, freedom, rights, and almost everything. One-sided things won't work in marriage. They got to be mutual.
Love should always be mutual--and when it is not it should always be thoughtful. To love another and not be loved back is still a wondrous thing: no person chooses how or who they feel for and this type of feeling should always be said and expressed for it is always worth saying and expressing.
All I desire in this life is for us to face the truths of our reality, our mortality, and our humanity for all that it is--so that we may become the truest humans possible. I talk about philosophy and societal topics that pertain to this endeavor. That is all, no more no less.
May we always progress and may we never stop learning from each other. Good day to you all :)
***** Thanks, my good man.
That´s great. Well said, have a great day sir.
Thank you Julian, and everyone who were a part of this series to make it happen. Because of this video and others in the series, I chose to let someone know how i really felt about him. I was suuuuper scared; I was afraid he would never write to me again, or he'd say he only wanted to be friends but then our relationship would turn super awkward and crumble to dust. Or the world would explode, or something. But now i'm sooo exciiited! Because it turns out he loves me too!!!
The science of love videos always make me cry. Seeing people express their love through action is beautiful. So heartwarming.
I fully support SoulPancake and their efforts to make a better & happier world. Seriously, keep up the good work.
im on a feeling spree with soulpancake
damn this is the mistake i always make. i invest so much and get hurt when the other person isn't willing to invest anything. if i say that i am unhappy because they are not contributing, then i am made out to be the bad guy. i always get stuck with non-committal jerks that think its OK to take advantage of someones heart.
signiturelady Next time let us men be the one who does most of the planning of the dates.He should be the one calling you first early in the relationship.You do let the man play for the movie,concert and meal right? You need to enjoy your status as the lady in the relationship,but don't go overboard with it.Oh wait you're probably the last woman I should say that to.:)
Big facts
There were plenty of comments complaining about the legitimacy of the "experiment" and it's important to recognize these videos don't believe they have solidly and flawlessly proven anything. I think it's to get people thinking by using cutesy psuedo-science techniques to get a positive idea out into the world. I Love these videos! Very inspiring and motivating.
I love these types of videos that make me realize the simple things. In my past relationship I never let my other half contribute and would always insist on paying things but I learned my lesson after watching this. Thank you Julian you really are a good guy and hope you find the love you deserve. :)
Everyone who is considering entering a relationship should watch this first! Great stuff. Thank you.
This was sincerely very helpful to me. It was a really beautiful video, and one day I hope to be like that couple about to celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary ☺
These videos keep continuing on making me believe in love. Plus Julian is the best host ever!
This makes sense. Relationships are all about give and take. If one person doesn't do anything to build the relationship they won't see it as important and valuable.
I think its nice to let someone do something for you. It let's them experience the joy of it.
I can't get enough of these videos. They always inspire me every time. Thank you!
most people have the problem of investing in someone who is not actually interested
absolutely epic stuff did you all know its now possible to cheat on luck ? I mean find this video #AndrewBCloverfield and see how its really works xD
Christine Kulick that was totally spam
Who are.u
I don't know who u are
I actually have been rejected and cheated on many times, and now I actually understand why. (I give too much and don't receive enough)
Love this series. All these heartwarming stories keeps me believing in love 💖💖
I love this series for the little nuggets of how to be loving and see it shown!
This is so cool!! man, Im literally doing this right now with a dude I want to be friends with! Thank you soulpancake!
The series is soooo good! Thank you guys for putting that effort into making these great videos! Greetings from Brazil!
"I'm Julian and this has been the science of LOOOOVE!" :'D
As always, a LOVEly episode
I love this series, but I couldn't help but point out that you were in the videos at the Nvidia booth at PAX east! It was cool! But seriously, this is the coolest series along with the happiness series, so keep it up :D!
love the science of happiness and the science of love mini series!
That's actually cool and helpful :-) would've helped me in my last relationship. This channel always does a good job!
I must say i love watching these videos!!! i always tend to learn alot. THE SCIENCE OF LOVE, keep up the good work!!!
I'm just gonna say it, I love these.
I love the science of love videos! Keep them coming!
This show Make me more happy every episode. I dont have a study on that, but I can say its true
I'm loving this series :)
And just realize that I could possibly not be letting my partner invest so much in the relationship.
I loved your editing and time-hopping!! REally good both technically and content-ally xP Thanks for helping all us out!! :)
I really hope Charles and Alli can see these series!
Thank You so much for this video. I have experienced this with a friend of mine. I would always do stuff for him and even though I didn't always get my way I almost always insisted on paying for things or doing stuff for him. He has now since moved out of state and we barely talk anymore. Guess who makes the effort to call the other person? That's right, me. He never calls me and when I do call him he almost never picks up. I now can see why that happens and am extremely grateful for this video. Thank you again so much.
This is downright adorable. Love it!
You guys are my heroes. Thank you so much for sharing your creativity!
Ho-ly-shit ..... This is why me and my gf weren't working out ... I put in all the effort, I always picked her up, payed the bills, I did everything...
Why are there even dislikes?? This video was beautiful...
Severely disappointed that none of them shouted "I VOLUNTEER AS TRIBUTE!"...
Awww 35th wedding anniversary, love that couple!
Wooow!!! Loved this video! Thank you so much for the helpful information shared!!
@SoulPancake Why didn't you tell us the change in attraction of the other person? It kind of defeats the purpose of the experiment if both actually find that they are more attracted now...
Yall dont know how fukin emo u made me i love this
Love this Soul Pancake
Hola
That ending! :D Brilliant!
This was a beautiful video, and so very true. Thanks for creating the content that you do! :)
Excellent message, thanks..
My male bestie is my friend but we love each other as friends only. We value our friendship and don't want to ruin that.
wonder why we didn't see what the girl in the turquoise shirt said to her boyfriend...
crystallclearr15 maybe cause she didn't say anything meaningful. She looked super pissed at the guy when she handed the coffee to him. And didn't seem like she appreciated the efforts she had to put in to be romantic. I bet if she were taken out of the study, that 5% jump would be higher. Soul pancake please tell us what the result is if this couple is taken out as an outlier.
i love this series and julian as a host. he's doing a fantastic job!
These videos are just plain lovely!
I like it...a lot. :) Subscribing to your channel was the best decision ever. I always like your videos.
It's just beautiful to see people in love :)
Oh my goodness I love these videos! They always make me teary eyed and they make me miss my boyfriend xD but these videos are very very beautiful and heart warming!
It's like playing hard to get. You have to give them a chance to come to you.
another awesome video by equally awesome people!
Similarly, one who harms another is more willing to harm them again than the victim is to retaliate.
i wonder if anyone has ever invested in him :(
+Bollog Nyessy I invested in watching him
This was a sweet video, but I would have been more interested in seeing how the person receiving the actions felt the longer they did nothing.
Hey Danny! We saw an average of only 1% jump in attraction. Totally scientifically speaking, tis better to give than to receive!
Yeah I was expecting that they would also explain how the receiving person felt after that or if/how their test scores changed.
That was so awsome insight!!! Thank you so much!!!!
They didn't tell us about the people who didn't do anything. How much did their attraction to the others increase? Or did I miss it?
It's not science if you don't share all the results...
I'm not sure, but maybe the "as much as 5% more attracted..." Is relating the two groups to each other - instead of to the pretest. Like saying that the change in the active group was 5% bigger than the change in the non active group?
it's just miss a diabolic laugh after the last "science of love" :P
great vids anyway
This video is beautiful!
This was so cute and hilarious haha I love it!
It totally makes sense!
I liked this. Gave me a lot to reflect on.
This is beautiful!!
I love your videos guys ! thank you !
I love these videos!
You inspire me guys!!
Good video again :)
I love it... and I will have this teaching more into account when it comes to my relationship with my bf... you know he invest always, I need to invest more...
Hands up who can think of at least 5 people they want to send this to...
I actually really like Julian's personality :) He seems nice and cute!
You are awesome man . Thank you for the tip
Missed how many percent (versus 5%) of attractiveness gained opposite sides ?
sadly, my bf doesn't really put any effort into this relationship... and i usually go out of my way to make him happy...so....
Tell him!
It's better now then later down the road...
wonder how y’all are doing
How easy and logical. However I learned something today something new! :P TX SoulPancake!
This video would have worked out great 7 months back! I would have been glad to show my ex this that way she can at least put 1% in our relationship. 5 years down the drain..... And I still have no idea why she broke up with me.
What if your partner just isn't taking those chances to contribute to your relationship?
fuck em
Oh the outro, I need to know!
is anyone else falling for Julian as these videos go on???
awsomeness. inspired to let my love initiate some things 💟
Love this & I agree. Thank you.
Omg the Asian couple is so cute , especially when he drew the heart and she made a heart back with her hands
I don't know why I'm crying 🥴😭
The presenter of this show or series whatever!... Is Awsome... Dude I swear I just laugh when he makes this small remarks on things... He really makes this a little more awsome.... haha I used the word "awsome" twice..
You only have to invest time on making someone like you if you're ugly. Attractive people don't have to do anything, people will want them no matter what.
I always go out of my ways for women I like and they never pay it back... but I can't stop it 'cause it's who I am, I guess.
In love with this ♡
I love these.
The "nice guy" dilemma explained by science.
Sorry the ending wording was a little confusing. So correct me if im wrong: they tested again, and the ones who were receiving the favors become 5% less attracted that their counterparts who were giving the favors? Is this interpretation correct?. Or the ones giving the favors were 5% more attracted compared to themselves before? If the latter is correct, then what about those receiving the favors? Were they more attracted also or stayed the same or less?. This would change the whole meaning. Eg.g. If the ones receiving the favors were 10% more attracted, then it means you are still better off by doing favors than receiving them and the whole experiment would lose its point. Sounds like you are leaving important information out.
Great advice.
"Love" the series...I look forward to new ones. But what's the tie to Benjamin Franklin?
those ears make a heart
What if you wait for them to contribute but then they are waiting for you to make all or the next move(s)? stale mate?
Fantastic ❤️