15:28 - Is Op wrong for expecting his players to meet with him before the campaign starts? 26:21 - Is the OP an AH for reminding people of their abilities? 34:22 - Is OP the AH for not listening while they are not in the scene. (Titlecard) 44:49 - Did OP go to far trying to kill another PC? 53:05 - Is OP being unreasonable? 58:28 - Is OP's DM being unreasonable?
A good way to avoid metagaming without tuning out of other people's scenes is to take notes only on things your character learns. So if you remember something in a moment and aren't sure if you're character knows it you can just skim your notes to figure that out.
THIS! 💯 So helpful! Sometimes if it seems like major information that maybe that character will share later (especially if they share by saying something like "I explain everything about X"), I will still take notes in the moment, but I put a check box next to the info. When your character eventually learns about that information, you can check the box! And if they don't, then the empty box is a reminder as well haha
It's just one thing, but I feel like there's so many times players get out of 1 on 1 situations with an NPC and will say "I tell the party everything" to have a player respond with "tell us all of what? I wasn't listening, what happened?" Would be so so frustrating
Third Topic: I agree and disagree with your take on it. It is kind of disrespectful of them to be not paying attention, but if it's so ingrained in them that if they pay attention they'll accidentally do it, then maybe them not paying attention when they're not around is the way to do it. Also, the example of the party planning something and then OP messing it up because they weren't listening wouldn't be a thing, because I'd assume OP would be involved in the creation of that plan, so they'd be attentive for that. This sounds more like "Character A is going off to meet with an NPC by themselves, so I'm gonna go on my phone while they do whatever it is they're doing, and if they want to share what happened between them and the NPC when they get back, then I'll pay attention." If that's how they're doing it, then they aren't exactly in the wrong, because they're not involved in the scene, and if it's nothing important or something only important to the other character that they're keeping secret or that is super-minor and doesn't matter overall, then OP doesn't -need- to be 100% invested in that, because even though it's happening to a party member in their group, it isn't something that necessarily affects their character or the party as a whole.
It cannot be underestimated how intimidating making a character is when you’re new. I needed a help. The DM should always be willing to do that. When teaching new players, session 0 is expectations, rules, character creation, and a small combat to introduce mechanics. The last is optional, BUT I’ve had fantastic success because it highlights issues in builds, gives the player a chance to decide if they want to change anything, but it also removes the scary unknown of how those mechanics work, and each time at least one person says, “thank you so much, I was really nervous, but now I’m actually looking forward to our first session.”
Not about any of the topics but! With any sort of thing that adheres to the skin like those heat pads jack was struggling with (or like the thing i have the most experience with: kinesiology tape) it always helps to, on top of cleaning the skin with like soap and water, to ALSO clean it with some sort of alcohol wipes (or putting some on a cotton pad or something) and THEN applying. It makes SURE there's no oils or anything else on the skin that could make the adhesive less effective. But I also have never had much luck with those heating pads staying on especially on the back, so you are NOT alone. I definitely recommend just getting some sort of heating pad you can put in the microwave or recharge or something that has a strap so you can strap it on whatever part of your body is giving you troubles and that way you aren't beholden to a cord like with the electric ones that plug into the wall.
With the Warforged issue, OP could have taken the opportunity to learn from the Warforged. If NO Warforged exist, this Warforged is probably your only point of reference to learn what really happened. Also congrats on the award!!!!! You dweebs on the internet deserve it ❤️
Re: the Warforged character (edit now that I finished the point fully LMAO) I'd be a lot more willing to extend the bridge to a character who I know would last the sometimes months it could take to have those emotional scenes and bonding moments than I would be to a character who might be gone in five sessions because the player was bored of playing them. This isn't a cry against people who enjoy character swapping, I enjoy it, too! I'm the type who tries to make short-term characters to help other people's stories, though, and I think there needs to be a lot more communication and trust for the long and short-term character playstyles to mesh well. *Especially* if this were the character's first interaction with a Warforged since their disappearance, I personally would try to avoid doing something so confrontational unless they had said they were willing to explore that.
First story, I just don't think they are the right table for all the effort of the campaign. It feels crucial to have people that can make the time and all your effort a priority. If they can't/won't they might not be the right player(s)
Been playing Baldur’s gate again and then some supermassive games so not had the same time for podcasts, enjoying the fact I’ve got like four episodes to watch whilst I do some work 😎
Fourth Topic: I have to wonder if that player had an issue with OP, and created that character hoping that they would have that reaction just to have a reason to get them kicked out of the group. Like, why else would someone create a character from an extinct race that one of your players explicitly hates? Unless you're trying to go for a "not all warforged" story between the two characters, which is entirely dependent on the non-warforged character not having this exact initial reaction, as well as all the interactions between the two characters going better and the warforged character working to change the other character's perspective, I can't think of another reason to do this other than to piss off the other character. If the player is the type of person, as OP describes, who just makes characters and abandons them when they get bored of them, then I'm betting that their plan was to have fun by trolling OP, having this character that their character hates, but because they're a player character, OP can't kill them, and would take advantage of that fact until OP did, in fact, attack and kill them. Just a gut feeling on that, though, based on the limited information provided.
Ok so the penultimate story annoys me. I've been the DM and player where games have been cancelled due fo external factors. On the onw hand it sucks on the other if you're more then making a joke about being dad you've missed again then boo on you. If gou guys have enoguh players to play, talk and establish ground rules. I've played on gsmes where we play if one player is missing unless the DM thinks its a big story moment this is the tatic I like. It does however depend on the party. Of my groups most of them are once a fortnight which is great, my preference. The other well, it's more likely to have the odd off session, so we play more frequently to make up for it. Another of my table we've devised a light off campaign for when one or two are missing and if we cannot play either we just chat.
15:28 - Is Op wrong for expecting his players to meet with him before the campaign starts?
26:21 - Is the OP an AH for reminding people of their abilities?
34:22 - Is OP the AH for not listening while they are not in the scene. (Titlecard)
44:49 - Did OP go to far trying to kill another PC?
53:05 - Is OP being unreasonable?
58:28 - Is OP's DM being unreasonable?
@@TotallyNotAGrizzly THANK YOUUUUUU!!!!!
A good way to avoid metagaming without tuning out of other people's scenes is to take notes only on things your character learns. So if you remember something in a moment and aren't sure if you're character knows it you can just skim your notes to figure that out.
THIS! 💯 So helpful!
Sometimes if it seems like major information that maybe that character will share later (especially if they share by saying something like "I explain everything about X"), I will still take notes in the moment, but I put a check box next to the info. When your character eventually learns about that information, you can check the box! And if they don't, then the empty box is a reminder as well haha
It's just one thing, but I feel like there's so many times players get out of 1 on 1 situations with an NPC and will say "I tell the party everything" to have a player respond with "tell us all of what? I wasn't listening, what happened?" Would be so so frustrating
That is a valid point. Fortunately it seems like this table sorted it out.
Third Topic: I agree and disagree with your take on it. It is kind of disrespectful of them to be not paying attention, but if it's so ingrained in them that if they pay attention they'll accidentally do it, then maybe them not paying attention when they're not around is the way to do it. Also, the example of the party planning something and then OP messing it up because they weren't listening wouldn't be a thing, because I'd assume OP would be involved in the creation of that plan, so they'd be attentive for that. This sounds more like "Character A is going off to meet with an NPC by themselves, so I'm gonna go on my phone while they do whatever it is they're doing, and if they want to share what happened between them and the NPC when they get back, then I'll pay attention." If that's how they're doing it, then they aren't exactly in the wrong, because they're not involved in the scene, and if it's nothing important or something only important to the other character that they're keeping secret or that is super-minor and doesn't matter overall, then OP doesn't -need- to be 100% invested in that, because even though it's happening to a party member in their group, it isn't something that necessarily affects their character or the party as a whole.
It cannot be underestimated how intimidating making a character is when you’re new. I needed a help. The DM should always be willing to do that.
When teaching new players, session 0 is expectations, rules, character creation, and a small combat to introduce mechanics.
The last is optional, BUT I’ve had fantastic success because it highlights issues in builds, gives the player a chance to decide if they want to change anything, but it also removes the scary unknown of how those mechanics work, and each time at least one person says, “thank you so much, I was really nervous, but now I’m actually looking forward to our first session.”
Not about any of the topics but! With any sort of thing that adheres to the skin like those heat pads jack was struggling with (or like the thing i have the most experience with: kinesiology tape) it always helps to, on top of cleaning the skin with like soap and water, to ALSO clean it with some sort of alcohol wipes (or putting some on a cotton pad or something) and THEN applying. It makes SURE there's no oils or anything else on the skin that could make the adhesive less effective.
But I also have never had much luck with those heating pads staying on especially on the back, so you are NOT alone. I definitely recommend just getting some sort of heating pad you can put in the microwave or recharge or something that has a strap so you can strap it on whatever part of your body is giving you troubles and that way you aren't beholden to a cord like with the electric ones that plug into the wall.
With the Warforged issue, OP could have taken the opportunity to learn from the Warforged. If NO Warforged exist, this Warforged is probably your only point of reference to learn what really happened.
Also congrats on the award!!!!! You dweebs on the internet deserve it ❤️
Thank you Jordddddd 🥺🖤
Imagine telling your friends they can't take a break for personal reasons
Y’all deserved that award so much and I’m really happy that you were rewarded for your efforts!! 💕😭
@@danaslitlist1 Thank you so much Dana 😭🖤
Re: the Warforged character (edit now that I finished the point fully LMAO) I'd be a lot more willing to extend the bridge to a character who I know would last the sometimes months it could take to have those emotional scenes and bonding moments than I would be to a character who might be gone in five sessions because the player was bored of playing them.
This isn't a cry against people who enjoy character swapping, I enjoy it, too! I'm the type who tries to make short-term characters to help other people's stories, though, and I think there needs to be a lot more communication and trust for the long and short-term character playstyles to mesh well. *Especially* if this were the character's first interaction with a Warforged since their disappearance, I personally would try to avoid doing something so confrontational unless they had said they were willing to explore that.
First story, I just don't think they are the right table for all the effort of the campaign. It feels crucial to have people that can make the time and all your effort a priority. If they can't/won't they might not be the right player(s)
Been playing Baldur’s gate again and then some supermassive games so not had the same time for podcasts, enjoying the fact I’ve got like four episodes to watch whilst I do some work 😎
Fourth Topic: I have to wonder if that player had an issue with OP, and created that character hoping that they would have that reaction just to have a reason to get them kicked out of the group. Like, why else would someone create a character from an extinct race that one of your players explicitly hates? Unless you're trying to go for a "not all warforged" story between the two characters, which is entirely dependent on the non-warforged character not having this exact initial reaction, as well as all the interactions between the two characters going better and the warforged character working to change the other character's perspective, I can't think of another reason to do this other than to piss off the other character. If the player is the type of person, as OP describes, who just makes characters and abandons them when they get bored of them, then I'm betting that their plan was to have fun by trolling OP, having this character that their character hates, but because they're a player character, OP can't kill them, and would take advantage of that fact until OP did, in fact, attack and kill them. Just a gut feeling on that, though, based on the limited information provided.
2:57 we also got some fake fall weather
Just started a book called The Unbroken and it's a 12/10 read
Sorry we stole your breeze but I would argue we needed it more lol
Congrats on winning the CRIT Award!!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you so much!!!
Ok so the penultimate story annoys me. I've been the DM and player where games have been cancelled due fo external factors.
On the onw hand it sucks on the other if you're more then making a joke about being dad you've missed again then boo on you.
If gou guys have enoguh players to play, talk and establish ground rules. I've played on gsmes where we play if one player is missing unless the DM thinks its a big story moment this is the tatic I like. It does however depend on the party.
Of my groups most of them are once a fortnight which is great, my preference. The other well, it's more likely to have the odd off session, so we play more frequently to make up for it.
Another of my table we've devised a light off campaign for when one or two are missing and if we cannot play either we just chat.