I hear you but…. This ain’t a prostitution deal lol if he spends money that doesn’t obligate me to have sex with him. I definitely understand keeping it light for a first date but not because of sex. If he thinks that he isn’t the man for me.
I hear you, and I completely agree-this isn’t a transactional deal. Spending money on a date doesn’t obligate anyone to have sex, period. That’s a boundary no one should feel pressured to cross. When I say keeping the first date inexpensive, it’s not because of any obligation tied to sex-it’s about creating a space for genuine connection without added pressure or expectations. Unfortunately, some people do struggle with codependency or people-pleasing tendencies, and that can lead them to feel an unnecessary obligation to make others happy, even at their own expense. Intentional dating means being mindful of your boundaries and prioritizing authentic connection. If someone thinks their financial investment entitles them to something, they’re not the right person to build a meaningful relationship with anyway. Keeping the first date simple is more about setting the tone for honest, mutual connection-not because of external expectations.
Have you ever taken yourself on a date? If so, what did you learn about yourself? If not, what’s holding you back?
I hear you but…. This ain’t a prostitution deal lol if he spends money that doesn’t obligate me to have sex with him. I definitely understand keeping it light for a first date but not because of sex. If he thinks that he isn’t the man for me.
I hear you, and I completely agree-this isn’t a transactional deal. Spending money on a date doesn’t obligate anyone to have sex, period. That’s a boundary no one should feel pressured to cross.
When I say keeping the first date inexpensive, it’s not because of any obligation tied to sex-it’s about creating a space for genuine connection without added pressure or expectations. Unfortunately, some people do struggle with codependency or people-pleasing tendencies, and that can lead them to feel an unnecessary obligation to make others happy, even at their own expense.
Intentional dating means being mindful of your boundaries and prioritizing authentic connection. If someone thinks their financial investment entitles them to something, they’re not the right person to build a meaningful relationship with anyway. Keeping the first date simple is more about setting the tone for honest, mutual connection-not because of external expectations.