@@SarahPaceSings I think it’s in response to the “nerd” statement from the thing he’s reacting to there. Bc us autistic peeps have special interests and get classified as “nerds”. So like basically Sam’s saying “hell yeah, give me a girl who infodumps abt some weird niche interest”, but in a very blunt way, which is where the humor lies
Sam, I agree with you on everything except the 7ish cats take. Me and my 3 and 0.638237 cats are a little offended honestly. Disappointed you'd say something so blatantly anti-decimal cats.
I’ve lived the 7-ish cats life before and it’s awesome 😂 but for me it wasn’t partial cats so much as how many cats on average would deign to be associated with me at any moment. 😂 There’s no love like the conditional love of a cat. ❤
It makes me upset when people hate on those who are in a relationship. In the comment section of a couple I follow someone had said "I hope they both die" and it had SO many likes. The whole comment thread was filled with people complaining about how they cant stand seeing others, who are "undeserving", having a relationship that they "deserve". Literally wishing death upon them :/
People who are not in a relationship and have ill will towards those who are, are the least deserving people to be in a relationship. I don't make the rules here, this is pure fax.
I couldn't imagine; seeing happy people be happy gives me ease and lifts my spirits like "look. there's some good beans. they make the world a better place." Like... for me to want you to die, you gotta like... be abusive or some shit. I want abusers to die, not people in healthy loving relationships. XD Those people I'd rather kill for than want them dead.
You're never too old to date. Just today, I was on a day out with my 75 year old mother and she got hit on TWICE by two different guys. She's got a date with the first guy this weekend.
I've been thinking I'm too old to date even though I'm 24. But it can be hard since all my coworkers and friends are in serious relationships or married. Plus, I'm secretly bi
As someone who dresses modestly, I do it for myself and my own comfort and spirituality. I don't judge others who don't because everyone is different. If someone is dressing in more revealing clothing and they feel so happy and confident, I am literally so happy for them and encouraging. Makes no sense to me why there is judgement going either way. Like I won't ever judge someone for dressing in a way that expresses themselves, and people shouldn't judge me.
i have lots of sensory issues and cannot stand the feeling of tight clothing. im also terrified of men s*xualizing me so i also dress modestly but i love seeing people dress how they want and feeling confident!
I dress modestly outside and scandalously in my house hahahaha. But I do be judging people though. Do I really have to see your fat thighs and small hank hill butt squeezed into shorts 2 sizes smaller than what you need Miss camel toe?? I also don't want to see your underwear through your freaking yoga pants. I dress modestly outside not for me, but because it is common decency. I'm sure that most people don't want to see half my boobs hanging out of my shirt. It's just gross. Keep it at home.
I'm a hairstylist, and most of my clients are retired. They've taught me you're never too old to date. When your loving SO of 40 years passes away, you still might have the want to continue sharing life experiences with someone else by your side. It certainly becomes more difficult in advanced age, but there really is no such thing as too old to date. There really is someone out there for everybody.
exactly! my mom is in her 60's now and always has dudes lining up to date her. she's been divorced since her 40's and is taking her sweet time picking a new husband (if she ever decides to remarry at all). she has a more active and fulfilling social and romantic life than most of my peers (20-30 yr olds)!
My mom and dad got divorced in 2017, she’s 55 and has had a boyfriend for the past year that she’s totally smitten with. There’s someone for everyone :)
This ! My aunt got married to a wonderful man in her late 40s… they’re still going strong almost 10 years later ! She got married when she thought it would never happen again but then there he was !
uh hello, hello? just be aware, these characters do tend to wander at night... they probably won't recognize you as a person and will see you as an endoskeleton without the suit. that means they'll force you into one, causing a bit of discomfort... and probably death.
@@MaiStephaniewell there was the 36 year old lmao but I'm willing to bet a good handful of those are adults, because you can't really be on dating apps until 18 right?
@Ville damn you must have a lot of free time lol. I've seen people replying to you in so many comments and this is the first one I've seen not deleted
Dude the thing you said last, "don't be a nice transgender", gave me some real flashbacks. Like I met this guy once, who's trans like me, and he tried SO HARD to pull the gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss routine by saying it was "just t4t solidarity bro ♥" dude went 0 to stalker within a *month* it was basically tonal whiplash in human form. nobody is safe from the nice guy mentality.
People really underplay what number body dysphoria does on someone’s mental health…. hope he found the help he clearly needs and I’m glad you’re ok, stalking is traumatizing
Idc what anyone says, if a guy is close to his sisters/mother, it’s an immediate green flag. Shows that he respects women and knows how to treat them right.❤✨
I think even young me knew this to an extent. All my male love interests I wrote had little sisters who they treated like princesses and were good to their moms too. Idk why that would be an ick for a girl. Unless it was co-dependent but that's a different story. Maybe they just want to be the only girl in that guy's life and see female family members as a threat.
Only exception being if his mom is a pick-me mega misogynist who will treat anyone who's afab in his proximity like trash, then him being close is a red flag. (Agree with you otherwise though)
@@alyssapinon9670 exactly and it feels a bit incestuous when someone assumes a guy's mother or sister would possibly be a rival. like romantic love is not the only type of love. like what were u thinking???
Anyone else start to fall down the modest dressing rabbit hole before coming out as trans? I definitely did because the idea of being perceived sexually as a woman made me want to die
yeah same. and nowadays whilst I still often just dress masc I definitely have days when I dress wayyyy sluttier than ever before. I'm not a woman because I have boobs I'm just a person happening to have them and wearing clothes that fit. Since I can't hide them (binders wouldn't work unfortunaly) I try my best to own it. And not feeling like I have to be a woman while doing so changed so much about my self image and perception
@Ville you asked what a woman Is, i gave you an answer. Being Born a female and being a woman isnt the same, but if your Brain Is not smart enough to comprehend science then keep your old definitions
@@erdbar718 i love that for you ‼️ after a while of self discovery i’m now at a point where yeah dress however tf you want cuz you know who you are, and no one can undermine that just cuz of what you have physically. sincerely a trans ftm who has embraced crop tops bc clothes are just fabric and i wear them as masc as i want 🫡
@@Widdekuu91 Good point. I suppose it's a matter of tone. There's a difference between just a dialect thing, and a clearly degrading message. Thanks for your insight. Have a great day! :)
@@Widdekuu91it’s partly what was said above^ but also cultural. When women are called females nine times out of ten it’s in a mildly to highly degrading manner. So even if you don’t mean it in a degrading manner, the word is heavily associated with bad experiences. People will say these demeaning things calling us females with a positive tone, because they don’t realize there’s a mental conversion from “women I think is lesser” -> “female”.
I'm a trans woman now, but before I figured all that out at the ripe age of 27, I tried dating online. I called myself a feminist on my profile because it's a major part of who I've always been growing up, and I got two women who harrassed me over it, one of them calling it a "red flag" and the other one posting my profile over social media to make fun of me. The humiliation got to me and I haven't dated anyone since. I was also _physically_ bullied by a girl I had a crush on when I was in middle school, and the trauma from that + my last break up of a healthy 8 year relationship + self-awareness of my own co-dependency has also made me more afraid to date again, too. Not trying to be a downer, but I think people need to know that this stuff is traumatizing. You don't know what someone else has as emotional baggage. Calling them names, attacking their self-worth, and making them feel unsafe is how you break someone who doesn't deserve it. Be kind, people. Also, that one person trying to be nice to the one threatening to stalk their flight... I felt for them so hard. Such emotional maturity, though. I'm genuinely impressed.
@@shay4261 - They basically assumed I was trying to pick up girls using "feminism" as a tag line, which was a "red flag" to... a narcissist or abuser? Which, honestly, I understand the suspicion, but since when do we drag people publicly through the mud over suspicions? I'm less critical of their motives than I am of their malice.
i'm so sorry that happened to you :( people online get sooo trigger happy with any opportunity to make fun of someone sometimes and they'll act like they're righteous for it 😭 it's awful
@@shay4261 Oh, you'd be surprised at how weird some people are! I met a man who claims feminism is a Western idea that's going to destroy his country. The said country has a huge misogynist and sexist problem.
people who talk about how much they hate couples make me so sad bc yk theyre just wildly insecure with themselves and think relationships are the only value in their lives
I never understood the whole getting jealous of a guy's family members. My bf loves his mom and sisters and personally I prefer that because he's grown up with women, respects them and is a lot more sensitive to the problems I have as a woman then other guys I've dated 🤷🏽♀️
When someone uses the term "females" when talking about women , thats already a red flag 😅 nice girls are more of a threat because they arent as expected as nice guys , women are immediately on guard when a random man starts talking to them but not when random women do
The "I have a great personality" on dating profiles are a huge 🚩. It's like when people have to tell others they are a good driver, let your work speak for itself, and it's USUALLY the opposite of what they're saying 😂.
7ish cat probably means one of three things; 1) they're cats that can go outside and there's at least one cat that has moved out as in it left and doesn't come back except for the occasional visit. over the years, I've had that happen with two cats. especially when you have multiple male unneutered cat in the same area, one may look for a new territory 2) she's a hoarder and hasn't seen some of them in a while (might be buried under junk), and they're constantly getting pregnant bc she doesn't have the time or money to get her cats neutered 3) bestie can't count
I think like nice girls feel so much worse than nice guys because instead of men being mad at women, it's women being mad at other women because of men so instead of misogyny, there's added internalized misogyny as well. So trying to stand out as 'the one good one' feels worse cause now you're not just saying the others have these bad traits (like how some nice guys might general say other guys are assholes or aggressive), you're just bashing femininity and/or individuality as a whole (the Miami woman comes to mind, bashing women for dressing as they please, and then ofc the classic 'popular girl vs me' posts that tried to shame women for liking certain colors or whatever). The way some women will relentlessly trash other women who've done nothing wrong simply because of thoughts they have due to a society built by men is just insane. Idk, that's my two cents
I’ve always said this, if guys dislike you they wil be aggressive and mean to your face, if girls dislike you, they will go behind your back and ruin your reputation, bc unlike guys, they know exactly how to hurt you.
One thing that I've learned is that if someone is telling you what a great person they are, you better run! Good people don't have to tell you how good they are, you will just see it in their actions. It's a big red flag most of the time. Protect yourselves out there, everyone.
Tip for anyone who feels it necessary to,point out how nice they are: Being a good person, or “different than most” in a good/interesting way, or being a “catch” are things OTHER PEOPLE SAY ABOUT YOU. If you feel you have to spread the word yourself, chances are (and anyone hearing you proclaim it knows) it is a lie. Genuinely kind people don’t brag about how kind they are or complain that they are not getting their due respect specifically because they are, in fact, kind. Kind people fully understand the cost associated with being kind, which is the fact that kindness is not transactional…in that kindness is not often/always reciprocated, so being kind has to be its own reward.
exactly and genuinely kind people are rare, so the fact that there are so many “nice guys” and “nice girls” on tinder should already be a red flag in itself
idk man I'm aware of the things I try to do for others, i try to follow the golden rule as best as I can and get sad when it isnt returned, hoping one day it will be
@@HyLo-rule yeah, but you know it is sometimes not reciprocated and I bet you are still kind anyway…it is disappointing when people are jerky for no discernible reason. I have had to talk with both of our children about that. Tough lesson. They say they don’t understand and I tell them, “it’s because it doesn’t make sense.” And we talk about how hard it is when that happens. And how they would feel about themselves if they were to decide to just be a jerk back…on the surface, it may be very satisfying, but it can also bring guilt with it, which is nothing to thrust on oneself.🤷🏻♀️
Hi. I'm a girl who doesn't really have the best self esteem. I'm familiar that good compliments from other people are the way to go. It's sorta confusing for me since I can get too wrapped up in what other people say about me while at the same time, not feeling enough for myself. I just wanted to put that out there since you seem like a nice person. Sending a lot of blessings to you and your family!! 💗🌼 Thanks for the tip
There is definitely something to be said about predatory moms and just parents in general that have too much control over their adult child. But as someone who now has a pretty good relationship with my mom and whole family, after a lot of apologizing and forgiving, it is really rare and beautiful to have a positive relationship with your family members.
I used to be really bad about this kind of mindset, when I was younger. Everyone would always be nice to me and tell me how cool I was and shit, but no one ever wanted to date me or be good friends with me. And, at some point, I had to step back and say, "No, if everyone sees something wrong with me, I gotta figure that ish out." Like. You have to be accountable for your actions and behaviors at a certain point. And I did a lot of introspection, and realized I was being kinda condescending with people sometimes, and realized a bunch of childhood trauma nonsense was peeking through in random places in my life. And you know what? Changed that stuff as best as I could. Part of growing up is learning how to be the best You that you can, and for me it's controlling how much of a dick I am sometimes. And since learning to control that? Absolutely no problem with any social stuff. Licherally just out here vibin' knowing that it's not personal if someone doesn't like me and it's nothing I need to be concerned with. Does it suck if someone I care for hurts me? Sure. People gonna people. But do I take that as some "boohoo I'm unlovable" crap anymore? Thank god not. Gotta kill that ego crap that tells you you're better than others for whatever reason. It makes you a lot happier overall.
That is very mature of you… I wish you all the best with continuing to heal from your trauma.. I wish you all the best with you social endeavors and I hope you find people that truly value you. You deserve it ❤
As a non-modest woman, I would absolutely watch and support a channel that gives advice and style tips on how to dress modestly in warm areas while staying fashionable (gives me great ideas for what to wear at work events!). The problem is so many of these “modest women” are SO judgmental towards other women that it turns me off to the content completely. How are you going to encourage modesty while insulting the very people you’re trying to turn towards modesty? Just talk about yourself and why YOU made that decision
I’m not like other girls I’m not like other guys I’m not like anything you’ve ever seen before I’m just a really REALLY small potato in your cabinet that fell out of the sack and is starting to sprout 🌱
There is nothing wrong with dressing modestly or showing skin. What IS wrong is putting others down just so that you can feel superior to them. It's very immature behaviour.
There are three paths the "I'm not like other girls" teens take 1. Grow out of it and become well adjusted people 2. They become a 'nice girl's 3. Turns out they were right, but that's because they're trans
11:14 it’s not always a bad thing, but often if a guy is best friends with his mom than you will always be second to her. I’ve seen so many stories of mother in laws being flat out abusive to girlfriends and wife’s because she’s “trying to take my son from me” and the son just refuses to see that anything is wrong, or even if he does see that his mom is in the wrong refuses to stand up to her.
That, or a guy being super close to his mum CAN be a sign that he can't take care of himself like a grown adult, bc his mum has always done everything for him (cleaning up after him, laundry, booking his apts, cooking his every meal etc.). When you are an able bodied adult you shouldn't have mummy slaving away after you.
well, to be honest, i see the point at not dating a "mommy's little boy". it's rarely a healthy relationship. these moms usually have very strong separation anxiety (even though their sons are adults), and you, as his girlfriend, have to deal with all that comes with it. it's not about you two, it's about you, him and his mom for some reason.
I can't help but feel pity for these women that grow overly attached to their sons, as this is another example of how, in a patriarchal society, a woman's worth is determined by her relationship status, and marrying and producing offspring, particularly sons that can carry on the family name, raises her status and improves how she's treated.
YAYY another amazing video by the legend!!! Btw i just wanna say good work with the video, i know us (your fans) appreciate you and the time you take out of your day to make us content. Thank you for being you and for inspiring so many young trans people and young men (like myself). You are amazing and i hope you have an amazing day because you deserve it!
There are "nice guys" who generally like to claim to be superior but then treat people with terrible disregard even when it's pretty polite. You are right that there is a counterpart, but it's not the same. Often these "nice guy" comments come from people who have clearly made someone uncomfortable. And yet they keep going.... Are women capable of the same YES. But the point is don't try pretend be a nice guy if someone seems uncomfortable with your actions. Male or female. This is good basic advice, don't harass or stalk someone.
Was anyone else a "nice girl" in middle achool saying the whole "im not like other girls" but then later realized its because you're not a girl. Just me? Okay.
Yeah, I was very proud about not being "like the other girls." I wore my tomboy badge like it made me better than "all the other girls." I also made a comment during a theatre production about needing someone to do my makeup because, "I'm not a real woman." Which was ridiculous on so many levels (first, everyone in theatre should be able to do their own makeup and that was a weakness I should have worked on, and second, women don't have to wear makeup to be 'real women,' and third, men can wear makeup too). I always despised "girly girls" until I finally realized that it's because I saw them as who I thought society was pushing me to be. I was projecting myself in their place and being repulsed by the idea of myself in that way. A friend in college dressed me up one night, and I felt confident about being attractive to other people, but I didn't feel like me. I'm 31, and it has been a very long road to figuring out who I am. I'm honestly still not entirely sure where I am on the gender spectrum, but I'm leaning toward transmasc, and I'm definitely not a woman. Just thinking of myself as a woman or being referred to as a woman makes me cringe.
The bit about girls who are jealous of their man's relationship with the women in his family hit a little too close to home. My cousin almost married a girl who was jealous of me and my grandma because of how close we were to him (he lives so far away I hadn't seen him since before they even got together but OK 🤨). Anywayyy... they broke up recently, and I feel really bad for him but at the same time, bullet DODGED.
man people like this that are so infatuated with themselves and their own gigantic ego really need to experience a single day with anxiety. like seriously, please, it'll do us all some good
Let's just respect each other for what we wear please? Modest or sexy, we all deserve respect. We must stand up against the predatory, perverted men that want to sexualize us for anything we wear and demand they view us as human beings first
"boohoo i'm 36 and too old to date" meanwhile my mum and her partner (of 10 years&counting) met aged 45, 2 of my aunts found new partners and got married in their 50's i don't date but if i did i feel like mid-late 30's would be the best time to actually look seriously to potentially find someone long-term since ideally you'd have yourself and your life somewhat figured out
Okay, I legitimately had this epiphany yesterday. I was watching TV and I'm 26F and I thought about how all my friends who are 30+ DREADED their 30th birthday and I contemplated this and thought, I CAN'T WAIT FOR MY 30s! I feel like my teens are when I was learning to human, 20s I am learning to adult, 30s I'll be in my groove and still young enough to engage in youthful shenanigans, 40s I swear sound like they will be my prime, and heck if I'm still alive past 50 I'll just be happy to be here
I'm not like other girls. I sing musicals loudly and often and in public and it unnerves people because I get a little too into it and then run into windows and glass doors like a bird.
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Have you tried _not_ running into things? Just a thought! ;-)
lm in my 50s. lve taken a 9 year break from "dating" and lm transitioning. You have to be emotionally available for a person to find you attractive and lm not talking about anything physical. You have to be a reasonable person, who is ready to accept other people's point of view and other people's differences. lts not all about you, it's also about them. That's what a relationship is all about. Take a break and work on yourself. Going from one relationship to the other without learning and growing wont help you. Having insight into your faults and limitations will help you to be open and honest. lf you are not prepared to be honest, then really dont bother. Make sure you have reasonable and respectful expectations and boundaries. Look up what to watch out for ie: red flags, in the first few weeks of a relationship so you can end it before you get hooked if there is any signs of coercion or control.
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I’m not like other girls. I eat bugs off the floor, I crawl on all fours, and I levitate at 3 AM while chanting in archaic Greek.
this is a green flag
Reagan?
@Ville_xthat’s… not funny-
@Ville you should take an "l" out of your name because you're fucking VILE.
@@SupraMan38totally. Smash
I’m not like other girls, I have vivid hallucinations of being a puppet made of twigs and leaves
Are you a voodoo doll?
That's ok, just don't date someone made of open flame.
smash
But the flame princess from adventure time is so hoooot!
Groot? Is that you?
Seriously nobody in here is talking abt Sam dropping “I want a bitch with autism” on us? I fucking screamed, it was incredible
Im not sure if I got it, it hurt my feelings :(
@@SarahPaceSings I think it’s in response to the “nerd” statement from the thing he’s reacting to there. Bc us autistic peeps have special interests and get classified as “nerds”. So like basically Sam’s saying “hell yeah, give me a girl who infodumps abt some weird niche interest”, but in a very blunt way, which is where the humor lies
Im taking it as a compliment tbh
@@SarahPaceSings don’t let it! he meant it as a joke, not against us. he’s actually pretty accepting! i’m autistic too :) ❤❤❤
@Ville_xthank you for removing this persons autism diagnosis by simply saying "no".
im not like other girls
because im not a girl 🕺🕺
are you an alien?
@@SupraMan38we’re floating blobs
Me fr
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I'm nonbinary so this is exactly what I was gonna put. Haha
"I have an AMAZING personality" whilst in the same post calling other women bitches. The self awareness is ripe with this one.
i think im a neat person (sometimes lol) but i don't scream it at oncoming people im just vibin with my hobbies and if we get along thats cool
I went through the
"I'm not like other girls"
To
"I think I like girls"
To
"I'm not a girl"
Pipeline.
Wait I did too😮
BRO SAME
Sam, I agree with you on everything except the 7ish cats take. Me and my 3 and 0.638237 cats are a little offended honestly. Disappointed you'd say something so blatantly anti-decimal cats.
Does this mean that my kitty missing her back paw only counts as a percentage of a whole cat? 😆
I’ve lived the 7-ish cats life before and it’s awesome 😂 but for me it wasn’t partial cats so much as how many cats on average would deign to be associated with me at any moment. 😂 There’s no love like the conditional love of a cat. ❤
Aw hell nah... you got schrödinger's cat 😢
@@ElenaV.1314 that’s a solid 9/10ths of a cat ❤😂 sounds 10/10ths of super cute!
Please don’t cancel me :(
she’ll put you through a series of steps and tests, she’s not like other girls because she’s jigsaw.
This comment has me rollinggggg😭😭
Lmfao 😂
is her name amanda by any chance
It makes me upset when people hate on those who are in a relationship. In the comment section of a couple I follow someone had said "I hope they both die" and it had SO many likes. The whole comment thread was filled with people complaining about how they cant stand seeing others, who are "undeserving", having a relationship that they "deserve". Literally wishing death upon them :/
@Ville you replied so... Clearly you do 💀
it's so much projection and just jealousy it's pathetic.... really hope those people gain some self awareness someday
@Bigheartoneggshells wow👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 amen
People who are not in a relationship and have ill will towards those who are, are the least deserving people to be in a relationship.
I don't make the rules here, this is pure fax.
I couldn't imagine; seeing happy people be happy gives me ease and lifts my spirits like "look. there's some good beans. they make the world a better place."
Like... for me to want you to die, you gotta like... be abusive or some shit. I want abusers to die, not people in healthy loving relationships. XD Those people I'd rather kill for than want them dead.
You're never too old to date. Just today, I was on a day out with my 75 year old mother and she got hit on TWICE by two different guys. She's got a date with the first guy this weekend.
Awww that's so cute. I hope it goes well
I've been thinking I'm too old to date even though I'm 24. But it can be hard since all my coworkers and friends are in serious relationships or married. Plus, I'm secretly bi
Nice 👌🏽
Wow, she's is still in the game! I bet your mom is a really strong, confident woman ❤
@@abi_cat28Im bi and 28 and still single. You're fine honey
As someone who dresses modestly, I do it for myself and my own comfort and spirituality. I don't judge others who don't because everyone is different. If someone is dressing in more revealing clothing and they feel so happy and confident, I am literally so happy for them and encouraging. Makes no sense to me why there is judgement going either way. Like I won't ever judge someone for dressing in a way that expresses themselves, and people shouldn't judge me.
Same here! I’m not confident enough to show off my body more, so when I see someone doing so it makes me happy for them :).
i have lots of sensory issues and cannot stand the feeling of tight clothing. im also terrified of men s*xualizing me so i also dress modestly but i love seeing people dress how they want and feeling confident!
I dress modestly outside and scandalously in my house hahahaha. But I do be judging people though. Do I really have to see your fat thighs and small hank hill butt squeezed into shorts 2 sizes smaller than what you need Miss camel toe?? I also don't want to see your underwear through your freaking yoga pants. I dress modestly outside not for me, but because it is common decency. I'm sure that most people don't want to see half my boobs hanging out of my shirt. It's just gross. Keep it at home.
I agree because I live in tight revealing clothes but I’ve never judged someone for dressing modest. It’s just preference, neither is inherently bad
Ok girl then its not about you
I'm a hairstylist, and most of my clients are retired. They've taught me you're never too old to date. When your loving SO of 40 years passes away, you still might have the want to continue sharing life experiences with someone else by your side. It certainly becomes more difficult in advanced age, but there really is no such thing as too old to date. There really is someone out there for everybody.
exactly! my mom is in her 60's now and always has dudes lining up to date her. she's been divorced since her 40's and is taking her sweet time picking a new husband (if she ever decides to remarry at all). she has a more active and fulfilling social and romantic life than most of my peers (20-30 yr olds)!
My mom and dad got divorced in 2017, she’s 55 and has had a boyfriend for the past year that she’s totally smitten with. There’s someone for everyone :)
This ! My aunt got married to a wonderful man in her late 40s… they’re still going strong almost 10 years later ! She got married when she thought it would never happen again but then there he was !
My parents divorced at 49, now my dad is 55 and his girlfriend just proposed 🤷♀️ it's never too late!
"You're in Miami, get fucked up" should be the tourist boards new slogan
i’m not like other girls. i have a metal endo-skeleton. i am like the animatronics. i get a little quirky at night.
uh hello, hello? just be aware, these characters do tend to wander at night... they probably won't recognize you as a person and will see you as an endoskeleton without the suit. that means they'll force you into one, causing a bit of discomfort... and probably death.
It’s ok tho, they only gotta survive 5 nights and they’re good!
Har har har har har haaarrre har har har harrrrr har har har haarrrr har har har
😂😂😂😂😂😂
FURBY?😮
You make me so happy. You just simply existing makes my world such a better place.
wow thank u so much
@@SupraMan38 idk why I read that in a sarcastic tone 💀😭
@@rivroyerr NO ME TOO LIKE I CAN PICTURE HIM SAYING IT LMAO
True; he's a good bean, makes the world better. UuU
I remember going through this phase, but I was a teenager and grew out of it. I hope these people are okay...
Same.
Thank god I'm not the only one who had a phase like this. I cringe just thinking about it...
They’re probably all teenagers too
@@MaiStephaniewell there was the 36 year old lmao but I'm willing to bet a good handful of those are adults, because you can't really be on dating apps until 18 right?
I’m not like other girls I’m nonbinary
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@Ville you aren't real
@Ville_xyour bitches aren't real
I am non-binary and proud!
@Ville damn you must have a lot of free time lol. I've seen people replying to you in so many comments and this is the first one I've seen not deleted
Dude the thing you said last, "don't be a nice transgender", gave me some real flashbacks. Like I met this guy once, who's trans like me, and he tried SO HARD to pull the gaslight, gatekeep, girlboss routine by saying it was "just t4t solidarity bro ♥"
dude went 0 to stalker within a *month* it was basically tonal whiplash in human form. nobody is safe from the nice guy mentality.
that's insane, i'm glad you're out of that now
People really underplay what number body dysphoria does on someone’s mental health…. hope he found the help he clearly needs and I’m glad you’re ok, stalking is traumatizing
Idc what anyone says, if a guy is close to his sisters/mother, it’s an immediate green flag. Shows that he respects women and knows how to treat them right.❤✨
THIS RIGHT HERE!
I think even young me knew this to an extent. All my male love interests I wrote had little sisters who they treated like princesses and were good to their moms too. Idk why that would be an ick for a girl. Unless it was co-dependent but that's a different story.
Maybe they just want to be the only girl in that guy's life and see female family members as a threat.
preach
Only exception being if his mom is a pick-me mega misogynist who will treat anyone who's afab in his proximity like trash, then him being close is a red flag.
(Agree with you otherwise though)
@@alyssapinon9670 exactly and it feels a bit incestuous when someone assumes a guy's mother or sister would possibly be a rival.
like romantic love is not the only type of love. like what were u thinking???
"I want a bitch with autism" had me cackling
As a bitch with autism, I almost spit my chicken and yelled "my time has come!"
Sorry I don't date people who like my mental disability for bad reasons.
Anyone else start to fall down the modest dressing rabbit hole before coming out as trans? I definitely did because the idea of being perceived sexually as a woman made me want to die
yeah same. and nowadays whilst I still often just dress masc I definitely have days when I dress wayyyy sluttier than ever before. I'm not a woman because I have boobs I'm just a person happening to have them and wearing clothes that fit. Since I can't hide them (binders wouldn't work unfortunaly) I try my best to own it. And not feeling like I have to be a woman while doing so changed so much about my self image and perception
@Ville the opposit end of Man in the gender spectrum, woman Is a social construct percived differently by different people
@Ville you asked what a woman Is, i gave you an answer. Being Born a female and being a woman isnt the same, but if your Brain Is not smart enough to comprehend science then keep your old definitions
@Ville it actually Is not, im going to correct my past comment because my autocorrector Is shit and does whatever tf it wants
@@erdbar718 i love that for you ‼️ after a while of self discovery i’m now at a point where yeah dress however tf you want cuz you know who you are, and no one can undermine that just cuz of what you have physically. sincerely a trans ftm who has embraced crop tops bc clothes are just fabric and i wear them as masc as i want 🫡
The second you call women "females" is the second your opinion becomes invalid
As a foreign female, with a language that does not have the two differences, I often use the word female.
@@Widdekuu91 Good point. I suppose it's a matter of tone. There's a difference between just a dialect thing, and a clearly degrading message. Thanks for your insight. Have a great day! :)
@@Widdekuu91it’s partly what was said above^ but also cultural. When women are called females nine times out of ten it’s in a mildly to highly degrading manner. So even if you don’t mean it in a degrading manner, the word is heavily associated with bad experiences. People will say these demeaning things calling us females with a positive tone, because they don’t realize there’s a mental conversion from “women I think is lesser” -> “female”.
Exactly. Female is literally an adjective, not a noun. It's like constantly referring to a black person as a "black". It's degrading.
Absolutely. "Females", "female nature", etc. Avoid like the plague.
“Hookers aren’t free, that’s the point of a hooker” I don’t know why they made me laugh so hard
in regards to 4:01 if you don't resolve past trauma, especially in relationships, you'll bleed on someone who never cut you
Damn that’s profound.
I'm a trans woman now, but before I figured all that out at the ripe age of 27, I tried dating online. I called myself a feminist on my profile because it's a major part of who I've always been growing up, and I got two women who harrassed me over it, one of them calling it a "red flag" and the other one posting my profile over social media to make fun of me. The humiliation got to me and I haven't dated anyone since.
I was also _physically_ bullied by a girl I had a crush on when I was in middle school, and the trauma from that + my last break up of a healthy 8 year relationship + self-awareness of my own co-dependency has also made me more afraid to date again, too.
Not trying to be a downer, but I think people need to know that this stuff is traumatizing. You don't know what someone else has as emotional baggage. Calling them names, attacking their self-worth, and making them feel unsafe is how you break someone who doesn't deserve it. Be kind, people.
Also, that one person trying to be nice to the one threatening to stalk their flight... I felt for them so hard. Such emotional maturity, though. I'm genuinely impressed.
"wow, you value womens rights?? thats so cringe. im gonna humiliate you online to all my followers"
where is the logic 🤣
@@shay4261 - They basically assumed I was trying to pick up girls using "feminism" as a tag line, which was a "red flag" to... a narcissist or abuser? Which, honestly, I understand the suspicion, but since when do we drag people publicly through the mud over suspicions? I'm less critical of their motives than I am of their malice.
i'm so sorry that happened to you :( people online get sooo trigger happy with any opportunity to make fun of someone sometimes and they'll act like they're righteous for it 😭 it's awful
Damn that sucks. Sorry you dealt with that shit. XmmX
@@shay4261 Oh, you'd be surprised at how weird some people are! I met a man who claims feminism is a Western idea that's going to destroy his country. The said country has a huge misogynist and sexist problem.
Sam's voice is so soothing. He should make audiobooks.
i would listen to those
people who talk about how much they hate couples make me so sad bc yk theyre just wildly insecure with themselves and think relationships are the only value in their lives
I never understood the whole getting jealous of a guy's family members. My bf loves his mom and sisters and personally I prefer that because he's grown up with women, respects them and is a lot more sensitive to the problems I have as a woman then other guys I've dated 🤷🏽♀️
When someone uses the term "females" when talking about women , thats already a red flag 😅 nice girls are more of a threat because they arent as expected as nice guys , women are immediately on guard when a random man starts talking to them but not when random women do
you bring me so much comfort to listen to. i hope youre having a wonderful day! excited to watch.
As a girl who dresses modestly because it makes me feel good, I think the guys, girlies, and theys can dress however they want ✨💜
Based 👌
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The "I have a great personality" on dating profiles are a huge 🚩.
It's like when people have to tell others they are a good driver, let your work speak for itself, and it's USUALLY the opposite of what they're saying 😂.
As an autistic person , Sam saying “I want a bitch with autism” fucking killed me man 😂
7ish cat probably means one of three things;
1) they're cats that can go outside and there's at least one cat that has moved out as in it left and doesn't come back except for the occasional visit. over the years, I've had that happen with two cats. especially when you have multiple male unneutered cat in the same area, one may look for a new territory
2) she's a hoarder and hasn't seen some of them in a while (might be buried under junk), and they're constantly getting pregnant bc she doesn't have the time or money to get her cats neutered
3) bestie can't count
I'm not like other girls I'm autistic. And not a girl.
Omg were twins
Hey did u hear his offensive joke about autism?
@amenawonotaigbe716 There wasn't one...?
Yo same
I think like nice girls feel so much worse than nice guys because instead of men being mad at women, it's women being mad at other women because of men so instead of misogyny, there's added internalized misogyny as well. So trying to stand out as 'the one good one' feels worse cause now you're not just saying the others have these bad traits (like how some nice guys might general say other guys are assholes or aggressive), you're just bashing femininity and/or individuality as a whole (the Miami woman comes to mind, bashing women for dressing as they please, and then ofc the classic 'popular girl vs me' posts that tried to shame women for liking certain colors or whatever). The way some women will relentlessly trash other women who've done nothing wrong simply because of thoughts they have due to a society built by men is just insane. Idk, that's my two cents
I agree with you and the amount of internalized sexism or misogyny is truly sad:(
I’ve always said this, if guys dislike you they wil be aggressive and mean to your face, if girls dislike you, they will go behind your back and ruin your reputation, bc unlike guys, they know exactly how to hurt you.
One thing that I've learned is that if someone is telling you what a great person they are, you better run! Good people don't have to tell you how good they are, you will just see it in their actions. It's a big red flag most of the time. Protect yourselves out there, everyone.
Tip for anyone who feels it necessary to,point out how nice they are:
Being a good person, or “different than most” in a good/interesting way, or being a “catch” are things OTHER PEOPLE SAY ABOUT YOU. If you feel you have to spread the word yourself, chances are (and anyone hearing you proclaim it knows) it is a lie.
Genuinely kind people don’t brag about how kind they are or complain that they are not getting their due respect specifically because they are, in fact, kind. Kind people fully understand the cost associated with being kind, which is the fact that kindness is not transactional…in that kindness is not often/always reciprocated, so being kind has to be its own reward.
exactly and genuinely kind people are rare, so the fact that there are so many “nice guys” and “nice girls” on tinder should already be a red flag in itself
idk man I'm aware of the things I try to do for others, i try to follow the golden rule as best as I can and get sad when it isnt returned, hoping one day it will be
I think some people are just confident and know when they are spreading kindness as for some it may be a goal!
@@HyLo-rule yeah, but you know it is sometimes not reciprocated and I bet you are still kind anyway…it is disappointing when people are jerky for no discernible reason. I have had to talk with both of our children about that. Tough lesson. They say they don’t understand and I tell them, “it’s because it doesn’t make sense.” And we talk about how hard it is when that happens. And how they would feel about themselves if they were to decide to just be a jerk back…on the surface, it may be very satisfying, but it can also bring guilt with it, which is nothing to thrust on oneself.🤷🏻♀️
Hi. I'm a girl who doesn't really have the best self esteem. I'm familiar that good compliments from other people are the way to go. It's sorta confusing for me since I can get too wrapped up in what other people say about me while at the same time, not feeling enough for myself. I just wanted to put that out there since you seem like a nice person. Sending a lot of blessings to you and your family!! 💗🌼 Thanks for the tip
There is definitely something to be said about predatory moms and just parents in general that have too much control over their adult child. But as someone who now has a pretty good relationship with my mom and whole family, after a lot of apologizing and forgiving, it is really rare and beautiful to have a positive relationship with your family members.
Always posting when I need serotonin ❤ thanks homie 🥲
The "I want a bitch with autism" being the most replayed part of this video is so funny to me🤣
I used to be really bad about this kind of mindset, when I was younger. Everyone would always be nice to me and tell me how cool I was and shit, but no one ever wanted to date me or be good friends with me. And, at some point, I had to step back and say, "No, if everyone sees something wrong with me, I gotta figure that ish out." Like. You have to be accountable for your actions and behaviors at a certain point. And I did a lot of introspection, and realized I was being kinda condescending with people sometimes, and realized a bunch of childhood trauma nonsense was peeking through in random places in my life. And you know what? Changed that stuff as best as I could. Part of growing up is learning how to be the best You that you can, and for me it's controlling how much of a dick I am sometimes. And since learning to control that? Absolutely no problem with any social stuff. Licherally just out here vibin' knowing that it's not personal if someone doesn't like me and it's nothing I need to be concerned with. Does it suck if someone I care for hurts me? Sure. People gonna people. But do I take that as some "boohoo I'm unlovable" crap anymore? Thank god not. Gotta kill that ego crap that tells you you're better than others for whatever reason. It makes you a lot happier overall.
That is very mature of you… I wish you all the best with continuing to heal from your trauma.. I wish you all the best with you social endeavors and I hope you find people that truly value you. You deserve it ❤
sometimes? kinda?
"people gonna people" I'm using this from here on out
You are absolutely right. I am trying to do the same thing.
As a non-modest woman, I would absolutely watch and support a channel that gives advice and style tips on how to dress modestly in warm areas while staying fashionable (gives me great ideas for what to wear at work events!). The problem is so many of these “modest women” are SO judgmental towards other women that it turns me off to the content completely. How are you going to encourage modesty while insulting the very people you’re trying to turn towards modesty? Just talk about yourself and why YOU made that decision
I’m not like other girls
I’m not like other guys
I’m not like anything you’ve ever seen before
I’m just a really REALLY small potato in your cabinet that fell out of the sack and is starting to sprout 🌱
How did you know
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That's cute. I will plant you and water you.
@@yessumyecrad not if i cook them first >:)
I’ve seen something like that many times before
I hope you’re having a brewtiful day- I’ve bean thinking of you a latte.😊
Hahaha, nice
@@queenaspie4543 thank u thank u. I’m here all week 😌
I like those ones ☕
Im guessing 7ish cats means some strays that come around occasionally and 7 that live inside
I’m not like other girls. I am the Lorax, I speak for the trees.
I can already tell this is gonna be comedy gold
7-ISH??? IS ONE OF THEM SCHRODINGER'S?
My brother and I just started watching and he immediately said "Grande!" When you couldn't think of a pun lol😂
These "nice girls" are toxic. Red flags. Love you Sam! :)
There is nothing wrong with dressing modestly or showing skin. What IS wrong is putting others down just so that you can feel superior to them. It's very immature behaviour.
Tinder is not the place to find loyalty. It's where you go to hook up. Anything that happens beyond that is bonus material.
Happy Pride Month, everyone! Thank you, Sam, for your videos and I hope everyone has a great month ahead.
🏳🌈🏳⚧
I have exams through pride month 😂 not feeling very proud
@@L0rdOfThePiesgood luck on those exams!
The 1st girl is literally like a female Andrew Tate
Like 'what do you bring to the table' is a quote of his
There are three paths the "I'm not like other girls" teens take
1. Grow out of it and become well adjusted people
2. They become a 'nice girl's
3. Turns out they were right, but that's because they're trans
I like that half of these r dating profiles it just makes it a little funnier
Modesty goes hand in hand with victim blaming.
11:14 it’s not always a bad thing, but often if a guy is best friends with his mom than you will always be second to her. I’ve seen so many stories of mother in laws being flat out abusive to girlfriends and wife’s because she’s “trying to take my son from me” and the son just refuses to see that anything is wrong, or even if he does see that his mom is in the wrong refuses to stand up to her.
That, or a guy being super close to his mum CAN be a sign that he can't take care of himself like a grown adult, bc his mum has always done everything for him (cleaning up after him, laundry, booking his apts, cooking his every meal etc.).
When you are an able bodied adult you shouldn't have mummy slaving away after you.
@@cw9475 this too definitely! I’ve been reading too many toxic “am I the asshole” posts that I completely forgot what you said was another reason 😂
I've been watching you for so long now man. You are like one of the channels I've come back to regularly for years and years!
A man who is close with his family and has a good relationship with them is important. You made a really good point Sam!
well, to be honest, i see the point at not dating a "mommy's little boy". it's rarely a healthy relationship. these moms usually have very strong separation anxiety (even though their sons are adults), and you, as his girlfriend, have to deal with all that comes with it. it's not about you two, it's about you, him and his mom for some reason.
I can't help but feel pity for these women that grow overly attached to their sons, as this is another example of how, in a patriarchal society, a woman's worth is determined by her relationship status, and marrying and producing offspring, particularly sons that can carry on the family name, raises her status and improves how she's treated.
i’m not like other girls. i watch sam collins.
YAYY another amazing video by the legend!!! Btw i just wanna say good work with the video, i know us (your fans) appreciate you and the time you take out of your day to make us content. Thank you for being you and for inspiring so many young trans people and young men (like myself). You are amazing and i hope you have an amazing day because you deserve it!
im not in a relationship with any of these people and i already wanna break up. 💀
“Hookers aren’t free that a point of a hooker” 💀
i’m a 5’ 8” trans guy and i’m proud to be a troll 🧌❤️
I’m a 5’8 trans guy troll too 🤭🤭
@@rivroyerr 🏳️⚧️🧌 🤝 🧌🏳️⚧️
@Ville literally why are you here 💀
Goblin here, very proud of our short cryptid community
I am 5’3 trans guy and I am a dwarf!
I'm 62 and I love you. You just tell it like it is. You don't know how much you have enlighted me. Thanks for you
There are "nice guys" who generally like to claim to be superior but then treat people with terrible disregard even when it's pretty polite. You are right that there is a counterpart, but it's not the same.
Often these "nice guy" comments come from people who have clearly made someone uncomfortable. And yet they keep going.... Are women capable of the same YES. But the point is don't try pretend be a nice guy if someone seems uncomfortable with your actions. Male or female. This is good basic advice, don't harass or stalk someone.
7:49 IM FUCKING DYING WHERE DID THAT COME FROM 💀
i'm not like other girls. Because I'm a man
Is there a way we can hook up these girls with the "nice guys"? I don't know how they keep missing each other, but they'd be perfect together. 😂
Was anyone else a "nice girl" in middle achool saying the whole "im not like other girls" but then later realized its because you're not a girl. Just me? Okay.
I had a nice girl phase and said to myself I would never do vodka, clubs and anything else from this opera, guess what I`m doing last year))
Yeah, I was very proud about not being "like the other girls." I wore my tomboy badge like it made me better than "all the other girls." I also made a comment during a theatre production about needing someone to do my makeup because, "I'm not a real woman." Which was ridiculous on so many levels (first, everyone in theatre should be able to do their own makeup and that was a weakness I should have worked on, and second, women don't have to wear makeup to be 'real women,' and third, men can wear makeup too). I always despised "girly girls" until I finally realized that it's because I saw them as who I thought society was pushing me to be. I was projecting myself in their place and being repulsed by the idea of myself in that way. A friend in college dressed me up one night, and I felt confident about being attractive to other people, but I didn't feel like me. I'm 31, and it has been a very long road to figuring out who I am. I'm honestly still not entirely sure where I am on the gender spectrum, but I'm leaning toward transmasc, and I'm definitely not a woman. Just thinking of myself as a woman or being referred to as a woman makes me cringe.
The “did i stutter?”
Does she think that people with a stutter actually type the stutter ? 😭💀
The bit about girls who are jealous of their man's relationship with the women in his family hit a little too close to home. My cousin almost married a girl who was jealous of me and my grandma because of how close we were to him (he lives so far away I hadn't seen him since before they even got together but OK 🤨). Anywayyy... they broke up recently, and I feel really bad for him but at the same time, bullet DODGED.
man people like this that are so infatuated with themselves and their own gigantic ego really need to experience a single day with anxiety. like seriously, please, it'll do us all some good
I want to be like all girls, because girls are amazing and I love girls (I’m gay af)
Update: Are any girls here a doctor, I think I accidentally gave myself another piercing in the same hole as another piercing
@@antonialopez473 Huhhhh
@@cynister7384 my earlobe is bleeding send help
@@antonialopez473help is on the way
It’s kinda funny watching your reactions to things because it makes me realize I might be more chronically online when I understand the references
there should also be one called "im NOT like most girls, im a slut"
“You’re in f’ing Miami, get fu*ked up”
😂😂😂😂😂
Your voice has gotten deeper :)
It is so pleasant to listen to.
Thank you for this vid!
Dam, life advice from Sam here. (Also I love your chair so much)
Let's just respect each other for what we wear please? Modest or sexy, we all deserve respect. We must stand up against the predatory, perverted men that want to sexualize us for anything we wear and demand they view us as human beings first
True. It's okay to be either as long as you don't hurt others or degrade them.
I’m not like other girls, i’m not a girl anymore
"boohoo i'm 36 and too old to date"
meanwhile my mum and her partner (of 10 years&counting) met aged 45, 2 of my aunts found new partners and got married in their 50's
i don't date but if i did i feel like mid-late 30's would be the best time to actually look seriously to potentially find someone long-term since ideally you'd have yourself and your life somewhat figured out
Okay, I legitimately had this epiphany yesterday. I was watching TV and I'm 26F and I thought about how all my friends who are 30+ DREADED their 30th birthday and I contemplated this and thought, I CAN'T WAIT FOR MY 30s! I feel like my teens are when I was learning to human, 20s I am learning to adult, 30s I'll be in my groove and still young enough to engage in youthful shenanigans, 40s I swear sound like they will be my prime, and heck if I'm still alive past 50 I'll just be happy to be here
can i hear your voice every day? its so calming and i just really like hearing you talk.
lmao jk but
@Ville lmao your so desperate for attention you keep coming back to this one video 💀
@Ville_xyou babe
2:03 man, you unintentionally flipped us off…😂
I'm not like other girls. I sing musicals loudly and often and in public and it unnerves people because I get a little too into it and then run into windows and glass doors like a bird.
Have you tried _not_ running into things? Just a thought! ;-)
"Snowflake Central called, they need me to get there" was so funny to me for some reason
NEW SAM VIDEO EVERYONE WAKE UP (and u didn't forget the twitch and discord links 💪)
Help I'm so happy watching this
I just love when a guy tells me that I am not like other girls, I mean it's almost like he's realising that we're all different people
I’m not like other girls because everyone is unique 💕💕💕💕
Haven't watched you in years and that voice drop is insane good for you!!!
lm in my 50s.
lve taken a 9 year break from "dating" and lm transitioning.
You have to be emotionally available for a person to find you attractive and lm not talking about anything physical.
You have to be a reasonable person, who is ready to accept other people's point of view and other people's differences.
lts not all about you, it's also about them. That's what a relationship is all about.
Take a break and work on yourself. Going from one relationship to the other without learning and growing wont help you.
Having insight into your faults and limitations will help you to be open and honest. lf you are not prepared to be honest, then really dont bother. Make sure you have reasonable and respectful expectations and boundaries. Look up what to watch out for ie: red flags, in the first few weeks of a relationship so you can end it before you get hooked if there is any signs of coercion or control.
Sam, when you said I want a bitch with autism, I got some feelings. As a bitch with autism 😅 your videos crack me up and give me a bit of validation
Jesus I hope I don't end up on a dating app at 80 and people do suck it's hard to find love
i’m not like other girls. i’m a horrible wet creature that secretes sludge and slime.
“i want a bitch with autism” the way i almost threw my phone across the room and levitated whilst in hysterics was insane #relatable
me when i realize that women are different and act differently around humans and that they don’t have to act a certain way all the time 😱
...?? you say that like women being abusive is okay? because they're women?
@@emocrab7545 wait I'm so lost, where does this imply anything about abuse?
@@Insanebehaviordudeyea, just abt to reply saying that.
@@emocrab7545I was talking about the women in this video that are trying to push women to act a certain way and if they don’t they are wrong
these women rotates faster than spinning signages by the amount of desperate efforts to market themselves as "unique" and "lovable".