@@E-__ I'm not sure what's crazier, actually doing that or lying about it. I have a hard time believing you can't wait a few seconds to see who the comic co-host is. No need to lie to kick it. We get it, you like Chuck.
Dude, Neil, I pray that you live a long life man. I love your philosophy, your understanding, your unique personality, your brutal honesty. If I ever have children, I will for sure have your videos and talks be an inspiration to them! 🤩
Dr. Tyson, please have Dr. Duckworth back again and again. Fabulous episode. Mr. Nice, you exceeded your normal great self. Loved the questions and I especially loved the answers and discussions that ensued. Wonderful.
00:28:56 Angela , I thank you for talking about this because I’ve faced this and still am a little but I’m I can overcome that feeling and I want this kind of talks to be more out there.
Neil is absolutely correct. Wrestling is an extremely demanding sport. I wrestled in high school. When I was seventeen and going through boot camp at Parris Island I was definitely well prepared for the grueling pain, both physically and mentally.
u either have a certain type or haven't been around mature women regularly...she definitely looks 50...but ur comment is subjective and/or objective and can vary due to perspective
Same. I'm a talker on deep things I find fascinating. However, learning is my primary hobby as well as fascination, so this is my dessert and bread at the same time.
I have a grown son in his mid twenties. I agree completely with Dr. Duckworth about participation trophies. We do not win every thing we set out to win and children need to learn to handle losing because it is a part of life. My son has ADHD, so finding ways to motivate him and help him learn was something I had to learn how to do. Breaking hard tasks down into smaller chunks worked wonderfully in keeping his attention, and getting him to learn longer more detailed things.
Transitioning from a gritty career ( such as the military) to outside life is a lot like retiring from a demanding career. I think two things can help: lifelong learning and exploring creative pursuits. Volunteer work is also beneficial.
One of the best of Cosmic queries!. Im a big fan of astronomy and space science but got shock at how informative and brain opening this episode turne out to be. Please do it again. Thanks to you and your guess.
I don't normally leave comments on TH-cam due to trolls who live here, but I want to let you guys know that this was your best episode to date and was your best guest. I really enjoyed Angela and they way she took command yet shared "the rock" was well done (effortlessly mind you). Great job guys.
Sometimes life can hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle. My third story is about death. When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something. Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything - all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you 💐 Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the cour6age to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. (Steve Jobs - Stanford University 2005)
I like most of your comment. Faith is a terrible way to make your way through life. Faith has no foothold in reality and is just as easy to use for false things as it is for true things. You must base your life on reality, not what you hope is true. The best time to believe something is true, is when you have reasonable evidence for it. Faith can not provide that. Lose the faith. It's not that someone doesn't want to go to heaven, it is that it has no basis in reality. Where is the evidence for heaven?
Wow, i had no idea there was a word that describes me so perfectly. "Grit". But i just read this on Angela's website: "grit is about having what some researchers call an”ultimate concern”-a goal you care about so much that it organizes and gives meaning to almost everything you do" And i can't believe just how perfectly that describes my life! i thought it wasn't that common to have a word associated with it, but pleasantly surprised!
To broaden the conversation, I think it’s worthwhile considering that to be able to put together 10,000 hours, or Deliberate Practice toward something we love is truly a privilege that not everyone gets an opportunity to. As Neil and Angela points to, we have a finite time here. Perhaps we would be best served to savour this blessing. Let stories and ideas of ‘Grit’ not be the stick we beat others down with but as a personal private fuel, if we choose, to help ourselves in times of challenge. If we or others come to falter in meeting expected or desired outcomes, let there not be a wash of shame as if we have thus confirmed an intrinsic flaw, badness or unworthiness about ourselves, but as a confirmation that we are but human. Those who can and are achieving more...great. But let us not forget those who just need a little help, and what a privilege it would be to come alongside another human being to journey with them.
I wonder, about children with an early, decade-long case of Thanatophobia (Fear of death), especially extreme ones, then getting over it (mostly), and falling victims to drinking, depressions, etc. later on in life. Procrastinating becomes a daily thing, and you are both worried about achieving something, but at the same time "don't care" so time flies by too fast. Although in a way you do care. To me it feels like a complete paradox personality My fear of death hit me really hard as a child, NOT in a motivational manner, but rather a thing that made me actually cry at night. When my parents asked me what's wrong, I wailed "I don't wanna die". I had a vague idea that it just means I'm gonna lay in the ground and try to sleep forever and it's gonna be boring. But since then I grew up to accept it as a fact, and science helped me accept it more even from a young age. But over the years I've had ups and downs with depressions, some periods of drinking, and it seems that knowing you're mortal is an interesting spectrum, rather than an obvious "fuel" for your ambitious / achievements. Sometimes escaping troubles through sleep (hereby "shortening" your life), seems more appealing than doing anything, while at the same time being aware of the fact that life goes by at the same time
Losing can be just as instructive as winning. This may be counter-intuitive but learning how to lose is the single most important thing to learn when developing character
I totally get what Angela means when she says kids need sips of success to keep them from developing 'learned helplessness'. It helps them decide what interests to pursue because they aren't burdened by feeling there is so much in the world that they cannot do.
Gotta love the idea of having 1 summer job 1 time that was difficult and low paid, and it's being a camp counselor! Also, I wrestled for years, it was not the most physically exhausting thing I've ever done, mountain climbing is.
As usual, I found this podcast to be highly thought-provoking. One of those thoughts was about being part of a sports team in school - in my case it was cross-country or track rather than wrestling, but if you compare yourself to the "stars" of the team, those people who always seem to win and get awards, you will end up feeling like you will never be that talented and you might as well quit. You learn pretty fast if you stick with it that the ones that come in first or in the top 3 all the time need the rest of the team to pull their weight as well, because it is often the overall score that is important. Or if you can't beat the opposing team because there are too many of those gifted people on it, you can often get the best performance out of yourself so far and that feels awesome.
I don't feel helpless so much as I don't feel the desire to do much. I have tried just doing things the "small wins" mentioned and some bigger wins. Unfortunately I only feel tired after not accomplished.
i think that role of teachers and educational systems in failures of kids and students is greatly underestimated. too often there is too much pride in people who call themselves teachers and mentors . no one wants to talk about this. most ppl just want to sell their yet another motivational book and brag about how good they are in media outlets. and when such people try to tell you to stay motivated and persistent- its heartbreaking.
My soul becomes happy when I log on to TH-cam and see there is a brand new cosmic queries.
Every time I click on these, I scroll forward to confirm the presence of Chuck. Chuck confirmed! Phew.
Me too lol 🤷🏽♂️
Same
Btw, when it’s not Chuck, it’s not bad... but it’s not Chuck.
Is Chuck dying?
@@E-__ I'm not sure what's crazier, actually doing that or lying about it. I have a hard time believing you can't wait a few seconds to see who the comic co-host is. No need to lie to kick it. We get it, you like Chuck.
Everyone's happiness is so contagious in this episode! I hope they have Angela Duckworth on again in the future!
Up-voted.
It is joy and enjoyment.
They are having fun.
Happiness is something else.
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I thought her answers were mostly confusing and a lot of talking in circles. Could just be the boring topic.
This episode reminded that it's not only physics that excites me but learning in general.
Same here.
Reminded who, your cousin?
Dude, Neil, I pray that you live a long life man.
I love your philosophy, your understanding, your unique personality, your brutal honesty. If I ever have children, I will for sure have your videos and talks be an inspiration to them! 🤩
Oak Heights Teacher’s we’re amazing and so we’re the volunteer parents!
Book Clubs are cool and so are debates. Coffee and a cigarette 👹Vape Pens….dealers choice!
My 2 favourite peeps on TH-cam. Who else gets excited to see a new Neil and Chuck video😁😎👍
"I'll get around to procrastinating later" made me laugh so much more than it should have.
Oh man your comment
made me laugh thank you lol
Theist mentality💀💀🚮
Genius 🤣
this is why i dont like school and like this
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Procrastinators unite! Tomorrow!
Can it wait until next week?
@@sebastianlarosa5669 I mean... are we all gonna die next week? I say we just play it by ear. We can do it when we HAVE to...
i will like this tomorrow
Dyslexics untie!! I mean unite!!
Maybe later
Dr. Tyson, please have Dr. Duckworth back again and again. Fabulous episode. Mr. Nice, you exceeded your normal great self. Loved the questions and I especially loved the answers and discussions that ensued. Wonderful.
I'm a fan of CHUCK NICE. We 'loeveee' him
Me mo
I'm not a fan. Hes a distraction
These guys can talk about rocks for hours and I'll listen to them ❤
00:28:56 Angela , I thank you for talking about this because I’ve faced this and still am a little but I’m I can overcome that feeling and I want this kind of talks to be more out there.
Oh wow, I’m a huge Angela Duckworth fan! Love her podcast with Dubner.
Do u know the name of the podcast?
Neil is absolutely correct. Wrestling is an extremely demanding sport. I wrestled in high school. When I was seventeen and going through boot camp at Parris Island I was definitely well prepared for the grueling pain, both physically and mentally.
I tried the marshmallow test on myself and I ended up eating all 3 marshmallows. I have no self control. 😢
I can't believe she's 50, she looks great! Amazing episode btw
She looks so cute.
she is asian
u either have a certain type or haven't been around mature women regularly...she definitely looks 50...but ur comment is subjective and/or objective and can vary due to perspective
😳 I legit thought that she was just joking about that
@@torresjarred1 she looks late 30s
You men make my son and I laugh so hard with each episode. Thank You from the bottom of my heart. Ah- from the entire heart.
Why do I like the star talk episodes in the coronaverse?
I certainly like them in any time frame, but even more so in coronaverse since it makes our lives that much better :)
Be your child's stepping stool. Help them obtain the things that are just out of reach. Never wobble, and always stay supportive.
My parents did that and I think it was very, VERY helpful.
I could listen to her for weeks... not even a joke... She is fascinating....
Mr. Tyson, The US NEEDS YOU TO VOICE YOUR POLITICAL VIEWS !!!
Please, Please, Please take a Stand for Your Country !
I can’t watch this without chuck who else?
Star Talk should've had more than 10 million subscribers by now
Wish I could sit with these folks while talking science!
I like having a perplexed look on my face, and not saying a word.
Same. I'm a talker on deep things I find fascinating. However, learning is my primary hobby as well as fascination, so this is my dessert and bread at the same time.
Yes, please more with Angela on this topic! Very interesting, fascinating and helpful 🙂
I have a grown son in his mid twenties. I agree completely with Dr. Duckworth about participation trophies. We do not win every thing we set out to win and children need to learn to handle losing because it is a part of life. My son has ADHD, so finding ways to motivate him and help him learn was something I had to learn how to do. Breaking hard tasks down into smaller chunks worked wonderfully in keeping his attention, and getting him to learn longer more detailed things.
I once wrote a paper on learned helplessness. The amount of personal changes “for the better” that came about from constructing the paper is profound
Y'all are the "ish" man! This is one of my favorite shows.
To Neil and Chuck I say "Thank You!"
I demand title equality! If Neil is in the title then so should Chuck, he adds a lot of great humor that improves the quality a ton!
oh, I was hoping we were going to talk about space dust, or lunar dust, or other gritty substances. :P
i thought it was going to go in a geological direction about rock formation lol
Same though. Was hoping for sandpaper, rock at there smallest and bits of stuff... :'(
So thought so too, but this was fascinating
What!? Angela's 50? 😮
I'd have guessed 30's. Wow.
Great topic and episode btw. Would love to see/hear a round 2 on this!
At a minimum, this should have been a 2 hour podcast.
Great podcast. Thank you.
All the guests they get are so amazing. You'd swear they do this sorry of this everyday, it flows so naturally. I love it!
Transitioning from a gritty career ( such as the military) to outside life is a lot like retiring from a demanding career. I think two things can help: lifelong learning and exploring creative pursuits. Volunteer work is also beneficial.
One of the best of Cosmic queries!. Im a big fan of astronomy and space science but got shock at how informative and brain opening this episode turne out to be. Please do it again.
Thanks to you and your guess.
Literally posted after my English teacher assigned a thing on grit how funny
PLEASE COME BACK TO THIS!!! GRIT is everything I'm doing right now🙌🏾
Neil and Chuck is the duo, change my mind
I don't normally leave comments on TH-cam due to trolls who live here, but I want to let you guys know that this was your best episode to date and was your best guest. I really enjoyed Angela and they way she took command yet shared "the rock" was well done (effortlessly mind you).
Great job guys.
How is this posted while I'm binging affirmations and motivational rants and lifting heavy stuff?? Thanks Universe. 🤜🏻🤛
Sure
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The universe is yellow
It's been written so many ways, so many times. But it always has a continuous effect.
This cracks open my heart in a great way
She seems so kindful.
Sometimes life can hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.
My third story is about death.
When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: “If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right.” It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything - all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose.
No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you 💐
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the cour6age to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
(Steve Jobs - Stanford University 2005)
I’m glad I stumbled upon your beautiful comment; thank you ✨I really needed to read that.
I like most of your comment.
Faith is a terrible way to make your way through life. Faith has no foothold in reality and is just as easy to use for false things as it is for true things. You must base your life on reality, not what you hope is true. The best time to believe something is true, is when you have reasonable evidence for it. Faith can not provide that. Lose the faith.
It's not that someone doesn't want to go to heaven, it is that it has no basis in reality. Where is the evidence for heaven?
@@MusicGunn - Your comment is an Important comment.
I hope many read it and assimilate it.
(you have read my mind)
The Last Dance is an excellent story of long term determination and grit by Michael Jordan.
Angela is a delight. Please have her back.
I always enjoy the gathering of StarTalk.
persistence is omnipotent
if you’ve not yet given up, if you’ve not yet stopped trying, you’ve not yet failed
insincere attempts count as attempted fraud
always be sincere, especially if you dont mean it
anyone else notice chuck going ham highlighting questions and making sure he's ready to help the next topic flow nice dude
I lol'ed when the StarTalk became DeathTalk!
Wow, i had no idea there was a word that describes me so perfectly. "Grit". But i just read this on Angela's website:
"grit is about having what some researchers call an”ultimate concern”-a goal you care about so much that it organizes and gives meaning to almost everything you do"
And i can't believe just how perfectly that describes my life! i thought it wasn't that common to have a word associated with it, but pleasantly surprised!
Great video to shake the cobwebs of quarantine and get back to business!
To broaden the conversation, I think it’s worthwhile considering that to be able to put together 10,000 hours, or Deliberate Practice toward something we love is truly a privilege that not everyone gets an opportunity to. As Neil and Angela points to, we have a finite time here. Perhaps we would be best served to savour this blessing.
Let stories and ideas of ‘Grit’ not be the stick we beat others down with but as a personal private fuel, if we choose, to help ourselves in times of challenge. If we or others come to falter in meeting expected or desired outcomes, let there not be a wash of shame as if we have thus confirmed an intrinsic flaw, badness or unworthiness about ourselves, but as a confirmation that we are but human.
Those who can and are achieving more...great. But let us not forget those who just need a little help, and what a privilege it would be to come alongside another human being to journey with them.
I am a former professional ballet dancer. I know all about grit and perseverence. :-) But this was GREAT!
Non-existence is not only never having existed, but also the state you enter after existing. And it is infallibly incomprehensible.
I wonder, about children with an early, decade-long case of Thanatophobia (Fear of death), especially extreme ones, then getting over it (mostly), and falling victims to drinking, depressions, etc. later on in life. Procrastinating becomes a daily thing, and you are both worried about achieving something, but at the same time "don't care" so time flies by too fast. Although in a way you do care.
To me it feels like a complete paradox personality
My fear of death hit me really hard as a child, NOT in a motivational manner, but rather a thing that made me actually cry at night. When my parents asked me what's wrong, I wailed "I don't wanna die". I had a vague idea that it just means I'm gonna lay in the ground and try to sleep forever and it's gonna be boring.
But since then I grew up to accept it as a fact, and science helped me accept it more even from a young age.
But over the years I've had ups and downs with depressions, some periods of drinking, and it seems that knowing you're mortal is an interesting spectrum, rather than an obvious "fuel" for your ambitious / achievements.
Sometimes escaping troubles through sleep (hereby "shortening" your life), seems more appealing than doing anything, while at the same time being aware of the fact that life goes by at the same time
Losing can be just as instructive as winning. This may be counter-intuitive but learning how to lose is the single most important thing to learn when developing character
When you’re telling the truth, people can feel it
Wish she didn't mention the dog experiment with such casual callousness and defend Marty about it.
Thank you Neil!
Another thought-provoking episode.
Lol I missed Chuck. It's not same without him. Finally 😭😭
The best channel on TH-cam
Hey now Dr T. When ever you say to Chuck ( Do the math ) Show us the Math!! Please for whatever topic. South Carolina is always watching. Thxu
Memory is not issue it is logic functionality
Absolutely love this topic
LOVED THIS STAR TALK. THANK YOU FOR IT AND PLEASE BRING BACK ANGELA AGAIN AND DISCUSS MORE ON IT.
I totally get what Angela means when she says kids need sips of success to keep them from developing 'learned helplessness'. It helps them decide what interests to pursue because they aren't burdened by feeling there is so much in the world that they cannot do.
I'm glad you talked about learned helplessness. It's very relevant in 2020 and I think more people should know about it.
Change and communication 2 most important things.
Not even kidding, Chuck needs to be promoted to an expert on handling experts. Great stuff guys...keep em coming.
Tuned In
Choose your battles. But don't avoid them altogether.
Please please please do a part two
Chuck just cracks me up all the time. "Things that are sooo much better than marshmallows.." LOL.
I was just wondering what to watch while having dinner. Didn't expect to be changed for life tho
If you know your mission’s, and focus on them , you’ll reach them , if you puts valued in your life , so you never dies
Great quote I love having written
Angela's AMAZING. Please have her back!!
You guys are so amazing keep it coming. Chuck Brah that hair line is razor sharp hope for a new normal
Gotta love the idea of having 1 summer job 1 time that was difficult and low paid, and it's being a camp counselor! Also, I wrestled for years, it was not the most physically exhausting thing I've ever done, mountain climbing is.
And another book I'm going to read because it was mentioned in Star Talk. :-)
As usual, I found this podcast to be highly thought-provoking. One of those thoughts was about being part of a sports team in school - in my case it was cross-country or track rather than wrestling, but if you compare yourself to the "stars" of the team, those people who always seem to win and get awards, you will end up feeling like you will never be that talented and you might as well quit. You learn pretty fast if you stick with it that the ones that come in first or in the top 3 all the time need the rest of the team to pull their weight as well, because it is often the overall score that is important. Or if you can't beat the opposing team because there are too many of those gifted people on it, you can often get the best performance out of yourself so far and that feels awesome.
“There is an innocence in admiration: it occurs in one who has not yet realized that they might one day be admired.” ― Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche
What a great episode
When I first saw the title for this I thought "Only Neil deGrasse Tyson can fill an entire podcast about loose stones."
I always like some eggs with my Grit 😁
🤭
NdT looked so happy just sitting there listening.
Chuck is the man
I ABOSLUTELY FRAK'N LOVE YOU GUYS TO INFINITY AND BEYOND!!! FOR THA REALS!!!
Questions I'd like answering if Angela comes back:
1. How does one build up grit within themselves?
2. How does one instil grit within their kids?
I like this episode. Especially with her. Shes cool.
true grit....
I want Chuck's T-Shirt !!
We need part 2
Each of us carrying pieces of the unknown objects , but only few people are more lucky to carry more as they life experience
Love improvement re overlays
You are right on the long training to be allot better. There is something about the talent of a Jordon, he has talent that almost all people dont
Earthquake comes suddenly, but experiences coming with you slowly
People say I can never go Light speed.. I say I can. Just change my mass into energy.
I don't feel helpless so much as I don't feel the desire to do much. I have tried just doing things the "small wins" mentioned and some bigger wins. Unfortunately I only feel tired after not accomplished.
i think that role of teachers and educational systems in failures of kids and students is greatly underestimated. too often there is too much pride in people who call themselves teachers and mentors . no one wants to talk about this. most ppl just want to sell their yet another motivational book and brag about how good they are in media outlets. and when such people try to tell you to stay motivated and persistent- its heartbreaking.