I don’t mean to be petty towards my mom, but I wish she would be like that. My mom always complained about the bills and said I needed to help her pay, but anytime I said “yes, I wanna help”, “teach me how to do the bill’s/taxes”, “how much/what part do you want me to pay for?” She would just say “oh, don’t worry about it”, “it’s too hard to explain”, “it’ll be easier if I do it myself”, and then get mad at me AGAIN for not helping! It would happen EVERY TIME, I’m living with my dad now, and paying him rent. I know I that not having to pay sounds pretty nice, but the verbal abuse and constant mind games I was getting from my mom wasn’t worth it.
Honestly, I love when Vonda B responds to these people with sarcasm. "Congratulations. You're adulting as an adult. You're living up to that responsibility. NEXT!"
That takes self-reflection and the only way for someone like her to take a deep look inside herself is once she looses mommy dearest. She thinks mommy dearest will always be there to catch her, once mommy isn’t there to catch her, she’ll realize that she took mommy for granted and at that point is when she’ll finally realize she’ll only have herself to blame Right after she has burned all the other bridges she thinks she is entitled to
The irony, but as someone who's been to several psychologists.... yeah, it's not uncommon to see some that are so self-unreflective. It takes time to find a good one and it's all worth it.
Future grandparents, please do not discuss your desire for a grandchild. When you do your child might believe that if they get pregnant, grandma will keep the child because of the previous statements they made.
@@jannahaziz8722you’re doing what the daughter is doing- placing everything on the mom. At some point we are responsible for our own behaviors. Daughter is responsible for being a poor parent.
You respect a narcissistic lady that thinks she's a legit Pyscologist and his smarter than the girl thats actually going to school for a degree in psychology.
@@abdulashrafrasid9308Can't respect someone that leans over to the person next to them and speaks openly without the Judges permission. So no I do not respect either of these losers. The daughter is obviously mentally unwell but if that's her[lady in pink] daughter then inevitably it's her fault she was raised that way, so why should she be respected for trying to do something she should have when her kid was a child and not wait until she was adult and could be taken to court.
Respect to Grandma for holding her own Child accountable. That musta been hard on her, she clearly loves her own daughter. This family gunna be alright 👍
@@francesmblack8816: That's a very good question. I always here these stories of single mothers, who are raising these kids on their, and the kids' fathers are not in the picture.
I was looking for this comment because the daughter has no idea what she is talking about. She did no research as to what it takes to be a clinical psychologist let alone open her own practice.
I understand that this young mother is going to college full-time AND she has a full-time job as an intern. That is commendable. I respect her ambition because a lot of young Moms DON'T get that chance to continue their education (much less have a DOUBLE major) and land a good job when they are a single Mom. HOWEVER...I DO agree with Grandma. Being a mother is her FIRST job and she SHOULD NOT be taking advantage of Grandma to (as I understand it) raise HER daughter without any kind of help from her (financially or otherwise) If anything, she should be THANKFUL to her Mom for raising this beautiful little girl so that she's not being cared for by STRANGERS all day. She has a grandma who obviously love her and cares about her..
Added* And when she opened the clinic she does not pay a single payment to her mother for her services. She should have paid monthly rent, baby food, and Nani payment as well, She will then know the real cost of the child. Without her mother she cannot do college or a job either, she should be thankful to her.
@@powerofleo I agree. I just did a little Google search. Most parents pay (on average) about $750 to $850 a MONTH for childcare. This Mom says she has a double major and works full-time during the day, so IF she didn't have Grandma taking care of her baby full-time, that would be around $10,000 a year, give or take, that she would have to shell out for daycare for her daughter. She's not paying Grandma ANYTHING to do this job full-time. The Google fairies also tell me that it costs about $15,000 per yr to raise ONE child in 2021. According to Grandma, this child and her mother are living with Grandma RENT FREE and Mom isn't contributing anything to help pay for food, diapers, medical insurance, clothing, etc either. Personally, I think, since Mom just got this nice raise, she should be paying grandma a monthly rent, she should be paying for ALL of her daughter's needs (food, clothing, medical needs, diapers, etc) AND she should be paying Grandma to babysit her daughter as well. I think that's only fair, since she says she's gone ALL DAY and doesn't get home till midnight (WELL AFTER little London has gone to bed). And I DEFINITELY think that when the Mom is at home on weekends that she should be 100% responsible for caring for the child and give this poor grandmother a break. That means MOM wakes up early and feeds the baby breakfast and gets her bathed and dressed and takes care of her all day. She doesn't sleep in and make Grandma do all the work on the days she's at home.
It seems to come down to "I got pregnant at the wrong time" so parents can look after child until the Lazy Parent is "ready in the timing of life"... which never happens because life throws curve balls.
@@powerofleo Also u cant just open a clinic like that 😂. U need money to buy a location, pay electricity bills, water bills, ur employees. The way the daughter said she gonna open her own clinic was as if its gonna happen in a snap with her making more than 6 figures.
@@shabihrizvi5327 Exactly. That's not even factoring in the $15,000 a year that she's going to need to raise her daughter properly and have childcare while she's running this little clinic of hers. She's extremely entitled and I think she got a reality check today.
This girl is living in a fantasy world. When I was younger my grandmother would watch during the week. I was only when my parents were at work and they still brought my food to the house and gave my grandmother money on Fridays. It's a gift, not an entitlement and grandparents should be given financial assistance if they need it.
The "mother" makes $50,000 annually and she cannot even help a little?! She doesn't even pay for insurance. A lot of people work, go to school and are parents all at the same time. Welcome to the real world!
The child still isn't her responsibility, and if child support makes her daughter realize that, then good for the grandma and the mom. It's not because everyone does it that it is a good thing to do.
I make 43 a year and I have 6 kids. Learn to sacrifice and save. It's hard but it's worth it. Thankfully I'm married. Last time I bought new clothed was for a promotional interview before that I've worn the same clothes for a decade with people giving me hands-down pants their husband's are to fat for.
When you are a new mom, learning the actual cost of child care is shocking. Some of us grew up with their grandmother taking care of us then when we became mothers, our own mothers didn’t want that same responsibility or couldn’t give it, so I feel for this young lady. Looking back now, I would gladly pay $800 a month for my mom to take care of my child. It’s a bargain!
Absolutely!! My mother passed away in 2005 before me and any of my siblings had kids. She never got the opportunity to be the most AMAZING grandma that we all knew she would be. We lost Dad in 2017 he got to be the best papa to the older grandkids but the 3 youngest (my one child is included in this) soooo jealous of people who have both or even one of their parents to help. My daughter has one biological grandparent that’s able to be involved in her life. His step dad is amazing so thankfully my daughter does atleast have them. Thankfully my husband Mom and step Dad are wonderful and they help when they can as they both work full time in their own careers.
I gladly paid about $600.00 @ month (back in the early '80's) so my mother would NOT babysit my son. Ye gods & little fishes, after what she put my siblings and I through, growing up with her and her BPD? I would not wish that experience on anyone, let alone my own little man. She could be really vicious at times with no regard as to age-appropriate displays of rage. It didn't matter to her what age the target was, the familial relationship if any, so many scared neighborhood kids over the years. Nope, cheap at twice the price!!
Your grandmother probably never worked outside the home, whereas your mother probably did. The 21st century is a TOTALLY different world from the 20th century. Grandmother's value is now assessed monetarily and she knows her worth.
Judge V taught this young lady the basics and her responsibilities of being a mother. The grandmother should receive financial support from her daughter. Unique Case!
Well they probably never agreed on money the mother said I'm not paying you and the mother didn't say I'm not taking care of your kid case open and shut.
Love this grandmas logic. Young lady needs to learn to be responsible. It’s great she’s getting an education. But being a parent comes first and foremost. Sure it’s hectic, but in the end the child will see as it gets older. Man my mom really fought hard for me. Going to school, working and still took care of me .
School is important but being a mother tops everything. This boils my blood. Being a mother means your dreams on hold or you make it work. This is an entitlement thing for sure
this! she shouldve took online school to make time for her daughter her mom can watch the baby when she works. but she needs to sacrifice something for her daughter
My guy if she doesn’t get a degree then she can’t feed herself or the child, I wouldn’t call it a dream, a dream is traveling the world this is a requirement
@@Sinlorraine exactly! As a parent it's not about you no more once that baby comes out in the world it's time to make some sacrifices that's what it means to be a parent is make sacrifices
exactly. i forewent my dreams to try to care for my daughter. i’m trying to get things together and do better for my daughter now and find new dreams with the life that I have been given. she should have not had a kid if she didn’t want to try to work at having one.
One of the things I thought that was extremely beautiful about this particular case is the fact that the mother is not in there trying to make her daughter out to be a bad mom. She gave her the positive respect she deserves when she stated that her daughter did do her best to spend time with her daughter on the weekends when she was able. She did not speak disrespectfully about her daughter whatsoever. She was just there to try to get the compensation she was owed for all of the hard work and time she was putting in essentially raising her grandchild. The look on the daughters face when the judge told her the amount that she would have to be paying in child support was absolutely astounding. I don’t believe she ever thought she would have to pay an amount that high let alone pay anything at all.
The daughter will be wishing she had already been giving her mom money, lol, instead of letting the court settle it. Kids in college are not that smart anymore.
The daughter will be wishing she had already been giving her mom money, lol, instead of letting the court settle it. Kids in college are not that smart anymore.
I can't be anything but impressed with the demeanor of the judge. The ability to remain so patient with so many self-entitled people is quite power to have... love your work.
@@jessg8684 I agree. At the same time, she probably didn’t take her mom serious. The mom had no choice but to do what she had to do to get the point across.
I admire the mom for being respectful & giving her daughter credit where credit is due. She was only asking for help but gave her daughter credit for being a good daughter, student & mother. Wow. If only they could all be that respectful.
I feel like I owe my mother my life. How could you not feel like you owe her and she continues to provide for you after you’re grown? Her mother is obviously supportive but her mom shouldn’t be an unpaid babysitter especially when she had and raised her children.
Call me mean, but I'm with Alex on this one. Stop and think about ur saying. If ur going to give ur life to ur mother, make sure it's of ur own violation. Also, keep on eye out for red flags, yeah? For our sake, if not ur own (for whatever that may worth).
My mom was a full-time student and had a full-time job and took care of me perfectly fine by herself as a single mom. Not saying it's not hard because it 100% is. But it's doable.
So when she’s at work or school who is watching the baby because it’s illegal to leave a child alone at 2 😂 and not all jobs let you bring a two year old to work
@@HackerActivist exactly, not everyone is gonna have the same opportunities, lifestyle, and work-life so saying someone else should be able to just because you did is super shallow
@@vastravax7670 I don’t really understand what you’re getting at 😅 I agree with what you said.. but that’s not the point I was talking about? Not everyone has the same opportunities when it comes to access to child care anyways… everyone’s life is gonna be different, so we can’t expect others to be able to do the same thing we did, or with the same amount of ease. That’s all I’m really sayin :)
That mom is beyond amazing. She was patient, she didnt say anything negative about her daughter, shes was still loving to her daughter, but still stood her ground. Just good parenting right there!
I’m so happy this didn’t break out into an immature argument. I’m glad the daughter was understanding about it and owned up to it. This was very mature and I liked the “sorry honey you gotta learn” part too. Grandma is understanding too and just wants a little help and i’m glad the daughter didn’t fight that. You can tell they alone have a strong bond and grandma just wants what’s best for her daughter and grand baby:)
Honestly, this is the most respectable family dynamic I've seen on this channel since I started watching. Yea, the daught is a bit entitled but at least she's not out parting (allegedly) and is trying to create a better future for herself. Repsect.
She is very lucky that she still has her mother helping her out. I hope she learn to be grateful to her mother's efforts. I'm a single mom and have to work and take care of my son and it is really tedious. Taking care of a child without monetary incentive is very difficult, tiring and stressful. She needs to open her eyes and thank her mother.
Kids are funny. My 21 year old daughter lived with me and then got married and moved him in, when I suggested they start paying rent her response was "I am not going to pay rent in my own home!".. lol Its quite funny watching them grow up and put the dots together.
I was in college and had my daughter and got divorced. I used any money given to me for the baby on a sitter while I went to class and when my mom would be nice enough she'd watch my daughter so I could study. Im more selfish with my kids than most because I really love them, love their faces and taking care of them. They're so precious.
I’m a single mom of two, full-time online student, full-time job. I was declined twice for both of my children. My mom helps with my kids but I would be damned to treat my mom like this so messed up
She could’ve been paying her mother $500 a month for taking care of the baby, just be a decent person. Now she has a legal and binding obligation…. It sucks cause for once she’s not the mom just doing whatever and partying it just seems like she’s working hard and spending time so that she can have her daughter on her own in the future.
I agree. It seems like everytime a parent or grandparent wants support, the actual parent(s) don't care about anything but themselves. This chick seems different. That being said, I don't like how she feels like her Mom has to watch her kid day in day out. She feels entitled when she made the decision to mess around. Even with her going to school and work, I think she has a lot of growing up to do. She has an attitude.
She’s making 50000 that’s a good salary the least she can do is buy diapers and groceries and stuff and the mom would have been happy. Her mom seemed so reasonable. Sad
Mom taught her daughter a valuable lesson in life. I hope the daughter is thankful she has such a good Mom looking after her granddaughter for so long in the first place with no support. I hope the daughter goes on to have a great career and can support her daughter 100% herself in her own home.
Growing up I remember seeing so many women and men thinking it’s ok for their partners to take care of their children without financial compensation. It makes me so mad, even if they have job or they are going to school they need to pay. I mean obviously the grandparents could help out if they wanted to, but not permanently until their kid gets their shit together. They need to learn that the minute they have a child it’s their responsibility.
Yep as someone whose 23 and have two young kids I’ve never dumped my kids on my mom. She takes them on whatever weekends she can which is rare and I have no issue with that because I made them!
I agree. I love that my mom is around and available to watch my kiddos when I need emergency care for them. I’ve offered to pay her, but she won’t accept.
She should feel grateful to her mom for raising her so well and making sure she was on the right track to be able to do what she would like in life. And I'm glad she is going to help her mom out, it's just to bad they had to go to court to get that resolved.
She's living with her mother and it doesn't sound like she gives her any rent or pays bills nor does she give her child support. For someone who is studying psychology, it's hilarious that she can't see how entitled she is. Her mother is just too nice.
now if i was the grandma i’d also see about taking the father of the child to court 🤷🏽♀️ it takes two to tangle to make the baby! both of the parents need to be helping her
The mother should chase the father, not the grandmother, assuming the mother is the custodial parent (grandmother doesn’t have legal custody). If father was contributing to child support, mother’s obligation would be less.
The mother of the child needs to take the biological father to court for child support, then the entirety of that money should then be automatically transferred to the maternal grandmother. In addition, the mother of the child should provide financial support to her mother during the time she is raising her child. Yes, this young mother is struggling to juggle the cost of school, basic living costs, and the money needed to raise a child, but at the end of the day, it is her and the biological father's legal obligation to pay for all financial costs for the child.
And so we start with blaming the Father who was not present in this case.The daughter was the one who chose to carry the baby full term.She had access to plenty of BC even morning after pill or even adoption if she did not want to be a mom.Maybe dad is not mentioned because he's deceased.But we don't ever want to think about that because it always easier to get angry at the man for whatever reason despite the daughter being extremely selfish towards her own mother.
Love your show I love it when you tell the truth and make them see it from the right point of view. I really don't understand how all these women got it in their heads that Mom and or dad are supposed to take care of their grandchildren just because you're working and going to school it's not their fault that you opened your legs. Why don't you try being more responsible and take care of your own children or not have any at all.
Superb. Every video I have seen on this channel has shown fairness & impartiality to both sides, and put entitled people in their place. Best Judge ever.
I’m glad the young lady at least seemed to start understanding by the end. University is hard so I get her situation, so her paying child support at least compensates a bit for having no time for her kid.
I looked after my grandson while my daughter went to university. It wasn't something I was able to do for the other grandchildren as I was working full time but it was good to be able to do it for one. My daughter was and is very appreciative and has helped me too in the years since. I've never felt taken for granted and I hope she hasn't either
Stunned at her expectation of free child care! At 23 I was working full time and going to school at night. My parents were raising my son. I helped by paying for all of his needs and gave them $100/month out of my $300 net income! Graduated college, made 50k & upped it to $1000/mo plus all of his needs including private boarding school and health insurance. She’s getting off easy.
Not necessarily true. I spent over decade of my kids' lives in the oilfield to make sure I could provide the best life I possibly could financially for them. Did I end up regretting it because I missed so much time with them? Yes. Does that mean I didn't do what I did from a place of love though? Absolutely not
@@richardbean1707 I don't disagree with you, I'm believe you providing for your family was a gesture of love. However, that's how adults think. Do you think your kids understood your sacrifice? Do you think your kids would prefer the lifestyle you provided or spending more time with you? 🤷🏾♀️ You, friend, are NOTHING like this woman. Idk if you raised your kids with a spouse/partner or if your mom cared for the kids. Either way, I know you sent that paycheck home. So why compare yourself to someone who comes home every night to their child yet still has mom taking 1st spot in raising the child. IMO, BIG difference. Your kids will understand your sacrifice one day. This poor girl will constantly question why she is closer to her grandmother than her mom. And that chills me to the bone.
Wow I like this point of you too. But hey if seen people do this, and there children like there grandparents or aunts/uncles better than there own parents. Is not the same love.
I fell pregnant as my dream career was about to start for me. I gave up on my career to raise my son. He’s 4 now and I don’t regret putting my personal life on hold to raise him. Once he’s in school I can go do my career. Being a mother is meant to come first.
She needs to be mad at her baby daddy and not her mother. Where is he at?! smh Why do parents think its their family's responsibility to give them FREE child care?! My sister in law and her baby daddy does the same thing. Everytime we see them they want my husband and I (childfree) to watch my nephew for hours at a time for free like we have nothing to do or bills to pay. It's NOBODY'S responsibility to take care of your kids but yours!!
Because they say they will and willingly volunteer until they get annoyed, then they want to flip the script when there's another crying, 💩, human already here.
this was a normal human interaction.. the grandmother was calm and NOT trying to bash her own daughter, she stated her opinions and facts and she knew that was enough without all the extra
Yes 👏 As always, Judge Vonda B puts it out there in her no nonsense way (that we all love) She is always fair with her rulings and gives the best advice.
I love how you handle these cases. So formal yet there's a bit of sarcasm and shade when you know a person is 'not right in the head' xD You don't yell or shout but stay calm, not like some other judge s that i've seen on tv or yt.
I was waiting for the judge to hit her on the fact that she's making 50K a year and sticking the tax payers for HER kids health care costs. I give her credit that she's going to school and trying to better her self but she can't stick her mom and the tax payers with all those costs and obligations. I really loved it when her mom told her "your the one who got knocked up on prom night" and she said "well you wanted to be a grand mother didn't you." And Mom was like "Yeah but if figured you get married first and have some one to help you!" BOOM reality bomb !!!!
You are one fair and understanding judge, I watch like 10 episodes a day, omw to and from school, which is 1 hour each way. Thank you for being a bias judge. I just love ❤️
Grandma will be able to do a few more fun things with her granddaughter now. And buy what the little one needs, and help with groceries etc. I wish grandma good health and lots of happy bonding with that little one.
How could she sit there with a straight face knowing she's taking advantage of her mom? 😳 The audacity of that girl. Hope she actually learned something from this.
Mom seemed like a really chill person, I’d be willing to bet this was a last resort for her, she would’ve much rather not taken her daughter to court but she had to.
I'm proud of mom for being a hard worker and getting the education that she wants/needs. With that said, it is also very important that the grandmother have the financial responsibility of her daughters child.
When the mom said "its not my fault u got pregnant on prom night" my face went 😳😳😳😳😳😳 i was SHOOK. Also $800 a month??? Thats more than my rent per month💀💀💀 girls gotta learn somehow tho smh
That “sorry honey you gotta learn” is important.
I agree 💯
Definitely, the closest thing to a child I have is my little sister and it's hard but sometimes they've got to figure it out
Exactly it’s about responsibility
Daughter is spitting image of grandma.... tough love... she will be thankful for the lesson
I don’t mean to be petty towards my mom, but I wish she would be like that. My mom always complained about the bills and said I needed to help her pay, but anytime I said “yes, I wanna help”, “teach me how to do the bill’s/taxes”, “how much/what part do you want me to pay for?” She would just say “oh, don’t worry about it”, “it’s too hard to explain”, “it’ll be easier if I do it myself”, and then get mad at me AGAIN for not helping! It would happen EVERY TIME, I’m living with my dad now, and paying him rent.
I know I that not having to pay sounds pretty nice, but the verbal abuse and constant mind games I was getting from my mom wasn’t worth it.
"congratulations, we all work, all day" I died 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I know🤣love that part , like girl u not special
Honestly, I love when Vonda B responds to these people with sarcasm. "Congratulations. You're adulting as an adult. You're living up to that responsibility. NEXT!"
It's crazy to me that someone studying psychology cannot see her own entitled behavior
Was thinking the same thing
That takes self-reflection and the only way for someone like her to take a deep look inside herself is once she looses mommy dearest. She thinks mommy dearest will always be there to catch her, once mommy isn’t there to catch her, she’ll realize that she took mommy for granted and at that point is when she’ll finally realize she’ll only have herself to blame
Right after she has burned all the other bridges she thinks she is entitled to
Right ✅
The irony, but as someone who's been to several psychologists.... yeah, it's not uncommon to see some that are so self-unreflective. It takes time to find a good one and it's all worth it.
Future grandparents, please do not discuss your desire for a grandchild. When you do your child might believe that if they get pregnant, grandma will keep the child because of the previous statements they made.
The child's grandmother was so professional & never talked bad about her daughter. She has a good heart. She's such a patient & nice lady.
Besides the prom night comment she didn’t talk bad about her XD
she didn't that was good.
Yes being good that way has spoiled the daughter. There is no compliment in that.
@@jannahaziz8722you’re doing what the daughter is doing- placing everything on the mom. At some point we are responsible for our own behaviors. Daughter is responsible for being a poor parent.
I respect her mom for being able to stand her ground respectfully and know she has to teach her daughter a life lesson
You respect a narcissistic lady that thinks she's a legit Pyscologist and his smarter than the girl thats actually going to school for a degree in psychology.
@@kaizenchaosprimordial8945 are we watching the same show? Lol
@@MsNeonDion why ask a question then say lol makes no sense and shows people exactly the type of person you are not smart.
@@kaizenchaosprimordial8945 I thought we're respecting the lady in pink 🤔
@@abdulashrafrasid9308Can't respect someone that leans over to the person next to them and speaks openly without the Judges permission. So no I do not respect either of these losers. The daughter is obviously mentally unwell but if that's her[lady in pink] daughter then inevitably it's her fault she was raised that way, so why should she be respected for trying to do something she should have when her kid was a child and not wait until she was adult and could be taken to court.
Respect to Grandma for holding her own Child accountable. That musta been hard on her, she clearly loves her own daughter.
This family gunna be alright 👍
Lol when mom came at her about prom night I spit out my drink laughing 😂😂
Grandma was losing panties at the prom too..haha ..daughter’s about that age..
She done lost her Damn mine
Spat*
Fr I was oooooooohh shiiiiiitttt 😂😂
you know she was waiting to get to say that lol. dying to pull that card out her back pocket
I won’t go to this clinical psychologist. 😂
I absolutely loved the grandmother. “Sorry baby, you have to learn.” 😂
After this video there won't be a lot of clients for sure! 😅
"I'm not the one who got pregnant on prom night"...oof! That really speaks volume! Kudos to the mom for standing up!
Where are these fathers
..no mention of them😮
@@francesmblack8816: That's a very good question. I always here these stories of single mothers, who are raising these kids on their, and the kids' fathers are not in the picture.
“I wanted a grandchild, but I wish you would have waited till you got married” I know that hurt lol
So much in love with grandma’s disposition
Agreed! She says things in a very diplomatic way, but to the point. Not sugar coating anything.
She is such a sweet grandma and her daughter is like her mum as in her disposition.
Long live grandma😉👌👍🏻
You go grandma ❤️
I love how Judge Vonda says "congratulations we all work" to the daughter when she said she works. 😂😂😂
It takes 8-11 years to become a clinical psychologist; so does she expect her mother to take care of her daughter until she's 10+?
Not to mention she's not even entitled to a success story it's so many psychology majors working at Dennys
That's literally the only reason I sympathize with the grandmother. Daughter definitely has her head in the clouds.
I was looking for this comment because the daughter has no idea what she is talking about. She did no research as to what it takes to be a clinical psychologist let alone open her own practice.
Indeed she cannot get into practice without at least a masters degree. A phd is even longer
She's aware bc she said when I'm done I can take care of her. She's leeching until the kid is independent 😆
When her mom said “well I wasn’t the one who got pregnant on PROM NIGHT” LMAOOOO 😂😂😂
She has a point though 🤣
Omg I just about choked on my food lmfao all I left my prom night with was a hangover and a ring of hickeys lmao wow.. just wow 🤣🤣🤣🤦🏽♀️👏🏽
I understand that this young mother is going to college full-time AND she has a full-time job as an intern. That is commendable. I respect her ambition because a lot of young Moms DON'T get that chance to continue their education (much less have a DOUBLE major) and land a good job when they are a single Mom. HOWEVER...I DO agree with Grandma. Being a mother is her FIRST job and she SHOULD NOT be taking advantage of Grandma to (as I understand it) raise HER daughter without any kind of help from her (financially or otherwise) If anything, she should be THANKFUL to her Mom for raising this beautiful little girl so that she's not being cared for by STRANGERS all day. She has a grandma who obviously love her and cares about her..
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And when she opened the clinic she does not pay a single payment to her mother for her services. She should have paid monthly rent, baby food, and Nani payment as well, She will then know the real cost of the child. Without her mother she cannot do college or a job either, she should be thankful to her.
@@powerofleo I agree. I just did a little Google search. Most parents pay (on average) about $750 to $850 a MONTH for childcare. This Mom says she has a double major and works full-time during the day, so IF she didn't have Grandma taking care of her baby full-time, that would be around $10,000 a year, give or take, that she would have to shell out for daycare for her daughter. She's not paying Grandma ANYTHING to do this job full-time. The Google fairies also tell me that it costs about $15,000 per yr to raise ONE child in 2021. According to Grandma, this child and her mother are living with Grandma RENT FREE and Mom isn't contributing anything to help pay for food, diapers, medical insurance, clothing, etc either. Personally, I think, since Mom just got this nice raise, she should be paying grandma a monthly rent, she should be paying for ALL of her daughter's needs (food, clothing, medical needs, diapers, etc) AND she should be paying Grandma to babysit her daughter as well. I think that's only fair, since she says she's gone ALL DAY and doesn't get home till midnight (WELL AFTER little London has gone to bed). And I DEFINITELY think that when the Mom is at home on weekends that she should be 100% responsible for caring for the child and give this poor grandmother a break. That means MOM wakes up early and feeds the baby breakfast and gets her bathed and dressed and takes care of her all day. She doesn't sleep in and make Grandma do all the work on the days she's at home.
It seems to come down to "I got pregnant at the wrong time" so parents can look after child until the Lazy Parent is "ready in the timing of life"... which never happens because life throws curve balls.
@@powerofleo Also u cant just open a clinic like that 😂. U need money to buy a location, pay electricity bills, water bills, ur employees. The way the daughter said she gonna open her own clinic was as if its gonna happen in a snap with her making more than 6 figures.
@@shabihrizvi5327 Exactly. That's not even factoring in the $15,000 a year that she's going to need to raise her daughter properly and have childcare while she's running this little clinic of hers. She's extremely entitled and I think she got a reality check today.
This girl is living in a fantasy world. When I was younger my grandmother would watch during the week. I was only when my parents were at work and they still brought my food to the house and gave my grandmother money on Fridays. It's a gift, not an entitlement and grandparents should be given financial assistance if they need it.
The "mother" makes $50,000 annually and she cannot even help a little?! She doesn't even pay for insurance. A lot of people work, go to school and are parents all at the same time. Welcome to the real world!
The child still isn't her responsibility, and if child support makes her daughter realize that, then good for the grandma and the mom. It's not because everyone does it that it is a good thing to do.
I make 43 a year and I have 6 kids. Learn to sacrifice and save. It's hard but it's worth it. Thankfully I'm married. Last time I bought new clothed was for a promotional interview before that I've worn the same clothes for a decade with people giving me hands-down pants their husband's are to fat for.
She can help she doesn't want to. She's selfish.
PREACH IT.
Pestie 7442 BLESS YOUR HEART ❤
When you are a new mom, learning the actual cost of child care is shocking. Some of us grew up with their grandmother taking care of us then when we became mothers, our own mothers didn’t want that same responsibility or couldn’t give it, so I feel for this young lady. Looking back now, I would gladly pay $800 a month for my mom to take care of my child. It’s a bargain!
Absolutely!! My mother passed away in 2005 before me and any of my siblings had kids. She never got the opportunity to be the most AMAZING grandma that we all knew she would be. We lost Dad in 2017 he got to be the best papa to the older grandkids but the 3 youngest (my one child is included in this) soooo jealous of people who have both or even one of their parents to help. My daughter has one biological grandparent that’s able to be involved in her life. His step dad is amazing so thankfully my daughter does atleast have them. Thankfully my husband Mom and step Dad are wonderful and they help when they can as they both work full time in their own careers.
I gladly paid about $600.00 @ month (back in the early '80's) so my mother would NOT babysit my son. Ye gods & little fishes, after what she put my siblings and I through, growing up with her and her BPD? I would not wish that experience on anyone, let alone my own little man.
She could be really vicious at times with no regard as to age-appropriate displays of rage. It didn't matter to her what age the target was, the familial relationship if any, so many scared neighborhood kids over the years. Nope, cheap at twice the price!!
Your grandmother probably never worked outside the home, whereas your mother probably did. The 21st century is a TOTALLY different world from the 20th century.
Grandmother's value is now assessed monetarily and she knows her worth.
Yea. These new grandmas different. Lol
We did grow up up with grandmothers, but we knew that was not guaranteed.
Judge V taught this young lady the basics and her responsibilities of being a mother. The grandmother should receive financial support from her daughter. Unique Case!
It was very selfish of the daughter to take advantage of her mother
Well they probably never agreed on money the mother said I'm not paying you and the mother didn't say I'm not taking care of your kid case open and shut.
Love this grandmas logic. Young lady needs to learn to be responsible. It’s great she’s getting an education. But being a parent comes first and foremost. Sure it’s hectic, but in the end the child will see as it gets older. Man my mom really fought hard for me. Going to school, working and still took care of me .
School is important but being a mother tops everything. This boils my blood. Being a mother means your dreams on hold or you make it work. This is an entitlement thing for sure
this! she shouldve took online school to make time for her daughter her mom can watch the baby when she works. but she needs to sacrifice something for her daughter
My guy if she doesn’t get a degree then she can’t feed herself or the child, I wouldn’t call it a dream, a dream is traveling the world this is a requirement
@@Sinlorraine exactly! As a parent it's not about you no more once that baby comes out in the world it's time to make some sacrifices that's what it means to be a parent is make sacrifices
@@ja-king3067 um no being a psychiatrist is a dream getting a degree is a dream working is a requirement yes but not everyone can get there DREAM job
exactly. i forewent my dreams to try to care for my daughter. i’m trying to get things together and do better for my daughter now and find new dreams with the life that I have been given. she should have not had a kid if she didn’t want to try to work at having one.
You would think she would WANT to help her mom for helping her. So UNGRATEFUL
One of the things I thought that was extremely beautiful about this particular case is the fact that the mother is not in there trying to make her daughter out to be a bad mom. She gave her the positive respect she deserves when she stated that her daughter did do her best to spend time with her daughter on the weekends when she was able. She did not speak disrespectfully about her daughter whatsoever. She was just there to try to get the compensation she was owed for all of the hard work and time she was putting in essentially raising her grandchild.
The look on the daughters face when the judge told her the amount that she would have to be paying in child support was absolutely astounding. I don’t believe she ever thought she would have to pay an amount that high let alone pay anything at all.
How about dad
@@margaretoneillclancy5778sounds like they don't know who the dad is.
The daughter will be wishing she had already been giving her mom money, lol, instead of letting the court settle it. Kids in college are not that smart anymore.
The daughter will be wishing she had already been giving her mom money, lol, instead of letting the court settle it. Kids in college are not that smart anymore.
I can't be anything but impressed with the demeanor of the judge. The ability to remain so patient with so many self-entitled people is quite power to have... love your work.
I’m glad the daughter was understanding & knowing this is what she has to do.
I hear you but I wish she would of been like that in the first place so they didn’t need to see a judge about it.
@@jessg8684 I agree. At the same time, she probably didn’t take her mom serious. The mom had no choice but to do what she had to do to get the point across.
I know right!!!! I'm glad there was no hollering and screaming back and forth.
I admire the mom for being respectful & giving her daughter credit where credit is due. She was only asking for help but gave her daughter credit for being a good daughter, student & mother. Wow. If only they could all be that respectful.
HONESTLY! I loved to see that too. It was refreshing!
I feel like I owe my mother my life. How could you not feel like you owe her and she continues to provide for you after you’re grown? Her mother is obviously supportive but her mom shouldn’t be an unpaid babysitter especially when she had and raised her children.
You dont owe your mom anything.
She CHOSE to have you.
Call me mean, but I'm with Alex on this one. Stop and think about ur saying. If ur going to give ur life to ur mother, make sure it's of ur own violation. Also, keep on eye out for red flags, yeah? For our sake, if not ur own (for whatever that may worth).
" she's already tucked in, what do you pull the covers up a little higher " 🤣 that took me out 😂
My mom was a full-time student and had a full-time job and took care of me perfectly fine by herself as a single mom. Not saying it's not hard because it 100% is. But it's doable.
So when she’s at work or school who is watching the baby because it’s illegal to leave a child alone at 2 😂 and not all jobs let you bring a two year old to work
@@keyiahmcclain4229 I hate the mentality I did it so can you. Not everyone can but good for those who are able to juggle all 3
@@HackerActivist exactly, not everyone is gonna have the same opportunities, lifestyle, and work-life so saying someone else should be able to just because you did is super shallow
@@keyiahmcclain4229 No one cares. She made the choice, she suffers the consequences. Daycare exists.
@@vastravax7670 I don’t really understand what you’re getting at 😅 I agree with what you said.. but that’s not the point I was talking about? Not everyone has the same opportunities when it comes to access to child care anyways… everyone’s life is gonna be different, so we can’t expect others to be able to do the same thing we did, or with the same amount of ease. That’s all I’m really sayin :)
That mom is beyond amazing. She was patient, she didnt say anything negative about her daughter, shes was still loving to her daughter, but still stood her ground. Just good parenting right there!
I’m so happy this didn’t break out into an immature argument. I’m glad the daughter was understanding about it and owned up to it. This was very mature and I liked the “sorry honey you gotta learn” part too. Grandma is understanding too and just wants a little help and i’m glad the daughter didn’t fight that. You can tell they alone have a strong bond and grandma just wants what’s best for her daughter and grand baby:)
she is prolly the best mom ive seen so far on this show. atleast she is there on the weekends and not out partying and handling her business
Sounds like a low benchmark.
Straight up have been binge watching all the episodes the past week! Subscribed for sure 😎
Thank you so much for your support!❤️
BRAVO! Judge you are awesome, fair and balance those scales very well! I wish we had more who’d follow your example!
Honestly, this is the most respectable family dynamic I've seen on this channel since I started watching. Yea, the daught is a bit entitled but at least she's not out parting (allegedly) and is trying to create a better future for herself. Repsect.
You saw the one where she didn't want to pay child support and legit scoffed at the amount and bold faced, "What am I gonna have left to party with?"
That grandma tried so hard to not talk negatively about her daughter.. But, she absolutely deserves support..
Listen this women needs a noble prize she is incredible and places the right ideas and qualities in the people who need it
She is very lucky that she still has her mother helping her out. I hope she learn to be grateful to her mother's efforts. I'm a single mom and have to work and take care of my son and it is really tedious. Taking care of a child without monetary incentive is very difficult, tiring and stressful. She needs to open her eyes and thank her mother.
I love watching support court, I always watch an episode while eating a meal! 😂
That's what I'm doing right now lol
Same but I always roll a blunt n watch it
Same, literally eating sandwiches and chips right now💀💀💀
Always seems that way when I’m eating and watching this😆🤣💯
Swear me too lol
Kids are funny. My 21 year old daughter lived with me and then got married and moved him in, when I suggested they start paying rent her response was "I am not going to pay rent in my own home!".. lol Its quite funny watching them grow up and put the dots together.
Shoot when I got a job at 18 my dadade me start paying rent. And I just worked and went home.
I was in college and had my daughter and got divorced. I used any money given to me for the baby on a sitter while I went to class and when my mom would be nice enough she'd watch my daughter so I could study.
Im more selfish with my kids than most because I really love them, love their faces and taking care of them. They're so precious.
I’m a single mom of two, full-time online student, full-time job. I was declined twice for both of my children. My mom helps with my kids but I would be damned to treat my mom like this so messed up
She could’ve been paying her mother $500 a month for taking care of the baby, just be a decent person. Now she has a legal and binding obligation…. It sucks cause for once she’s not the mom just doing whatever and partying it just seems like she’s working hard and spending time so that she can have her daughter on her own in the future.
I agree. It seems like everytime a parent or grandparent wants support, the actual parent(s) don't care about anything but themselves. This chick seems different. That being said, I don't like how she feels like her Mom has to watch her kid day in day out. She feels entitled when she made the decision to mess around. Even with her going to school and work, I think she has a lot of growing up to do. She has an attitude.
@Tony bubonic But remember, she's giving back! 🤣🤣
She’s making 50000 that’s a good salary the least she can do is buy diapers and groceries and stuff and the mom would have been happy. Her mom seemed so reasonable. Sad
Mom taught her daughter a valuable lesson in life. I hope the daughter is thankful she has such a good Mom looking after her granddaughter for so long in the first place with no support. I hope the daughter goes on to have a great career and can support her daughter 100% herself in her own home.
Growing up I remember seeing so many women and men thinking it’s ok for their partners to take care of their children without financial compensation. It makes me so mad, even if they have job or they are going to school they need to pay. I mean obviously the grandparents could help out if they wanted to, but not permanently until their kid gets their shit together. They need to learn that the minute they have a child it’s their responsibility.
I don't disagree, but will add: how about not having children until you are ready? It can be done.
Yep as someone whose 23 and have two young kids I’ve never dumped my kids on my mom. She takes them on whatever weekends she can which is rare and I have no issue with that because I made them!
I agree but students don’t have to work while they are a student , But I still agree
I agree. I love that my mom is around and available to watch my kiddos when I need emergency care for them. I’ve offered to pay her, but she won’t accept.
Grand Ma is soooo sweet bless her
I love watching the show. I wish it would come back on TV.
She should feel grateful to her mom for raising her so well and making sure she was on the right track to be able to do what she would like in life. And I'm glad she is going to help her mom out, it's just to bad they had to go to court to get that resolved.
All of these actors are incredibly talented! It took me so long to figure out these were only based on real cases
Actors?
@@BaByGuUrL221 i just read youtube description. They are actors. I am shook.
@@mexicanachulax3 There is no mention of any actors here
@@jairoherrera4040 yes there is, at the end of the video
I love this one daughter was raised wonderfully she’s sucking it up and doing what she’s gotta do!
...what? I hope that's sarcasm
What a lovely grandmother.!!
It’s amazing the grandma stood up for herself. I know some parents that would do anything for their kids, including going into debt to help them.
Poor grandma being taken advantage of
I'm glad the daughter was ordered to pay child support
I really love this Judge's videos. I enjoy the little educational/explanation she gives after.
Grandmother has her stuff grouped. At the very least the child is receiving solid care from a responsible adult.
That mom was so respectful!
The way the officer rushes through saying "Judge Vonda B" is class. THAT's the reassuring tone I need 24/7.
She's living with her mother and it doesn't sound like she gives her any rent or pays bills nor does she give her child support. For someone who is studying psychology, it's hilarious that she can't see how entitled she is. Her mother is just too nice.
now if i was the grandma i’d also see about taking the father of the child to court 🤷🏽♀️ it takes two to tangle to make the baby! both of the parents need to be helping her
The mother should chase the father, not the grandmother, assuming the mother is the custodial parent (grandmother doesn’t have legal custody). If father was contributing to child support, mother’s obligation would be less.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼!!!!
I’m sitting here wondering why he wasn’t mentioned at all.
The mother of the child needs to take the biological father to court for child support, then the entirety of that money should then be automatically transferred to the maternal grandmother. In addition, the mother of the child should provide financial support to her mother during the time she is raising her child. Yes, this young mother is struggling to juggle the cost of school, basic living costs, and the money needed to raise a child, but at the end of the day, it is her and the biological father's legal obligation to pay for all financial costs for the child.
And so we start with blaming the Father who was not present in this case.The daughter was the one who chose to carry the baby full term.She had access to plenty of BC even morning after pill or even adoption if she did not want to be a mom.Maybe dad is not mentioned because he's deceased.But we don't ever want to think about that because it always easier to get angry at the man for whatever reason despite the daughter being extremely selfish towards her own mother.
I absolutely love mum. So much love yet such a disciplinarian
Love your show I love it when you tell the truth and make them see it from the right point of view. I really don't understand how all these women got it in their heads that Mom and or dad are supposed to take care of their grandchildren just because you're working and going to school it's not their fault that you opened your legs. Why don't you try being more responsible and take care of your own children or not have any at all.
There are a few young single moms in my class and they are troopers! They inspire me when I feel overwhelmed with school
Superb. Every video I have seen on this channel has shown fairness & impartiality to both sides, and put entitled people in their place. Best Judge ever.
This Grandma is a Saint
Yo Judge, stay sassy 👍🏼😁 new to your channel, and have been bing watching all of your cases!
Thank you!! Enjoy the show!❤️
I’m glad the young lady at least seemed to start understanding by the end. University is hard so I get her situation, so her paying child support at least compensates a bit for having no time for her kid.
I luv watching you, your a breath of fresh air.
I looked after my grandson while my daughter went to university. It wasn't something I was able to do for the other grandchildren as I was working full time but it was good to be able to do it for one. My daughter was and is very appreciative and has helped me too in the years since. I've never felt taken for granted and I hope she hasn't either
This is great! The way she purses her lips is EVERYTHING 😂. I need more Judge Vonda B in my life immediately!
Stunned at her expectation of free child care! At 23 I was working full time and going to school at night. My parents were raising my son. I helped by paying for all of his needs and gave them $100/month out of my $300 net income! Graduated college, made 50k & upped it to $1000/mo plus all of his needs including private boarding school and health insurance. She’s getting off easy.
Love your show! You play no games 👏🏾👏🏾
Lmao she thinks she’s gonna be able to open her own clinic right after graduating?? 😂
YOUR kid, YOUR responsibility.
Wish these were longer ! Love these !! Thank you ❤
I love the way the judge say, "child"
I love how fair you are,,,and insist on good manners!!!
Excuses , literally. If she loved that child , she’ll make time.
Not necessarily true. I spent over decade of my kids' lives in the oilfield to make sure I could provide the best life I possibly could financially for them. Did I end up regretting it because I missed so much time with them? Yes. Does that mean I didn't do what I did from a place of love though? Absolutely not
In this case yes, she doesn’t give a shit…
@@richardbean1707 I don't disagree with you, I'm believe you providing for your family was a gesture of love.
However, that's how adults think. Do you think your kids understood your sacrifice? Do you think your kids would prefer the lifestyle you provided or spending more time with you? 🤷🏾♀️
You, friend, are NOTHING like this woman. Idk if you raised your kids with a spouse/partner or if your mom cared for the kids. Either way, I know you sent that paycheck home. So why compare yourself to someone who comes home every night to their child yet still has mom taking 1st spot in raising the child. IMO, BIG difference.
Your kids will understand your sacrifice one day. This poor girl will constantly question why she is closer to her grandmother than her mom. And that chills me to the bone.
if she loved the child more than making it she wouldn't be here.
Wow I like this point of you too. But hey if seen people do this, and there children like there grandparents or aunts/uncles better than there own parents. Is not the same love.
“Congratulations, we all work, all day.” The girl ain’t spoke for a minute and she’s already getting read 😂😂
Mad RESPECT to the grandma! 👏👏👏👏👏
I fell pregnant as my dream career was about to start for me. I gave up on my career to raise my son. He’s 4 now and I don’t regret putting my personal life on hold to raise him. Once he’s in school I can go do my career. Being a mother is meant to come first.
She needs to be mad at her baby daddy and not her mother. Where is he at?! smh Why do parents think its their family's responsibility to give them FREE child care?! My sister in law and her baby daddy does the same thing. Everytime we see them they want my husband and I (childfree) to watch my nephew for hours at a time for free like we have nothing to do or bills to pay. It's NOBODY'S responsibility to take care of your kids but yours!!
Because they say they will and willingly volunteer until they get annoyed, then they want to flip the script when there's another crying, 💩, human already here.
Must say that the women were very respectful and it was refreshing to see.
The students that feel entitled to be relieved of their responsibility because their college students are shameless.
this was a normal human interaction.. the grandmother was calm and NOT trying to bash her own daughter, she stated her opinions and facts and she knew that was enough without all the extra
I love your channel. Can’t wait to see this new episode 💙
This is one of the best channels I've found on YT.
I've been watching this for hours now.
Great stuff love and respect from Australia
I 100% agree with her mom. I paid my mom to watch my daughter when I was working. Mom deserves it, honey.
100%! My mom watches my kids for me when I need back up care. I want to pay her but she won’t let me.
Yes 👏 As always, Judge Vonda B puts it out there in her no nonsense way (that we all love) She is always fair with her rulings and gives the best advice.
I love how you handle these cases. So formal yet there's a bit of sarcasm and shade when you know a person is 'not right in the head' xD You don't yell or shout but stay calm, not like some other judge s that i've seen on tv or yt.
I was waiting for the judge to hit her on the fact that she's making 50K a year and sticking the tax payers for HER kids health care costs. I give her credit that she's going to school and trying to better her self but she can't stick her mom and the tax payers with all those costs and obligations. I really loved it when her mom told her "your the one who got knocked up on prom night" and she said "well you wanted to be a grand mother didn't you." And Mom was like "Yeah but if figured you get married first and have some one to help you!" BOOM reality bomb !!!!
You're the best Judge Vonda B.💯💯💯
Unfortunately, she's not a judge.
You are one fair and understanding judge, I watch like 10 episodes a day, omw to and from school, which is 1 hour each way. Thank you for being a bias judge. I just love ❤️
We 'The People' just LUV it when a real woman dishes it out! Carry On Vonda B.!
Grandma will be able to do a few more fun things with her granddaughter now. And buy what the little one needs, and help with groceries etc. I wish grandma good health and lots of happy bonding with that little one.
How could she sit there with a straight face knowing she's taking advantage of her mom? 😳 The audacity of that girl. Hope she actually learned something from this.
Mom seemed like a really chill person, I’d be willing to bet this was a last resort for her, she would’ve much rather not taken her daughter to court but she had to.
You had a choice of a Double Major but you chose Single Mother.
So you need to pay up. AND you're staying there too,pshhht.
No Rent, No Bills...
I'm proud of mom for being a hard worker and getting the education that she wants/needs. With that said, it is also very important that the grandmother have the financial responsibility of her daughters child.
When the mom said "its not my fault u got pregnant on prom night" my face went 😳😳😳😳😳😳 i was SHOOK. Also $800 a month??? Thats more than my rent per month💀💀💀 girls gotta learn somehow tho smh
$800 is MORE than your monthly rent? You're obviously not from California ☹️😭😢
Where do you live???!! 😮
Sure enjoy Judge B. Wish they would place you on TV. Thank you for all you have done in the past and I'm the future.