Most men who say divorce is not an option, especially Christian men, use it as a ruse to say they will put in the effort to make the marriage work knowing darn well they're ONLY saying that to trap and shame women into staying with them.
Christian men ate tame compared to ☪️. They stone their 🧕🏾 for talking to a man tvey are not related to, which is cheating in Sharia. When a woman does it.
In developed countries most people are atheists or somehow religious put common aense over esoteric nonsense rules. ☪️ is the bigger problem. In Germany we have Honor Ks ☠️ at least once a week, because we have so many ☪️ "refugees". Christuanity is tame compared to a religion that says a woman's life has no value.
I agree with you 100%. And they know that if their spouse has the same belief, they can get away with doing all sorts of nonsense and horrible things to her because she believes that she cannot leave. Furthermore, in religious settings a lot of the time women are blamed for not upholding the marriage. When their husband misbehaves and those bad things they’re told to pray more or will be more submissive.
I had a woman friend who was married. I listened to her and saw weird interactions between her husband and her for years. She stated to me one day that she talked to her pastor at church and he was stating "God hates divorce". My reply was rather sarcastically, "yes, but he just loves dysfunctional, abusive, controlling, nasty relationships." What a crock of baloney. I couldn't be around her anymore as I could not listen to this crap anymore. Hopefully she is divorced by now.
As soon as we got married, my husband said divorce is not an option. And he was true to his word until he left me for another woman 18 years later. Never again
Divorce is not an option *on his side*... Women have to start prioritizing their own feelings over those of others, even though we are societally conditioned like that. Divorce can also be filed by one person alone, he does not have to like it. I really hope he wasn't abusive towards you and that you were able to heal from this immense breach of trust. Wishing you all the best going forward, and please always put yourself first!
Yup men only want to get divorced when THEY want it. They expect women to just stay and put up with their crap but when they get bored or tired they can just up and leave. They’re extremely selfish. They only want to keep a woman around so they can siphon her energy until they find another woman.
My dad always said a person who wants to divorce has failed their marriage and didn't even try to work things out, he divorced my mom 3 years after the last time we discovered he cheated (we think he also cheated during the last days of their marriage, but we can't confirm it). He is the main reasons why i don't want to ever marry or be in a relationship with a man, because he made the life of my mom and me like hell during and after the marriage.
My parents were happily married for 52 years with no infidelity (that I've ever heard of anyway) until my dad passed last year and divorce was ALWAYS an option in their marriage. My mom was not his servant and if it was nit worth her while to stay, she would not have. He made it worthwhile. He was a real one. So you're 100% spot on as usual. Having that as part of your marriage does not make you more likely to divorce, I think it makes you more likely to participate in the relationship.
This is why I've always made my own money and never got married. The risks of a marriage going bad for women is just too high. I'm ok with a long term relationship, but I need my own place. Even living with someone I'm not related to, feels like I would feel "trapped". I just can't get past that part, but that's me.
Same. Been there, done that twice, never again. Men switch up when you move in together or get married. They stay on their best behaviour when you can just walk away from the relationship very easily.
I got divorced after four years. Marriage felt like a trap…I am not a grown man’s mommy. I have been with my current man for 14 years. He knows how to act like an adult. I’m never getting married again…I’m also not planning any split with my man. Be safe and happy, sisters.
Just recently that woman from tik tok was killed for wanting to leave her marriage, it’s so heartbreaking too because she never said anything mean or rude about her “husband” who killed her. He doesn’t deserve the title of husband.
Just found your channel and have listened to all your podcast episodes. Im 26 and have never had a romantic experience because of everything i've seen with my own eyes and all of my suspicions confermed by you in the past two days. -Thankfully, Amber-Jasmin ✨🧚🌷
I was 26 my first romantic encounter. I thought things were bad because I was a late bloomer and just needed more time in the dating pool. Just don't do it. It's beyond disappointing. And the residual disappointment as well as the layers of trauma from literally every man (even the "good ones") haunt forever :/
Really!? I knew it! I've only been 26 for a month, but it seems like it doesn't matter what generation a man is from they all look like a worse off experience for women. @@MyTruthTriggersYou
I didn't even realise my brother is a misogynist until right now after looking at his behaviour. Being around it has made me blind to it. But my gut has always said stay away from men .. so I have .. 😳
1:13 How much do you wanna bet if no-fault divorce comes back all these men that didn’t want to commit will suddenly want to get married. That would be a hard pass no I am not marrying you now!
It doesnt sound super romantic, but it’s quite literally about “I am with you because I choose to be with you every day. Not because I’m forced to be here.”
They know, no one would be with them willingly. Thats why the resort to this. This is why men are always spiritually punished, because they keep infringing on other peoples free will.
If divorce isn't an option, then marriage isn't either. Why would I enter a lifetime contract where the other party has no real incentive to uphold their part. If I can't leave or earn income they can't access. I'm stuck with some lieing asshole the rest of my life.
@@Eedg769 women who dont wear makeup make less money, get offered jobs less, and are constantly asked questions like are you sick. Society absolutely puts a penalty on not conforming to mens ideas about womanhood
What put me off marriage was actually being proposed to. Instead of being excited & telling everyone & planning anything, it woke me up. I should have kept the ring though that's my only regret lol.
I'm still married because my husband supports me in my journey through life, he is an equal contributor to our partnership, we have amazing s🎉, we're best friends. He enjoys it when I feel happy and he enjoys making me feel happy and vice versa.
@Ashaliyeva You are right, I'm really lucky to have found him 😊. I did do a lot of work beforehand to be able to recognize him: a person who would really like and appreciate me for me. If you're interested in hearing how I did that, I can share.
@ВалерияМ-р1р Ok. Interesting user name. It can be hard for me to know on what level to tell the story. There are many places to begin and many lenses to use. Which is the story you can hear? Which is the one I can tell with conviction? On this platform. Ok. First phase, I found some men interesting, but they didn't reciprocate. Also there were older men targeting me but they were so clearly incompetent predators that I told the oldest and richest one he was too ugly. All of this felt like a waste of my time and energy and what I had to offer. So I switched to only going for men that really wanted to spend with me in a genuine way. I was not interested in men that wanted to fool around and didn't see me at all. So I didn't see them either. I might dance with them but I always knew, I can dance better without you. And I mean actually dancing. In this phase, I dated men as a full romantic though. I saw something beautiful in them and thought this must mean we could crack the code together and make it work forever. 🤩 So I stuck around too long, while I could have known that seeing beauty doesn't equal having compatibility. Then I came to my "I don't want to waste our time phase". If we are not compatible, we have no business staying together. I managed to figure out our incompatibility and break our off. This meant that I had 1-3 months relationships. To be sure, I only persued relationships that I was genuinely interested in. For me it seemed pointless to waste my time dating men I already didn't care for. Then I got fed up with that, I clearly wasn't doing it right. So I decided to stop dating at all. That's when I met someone who I didn't want to be with long term and it was only for me, for what I wanted. Turns out that was the key to the puzzle. I wanted this man, who wanted me. And he saw me as an equal, the way I am, fully accepting me. In some ways, more than I was able to accept myself at the time. And most importantly, we were actually compatible. We offered what the other wanted or needed. Did I say it in a way you could hear? I'm not sure. Let me know.
Hi! This post is not about this video per se, but I just wanted to tell you how much your content has helped me. I am 52, and have been divorced for 16 years after a fifteen year marriage. My marriage was one of your cautionary tales. There was no physical abuse, but the purposeful dismantling of my self-worth and the gaslighting left me broken. I have in the years since felt very bereft. It sometimes seems like I'm the only unmarried person my age. I wondered why no one had ever loved me. Your videos, specifically, have started a shift in my mind. I'm not left behind, or left out. I'm lucky. I come home and do what I want. I eat what I want, and buy what I want and live how I want, which was simply not possible when I was married. When I look around me, I see that my divorce wasn't a punishment. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Literally why would you ever want to be in a marriage with someone who wanted to divorce you but couldn't/wouldn't? I love being married but the idea of knowing my wife wanted to leave and felt forced to stay is one of the most depressing things I can imagine
Lol yes don’t get married if you can’t afford getting divorced. 🤪 My mother died of breast cancer from dealing with my narcissist father. Life is too f*cking short!!!!
There’s so many more things I can think of that are way worse thangetting divorced. It is definitely not the end of the world. It might just actually be the beginning of it.
I have heard some people say this meaning that unless the relationship was irreparable, divorce is not an option. I've seen a few healthy relationships where they would only leave if things got bad (cheating, abuse, etc.) If things got "boring", they would invest the effort to revive their marriage instead of just walking away. Any other meaning of that phrase...no.
@@CordeliaWagner1999is it delulu or is it people just find it easier to give up? Single parent homes are far more common in the USA than in Europe. The difference can be huge. Is it that the Europeans stay too long or perhaps, in the USA they can give up too soon?
Haven't even finished the video but need to say after the whole will&jada entanglement debacle I have NEVER look at any marriage the same. I was shocked and sad with all they put each other through
Choice is a human right and a woman’s right (by default right common sense one would presume aka feminism as the radical notion that women are people prob not correct quote ) and fully agree as a recently happily divorced 40 something, love your channel
Don't ever and I mean ever have a child with a boyfriend! My very first boyfriend convinced me to have his child with the promise of marriage. He was cheating while I cared for our child and he constantly picked fights with me and accused me of cheating when I didn't have the time to even meet anyone else. I found out through his friend he was in a relationship with his managers daughter. He also went and married her and had kids with her and she really thought that she was safe, but she was wrong because he cheated on her and got and girl pregnant. He traumatized our son and when he turned 18 he decided to cut all ties to his dad. DON'T EVER HAVE CHILDREN FOR A BOYFRIEND. If he truly loves you he will wait years with no s3x and marry you and have children and he will have no outside children out of marriage.
I was getting stronger in my relationship after every separation or when we have some kind of big disagreement. Its a meaningful point where we can know each other better, both know we can leave, but since we want to be together how can we create a plan for both of us. Thats what she taught me - we need to be ready that it can be over. Somehow its not over for 6 years, its such a treasure to know i was chosen, and we built it🥹, not because the other person didnt have other options🙄😆
My dad got married 6 times and my mom 2 times and they didn't get married to each other I was a love child lol. Anyways I don't believe in marriage at all. No thanks. If divorce is an option why would I even consider marriage. Not gonna catch me being the property of anyone.
My grandma and grandpa got divorced before I was born. My grandma had a dowery so she just left when he wanted to move her to a farm.... she moved and traveled and got married like 3 times I think. My grandpa also got remarried but to like the worst grandma ever.... she was a monster.
I think marriage can be great benefit to people, families, and society but only allowing divorce in certain scenarios is a burden of proof that is too great and can have unethical results and keep people in bad situations.
I always chuckle a bit when you slip and put the verb at the end of a sentence like in 4:10 😊 I believe that comes from Russian being your mother tongue? Love your content, keep on doing Goddess’ work! ✨
She did not slip; that is correct grammar. It comes from Aristotle saying “One swallow does not a summer make”. Now it is a common idiom in English and you may see it in books/articles if you pay attention. The more you know :) 🌈
@@anna-nr1tt ah wasn’t aware that that is correct in English! Never heard it in English before and I am not native speaker, thanks for the clarification!
@Melie7890 relax lmao Russian DOES put the verbs at the end of a sentence in some cases. I wasn’t aware that it can also be done in English in some cases, as other user very kindly explained. So in my mind, her mother tongue was coming out unintentionally as it usually happens with people that speak several languages.
Hi! Do you think you could repost an older series you had on learned helplessness? I saw it featured in this video but I can't find it on your channel > th-cam.com/video/hPXEi8Jlm2k/w-d-xo.htmlsi=JIsm7lIXOFKxJTXh
All good stuff, except we know now scientifically that free will doesn’t exist. The concept of free will is religious and patriarchal. But it’s good to keep teaching women a healthier way, so that hopefully it clicks someday.
It has always been a philosophical debate: free will VS free choice. I don’t think either exists in the _literal_ sense of the word freedom. It would be most accurate to say free will VS _autonomous_ will & free choice VS _autonomous_ choice. IMO many people would prefer to discuss the latter word, but have already been convinced it is same thing as the former…but they are not synonymous in the _practical_ sense.
@@19katsandcounting on the contrary, free will was invented against religious duties If later scientists wanted to calculate how bound you're by biology and physics, it's another thing
Also very much presuming christianity. Not every pre colonial society had marriage, and that was very much represented in their religion. Theres a popular hawaiian myth where the volcano goddess chooses to break up with her toxic ex who she was basically married too, and thats a good thing
@jensanruby so did anyone see this volcano goddess in person? No? Ok then. Demons are always up for tricking humans into believing stuff that's not real then they laugh at you.
You are so wise. "Divorce is not an option" is the mantra of cheating men.
Every single happily divorced woman I know says they wish they had left earlier.
At this point, it might be safer to just not marry.
Safer & best
It's far more romantic for someone to CHOOSE to be with you every day than to be forced to.
Yes, 💯 agreement but that's not the way narcissists think... 😮😢
@@rebekkagasmi9451Not just narcs....
If someone doesn't love their spouse anymore, preventing them from getting a divorce won't change that.
Most men who say divorce is not an option, especially Christian men, use it as a ruse to say they will put in the effort to make the marriage work knowing darn well they're ONLY saying that to trap and shame women into staying with them.
Christian men ate tame compared to ☪️. They stone their 🧕🏾 for talking to a man tvey are not related to, which is cheating in Sharia. When a woman does it.
In developed countries most people are atheists or somehow religious put common aense over esoteric nonsense rules. ☪️ is the bigger problem.
In Germany we have Honor Ks ☠️ at least once a week, because we have so many ☪️ "refugees".
Christuanity is tame compared to a religion that says a woman's life has no value.
I agree with you 100%. And they know that if their spouse has the same belief, they can get away with doing all sorts of nonsense and horrible things to her because she believes that she cannot leave. Furthermore, in religious settings a lot of the time women are blamed for not upholding the marriage. When their husband misbehaves and those bad things they’re told to pray more or will be more submissive.
My father said divorce is not an option. He was very very sadistic.
Was. It's over for him. I hope you are healing and having a good lufe.
Based
@@vivek264bityeah, based on bullshit
Yea, they hate not having a victim ready to abuse
Even on your actual wedding day, please dear woman, think of divorce. This thinking will keep you safe and sane.
Why not? Every man is thinking of this on their wedding day also
Don’t marry in the first place. Been there, hated it. Divorced!
Same. Don’t plan on marrying again!
I had a woman friend who was married. I listened to her and saw weird interactions between her husband and her for years. She stated to me one day that she talked to her pastor at church and he was stating "God hates divorce". My reply was rather sarcastically, "yes, but he just loves dysfunctional, abusive, controlling, nasty relationships." What a crock of baloney. I couldn't be around her anymore as I could not listen to this crap anymore. Hopefully she is divorced by now.
You were a good friend to her. The truth is hard.
If divorce is not an option, you're trapped.
That's the idea.
If divorce is not an option, it's a life sentence - involuntary servitude
As soon as we got married, my husband said divorce is not an option. And he was true to his word until he left me for another woman 18 years later. Never again
Divorce is not an option *on his side*... Women have to start prioritizing their own feelings over those of others, even though we are societally conditioned like that.
Divorce can also be filed by one person alone, he does not have to like it.
I really hope he wasn't abusive towards you and that you were able to heal from this immense breach of trust.
Wishing you all the best going forward, and please always put yourself first!
@ thank you so much!
It's red pill talk ...
Yup men only want to get divorced when THEY want it. They expect women to just stay and put up with their crap but when they get bored or tired they can just up and leave. They’re extremely selfish.
They only want to keep a woman around so they can siphon her energy until they find another woman.
My dad always said a person who wants to divorce has failed their marriage and didn't even try to work things out, he divorced my mom 3 years after the last time we discovered he cheated (we think he also cheated during the last days of their marriage, but we can't confirm it).
He is the main reasons why i don't want to ever marry or be in a relationship with a man, because he made the life of my mom and me like hell during and after the marriage.
Divorce comes because a marriage fails.
People are not failures.
@@VeeKayGreenerGrassif a person chooses to cheat or betray their spouse, that’s a conscious choice lol.
My parents were happily married for 52 years with no infidelity (that I've ever heard of anyway) until my dad passed last year and divorce was ALWAYS an option in their marriage. My mom was not his servant and if it was nit worth her while to stay, she would not have. He made it worthwhile. He was a real one. So you're 100% spot on as usual. Having that as part of your marriage does not make you more likely to divorce, I think it makes you more likely to participate in the relationship.
This is why I've always made my own money and never got married. The risks of a marriage going bad for women is just too high. I'm ok with a long term relationship, but I need my own place. Even living with someone I'm not related to, feels like I would feel "trapped". I just can't get past that part, but that's me.
Plus as soon as a man moves in he will turn i to a little child and you become the caretaker, cook and housekeeper. Like he made you his new mother.
You're smart, it's 100% a trap. Took me way too long to understand it but it happened every time. Always keep your own place!
Same. Been there, done that twice, never again. Men switch up when you move in together or get married.
They stay on their best behaviour when you can just walk away from the relationship very easily.
💯
I got divorced after four years. Marriage felt like a trap…I am not a grown man’s mommy. I have been with my current man for 14 years. He knows how to act like an adult. I’m never getting married again…I’m also not planning any split with my man. Be safe and happy, sisters.
Just recently that woman from tik tok was killed for wanting to leave her marriage, it’s so heartbreaking too because she never said anything mean or rude about her “husband” who killed her. He doesn’t deserve the title of husband.
And then all the ppl defending the man’s actions, are always men…. It’s like men want us to believe that their depravity and violence is justified.
@@Raven.Madnessexactly
If divorce were “not an option” I would have died on Christmas 2017.
When divorce is not an option, make sure there’s huge life insurance on him. 💀
Just found your channel and have listened to all your podcast episodes. Im 26 and have never had a romantic experience because of everything i've seen with my own eyes and all of my suspicions confermed by you in the past two days.
-Thankfully,
Amber-Jasmin ✨🧚🌷
I was 26 my first romantic encounter. I thought things were bad because I was a late bloomer and just needed more time in the dating pool. Just don't do it. It's beyond disappointing. And the residual disappointment as well as the layers of trauma from literally every man (even the "good ones") haunt forever :/
@@MyTruthTriggersYou I wish I could say something different, but at 49, I can attest to this. OP is better off.
Really!? I knew it! I've only been 26 for a month, but it seems like it doesn't matter what generation a man is from they all look like a worse off experience for women. @@MyTruthTriggersYou
Welcome to the bad bi+ches club❤
I didn't even realise my brother is a misogynist until right now after looking at his behaviour. Being around it has made me blind to it. But my gut has always said stay away from men .. so I have .. 😳
You’re one of the best that’s speaking out about these issues.. love it! ❤❤❤
1:13 How much do you wanna bet if no-fault divorce comes back all these men that didn’t want to commit will suddenly want to get married. That would be a hard pass no I am not marrying you now!
It doesnt sound super romantic, but it’s quite literally about “I am with you because I choose to be with you every day. Not because I’m forced to be here.”
No it means 'I'm forced to stay with you because no one else will have me and I cannot be a grown up adult and live by myself'.
They know, no one would be with them willingly. Thats why the resort to this. This is why men are always spiritually punished, because they keep infringing on other peoples free will.
If divorce isn't an option, then marriage isn't either. Why would I enter a lifetime contract where the other party has no real incentive to uphold their part. If I can't leave or earn income they can't access. I'm stuck with some lieing asshole the rest of my life.
Can you talk more about how we are punished by society if we don't do our hair and makeup and how men can be really mean to you as a result?
Let them be mean. Who needs their approval? Until women stop craving male approval, we won’t get anywhere.
@@Eedg769 women who dont wear makeup make less money, get offered jobs less, and are constantly asked questions like are you sick. Society absolutely puts a penalty on not conforming to mens ideas about womanhood
What put me off marriage was actually being proposed to. Instead of being excited & telling everyone & planning anything, it woke me up. I should have kept the ring though that's my only regret lol.
I'm still married because my husband supports me in my journey through life, he is an equal contributor to our partnership, we have amazing s🎉, we're best friends. He enjoys it when I feel happy and he enjoys making me feel happy and vice versa.
You’re really lucky! I hope it stays that way for you!!! 💜
W for you 🥰
@Ashaliyeva You are right, I'm really lucky to have found him 😊.
I did do a lot of work beforehand to be able to recognize him: a person who would really like and appreciate me for me.
If you're interested in hearing how I did that, I can share.
@@jujubesification I’m interested
@ВалерияМ-р1р
Ok. Interesting user name.
It can be hard for me to know on what level to tell the story. There are many places to begin and many lenses to use. Which is the story you can hear? Which is the one I can tell with conviction?
On this platform.
Ok. First phase, I found some men interesting, but they didn't reciprocate. Also there were older men targeting me but they were so clearly incompetent predators that I told the oldest and richest one he was too ugly. All of this felt like a waste of my time and energy and what I had to offer.
So I switched to only going for men that really wanted to spend with me in a genuine way. I was not interested in men that wanted to fool around and didn't see me at all. So I didn't see them either. I might dance with them but I always knew, I can dance better without you. And I mean actually dancing.
In this phase, I dated men as a full romantic though. I saw something beautiful in them and thought this must mean we could crack the code together and make it work forever. 🤩 So I stuck around too long, while I could have known that seeing beauty doesn't equal having compatibility.
Then I came to my "I don't want to waste our time phase". If we are not compatible, we have no business staying together. I managed to figure out our incompatibility and break our off. This meant that I had 1-3 months relationships. To be sure, I only persued relationships that I was genuinely interested in. For me it seemed pointless to waste my time dating men I already didn't care for.
Then I got fed up with that, I clearly wasn't doing it right. So I decided to stop dating at all.
That's when I met someone who I didn't want to be with long term and it was only for me, for what I wanted. Turns out that was the key to the puzzle. I wanted this man, who wanted me. And he saw me as an equal, the way I am, fully accepting me. In some ways, more than I was able to accept myself at the time. And most importantly, we were actually compatible. We offered what the other wanted or needed.
Did I say it in a way you could hear? I'm not sure. Let me know.
Thank You 🙏🏾
Hi! This post is not about this video per se, but I just wanted to tell you how much your content has helped me. I am 52, and have been divorced for 16 years after a fifteen year marriage. My marriage was one of your cautionary tales. There was no physical abuse, but the purposeful dismantling of my self-worth and the gaslighting left me broken. I have in the years since felt very bereft. It sometimes seems like I'm the only unmarried person my age. I wondered why no one had ever loved me. Your videos, specifically, have started a shift in my mind. I'm not left behind, or left out. I'm lucky. I come home and do what I want. I eat what I want, and buy what I want and live how I want, which was simply not possible when I was married. When I look around me, I see that my divorce wasn't a punishment. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Amen
Literally why would you ever want to be in a marriage with someone who wanted to divorce you but couldn't/wouldn't? I love being married but the idea of knowing my wife wanted to leave and felt forced to stay is one of the most depressing things I can imagine
Thanks!
TYSM!! 🫂🫶🏻🩷
That is like saying you have been faithful because your winky don't work.
Lol yes don’t get married if you can’t afford getting divorced. 🤪
My mother died of breast cancer from dealing with my narcissist father. Life is too f*cking short!!!!
There’s so many more things I can think of that are way worse thangetting divorced. It is definitely not the end of the world. It might just actually be the beginning of it.
I have heard some people say this meaning that unless the relationship was irreparable, divorce is not an option. I've seen a few healthy relationships where they would only leave if things got bad (cheating, abuse, etc.) If things got "boring", they would invest the effort to revive their marriage instead of just walking away. Any other meaning of that phrase...no.
Why not break up when things get boring?
Better divorced than doing all the delulu marriage revival nonsense.
@@CordeliaWagner1999is it delulu or is it people just find it easier to give up?
Single parent homes are far more common in the USA than in Europe. The difference can be huge. Is it that the Europeans stay too long or perhaps, in the USA they can give up too soon?
Haven't even finished the video but need to say after the whole will&jada entanglement debacle I have NEVER look at any marriage the same. I was shocked and sad with all they put each other through
Choice is a human right and a woman’s right (by default right common sense one would presume aka feminism as the radical notion that women are people prob not correct quote ) and fully agree as a recently happily divorced 40 something, love your channel
Love this one! Thanks again for another great vid.
Love your content! (And your voice reminds me of Mariah Carey)
omg yes good call
Don't ever and I mean ever have a child with a boyfriend!
My very first boyfriend convinced me to have his child with the promise of marriage.
He was cheating while I cared for our child and he constantly picked fights with me and accused me of cheating when I didn't have the time to even meet anyone else.
I found out through his friend he was in a relationship with his managers daughter.
He also went and married her and had kids with her and she really thought that she was safe, but she was wrong because he cheated on her and got and girl pregnant.
He traumatized our son and when he turned 18 he decided to cut all ties to his dad.
DON'T EVER HAVE CHILDREN FOR A BOYFRIEND.
If he truly loves you he will wait years with no s3x and marry you and have children and he will have no outside children out of marriage.
Yes
I was getting stronger in my relationship after every separation or when we have some kind of big disagreement. Its a meaningful point where we can know each other better, both know we can leave, but since we want to be together how can we create a plan for both of us. Thats what she taught me - we need to be ready that it can be over. Somehow its not over for 6 years, its such a treasure to know i was chosen, and we built it🥹, not because the other person didnt have other options🙄😆
My dad got married 6 times and my mom 2 times and they didn't get married to each other I was a love child lol. Anyways I don't believe in marriage at all. No thanks. If divorce is an option why would I even consider marriage. Not gonna catch me being the property of anyone.
Sometimes all you have is "all these years"
Love your content! Thanks for sharing your thoughts ❤
I believe Louisiana has tried to get rid of no fault divorce. Am I right? Which others?
Texas, Nebraska, and Oklahoma too!
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Inarguable! Great video!
💯💯
My grandma and grandpa got divorced before I was born. My grandma had a dowery so she just left when he wanted to move her to a farm.... she moved and traveled and got married like 3 times I think. My grandpa also got remarried but to like the worst grandma ever.... she was a monster.
I think marriage can be great benefit to people, families, and society but only allowing divorce in certain scenarios is a burden of proof that is too great and can have unethical results and keep people in bad situations.
Marriage doesn’t benefit women. It was created to benefit men by men.
I always chuckle a bit when you slip and put the verb at the end of a sentence like in 4:10 😊
I believe that comes from Russian being your mother tongue?
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She did not slip; that is correct grammar. It comes from Aristotle saying “One swallow does not a summer make”. Now it is a common idiom in English and you may see it in books/articles if you pay attention. The more you know :) 🌈
@@anna-nr1tt ah wasn’t aware that that is correct in English! Never heard it in English before and I am not native speaker, thanks for the clarification!
@Melie7890 relax lmao
Russian DOES put the verbs at the end of a sentence in some cases.
I wasn’t aware that it can also be done in English in some cases, as other user very kindly explained. So in my mind, her mother tongue was coming out unintentionally as it usually happens with people that speak several languages.
@ of course! English is a funny language like that. More power to you for knowing multiple languages!
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Okay I’m so confused did she say she was married for 13 years??? I thought she was like 22
She probably got married at 19 and yea she does look 24-27 to me
She looks young cause her marriage hasn't drained her 😂😂
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This!
When you're or married or married to a man who isn't draining you, you age well.
She's Slavic they age pretty well.
Hi! Do you think you could repost an older series you had on learned helplessness? I saw it featured in this video but I can't find it on your channel > th-cam.com/video/hPXEi8Jlm2k/w-d-xo.htmlsi=JIsm7lIXOFKxJTXh
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Well let them be stuck in a marriage. Everyone can make their own choice. Who really cares?
Babe, if no-fault divorce goes through, you could be stuck with an abuser.
@briskettacos no. If a no fault divorce goes through it is done. Been there done it
Where are his pants. 😭
All good stuff, except we know now scientifically that free will doesn’t exist. The concept of free will is religious and patriarchal. But it’s good to keep teaching women a healthier way, so that hopefully it clicks someday.
free will does not exist because u are incapable. thats simply it.
Huh ?? How does free will scientifically not exist??
It has always been a philosophical debate: free will VS free choice. I don’t think either exists in the _literal_ sense of the word freedom. It would be most accurate to say free will VS _autonomous_ will & free choice VS _autonomous_ choice. IMO many people would prefer to discuss the latter word, but have already been convinced it is same thing as the former…but they are not synonymous in the _practical_ sense.
@@19katsandcounting on the contrary, free will was invented against religious duties
If later scientists wanted to calculate how bound you're by biology and physics, it's another thing
Not according to the God that created marriage. Marriage is life or death which is why he said to stay single if you can.
I would say that’s valid, if only Bible-thumpers didn’t treat single women like they were witches, nuts or whores.
Well, God is an asshole, so....
Also very much presuming christianity. Not every pre colonial society had marriage, and that was very much represented in their religion.
Theres a popular hawaiian myth where the volcano goddess chooses to break up with her toxic ex who she was basically married too, and thats a good thing
@jensanruby so did anyone see this volcano goddess in person? No? Ok then. Demons are always up for tricking humans into believing stuff that's not real then they laugh at you.
@MayDay-yn3bw its a good thing he loves you enough to let you think that way.
Arrgghh! Love you! So much truth
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