All for one and one for all?! When we are worried we will lose everyone if we cut off one person
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 16 ก.ย. 2024
- narcissism #scapegoat #toxicrelationships #abuserecovery #narcissisticparents #survivor #codependency #estrangement #family
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One of the hardest things about being a scapegoat is there is no one to talk to, except for a therapist. And unless you have really good insurance, they are hard to find. If you let your friends or anyone else know what has happened, they tend to judge. Other narcissists love finding a scapegoat to further manipulate and use! It's a Catch 22.
It's so nice to have this channel. It's helpful and I don't feel alone. Thank you!
I'm so glad it helps. Feeling like we aren't alone is so important. Thanks for being here!
Ps when i first realised my cousin was ice cold with me and his mother didnt respond to a thank you text i sent her for money sent to my daughter, i was very upset. I thought don't send money to my daughter if im chopped liver. Made me so upset. Now i see how the dysfunction runs through the entire extend family.
If others cut you off for the sake of your abuser, (especially without talking to you) .. it means they never had your back, they've just exposed their true selves 🐍and you are better off without them. Don't waste your time explaining, they'll love the drama and you'll just get triggered they made their minds up about you a long time ago, they were just waiting for the right time to stick the boot into you .. let them have each other, they can't have you go live your best life and don't give them a second thought , peace out !
so true!
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My Parents cut me off so easily but they don't see it like that. They don't seem to recognise their stonewalling and cold shouldering as "anger" they only see my attempts to be heard as aggression. They have completely smeared me to all the aunts and cousins. My brother toed the line for 3 years but he drops by now. He still feels i should havè just put up with my mother. But rationally seems to acknowledge what went on. My parents think they're giving me the silent treatment to punish me for trying to be heard. When will they realise they've convinced everybody im crazy, well done. But they have lost me.
Exact same situation here. I’ve lost absolutely everyone (2 sisters and their families). My parents for years would punish me for standing up to their abuse. They were the most manipulative and lying people you could meet. I felt like I was going crazy. My Mom would always say to me “you think you are so much better than everyone”, and “you just love to argue”. Having an opinion was arguing to her. The abuse that I’ve endured in my 58 years is incredible. It will be two years this summer of no contact with any of them. I will never go back. It’s hard having no family, and I believe people outside of the family believe I am the problem, and I’ve come to terms with that. There is nothing better than peace.
@carolemills2338 yes, any interpretation of events that is your own is awkwardness, aggression et cetera. I know my brother misses me. He made the wrong choice initially. He backed the cult leader. Now he's there, playing his part. Much love ❤️ x
@carolemills2338 ps, it took FOUR years for my brother to start calling into me sometimes. I had just got to the point where I had accepted the whole sorry mess and now the lines are re-drawn 😲 He let me down but i'm glad 4 years have passed because I feel better able to understand the dynamics and forgive him. I still feel depleted even thinking about my mother! Every year it hurts a bit less. Xxx
Same here....told my parents to leave me alone and now my brothers cousins aunts etc ignore me. I expected to be exiled because like them i spent decades trying to have a relationship with my enabling doormat mother while she stood by my narc father.
People take sides even though I didn't take sides. My cousin said she would be open to me as long as I didn't talk about anyone else. I had not interest in talking about anyone else and complied, but I never heard from her again. So sad.
Oh no, I'm sorry.
I am more concerned about her than myself.
except the people, who Truly loves you, otherwise, Yes, you will lose them Forever
My cousin was sexually molesty and so I stopped talking to him and he’s the golden boy. I was underage and he was (is) 15 years older. Most ppl don’t know. Just told my mom and sis 2 years back. I’m almost 50 years old. And ppl think I’m an ahole for not talking to him, the family star. I no longer care 💁🏽♀️💃🏾
I am so sorry, this is truly awful. I am glad you are doing ok now.