I have been in therapy here and there since about 2009. I saw this term on Dr K HealthygamerGG and was showing my niece what Alexithymia was all about and found this. Is it a new disorder? I'm pretty sure this is me though as you gave some great examples that are so me. Thanks
My wife of 30 years has this to some degree( not that I don't...just to a much lesser degree), she is extremely rational/logical and I am mostly feeling based. It is very frustrating at times. She doesnt seem to questioning her way of being. I do not expect her to change. Lots of incorrect assumptions as you say.
@@JeffreyKnuppelMD I'm 51 years old and this character trait difference influenced my mental break down 23 years ago...there were other stressors at that time and the lack of insight on her part may have missed the opportunity to potentially help ground and reassure me...(not her fault of course) this for sure left me spiraling and not being able to sleep for days and I started to become paranoid. Ended up 5150'd major snap when evaulated by a less than empathic dr in er which let to a 30 day hospitalization and a label with meds for the rest of my life so far. All this to say that in my experience learning about communication differences and needs which have been engrained in our personality types is very very important when life gets really hard.
As it has been said…we are poor narrators of our own stories…from my position only somewhat…when situations get tight we do default to our engrained states of engagement…loss of self esteem over the years has often led me to give in and suffer silently.
I have been in therapy here and there since about 2009. I saw this term on Dr K HealthygamerGG and was showing my niece what Alexithymia was all about and found this. Is it a new disorder?
I'm pretty sure this is me though as you gave some great examples that are so me. Thanks
Beautifully done. 🙏
Thank you kindly!
My wife of 30 years has this to some degree( not that I don't...just to a much lesser degree), she is extremely rational/logical and I am mostly feeling based. It is very frustrating at times. She doesnt seem to questioning her way of being. I do not expect her to change. Lots of incorrect assumptions as you say.
Thanks for sharing that. As you say, lots of patience required for long term relationships when the two people are different in this way.
@@JeffreyKnuppelMD I'm 51 years old and this character trait difference influenced my mental break down 23 years ago...there were other stressors at that time and the lack of insight on her part may have missed the opportunity to potentially help ground and reassure me...(not her fault of course) this for sure left me spiraling and not being able to sleep for days and I started to become paranoid. Ended up 5150'd major snap when evaulated by a less than empathic dr in er which let to a 30 day hospitalization and a label with meds for the rest of my life so far. All this to say that in my experience learning about communication differences and needs which have been engrained in our personality types is very very important when life gets really hard.
Thanks for sharing more about your story. Have you both learned to accept each other's differences more as the years have gone on?
As it has been said…we are poor narrators of our own stories…from my position only somewhat…when situations get tight we do default to our engrained states of engagement…loss of self esteem over the years has often led me to give in and suffer silently.