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“Overcoming an addiction is not about being strong. It’s about putting in lots of hours in stupid shit that you don’t want to do.” Eg meetings, therapy, daily meditation, etc I love this quote. Another banger from Dr. K 👌💣
I've realized that watching 6 hours of online content a day and being restless and purposeless without it means it's a bonafide addiction, and i've been slowly working on it the past few months. This video helps a lot, if only with perspective. (but honestly probably a lot more)
I look forward to watching this one. I have an addiction that is basically destroying my life, but since it only affects my mind, no one else around me can understand or relate (thankfully they don't have to). I come across as normal, while being eaten up inside. And it's amazing how therapists don't seem to get it either.
The more you keep to yourself, the more goes unnoticed into your subconcious and then nobody knows whats wrong. You'll uncover and resolve those if you tackle them on (so just sitting for an hour doing nothing without distraction), then you atleast get aware of them again but just keeping it to yourself completly will move you into the wrong direction continuesly
I'm really curious about what it is, do you mind sharing? It may validate not only how you feel to see other people understand, but it may validate others for seeing you mention it. Perhaps they are also battling with the same thing
I'm giving up all of my bad habits overnight, a lot thanks to you Dr. K. I'll be documenting it on my channel and I'm hoping it can heal my shattered brain. Thanks for your inspo, cheers!
Perfect timing. 5 days without a drink. (after countless attempts for sobriety)...Several times I have used the excuse, "if I'm gonna drink in a year, that's going to make me more disappointed in myself than if I do it now.". Such an insane (in hindsight) form of SELF SABOTAGE. In the moment it seems logical and giving yourself the control of the outcome.
It's ironically true, because it's also the very thing that keeps you on the wagon. Once you're a year sober you start thinking "If I relapse now, it'll all be for nothing AND I'll be disappointed". Ime anyways. Hell some of my nightmares were about relapsing 😅
I needed this. I've been sober for almost 2 years. I did all the things that you talked about, and even I went back to school. I'm actually a neuroscience major and doing really well, but I kind of slipped up over winter break because I told myself I deserved it. Fortunately nothing horrible happened, and everything's fine now, but yes, it can insidiously sneak back up on you like that and I see how important it is to remain vigilant, and for me, stay busy. I don't think about it when I'm studying. School is my top priority and science means so much more to me than using, but having over a month of free time with nothing to do kind of took me off guard. I have to remember what a tricky little fucker my nucleus accumbens is. Thanks
@Holfus I'm still in school and I'm 40 so I'm old AF, but I had to do something drastic to change my life, just like he talks about in this video. It was science that helped me get better and that's what keeps me in line because I want it more than anything else. I'll complete undergrad in 3 years and plan on doing a PhD after that. Getting a neuro degree is really only worth it if you get a PhD. Science related PhD programs in the US pay a small yearly stipend to grad students in exchange for doing research. It's not much but it's enough to get by until you graduate with a phd, (which pays considerably more.) It makes sense for me because I was more than ready to leave my previous career. Also my son is grown so I don't have young kids or anything. The way I see it, it's never too late. Where would I be in 3 years, or 7 if I didn't do it? Doing same crap as before and living in regret. Fuck that. Ageism is a thing but I don't care. I've dealt with much worse in my life. It's also becoming much more common for people to go back to school later in life. If you really want it, don't let that stop you. Although I'm not planning in staying in academia myself, I like to remember: Francis Crick was a 37 yr old grad student when he helped discover DNA's double helix structure!
This is great to read. I need to quit and I really want to go back to school, but I've always been afraid that I'm not smart enough or I'll relapse and ruin it.
@@johnnymatias3027 totally understand! my biggest fear is that I'm not smart enough. I'm still scared of that but I've started to realize it's not about how smart I am(because I'm really not), it's about how much work I put into it. My good grades are a direct result of how much I study. I think it's really important to have a reason, something that matters to you more than anything else to work towards.(it really helps to have something to keep you busy too) I don't hear that being talked about enough in recovery spaces. I would recommend getting a good stretch of clean time before making a commitment. Enough time to where you feel pretty good sober on a day-to-day basis. For me, that was about a year. I know that sounds like forever but it's really not in the grand scheme of things. Good things are very rarely immediate. They take time to accomplish whether it be sobriety, a degree, whatever. It's worth it though, and so are you! good luck 💚
I want to be a psychotherapist when I grow up, and your videos really help me to reflect and expand my horizons. Keep up the good work 😄 I just hope that the membership payment is cheaper, cuz 10 bucks a month is way to expensive for many students who want to enjoy your videos
Alcohol is actually one of the most harmful and hardest drugs out there! I have a lot of respect for you! 🙂👍♥️ I am very addicted to kratom for at least 8 years now and it ruins my whole life. I am also addicted to DXM and while it helps a little bit with my depression it seems to destroy my brain! I hope i dont will get dementia! 😪
Way to go man. A good way to help your struggle with food is just have 2 large meals a day. Snacking/ mindless eating is not good. Get your body and mind adapted to 14+ hours of not eating.
Thank you so much, Dr. K. I’m not a gamer, but I’ve learned so much here. If there’s one thing I’d like to share, it’s this: The power lies within us. Calmness, peace, relaxation, and self-love-they are already a part of us, just as much as our fears, addictions, and weaknesses. Sometimes, I feel like destroying all the phones. What are we really searching for in them? Why am I even here again? The truth is, there’s nothing out there that can truly fulfill us. Everything we need has always been within us.
Couldn’t thank you enough, Dr. K! Last year, you helped me get through my gaming urge & weed addiction. Your guesting at Mel Robbin’s podcast was the deal breaker for me to control myself from getting dopamine from excessive gaming. Since then, July last year, I haven’t played CODM, and I finally got my normal self back after quitting weed last quarter of the same year. It was a tough slippy sloppy process the entire year, being confused as to why I should stop and is weed really good or bad. And your contents gave me all the helpful informations for me to finally clicked, I’m really grateful for your works, they are truly masterpieces. To the ones who are battling game addiction and other stuff, here are some that helped me get through them that might also work for you guys who are seeking for change. 1. Treat your body as an animal that is automatic. You gotta have to STARVE it if you’ve already realized that that something you’re into you is causing you troubles. 2. Embrace PAIN and SUFFERING during those starvation times. Soon, your body will get back to its natural state, where food is the only thing you need. 3. MOVE AROUND, get a dog that you will have to cater, bathe, and clean shit 💩 for. I have a toddler and a dog, and I’ve accepted that I am their servant, it’s a good way to think of it, though sometimes it could be really tiring. When the our body moves, it helps the brain with some chemical reactions happening in there lol. 4. FACE BOREDOM, you’ll soon find out what matters truly, just sit with your thoughts even if it’s painful. Develop a MUSCLE for BOREDOM. Remember that being alive and healthy today is the greatest gift one could have.
Congratulations! I was (am?) wake and bake and it stopped doing anything for me so I stopped. So far so good, but it’s only been a short while. Good luck!
I’ve been smoking once a day when I got home for maybe about a year now. The addiction hit quickly lmao. I pray you find the strength to get rid of all your carts and resin. Gets a lot easier that way
Some Personal Notes: Addict's Brain (AB) ## Mental Gymnastics (AB rationalizes to fit the outcome that is always use use use) 1. Perception of control (AB says that there's control --> in order to use) 2. Uses Denial (AB comes up with reasons it's not a problem --> in order to use) AB says... *I can stop/quit whenever. *It's not a problem unless it affects my relationships/health/others. *I'm still productive. *It's not like I'm using everyday. 3. Uses Deal Making (brain says it's okay for this reason --> in order to use) AB: *It's just for fun. *I've been good, so I deserve it this time. *I'll stop after this. *It's the weekend, so it's fine. *It's with friends, so it's okay. *It's a special occasion. *It's my coping mechanism, or else I'll crash out. *(what other phrases does the AB say??)
You posted this comment literally 2 minutes after the video went up. Are you the editor? The editing feels awful. Love Dr. K but this editing is like a headache being shaken up in a bottle.
Yes you are, like most of us are! Btw it was the hardest to overcome for me when I tried to stop doing sugar - after having a nice healthy meal, at 3pm I would start thinking of chocolate and until I had a (whole) bar (or 2!) I couldn't think of anything else :( but I kept eating healthily until one afternoon I realised I wasn't craving for chocolate any longer! Now I can have a little square of chocolate when I feel like something sweet and feel satisfied, but it's not unconsciously incontrolable as I'm my early 20s
From what I learn, sometimes, we eat sugary things bcs we want to avoid certain feelings. Boredom, guilt, uneasiness, so on. Sugar tastes good, therefore we don't feel those uncomfortable feelings. And sometimes we also don't eat enough food that contains nutrients we need throughout the day (carbs, protein, fiber, etc), so the body craves sugar as instant source of energy. I find myself less cravey of sugar if I eat enough food and nutrients in the morning (protein and fiber especially), but my neurodivergent brain couldn't do it every morning tho, so there are many days that I failed
@catagecat not real? Children have been given sugary stuff since early days! I have many times referred to sugar as the cocaine for the poor. There's an excellent book that shows the history of sugar and how addictive it is called Sugar Blues by William Dufty. Highly recommend it!
Weird thing to comment here but if someone outside of you ends a relationship, they did it because of the judgement formed within themselves regarding whatever reason they had. Like whether they left for the right or wrong reasons, they reason they left is still them. It's almost like taking the free will of the person who made the choice away. Like it makes more sense to say like..."You're the reason you got out of a relationship that wasn't good for you and im proud of that" than to say "it's their fault you left em bc they like video games too much"
Long time watcher and I’m sorry but the new editing style for these with the chopped up blurbs/teasers at the beginning and the abrupt break to very chopped up member pitch JUST when it’s about to get good totally takes me out of it and kind of messes up my focus and keeping the same train of thought for the whole video. Not sure if I’m the only one though.
Heard, thanks for the feedback - we are going to be switching up editing styles here and there as we determine what's best for as many of y'all as possible, so please keep sharing the feedback when you have it! 💚
When I started my journey with this channel 4 years ago I had a hard time sitting through information dense 42min video with minimal/no editing and they were acceptable only as background "podcast" on headphones for cleaning around the house/walks and I usually had to relisten lectures. I would love the experimental cut heavy style back then, as something like this used to catch back my attention - if now I don't feel like main target audience anymore, then my work around strenghtening frontal lobe to get more attention span looks to be working. ^^
The addiction workshop was really helpful. This video is a good reminder/review of what we learned over 10 hrs in the span of 2 days. I still remember the std confession story /example 😞 and with either outcomes of acceptance/rejection we can grow stronger 💪💯
Me too! Thinking back to how sneaky and tricky my mind was (and still is) at bending the rules, where it tries to convince me not only will it be okay, but in fact, is a good idea for my future self.
Thank you Dr. K! Very helpful and great content. For me personally this kind of scientific knowledge and understanding has been really helpful, especially when I put together what I have learned with my faith and particulary opening up to God. Just wanted to share that ❤
Thanks Dr. K, Current addict, instead of street drugs like it was 10 years ago, it manifestits in so many other ways. Uncontrolled eating, thinking my meds from the DR make me a addict again, many others, It's all so confusing. Appreciate any kind of video on addiction. I've had it for 27 years and do not yet understand.
For everyone wanting to quit Smoking: Nicorette gums actually are working for me to stop the cravings. I tried them yesterday for the first time in 15 years of smoking and they are pretty good. I was surprised myself and i recommend everyone giving them a try. They really are a great alternative to use for a bit and gradually decrease the use. I use the 2mg nicotine ones. They leave this weird sensation in your mouth, kindof like it gets a little numb and the act of chewing them is a really good replacement for holding a cigarette and puffing on it.
The hardest is giving up the friends.. It doesn't really work to tell them not to give me weed or nicotine when i'm with them. The thought of those addictions always seek into my conciousness by being around and seeing those substances. How am i supposed the give up my only friends? Best friends... It's a 50/50 decision which i'm pondering from side to side.
I understand, I've been in a similar situation before. The ideal scenario is that the group as a whole simultaneously commits to putting in the work to quit the addiction(s). However, since that is completely out of your control, you simply cannot bank on that. This is just my opinion/advice (from your perspective a complete stranger on the internet, so take it with a grain of salt), but if you want to quit without your friends quitting WITH you, you'll need to make new friends.
It's a good idea to start something new, look for some activity you could put your time in. Maybe it becomes your new environment, so you can change the environment. Quiting best friends sounds impossible. Trying out some martial arts or whatever sounds fun.
@@MrPinkDino Yeah I agree that you can find other people who share your interests to spend more time with in person, but it also doesn't mean you need to burn bridges. If those older friends respect your wellbeing and desire to better yourself as a person, they'll respect your grind for a while from a distance (assuming you don't believe you can be around them using, and they will necessarily use). And in time, if you keep it up and demonstrate how your life has improved through your demeanor and your attitude, it will only serve to inspire them too. If the support isn't there, it will be easier to find entirely new friends anyhow. tl;dr remind yourself that you can become a pillar of motivation for others who you care about, it will be easier to make sense of what you are doing in the interim.
Kinda reminds me of the thought of going through hell week. You have to keep in mind that it's one minute at a time. It can feel overwhelming if you think and worry about the future obstacles and mission. At least when your going through something like that.
I tell people that if I could do it again, knowing what I know, Im glad I went through alcoholism and recovery. I don’t have words to express how much better I love myself and my life now! I would never be here without the struggle I went through. ❤ AA is a cult by the way, I recovered despite AA being g forced down my throat!! I loved the community it offered in the first 3 months, but I didn’t want to be trapped in the despair of dependence the cycling through the 12 steps promotes. Hope that helps ❤
It’s hard to be sober when it’s like you said and I feel completely just done with everything and I remember when I quit weed in August I went 43 days without it and then took one hit and it made my depression worse and my anxiety worse as well so I stopped smoking again but didn’t count days and then probably a week ago I got into delta 8 as a substitute to “not feel this way” but tbh I think I’m just lost and have NO idea what to do in life and the friends I do have I don’t really relate to and they smoke so I usually fall back into smoking even tho I don’t like it so my life is just constantly negative thoughts and doubts and anxiety that I have to the point where I will avoid almost anything that makes me uncomfortable so my question is will my dopamine levels slowly go back to normal if I smoke here and there or should I just do nothing and feel depressed and can’t hold a job nor want one. I know I have issues and I did therapy for a couple months and wasn’t really seeing any impact in a positive way. And yea I hate wanting help from others and the biggest reason for me is the anxiety of asking and feeling like a burden. Sorry for this long message I’m just struggling a lot with this weed stuff and I smoked everyday when I was 14-16 and then quit for a year and a half but was smoking nicotine and I haven’t smoked nicotine in years because I quit that to so I just really don’t know what to do about this because if I take ssris then to me that’s just a different kind of drug with more side effects then weed so I just give up.
Don’t give up-weed can be addictive, and that’s not your fault. I understand how you feel because I’ve been in a very similar place. The difference is that I have a son who depends on me and teaches me so much about myself every day. I’m slowly beginning to understand the reasons behind my smoking, and I’ve started to realize that in those moments, smoking can never truly give me what I’m looking for. Little by little, I’m learning to make the right choices in those critical moments and to simply embrace how I feel instead of giving in to the pressure. It feels empowering because when I’m sober, I’m a better mother. And I want to prove to myself that I have the strength to live a healthier life and won’t let myself become the cause of my own suffering.
I was addicted to nicotine from Freshman year of high school (2018) to 2023. I’m over 2 months clean now and I can say there’s a very very small chance I ever use it again. I had to develop a genuine hatred towards nicotine to quit. Quitting an addiction isn’t just waking up and deciding to go cold turkey, even though you have to do that at some point, but it’s a process. It’s dissecting your addiction until it clicks and you realize your brain is fucking stupid and it’s doing nothing but draining your bank account. That first week a lot of gum was chewed and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but it was so worth it. Fight the good fight. Keep going y’all can do it!
6:22 Bro, I was literally thinking this just last week when some bad stuff happened. . I fell into some bad thoughts of ending everything because I felt like couldn't exist like this the rest of my life. . I hate when I fall into these states because technically I'm supposed to be better now and no longer depressed. I realize its a journey though and there's levels. Things are definitely better but when you do fall into those states of mind it does seem like it'll be that way forever.
I would like someone to tell me if this is a good way to quit my addiction to video games and the internet: Videogames are restricted to weekends only TH-cam is restricted to weekends only Scrolling is not allowed at all (I deleted all social media but youtube, where i instead turned off watch history) Please tell me if this is a good aproach or if you have any ways to improve this method. (Ps I have dry eyes and generally feel like my brain is fried sometimes so it is important for me to lower my screentime)
I know it's reductive, but often times we enjoy the chase rather than the actual end. The chase and anticipation is where the dopamine comes from. When I learned that, I worked hard to redirect that dopamine spike to other things. It helps kick an addiction, and it also helps get things done. How's that for killing two birds with one stone?
Hope this video mentions neuropsychology and how addictions can lead to long-lasting EF deficiencies that need to be adressed before engaging in any "self-help" therapy. Addicts can be no different than people with TBI or dementia. Check out results from my university (e.g., Pierre Maurage) if that interests any if you !
Personally , last year on new years eve ive told myself ill not smoke. I stopped and the craving around christmas got so so big i cave in, but promising myself and telling my friend who smokes, that he will give me only 3, ill always smoke in awkward positions, and ill have to pay for a round of drinks each time. Bad thing i had money so payed for 3 rounds but since then i forgot completly about cigs, i know its only been 2 weeks but it feels easier, easier than the 1st year. What i want to say is, if you really really but really can not, try to wait 1 hour, then 1 day. If its been like this for 1 week and you are out of will power, dont completly blame yourself, try again, now with more experience but dont try to create more excuses. Currently fighting scrolling addiction, i need a video or music constantly in my ears when doing stuff otherwise ill not touch laundry, dishes, or anything else. I have tons of blocker but ive found the stupidest work arounds which also me finds a way to beat. I really want to be more present and create rather than consume.
I fell in love with someone who was a former alcoholic. When we started dating he started having a gambling addiction and became financially irresponsible and made it hard for me to see having a future with him. I am not an addictive person but I tried so hard to understand him. I tried to get us to go get help together but he didn’t want to do it. I just want to know from someone who cares about an addict what should you do? I ended up breaking up with him but I feel so guilty for doing it. I still care about him and I’m so worried about him.
I don't think there's a single person on earth who accomplished anything completely on their own, you need help to start your life at least, and so so many people need help along the way, and that's okay
Hey Dr. K, I always struggle with imaginary situations revolving in my mind.... situations where I want to be or I like. I try a lot to cut out the thoughts, am trying meditation, but not helping fully. It affects a lot in my studies, I cannot focus. Can u plz plz plz help me😢
Amazing video but man I hate these intro teases that cut off like that. I guess it works because I see it everywhere these days. "The most important thing is..." - me furiously skipping throu the video to find the rest before I forget the first part. 😅 It's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, content is definitely worth it. ❤
@andreicionescu No, because it is a caused by normal process to predict the environment and motivate to certain action. We may not call positive cravings as a craving, but those are there.
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“Overcoming an addiction is not about being strong. It’s about putting in lots of hours in stupid shit that you don’t want to do.” Eg meetings, therapy, daily meditation, etc
I love this quote. Another banger from Dr. K 👌💣
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I've realized that watching 6 hours of online content a day and being restless and purposeless without it means it's a bonafide addiction, and i've been slowly working on it the past few months. This video helps a lot, if only with perspective. (but honestly probably a lot more)
Dang, thought it was just me.
deleting accounts and apps helped me
I look forward to watching this one. I have an addiction that is basically destroying my life, but since it only affects my mind, no one else around me can understand or relate (thankfully they don't have to). I come across as normal, while being eaten up inside. And it's amazing how therapists don't seem to get it either.
The more you keep to yourself, the more goes unnoticed into your subconcious and then nobody knows whats wrong. You'll uncover and resolve those if you tackle them on (so just sitting for an hour doing nothing without distraction), then you atleast get aware of them again but just keeping it to yourself completly will move you into the wrong direction continuesly
I'm really curious about what it is, do you mind sharing? It may validate not only how you feel to see other people understand, but it may validate others for seeing you mention it. Perhaps they are also battling with the same thing
Porn?
I feel this so much❤
Share or didnt happen 😉
The man's predicting what I want almost on a weekly basis.
Fr, it's scary
I'm giving up all of my bad habits overnight, a lot thanks to you Dr. K. I'll be documenting it on my channel and I'm hoping it can heal my shattered brain. Thanks for your inspo, cheers!
Perfect timing. 5 days without a drink. (after countless attempts for sobriety)...Several times I have used the excuse, "if I'm gonna drink in a year, that's going to make me more disappointed in myself than if I do it now.". Such an insane (in hindsight) form of SELF SABOTAGE. In the moment it seems logical and giving yourself the control of the outcome.
It's ironically true, because it's also the very thing that keeps you on the wagon. Once you're a year sober you start thinking "If I relapse now, it'll all be for nothing AND I'll be disappointed". Ime anyways. Hell some of my nightmares were about relapsing 😅
Coming off abusing adderall (& combinations) for years; I'm now almost 3 years sober, & this video is great stuff
I needed this. I've been sober for almost 2 years. I did all the things that you talked about, and even I went back to school. I'm actually a neuroscience major and doing really well, but I kind of slipped up over winter break because I told myself I deserved it. Fortunately nothing horrible happened, and everything's fine now, but yes, it can insidiously sneak back up on you like that and I see how important it is to remain vigilant, and for me, stay busy. I don't think about it when I'm studying. School is my top priority and science means so much more to me than using, but having over a month of free time with nothing to do kind of took me off guard. I have to remember what a tricky little fucker my nucleus accumbens is. Thanks
Just curious, how long did it take for neuroscience major? I really want to pursue it, but starting at 31 feels too late
@Holfus I'm still in school and I'm 40 so I'm old AF, but I had to do something drastic to change my life, just like he talks about in this video. It was science that helped me get better and that's what keeps me in line because I want it more than anything else. I'll complete undergrad in 3 years and plan on doing a PhD after that. Getting a neuro degree is really only worth it if you get a PhD. Science related PhD programs in the US pay a small yearly stipend to grad students in exchange for doing research. It's not much but it's enough to get by until you graduate with a phd, (which pays considerably more.) It makes sense for me because I was more than ready to leave my previous career. Also my son is grown so I don't have young kids or anything. The way I see it, it's never too late. Where would I be in 3 years, or 7 if I didn't do it? Doing same crap as before and living in regret. Fuck that. Ageism is a thing but I don't care. I've dealt with much worse in my life. It's also becoming much more common for people to go back to school later in life. If you really want it, don't let that stop you. Although I'm not planning in staying in academia myself, I like to remember: Francis Crick was a 37 yr old grad student when he helped discover DNA's double helix structure!
Hell yeah for getting past a hard moment. Keep at it 💪
This is great to read. I need to quit and I really want to go back to school, but I've always been afraid that I'm not smart enough or I'll relapse and ruin it.
@@johnnymatias3027 totally understand! my biggest fear is that I'm not smart enough. I'm still scared of that but I've started to realize it's not about how smart I am(because I'm really not), it's about how much work I put into it. My good grades are a direct result of how much I study. I think it's really important to have a reason, something that matters to you more than anything else to work towards.(it really helps to have something to keep you busy too) I don't hear that being talked about enough in recovery spaces. I would recommend getting a good stretch of clean time before making a commitment. Enough time to where you feel pretty good sober on a day-to-day basis. For me, that was about a year. I know that sounds like forever but it's really not in the grand scheme of things. Good things are very rarely immediate. They take time to accomplish whether it be sobriety, a degree, whatever. It's worth it though, and so are you! good luck 💚
I want to be a psychotherapist when I grow up, and your videos really help me to reflect and expand my horizons. Keep up the good work 😄
I just hope that the membership payment is cheaper, cuz 10 bucks a month is way to expensive for many students who want to enjoy your videos
10 years clean from drugs and alcohol. Quit nicotine completely 6 years ago. Quit porn 4 months ago. Now the struggle is food...
Alcohol is actually one of the most harmful and hardest drugs out there!
I have a lot of respect for you! 🙂👍♥️
I am very addicted to kratom for at least 8 years now and it ruins my whole life. I am also addicted to DXM and while it helps a little bit with my depression it seems to destroy my brain! I hope i dont will get dementia! 😪
Way to go man. A good way to help your struggle with food is just have 2 large meals a day. Snacking/ mindless eating is not good. Get your body and mind adapted to 14+ hours of not eating.
thanks doc K for reviving our generation.
Y'all are the ones out here doing the hard work!
still appreciate it. I have learned more about myself than ever before and I think the same applies to many others..
Thank you so much, Dr. K. I’m not a gamer, but I’ve learned so much here.
If there’s one thing I’d like to share, it’s this: The power lies within us.
Calmness, peace, relaxation, and self-love-they are already a part of us, just as much as our fears, addictions, and weaknesses.
Sometimes, I feel like destroying all the phones. What are we really searching for in them?
Why am I even here again?
The truth is, there’s nothing out there that can truly fulfill us.
Everything we need has always been within us.
Couldn’t thank you enough, Dr. K! Last year, you helped me get through my gaming urge & weed addiction. Your guesting at Mel Robbin’s podcast was the deal breaker for me to control myself from getting dopamine from excessive gaming. Since then, July last year, I haven’t played CODM, and I finally got my normal self back after quitting weed last quarter of the same year. It was a tough slippy sloppy process the entire year, being confused as to why I should stop and is weed really good or bad. And your contents gave me all the helpful informations for me to finally clicked, I’m really grateful for your works, they are truly masterpieces.
To the ones who are battling game addiction and other stuff, here are some that helped me get through them that might also work for you guys who are seeking for change.
1. Treat your body as an animal that is automatic. You gotta have to STARVE it if you’ve already realized that that something you’re into you is causing you troubles.
2. Embrace PAIN and SUFFERING during those starvation times. Soon, your body will get back to its natural state, where food is the only thing you need.
3. MOVE AROUND, get a dog that you will have to cater, bathe, and clean shit 💩 for. I have a toddler and a dog, and I’ve accepted that I am their servant, it’s a good way to think of it, though sometimes it could be really tiring. When the our body moves, it helps the brain with some chemical reactions happening in there lol.
4. FACE BOREDOM, you’ll soon find out what matters truly, just sit with your thoughts even if it’s painful. Develop a MUSCLE for BOREDOM. Remember that being alive and healthy today is the greatest gift one could have.
My dad significantly got himself off alcohol by logging his intake weekly for a year. He was kind to himself. Quite inspiring to see. Hope it helps.
I’ve been without weed for about a month and last night I had the strongest urge to get high again. Glad this video popped up before I did anything
damn bro a month? my tweaking after stopping smoking (last binge was like 6 live resin carts in a month) was like 2 weeks
how long u been smoking?
proud of you!! you are better than i am, congrats, you already came a long way. best wishes to you!
Congratulations! I was (am?) wake and bake and it stopped doing anything for me so I stopped. So far so good, but it’s only been a short while. Good luck!
I’ve been smoking once a day when I got home for maybe about a year now. The addiction hit quickly lmao. I pray you find the strength to get rid of all your carts and resin. Gets a lot easier that way
Thanks man I appreciate it!
" THINGS ARE ONLY HARD UNTIL YOU ADAPT ". .🔥🔥
I understand so much about my addictions watching this channel. The struggle is putting this into practice consistently.
I needed to hear this breakdown of addict brain. Thanks Doc!
I'm addicted to watching Dr K videos...
Some Personal Notes: Addict's Brain (AB)
## Mental Gymnastics (AB rationalizes to fit the outcome that is always use use use)
1. Perception of control (AB says that there's control --> in order to use)
2. Uses Denial (AB comes up with reasons it's not a problem --> in order to use)
AB says... *I can stop/quit whenever. *It's not a problem unless it affects my relationships/health/others. *I'm still productive. *It's not like I'm using everyday.
3. Uses Deal Making (brain says it's okay for this reason --> in order to use)
AB: *It's just for fun. *I've been good, so I deserve it this time. *I'll stop after this. *It's the weekend, so it's fine. *It's with friends, so it's okay. *It's a special occasion. *It's my coping mechanism, or else I'll crash out.
*(what other phrases does the AB say??)
This guy is an absolute and literal lifesaver
Last time I was this early my mom had to get a c section.
What's up gamers
Love the new editing style. You guys are a blessing
Glad you're liking it - we super appreciate the feedback! 💚
You posted this comment literally 2 minutes after the video went up. Are you the editor? The editing feels awful. Love Dr. K but this editing is like a headache being shaken up in a bottle.
Thank you! This was a helpful dose of reality for me. I’m on day 4 of quitting nicotine cold turkey.
Well... You are not quitting anything. You are becoming a healthier person! Keep going!
Good luck on your journey!
People say it‘s not real but I swear I‘m addicted to sugar
Yes you are, like most of us are! Btw it was the hardest to overcome for me when I tried to stop doing sugar - after having a nice healthy meal, at 3pm I would start thinking of chocolate and until I had a (whole) bar (or 2!) I couldn't think of anything else :( but I kept eating healthily until one afternoon I realised I wasn't craving for chocolate any longer! Now I can have a little square of chocolate when I feel like something sweet and feel satisfied, but it's not unconsciously incontrolable as I'm my early 20s
From what I learn, sometimes, we eat sugary things bcs we want to avoid certain feelings. Boredom, guilt, uneasiness, so on. Sugar tastes good, therefore we don't feel those uncomfortable feelings. And sometimes we also don't eat enough food that contains nutrients we need throughout the day (carbs, protein, fiber, etc), so the body craves sugar as instant source of energy. I find myself less cravey of sugar if I eat enough food and nutrients in the morning (protein and fiber especially), but my neurodivergent brain couldn't do it every morning tho, so there are many days that I failed
@catagecat not real? Children have been given sugary stuff since early days! I have many times referred to sugar as the cocaine for the poor. There's an excellent book that shows the history of sugar and how addictive it is called Sugar Blues by William Dufty. Highly recommend it!
Weird thing to comment here but if someone outside of you ends a relationship, they did it because of the judgement formed within themselves regarding whatever reason they had. Like whether they left for the right or wrong reasons, they reason they left is still them. It's almost like taking the free will of the person who made the choice away. Like it makes more sense to say like..."You're the reason you got out of a relationship that wasn't good for you and im proud of that" than to say "it's their fault you left em bc they like video games too much"
Long time watcher and I’m sorry but the new editing style for these with the chopped up blurbs/teasers at the beginning and the abrupt break to very chopped up member pitch JUST when it’s about to get good totally takes me out of it and kind of messes up my focus and keeping the same train of thought for the whole video. Not sure if I’m the only one though.
Heard, thanks for the feedback - we are going to be switching up editing styles here and there as we determine what's best for as many of y'all as possible, so please keep sharing the feedback when you have it! 💚
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When I started my journey with this channel 4 years ago I had a hard time sitting through information dense 42min video with minimal/no editing and they were acceptable only as background "podcast" on headphones for cleaning around the house/walks and I usually had to relisten lectures.
I would love the experimental cut heavy style back then, as something like this used to catch back my attention - if now I don't feel like main target audience anymore, then my work around strenghtening frontal lobe to get more attention span looks to be working. ^^
i love how dr.k is so down to the earth and empathetic
The addiction workshop was really helpful.
This video is a good reminder/review of what we learned over 10 hrs in the span of 2 days.
I still remember the std confession story /example 😞 and with either outcomes of acceptance/rejection we can grow stronger 💪💯
Dr K I am addicted to watching your videos,what do I do?
Don't bend the rules is the hardest for me😕
Thank you so much again for your help.
Me too!
Thinking back to how sneaky and tricky my mind was (and still is) at bending the rules, where it tries to convince me not only will it be okay, but in fact, is a good idea for my future self.
Thank you Dr. K! Very helpful and great content.
For me personally this kind of scientific knowledge and understanding has been really helpful, especially when I put together what I have learned with my faith and particulary opening up to God.
Just wanted to share that ❤
I love this so much really starting to love my self day by day
Love the spotter in the gym analogy
the recognition of strong man fantasy helped me a lot i realized every time life gets hard i go to addiction
Thanks Dr. K, Current addict, instead of street drugs like it was 10 years ago, it manifestits in so many other ways. Uncontrolled eating, thinking my meds from the DR make me a addict again, many others, It's all so confusing. Appreciate any kind of video on addiction. I've had it for 27 years and do not yet understand.
For everyone wanting to quit Smoking: Nicorette gums actually are working for me to stop the cravings. I tried them yesterday for the first time in 15 years of smoking and they are pretty good.
I was surprised myself and i recommend everyone giving them a try. They really are a great alternative to use for a bit and gradually decrease the use. I use the 2mg nicotine ones.
They leave this weird sensation in your mouth, kindof like it gets a little numb and the act of chewing them is a really good replacement for holding a cigarette and puffing on it.
LETS GOOOO NEW UPLOAD AND NEW STREAM VOD
great and fascinating video, thanks! 💙
The hardest is giving up the friends..
It doesn't really work to tell them not to give me weed or nicotine when i'm with them. The thought of those addictions always seek into my conciousness by being around and seeing those substances.
How am i supposed the give up my only friends? Best friends...
It's a 50/50 decision which i'm pondering from side to side.
I understand, I've been in a similar situation before. The ideal scenario is that the group as a whole simultaneously commits to putting in the work to quit the addiction(s). However, since that is completely out of your control, you simply cannot bank on that. This is just my opinion/advice (from your perspective a complete stranger on the internet, so take it with a grain of salt), but if you want to quit without your friends quitting WITH you, you'll need to make new friends.
It's a good idea to start something new, look for some activity you could put your time in. Maybe it becomes your new environment, so you can change the environment.
Quiting best friends sounds impossible. Trying out some martial arts or whatever sounds fun.
@@MrPinkDino Yeah I agree that you can find other people who share your interests to spend more time with in person, but it also doesn't mean you need to burn bridges. If those older friends respect your wellbeing and desire to better yourself as a person, they'll respect your grind for a while from a distance (assuming you don't believe you can be around them using, and they will necessarily use). And in time, if you keep it up and demonstrate how your life has improved through your demeanor and your attitude, it will only serve to inspire them too. If the support isn't there, it will be easier to find entirely new friends anyhow.
tl;dr remind yourself that you can become a pillar of motivation for others who you care about, it will be easier to make sense of what you are doing in the interim.
Thank you for the courage and answers!
This is so great!
Kinda reminds me of the thought of going through hell week. You have to keep in mind that it's one minute at a time. It can feel overwhelming if you think and worry about the future obstacles and mission. At least when your going through something like that.
I tell people that if I could do it again, knowing what I know, Im glad I went through alcoholism and recovery. I don’t have words to express how much better I love myself and my life now! I would never be here without the struggle I went through. ❤
AA is a cult by the way, I recovered despite AA being g forced down my throat!! I loved the community it offered in the first 3 months, but I didn’t want to be trapped in the despair of dependence the cycling through the 12 steps promotes. Hope that helps ❤
It’s hard to be sober when it’s like you said and I feel completely just done with everything and I remember when I quit weed in August I went 43 days without it and then took one hit and it made my depression worse and my anxiety worse as well so I stopped smoking again but didn’t count days and then probably a week ago I got into delta 8 as a substitute to “not feel this way” but tbh I think I’m just lost and have NO idea what to do in life and the friends I do have I don’t really relate to and they smoke so I usually fall back into smoking even tho I don’t like it so my life is just constantly negative thoughts and doubts and anxiety that I have to the point where I will avoid almost anything that makes me uncomfortable so my question is will my dopamine levels slowly go back to normal if I smoke here and there or should I just do nothing and feel depressed and can’t hold a job nor want one. I know I have issues and I did therapy for a couple months and wasn’t really seeing any impact in a positive way. And yea I hate wanting help from others and the biggest reason for me is the anxiety of asking and feeling like a burden. Sorry for this long message I’m just struggling a lot with this weed stuff and I smoked everyday when I was 14-16 and then quit for a year and a half but was smoking nicotine and I haven’t smoked nicotine in years because I quit that to so I just really don’t know what to do about this because if I take ssris then to me that’s just a different kind of drug with more side effects then weed so I just give up.
Don’t give up-weed can be addictive, and that’s not your fault. I understand how you feel because I’ve been in a very similar place. The difference is that I have a son who depends on me and teaches me so much about myself every day. I’m slowly beginning to understand the reasons behind my smoking, and I’ve started to realize that in those moments, smoking can never truly give me what I’m looking for. Little by little, I’m learning to make the right choices in those critical moments and to simply embrace how I feel instead of giving in to the pressure. It feels empowering because when I’m sober, I’m a better mother. And I want to prove to myself that I have the strength to live a healthier life and won’t let myself become the cause of my own suffering.
I was addicted to nicotine from Freshman year of high school (2018) to 2023. I’m over 2 months clean now and I can say there’s a very very small chance I ever use it again. I had to develop a genuine hatred towards nicotine to quit. Quitting an addiction isn’t just waking up and deciding to go cold turkey, even though you have to do that at some point, but it’s a process. It’s dissecting your addiction until it clicks and you realize your brain is fucking stupid and it’s doing nothing but draining your bank account. That first week a lot of gum was chewed and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but it was so worth it. Fight the good fight. Keep going y’all can do it!
6:22 Bro, I was literally thinking this just last week when some bad stuff happened. . I fell into some bad thoughts of ending everything because I felt like couldn't exist like this the rest of my life. . I hate when I fall into these states because technically I'm supposed to be better now and no longer depressed. I realize its a journey though and there's levels. Things are definitely better but when you do fall into those states of mind it does seem like it'll be that way forever.
whoa, did not expect a "dr K asmr" video out of this!
Is this a reupload of a member live stream?
I would like someone to tell me if this is a good way to quit my addiction to video games and the internet:
Videogames are restricted to weekends only
TH-cam is restricted to weekends only
Scrolling is not allowed at all (I deleted all social media but youtube, where i instead turned off watch history)
Please tell me if this is a good aproach or if you have any ways to improve this method.
(Ps I have dry eyes and generally feel like my brain is fried sometimes so it is important for me to lower my screentime)
Seems to strict. I do social media (Instagram/Twitter) for an hour a day. TH-cam can be watched in the evening when you called it a day.
Please make a video about finding ways to build your main "motivation to act" drives...
You might like the VOD of the stream we just did today!!
@HealthyGamerGG UNGA BUNGA!
Unga bunga indeed, @@kaajjaak . Unga bunga indeed.
I know it's reductive, but often times we enjoy the chase rather than the actual end. The chase and anticipation is where the dopamine comes from. When I learned that, I worked hard to redirect that dopamine spike to other things. It helps kick an addiction, and it also helps get things done. How's that for killing two birds with one stone?
Hope this video mentions neuropsychology and how addictions can lead to long-lasting EF deficiencies that need to be adressed before engaging in any "self-help" therapy. Addicts can be no different than people with TBI or dementia. Check out results from my university (e.g., Pierre Maurage) if that interests any if you !
@@fetilu0975 why comment on a video you haven’t watched?
Personally , last year on new years eve ive told myself ill not smoke. I stopped and the craving around christmas got so so big i cave in, but promising myself and telling my friend who smokes, that he will give me only 3, ill always smoke in awkward positions, and ill have to pay for a round of drinks each time. Bad thing i had money so payed for 3 rounds but since then i forgot completly about cigs, i know its only been 2 weeks but it feels easier, easier than the 1st year. What i want to say is, if you really really but really can not, try to wait 1 hour, then 1 day. If its been like this for 1 week and you are out of will power, dont completly blame yourself, try again, now with more experience but dont try to create more excuses. Currently fighting scrolling addiction, i need a video or music constantly in my ears when doing stuff otherwise ill not touch laundry, dishes, or anything else. I have tons of blocker but ive found the stupidest work arounds which also me finds a way to beat. I really want to be more present and create rather than consume.
Y'all at HealthyGamerGG are doing an amazing job! I appreciate it!
dr. k out here preaching the dharma
I fell in love with someone who was a former alcoholic. When we started dating he started having a gambling addiction and became financially irresponsible and made it hard for me to see having a future with him. I am not an addictive person but I tried so hard to understand him. I tried to get us to go get help together but he didn’t want to do it. I just want to know from someone who cares about an addict what should you do? I ended up breaking up with him but I feel so guilty for doing it. I still care about him and I’m so worried about him.
Dr. K, i think you might have convinced me to atleast start to consider, cutting back on the weed.
Thank you Dr K.
I don't think there's a single person on earth who accomplished anything completely on their own, you need help to start your life at least, and so so many people need help along the way, and that's okay
For me quitting game addiction was pretty much just quitting playing cod.
Hey Dr. K, I always struggle with imaginary situations revolving in my mind.... situations where I want to be or I like. I try a lot to cut out the thoughts, am trying meditation, but not helping fully. It affects a lot in my studies, I cannot focus. Can u plz plz plz help me😢
We all got 1... just breath and chill
Rewarding myself with filler and Botox to not smoke weed or drink this year 🤪
Guys read the freedom model. You dont need to remake your life to stop using anything.
Day 1 no zaza, starting today. These videos are a godsent.
Thank you Dr. K!
Love you doctor K
How can we stop attracting certain/abusive personalities in our lives?
what stream is this from?
Dr. K is in my walls bro..
14:42
Miss 2024 Dr K 😢
Amazing video but man I hate these intro teases that cut off like that.
I guess it works because I see it everywhere these days.
"The most important thing is..." - me furiously skipping throu the video to find the rest before I forget the first part. 😅
It's not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, content is definitely worth it. ❤
its like table of contents but just like the book i skipped those and dive right in lol
"2 views, 8 seconds ago"
LET'S GO
Discipline is freedom
Can a person have 0 cravings?
What a yogi question 😆
@andreicionescu No, because it is a caused by normal process to predict the environment and motivate to certain action.
We may not call positive cravings as a craving, but those are there.
21:29 easy peasy method
1. when my za ends imma meditate be budhist and pay more attention to my dmt vape to breaktrought (im so cooked lol)
well, in my experience, it doesn’t
Hmmm this appears to have other applications 🧐
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We Can Do Anything For A Finite Period Of Time ♡
Its Worth It Just The Resources It Frees Up....Not To Mention Quality
thx doc
Does watching porn once a month count as addiction?
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Why not?😂
Applying this toward pornography
Hey Dr. K, can you recommend specializing in psychology? (This is probably silly to ask)
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Dr. K, i think you might have convinced me to atleast start to consider, cutting back on the weed.