How we can cultivate intentional compliments | Jake Carnes | TEDxUGA

Compliments like ""you're literally perfect"" may seem nice, but does praise like this really mean anything? Jake Carnes is an undergraduate at UGA who believes we can treat people as unique individuals and give them the thoughtful, credible, and intentional compliments they deserve.
Jake Carnes is a fourth-year undergraduate from Marietta, Georgia studying Public Relations and International Affairs. Much of his meaningful college experiences have come from involvement in organizations like The Arch Society, Dawg Camp, Phi Delta Theta Fraternity, SGA, the Dean William Tate Honor Society and The Chapel Bell. Carnes hopes to articulate the importance of thoughtful, credible, intentional compliments.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx

[@Smoke-et5wt]

I'm glad how you explain something that isn't really talked about. Unlike many people who just compliment to get something out of someone, you really emphasize on how to spread positivity and genuinely reinforce good behaviours/traits of wonderful people. Thank you for the inspiring tedtalk.

[@mrhunterf2869]

This is literally the best TED talk I've ever heard in my life it is absolutely perfect.

[@td9093]

Ha!

[@nathanh284]

I see what you did there

[@anonymousmizogaming1992]

This Ted talk is one of the best compliment video as it reveals the sectre of giving good and honest complement that actually works😁

[@kylecb]

I'm trying to get better at complimenting...this is great! Err...*tries to be specific*...I loved the real world examples and conversational tone!

[@amansafeer2347]

😀

[@walisbad]

I'm not the type to really fully express what I'm really thinking, but after this video I've learned to give honest compliments more to the people who I care about. Although we both may have struggles, I still hope that we'll keep trying our best!

[@Pajama_Plants]

Over the past year I have found myself with more and more friendships then I ever had before, these relationships are not as I thought because many people thought I was mean to begin with. I am going to put some of that on being autistic, I didn’t realize how I was being perceived. But now, I want to change and say what I am thinking. I want to vocalize how my friends that know me and keep me going make me feel. I just need to tell the truth with intention. Thanks for the Ted talk, I will use this information in my daily life.

[@frankelleynunez]

There is true power in complementing intentionally, some of us don’t do it because we believe the other person doesn’t “deserve” it at times, but what we fail to realize is that we give in to the negative energy and something so simple as a compliment or acknowledgement of something someone values/ speaks about, can switch the tone of the conversation, and change the nature of the environment we experience.

[@Emma-kr2lx]

I agree so much 😊

[@user-gl9xl1de7g]

Going to use it with my students.

[@orange-one]

one of the most informative Ted talk i've seen I am sure to implement this in my life

[@sapholjirattiticharoen5839]

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[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

One CAN however refuse an unwarranted and untrue compliment, even if it was given with appreciation, sincerity, thanks, or kindness. In such a case, in the spirit of honesty, humility, love, and kindness - one can gently and kindly correct them. That is not due to low-self-esteem. If
they learn their error, that will be the betterment of both. If they don't, then its unfortunately on them. Confidence is overrated, but
honesty and humility to accept constructive correction is infinitely better.

[@OceanPierce-Shimomura]

I like my life it is have fun with my friends also lots of people are thank you for sharing information to me.
Icon only imagine my dream.

[@givergiver8640]

I really appreciate this person talk and speech

[@fireclaw7369]

one thing that recently happened that my manager told me as an employee ive had alot of people that said im so diligent your so fast your a good employee but this time my manager told i was a very CONSISTENT worker not that i was the best but because when i came in she expects the same efficiency and effectiveness as the day before and after that some good employees lose after working at a place for a while and that stuck with me for a while now and i try and make sure that everyday is even as good or better then the last day i worked

[@jakecarnez233]

This guy has my name

[@_mantard]

:D You guys have awesome names!

[@snackman3128]

Br*h your name aint Ted 😐

[@Flash4ML]

Every once in a while this guy gives off strong Vsauce vibes, like every couple sentences there’s a little flash of Vsauce lol

[@sniitzel]

I often look at my boyfriend and I'm so happy that I often vocalize how beautiful I think he is. It's never a lie, always honest and always only when the thought comes to mind, but I probably overcomplimented him, because he said I should tone it down a bit

[@tamtrinh174]

yes, we cultivated compliments, and now it's everywhere, and it's freaking annoying

[@tiktalix3820]

This talk is superb!

[@realexony]

Love it!

[@billmcculley9502]

Great presentation 👏 👌

[@Niggiesquadron]

I wonder if Troy Hawke watched this

[@xximmortal_wolfxx1330]

I’m inschool

[@ieatyou3752]

Tahlia Wardrope poopi

[@xximmortal_wolfxx1330]

No u

[@Kingarthurjohn]

Is he really tall or just skinny?

[@janesan2562]

can you translate

[@lalle8926]

Comment #23 from 23 year old Jack Parsons

[@DavidGelmanE]

I disagree. Try using this "Measured compliment" method when you get married. You will see.

[@SherrickDuncan]

For a Man that is a recipe for divorce by the woman. For a woman that is a recipe for lifelong loyalty from the Man.

[@86penfold]

Often times 🙄