Coping With The Loss Of A Role Model | DWTDT #27
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ส.ค. 2024
- Find the perfect gift for the mothers in your life at macys.com/gift...
Follow Deeper On Instagram!! -
/ deeper
Listen on Apple Podcasts: bit.ly/DolanTwi...
Listen on Spotify: bit.ly/DolanTwi...
Hosted By:
Ethan Dolan
Grayson Dolan
Those signs from a loved one always seem to come at the perfect times
I agree
L
i hope both of you are mentally okay and healthy, take care boys
"My grief is not more shiny and special than yours. My pain is not more important. Hard things are just hard.” This hit me!! It is just fucking hard man! I love you both so very much.
You really need them to say this for you to realuze that?
UNBOTHERED KINGS!! This is what your real supporters want to see.
My mom died when I was 4 from leukemia. After my dad died in 2006 I see 7:17 (my birthday) every time I look at the clock - daily. So I always say "Hi Dad, Hi Mom" when I see it.
Do you ever just look and grayson and be like WOAHHHHH
YEAH
PLEASE HES PERFECT
@@katenorvell4507 HE IS 😩
at first i was like mmm ✨the dolan twins✨…as a joke…but bro i don’t think it’s a joke anymore
@@jadenxvc girl I never thought it was a joke 😩
i lost my mom to suicide when I was 13 (I’m 14 rn) and she was a suicide prevention worker. And I just happened to click on this episode on Mother’s Day not knowing what it was about and I wanted to say thank you for this podcast episode. I also felt like I related with this episode right now because I am starting a non profit thinh for suicide. I just started about 3 weeks ago and I already got a Buillboard up and merchandise to spread suicide awareness. I lost my mom not to far apart from when your guy’s dad passed. My mom passed in November of 2019 and you guys have helped me so much. ❤️
You're so brave❤ take care of urself
I'm so deeply sorry for your loss, you are so strong and courageous. Take care
im so sorry, I hope your doing okay♥︎
Tears the entire ep? I'm lucky enough to still have both of my parents on this earth, but my heart breaks for all of you and anyone else that has lost a parent, especially so young. Empower Her is an amazing healing tool. I love it and I can't see how it expands and the help it provides to more people.
Boys, this was so powerful. I’ve never had a podcast move me so much. I don’t even have the words to say how amazing this is and will be for your listeners. I am so proud
Thank you so much for allowing yourselves to be vulnerable and speak about something that’s so close to your hearts. These sorts of open conversations are going to help more people than you can imagine.
It’s crazy how we can have elaborate plans and visions for our lives, and our life’s most important work ends being something that’s born out of trauma or horrific pain/something that we couldn’t have imagined happening. It just goes to show how we are all on our own journeys and we can’t expect ourselves to follow a preconceived plan. You also heal on your own time; if you’re numb, then maybe it’s because you’re not ready to feel, and there’s no shame in that. Your journey is your own to experience, and if it takes you 10 times as long as the other guy to process something, that doesn’t make you any less of a human. I’m so happy there’s people like Cara and Ann Marie who help people become empowered to live with their trauma.
i'm a girl (20 years old) and i miss my dad (that i lost at 2 years old) and just started grieving his loss. this episode made me emotional but also hopeful ♡. thank you so much ethan and grayson for making this episode and the biggest thank you to the women who started 'Empower Her'. this non-profit organization is so beautiful. you guys are so brave and amazing for doing this, thank you for making this safe space for kids who deal with grief.
i love that they had this conversation
"It can't be all sorrow, can it? Because what is grief, if not love persevering?" - Paul Bettany
The loss of their father must have been hell for them the past few years. Have you seen soldier photos taken before going to war, during, and after? I feel that Ethan and Grayson got beat up by the emotional heaviness of three lifetimes in just a couple of years while gaining the wisdom and maturity that comes with it...These emotions are real, they're relatable, and they're human and sometimes become very challenging to shake off. Stay Strong guys!
I love Vision 💘
This podcast came at the most perfect time. I lost my mom two days ago and listening to this podcast has just brought me some much needed peace.
I feel so sorry for you, my condolences . Out of the deepest part of my heart, I hope that you are doing okay and that you have great people that support you and who help you through your grief. Feeling sad and hopeless is okay sometimes, especially right now but just give yourself the time you need to recover and you will see that there will be happier times.
I am so sorry for your loss, I hope you are doing okay. Take care
I hope you are ok guys ! If you need to take some time off from doing the podcast just tell us we will understand.
Grayson I think about you so much everyday, I want to be there for you to help you if you need it, to make you smile if you are sad like you did for me through the videos for so many years now 🧡
Love u guys and Grayson do whatever makes you happy and feel free, you are a pure gem 🧡
Your faces just light up my life
I feel like every week this podcast brings me joy. They both talk about so much stuff that is important yet keep the podcast light and fill it with positivity. This is seriously the best thing to listen to🤍
This episode was so moving, grief is not talked about enough and it is just hushed, hushed. I lost my mom when she was 57 to cancer and as a young mother it was so hard for myself but also because my children lost their grandmother who they were so close with, I am now 42 and am fighting cancer myself, my children are 21, 16, 14, and 10 and I am so fearful because I know they remember my mom being sick and it scares them. I feel like I can't show my pain or fear because they are depending on my strength. So, I justbwantedbto say, iI loved this episode , I needed this episode, thank you 💜
I'm so sorry for your battle with cancer and the struggle this is for you and your family. I will pray for you and your family.
E and Gray, Thanks for posting the audio only version of this earlier! I had a chance to listen during work. (I imagine the TH-cam upload was giving you problems, great to see it up here now too!) This is an AMAZING episode and I want to thank you guys for being so vulnerable and transparent with your own grief and pain. You guys haven't made me cry like this since "We Cried On Our Birthday - DWTDT #12." (Don't feel bad, it was a GOOD cry.) I have no doubt, your dad is so proud of you two! Your guests are doing such important work and I'm sure having a huge, positive impact on the girls they mentor.
Your guests really shed light on why crossing milestones can be so difficult when you've lost a parent. I gained a whole new level of understanding as to why your 21st birthday was so hard for you guys. My dad passed a few years ago, due to complications of Alzheimer's. He was in his mid 80s, so lived a full life (he was a beloved coach and teacher too, which I'm sure is one reason I feel such a strong connection to you guys.) I must never take for granted that my dad was able to be a grandfather to my kids and play an important role in their lives -- and all the milestones in my adult life he was there for. I do especially think of him at big moments; my son's marriage, my daughter's graduation from high school, etc. I can't imagine if I had lost him at 19 -- my heart goes out to you guys so much. You'd both be wonderful mentors to other boys/young men who've lost their fathers, if you would consider doing that. God bless you guys!
I have no words to describe what this episode has made me feel, when you lose an important person in your life, be it your mother or your grandparents, a friend, it is very hard to assimilate the idea of getting out of bed the next morning and that not this one, never seeing that person again is very hard to assimilate that idea. These two women are two angels who decided to help other people through the duel and make it clear that they are not alone and that asking for help is hard but it is good for the soul and to rebuild all those feelings that are misplaced and we need to order. girls, boys, men and women cry and they should cry there is nothing wrong with it. Crying purifies and helps you to let go of everything you have inside and rebuild yourself. Thanks once again for a new episode. Thank you talking about topics that people consider taboo but that are very necessary to talk about. Thanks.
I live towns away from Scituate.. i can’t believe i’ve NEVER heard of Empower Her. I’m 24 and have lost both of my parents, mother at 10, and father at 19. i loved this podcast 💜 (my dad had pancreatic cancer hence purple heart)
💜
Ashley it is really an amazing program.
As one who has died 3 times, lost 5 babies, lost 3 out of 4 of my grandparents early in life, lost my father and husband within a year of each other I know the Martian feeling. There are times when I feel like I can't relate to anyone because if I showed them all of the pain, abuse, grief and hardship that I endured it would harm them and the telling it would harm me again. A lot of times like Gray I am completely numb and ticking off time while being totally aware time is fleeting because my last death they had given up on bringing me back, so yeah I'm well aware of the borrowed time feeling. Ironically these boys videos and documentaries are the only thing that breaks my numbness when my interactions with the world becomes savage quips because this empath is hiding from the pain. When these boys cry, I cry...when they are sad I feel compassionate mom mode engage. Without the Dolans, Dobres, Merrills, Stokes, Amatos, Tindalls, Manchureks, and the Virzis I would have no reason to get up and would never smile again... and I dread to think what that would have done.
Wow I’m so sorry to hear of the tragedies you’ve had to face in your life. It is truly heartbreaking that the things we most need to discuss and connect with each other on, are the things we brush under the rug and conceal in our hearts. Others may not understand your pain, but they know pain. And I completely get the feeling of not wanting to open up as the process would harm your own self. I too am thankful for the online communities that exist because they allow us to connect with others but with a veil of anonymity and without the raw and direct confrontation we fear. We can break in privacy, and pick up the pieces in our own time. I pray you find healing, and I pray you are able to create meaning out of the pain. ♥️🙏🏼
We all love uncle Joe, he is the GOAT ❤. Great episode guys and it really helped me as someone who lost their dad 2 months ago. It is amazing to see your vulnerable side...keep your heads up. Your dad is so proud of all of you (twins, Cam and Lisa)...sending so much healing vibes your way.
I’ve been putting off listening to this one for a while and I didn’t know why. But two days ago my mom died. And I came right back here. It’s nice to hear other people’s stories and know it won’t always feel THIS bad.
im so sorry, I hope your doing okay♥
I keep checking up on to read newer comments on this episode. E and Gray, this episode is having such an amazing impact, and touching so many people. I know this one was hard for you guys to record, but it surly is fulfilling your mission and life's purpose.
You guys are so skilled and gifted at telling all kinds of stories. In the future, you might consider making documentaries about people who are coping with/overcoming various personal struggles. You did one about your dad and Ethan's struggle with acne -- they were both so good in their own ways. You guys have a way of treating these subjects with great hope, but not sugar coating, or unrealistic "fairy-tale" endings. The gentleness and support Gray showed as he helped E tell of his struggle with acne was deeply touching. Ethan's ability to find the positive aspects in his affliction was very inspiring. You don't have to take any suggestion from me, obviously -- I just think this is an area of story telling which is too often neglected -- I think there's a lot of room for you guys to tell stores like this. God bless you both!
I love this podcast. Being able to discus such a difficult subject like this, makes me feel better knowing that we aren’t alone. My grandma and I were really close when I was younger, and she passed away in 2010 and it’s been really difficult. I got her class ring On my birthday and It makes me feel better knowing I have a part of her on me all the time. Even though I didn’t lose one of my parents, I couldn’t imagine losing my mom.
Such a tough and important conversation, I'm fighting back tears just listening to this! Thank you guys
Hope you guys are dealing with everything ok! We are always here for you :)
I like your edit
Well im definitely alone. Got no siblings so i never had anyone to defend me or fight for. The one person who actually loved me passed away (my father).
same. so you're not alone in that way.
May 23 will be 10 years that my dad passed and me and my sisters see 333 everywhere and we have never looked it up that's insane .. 10years went by in a flash it still feels like a flesh wound that still bleeds .. losing a parent is so extremely painful.. I relate to this quote " your parents have lived a life without you but you have never lived a life without them " until this happens to you .. you will never understand the unbareable pain this is ...it's an empty hole you can't fill within yourself.. you will be forever incomplete 😞I wish you all healing 🙏🏽
hope ur ok gray ❤️
I was at work 3 days after my dad passed away and a guest asked how I was, when I told her my father had passed away that weekend she gasped and said “I’m so sorry you’re here.” I had missed so much time during his illness I had to go back to work. The reality is I shouldn’t have had to, and probably could have been off longer but I was too scared to risk it. It’s just a strange culture when death is often avoided. Personally I know the effects. Its 5 years now and I still feel embarrassed to talk about it or be emotionally open around people.
Yes, grief is swept under the rug in our culture. I'm sorry for the loss of your dad. Take care.
I know this video is going to help a lot of people. 💙
the girls talking about their moms and the twins talking about their dad reminds me of my grandma who died in a car crash in 2019. certain things will remind me of her especially Whitney Huston songs. If your dealing with loss just know your not alone and even though the pain is always gonna be there things do get easier to handle.
love that the boys put this together and thought about those who might be facing mothers day alone during this time around, also hope this conversation helped them heal too ❤
You’re not alone Gray I felt numb and couldn’t cry when my grandad died because it was too hard for me to process my emotions and your documentary helped me feel less guilty and that everyone deals with grief differently
I love you guys 💗
This really hit home for me, I lost my dad at age 4 and my stepdad at age 23!
Thank you for sharing this with us ❤️
Always so pumped to listen and learn!! Thank you guys for making my day more positive as well as so many others every time you post 🖤🖤🖤
This is such an amazing thing to be talking about especially at the moment with how many people have lost family members throughout the pandemic. Thank you guys love you xx❤️❤️
Tragic moments in life, loss of dear ones are hard to bear. Twin talk for a heart fix👍🏼💛
I really think that 1:27:07 through 1:28:00 is such a good lesson that ive learned. Im 13, i always think that someday ill die at a young age but if you think about like what if you live till 80 or 90, thats a long life and if that were to happen then make it the best. We take life as such a challenge and a struggle but trying to make it the best, itll get you somewhere, itll get you through everything. If you are out there struggling in life, i want you to know that everything is gonna be okay i promise you. You are on the right track and you fucking got this. You are amazing and have a great day/ night
Thank you for this episode. You helped so many ppl in the past with the documentary and you are helping again❤️
This podcast really touched me. You two are so incredibly strong! Your dad looks down on you and is more than proud! Being able to talk about this so openly is an important step in healing. ❤️
Last summer my grandma passed away and I still feel numb to it. I feel the grief is there but can't access it. It's comforting to know that this is normal. You guys are amazing, hope you have a great week ^-^
Your dad will be so proud of you both and he is watching over you all of the time even when you are not looking. I believe in birds and butterflies are our loved ones watching us.
I’m glad you are uploading this❤️ and I hope you’re doing good :) Ly
Loosing someone who is very close is a very challenging thing. My heart goes out to anyone who lost someone close or a mom or dad. 🤍
It's so strange to realize that this culture doesn't talk openly about loss and grief because I was exposed to Mexican culture where they have a whole holiday dedicated to death, grief, and life beyond which paints a beautiful picture of passing on and death/loss and the grief that comes with. It's a subject that is part of everyday conversation and a constant subject in the media that Mexicans consume 🤔😯
Loved the movie Coco for that exact reason. I wish the USA celebrated that day.
Love the consistent weekly uploads! Keep it up guys, much love
My mom's mom died when she was only 9 years old, and this has given me a whole new perspective on her life.
Why not just say grandma 😂
@@matthewconti7723 Lol I said the same thing. But her grandmother could’ve been very close, like a mother figure to her, so I understand.
Rarely if ever do I comment , BUT this was an amazing and need topic,..well done and thank you . You don't know how much I really needed this.
Their sadness is really palpable, you can see their sadness in their facial features in the entire video. It made me really sad to watch this. I almost forgot they do this podcast cause out of sight out of mind. They don’t post anything.
I think I’m gonna cry in this epi 🥺
I really enjoy listening and watching to this podcast. I get to learn different things in every single one of your episodes and I think it's super cool. I really appreciate how open you guys are about your personal experiences and thoughts. You are doing a great job guys, love you! :)
I can’t even imagine loosing a family member but I’m proud of all of you I know it’s not easy I almost lost my aunt to cancer but she’s still here! But this is one of my favorite episodes love you guys
Guys!!! I'm so so happy,i thought we were not gonna have an episode this week. You look Great Grayson ❤️
I was really happy to see them post too! Even though I cried more than once during the podcast!
@@lindalynn4817 Oh, that's tough for your brother. I hope he will find someone to talk with about it someday. As today's guests showed, it can sometimes take years before a person really faces their grief. It's not too late at all for him.
This was an amazing podcast Collaboration. I really enjoyed this because I have a friend who is young and her mom has passed. And if it was not for this podcast I probably would have never realized how hard It could be to spend Mother’s Day with out your mom. So I’m going to get her out of the house on Sunday and I’m going to do what ever I can to keep her mind off the day.
I don’t know if you guys will see this but yeah thanks so much for opening up about this topic. It helped me see how my friend is feel as of right now.🥰🥰🥰😘😘❤️
this video made me think about my grandmother that passed away almost 3 years ago. i never really knew her because she lived in brazil. as soon and i heard about gray and ethan talk about the number 333 reappearing i thought about how i have too. i immediately started bawling my eyes out cause i could feel her watching me all those times and being a guardian angel to me. it was truly an experience and i’ve never felt that before. i know that my grandma is always watching over me now especially when i see 333.
u guys are GLOWINGGGG
I was about to cry like 10 times throughout this video and I tried so hard to hold em back but I couldn't
Losing someone is really hard especially for me in these last 2 years, as someone whose so young let me tell you. They are there and happy, so it’s ur time to be happy
you guys always have the right things to say! thank you ❤️
Love this episode. Such a needed conversation
This helped me so much 😇❣️💖 lost my dad to covid and it is hopefully the hardest thing I will ever have gone thru
I don’t have any friends rncuz the last ones I had partied too much and my family lives across the country. Watching your guys videos helps with the loneliness, thank you guys for doing what you do
Y'all get them too aye I'm always getting signs even in my dreams... for the longest time I would convince myself that I was just overthinking it but now seeing more people talk about how they experience it too makes me feel better because I know that I'm not alone anymore
i love you guys so much
I can't wait to have a child either.. I'm so excited. 🖤 I grew up without my dad around, so I honestly cannot imagine that pain that you all are going through, but I can tell you for sure that your dad is, without a doubt, the most proud old man up there in Heaven watching over and protecting you two. You guys are always in my prayers, and I will meet yall one day.
Thank you for this podcast. I am trying to better understand how to be there for my close friend whose dad passed away recently. I love her so much, but sometimes it is hard to know the right thing to say or do. I have been a long time fan of you guys and am so proud of how you are using your platform to present informative and important topics. Keep up the great work! Love you guys
I didn't know the dolan twins were spiritual, hope you guys are doing great 💯
ethans sweater OHMYGOD
i freakin love your podcasts. Such awesome pertinent subjects. Keep up the good work. 👍👏
This pod and the doc have helped me tremendously. You guys have no idea
Thank you for this video .
you guys have the best podcast!!! i enjoy every single one (:
E and Gray, I really don't want to trivialize the content of this episode, but I must compliment your new chairs. They are so aesthetically pleasing and fit perfectly with everything else in the room. (Normally, I wouldn't be one to make a big deal out of chairs, but these look so good in your studio!) As you young people say, "The vibe in your studio is immaculate."
I was like that's new chairs,i thought no one noticed...you have good eyes :)
@@lindalynn4817 Since I listened to the audio-only version first, I was more focused on the visual aspects on the video! :)
Hi I just wanted to say you both are so amazing and I hope you are okay we love you and we are always here for you ❤❤
I promise you Ethan that your dad is hanging out with your and Grayson's and Cameron's kids in heaven. I hope this isn't like tone-deaf or annoying, but try to think of it this way, your kids needed your dad in heaven so that he could coach them about life. They needed him up there, I know it would be comforting to you knowing this.
love you two no matter what 💜
i’m glad you guys are doing ok
I really need this video it’s coming up 2 years since I lost my dad ever since he passed away I’ve noticed there’s always signs that his still here
As a practicing Psychic Medium & just a spiritual person in general: trust those signs❤️
This podcast was beautiful and so important thank you for this your dad is always looking down and so proud of you guys always ❤️❤️❤️
ethan looks so good wowww
I CANT WAIT TO WATCH IT
Anyone else fighting tears through this whole episode? Just me k
Yeah
I was crying Just when the Lady was about to cry 😭 I thought 💭 about Ethan and Grayson it made me want to Just crawl in a ball and cry right there
you're not alone ♡
love you guys so much
I am so glad you guys are posting more
Sometimes smells drift me back
To the times I remember leaving my dad's
To go to you.
I'm remember being excited to give you
Something I made at school the
Previous week.
Going to your house
Was never uncomfortable unless
Something bad happened
But most of the time
It was home to me.
The certain smells, the decorations
Your hair always being tied back
The cigarette lit in your hand,
Awaiting to be inhaled in
Your fragile lungs.
Everything about your house, and you
Was home.
Although I saw you become different
Throughout the years of growing,
Learning, suffering.
Your house was always home.
Mom/ by me.
You know it's crazy. I lost my mom when I was 12. She was suicidal my whole life, but I never knew that until the grownups around me told me that. They never believed her until one day not only did her heart stop beating but so did mine. It was fucking hard. I was allowed to talk about it, but whenever I'd get hysterical screaming why why, it was almost dismissed. I remember at school I'd tell the kids "I hate my mom." Which was partially true, she ruined my young life. She was abusive, manipulative, broke me down until I did everything under her command, because I was afraid. But the next day when I'd say "I miss my mom" the kids would laugh and say "But didn't you hate her". I felt like you guys too. I was on Mars. I went to this group like a therapy thing for people who lost their parents or a loved one. It was kids of all ages. When we'd talk their parents or friends seemed to be such good people who died horribly not by choice. It was horrific to me. My mom chose to die, and I would sit there, wanting to say nice things about my mom but couldn't. She was horrible. Sometimes life with her was okay but it was almost make believe. I remember one time I was dissociating at school due to my PTSD. And I got picked up and went to my mom's grave and screamed. I kicked the living shit out of her grave, begging her to fix me and come back. It's been 7 years and for some reason I still feel so much and nothing at the same time. I've never met anyone in my situation and that's what made my grief harder. I couldn't talk or relate to anyone and everyone around kept telling me "Move on. It happened this many years ago." When to me it felt like yesterday. I dont have anyone I look to as a mother, but it feels like nobody could take away the roots she left in me. No one could make flowers grow out of me. But now that I am older I don't necessarily feel alone, but I know that I can't compare my hurt. Everyone's hurt is valid and very much real. And I get it with the signs, I see 333 and 444 almost daily. And one time when my brother tried to commit suicide, I begged my mom for a sign. And this monarch butterfly flew by me so close and just fluttered. I knew it was her. I knew when my mom died, she died for me to grow and have a wonderful life. If I could hug you guys I fucking would. I wish we could be friends irl or I had friends similar to you. I have great friends but apart of me still has this loneliness. But thank you for this podcast once again:)
i hope u guys are doing well, love u ♡
This is crazy, I had goosebumps when I realized what the topic of the podcast was. Two days ago I had the intuition that this would be your next topic...it’s also 3:33 as I’m writing this comment.
That's wild. A few days after they released the documentary about their dad, I was struggling with how much to donate to Love From Sean. (The twins had already been posting about 333 on social media. Did one, or both of them have the 333 tattoos by then?? I can't remember for sure.) Anyway, I was dreaming about the twins, when my bladder decided it needed to be emptied -- it was 3:33 am... I won't say how much I donated, as everyone is/was in a different financial situation. Suffice it to say, I took that as a sign from God to make a donation my wife and I would feel in our budget. (With her approval, of course.)
@@oldguy1610 It’s crazy how these things work, isn’t it? So nice of you to donate even though it may have been difficult. 🙏🏼
I love your videos! Love seeing all that you guys do!
my absolute favorite episode! i was extra engaged and really able to resonate with this the entire time. thank you all so much!
Love you guys no matter what❤️
Happy mothers day to all the mother figures out there!!❤️
Okay but you guys looks so amazing
I love this podcast so much ❤️
I'm glad to see there's an Podcast today and I'm glad to see the twins are doing okay!
keep up the great work 🧡🖤
ethans fit 🔥
you guys are my favorite forever and always 🤩🧡