It’s not just the gender thing. It’s with anyone having any mental health issue , one thing most likely leads to another issue . ADHD leads to anxiety and depression or even anger problems. Anger issues leads to depression as well . Bipolar leads to depression & anger issues .
“Smart kids that need to try harder” *remembers that time my honors math class teacher wrote on my recommendation that I’m a little slow to understand things*
AND AND NOW MY FRESHMAN ALGEBRA TEACHER IS SAYING I NEED TO BE IN HONORS BC I GOT 110 PERCENT ON THE TEST THAT IS SUPPOSED TO SAY WHAT WE NEED HELP ON ALSJKA I’m done, leaving, I’m out.
The more I read and watch things about ADHD, the more I think I need to see someone about it. Not only do I relate to everything but it explains so much about my life and where it went wrong. I always thought it was 100% my fault, being lazy, irresponsible, bad at time management, easily distracted, difficulty remembering to do things, etc. I'm not saying I have no responsibility but I've never had the tools to help me with my issues. Plus it doesn't help with my depression, anxiety and self-esteem issues to have this negative talk in my mind that I'm a horrible person for not being able to start or complete things.
Same!! I’ve been “diagnosed” with generalized anxiety by my doctors this year, but I don’t know if she’d be on board with an adhd diagnosis. It doesn’t help that I’m 33 years old either…
I'm 42. Never been diagnosed with anything mental. Pretty sure that I have anxiety, mild depression, ADHD, and might be on the autism spectrum. Part of me wants to be diagnosed. Part of me wonders what the point is now.
I know, I have half of these symptoms. I’m not sure if you can have ADHD, but be good at class? I’m really forgetful(tend to forget instructions, in school I focus on the teacher and plan my lesson as she talks, but I struggle remembering times tables and other common knowledge such as that.) and I have been realising that I can’t remember stuff that just happened from a young age. I also can take say something my friend said I can tend to think about it too much, so then I pick out maybe a slight word that might mean I offended them, can any of you advice anything? I just read through the comments on this and real sided that most people aren’t diagnosed until there late thirties, I’m 12 and want to think about the possibility of this a but more
"well-behaved, bright student that just needs to try harder" oh my god this is what every single one of my teachers has told me as long as I can remember
@@table2.0 actually i talk a lot but only to people im comfortable with. So most ppl say im quiet but my family and friends say i talk too much idk its not my fault i just get random thoughts and i wanna say them outloud 😞
I can't be the only one who tries so hard to focus in class that I zone out and stop listening to the actual class because i'm TOO focused on paying attention
That happened to me a about a week ago while I was watching a quiz show on TV xD I was like: "Oh, that's an interesting question, I don't wanna miss the answer" and then 10 seconds later I missed the answer xD
No your defenetly not hh I can just start thinking to myself " ok now i really have to focus" and 1 minute later im thinking of something else or looking somewhere else
I always did my homework and picked stuff up quickly, but I never turned it in. I even had it with me, I just got to the next class and opened my binder then realized I still had my homework in there
I could remember several years ago I was diagnosed with ADHD. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source. I'm 64 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Greece. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
YES very sure of Dr.Burkeshroom. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
100% agree I used to have Psychosis and paranoid thoughts like "people thinking about me talking about me etc. Very odd behavior after getting off Adderall from 7-16. Antidepressants at 18-29. 31 now. I took way to much, but took about 20g of Gold caps (Psilocybin containing mushroom) I analyzed my entire life. The emotions that came out helped me understand behavior etc more. Wont ever need to do it again because I'm happy and contempt forever, but I wish more people did this to alter their perception of reality. Would help with healing much trauma
there's nothing i hate more when a teacher or peer says pay attention, i want to yell at them like don't you think i'm trying (i have ADHD btw, been diagnosed for 10 years)
Abbygail Ross I’m a teacher and I’m very sorry that happened to you! My son has ADD and although we’ve had some issues at school, drawing was helpful and he was totally allowed to do it. I work with kids with ADD/ADHD/ODD a lot (I’m in Special Education)-good teachers don’t treat their identified (or anybody, really) like that. There are systems they can have in place-eg 5 minute break cards-to let you have a “pass”. Anyway, I hope it gets better: my husband also has ADHD and he is a fabulous, specialist math teacher now (despite almost failing it in high school)!
Hey fellow neurodivergent, Just wanted to share that I was finally diagnosed with ADHD at age 28 four days ago, and while I was waiting for confirmation I’ve used your channel to learn what different ways I could improve my life. Anyways, on the resources my psychiatrist gave me (after my diagnosis) your channel was on it. You’re clearly changing people’s lives in this struggle. Thank you for sharing your journey.
This makes me feel so much better. Ive just recently been diagnosed, and it was so hard to convince others to get the diagnosis. I also have anxiety, so the "adhd comes with friends" part hits home for me.
I had the reverse problem; I was diagnosed ADHD at age six. It took a decade and a half to get diagnosed as dyslexic, even though there were obvious signs. The anxiety and clinical depression were easier to diagnose than the fact that letters warp on me.
I think the problem with "girls are more mature" is also because people don't _let_ girls get away with immaturity nearly as much as they let boys do so. Boys are _expected_ to be disruptive and immature, with the excuse "boys will be boys," but girls are not "expected" to behave that way and are disciplined and expected to curb such behavior much sooner and more often than their male counterparts are. That has a lot to do with the internalizing emotional problems girls most often face with mental health.
As a 22 yr old girl who recently got diagnosed with ADHD but also suffers from dyslexia, depression, and anxiety... I feel so seen!!! I am still working on not feeling like an imposter and trying to get my self-worth up, but your videos help me so much. Thank you
I was scrolling through your youtube and I realised this is the first ever video I watched of yours that made me start thinking that I had ADHD. Despite not being brave enough to talk about it then, this started my journey of looking into ADHD and then last year I finally went to the doctor. I am now recently diagnosed at 17 and I am so grateful. Thank you :)
I have a gift for speed talking and not being anule to pay attention without things being quick this is soothing to me I don’t have slow down my thoughts
@@Boxes_ yesssssssss.... I was always like staring at the pencil sharpener or out the window in class, or in any situation just staring out to space idk it was more entertaining then paying attention in class. Same with online school I lose interest 2 mins into a call or a 3 min video... :/ edit: not to mention the several thousands of drawings in any of my school workbooks, like it’s a serious problem that the teachers have stated several times to not do that :(
I had a doctor tell my mom I had ADHD when I was around 11 and she dismissed it because I don't "act like it", when in reality I just don't act like boys. My symptoms are like the ones you described for girls and it's crazy because instead of her letting me get that help, she gets mad at me for doing things that its hard to control. (Edit: Wow I didn't know this many people were able to relate and its kinda sad actually. I'm 16 now and hopefully at my next doctor visit my mom doesn't go because I'm going to try to tell my doctor so I can be tested. Hopefully everyone can get the help needed also, best of luck :)
My daughter’s former teacher needed this. I had to basically work around her to get her diagnosed. I’m so glad we did. Going undiagnosed can cause long lasting mental and emotional scars for kiddos.
I have Tourette’s and I’ve always suspected there was ADHD in the mix, I watched this video and told my parents I think I have ADHD & we made a doctors appointment and apparently, I DO have ADHD. THANK YOU for this video!
Jess Hathaway oh my gosh i’m sorry for not responding to this, i didn’t see it 😭 basically i just told them i’m really hyper and i have issues focusing and i think i might have adhd and then we went to the doctors and i got diagnosed
i was diagnosed with adhd in 1st grade but my mom didn't actually care enough to even look into what it was or get any treatment because she thought i was gonna grow out of it😭 she didn't even tell me i had it until 7 years after i was diagnosed, because she thought that it "didn't matter," or whatever😩
It took me 2 attempts and failures at post-secondary education to realize I had ADHD because it was so mixed up with my depression and anxiety. Still trying to work through the trauma of living my entire childhood and young adult life thinking I was just lazy and incompetent instead of suffering from incredibly severe executive dysfunction...
I discovered Dr. Amen’s book, “Healing ADHD” and bawled and bawled. It’s NOT MY FAULT!!!! He says: It’s not a moral failing, or laziness... it’s BRAIN CHEMISTRY that you/we were born with. This book turned my whole self-conception around. He has 7 (or more?) different subtypes of AHDH and mad suggestions for treatment, both wholistic and pharmaceutical depending on what you prefer...totally non-judgmental. Just like this video here. Thanks to both you rad support sources!!!
Look at adhd and a reaction to trauma this what Gabor mate found he got it wrote book about it he found ways help with his adhd but he found it really effected his career was very distracted
I'm 21 and just got diagnosed with ADHD... I seriously thought I was alone in feeling like this, but this video proved me otherwise. *Mindblown* Thank you for making this!
My mom makes me do HW downstairs, bc I ‘can’t focus in my room’. Then, I work downstairs and I can’t focus there. I tell my mom I get distracted by everything and more. Her response: well, don’t get distracted then
The little red haired girl from across the street ive tried doing that and i just get distracted by the music.. thinking about the lyrics or just something else. idk if i have adhd but its hard for me to focus on anything unless i really care about it
I was once a boy with inattentive ADHD, but with years of effort and dedication, I've become a grown man with inattentive ADHD. I have a lovely young daughter, and I've seen just about every struggle I had as a kid start to affect her, hopefully I can be more helpful to her since I *sort of* know what she's going through.
“She so bright and smart, just needs to try a little harder and not get so distracted”, every tutor and teacher I’ve ever have. (Edit) I did not think this would get so many likes so thx But at one point my teacher legit said ‘she’s a pleasure to teach, but she just needs to smile more’
me: shows every single symptom my entire family: nope you don’t have adhd were never gonna get you tested there’s no way you could have it even though it’s run in the family for like 3 generations 💀
IT'S SO ANNOYING my brother and dad have both been diagnosed and even though I show literally every symptom AND THEY ADMIT I DO they just refuse to get me diagnosed
“more likely to get treated for depression before ever being diagnosed with adhd” hit me like a freight train, i had to pause the video and stare out a window
This happened to me at 23. I stopped going back because I knew it was adhd ....they didnt care and kept telling me it was depression when in fact it was that they didnt even listen to me. That is what depressed me
the “well-behaved, bright student that just need to try harder” really did hit home i also related a lot with the trouble with social life (some what), more verbally aggressive, spacing out in conversations, focus negativity inwards, low self-esteem and anxiety. i also tend to get distracted a lot especially when doing homework, because its so hard to stay focused and i spend almost till night time trying to finish my classes (ive had that problem ever since 3rd grade and even have to go to tutoring to “help” me). im 16 and i haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD, and today my parents suggested to take me to a psychologist to see whats going on with me, because i forget a lot of things, like most of the time-
@@hahateehee hey thanks for the comforting! i’ve made this comment a month ago and heres an update: i still think i relate to the video and i’ve actually tried to go to a therapist but covid and stuff made it a lot harder.. if you are struggling and hasn’t been diagnosed yet pls seek help!🥺
@@bubblepopgrm I called my psychiatrist and therapist’s office and they both said that a psychologist is the one who diagnoses. Try to find a psychologist-not a psychiatrist
It took 18 years for a teacher to recognize that my bad memory and me failing every test I took wasn't me not trying, it was probably a learning disability. I was diagnosed in college with executive dysfunction learning disability, but after learning about ADHD I'm wondering if I was misdiagnosed. Thank you for your videos, they really are helpful. 💕
I was diagnosed with ADHD, especially executive dysfunction when I was around 7, but my teachers knew earlier. Good luck in getting the proper diagnosis.
I came back to this video after doing some research and concluding that I need to get checked out for ADHD. Searched ADHD for girls, and this video came up... with the red bar half way through the thumbnail. So at some point in the past, I watched this, and got distracted, left halfway and forgot all about it 🤦🏻♀️
haha in totallyADHD's unofficial adhd test one of the questions is "did youtube say youve started this video before but you dont remember cause you got distracted with something else and stopped it?"
Jesus, reading these comments make me realize how lucky I am to have a dad who has ADHD and who believes me and is actively finding someone to see if I really have it.
Yes, that is very lucky. I also have a dad with ADHD and a lot of my hyperfixations come from him. So we can bond very intensely over shared interests. And he understands me, like you said.
you’re lucky. i want to see someone so they can examine me to see if i have it but my parents judge and tell me i’m lying or looking for attention when i try to tell them. there are so many mental illnesses i think i may have that my parents think i’m lying about :(
you are very lucky. Having no parent with ADHD like you is terrible. My parents don't even think to worry about my symptoms and focus more about how much I focus on school :/
This is an older video, but I've been going through them a lot as someone who just got diagnosed as an adult. I know it's generalizations but I'm AMAB, and a lot of my symptoms were more in the "girl" generalizations, which I find really interesting and why it (probably) took awhile to get diagnosed I think, because I was always seen as a boy instead of just a patient. Thanks for these!
As an 11 year old girl who has ADHD, and is currently crying on the bus because this is so true, I can remember the last time 80 times I was told “I need to *try harder*” I also really hate when my teacher or anyone say “stop drawing, and pay attention.” Drawing is how I pay attention, and I can’t retain information that well when I don’t draw. Thank you for reading my very long comment, and I hope you have a wonderful day!
"They just need to try harder" that could not be more accurate... I get decent grades and I have ADHD. I get extra time to finish my exam because of my ADHD. People at school give me shit for having those extra minutes to finish my exam. They said that I have good grades, and that means I got no problem in studying/ at school. They couldn't have been more wrong. I used to just brush it off and laugh, but I just CANT anymore . They don't know how much time it takes me to understand a passage. They don't know how much time it takes me to recite a passage. They don't know how much time I used to study a subject. And they will never know that. But I can assure you, I need to work three times harder than my classmates to get the same FUCKUNG grade . I am not trying to make people to pity me, I just want them to understand. I have decent grades is because I study. Good grades dose not mean I don't struggle.
Katie Ng same! i failed a math exam today because i have to constantly be refocusing myself on the problems and eventually just fell so far behind i ran out of time
I don't have ADHD, but I get extra time on tests too. I just process slower than most kids, so eventhough I understand the concept, I can't get the work out on paper fast enough. I totally understand how you feel though. Just because I get good grades, it doesn't mean it's easy for me. Thankfully the kids at my school don't bother me about the extra time, but one tip I have is to maybe talk to your teachers and explain what is going on. They might be able to come up with a special system or trick that will help you taking extra time on tests look less obvious. One thing that I did was that if it was allowed, I would come back in at break or at lunch and finish the test there, instead of in the middle of class. Hope this helps. :)
My eniglish teacher: Pay attention and read your book faster Me with ADHD and Dyslexia: That's a really good idea! I didn't think of that one I should really try it some time! edit: just got diagnosed with asd so that just adds to the list of things my teachers will yell at me about
This describes me almost exactly from childhood to now, at 71 years of age. Great student in elementary school, good student after that but extremely distracted, often called a daydreamer by teachers. I can be listening to someone and completely miss what they’re saying unless I make a concerted effort to focus. I overcompensated to succeed when I put my mind to it but fell far short of what I could have done had I been diagnosed and treated. So many regrets and mistakes in my life. I’ve suffered from depression throughout my life. Ironically, I am a retired teacher with a master’s in emotional impairment and have worked with many children with ADHD. I started recognizing it in myself then but never pursued any help for it. I wish I had. Maybe I wouldn’t be living in such mental anguish now.
being academically gifted with adhd is a problem too because they will think there isnt a problem because youre doing well. Unfortunately this causes the development of bad habits that WILL cause problems when entering college and the real world. It was my problem when entering college but I'm tankful for my mom being such a huuuuuuge help in my life with studying and trying to keep me on the right track. Apparently my college did have a 504 plan to assist those with adhd and learning disabilities but because i did do well in highschool it wasnt... necessary by their standards and so... I struggle a lot and the school could care less, but I will make it anyway.
This is me. Now than I have more independent studying instead of lectures, I've struggled so hard to study. Yet no-one would believe I have any problems, because of I've always done better than most of children in school. But the truth is, I've had to be 10 times more determined, because of (since grade school) it took hours for me to finish my home works. I also always felt that I had responsibility to succeed, as I spend so much time in everything I do - like the results ought to be seen or I'm just extremely stupid :( Also, I often felt very lazy and bad person, because of I knew I could do my homeworks in no time, I knew how to do it but I just couldn't do the effort. TH-cam is my worst enemy, as I have to do my works with computer and need internet. Keep it up, you're so strong!
I actually have this problem too - I was just recently diagnosed with ADD, and no one (especially my teachers) believed that I had a problem. My parents had noticed that I struggled with focus among other things, but they didn't actually act upon it until I opened up about it to a doctor. I'm a straight-A student in honors and AP classes, so it's not typically something that people recognize. Either way, my parents have been super supportive, and I mean this from the bottom of my heart, that I understand how you feel. My biggest distractions include TH-cam, the Internet, phones, and just technology in general. I usually spend hours upon hours working on homework, trying to make it perfect, which results in sleep deprivation...but honestly, after all of these years thinking that I'm just an idiot, I've finally figured things out (sort of). I hope that all of you who are struggling will get help - it's not as bad as you think it is. :)
Lauren Stern I'm glad you opened up about it and did something to help yourself. The thing with ADHD is that it doesn't matter how smart you are if you have it. The problem with being smart enough to pass with flying colors despite it is usually it'll cause heavy stress as you rush to finish every last assignment ever! I've finished homework assignments just minutes before handing it to the teacher as class was starting and more recently submitted college essays minutes before it hit midnight before it was due and pulled all nighters to finish assignments. One morning after an all nighter I'm driving to school with a double shot espresso cappuccino and the AC on full blast to keep alert. I'm pretty sure I got a fairly good grade on that thing too. I try to minimize these destructive antics but I'm typing this as 1am and I have an 8am class in the morning. Still working on it I guess. I suggest trying an app called Habitica if you like videogames. It turns your tasks, dailies and habits into a sortof game or rpg style reward system. you get experience and points for completing things and lose health for missed dailies and going back on habits you want to build. Good luck and keep improving.
I’m pretty sure I don’t have ADHD but I keep seeing comments like “I have ADHD and I don’t think she’s talking that fast” and I didn’t think she was talking fast either so now I’m confused
Thank you so much for your videos! I recently got diagnosed with ADHD (but without the hyperactive form) from a psychologist after my doc came up with the idea of letting me get a test. I felt so connected with so many ADHD Symptoms I saw in your videos and in documentaries over the last years and always felt a little different. Now I finally got the diagnose and can get the right medication and treatment! :-) I'm so happy!
i’ve wanted to see a doctor about adhd for a while but my mum always says “you’re not hyperactive” and she clearly doesn’t understand it very well- also i am hyperactive around people i’m comfortable with because i have anxiety
@Anja Samuel that's so interesting thank you. I haven't been diagnosed either. I'm in what I was hoping to be my last year of college but my grades might not allow me to graduate. I'm an art major and I've always barely passed my non art classes. I was google searching why I always procrastinate and can't focus and found ADHD. My old roommate/best friend who has it aggreed that I definitely have it (she was uncomfortable telling me without reason) and I brought it up to my mom and she said she's always wondered. Upside if I don't graduate I'll be on my mom's health insurance for longer to get more help def gonna talk to my doctor. Wish you luck as well!
this is SO important. when i’m around people i like & trust, i’ll talk a million miles an hour, while i’m scared to even ask for more ketchup in public.
This was the video that made me realise that the reason I struggled so much through high school and the six months of university I did before having a mental breakdown might be that I have ADHD. One diagnosis and almost a year later and I'm in a job I couldn't have imagined being able to do and even applying to study for a psychology degree. This channel is so important and I owe you guys so much. Keep up the amazing work!
@@alexisbas10 I'm 21 and I just made an appointment with my primary care physician to get a referral. I'm scared they aren't going to believe me tho and just brush me off. It's happened to me before with my doctor, she brushed me off and diagnosed me with anxiety and depression (which I do have).
My homeschool teacher who was a nurse for 50 years said that i might have ADHD when I was around 5-6 and my mom ignored it. She still ignores it today -_-
Wow, I hope your mom stops ignoring you. To me your lucky, your ADHD started showing up early on. Mine didn't want to come out untill I was a pre-teen ._.
Bruh I’ve told my mom multiple times I think I have adhd and said I’ve spoken to ppl who have it and they literally said they thought I had it that’s what gave me the idea in the first place. Now I’ve done research and I’m 100% sure I have it but she still won’t take me to the doctor 😭
My mom (who’s a nurse) and the family doctor said that my younger sister probably has ADHD. In order to officially diagnose her my sister’s teacher had to fill out a questionnaire saying how often she saw ADHD symptoms (such as spacing out, not finishing work quickly, getting out her seat, etc). The teacher claimed on the questionnaire she saw absolutely none of those symptoms even though she mentioned my sister doing those things to my parents during parent-teacher conferences in the past. Since the teacher said on the questionnaire she saw none of the ADHD symptoms, my sister couldn’t be diagnosed with ADHD. This is frustrating since she were officially diagnosed with ADHD, the school would let her have extra time on timed exams and make other accommodations for her due to her ADHD. The family doctor could only give us advice on how to help my sister with her ADHD and that was it
Y’know that’s the most annoying part about society, same case with Autism (Asbergers). It’s always an excuse or whatever and when it’s suddenly epilepsy everyone changes and god forbid you can’t think that ADHD or Autism are more worse to you
73 year old female with ADHD. Hated school, dropped out struggled with life in 2 continents. I found myself in my 50s after I found my "talent". Real estate!!! Made millions, hard work saved me from lifelong depression. I feel as If I lived for 500 years
"The well-behaved, bright students that just need to try harder." Couldn't be more accurate. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 18 after five previous years of psychiatric treatment for anxiety and seasonal affective disorder so it went under the radar for a while. Always gifted (in fact I routinely qualified for the advanced classes in grade school but I refused to take them when I had the choice), always teacher's pet, but my actual performance fluctuated wildly from perfect As to failing. And up until I flunked out of college, it was like that, always knowing I had the potential to succeed but never actually achieving.
Right now I'm 14. and I'm in honors/AP classes & failing all of them because I'm smart enough to be in the actual class, but I can't sit or focus long enough to do my homework or study. It's even worse knowing that I have the potential to do it, and I'm only 14 so I have the time to fix myself and my grades and do better, but never actually trying hard enough for a long enough time. It sucks.
I'm having the same issue and I'm only 12! I asked my mom to homeschool me because I feel it would be best for me and I could improve my learning and she said: "NO YOU DONT NEED IT U CAN LEARN PERFECTLY FINE NOW GO DO HOMEWORK AND IMPROVE YOUR GRADES YOUNG LADY!!" I was like ._. First of all I don't have a brain like others and it's harder for me to learn and second of all I can't improve my grades if no one is willing to help me and everyone is just going to sit and watch me fail... I can't even handle all this stress and pressure... I can't do anything about it and no one helps me...I wish I had a family that would help me and maybe even homeschool me so that I could get more help and learn better :(
Syvelocin I swear you are just like me..Back then when I was in school I used to always get the highest grades and be the best student in the eyes of all my teachers..When I went to college I kept on getting As and only one B+ and one B during my very first year..My GPA was (3.85) But then the following year my grades started to go down , then the year after my grades dropped further to the point that I started to get Fs and Ds and now my GPA is (2.5).. I am still smart and everything but I just cannot study and focus like I did in the past few years.. I feel heartbroken 😔
This is so true. In school I just finished a bunch of tests, and let me tell you if I got below 80% I almost cried. I mean I guess that could also be down to my parents and classmates constantly thinking me as "better than them" so when they do better than me they rub it in my face :'D
I have test anxiety. But I still managed educational extra curriculars (Ecology Club, Quiz Bowl, Odyssey of the Mind). I also competed heavily in both sports and the arts. Some of my subjects were “Honors” levels and my senior year of high school I was sitting at a 4.0 ... but I wanted dual College credit. Because of the overload, I ended up with one single B grade in my entire school career and it literally depressed me until I got to college. Which I totally quit after a semester 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
@@caitlynguthrie5641 I have a 4.3 GPA atm (I'm a freshman) but I'm mad because I could have gotten like a 4.4 if I took Honors bio instead of regular because I thought it would be hard😑 turns out...I'm really good at bio
I'm a guy with the inattentive type of ADHD and I often space out during conversations. I think it definitely would have helped if I'd gotten diagnosed sooner. Thanks for making this video.
Arg, I'm so frustrated. If only I got diagnosed and treated before going to college, I probably would have avoided getting depression and anxiety. Now I'm a senior in college and I've lost count of how many times I've changed my majors, lost 4 iphones, have 2 rooms at home that are full of clutter, and I'm a general wreck. Thank you for the video! Maybe now I can finally get my life together. It sucks because I feel like I've wasted the last five years of my life but it's better late than never I suppose.
Yeah for sure -- many ppl aren't diagnosed until they've had failed careers and marriages. Better late than...later? lol. The cool thing is now you've found your tribe, we'll help you figure it out!
its kind of the same for my family. a lot of my male cousins have adhd but my mom wouldnt even consider theres smth wrong w me bc im a girl. im just a little too happy sometimes she says
Since your siblings have it, statistics suggest that there's a 76 percent chance you're having it as well. www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0924933818301962?via%3Dihub
I am very sorry...please tell your mom that a 45 year old women (me) wants you to tell her to have you tested...because she really wants to save you from ending up like her (me)... Diagnosed in my 30s. Not medicated and correctly treated until my early 40s...when my life was already in shambles. Completely effed up. And now I am trying hard to get out of this...and keep failing... Don't end up like me. Fight to get a diagnosis and treatment...
I remember when I was diagnosed with ADHD and my school found out (small school) many of my classmates thought it was a personality. At first it was cool to have peeps I can related to- eventually things turned sour when my teachers recognize the trend and told me to stop distracting the class and sat me away from the class. The good ol' days 🥰
I’m female to male transgender and was diagnosed with ADHD at age 10, which was 3 years before I came out as trans. While I was still identifying as female when I was diagnosed, I do think the fact that my ADHD got noticed may have been at least influenced by the fact that my symptoms are largely male presenting, though I do have some more stereotypically female symptoms as well. The symptoms I mainly struggle with are attention regulation, organization, and hyperactivity, my behavior and emotional regulation have always been pretty good I think.
I was diagnosed with adhd last year when I was 18 and the fact that I am learning that all of these things I’ve done my entire life are normal for people with adhd is so crazy. Like thinking about all of the help I could have gotten in school when I was younger but didn’t is so frustrating, because college is now so extremely difficult. But I’m glad to have found a channel like this so I can try to better understand everything!
I have a question because i move my leg a lot en i fidget with my fingers , but when i realise that i do it, than i can stop, but like i do it uncontious, is that also adhd or is that more of anxiety,
How you could start a TH-cam channel and then keep it going and make so many videos for so long should literally earn you a medal! I eventually quit everything I start haha
I might have ADHD but my family never really noticed because I would hyperfixate on schoolwork. I would focus on work so hard I forgot my name. People always see kids with ADHD as the ones who get into trouble, I have come to see just how good I got at hiding these things.
She’s the most adorable caring spontaneous goofy ball of energy and I am learning to be more secure in myself not being paranoid when not being constantly showered with affection or attention... I’ll gladly deal with these issues for the person she is. Seriously the most amazing girl ever and her adhd actually is a part of that In many ways.
I am 36 years old. I sought help for ADHD when I was about 30. And it changed my life. I've recently had decided I learned enough coping skills and wanted to stop taking my ADHD medication. Well, it's been almost 3 months and I am hating life. I got on another medication to help me not be sleepy during the day, but it's making me anxious and more depressed. I have to stop listening to people who don't understand ADHD and do what works for me. I see my doctor next Monday. I remembered today how encouraging your videos were and decided to find some much needed moral support by coming back to watching you. Thank you for your channel.
Me having social anxiety and depression at 15 and thinking I'm exaggerating because nothing really bad is happening in my life. Also me being stuck with procrastination ever since I need to be autonomous in my work ! 👍👍
i felt his. Im also 15 and i have social anxiety and depression and now mom thinks i have adhd cuz she watch so many videos on adhd in girls and she said that i do the exact thing and also, my brother and my dad has adhd too so yeaaahhhhh. frick genetics.
The girl looking out the window was actually the first one I noticed, because that was me in school. I did ok in school for the most part but in 5th grade I started having more issues with "spacing out". I got the report cards about "daydreaming" and not focusing. It became a big issue, they got my parents involved and the teacher changed my seat so my back was to the windows...I eventually managed to find ways to force myself to focus or appear to be but it was out of a sense of fear of getting caught than because I had found ways to cope. Nothing was ever looked into, they just thought I was daydreaming/had an overactive imagination. I always joked about having ADHD, not that it's funny but because I think a part of me knew but was avoiding the truth. I'm in my early 30s now and finally coming to the realization that I need to get officially diagnosed and see what can be done to get my life in order. You're videos are a great start and very helpful! Thank you.
I'd love to know what happened since then. I've been watching videos on ADHD, Autism, CPTSD, BPD etc and one thing many struggles have in common is that girls are left behind in diagnosis. The other thing is people who are traumatized can also zone out - so ADHD may be your cause - but if you suffered abuse you may have started zoning out because of that.
That what I did. I always just thought it was boredom. It was a window or a notebook for me. I doodled and wrote during classes... stuff that had nothing to do with the classes.
@@stariadreamtea PTSD related dissociation is a very different experience than ADHD related not focusing/hyper-focusing. During a dissociation, You feel dizzy and like escaping from your body. It is a very strong feeling. I had them both as a child. But in my adulthood, I only have ADHD symptoms.
Daydreaming is something I still struggle with and it frustrates me. I remember in second grade instead did paying attention I would be looking out the window daydreaming about some action packed sequence in my head or something
I was about to click away because I didn’t think this applied to me but then it said “the well behaved that just needs to try harder” and you grabbed back my attention
SAME! Whenever I had to read something out, I was so focused on reading that I couldn’t tell what happened. It’s the same when others read it out- or I zone out.
I literally got in trouble just because I forgot something, and I was the first girl in class to get in trouble.. it was so embarrassing because everyone was like “if you just paid attention (something something something I forgot ) 😐” 😭
"Are you even listening to me" "Yes" "What was I saying?" "Something about... something... purple or- blue? Maybe pink-" "You're such a bad friend, you never listen." **Goes on to hate self**
You made me realise something. I think I have adhd, but my older Sister may have it too. She's never listening and talks a lot and fast... But i don't know about the others symptoms for her
I stopped playing with dolls at 14 but the only reason why is that my uncle threw them away on purpose and haven't bought new ones. Don't let no kid or adult ruin your fun just enjoy being a kid as long as you can. ❤
Hey, that’s awesome! I played with dolls till I was 15. I only stopped because I didn’t have time for them anymore. Go enjoy your childhood and playing with dolls doesn’t determine maturity.
@Tee why shouldn't you? I still liked that when I was your age, nothing wrong with it. I'm glad to hear that there are still girls that age who still play with dolls instead of being little make-up dolls themselves! So keep playing as long as you have fun with it! ❤️
I was in my early to mid 30's by the time I was finally diagnosed. Bipolar, ADHD, ODD, PTSD, and a couple other things. I'm an only child, raised by a single hardworking mother. A latchkey kid. And an introvert. Not knowing what an introvert was, or that it's a thing. And always having people try to convince me that I NEED to be around people. Needless to say I'm here to learn. And I greatly appreciate your help. Thank-you!
I’m a guy with ADHD-Inattentive, and I wasn’t formally diagnosed until I was almost 20. The stereotypes of ADHD (being a mostly male disorder that makes them hyperactive/rude/impulsive/troublemakers) are a disservice to everyone. I can totally understand why it’s so difficult for women to get diagnosed, because for me - even as a man - the more inward-facing nature of ADHD-I made it much less noticeable. Hope everyone is taking care of their mental health and staying safe and happy
I am a girl with adhd. I think you are right about adhd coming with a “friend!” When I was in third grade I was diagnosed, but I was also diagnosed with anxiety and depression. I was never a sad kid, I just had depression. I do a lot of stemming (I think that’s how you spell it) which is where I flap my hands in different directions depending on my mood.
Have you been evaluated for autism? There is a very high percentage of people with both. The stimming and anxiety and depression are very common with autism.
its a perfect speed for me. shes really good at keeping the attention of her adhd crowd. moments of silence are short and few, there are a lot of cuts and change in camera angles, and she tries to keep her videos under 5 minutes. its perfect for adhd brains :D or at least for mine
I related to a lot of these and I don't know if I'll get tested yet because I've learned to manage a lot of the issues but I want you to know that in one of your videos you had a lot if helpful advice and one of them was "not know is future now" and those tips have literally turned college around for me and I'm not constantly behind and breaking down from stress like I was before and I want to thank you SO MUCH for making these videos. My whole program (fashion design) is based on project management and I've always struggled with it but you've helped so much
my teacher’s always say this about me it’s like “she’s well behaved but she just doesn’t put in enough effort and doesn’t seem like she’s paying attention”
the thing is i relate to every single one of the girl symptoms and yet i’m too scared to even tell my mom that i might have adhd because it’s not the stereotype
Gather your facts and hold them out like a shield in front of you for protection. Maybe don't even claim ADHD. I told my mom I'm not sure I have ADHD, but I definitely have executive disfunction which can come with depression and anxiety too. The most important thing isn't getting the diagnosis, even though that may get you more resources and accommodations. It's the action of learning as much as you can and applying it to help you in life. Nobody has to give you permission to use ADHD tips in your life. No one can say you don't have a doctors note so you can't participate in what this channel has to teach.
@@r.i.plamaisondeletedandfor2382 Definitely! Your parents are often your best advocates (and if not, you have a whole community here to back you up and support you, so no worries :) ) Your mom may not even realize you are struggling, so share that with her. These videos are also a good resource. You can send one that talks about an area you particularly struggle with and let your mom know that is why you sent it to her. It may be indirect, but that way you are sharing and getting your message across, even if you can't say in to her directly.
y'all you know when you're watching a movie with someone, and they start laughing or have some sort of reaction. i'm the one who asks what happened because i be zoned out or forget to listen at the important parts😩
I cant even watch movies or TV with people because I literally space and get so bored. Especially if I've seen it before. For the longest time whenever there was those "what's your favorite movie" things on stuff online I was filling out, I would put this one movie that I do like but can't sit through the entire thing anymore since watching it when I was a kid. Or I do this thing with music, where I listen to the same song a few times, and several days in a row mixed in with other songs, but then need to find brand new songs to listen to because I start getting really bored/tired of them and can't use them to focus anymore... I just get really irritated and annoyed and turn them off.
when she said a lot of girls w adhd grow many mental disorders really hit my extreme anxiety and depersonalization
Actually same
My depression, anxiety, ptsd, binge eating disorder, and insomnia looking at me like. My adhd not getting diagnosed for a couple more months.
It’s not just the gender thing. It’s with anyone having any mental health issue , one thing most likely leads to another issue . ADHD leads to anxiety and depression or even anger problems. Anger issues leads to depression as well . Bipolar leads to depression & anger issues .
Depersonalization? Are you also diagnosed with bpd?
That depersonalization one hit home for me. I hope your doing well💖
Relatives: You have so much potential
ADHD: Understandable, have a nice day
Ahhh lmaooo
*red was not an imposter*
"You have so much potential."
If only I were born as a capacitor ^^
Yup did first year of vet school aced ever test anxiety and adhd was so bad I barely finished
THIS IS LITERALLY THE STORY OF MY LIFE
“Smart kids that need to try harder” *remembers that time my honors math class teacher wrote on my recommendation that I’m a little slow to understand things*
For me it always was "she is such a smart girl, but she is just too lazy, she should just work harder!" - WTH DUDE, I'M ALREADY TRYING SO HARD!!
every. report. ever.
AND AND NOW MY FRESHMAN ALGEBRA TEACHER IS SAYING I NEED TO BE IN HONORS BC I GOT 110 PERCENT ON THE TEST THAT IS SUPPOSED TO SAY WHAT WE NEED HELP ON ALSJKA I’m done, leaving, I’m out.
THIS!!!
right my teachers always say that and i try so hard it just makes me cry
The more I read and watch things about ADHD, the more I think I need to see someone about it. Not only do I relate to everything but it explains so much about my life and where it went wrong. I always thought it was 100% my fault, being lazy, irresponsible, bad at time management, easily distracted, difficulty remembering to do things, etc. I'm not saying I have no responsibility but I've never had the tools to help me with my issues. Plus it doesn't help with my depression, anxiety and self-esteem issues to have this negative talk in my mind that I'm a horrible person for not being able to start or complete things.
Same!! I’ve been “diagnosed” with generalized anxiety by my doctors this year, but I don’t know if she’d be on board with an adhd diagnosis. It doesn’t help that I’m 33 years old either…
same here-
Same
I'm 42. Never been diagnosed with anything mental. Pretty sure that I have anxiety, mild depression, ADHD, and might be on the autism spectrum.
Part of me wants to be diagnosed. Part of me wonders what the point is now.
I know, I have half of these symptoms. I’m not sure if you can have ADHD, but be good at class? I’m really forgetful(tend to forget instructions, in school I focus on the teacher and plan my lesson as she talks, but I struggle remembering times tables and other common knowledge such as that.) and I have been realising that I can’t remember stuff that just happened from a young age. I also can take say something my friend said I can tend to think about it too much, so then I pick out maybe a slight word that might mean I offended them, can any of you advice anything?
I just read through the comments on this and real sided that most people aren’t diagnosed until there late thirties, I’m 12 and want to think about the possibility of this a but more
"well-behaved, bright student that just needs to try harder" oh my god this is what every single one of my teachers has told me as long as I can remember
Same-
same and they also said "they need to speak more often"
@@joemama3055 interesting, I always spoke up quite a lot in class. Neat
@@table2.0 actually i talk a lot but only to people im comfortable with. So most ppl say im quiet but my family and friends say i talk too much idk its not my fault i just get random thoughts and i wanna say them outloud 😞
@@joemama3055 that’s a mood
I can't be the only one who tries so hard to focus in class that I zone out and stop listening to the actual class because i'm TOO focused on paying attention
That happened to me a about a week ago while I was watching a quiz show on TV xD
I was like: "Oh, that's an interesting question, I don't wanna miss the answer" and then 10 seconds later I missed the answer xD
omg this is actually me tho
No your defenetly not hh
I can just start thinking to myself " ok now i really have to focus" and 1 minute later im thinking of something else or looking somewhere else
Nope, I do this occasionally too😶
Ikr I’m like listen to this here’s the answer then I analyze the question and just miss everything
"smart, well behaved, just needs to focus more" every single teacher feedback I've ever gotten lmao
Mine is “shy, should talk more, kinda smart but need to revise more to achieve higher” like that kinda thing lol
I always got “Smart girl, but a huge chatterbox” and I would just assume everyone got that TwT
I always did my homework and picked stuff up quickly, but I never turned it in. I even had it with me, I just got to the next class and opened my binder then realized I still had my homework in there
ME T O O LMAO
Same
I could remember several years ago I was diagnosed with ADHD. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my mom recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source. I'm 64 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Greece. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
YES very sure of Dr.Burkeshroom. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
100% agree I used to have Psychosis and paranoid thoughts like "people thinking about me talking about me etc. Very odd behavior after getting off Adderall from 7-16. Antidepressants at 18-29. 31 now. I took way to much, but took about 20g of Gold caps (Psilocybin containing mushroom) I analyzed my entire life. The emotions that came out helped me understand behavior etc more. Wont ever need to do it again because I'm happy and contempt forever, but I wish more people did this to alter their perception of reality. Would help with healing much trauma
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
Teacher : Pay attention
Kid with ADHD:
Wow what an idea, why didnt i think of that.
Only Hazel same😂
YESSSSSSS!!!!! I have a teacher that doesn't understand and he is constantly telling me that he needs to see more from me and I'm giving 110%
there's nothing i hate more when a teacher or peer says pay attention, i want to yell at them like don't you think i'm trying (i have ADHD btw, been diagnosed for 10 years)
That’s me when I was a kid hahahah!
Abbygail Ross I’m a teacher and I’m very sorry that happened to you! My son has ADD and although we’ve had some issues at school, drawing was helpful and he was totally allowed to do it. I work with kids with ADD/ADHD/ODD a lot (I’m in Special Education)-good teachers don’t treat their identified (or anybody, really) like that. There are systems they can have in place-eg 5 minute break cards-to let you have a “pass”. Anyway, I hope it gets better: my husband also has ADHD and he is a fabulous, specialist math teacher now (despite almost failing it in high school)!
My adhd is so intense when I do my homework any sound or any thing that catches my eye I will stare at forever thinkin what it’s been through 😂
Fairy Acids SAAAME, i will space out and totally forget what i was doing and then give up
Fairy Acids I could literally hear one sound and just bam
Fairy Acids same, ive been doing the same worksheet for 4 days now
Fairy Acids I space out while I’m talking when I hear something and then when I snap out of it I forget what I was talking about😂
Fairy Acids I just stare at it and wonder how it’s made
her: girls tend to space out
me: *dancing along to the music in the background*
this is so me i-
me but comments
😂
I was watching the end of a hockey game, and my parents were discussing it but I was busy thinking *wait. I know this song wAiT... got it.*
me daydreaming and zoning out
Hey fellow neurodivergent, Just wanted to share that I was finally diagnosed with ADHD at age 28 four days ago, and while I was waiting for confirmation I’ve used your channel to learn what different ways I could improve my life. Anyways, on the resources my psychiatrist gave me (after my diagnosis) your channel was on it. You’re clearly changing people’s lives in this struggle. Thank you for sharing your journey.
"Smart kid needs to try harder" OH MY GOD THAT HIT ME LIKE A TRUCK
*screaming*
EVERY 👏🏾 SINGLE 👏🏾 REPORT 👏🏾 CARD
Hanna Edwards 😤🤧
Elementary school was one big mess of 'pay attention' or 'needs to focus' I also kind of feel like my entire existence is based on attention. 😔
That is me to a ‘t’
‘amazing addition to the class and is very smart! just needs to try harder and is distracted very easily’
So relatable😂
And "talks to much" every year I get told this since I started school 😶
This is what happens every parents evening
This is literally every teacher conference from kindergarten to 8th. After that teachers stop caring.
Me wondering for the past eight years why I only ever write “I need to focus more” on self reflections in preparation for parent meetings
Me: Actually tries to focus in class
Literally one second later: *spaces out*
*Spaces out about trying to not space out*
SO TRUE 😂😂
@@emiemi7725 yesss, and then i start thinking about how i’m thinking about thinking 😭😭
literally
Me: falls asleep while spacing out
This makes me feel so much better. Ive just recently been diagnosed, and it was so hard to convince others to get the diagnosis. I also have anxiety, so the "adhd comes with friends" part hits home for me.
I had the reverse problem; I was diagnosed ADHD at age six. It took a decade and a half to get diagnosed as dyslexic, even though there were obvious signs. The anxiety and clinical depression were easier to diagnose than the fact that letters warp on me.
Me, a girl, with ADHD, anger issues, and anxiety.
same omg I feel like no one understands 😕
@Burnt Ink same
I FELT THAT
🙋🏾♀️
Same + depression
Me (a person with add): scrolling through the comments while listening
Anyone else?
Gotcha Info Bruh I don’t even know what was going on bc I was reading the comments lmao
I do that all the time haha
Guilty as charged 😆😅😂
*dabs* yo
Lol literally me it’s kinda annoying
I think the problem with "girls are more mature" is also because people don't _let_ girls get away with immaturity nearly as much as they let boys do so. Boys are _expected_ to be disruptive and immature, with the excuse "boys will be boys," but girls are not "expected" to behave that way and are disciplined and expected to curb such behavior much sooner and more often than their male counterparts are. That has a lot to do with the internalizing emotional problems girls most often face with mental health.
Is it ADHD to think of a song lyric"boys will be boys then, where are the wise men" at the mention of "boys will be boys"?
@@drowninginthedeepnessofher1032 no
@Drowninginthedeepnessofherlyrics no…?
@@drowninginthedeepnessofher1032 what? that makes no sense
@@drowninginthedeepnessofher1032 what-
As a 22 yr old girl who recently got diagnosed with ADHD but also suffers from dyslexia, depression, and anxiety... I feel so seen!!! I am still working on not feeling like an imposter and trying to get my self-worth up, but your videos help me so much. Thank you
felt that “well behaved just need to try harder” lmaoo
my mom always tells me to “just focus” like what?????
THISSS AND ALWAYS SAYING THAT “I don’t pay attention or I’m too chatty”
@@mackattack9650 same, and i am like "Thanks, mom, i would never get to the conclusion that i should just focus"
Same, it literally describes me
Why I always thought that I just wasn’t good enough 🥺
Her: adhd in girls
Me: haha I do that.
I was literally spacing out when she talked about girls spacing out and I just thought "why do you have to call me out like that?"
😂😂
Same
Isn't it normal to space out?
cringenoodle. I thought the same thing ??
Me: _reading through the comments_
The person in the video: _says something_
Me: wait what?-
Me this whole video " wait wait wait *goes back 20s*" lmaoo
I honestly just missed the whole video and did not notice until she stopped talking
I have to pause the video when I look through the comments because I know I can’t pay attention to both
i thought she said cooches
i keep hitting the 10s back button bc i don't understand lol
I was scrolling through your youtube and I realised this is the first ever video I watched of yours that made me start thinking that I had ADHD. Despite not being brave enough to talk about it then, this started my journey of looking into ADHD and then last year I finally went to the doctor. I am now recently diagnosed at 17 and I am so grateful. Thank you :)
me , a girl w adhd : shes not even talking that fast..
I talk fast too so i dont have a problem with the way shes talking lol
She isn’t talking that fast and I don’t ADHD... 😂 She is talking normal lol
I have a gift for speed talking and not being anule to pay attention without things being quick this is soothing to me I don’t have slow down my thoughts
Adriana Gonzales but she isn’t even talking fast 😂
I have ADHD and I talk like OMAGAWDIMSOHAPPYANDTHISANDTHATHAPPENDPLUSTHISANDITWASSOFUNNYHAHAHAHAHA
“girls space out while people are talking”
me blankly staring at my wall:
👁👄👁
Same
I do the same! I randomly stare at people, animals, plants, random people, basically everything when I zone out.
@@Boxes_ yesssssssss.... I was always like staring at the pencil sharpener or out the window in class, or in any situation just staring out to space idk it was more entertaining then paying attention in class. Same with online school I lose interest 2 mins into a call or a 3 min video... :/
edit: not to mention the several thousands of drawings in any of my school workbooks, like it’s a serious problem that the teachers have stated several times to not do that :(
I just woke up after spacing out when she mentioned the point of girls more often spacing out....
@@Boxes_ samee i was staring at this girl without even realizing it and it was super embarrassing when she called me out
I had a doctor tell my mom I had ADHD when I was around 11 and she dismissed it because I don't "act like it", when in reality I just don't act like boys. My symptoms are like the ones you described for girls and it's crazy because instead of her letting me get that help, she gets mad at me for doing things that its hard to control.
(Edit: Wow I didn't know this many people were able to relate and its kinda sad actually. I'm 16 now and hopefully at my next doctor visit my mom doesn't go because I'm going to try to tell my doctor so I can be tested. Hopefully everyone can get the help needed also, best of luck :)
Same here! I told my dad about it and he’s just like “you don’t have the symptoms” and I’m like, bruh, I have all of the symptoms in females
Same. I should have been diagnosed at eleven and it’s making being diagnosed at 24 as an adult hard. Testing where I live is very pricey. :/
I'm not even a girl and i had those F e m a l e Symptoms (!?) , caused me a lot of problems as a kid with teachers and others
Never got any help tho 😟
LITERALLY ME
SAME
My daughter’s former teacher needed this. I had to basically work around her to get her diagnosed. I’m so glad we did. Going undiagnosed can cause long lasting mental and emotional scars for kiddos.
I have Tourette’s and I’ve always suspected there was ADHD in the mix, I watched this video and told my parents I think I have ADHD & we made a doctors appointment and apparently, I DO have ADHD. THANK YOU for this video!
Hey if u don't mind me asking how did u approach your parents about it because I think I might but am not sure how to tell them
Thx
Wow, so happy to here that :) I hope it helped you getting the appropriate support you need
Jess Hathaway oh my gosh i’m sorry for not responding to this, i didn’t see it 😭 basically i just told them i’m really hyper and i have issues focusing and i think i might have adhd and then we went to the doctors and i got diagnosed
@@aub9769 no worries
thank you !!
Jeez that fast? I’ve been on the waiting list to see someone for 2 years ;-;
“early treatment can help prevent other disorders from developing in the future”
ah haha too late
same sis
social anxiety squad anyone?
im 17 about to go onn18 its defiantly too late for me 😂
i was diagnosed with adhd in 1st grade but my mom didn't actually care enough to even look into what it was or get any treatment because she thought i was gonna grow out of it😭 she didn't even tell me i had it until 7 years after i was diagnosed, because she thought that it "didn't matter," or whatever😩
Me reading this with 2 personality disorders and severe clinical depression after being undiagnosed for 19 years👁👄👁
It took me 2 attempts and failures at post-secondary education to realize I had ADHD because it was so mixed up with my depression and anxiety. Still trying to work through the trauma of living my entire childhood and young adult life thinking I was just lazy and incompetent instead of suffering from incredibly severe executive dysfunction...
I discovered Dr. Amen’s book, “Healing ADHD” and bawled and bawled. It’s NOT MY FAULT!!!! He says: It’s not a moral failing, or laziness... it’s BRAIN CHEMISTRY that you/we were born with. This book turned my whole self-conception around. He has 7 (or more?) different subtypes of AHDH and mad suggestions for treatment, both wholistic and pharmaceutical depending on what you prefer...totally non-judgmental. Just like this video here. Thanks to both you rad support sources!!!
I don't think I have adhd anymore, but same, I hope atleast a diagnosis of depression would put my parents in place.
Same here. Same boat. Glad you found help. 💗
Look at adhd and a reaction to trauma this what Gabor mate found he got it wrote book about it he found ways help with his adhd but he found it really effected his career was very distracted
I could've written this. Good luck with the rest of your journey, friend ❤
I'm 21 and just got diagnosed with ADHD... I seriously thought I was alone in feeling like this, but this video proved me otherwise. *Mindblown* Thank you for making this!
How do they test it like fr ask u questions?
My mom makes me do HW downstairs, bc I ‘can’t focus in my room’. Then, I work downstairs and I can’t focus there. I tell my mom I get distracted by everything and more. Her response: well, don’t get distracted then
Same here.. i even go to the library but get distracted by the girls gossiping across me -.- sigh
I'm sorry. Something I do to avoid getting distracted is put some headphones on and listen to music.
ah good times lol
The little red haired girl from across the street ive tried doing that and i just get distracted by the music.. thinking about the lyrics or just something else. idk if i have adhd but its hard for me to focus on anything unless i really care about it
Should probably go see a doctor
Anyone else when watching any kind of video just scrolls through the comments in order to focus on the video you're watching?
@Caoimhe Jordan that’s me tho
Caoimhe Jordan I’m in this picture and I don’t like it
same
Why is this exactly what I’m doing
yo you got the same name as me
“Girls tend to zone out a lot”
Me: *had to rewind the video a million times cause I kept stop listening at the same part every time*
omg same
i dont have adhd and i do that a lot.
wait
Same
@@christinamacquarrie9846 w a i t
Oh my god… I do that too… ;-;
I was once a boy with inattentive ADHD, but with years of effort and dedication, I've become a grown man with inattentive ADHD. I have a lovely young daughter, and I've seen just about every struggle I had as a kid start to affect her, hopefully I can be more helpful to her since I *sort of* know what she's going through.
“She so bright and smart, just needs to try a little harder and not get so distracted”, every tutor and teacher I’ve ever have.
(Edit) I did not think this would get so many likes so thx
But at one point my teacher legit said ‘she’s a pleasure to teach, but she just needs to smile more’
Honestly same-
wait you’re getting tutors
Exactly
Omg so relatable
I'm tired of "trying harder" I just wanna run away haha
me: shows every single symptom
my entire family: nope you don’t have adhd were never gonna get you tested there’s no way you could have it even though it’s run in the family for like 3 generations 💀
IT'S SO ANNOYING my brother and dad have both been diagnosed and even though I show literally every symptom AND THEY ADMIT I DO they just refuse to get me diagnosed
"yOu'Re JuSt A tEeNaGeR"
I KNOW RIGHT SAME
My mum's just like:
Ye whatever you just have a few motivational problems and need to get over it
That's makes no sense?
“more likely to get treated for depression before ever being diagnosed with adhd” hit me like a freight train, i had to pause the video and stare out a window
When she said that I just kinda ??? Like why you gotta call me out like that
This happened to me at 23. I stopped going back because I knew it was adhd ....they didnt care and kept telling me it was depression when in fact it was that they didnt even listen to me. That is what depressed me
the “well-behaved, bright student that just need to try harder” really did hit home i also related a lot with the trouble with social life (some what), more verbally aggressive, spacing out in conversations, focus negativity inwards, low self-esteem and anxiety. i also tend to get distracted a lot especially when doing homework, because its so hard to stay focused and i spend almost till night time trying to finish my classes (ive had that problem ever since 3rd grade and even have to go to tutoring to “help” me).
im 16 and i haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD, and today my parents suggested to take me to a psychologist to see whats going on with me, because i forget a lot of things, like most of the time-
I’m literally about to cry cause I relate to most of these also I’m 17 idk if I’m just lazy or I have adhd bc I’m old enough not to get diagnosed
Hi i am 17 too and ive struggling so i understand your frustrations
@@hahateehee hey thanks for the comforting! i’ve made this comment a month ago and heres an update: i still think i relate to the video and i’ve actually tried to go to a therapist but covid and stuff made it a lot harder.. if you are struggling and hasn’t been diagnosed yet pls seek help!🥺
Hii I’m 15 and I space out a lot and I’m a very big procrastinator and idk if I’m lazy or have adhd or something else entirely
Same...
@@bubblepopgrm I called my psychiatrist and therapist’s office and they both said that a psychologist is the one who diagnoses. Try to find a psychologist-not a psychiatrist
It took 18 years for a teacher to recognize that my bad memory and me failing every test I took wasn't me not trying, it was probably a learning disability. I was diagnosed in college with executive dysfunction learning disability, but after learning about ADHD I'm wondering if I was misdiagnosed. Thank you for your videos, they really are helpful. 💕
I was diagnosed with ADHD, especially executive dysfunction when I was around 7, but my teachers knew earlier. Good luck in getting the proper diagnosis.
@Nakiya Allen and we’re probably trying harder than most of the class
@@christalcavanaugh which sucks
@@christalcavanaugh trying harder but still getting worse grades than them😭
"boys tend to be physically aggresive while girls tend to be verbally aggresive"
Me doing both: haha yes
yessirrr
RELATE sometimes I kinda hurt my friends by accident
me whos non-binary and doing both 👀
john lee 😱😱😱😱😱😱🥵🥵😰😰😑😰🥵🥵😲🙄🙄🙄😱😱
SAME-😭
the fact that you said staring out the window and being inattentive in conversations is so insanely true 😊
This told me i have ADHD in every single language.
Why this comment appears as posted 40 years ago? 🤔
@Elliot Bergh
Ah right
My bad
Lol the 40 years got me
dude this distracted me from listening to the video😭
We have the same pfp that’s pretty swag anyways I relate
I came back to this video after doing some research and concluding that I need to get checked out for ADHD. Searched ADHD for girls, and this video came up... with the red bar half way through the thumbnail. So at some point in the past, I watched this, and got distracted, left halfway and forgot all about it 🤦🏻♀️
I LOVE THAT OMG HAHA
LITERALLY SAME
haha in totallyADHD's unofficial adhd test one of the questions is "did youtube say youve started this video before but you dont remember cause you got distracted with something else and stopped it?"
😂😂😂😂😂 relatable
That seems about right
Jesus, reading these comments make me realize how lucky I am to have a dad who has ADHD and who believes me and is actively finding someone to see if I really have it.
Yes, that is very lucky. I also have a dad with ADHD and a lot of my hyperfixations come from him. So we can bond very intensely over shared interests. And he understands me, like you said.
you’re lucky. i want to see someone so they can examine me to see if i have it but my parents judge and tell me i’m lying or looking for attention when i try to tell them. there are so many mental illnesses i think i may have that my parents think i’m lying about :(
you are very lucky. Having no parent with ADHD like you is terrible. My parents don't even think to worry about my symptoms and focus more about how much I focus on school :/
my dad has adhd and is denial as it is shameful to be neurodivergent
Your very lucky
This is an older video, but I've been going through them a lot as someone who just got diagnosed as an adult. I know it's generalizations but I'm AMAB, and a lot of my symptoms were more in the "girl" generalizations, which I find really interesting and why it (probably) took awhile to get diagnosed I think, because I was always seen as a boy instead of just a patient. Thanks for these!
As an 11 year old girl who has ADHD, and is currently crying on the bus because this is so true, I can remember the last time 80 times I was told “I need to *try harder*” I also really hate when my teacher or anyone say “stop drawing, and pay attention.” Drawing is how I pay attention, and I can’t retain information that well when I don’t draw. Thank you for reading my very long comment, and I hope you have a wonderful day!
im 12 now and is me
"They just need to try harder" that could not be more accurate... I get decent grades and I have ADHD. I get extra time to finish my exam because of my ADHD. People at school give me shit for having those extra minutes to finish my exam. They said that I have good grades, and that means I got no problem in studying/ at school. They couldn't have been more wrong. I used to just brush it off and laugh, but I just CANT anymore . They don't know how much time it takes me to understand a passage. They don't know how much time it takes me to recite a passage. They don't know how much time I used to study a subject. And they will never know that. But I can assure you, I need to work three times harder than my classmates to get the same FUCKUNG grade . I am not trying to make people to pity me, I just want them to understand. I have decent grades is because I study. Good grades dose not mean I don't struggle.
Katie Ng same! i failed a math exam today because i have to constantly be refocusing myself on the problems and eventually just fell so far behind i ran out of time
Every report card I got in school always said I was very bright and well-behaved, but I didn't apply myself and/or I talk too much. #adhd
I don't have ADHD, but I get extra time on tests too. I just process slower than most kids, so eventhough I understand the concept, I can't get the work out on paper fast enough. I totally understand how you feel though. Just because I get good grades, it doesn't mean it's easy for me. Thankfully the kids at my school don't bother me about the extra time, but one tip I have is to maybe talk to your teachers and explain what is going on. They might be able to come up with a special system or trick that will help you taking extra time on tests look less obvious. One thing that I did was that if it was allowed, I would come back in at break or at lunch and finish the test there, instead of in the middle of class. Hope this helps. :)
Katie Ng 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 exactly
Katie Ng UR NOT ALONE ( I thought I was tho)
My eniglish teacher: Pay attention and read your book faster
Me with ADHD and Dyslexia: That's a really good idea! I didn't think of that one I should really try it some time!
edit: just got diagnosed with asd so that just adds to the list of things my teachers will yell at me about
I agree with that but I have Diagraphy along with that
This is way too relatable, it took me literally almost a year to read the abridged version of the count of monte cristo
@@cuplord891 yup and I just got diagnosed with asd
Omg your teachers shouldnt yell at you for something that isnt your fault!stand up to them tell them its a part of life and you cant control it ♥
I am dislexic and have ADHD so I can totally relate
This describes me almost exactly from childhood to now, at 71 years of age. Great student in elementary school, good student after that but extremely distracted, often called a daydreamer by teachers. I can be listening to someone and completely miss what they’re saying unless I make a concerted effort to focus. I overcompensated to succeed when I put my mind to it but fell far short of what I could have done had I been diagnosed and treated. So many regrets and mistakes in my life. I’ve suffered from depression throughout my life. Ironically, I am a retired teacher with a master’s in emotional impairment and have worked with many children with ADHD. I started recognizing it in myself then but never pursued any help for it. I wish I had. Maybe I wouldn’t be living in such mental anguish now.
I don't think it's ever to late to accomplish things you wish you could have, just in different ways.
being academically gifted with adhd is a problem too because they will think there isnt a problem because youre doing well. Unfortunately this causes the development of bad habits that WILL cause problems when entering college and the real world. It was my problem when entering college but I'm tankful for my mom being such a huuuuuuge help in my life with studying and trying to keep me on the right track. Apparently my college did have a 504 plan to assist those with adhd and learning disabilities but because i did do well in highschool it wasnt... necessary by their standards and so... I struggle a lot and the school could care less, but I will make it anyway.
This is me. Now than I have more independent studying instead of lectures, I've struggled so hard to study. Yet no-one would believe I have any problems, because of I've always done better than most of children in school. But the truth is, I've had to be 10 times more determined, because of (since grade school) it took hours for me to finish my home works. I also always felt that I had responsibility to succeed, as I spend so much time in everything I do - like the results ought to be seen or I'm just extremely stupid :( Also, I often felt very lazy and bad person, because of I knew I could do my homeworks in no time, I knew how to do it but I just couldn't do the effort. TH-cam is my worst enemy, as I have to do my works with computer and need internet.
Keep it up, you're so strong!
I actually have this problem too - I was just recently diagnosed with ADD, and no one (especially my teachers) believed that I had a problem. My parents had noticed that I struggled with focus among other things, but they didn't actually act upon it until I opened up about it to a doctor. I'm a straight-A student in honors and AP classes, so it's not typically something that people recognize. Either way, my parents have been super supportive, and I mean this from the bottom of my heart, that I understand how you feel. My biggest distractions include TH-cam, the Internet, phones, and just technology in general. I usually spend hours upon hours working on homework, trying to make it perfect, which results in sleep deprivation...but honestly, after all of these years thinking that I'm just an idiot, I've finally figured things out (sort of). I hope that all of you who are struggling will get help - it's not as bad as you think it is. :)
Lauren Stern I'm glad you opened up about it and did something to help yourself. The thing with ADHD is that it doesn't matter how smart you are if you have it. The problem with being smart enough to pass with flying colors despite it is usually it'll cause heavy stress as you rush to finish every last assignment ever! I've finished homework assignments just minutes before handing it to the teacher as class was starting and more recently submitted college essays minutes before it hit midnight before it was due and pulled all nighters to finish assignments. One morning after an all nighter I'm driving to school with a double shot espresso cappuccino and the AC on full blast to keep alert. I'm pretty sure I got a fairly good grade on that thing too. I try to minimize these destructive antics but I'm typing this as 1am and I have an 8am class in the morning. Still working on it I guess.
I suggest trying an app called Habitica if you like videogames. It turns your tasks, dailies and habits into a sortof game or rpg style reward system. you get experience and points for completing things and lose health for missed dailies and going back on habits you want to build. Good luck and keep improving.
Alexis Brickner thank you for the advice. I also wish you good luck in the future. :)
Alexis Brickner Thanks for the application tip!
I’m pretty sure I don’t have ADHD but I keep seeing comments like “I have ADHD and I don’t think she’s talking that fast” and I didn’t think she was talking fast either so now I’m confused
She’s speaking normally... Imo
Just because you don’t think someone is talking fast doesn’t make you ADHD...
Aloha - obviously haha
@@aloha-8203 ikr
Haha I watched it at 1.25x speed and it still seemed slow 😂
I got bored while trying to figure out if I had ADHD so I skipped through this entire video right away...
I got distracted by the comments ☠
Yup
i watched it at 1.5x speed:)
I wish I could've skip through the 7 hour test I did to get diagnosed with ADHD.
I forgot I had my phone on and daydreamed at the wall.
Thank you so much for your videos! I recently got diagnosed with ADHD (but without the hyperactive form) from a psychologist after my doc came up with the idea of letting me get a test. I felt so connected with so many ADHD Symptoms I saw in your videos and in documentaries over the last years and always felt a little different. Now I finally got the diagnose and can get the right medication and treatment! :-) I'm so happy!
why did i end up zoning out
Same
Same.
You might not have it
SAME BRO EVERY SECOND.
I zoned out looking at this comment😂
i’ve wanted to see a doctor about adhd for a while but my mum always says “you’re not hyperactive” and she clearly doesn’t understand it very well-
also i am hyperactive around people i’m comfortable with because i have anxiety
My Grandma says the same as she sees me dash around the house lmao. (I’m both hyperactive and not.)
my mum told me I'm not hyperactive too but anyone else you ask would say I am. It's because she doesn't see me at school
Same!! Once I get comfortable around someone it all comes out. I run back and forth from excitement
@Anja Samuel that's so interesting thank you. I haven't been diagnosed either. I'm in what I was hoping to be my last year of college but my grades might not allow me to graduate. I'm an art major and I've always barely passed my non art classes. I was google searching why I always procrastinate and can't focus and found ADHD. My old roommate/best friend who has it aggreed that I definitely have it (she was uncomfortable telling me without reason) and I brought it up to my mom and she said she's always wondered. Upside if I don't graduate I'll be on my mom's health insurance for longer to get more help def gonna talk to my doctor. Wish you luck as well!
this is SO important. when i’m around people i like & trust, i’ll talk a million miles an hour, while i’m scared to even ask for more ketchup in public.
This was the video that made me realise that the reason I struggled so much through high school and the six months of university I did before having a mental breakdown might be that I have ADHD. One diagnosis and almost a year later and I'm in a job I couldn't have imagined being able to do and even applying to study for a psychology degree. This channel is so important and I owe you guys so much. Keep up the amazing work!
I hope you keep doing great :D
Im in my 3semester finishing nothing and i think i actually need to get this checked now
Awwn sweetheart, im so happy for you!
Thanks to your videos explaining what adhd actually is, I learned that I have it too, and finally got a diagnosis today! Starting new meds soon!
I have ADHD and my Dad calls me the dog from UP because 3 seconds into a conversation I’m like “SQUIRREL”
awesome im the same way when I don't take my medication
Hahaha I also am that way. I swear my family sometimes think that I'm a dog😂
Omg not only did I LITERALLY just finish watching UP but relate to this so well
MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
I was literally in the car with my mo- PINK TREEE!!!! ( that’s how the convo went ;-; )
I really feel like the school system and my parents failed me for never seeing the signs
mine definitely did, it sucks
I feel you because I did not get diagnosed with ADHD until I was 25 and I paid for the psychological exam with my own money.
@@Buffyxox literally!! I just got diagnosed three months again and I paid $150!
I want to change that! Starting with my girl’s school 🏫
@@alexisbas10 I'm 21 and I just made an appointment with my primary care physician to get a referral. I'm scared they aren't going to believe me tho and just brush me off. It's happened to me before with my doctor, she brushed me off and diagnosed me with anxiety and depression (which I do have).
My homeschool teacher who was a nurse for 50 years said that i might have ADHD when I was around 5-6 and my mom ignored it. She still ignores it today -_-
Wow, I hope your mom stops ignoring you. To me your lucky, your ADHD started showing up early on. Mine didn't want to come out untill I was a pre-teen ._.
Bruh I’ve told my mom multiple times I think I have adhd and said I’ve spoken to ppl who have it and they literally said they thought I had it that’s what gave me the idea in the first place. Now I’ve done research and I’m 100% sure I have it but she still won’t take me to the doctor 😭
My mom (who’s a nurse) and the family doctor said that my younger sister probably has ADHD. In order to officially diagnose her my sister’s teacher had to fill out a questionnaire saying how often she saw ADHD symptoms (such as spacing out, not finishing work quickly, getting out her seat, etc). The teacher claimed on the questionnaire she saw absolutely none of those symptoms even though she mentioned my sister doing those things to my parents during parent-teacher conferences in the past. Since the teacher said on the questionnaire she saw none of the ADHD symptoms, my sister couldn’t be diagnosed with ADHD.
This is frustrating since she were officially diagnosed with ADHD, the school would let her have extra time on timed exams and make other accommodations for her due to her ADHD. The family doctor could only give us advice on how to help my sister with her ADHD and that was it
I recommend if you of age to consent for medical help, to ask yourself and not rely on your parents.
Y’know that’s the most annoying part about society, same case with Autism (Asbergers). It’s always an excuse or whatever and when it’s suddenly epilepsy everyone changes and god forbid you can’t think that ADHD or Autism are more worse to you
73 year old female with ADHD. Hated school, dropped out struggled with life in 2 continents. I found myself in my 50s after I found my "talent". Real estate!!! Made millions, hard work saved me from lifelong depression. I feel as If I lived for 500 years
"The well-behaved, bright students that just need to try harder." Couldn't be more accurate. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 18 after five previous years of psychiatric treatment for anxiety and seasonal affective disorder so it went under the radar for a while. Always gifted (in fact I routinely qualified for the advanced classes in grade school but I refused to take them when I had the choice), always teacher's pet, but my actual performance fluctuated wildly from perfect As to failing. And up until I flunked out of college, it was like that, always knowing I had the potential to succeed but never actually achieving.
Right now I'm 14. and I'm in honors/AP classes & failing all of them because I'm smart enough to be in the actual class, but I can't sit or focus long enough to do my homework or study. It's even worse knowing that I have the potential to do it, and I'm only 14 so I have the time to fix myself and my grades and do better, but never actually trying hard enough for a long enough time. It sucks.
I'm having the same issue and I'm only 12! I asked my mom to homeschool me because I feel it would be best for me and I could improve my learning and she said: "NO YOU DONT NEED IT U CAN LEARN PERFECTLY FINE NOW GO DO HOMEWORK AND IMPROVE YOUR GRADES YOUNG LADY!!" I was like ._. First of all I don't have a brain like others and it's harder for me to learn and second of all I can't improve my grades if no one is willing to help me and everyone is just going to sit and watch me fail... I can't even handle all this stress and pressure... I can't do anything about it and no one helps me...I wish I had a family that would help me and maybe even homeschool me so that I could get more help and learn better :(
I can relate but luckily when I went to a psychiatrist because of the anxiety ( and panic attacks) I get from school she realized I have ADHD
goddamnit you made me lose focus on the vid
Syvelocin I swear you are just like me..Back then when I was in school I used to always get the highest grades and be the best student in the eyes of all my teachers..When I went to college I kept on getting As and only one B+ and one B during my very first year..My GPA was (3.85)
But then the following year my grades started to go down , then the year after my grades dropped further to the point that I started to get Fs and Ds and now my GPA is (2.5).. I am still smart and everything but I just cannot study and focus like I did in the past few years.. I feel heartbroken 😔
I got distracted from the video Reading the comments lol, gotta love adhd
Same but i dont think i have adhd but I think I'll get tested at some point it's either ADHD or Autism I can't rember I wasn't paying attention
@@hannahhegarty3554 i have both :/
Omg same, I always do this
Hehehehe me
HAHAHA i had to pause the video to read the comments...
"Smart kids need to try harder"
me getting an 8 out of 10 and being *super* pissed XD.
This is so true. In school I just finished a bunch of tests, and let me tell you if I got below 80% I almost cried. I mean I guess that could also be down to my parents and classmates constantly thinking me as "better than them" so when they do better than me they rub it in my face :'D
I have test anxiety. But I still managed educational extra curriculars (Ecology Club, Quiz Bowl, Odyssey of the Mind). I also competed heavily in both sports and the arts. Some of my subjects were “Honors” levels and my senior year of high school I was sitting at a 4.0
... but I wanted dual College credit. Because of the overload, I ended up with one single B grade in my entire school career and it literally depressed me until I got to college. Which I totally quit after a semester 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
@@caitlynguthrie5641 I have a 4.3 GPA atm (I'm a freshman) but I'm mad because I could have gotten like a 4.4 if I took Honors bio instead of regular because I thought it would be hard😑 turns out...I'm really good at bio
LANGAA
Me thinking that I did good on a test: :D
Me still failing anyway: D:
I'm a guy with the inattentive type of ADHD and I often space out during conversations. I think it definitely would have helped if I'd gotten diagnosed sooner. Thanks for making this video.
Arg, I'm so frustrated. If only I got diagnosed and treated before going to college, I probably would have avoided getting depression and anxiety. Now I'm a senior in college and I've lost count of how many times I've changed my majors, lost 4 iphones, have 2 rooms at home that are full of clutter, and I'm a general wreck. Thank you for the video! Maybe now I can finally get my life together. It sucks because I feel like I've wasted the last five years of my life but it's better late than never I suppose.
Yeah for sure -- many ppl aren't diagnosed until they've had failed careers and marriages. Better late than...later? lol. The cool thing is now you've found your tribe, we'll help you figure it out!
Omg my life.. Also a senior! And currently double majoring 😂😂
I'm in college and my counsellors still won't diagnose me. To say it's stressful would be an understatement.
Apparently I have ADHD type 1 because I have been diagnosed with ADD and all the thing she's saying about the girls is true for me, so yeah...🙂😐😞
Becca same here!
All the guys in my family have adhd, but my mom doesn’t think I do because I’m female
✨that's honestly a really dumb opinion please tell her I said that after you showed her this video please✨
@@peiithos 😂😂😂oh boy I wish I wasn't dismissed about these types of things too
its kind of the same for my family. a lot of my male cousins have adhd but my mom wouldnt even consider theres smth wrong w me bc im a girl. im just a little too happy sometimes she says
Since your siblings have it, statistics suggest that there's a 76 percent chance you're having it as well. www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0924933818301962?via%3Dihub
I am very sorry...please tell your mom that a 45 year old women (me) wants you to tell her to have you tested...because she really wants to save you from ending up like her (me)...
Diagnosed in my 30s. Not medicated and correctly treated until my early 40s...when my life was already in shambles.
Completely effed up.
And now I am trying hard to get out of this...and keep failing...
Don't end up like me. Fight to get a diagnosis and treatment...
I’m 17 and just looking into this and man does it explain like- everything
Omg me too. Word for word.
did you ever get it looked at? (asking for me)
Same
Same
I remember when I was diagnosed with ADHD and my school found out (small school) many of my classmates thought it was a personality. At first it was cool to have peeps I can related to- eventually things turned sour when my teachers recognize the trend and told me to stop distracting the class and sat me away from the class. The good ol' days 🥰
I’m female to male transgender and was diagnosed with ADHD at age 10, which was 3 years before I came out as trans.
While I was still identifying as female when I was diagnosed, I do think the fact that my ADHD got noticed may have been at least influenced by the fact that my symptoms are largely male presenting, though I do have some more stereotypically female symptoms as well. The symptoms I mainly struggle with are attention regulation, organization, and hyperactivity, my behavior and emotional regulation have always been pretty good I think.
I'm ftm as well
@a.ko.m.a how about you mind your own business, honey. Thanks, doll.
@a.ko.m.a ew
@a.ko.m.a LMFAO, little internet ***hole.
@a.ko.m.a lmao what does that even mean
I was diagnosed with adhd last year when I was 18 and the fact that I am learning that all of these things I’ve done my entire life are normal for people with adhd is so crazy. Like thinking about all of the help I could have gotten in school when I was younger but didn’t is so frustrating, because college is now so extremely difficult. But I’m glad to have found a channel like this so I can try to better understand everything!
Exactly! I am in the exact same boat as u! Its common for females to be diagnose d later in life tho unfortunately.
my mom: stop fidgeting
my sister: puts hand on my leg so i can stop shaking it
me in my head: stop moving already
adhd: no.
Same it annoying
Shaking like bouncing? Because the only way for one to prevent someone from doing that is to step on the heel
If this isn’t the most relatable thing ever
@@thingtwo3831 yup, that's effective, but unsatisfying
I have a question because i move my leg a lot en i fidget with my fingers , but when i realise that i do it, than i can stop, but like i do it uncontious, is that also adhd or is that more of anxiety,
How you could start a TH-cam channel and then keep it going and make so many videos for so long should literally earn you a medal! I eventually quit everything I start haha
me a with with adhd: was watching then looked in comments and zoned out of the video for 2 minutes XD
I didn't realize I just did this until I read this comment-
*when you suffer from ALL of these symptoms*
eddie's fanny pack me but my aunt doesn’t believe me so i can’t get any medication and so i continue to be like this
same- like its honestly painful because I have 1.no coping mechanisms 2. just learned to mask it and 3. have other problems too so like 🤠
I might have ADHD but my family never really noticed because I would hyperfixate on schoolwork. I would focus on work so hard I forgot my name. People always see kids with ADHD as the ones who get into trouble, I have come to see just how good I got at hiding these things.
She’s the most adorable caring spontaneous goofy ball of energy and I am learning to be more secure in myself not being paranoid when not being constantly showered with affection or attention... I’ll gladly deal with these issues for the person she is. Seriously the most amazing girl ever and her adhd actually is a part of that In many ways.
I am 36 years old. I sought help for ADHD when I was about 30. And it changed my life. I've recently had decided I learned enough coping skills and wanted to stop taking my ADHD medication. Well, it's been almost 3 months and I am hating life. I got on another medication to help me not be sleepy during the day, but it's making me anxious and more depressed. I have to stop listening to people who don't understand ADHD and do what works for me. I see my doctor next Monday. I remembered today how encouraging your videos were and decided to find some much needed moral support by coming back to watching you. Thank you for your channel.
Me having social anxiety and depression at 15 and thinking I'm exaggerating because nothing really bad is happening in my life. Also me being stuck with procrastination ever since I need to be autonomous in my work ! 👍👍
You just described me perfectly. Because my life is pretty normal people always find it weird that I have really bad depression 🥲
i felt his. Im also 15 and i have social anxiety and depression and now mom thinks i have adhd cuz she watch so many videos on adhd in girls and she said that i do the exact thing and also, my brother and my dad has adhd too so yeaaahhhhh. frick genetics.
I am 15 and i can feel it so much i do the exact same thing idk what to do
@@ummmmno411 yeah
The girl looking out the window was actually the first one I noticed, because that was me in school. I did ok in school for the most part but in 5th grade I started having more issues with "spacing out". I got the report cards about "daydreaming" and not focusing. It became a big issue, they got my parents involved and the teacher changed my seat so my back was to the windows...I eventually managed to find ways to force myself to focus or appear to be but it was out of a sense of fear of getting caught than because I had found ways to cope. Nothing was ever looked into, they just thought I was daydreaming/had an overactive imagination. I always joked about having ADHD, not that it's funny but because I think a part of me knew but was avoiding the truth. I'm in my early 30s now and finally coming to the realization that I need to get officially diagnosed and see what can be done to get my life in order. You're videos are a great start and very helpful! Thank you.
Oh yeah, big same, window girl stuck out to me like a beacon. And I always did the same thing XD
I'd love to know what happened since then.
I've been watching videos on ADHD, Autism, CPTSD, BPD etc and one thing many struggles have in common is that girls are left behind in diagnosis.
The other thing is people who are traumatized can also zone out - so ADHD may be your cause - but if you suffered abuse you may have started zoning out because of that.
That what I did. I always just thought it was boredom. It was a window or a notebook for me. I doodled and wrote during classes... stuff that had nothing to do with the classes.
@@stariadreamtea PTSD related dissociation is a very different experience than ADHD related not focusing/hyper-focusing. During a dissociation, You feel dizzy and like escaping from your body. It is a very strong feeling. I had them both as a child. But in my adulthood, I only have ADHD symptoms.
Daydreaming is something I still struggle with and it frustrates me. I remember in second grade instead did paying attention I would be looking out the window daydreaming about some action packed sequence in my head or something
I was about to click away because I didn’t think this applied to me but then it said “the well behaved that just needs to try harder” and you grabbed back my attention
me: *reads a page out loud to my class*
teacher: what just happened?
me: uhh-
SAME! Whenever I had to read something out, I was so focused on reading that I couldn’t tell what happened. It’s the same when others read it out- or I zone out.
@@kuroskurort recognizable
I literally got in trouble just because I forgot something, and I was the first girl in class to get in trouble.. it was so embarrassing because everyone was like “if you just paid attention (something something something I forgot ) 😐” 😭
@@fandomgacha3361 OMG YEAH! It's so hard to pay attention tho HAHA
omg same if i read something out loud, i have no idea what i've just read
"Are you even listening to me"
"Yes"
"What was I saying?"
"Something about... something... purple or- blue? Maybe pink-"
"You're such a bad friend, you never listen."
**Goes on to hate self**
oh my god same. like I hear stuff but it just deflects off my head
@Elliot Bergh Yeah me too, then they'll be like "If you knew what I said why did you ask"
You made me realise something. I think I have adhd, but my older Sister may have it too. She's never listening and talks a lot and fast... But i don't know about the others symptoms for her
The same exact things happen to me
"Girls mature faster than boys" Me: still playing with dolls at age 13
Let your childhood be as long as you want it to. Im 36 and just completed a Lego model yesterday.
There are lots of adults playing with dolls. That’s why reborn babies sell so well.
I stopped playing with dolls at 14 but the only reason why is that my uncle threw them away on purpose and haven't bought new ones. Don't let no kid or adult ruin your fun just enjoy being a kid as long as you can. ❤
Hey, that’s awesome! I played with dolls till I was 15. I only stopped because I didn’t have time for them anymore. Go enjoy your childhood and playing with dolls doesn’t determine maturity.
@Tee why shouldn't you? I still liked that when I was your age, nothing wrong with it. I'm glad to hear that there are still girls that age who still play with dolls instead of being little make-up dolls themselves!
So keep playing as long as you have fun with it! ❤️
I was in my early to mid 30's by the time I was finally diagnosed. Bipolar, ADHD, ODD, PTSD, and a couple other things.
I'm an only child, raised by a single hardworking mother. A latchkey kid. And an introvert. Not knowing what an introvert was, or that it's a thing. And always having people try to convince me that I NEED to be around people.
Needless to say I'm here to learn. And I greatly appreciate your help. Thank-you!
I’m a guy with ADHD-Inattentive, and I wasn’t formally diagnosed until I was almost 20. The stereotypes of ADHD (being a mostly male disorder that makes them hyperactive/rude/impulsive/troublemakers) are a disservice to everyone. I can totally understand why it’s so difficult for women to get diagnosed, because for me - even as a man - the more inward-facing nature of ADHD-I made it much less noticeable. Hope everyone is taking care of their mental health and staying safe and happy
I am a girl with adhd. I think you are right about adhd coming with a “friend!” When I was in third grade I was diagnosed, but I was also diagnosed with anxiety and depression. I was never a sad kid, I just had depression. I do a lot of stemming (I think that’s how you spell it) which is where I flap my hands in different directions depending on my mood.
i'm the same but i haven't been tested or anything, my mom has it tho so idk
It’s stimming with an i, I think :)
i do stemming also when i don't want to communicate (IDK how its spelled, sry)
Have you been evaluated for autism? There is a very high percentage of people with both. The stimming and anxiety and depression are very common with autism.
But honestly though, as a girl with ADHD _and_ autism, she’s not talking fast.
I thought she was in my opinion 😂
its a perfect speed for me. shes really good at keeping the attention of her adhd crowd. moments of silence are short and few, there are a lot of cuts and change in camera angles, and she tries to keep her videos under 5 minutes. its perfect for adhd brains :D or at least for mine
Same
@@matthewtrebs9738 same
Wait, people think she's talking fast? That's like my normal speaking pace😅
I related to a lot of these and I don't know if I'll get tested yet because I've learned to manage a lot of the issues but I want you to know that in one of your videos you had a lot if helpful advice and one of them was "not know is future now" and those tips have literally turned college around for me and I'm not constantly behind and breaking down from stress like I was before and I want to thank you SO MUCH for making these videos. My whole program (fashion design) is based on project management and I've always struggled with it but you've helped so much
“Find the kid with adhd”
My friends: ...
Me: she’s talking about me 😎
Honestly I thought the same at first 😂
When you said the "just not trying hard enough" part, I choked on my spit.
Swigety Swooty I was to busy reading comments ;-;
@@milkncookies4632 same
my teacher’s always say this about me it’s like “she’s well behaved but she just doesn’t put in enough effort and doesn’t seem like she’s paying attention”
My teacher describes me as "very intelligent but we can't tell her understanding of the concept until she does work" and that gets old pretty fast :(
the thing is i relate to every single one of the girl symptoms and yet i’m too scared to even tell my mom that i might have adhd because it’s not the stereotype
omg same
Gather your facts and hold them out like a shield in front of you for protection. Maybe don't even claim ADHD. I told my mom I'm not sure I have ADHD, but I definitely have executive disfunction which can come with depression and anxiety too. The most important thing isn't getting the diagnosis, even though that may get you more resources and accommodations. It's the action of learning as much as you can and applying it to help you in life. Nobody has to give you permission to use ADHD tips in your life. No one can say you don't have a doctors note so you can't participate in what this channel has to teach.
same. idk what to do like should i tell my mom or not? :(
@@illandreidelorpha4774 this is such a great comment. Thanks for sharing!
@@r.i.plamaisondeletedandfor2382 Definitely! Your parents are often your best advocates (and if not, you have a whole community here to back you up and support you, so no worries :) ) Your mom may not even realize you are struggling, so share that with her. These videos are also a good resource. You can send one that talks about an area you particularly struggle with and let your mom know that is why you sent it to her. It may be indirect, but that way you are sharing and getting your message across, even if you can't say in to her directly.
Thanks!
You're welcome! Thank you so much for watching! 🧡
"she's a bright and smart student but she needs to try a little harder and not be so distracted" LITERALLY EVERY TEACHER
y'all you know when you're watching a movie with someone, and they start laughing or have some sort of reaction.
i'm the one who asks what happened because i be zoned out or forget to listen at the important parts😩
I fall asleep near the end lol
Same like I’ll ask my friend and she’ll be like ‘they just explained it’
I cant even watch movies or TV with people because I literally space and get so bored. Especially if I've seen it before. For the longest time whenever there was those "what's your favorite movie" things on stuff online I was filling out, I would put this one movie that I do like but can't sit through the entire thing anymore since watching it when I was a kid. Or I do this thing with music, where I listen to the same song a few times, and several days in a row mixed in with other songs, but then need to find brand new songs to listen to because I start getting really bored/tired of them and can't use them to focus anymore... I just get really irritated and annoyed and turn them off.
YESS🤣🤣🤣
It looks like I’m watching but in reality I’m literally spacing out
Kids who have ADHD (me) and dyslexia are probably demigods
Omg bahaha i know what you’re talking about because it was in a book i have been reading in school XD i don’t have dyslexia but i have ADHD
Morgan Lilja same
The pjo universe was my first introduction to ADHD even though I have it
Pixie 123 you. I like the way you think
That’s me
Ty for posting these videos. I was dx with ADHD at 14 and I'm finally trying to take care of myself and do better (23 years later lol).