Why don’t men approach you?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 ต.ค. 2019
- You can think you’re ready for a relationship, but your body language and attire say things that you may not understand. A man approaching a woman is a science, and its not something that just randomly happens. Understanding the signals will help you send the right messages to men.
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Many men like easy women. Meaning, men don't like women they have to work for and put in effort.
I agree 100%
Amen Sis. When you carry yourself with integrity, class, respect, grace, confidence, clean, well-groomed, covered but not looking old and homely nor like a pilgrim, they don't look your way. I have come to the conclusion that they really do want easy, loose, and disrespectful women. A woman whom they need to pursue as a gentleman and court you is too much work for them. They want who they want without doing the leg-work.
I agree.
@Blessed Frombeyond77 Yes Sis. I have seen the loud, loose, foul mouth women some very nice-looking, calm brothers gravitate to. Me, I refuse to lower my standards, or act ratchet. We were raised better than that. No fitting in here.
@@October3074 Hi WoMan. Thanks 💕
Honestly, if I were single I don’t think I would want a man who was too afraid the approach me. A confident man is attractive.
Kisha Jones indeed hunny
Confidence ...and a sexy walk ...so very attractive indeed
facts
Kisha Jones im with u there
@Season1 better2 I could not agree more.
I knew my husband was the one because he approached me, pursued me, courted me and eventually took me off the market. Love a confident man😁
That is so awesome!
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How old is he? Because the men my age suck. 😒
Mine too! He hunted me!
Sorry for him
Married men don't seem to be shy smh!
You are very right. I only get approached by married men, men with girlfriends, men just looking for sex or men who are old enough to be my father.
You have never lied...... I have been approached by nothing but married men, and they don't lie about being married...... hmmmmmm
ABSOLUTELY 😂😂
Girl! This so true! They are always approaching women 🤦🏽♀️
Because a married man have a women already. Thats why they are more to approach. He has nothing to lose if he gets rejected
If he’s for you, you’ll be together
Love this!!❤❤
The end!
Thats as simple...
Amen!
That part👈🏾
From a Godly perspective whos for you is for you! If thar person is for you, all these factors won't matter. There will be that something about you, that they will approach you.
Amen 🙏
i will admit there times when i did the chasing..he was not interested..i moved on ill tell you the true i saw it for what it was..i felt like this is what he wanted me to do....but then i remember that proverb from the bible...A man who finds a wife ..finds a good thing and obtains favor from the lord...ladies not suppose to fin them ... they are suppose to find us be of good cheer and wait on the lord ...again he says .wait!!!
That something will be the God In you will bear witness to the God in them and vice versa that will connect you together.
I also feel men want a woman that will take care of them instead of the other way around.
Yes, exactly.
Role reversal.
First, they shower you with lavish gifts and dinners dates to real you in.
If you give them your body and you're hooked, theyll run the games.
Now, you pay, you fund, you pursue, you chase etc.
The only way to protect yourself is to never NEED a man for anything.
That’s right
@D Goshay I'm talking about that. What's your problem 😂😂 😂
@D Goshay I must of hit a nerve😂
that’s a boy mentality that I can’t stand
I disagree. Times have changed .... men are waiting for the women to approach and court them.
I agree
@@babygee.02.01 lol she wasn't sis you should see his comments
Times may make men feel like they are the prize, but women have to keep their own standards.
This is crazy!! Your disagreeing means absolutely nothing, a man is literally on here telling you about men so how could you disagree
You should watch a few of SheraSeven1 videos
When I was single, my brother told me I walk like "Lemme get these bills paid." 😁
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Interesting
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Men these days are confused
Men aren't confused. Most men are selfish and put women second, imho.
@Linda Hines Imho = In my humble opinion 😊
@@SimplyQuintessa 💯😭😂
Ivolin Jones really. But why thouh?
I do think if a women is an alpha women most men are afraid and do not know what to do lol
If it’s meant to be he’ll approach when it’s the right time. Live life and don’t worry about it :)
true! :)
Girl!!!!!!!! I commented the same above. This is sending out way too much desperate energy & putting the woman subordinate to the man. Love & more to the point, a natural match of frequencies, will naturally pull you to each other- without borderline manipulating & seducing a man into picking you.
I'm so glad someone said this...All this trickery in order to attract a man seems fake and unnatural to me. I totally respect Tony's opinion, but in the past I've have been that confident happy go lucky woman and I attracted men that ONLY wanted sex and wanted to use me. Women are always trained and coached about what we should and shouldn't do while men are running around wild and loose breaking hearts, destroying self esteem and destroying homes.
Right. And This video is”his” truth
Not true.
no. men are hunters. therefore, a man will approach u if you’re attractive or look like an easy target. it’s just that simple.
Guys are as picky as women lol . I don’t do none of what he said in the video and I still don’t get approach.
@@gamegirl85 Exactly. I carry myself with class, dignity, grace, respect, etc, and they just act wierd. So, I am #Good....not losing anything and certainly not missing anything.
I am never an easy target and attractive......so, no, that's not it.
@@e.adriannapatterson3900 I can tell by your emotional response that you are simple. definitely an easy target...and a headache.
@@firstlast7300 My response is I know who I am, possess self-love, self-esteem, am confident, am emotionally, spiritually and physically strong, have the backbone and godliness that makes for a Woman who can not be targeted, And is not targeted. You sound pretty much like a target.
I replied to the comment of being attractive makes one an easy target and I made my rebuttal to that. I can't apologize to you for being wounded by my strength in comment. Free yourself from your deflated ego, then and only then will you grow both emotionally and spiritually. And while you are recovering from your self-inflicted headache, grab some pain meds. Bless you.
Men have no chivalry. Don't speak, don't offer a seat, don't open a door, don't offer to carry your bag.. I purposely tune men out. I can do my part, if they start doing their part.
Facts!!!!!!!
Amen!! I asked a man why he didn't open the door for me..He said for what?? You can get your own door..I was like nope!
Irealla Natural Girl I agree most are not worthy of a simple hello these days.
@@EducatedBlackQueen You're a grown up. Why do you need a man to open the door for you? Aren't you a strong independent women who don't need a man?
@@younggold1416 Because it's what I feel a man should do for his woman..My opinion...
Will any woman ever know what men want! The checklist seems to be piling up everyday...
“You’re face is not resting in a peaceful way “ 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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I'm done. This man approached me only for me to 'chase' him to keep up with me. I don't have time for it.
Hurit Nitika Exactly! #boyBYE!!
i dont blame you ...it seems like they never grow up ...always playing games.
Exactly...no one has time for that. Why did you approach me if you're going to act like that. Shoulda kept walking.
@@tiffanyhughes4292 Why did you agree to the relationship if you're not going to give attention to him?
@@ubidoo9906 There's a difference between giving attention and chasing. I'm very attentive and show my affection but if I'm the only one showing interest....why did you approach me or start a relationship.
A few months back, Iwent to the Waffle House on a Sunday. I sat at the bar so I wouldn’t have to wait. I was about 5 min into my meal when I heard a voice from behind “ do you mind if I sit next to you”. I answered, “ I don’t mind at all”. He told the waitress he wanted the same thing I was having. As , I was about to pay and head out he said “ you leaving me”. I’m like “ yes sir, I have a busy morning ahead” and I smiled. He was a gentleman but I think he wasn’t confident enough to ask for my number so he let me walk out the door. Even after I smiled and was very approachable. But that’s ok. Little did he know he boosted my confidence that day.
October3074
Confidence:
the state of feeling certain about the truth of something.
Did!
Confident in knowing that there are still some gentlemen out here
I think you should’ve also contributed, as he did a large part of the work by coming over to you, sitting with you etc. I would’ve suggested we exchange numbers. Shit I do it to women all the time if I see a woman that I think hmmm, we could be of service to each other. Sometimes, the rejection can be a lot for men so they walk tentatively.
Did y'all have a conversation during the meal? It seems like he really tried but for whatever reason information wasn't exchanged.
You dropped the ball sis: he did most of the leg work sis,🤦 me: yes I'm about to get up and leave, but here is my number, feel free to call me sometimes. You have to flirt back.,...
@@yanikeonpurpose "be of service to each other" .. What does that mean?
Here in nyc, everyone is busy, on the phone, speed walking, not looking that friendly or inviting lol So guys will still speak because they know that’s how everyone out here looks Lolol
To be honest, those are the ones who want to smash n dash (testing to see who is the easy chick that'll give him that play.
I'm from Manhattan, NYC I know what you mean but on the truest side of the game, those be the ones (and most likely they approach the yakky wearing, 55 layers of make up wearing, chicks who all wear the same shit (tight jackets in the winter, dusty beat up Uggs, and the thick snowflake designed yarn spandex)
curli-lettey Lawd 🤦🏽♀️ that’s bad, lol. Smh 😩
Amber Brooklyn it’s crazy how everyone is on their phones and not engaging. I’m from NY so I know.
We also must remember that it was NYC that gave birth to the whole "street harassment" movement. So men have to be more cautious about approaching in the street. I'm not talking about cat-calling - we know that when we see it. I'm talking about initiating any interaction with a woman you don't already know out in public.
“And ladies, please stop arguing with me on what’s it’s like to be a man”!! Preach brotha!!! Ladies, stop arguing periodt 💜👠💯
im not a man but i also think the internet (dating sites & social media) really has a lot to do with the reason why men dont approach. its easier being rejected online than face to face, which is why i dont think men even try to approach anymore, they dont even notice women outside of a phone screen. before all of the internet social connection men had to suck it up or never get any play.
Agee too many options online dating. Men are never single, even if they say they are.
Online has also made it easier for women to sit back and get attention, and take their time responding, if they respond at all.
Yesss!! When I tried online dating...I was shocked on how much I got "approached" but in real life...I have YET to be...hence why I truly never dated alot...I was taught if man wants you he will approach you and ask
Bingo!!
DaddysDarling84 I agree!! I find more men are willing to approach me on a dating site than in person.
1. I don't like wearing jewelry. 2. Don't like wearing lipstick. 3. Guilty of wearing clothes that are comfortable. 4. Rarely on my cell phone. 5. I do walk fast because I'm short and in a hurry😂😂😂 #undateable #needtochange
I'm the same way.
Me too!
IKR...I got places to be and time is my most limited resource. I'm tall and walk fast.
Felisha Pittman 🙋🏽♀️😂
I walk fast too hunny I be running from these zombies aka so called men lol
I am married woman. I’ve happily been with my Husband nearly 20 yrs. I get approached by men to this day. They don’t pay any attention to my wedding set but once they approach me, the one compliment that most men give me is, you are very nice and welcoming. This is my natural personality. I’m always smiling, saying hello or greeting others, etc. So with that said, past hurt and misconceptions of men and how they should approach you is some of what is keeping a lot of women from being approached. They wear it on their faces, their walk, etc. I happily let men know I’m married and they are respectful. So Sis, what kind of energy are you giving off?
THANK YOU!!! All that negative energy is being released and the women who doing all that complaining in the comments don't have a clue.
talawoods25 Preachhhhh!!!
Why is this kind of stuff never said to men? Why are they never the cause of their own connection issues, always women always our signals, always our energy, etc so energy is only a concern for women? Are those principles not a fact for them as well?
@@ljmanuel4591 I suspect there are videos for men regarding their connection issues, but clearly this video is specifically created for women. But at the end of the day no matter how much a man has it together if a woman has a negative mindset towards men in general(like most of these commenters do)she will repel what she wants instead of attract it.
Where are they, please direct me to one....I'm ok with it being geared toward women. There are several men and women with advice for women...always. I find it odd that no one asks why. Im ok with just one that has these same pointers for them. I mean if it's really about healing and being our best, shouldn't there be a push for all to take part in that? This stuff is never said to men. A woman can take them for everything they have and a man will never be told he attracted her because his vibrations were wrong, he didn't wait on Jesus, he didn't walk with confidence, he isn't healed enough, he carrying the spirits of his exes and it's weighing him down and making him invisible to good women, etc...how are we solely responsible for creating healthy relationships, to do that men have to work on their ish too. Please direct me to one video series geared toward men in this way. TD Jakes Hemotions does not count as that's about something else. Same stuff we are always being told but geared for men.
You give some good advice and make some valid points, but that’s a lot of trouble to go through to get these horrible whorish men to approach you .. so many of them have little regard for women except to use them to satisfy their lusts .. and the last thing many of them want is a serious relationship with one woman .. we women need to just be ourselves, obey God and keep our dresses down and our legs closed .. have you ever thought that sometimes maybe the reason men don’t approach you is because God is protecting you from HIV/AIDS, domestic violence and just plain toxic men .. I suggest we women just ask the Lord to prepare us to be a great wife and pray and ask God to send us our Godly faithful husband
A guy approached me via Facebook to ask for sexual favors. He didn't even know me! He started telling me I will be lonely because I'm full of SHIT! I think he has Aids and is trying to spread it! #Trustyourinstincts
Amen!! 🙌🏾👏🏾
@@TheFactsofLife237 Oooh scary😰
@heisableto I don't believe the intent behind this message was for women to attract "whorish men". You made some valid points as well about refraining from fornication and being prayerful but, faith without works is dead. We can pray but then there's position. Positioning IS biblical, although Tony is giving us practical tips. When Abraham sent his servant to seek a wife for his son Isaac, the servant asked God to cause the right woman to do certain things so he(the servant) would know she was the ONE. As the story would have it the ONE(Rebecca) did everything the servant had asked God to have her do. Unbeknownst to her she'd positioned herself to be chosen as Isaac's wife. As we take Tony's words of wisdom, we can be as blessed as Rebecca. God will do His part, but we must do ours for things to align in our favor.
When u do all of these things for urself it doesn't matter...u just fly living ur best life...lol.
Let me see if I can describe in short . This is what happened today. Mind you, I don’t get approached often.
Outfit: Camo skinny jeans, ripped sweat shirt and adidas sneakers.
Place: Busy grocery store
A hungry man approached me and asked for money as I was coming out the store.
As I was gathering my 7 bags out the cart to put the cart up before walking to my car, I hear this guy kind of talking under his breath. Almost like he was talking to someone on the phone describing me. I looked up and see him eyeing me and still talking under his breath. Making noises like “umph umph umph”. Mind you he watched me carry those bags to my car as he slowly walked to his destination. I could tell he was interested by the noises but he never approached. Just looked from a distance.
No I’m not interested in an approach from a man grunting like some bear but if he was a gentleman and wanted to start convo, he could have been like “Ms Lady can I help you with those bags” and I would have kindly accepted the assistance and convo could have started from there.
Most men get rejected because of how they approach.
lmao this sounds like my day
He just working on getting his confidence up and likely will do better as he practices more.
Paula Currie I believe he will and I wish him the best.
Yes that was not it.
Dreams Are A Reality Not that way. It was borderline spooky 👻
Good stuff. The only thing is why it’s always women who seem like they are doing the searching.
Facts, lol,we have to do all this,..I feel like if a man likes what he sees her will approach her,js..
This is my concern! I actually appreciate this video as I resonate with his advice. However, I’m wondering what do the men have to do to be chosen?
Why do women have to put in this much effort to “secure” a man, when we are two sets of individuals, men & women, trying to get with each other. Why do men get to decide?
Why do women have to go through allllllll these shenanigations when men hardly lift a finger?
We need to break this broken cycle. BOTH genders should be required to put in equal effort. We have inherited an entrenchly flawed system & I refuse to play a part in it by propagating these outdated beliefs.
I do believe we might be a minority, but if some women make a stand & just simply be open to love, without engaging in over the top desperate activities to coerce men, the right men will come. There can be nothing right about a “system” where women are doing the entire most, almost at the mercy of men to be chosen- when we ALSO get to do the choosing.
This system puts men in an empowered position, promotes patriarchy & I quite frankly want no parts of it.
Natasha Richardson yeah girl I agree. But I think there is a difference between being & doing. Yeah we might have a few lil expectations for men to BE a certain way according to personal preference, but women have to DO a wholllleee lot. Wear this colour, walk at this pace, be approachable.
We don’t care for looks, we don’t care if you can dress, chivalrous & all that..? Naa b. We just want kind hearted men that love us, are committed to the relationship & are hard working. That is all.
@Natasha Richardson And whats so special about you exactly to deserve an 1% man like that?
@Natasha Richardson You've just proved my point. You have entitlement issues. Talking like a true narcissist. Also I don't go for thots. Sophisticated and elegant women with positive energy is what I attract thank you very much.
Red is actually a color that attracts men
love heart I know that's right. They love red bones don't they? Lol.
love heart it’s a powerful color! It catches their attention and draws them in. If the woman wearing it also has confidence that’s adds to it. Depending on his state he may not because it could be too much for him.
Yes this is very true and I'm speaking from experience. I had one guy run into a wall looking at me in red and others seemed to be more attracted.
Yes it attracts thier attention to you but it does not cause the right influence that makes you easily approachable.
@@yeddins4278 yes they love mixed woman
I had a pleasant look...
But all he wanted to do was use me..
NOT HAPPENING...
I had to nip that in the bud
I have been there as well, and no I tell them I am not here on earth to be used
Exactly. You can have all the things he said in the video and when some of these men figure out they can't use you, they are on to the next. It's crazy how many men pass up intelligent women who have standards in favor of "anything goes" type of women.
@@gmsunshine531 Let me run on over here and grab "this here collection plate." My Sister needs an offering for this profound #WordOfWisdom. I receive exactly what you are saying.
All these guys want is sex on demand! They don't need any more excuses Tony!
@@gmsunshine531 As a man, I have to agree with you. Too many of my homeboys talk about how it ain't no good women out here but they only choose women with their eyes. Then when the woman turn out to be a hoe or crazy they paint all women with the same brush. Homies want women who look like strippers but behave like the preachers wife. And they got the nerve to call women unrealistic. I just laugh because I got my prize. She may not be a beauty queen, but God gave me a woman that treats me and makes me feel like a King. I'm a better man because of her. And to think I almost passed her up because my former homies didn't think she looked good enough. Soon as I separated from those simple niggas, my life elevated with a wonderful woman.
God first and Self-love and walking in both you will attract the right man in your life, some men see your light and that turns them off, because they are walking in darkness. Still gonna wear my reds cause I love the way it looks on me self-love.
Preach. I had one friend me just today on Face Book. He had to have went reading my timeline. Why? He inboxed me saying I was pretty, sexy, then he asked, "who do you love besides Jesus?" When you are a beacon of light, and they know they aren't on the level you are with the Lord, they know to keep it moving. Smh.
@@e.adriannapatterson3900 Facts!!!!! I say that all the time. When there's a light on you they have no choice but to keep moving. Sometimes God covers us too because he is waiting to uncover us for our husbands.
@@ka8155 My Lord. You said a mouthful. There was a time just last year that I was really tripping out on myself. I noticed how men stopped holding the door open as a cordial gesture of course. And, I found myself holding doors open for men. Anyway, then I noticed how men stopped smiling; you know the kind of smile that simply says hello, nothing more because that is really all that it is. Or that nod of the head to speak a hello. All of that ceased. But, as you said, I just knew it wasn't anything wrong with me. Or anything wrong with the men. You're right. I now see what I just described as the Lord covering me---- for my husband. And, just last week, the Lord dropped exactly what you said to me in my spirit. That's #confirmation. Thanks Sis. 💕.
I agree sister
@@hreese1130 Amen sis
WELL DANG I USUALLY WEAR ALL BLACK JUSS TO LOOK A LIL SLIMMER 😔🤔
I love all black, lbs..and will keep wearing it,💃💃 I just need to slow down and stay off my phone 😂
Quin Tessa Lol 😂.
Hey Tameeka! I love black too. I only wear my res ro sorority events. Lol!
I like black too. But this one guy told me that when women wear all black all the time it's a red flag to him. It screams not confident and trying to hide 🤷🏾♀️. I found that interesting.
Jay Jayyy You’re right, interesting. Janelle Monae who is a gorgeous woman wear black the majority of times. She seems very very confident to me.
To be approached BE APPROACHABLE!!!!! Confidence is your best outfit and a genuine smile your best accessory. Be friendly women, even if you are not into him, kindness is a SUPERPOWER!!!! And remember the rubber band affect, quit seeking and ALLOW IT TO COME NATURALLY, stop pulling for a man to come and he will. Great material, Thanks for sharing
How do they manage to go out and interview for jobs if they're so introverted?
Who said they r working? Women r the employer commodity these days b.c they can pay em less & they won't protest about it...but thts another story
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Girl. It’s surprising what people will do when the outcome is extremely valuable to them- ie MONEY!!
A. Holmes I’m a woman and an introvert and that’s totally different
There's definitely high risk of rejection when you interview for a job, but many of them they still go for it, right?
Because money is a necessity. Women barely are. A society of men would do awesome. A society of women would collapse in 9 days
I dont know but they are scared to death of me!!!
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I love red and black's, I walk 90 miles an hour and I'm on my phone alot! He is so right! Duly noted. Time to change it up. Thank you!
Tamekia Johnson Black is classy. 80% of my wardrobe is black. Some casual, some dressy and some sexy. I don’t see black as mourning, I think it’s sexy. I love seeing men in black ( and when i do see men in black, I don’t think of death)
Purple Dove Keep wearing black Queen. Whomever is for us will approach. I am confident in that.
@@molovefive9 I love my black too. Nothing like that little black dress! Lol.I have been looking to add more pops of color in my wardrobe rotation though. This video did bring out some things for me to consider.
@Purple Dove ROTFL at" smelling the poverty and struggle seeds" No ma'am! We shall have none of that mmmmkay!
@Purple Dove "struggle seeds" haha god damn
The only man who has ever approached me in the day time hours was missing teeth and his mental health. *sigh! I am lonely tho ...
So i got new teeth now, I'll try not to creep you out next time, sorry about that.
So what?You are not celebrity.
Men don't approach women anymore because it's more of a hassle than it's worth. First of all, many times a woman will pretend not to be interested in a guy by their closed off body language... turning away from him, not smiling at him or giving any sign of interest even when she is actually interested in him. Men aren't mind readers and they won't approach women if women don't give them some indication of interest. Or women aren't interested in a guy but pretend they are interested. They smile at him and make eye contact only to get his attention and validation. She doesn't really want him just his attention or validation or maybe for him to buy her drink when at the bar. She then rejects the poor guy and nobody likes rejection whether you are confident or not. If a guy gets rejected enough times by approaching women, he will undoubtedly lose some confidence and decide its a losing battle and stop approaching. Secondly, some women give guys so many shit tests during the initial interaction that it turns him off. Flirting and playful teasing is one thing but insulting a man while displaying a negative attitude isn't attractive. Women need to learn the difference between playful teasing and disrespectful insults. I can tell you that from personal experience that disrespectful insults from a women is probably the second most common reason men don't approach women anymore. Then there is the woman who doesn't reject him but actually gives him her number. But many times it's a fake number so the guy feels like he wasted his time for nothing. She didn't even have the decency to be honest with him by rejecting him on the spot so she just leads him on. This one stings most guys because they actually thought the the women was genuinely interested in them. So of course men will be more apprehensive about approaching women after that. Even if she does give the guy her correct number, she starts to play the mind games. She acts really interested in the guy at first but then suddenly goes cold. She starts to play hard to get and does the hot/cold routine thinking men enjoy drama and uncertainty. News flash... we don't! We like clear intentions not mind games. A little mystery and uncertainty is fine but acting completely affectionate one day and then completely indifferent the next day is just unneccesary drama. The guy starts to think he did or said something wrong. In some cases he might have said or done something she didn't like which she holds against him but doesn't tell him. She then ghosts him or tries to friend zone him instead of communicating to the guy like a mature adult that she didn't like something he said or did. Immaturity at its finest. But often the guy did nothing wrong but she becomes overly picky about something superficial. For example, a women doesn't like the outfit the guy wore on the date. Or she doesn't like the car he drives. Or he overly complimented her. Or he didn't compliment her enough. The list goes on and on and usually very superficial reasons. So bottom line... men don't approach women anymore because it's a an exercise in futility. The odds of a guy approaching a women who doesn't play all these stupid mind games is rare.
Why make it so complicated. ..... If a man is interested all one has to say is Hi, hello or good morning. Most women love a compliment. ......
Wish it was like that in Chicago
I feel that barely happens these days 🤷🏽♀️
@@MelaniaRose I have men say good morning, and give compliments it doesn't happen all the time but when it does I respond. If a man is interested they will speak. A women should not have to do anything special if a man wants that women.
@@ashleygoodrich3294 idk about Chicago but men do speak in NYC
@@shontemartinez7826 Woman not women. Women is more then 1.
I have a problem with the RB face because I don’t intentionally do it, my face just naturally settle that way,lmao. 🤷🏾♀️
Lol me 2 guess we gonna be alone😂
O my; look at your profile pic , ,,🤦😭😭😭
Cum Out From Amongst them! Andrew 🤣🤣🤣
Same..
Shekinah's Counsel exactly😂😂😂😂😂 the pic is hilarious
Y’all are blaming these men but these are the same kind of men you’re raising. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen Moms emasculate their sons. These boys grow up to be the men you’re describing in the comments.
Edoms Lot Preachhhhh!
Thats because most of the time there's no father figure and moms tend to over protect
As a teacher, I have said for years that we raised these kids.
Men approach these women. They just don't like the men who are approaching them.
And vice versa
RIGHT, men get rejected all the time. if you get rejected too much it can produce hate and bitterness, and resitment....this dude is sooo on point...👍
Eva Green Lover Wow ur right thanks for tips never thought about that 🧐
Look im not dressing up and putting on makeup jewelry all that stuff everyday or everytime i run to the store in hopes to find a man. If you can't see me through my bad day your not for me. Bc im not made up when i sleep nor made up when i first wake up. My personally/ never changes but how i dress does. So if that is my down fall then im okay.
I understand where you're coming from but men treat you how they see you. If your goal is to have a husband...a good one not a dusty you have to look the part. Even if you're only going to the store. With men everything is visual. Get use to wearing makeup and doing your hair. Look good everywhere you go. When you look good you feel good and a competent man sees that. If you look like you don't care...guess what? He won't care either. You will attract incompetent men who want to use you. Always present yourself beautifully. You never know whose watching. BLESSINGS to you my luv
I disagree with that statement, the days I just threw something on are my most successful days, I’m hit on, then when I’m dressed, hair done, I attract all walks of life, even the dogs who just want a quick roll in the hay, continue to be u beautiful & continue to pray, u won’t miss ur blessing, it’s all in gods timing
YES!!
@@tararobinson6023 BS excuse that men are visual. Women are as well. Just a bs excuse for their shallowness. You don't have to wear make-up for fuck sakes to feel good! DUH. Not if she doesn't like to/doesn't want to. She won't feel good. She isn't saying she is gonna be ugly, I doubt but she saying she isn't doing it ALL.
With that blah appearance and mindset you'll only attract dusties and/or men looking to use you for everything you have. Do you want to deal with that headache? Look like crap, get treated like crap by almost everyone.
I think it's a convergence of factors. Women are more masculine. Men aren't as aggressive in approaching women for the same reason - as a couple of generations of women have been empowered, men have also been suppressed starting when they first enter school as children. As a culture, we're all more detached from other people (the growth of internet/online culture has harmed interpersonal communication). Even in "public" places, we're still plugged into or distracted by a device of some sort. Women yearn for men of yesteryear, yet at the same time consider that same behavior harassment when they actually experience it. So men are gun-shy about approaching. Women want traditional roles when it benefits them.
Its the breakdown of the family. Its rearing its ugly head in the most disturbing ways..on this i wont elaborate because what i really want to say will disturb those who are in denial. But i will encourage the parents who are left holding the bag to stay home with their children..its where the heart is. Dont go chasing delusional 'waterfalls' that waste your time and money..it will deprive the children of your love and a happy homelife. No one loves you more than your children do!!!
@11STARFIRE I don't see where in my comment that I said ALL women. It tires me when people automatically default to this kind of response as a way of ignoring the overall statement. By masculine, I mean certain characteristics. Like when women state they don't need men, that they make their "own" money. Like cutting their hair into masculine styles. When their behavior and speech are more aggressive in their interactions with men. Directly competing with and against men, and being more combative (like your response, instead of a more measured response instead of an attack). While it's true that men have less testosterone than previous generations due to our diets, that doesn't account for the behavior. That is due to sociological factors. The premise that women can't be empowered and succeed without taking from men. Ask parents of sons about how this starts early. Dozens of books have already be written about this. The fact that your takeaway from my response was that I was accusing women of being lesbians is typical of how so many women "discuss" issues with men. I hope this clarifies.
@@ccspiceolife1788 This is undoubtedly one of the contributing factors. Then you can have another whole discussion about HOW the family broke down. Having two solid role models in the home provides a great start in terms of what kind of adults they'll become. Children are bombarded with so much more than previous generations were, so it's made parenting more difficult. They have to fight against so much more outside the home for influence over their children.
@@Timoteo4 Breaking chains that bind us...thats the answer, i think.. but it would take self-realization; taking a close hard look at 'the man in the mirror '...self- awareness is our 'looking glass' for the future. I think that this is what our friend Tony is essentially saying here (thank you Tony, by the way). More people should read Frederick Douglass' slave naratives. They will help you understand your circumstances and the people around you, how to see them and how to handle them, that even his captors were enslaven. Truth is in the eye of the beholder. If i may, i would like to share one of my most favored quotes in history by Euthycides', an Athenian General defeated by the Spartans in battle, this is an excerpt from his memorial speech to the masses (490bc) he said, "Some are brave out of ignorance, and; when they stop to think they begin to fear. But the man who can most trully be accounted brave is he who best knows the meaning of what is sweet in life and of what is horrible. Then he goes out undeterred to meet what is to come!"
It's true women are more masculine. We have been brought up that way. Tough, responsible, home-makers, nurturers, single parents, bread-winners etc. Whilst men have had it easy. With all sorts of behaviour or lack of responsibility being condoned as "being a man". Hence they r used to doing the bare minimum. Even when it comes to pursuing a woman. Because for too long, it was a privilege having a man in one's life. I also agree about electronic communication. It has killed us:(. I, for one, would prefer a yesteryear man to the types we see today...
This is interesting. I'm definitely guilty of walking at 90 miles an hour and completely oblivious of who's around me. Also, a Christian brother of mine told me that not many men would approach me because I look like I'd shun them. Strangely enough, when I was younger, I'd be approached all the time. Now, I'm getting older, I often wonder if it's because along with the above mentioned reasons, I no longer have that innocent naivety look anymore.
I've known this & needed the reminder. I'm ready to be ready. Thank you.
I have been at the store looking busted, talking on the phone and been approached. So I'm not sure if this is always the case.
702dgirl yup, lol coming from the gym too. One time I just woke up in the morning checked the mail and this man thought I was gorgeous. Lol we dated for a few months lol didn’t work out, lol but still. I thought he was crazy. I didn’t look a hot mess but I just woke up, no make up, I really don’t like make up but men are attracted to certain things.
Was he a dusty looking for help or was it a "man of means" lol...
@@yourdwellingspace7407 ,we DON'T NEED A SEPHORA ALL OVER OUR FACE , JUST A TOUCH TO ENHANCE OUR BEAUTY
Truth is men dont really care for all that crap women wear and consume in order to "enhance" their beauty. I can see a woman in sandals, sweatpants and a hockey jersey and if im attracted to her none of that will matter.
This makes me feel bad. I go to the store but I never have been hit on or approached whilst shopping.
This is the best video I’ve seen covering this. THANK YOU. Honestly, I don’t think it’s too much. I’ve heard in other videos “be more inviting”, but I couldn’t understand what that actually MEANT. I’ve always been friendly & good at light flirting but there always seemed to be a block after that because you’re right in saying that I put out the vibe of “I’m not truly ready”. So am already working on myself!! That’s priority no. 1. Thank you!!
Windbreaker...Took me back...80's..lol!!!
Came across a man when I was heading back to work recently. He spoke to me first and told me I was a beautiful woman. I wanted him to stop and say more because I don't get approached too often by nice men but he didn't. 🤷🏾♀️ Maybe he is in a committed relationship.
yet here you are telling us what you should have told him... smh y'all women put little to no effort into getting what you want and then complain or rationalize about it later... ridiculous
I was running late for work that day sorry.. Haha jk
@Latrice are you still single? Lol
Him saying any more than that would be considered harassment.
@@BP-fx3qc you are so mean 😆
Wow, you described every way I’ve been acting and presenting myself. It makes complete sense why men haven’t been approaching me. Thank you very much for your great advice and I’ll work on my presentation. 😊
To be honest, I noticed men approach me when I rush out the house vs. when I actually take time putting effort into my look. It may be an intimidation thing but oh well....
That's because if you're good looking, your outfits and make up don't matter. If anything men feel more at ease when you don't put much thought or effort into your looks so you'll get approached more as supposed to being "dressed to kill" - the only thing you're gonna be killing is your chances of being approached.
I think dusty men target women who don't pay attention to their appearance. In other words, if you don't care about how you look, he assumes you will also have low dating standards and will be desperate and then you will chase him. Check out Shera7 on YT.
I heard men say when you are too pampered and dressed they thinking you can’t be single so they don’t approach
Ngombella S No lol that’s not true
Men..Rejection is a part of life. Fall down 7 times get up 8. I know it’s tough, but we need ya’ll to play your role regardless. And in the meantime we women are going to work on ourselves too. But please stop waiting on us to be who you’re designed to be.
Although I’m already on my P’s and Q’s, those words gave me some motivation to 10x my grind Queen. Much love and peace
That is easy for you to say. "Men it's okay, put in all the work while I sit on my ass". Women want it both ways. Y'all want equality and and traditional treatment at the same time. Y'all want the privilege of both but the responsibility of neither. Why don't you grow tf up and approach who you want. "MeN...rEjEcTiOn Is ApArT oF lIfE". Says a women who has everything in life handed to her.
@@younggold1416 lol. Get of your high horses and read her comment again you seem to let it fly over your head.
Rejection is part of life
@Love 23Amazed YES.
@@younggold1416 We get nothing handed to us buddy, we are thought as less! You have NO IDEA, NO IDEA AT ALL SO YOU CAN'T TALK. YOU ARE NOT A WOMAN!
Honestly NO ONE (ESPECIALLY WOMEN WHO ARE BY THEMSELVES, YOU ARE MAKING YOURSELF A TARGET FOR SOMEONE WHO HAS BAD INTENTIONS TO GET SNATCH, OR WHATEVER) should be preoccupied and not paying attention to their surrounding in the first place!! .. PERIOD! ..
TRUTH ... I keep my head on a swivel and OFF MY PHONE for that reason alone!
I wear all black, and I get approached, lol..but I do need to stay off my phone and slow down,so I can get approached more 😂😂
Nah you ain't gotta slow down hunn, I've been doing a lot more cardio now so i can keep up with you.
Whew! Dealing with men is enough to make you want to jump off of a bridge.
Guess I've got to become a little less hard to get.
And who built the bridge for you to jump off of? Men.
Getting rejected should be part of being a men
Linda Galloway Women get rejected too
Linda Galloway but you have never been a man, so what would make you think that? Very ignorant comment
Rejection is apart of life not your gender
WHat makes you so special to feel tha you shouldn't be rejected too?
As a woman I just wanna say she sounds ridiculous and we don’t all agree with her😂😂
Yeah my sister said my facial expressions are what scare men away but when they see I'm really nice then they don't want to leave me alone.😂😂
Well said and keep sending us women the TRUTH. Thank you! 👍🏾👏🏽🙏🏽
Ty for your male perspective
Everything you are saying is absolutely on point. I had to start watching my facial expression, because when I went out I would be frowning and didn't know it. It became apparent why men wouldn't approach me.
Well that explains a lot. When I’m out I’m always on the phone, I walk with a purpose-speed walking.
I agree with eveything this man said in this video. I truly understand and can vouch for what he is saying. Honestly it is only when you are truly ready that things will work out naturally for you. It's a process, one that can't be rushed but when it it (like I am) it is easily understood. In essence, God's timing is ALWAYS the best!!
You are 100% right. I get approached all the time when I want to.
When I don't want to. I walk fast, look preoccupied, talk/ text on the phone and don't smile..lol
I learned this lesson years ago and I use it to my benefit.
I tested it.
TYEECE MARSHALL I do the same 😂I can just feel when THE WRONG ONE about to make an approach. His gonna be a Pawpaw, a juvie or someone a turn off 😂
I’m going to have to slow down when I’m walking and change the RB face😂 thanks for the tip🙏
I get approached a lot But by the Wrong type..
Guys like myself don't approach women anymore because most of the time women are very disrespectful and a guy who gathered enough courage to approach a woman gets turned down in a negative way. When it happens a lot to that guy, the guy decides to never approach another woman again. So he will look at the woman for the distance but never approach again simply because all of the negative experiences he have dealt with approaching women
Great advice! Women have forgotten how to be soft, feminine, pleasant and approachable. Growing up are had finishing schools, modeling classes, etc. It is much needed today.
Thanks for the tips Tony. I'll try them. I've heard you say these things before, but like MANY of the women here in the comments I made excuses about the men instead of focusing on changing ME. Which in hindsight tells me I wasn't ready. Now I am, and can graciously and humbly listen to your words as a man, without looking for an excuse as to why your tips don't work. The fact of the matter is I only need to be approached and found by ONE man not "men". I'll position myself accordingly and trust God to do the rest. Keep ministering TG and let she who has an ear hear!!
Your face is not resting in a pleasant way 🤣 thank you for this 👏🏽👏🏽
Right! I was like wtf 😂😂
This is great information. 9:45 we as women working on ourselves and 10:29 men can read us, is eye opening advice. When we are not 100% feeling confident and ready, it sends a signal to a man... without us opening our mouth. Wow. This is the truth.
This is exactly how I feel right now. Confidence just isn't there right now
Thank you for this, it really helped to hear this perspective.
Be blessed! Thanks for telling the truth. I am aware of the importance of body language, but I didn't know it could affect my love life that much.
I love hearing the truth!!! Keep it coming. One thing you left out is be patient!!! If a woman is doing all of those things she just has to be patient. The right one will come at the right time. Sometimes it's a good thing if you are not being approached. That's God protecting you and saving you from a lot of heartache and waisted time. Just do what Tony is advising think good positive thoughts and go to the places where the kind of man you desire will be. That could be a whole other video!!! Lol
“Are you in mourning?” 😂
Thank you for helping me learn how simple a wardrobe color change can be!
Many women were taught that the “little black dress” is timelessly stylish and classy, and end up making our entire wardrobe black because it’s “slimming.”
I’ve skimmed through at least 20-30 comments saying the same things.
1. He must be gay.
2. He must not be that interested.
3. Men are not the same as they used to be.
I didn’t gather any of that from this video. Everything in life is about perspective. If you change your outlook on life, your input will be much better.
When I’m feeling myself & in a good mood, I get hit on a lot more than usual, but when I’m rushed & walking with a stank attitude I get hit on a lot less, because sometimes I just don’t want to be bothered. It be like that sometimes.. But. That shouldn’t always be the case & for a lot of women it is. I believe what he’s saying is just to be mindful of the energy that we put out & the results may be better.
We definitely want the truth! Thank u 🙏🏾
Thank you Tony. I hear you loud and clear
The women who are not being approached are unapproachable.
So men are soft and we have to “make it easier” for them?
Diamond Durley no but you should put in equal effort. You may notice a man that seems kind and handsome. He may be focused on the task at hand, so a simple walk by and “hey” could be an icebreaker.
Bhaaaa Bwaaa ok 💅
Right?! FOH. He basically described weak men.
@Eva Green Lover cause we see a whole lot of guys who do nothing , they just stand there and they got women worshiping them and droping panties left and right , so i'm like if these clowns can get women to throw themselfs at them , then it must be possible for me too
@Eva Green Lover i never i'm entitled to any woman , women like what they like and you can't force attraction , but the guys i'm talking to aren't all that attractive at all ( and i'm a man i know a hot guy when i see one ) , and when it comes to this technique i did try it and i attracted a couple of girls but you're right they weren't my type ( nothing wrong with them tho ) , but my point is , the fact that this technique somewhat works IS what's stoping me from chasing women
Thank you so much!!! This was very helpfull for me and I guess a lot of other women as well. Keep doing this great work. Really appreaciating you!
This was an excellent video! Everything you say is so true! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
The last part is for me... I’m operating on a lower vibration right now and working on myself... people always tell me that I’m “cute” “fine” “beautiful” etc BUT they rarely ask for my number because they can sense that I’m not ready... It is what it is, I’m a work in progress
Just remember you’re the flower that grows through the cracks of the concrete
Girl....truth.
Thank you for this video and your honest opinion.
Blessings. Thanks for spilling the “truth!”
I love this. I learnt a lot from this more than any other. Thank you.
Thank you. I'm guilty of walking too quick
You are a 1000% correct!! I get approached all of the time.
Keep doing what your doing Mr. Gaskins. I can see it in the comments, and even the response in some of your video people may not be ready or willing to accept the truth your giving. Those of us who are however really appreciate your videos. Although I am a woman this somehow makes sense to me when you break them down. This is my first video, but not the last I just subscribed to your channel. Thanks again and God Bless
I love listening to you because I prayed to God for answers to my questions and you keep giving them to me so God bless you and your family and ministry love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia
Ok!!!!!! I'm walking down the street with a Big smile on my face and wearing bright red lipstick and really pretty pastel colors saying Hi to everybody.......somebody better do a wellness check, because I really lost it.
😂😂😂😂
We (women) have to do so much it's exhausting. 🥺
I so agree. Imagine what will happen if we step our game up with our standards. 🤔
Seriously? Women don't have to do shit...Men built civilization.
Makes perfect sense to me! Very informative! Thanks Tony! I def need to work on wearing more vibrant and appealing apparel! 👍🏽
Respect for the truths you shared with us Tony G. You're right, we don't want to hear it but we do need to.... 👍🏾
I wished that man who knocked on my SUV window and asked me for some spare change a few hours ago had gone through that analysis... Everything should have told you I was not approachable...me eating that taco and jumping when you knocked on my window should have been a clue!!!
Paula Currie I know right. I went around a pole when walking out the grocery store bc I knew that man was gonna ask me for money. Did it stop him, No. Keeping his distance, He said “ma’am, I haven’t eaten today, can you spare some change”. He got my attention with his words and look of sincerity.
This is why we walk fast to get to our dang car. We have to be careful outchea
Sorry babe i was really hungry, i was hoping to get a piece of that taco. The one you were eating looked nice too.
I find most men are insecure about themselves. I am a very confident woman, blessed, happy, always thinking of others. I was told by a 32 year old guy that men are "afraid" to approach me for fear of rejection". He told me I dress nice, I walk with confidence and I'm always smiling and happy. I don't want a man who is "cocky", but I also don't want one with low self esteem. I'll keep being me, and maybe one day......
Thank You! for the advice and keep the videos coming. Blessings
Great info Tony! Thanks!
Thank you for this. Sometimes we need a little help. I’m definitely in expectancy!
Preetty hair
This is so true , gonna work on me
This video was amazing ... thank you for this information.
I love this!! Thanks for your honest advice. :)