As of today, I’m 40 days free of cocaine, and 9 days free of cannabis. I haven’t told a soul, so hearing other people’s stories helps. Thank you for doing what you do John.
I switched out beer with different flavors of sparkling water 15 years ago. You don’t get a “sugar hangover” like with soda or snacks either. It has worked out great for me. It’s super hard at first but you know you love being sober!
I quit drinking a month ago. I've also been feeling kinda lost on what to do with my free time. Just got back from Hobby Lobby and trying to get myself back into crafting. It's crazy realizing how much drinking suppressed my desire to be active and productive.
Well done dude, I am 7 years and 8 months off the booze, what helps me is running, started couch to 5k now run marathons, in June got my first ultramarathon (70 miles) lost 77lb and never felt better, keep it going and don’t look back
54 days sober today, I'm so happy to wake up sober every morning. It's awesome, and I love it. Herbal teas, gym, video games, gardening, reading, meal planning, etc. All of it helps when the craving comes. That being said, I didn't join AA, and I don't plan to. I know why I'm sober, I know why I'm staying sober, and I know how to stay sober ❤
@@michellegrovak I don't see the need for it. Like I said in my original comment, I know why I am staying sober, I know how I am staying sober, and I know how to keep staying sober. I don't need the support system of AA, I have my own support system that has, so far, worked for 57 days. The longest I've been sober in over three years was about 4 days, but this time is different, I can feel it in my bones and my soul. The need and the want to change is intense.
@@tracygaluszynski1868because a lot of people don't believe in that twelve-step religious BS. Cuz it's like a cult, he just change one addiction for another .
A friend of mine quit drinking and took the money he saved to buy a classic car to restore. He now has a beautiful vintage Mustang, does local car shows, and couldn't be happier.
I'm 33 and been sober 7 months and I have done it by myself but temptations are very still prevalent, after you sober up and the smoke clear you realize that you do have a lot of work to do but that I believe that's your break through.
This is one of the very best episodes that you have done Dr. John, and I could never say this differently and certainly not better than you did. I pray that more people hear this episode and get the true value that has been poured into it. We love you and what you are doing.
yes this episode is amazing!!! ive been sober for 5 years. I wish I would have went to AA meetings and understood a lot of what Dr.John is saying a lot earlier.
@@dennisleporte2327 Congrats! I've been 95% alcohol-free over this past year and a bit. There have been a few wobbles, but nothing significant. It's worth it! Life is better, easier, and more relaxed in pretty much every way.
Dr hit it on the head!!!! when i got clean I realiezed i only had certain friends because I was drinking we would only hangout to go drinking... im like why am i friends with this person.... I knew I didn't want to waste my day in bed suffering from hangover I wanted to wake up and be positive and do things and be productive
Yay for 15 days!!! You rock. That’s so so hard. The first couple months. But I promise it gets easier. 13 years on the 23rd of the month sober. I don’t miss it. I always wondered how I could go camping or fishing without a beer in my hand. I’m 45 now. Stopped at 32. You need to find a good meeting. The best ones are early early ones where people go before work. You will meet people who more align with your world. Seriously. Go to as many different ones as it takes to find your people.
I still have all my friends. And they were all supportive. I separated myself from them for a bit because I didn’t want them to change their lives for me. Be prepared for the sweet tooth. Omg. Ice cream every night in my house. The sugar in alcohol is nuts. Never had much of a sweet tooth until I quit drinking. But it’s not as bad as when I first quit.
A good friend is in recovery for a long time now. She is a competitive athlete and on her way to a master's degree. She never skips going to meetings. As her friend I try to be a good influence (I don't have any vices except for coffee😆). It's really important to surround yourself with the right people if you don't want to be led astray.
I loved this call. Brought me to tears. Educating yourself on alcoholism is so important. There are addictions, healthy or unhealthy that we tend to shift to from the absence of drinking. Get educated. AA is great for support. Surround yourself with love and healing. 🙏🙏🙏
I have been sober since Nov 27, 2021. I go to meeting and change my circle of friends. Thank you for encouraging people to get the necessary help and support. My husband and I recently move from Denton, TX to Lewisville/Coppell, TX. There has been freedom. The struggle is really. My relationship with my husband, children, co-workers, employer, extended family, and the clubhouse. Jacob, who can do this.
Love you caller for your heart. Don't worry about the chaos. You have Effiin.... survived all of that. Please start to breathe and find your real friends...sometimes your children are more loyal than you believe or even deserve. Show up with good intentions and a clean heart. I miss my father.
Congratulations Jacob you can do it. I am so happy for you. I was one of you, you do need to look for a place for help. It helps tremendously congratulations and good luck. Keep up the good Effort wonderful
He’s not wrong when he says you wake up and question everything and everyone in your life. I’ve been in the rebuilding phase for a few months now, and I didn’t know it was part of it. Very scary and healing.
Let me also just say I love Drs advice about going to AA meetings... I got sober by myself... and it was a depressing weird journey trying to find/reinvent myself it would have been so much better to have been in a community looking back even now I might go
My dad had stops drinking and smoking by himself cold turkey...You need a hobby or try a bunch of new stuff until you find something you like or go out. need something in your mouth? Take a sparkling flavor water something with zero calories replaces the bad habit with something that is OK to have. Go hit the gym or make a cheap one at home listen to music or the tv while doing it. Make a goal to read a book .
I haven’t had a drink since late last month. So it’s been almost month. Longest I’ve gone without it. I’m a musician and I played a show sober and it was not fun. Music is more fun with booze.
Almost 1 year sober. Here are a few things: AA meetings Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Write and do stand up comedy Read new books (Allen Carr - Quit Drinking without willpower) Walk the dog Walk around Costco Go to library Tarot cards Meditate Write gratitude list Pray Remember, cravings will pass. Accept that they will come but remember that they will go.
Every time I choose to get really clear, to be totally sober for months on end, I don’t have dependency/ it’s not a true addiction to overcome. Still, I find that exercising becomes excessive; I feel hyperactive. I find more healthy fillers but feel so intensely about them and am so intense in the way I utilize them that it feels a little off still. Like substances aren't really my issue, it’s an inability to create sustainable balance with whatever I do. 🧐😕
It's been a year since I stopped drinking. I don't go to meetings. Never will because I don't believe in cults! Im only partially joking. If you can't do it alone, then you really dont want to do it. At the end of the day, you are responsible for your actions. I still do all of the same activities I did before. That is why it has been easy. I like watching football at the bar on Sundays. I kept watching football at he bar. At first, the habit of it all was rough. I did controlled exposure. I refused to hide from the things I wanted. After a few weeks it was super normal. I even played flip cup but filled my cup with water!!!! Water fasting helped tremendously. I learned so much about how to control my actions. The secret was subconscious reprogramming. It only took 1 week for me to remove that broken defective feeling that I had my whole life. Once it was gone, everything else was a cake walk.
Hey, this is the only time I'll say john is wrong. i just got say you CAN do it by yourself. It's hard but you can do it. I managed it. I didn't drink for 20 years but i did for years but way way more of the hard stuff. Just keep trying again and again. Each time you'll get better at it! That "minute by minute" stage was HARD.
I've done it by myself too. Another time I quit, I did online support groups (not AA), but I found that it just made me think about drinking all the time because the groups all focus on not drinking and how "hard" it is. Doing it alone made it much easier for me, but I'm a pretty reclusive and being solitary suits me. Whatever works! There's no one single right path that fits everyone.
I’ve been clean seven years. Put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Go to school. Join a Rec league. This is what I do I’m 31. Def cannot do it alone. Impossible.
I'd suggest he start going to AA so he can get some support and advice. At least it is worth a try. It has helped millions of people find their way through to sobriety.
3 months without porn for me and yes i get this empty feeling almost like what's the point now i bored. it doesn't help i have injuries' to deal with so i cant do the things i like to do , so many people say once you stop the vice, things get better and you are more happy but im not feeling that so far . i decided to stop because i want to see what is on the other side of the addiction Dr john says never do it by yourself but there is no way i would tell people i know about that problem thats the other concerning thing i think of
I’m not saying you should do this because it’s probably terrible advice and you’re probably not interested in “dating” but I actually tell women that I want to get to know or talk to. I don’t really want to tell them, it’s just conversations with girls always lead to talking about my porn addiction. You’re way ahead of me in being free from porn as I’m 52 days free from it but yeah I can totally relate what you’re going through minus the injuries but can you’re injuries get recovered? Nonetheless, I think being open about your recovery to people can only lead to not feeling alone about your struggles. I’m considering therapy.
@@frankalmanzar3492 yea I have one surgery later next month but for the other it will probably be another year , that wait will be tough. Something dr John said on an earlier show helps a bit I just tell my self I’m not a person who watches porn that advice actually does some good
I don't know it sounds like a lot of woo-woo , grab your kids head tell him you love him, the sad fact is most people work a job they don't like or just tolerate they're not there because the enjoy the job they're there for the money and the benefits. It's very seldom you find someone that can have both. I worked a job for 31 years I pretty much hated I did it cuz I needed to do it, pay, benefits, insurance vacation time, longevity. Tuff to drop all that just to go to something you may hate worse. And I really didn't Define myself by the job I did.
I can relate. I’m 52 days sober from porn and I’m so used to either watching porn or putting it down for a little bit to try to hookup with girls but now I’m abstaining from trying to hook up too and I’m not sure if that’s what I should be doing because I would like a girlfriend. So I don’t know where to go from here. Can’t I mingle or talk to girls? I’m a little lost in this department now.
@@mmp495 I respectfully disagree about going in circles because I’m not doing the same things as before. Are my emotions going haywire? sure, and for that I’ll consider reaching out for help but I’m on the right path even when I was I was just hooking up because that’s what I had to experience.
@@denisenicole8271 I think I’m too hard on myself. I’ve been working on getting off of this pre-pandemic. This isn’t my first rodeo and I’m older now. So yeah I’m already there but I just have to learn how to be less harder on myself for emotional stability. Patience is what I need at the moment haha.
@@frankalmanzar3492 Ah I see, passing the time does seem hard these days glad you got a cool hobby. we all tend to be hard on ourselves, I deleted my comments since I felt my advice wasn’t helpful or warranted by your response back. Patience is definitely key even it’s tough lol but still best of luck to you man, I’m sure you’ll end up with a great gal you seem to have a good head on your shoulders
I find addiction to alcohol to be so weird... I've only ever drank in socal settings and never drink by myself. I don't get the point of drinking alone. There's no fun in it.
has alot to do with how your body metabolizes alcohol. you after 2-3 drinks might feel crappy and full, bloated. others feel euphoric and want more, more, more, more.....
That’s the reason why as a women when I start stop drinking I did it on my own and didn’t go to AA. I was doing some research on it to see if it was an option for me but I heard stories of how men would try to pick up women. It’s bad enough trying to recover and worry about the people around trying to sabotage your recovery with her own selfish games. AA is not for everyone.
@@Tee94376 Hope you are sober and not getting picked up by random dudes. I think they have women's only meetings, but bulls will probably be there looking for action? It's hard to find that space needed to work things out, but I hope you find it or found it.
I've put down the bottle many times, and every time I've wondered, what's so great about being sober all the time? Drinking is only 'bad' because the morally righteous among us have deemed it so. Let's not forget, there was a time when it was 'bad' to be gay, 'bad' to smoke weed, or even 'bad' to be of a certain race. To me alcohol is like a gun. If you like it, and you aren't going to hurt anyone with it, then have a blast!
When you have destroyed your body with that alcohol youll wish you hadnt. Youll be youngish, maybe 40s and facing serious health issues. Your life expectancy will be far shorter than others. Why the big hurry for the dirt nap? Dont rush it. It comes for all of us eventually.
@@queenbee3647 No big hurry. Life expectancy is a silly concept anyway. I could get killed crossing the street today! And if I am gonna go, I sure hope it won't be sober.
Took 9 years of big wins and losses but finally bottomed me out at 37. No money no car no kids no wife and gambling was the primary destructive force. Had a blast doing it too which makes it the sick addiction it is
As of today, I’m 40 days free of cocaine, and 9 days free of cannabis. I haven’t told a soul, so hearing other people’s stories helps. Thank you for doing what you do John.
Two days sober.
Keep it up!
Keep going!! Try to hit a meeting if you can!
I switched out beer with different flavors of sparkling water 15 years ago. You don’t get a “sugar hangover” like with soda or snacks either. It has worked out great for me. It’s super hard at first but you know you love being sober!
I hope you’re doing well. You’re not alone. You got this.
I quit drinking a month ago. I've also been feeling kinda lost on what to do with my free time. Just got back from Hobby Lobby and trying to get myself back into crafting. It's crazy realizing how much drinking suppressed my desire to be active and productive.
Well done dude, I am 7 years and 8 months off the booze, what helps me is running, started couch to 5k now run marathons, in June got my first ultramarathon (70 miles) lost 77lb and never felt better, keep it going and don’t look back
I am proud of you.
Congratulations! 🎊🎊🎊 Sobriety is a gift.
I’m proud of you too.
I wanna do that
54 days sober today, I'm so happy to wake up sober every morning. It's awesome, and I love it.
Herbal teas, gym, video games, gardening, reading, meal planning, etc. All of it helps when the craving comes. That being said, I didn't join AA, and I don't plan to. I know why I'm sober, I know why I'm staying sober, and I know how to stay sober ❤
Why not AA?
I'll drink to that.
Cheers.
@@michellegrovak I don't see the need for it. Like I said in my original comment, I know why I am staying sober, I know how I am staying sober, and I know how to keep staying sober. I don't need the support system of AA, I have my own support system that has, so far, worked for 57 days. The longest I've been sober in over three years was about 4 days, but this time is different, I can feel it in my bones and my soul. The need and the want to change is intense.
@@tracygaluszynski1868 *raises tea cup*
@@tracygaluszynski1868because a lot of people don't believe in that twelve-step religious BS. Cuz it's like a cult, he just change one addiction for another .
A friend of mine quit drinking and took the money he saved to buy a classic car to restore. He now has a beautiful vintage Mustang, does local car shows, and couldn't be happier.
Meet a lot of people that way.
@@genxx2724 indeed. There is a community of car people.
That is awesome! From unhealthy to a healthy. 🙏🙏🙏
9 years sober and my hobby is walking everyday. Keeps me fit, clears the head and gets me out
I started fishing a lot when I became sober. It was a great way to kill time and learn and hone a new skill and hobby.
I'm 33 and been sober 7 months and I have done it by myself but temptations are very still prevalent, after you sober up and the smoke clear you realize that you do have a lot of work to do but that I believe that's your break through.
Very well said.
This is one of the very best episodes that you have done Dr. John, and I could never say this differently and certainly not better than you did. I pray that more people hear this episode and get the true value that has been poured into it. We love you and what you are doing.
yes this episode is amazing!!! ive been sober for 5 years. I wish I would have went to AA meetings and understood a lot of what Dr.John is saying a lot earlier.
I thought the same thing ! I let it play out loud so my husband can overhear . He’s in the same situation but is not sober yet .
Today is Day 11. I needed this today! Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Find Joy in the minutes. I hear you. We will walk home.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Same... just a year later lol
@@dennisleporte2327 Congrats! I've been 95% alcohol-free over this past year and a bit. There have been a few wobbles, but nothing significant. It's worth it! Life is better, easier, and more relaxed in pretty much every way.
Dr hit it on the head!!!! when i got clean I realiezed i only had certain friends because I was drinking we would only hangout to go drinking... im like why am i friends with this person.... I knew I didn't want to waste my day in bed suffering from hangover I wanted to wake up and be positive and do things and be productive
Every child needs to hear this message from their parent!
Stay drunk.
My kids would think I was crazy, I'm not the huggy feely Kumbaya guy. next I might have the urge to join a women's group?
Yay for 15 days!!! You rock. That’s so so hard. The first couple months. But I promise it gets easier. 13 years on the 23rd of the month sober. I don’t miss it. I always wondered how I could go camping or fishing without a beer in my hand. I’m 45 now. Stopped at 32. You need to find a good meeting. The best ones are early early ones where people go before work. You will meet people who more align with your world. Seriously. Go to as many different ones as it takes to find your people.
I still have all my friends. And they were all supportive. I separated myself from them for a bit because I didn’t want them to change their lives for me.
Be prepared for the sweet tooth. Omg. Ice cream every night in my house. The sugar in alcohol is nuts. Never had much of a sweet tooth until I quit drinking. But it’s not as bad as when I first quit.
A good friend is in recovery for a long time now. She is a competitive athlete and on her way to a master's degree. She never skips going to meetings. As her friend I try to be a good influence (I don't have any vices except for coffee😆). It's really important to surround yourself with the right people if you don't want to be led astray.
They live in your house and you miss them. I love that.
I loved this call. Brought me to tears. Educating yourself on alcoholism is so important. There are addictions, healthy or unhealthy that we tend to shift to from the absence of drinking. Get educated. AA is great for support. Surround yourself with love and healing. 🙏🙏🙏
I have been sober since Nov 27, 2021. I go to meeting and change my circle of friends. Thank you for encouraging people to get the necessary help and support. My husband and I recently move from Denton, TX to Lewisville/Coppell, TX. There has been freedom. The struggle is really. My relationship with my husband, children, co-workers, employer, extended family, and the clubhouse. Jacob, who can do this.
Oooooo, this call made me cry. How very awesome Jacob!!!! 🎉
I'm struggling too i love alcohol
Help me God
Surrender
I encourage you to go to a support group and start talking to other alcoholics. You can get through the pain.
How are you doing now?
You need to quite that mind set, I used to “love” alcohol but I just loved the feeling. I actually hate alchol it is poison and can finally feel again
I'm on 9 months no drinking, realizing how low self-esteem I have, which I had in highschool, but man my sleep is so much better
Congratulations!
Celebrate Recovery is a great place to find freedom from Hurts, Habits and hang ups!
Love you caller for your heart. Don't worry about the chaos. You have Effiin.... survived all of that. Please start to breathe and find your real friends...sometimes your children are more loyal than you believe or even deserve. Show up with good intentions and a clean heart. I miss my father.
Congratulations Jacob you can do it. I am so happy for you. I was one of you, you do need to look for a place for help. It helps tremendously congratulations and good luck. Keep up the good Effort wonderful
He’s not wrong when he says you wake up and question everything and everyone in your life. I’ve been in the rebuilding phase for a few months now, and I didn’t know it was part of it. Very scary and healing.
It's definitely not what I thought it was going to be.
Ive just hit 14 months by myself. Not sure if I’ll need AA but so far I feel good about it.
It’s true-you can’t do it by yourself-give it to God-allow Him to walk with you.
Let me also just say I love Drs advice about going to AA meetings... I got sober by myself... and it was a depressing weird journey trying to find/reinvent myself it would have been so much better to have been in a community looking back even now I might go
My dad had stops drinking and smoking by himself cold turkey...You need a hobby or try a bunch of new stuff until you find something you like or go out. need something in your mouth? Take a sparkling flavor water something with zero calories replaces the bad habit with something that is OK to have. Go hit the gym or make a cheap one at home listen to music or the tv while doing it. Make a goal to read a book .
Play an instrument, read, write, exercise, learn a language, volunteer, etc.
I haven’t had a drink since late last month. So it’s been almost month. Longest I’ve gone without it. I’m a musician and I played a show sober and it was not fun. Music is more fun with booze.
This was beautifully said John
"People say I've got a drinking problem" 🎶
Find AA Meetings in your area that you feel comfortable at, our small town has quite a few different AA Meetings.
one of the best videos ever seen i needed this so much!!!!
Almost 1 year sober. Here are a few things:
AA meetings
Brazilian Jiu Jitsu
Write and do stand up comedy
Read new books (Allen Carr - Quit Drinking without willpower)
Walk the dog
Walk around Costco
Go to library
Tarot cards
Meditate
Write gratitude list
Pray
Remember, cravings will pass. Accept that they will come but remember that they will go.
MEETINGS MEETINGS MEETINGS
Your wife and kids are going to love you!!! Best of luck. Meetings. Good friends. And guess what??? No hangovers! 👏
Every time I choose to get really clear, to be totally sober for months on end, I don’t have dependency/ it’s not a true addiction to overcome. Still, I find that exercising becomes excessive; I feel hyperactive. I find more healthy fillers but feel so intensely about them and am so intense in the way I utilize them that it feels a little off still. Like substances aren't really my issue, it’s an inability to create sustainable balance with whatever I do. 🧐😕
It's been a year since I stopped drinking. I don't go to meetings. Never will because I don't believe in cults! Im only partially joking. If you can't do it alone, then you really dont want to do it. At the end of the day, you are responsible for your actions. I still do all of the same activities I did before. That is why it has been easy. I like watching football at the bar on Sundays. I kept watching football at he bar. At first, the habit of it all was rough. I did controlled exposure. I refused to hide from the things I wanted. After a few weeks it was super normal. I even played flip cup but filled my cup with water!!!! Water fasting helped tremendously. I learned so much about how to control my actions.
The secret was subconscious reprogramming. It only took 1 week for me to remove that broken defective feeling that I had my whole life. Once it was gone, everything else was a cake walk.
This is such an important episode. Ty.
Hey, this is the only time I'll say john is wrong.
i just got say you CAN do it by yourself. It's hard but you can do it. I managed it. I didn't drink for 20 years but i did for years but way way more of the hard stuff. Just keep trying again and again. Each time you'll get better at it! That "minute by minute" stage was HARD.
I've done it by myself too. Another time I quit, I did online support groups (not AA), but I found that it just made me think about drinking all the time because the groups all focus on not drinking and how "hard" it is.
Doing it alone made it much easier for me, but I'm a pretty reclusive and being solitary suits me. Whatever works! There's no one single right path that fits everyone.
I've tried sobriety before. I'm two weeks tommorrow I'll be sober from alcohol. It is terrifying.
The hardest part is letting his old friends go, and find friends that don't drink. It will only work if he can find friends that don't drink.
3 years sober rehab for 45 days no aa or na stuff and it’s from meth so it is possible. I did meth for 15 years
The code switch from Delony is so funny
I’ve been clean seven years. Put yourself in uncomfortable situations. Go to school. Join a Rec league. This is what I do I’m 31. Def cannot do it alone. Impossible.
Books ,books ,books…
Please go to the doctor. There is medication to treat alcoholism. See if it’s appropriate.
Breathe!
I'd suggest he start going to AA so he can get some support and advice. At least it is worth a try. It has helped millions of people find their way through to sobriety.
I relate to this. I did struggle to find real tangible answers to his problem on this podcast. Sorry I do love them usually. Just saying!
3 months without porn for me and yes i get this empty feeling almost like what's the point now i bored. it doesn't help i have injuries' to deal with so i cant do the things i like to do , so many people say once you stop the vice, things get better and you are more happy but im not feeling that so far . i decided to stop because i want to see what is on the other side of the addiction Dr john says never do it by yourself but there is no way i would tell people i know about that problem thats the other concerning thing i think of
I’m not saying you should do this because it’s probably terrible advice and you’re probably not interested in “dating” but I actually tell women that I want to get to know or talk to. I don’t really want to tell them, it’s just conversations with girls always lead to talking about my porn addiction. You’re way ahead of me in being free from porn as I’m 52 days free from it but yeah I can totally relate what you’re going through minus the injuries but can you’re injuries get recovered? Nonetheless, I think being open about your recovery to people can only lead to not feeling alone about your struggles. I’m considering therapy.
@@frankalmanzar3492 yea I have one surgery later next month but for the other it will probably be another year , that wait will be tough. Something dr John said on an earlier show helps a bit I just tell my self I’m not a person who watches porn that advice actually does some good
I was hoping he'd say he indulged on churros
Go for a walk it’s fun 🤩
I don't know it sounds like a lot of woo-woo , grab your kids head tell him you love him, the sad fact is most people work a job they don't like or just tolerate they're not there because the enjoy the job they're there for the money and the benefits. It's very seldom you find someone that can have both. I worked a job for 31 years I pretty much hated I did it cuz I needed to do it, pay, benefits, insurance vacation time, longevity. Tuff to drop all that just to go to something you may hate worse. And I really didn't Define myself by the job I did.
I can relate. I’m 52 days sober from porn and I’m so used to either watching porn or putting it down for a little bit to try to hookup with girls but now I’m abstaining from trying to hook up too and I’m not sure if that’s what I should be doing because I would like a girlfriend. So I don’t know where to go from here. Can’t I mingle or talk to girls? I’m a little lost in this department now.
Reach out for help. You're going in circles.
@@mmp495 I respectfully disagree about going in circles because I’m not doing the same things as before. Are my emotions going haywire? sure, and for that I’ll consider reaching out for help but I’m on the right path even when I was I was just hooking up because that’s what I had to experience.
@@denisenicole8271 I’m already there.
@@denisenicole8271 I think I’m too hard on myself. I’ve been working on getting off of this pre-pandemic. This isn’t my first rodeo and I’m older now. So yeah I’m already there but I just have to learn how to be less harder on myself for emotional stability. Patience is what I need at the moment haha.
@@frankalmanzar3492 Ah I see, passing the time does seem hard these days glad you got a cool hobby. we all tend to be hard on ourselves, I deleted my comments since I felt my advice wasn’t helpful or warranted by your response back. Patience is definitely key even it’s tough lol but still best of luck to you man, I’m sure you’ll end up with a great gal you seem to have a good head on your shoulders
You 1000 can do it without aa
You do not have to go to aa and you can do it by yourself. This is nonsense
read allen carr’s easy way
Do the burpies.
Weed makes you feel better
As someone who spent the last 15 years smoking about a half ounce a week up until about a month ago, I disagree lol
Drugs (weed) is the other side of the addiction and substance abuse coin... Don't do either.
Yo stupid don’t recommend that either geeze
I find addiction to alcohol to be so weird... I've only ever drank in socal settings and never drink by myself. I don't get the point of drinking alone. There's no fun in it.
has alot to do with how your body metabolizes alcohol. you after 2-3 drinks might feel crappy and full, bloated. others feel euphoric and want more, more, more, more.....
Go pick up women at AA meetings?
Plant a garden? Buy a metal detector?
Great job!
That’s the reason why as a women when I start stop drinking I did it on my own and didn’t go to AA. I was doing some research on it to see if it was an option for me but I heard stories of how men would try to pick up women. It’s bad enough trying to recover and worry about the people around trying to sabotage your recovery with her own selfish games. AA is not for everyone.
@@Tee94376
Hope you are sober and not getting picked up by random dudes. I think they have women's only meetings, but bulls will probably be there looking for action? It's hard to find that space needed to work things out, but I hope you find it or found it.
I've put down the bottle many times, and every time I've wondered, what's so great about being sober all the time?
Drinking is only 'bad' because the morally righteous among us have deemed it so. Let's not forget, there was a time when it was 'bad' to be gay, 'bad' to smoke weed, or even 'bad' to be of a certain race. To me alcohol is like a gun. If you like it, and you aren't going to hurt anyone with it, then have a blast!
When you have destroyed your body with that alcohol youll wish you hadnt. Youll be youngish, maybe 40s and facing serious health issues. Your life expectancy will be far shorter than others. Why the big hurry for the dirt nap? Dont rush it. It comes for all of us eventually.
@@queenbee3647 No big hurry. Life expectancy is a silly concept anyway. I could get killed crossing the street today! And if I am gonna go, I sure hope it won't be sober.
Start gambling
That will destroy your soul too if addictive personality
Took 9 years of big wins and losses but finally bottomed me out at 37. No money no car no kids no wife and gambling was the primary destructive force. Had a blast doing it too which makes it the sick addiction it is
@@omarzazzle who’s Jeff?
NO!!! I hope this is a joke😆
Do carnivore
He sounds like a dry drunk and needs to get in recovery.
Sober is boring.
12hrs sober lmao
🌱much later You & your Wife can discuss your Hobbies, my hobbies are my kids & my houseplants.🪴