I'd like to note that healthy and unhealthy isn't black and white we all struggle through life and face hardships that may for a time make any of us no matter how patient or kind, unhealthy. The other side of that coin is the beauty of being unhealthy and finding a healthy balance. It's wondrous when you see someone slowly find themselves healthier and happier it not only impacts them but the world around them. ALSO as an infp I have to note. You need to accept when you can't change things from the inside. I basically put myself in a retail blender for years at the cost of my mental health and later physical health trying to change a flawed system. If you don't take care of yourself and find a balance for what you can and cannot handle you will never impact the world and people around you in the way you wish nor will you improve your own quality of life. We are all capable of amazing things but we need to care for our own mental health at times and appreciate what that means.
Dude the thing about healthy ENTPs being hard to spot is legit. I spent the longest time thinking I was just a more tolerant and realistic ENFP. Stereotypes can really mess people up
True. I was confused about my type before as well, going back and forth whether I was ENFP or ENTP. I am considered a "feeler" compared to the stereotypical edgelord ENTPs.
Relatable I am an ENTP with a highly developed Fe and like being a caretaker and empathic ENTP made most of my friends think that I am an ENFP which made me always doubt my mbti alot but at the end of the day I am still an ENTP In addition to that the debate stereotype really doesn't make sense tbh I really have no passion for debate I mean yes it is fun when you find a person who has both good listening and speaking skills so the debate will come with good results and conclusions but when the debate is too chaotic (no one listen to the other one and everyone just want to prove their pov despite it is true or not and it end up without an actual solution) you'll just find me out of it or I simply stay quiet bcs tbh I prefer to keep my internal data and information to a better argument where "winning the argument" is not the aim of it and having fun by sharing different ideas and getting a right conclusion is the aim.
Personally I think the Jung and mbti system is flawed. I think all the archetypes exist in everybody's mind. And for some people one archetype might be the main one that they identify with or operate as. But I think we all kind of blend them all together. I don't think the brain is linear like that. Like, an entp and an ENFP have very much in common. So there's not really a way of delineating the two from each other. I don't really see them as actual solid categories. But that is just my personal opinion. For example, I usually get infj, but I've also gotten enfj, and I've gotten tests that have told me that I could possibly be isfj or intj, etc. I mean, the only difference between infj and intj, is that one of them factors in human kindness.
@@zzzcocopepe I get what your saying, but a major factor of that linearity is the function stack everyone posses (as in everyone uses each function, while some take seniority). Personality will never be a complete science, but humans really like putting things into boxes. Personality theories are more of a tool for self improvement and expression than anything else
Unhealthy Intj: pessimist. Only one problem with how things are going, one problem, and it plagues my mind for a long time. I disrupt every long term effort and give up to short term ones. I sleep till noon, eat very little or a lot, chainsmoke and waste my time. Healthy intj: Regular Se user. I found out that not multitasking and just focusing your energy at one task at a time is the way to go. Sometimes, you must postpone thinking about something, until that thing or event is upon you.
Why are you chain-smoking? Think long term and find a different vice that won't kill you. I like highly technical drumming, particularly involving double-bass, which will constantly engage your fingers and mind day-to-day away from the drumkit... though I think we may already have had this conversation?
As an INTJ I've concluded that these types of videos feeds my Se addiction when I can't sleep bc it's much easier to relate to other dysfunctional human beings than face the world.
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I'm an INFJ and I think that when I'm unhealthy, I also shut down and shut everyone out because I'm too overwhelmed by the state of people and the world. Usually after I've exhausted myself doing the things you said in the video. The whole Ni/Ti loop thing. I can spend months in it and just get less and less interested in social interaction.
Unhealthy INTJ here. Always struggling between how people should be, wise or just thinking before doing, and how they are in reality. "Ok stay home, don't meet anybody, this way you won't be disappointed" Your video is on point.
I was an unhealthy ISTP once and it was not a pretty sight. I was in a really, really bad place in my last year of high school. After I shook out of that stupor, my friends told me the exact same thing you did in this video. I'm surprised they even stayed as my friends during that time.
I have noticed this in myself as well. I get very stressed and negative just before my graduations (I completed my masters). Maybe I feel sad and anxious during that time due to several uncertainties and possible loss of cohorts from my life. But as I can’t realize and deal actively with such emotions, I get to a pretty dark place.
I have to say thank you so much for this video, and it was perfect timing. Apparently, I am an unhealthy INTJ, and I knew something was wrong but I couldn’t place my finger on it. I haven’t been able to “accomplish” as much due to constantly seeing where I can improve and do things better. I’ve always had a need to accomplish something everyday. For a few years, it hasn’t been consistent. I can’t even sketch, build my website, research, without constantly finding a way it could be better. However, now I’ve seen and heard there is a problem. I can’t have that 😂. Now I have the motivation I needed.
Completely agree. I knew my planning was getting in the way of actually doing things, but thought I just had to find a way to make plans more efficiently… If he hadn’t practically broken my 4th wall and told me my character flaw, I probably wouldn’t have ever let it have the chance to sink in. Now I’m wondering what else has been flying over my head🫠
As an ENFJ, I can attest that this is a very accurate description of the healthy/unhealthy aspects of my personality. People-pleaser to a fault but I'm learning to become more forward with my thoughts/opinions.
I really wonder what happens when two unhealthy ENFJs are in a relationship. Is that when you get the "What do you want to do?" - "I dunno, what do you want to do?" conversations? I definitely grew out of people-pleasing, at least mostly, after my divorce and the leaving my ex-bf. But I think certain relationships and conditions are apt to trigger it all over again, even now. It's not a matter of healing once and you're done. I wish it was that easy TBH.
(INTJ) I have an ENFJ friend (believe it or not!!!), and this people-pleasing aspect seems like it will turn off as many people as it will charm. It seems to me that first slot Fe is likely to over-promise and ultimately under-deliver simply by spreading oneself too thinly, and becoming unreliable as a result. As an introvert, it just seems more practical to me to focus more on a smaller trusted group of people, to whom one can promise and reliably deliver things simply by means of not being over extended.
I thought their willingness to manipulate for selfish ends might have been mentioned, as that's a hugely damaging thing to do to one of their "followers", but no.....
Love how theres nearly never any istp commenting on these. As an istp, this makes sense, but its still funny, as it means your probably right about whatever was said about us.
This is now in my top 10 videos I've ever watched on TH-cam, never had so much insight into other people's mind. Like I could always sense the theory was there, but you just put it together. I also feel like real people are not binary, and the MB test should be approached like a heat map of a person's character. Some would be more balanced and others more extreme in their inclinations.
So, as ENFP, is my belief that just “permanently cancelling school” is a perfect solution to deal with pandemics, school shootings, and kid’s and teenagers depression an example of too much reinventing the wheel and having unrealistic ideas for society? Or is it just a totally brilliant plan?😉
Very interesting video, one of the Unhealthy Habits of INTJs are their UNFAIR JUDGEMENTS especially towards people who are emotionally outspoken and exuberant.
Enfj here. I would say I'm rather healthy, but I definitely have some unhealthy tendencies. The workaholic this is the main one I still stuggle with. Sometimes I do stuff all day long, feel really good and then I realize it's 9 pm and I still haven't eaten. I've gotten better at not people pleasing so much and just trying to be myself though :)
Thank you for the helpful video for all types. As an ISTJ, in the past when i was not healthy yet, I was struck by people' smooth ways of doing things. Now I accept the fact that I lack the knowledge, so that's why i'm back to ... learning stage for 1 year before actually jump into work.
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I noticed how the "unhealthy" versions are the stereotypical characteristics we know in other personalities, while the "healthy" versions are what great known persons of their respective type do (or give advice) in their lives.
Very good point! I noticed it too! Really makes you wonder how many people actually use mbti for improvement instead of looking for something to excuse their behaviors and stroke their ego. (really side-eyeing xntxs and infjs here, the rest are pretty alright)
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Interesting. I definitely feel aging has helped this (in addition to seeking out opposing qualities in others). Or perhaps the older you are, the more alternative strategies you've been exposed to.
Istp here. Spot on indeed, right down to that secret protective streak whose random appearances make me re-consider my type, aha. The thing about seeing negative intentions is truly painful. It’s this odd mix of being certain about the conclusion, yet also questioning its legitimacy based on what I understand about the person in question, but being unable to break out of the former in the end. Perhaps one day I’ll find a way out. Any suggestions, istps?
I’m an istp and I found I can be quick to assuming worst intentions but I think the only cure I’ve found is taking extended breaks from people Ik he says that’s probably not to healthy but I think it’s ok as long as not used as a permanent solution this mbti stuff is nuts before realising I was an Istp I never noticed I start off a lot of my relationships trying to be some sort of protective father figure what about you
@@aodhanfitzgerald1491 I am the same way in terms of taking breaks from people. Comforting to see an istp share the same methods (for better or worse). Unfortunately I live with my family and they are the ones who affect me the most. The physical escape is currently impossible...but I'll keep working on it. I'm not quite the 'protector type' - it only shows up when someone is in actual trouble. My main contribution to friendships is listening to them and exploring issues + solutions I think. But it's great that you are, those around you must benefit from it!
I have a few people I trust and use as a sounding board. They are quick to tell me when I'm going off the deep end because I gave them the right to do so. I think it's important to check in with someone who cares for you so you be sure your thoughts processes are sound. When we don't get real time data we can make bad logical arguments that seem accurate on the surface
I like psychology. I have enjoyed every moment in learning things. And I will continue to do so just for the sake of learning. But seeing how divisive people have become online over this new 'system' and use it as a way to show arrogance/power/underestimate/hurt/drag people is just too unhealthy for me to handle. Thank you for being a different type of creator who tries to understand people. I will try to limit myself from engaging too much but I will continue to seek ways to help (if I can) and support your work. I really, really appreciate everything you do. Thank you 🙏🏻
Not me, an unhealthy INFP, coming to this video to see what an unhealthy INFP looks like just to confirm that I know what an unhealthy INFP looks. - An unhealthy INFP 😊
I'd finally settled on me being an INFP but me at my most unhealthy resembles INFJ more. I've always put other peoples wants over my own needs to the point that I stay in toxic situations because I can see their side of the situation and I don't want to hurt their feelings by not at least trying to meet them halfway... even when they never make the same effort in return. I want to be liked and seen as helpful so I tell myself I will play along for now and wait till the time is right. Even my abusive relationship with my sister didn't end immediately once I made up my mind about going no contact because I saw how hard things were for her and was scared how cutting ties with her would make things worse for her. But just because I relate to this doesn't make me INFJ right? I really don't want to start all over in typing myself. I just managed to convince myself I'm not ENFP nor INTP.
INFP's are designed to outlast any storm with their Si child. Now take a look on what you just wrote. You are choosing the waiting game (Si) and not the INFJ door slam (Se) fx. You may also want to look up repulsion switch for Fi users. And lastly Linda Berens interacting styles or CSJ typegrid. This should help you a lot to figure out your type. I'm an INFP too.
@@Popcorn_Assassin Thank you. Just looked up repulsion switch and suddenly a lot of things makes so much sense. I also learned along the way more about grips and loops and I can definitely say I've felt both of those at some point. My grip in particular comes with something I call "autopilot mode" which I've worried about over using for some time now. I think I need to work on a little more self care.
This is amazing. This gives me an idea that you should really make a video on the types being in their grips and really coming across as their opposite types a lot of the times!
it seems like in many ways unhealthy/ healthy can be interchanged with immature/ mature. the staunch idealism of youth mellows with age it seems. for the infp anyway imho
Yeah, I think a lot of the stuff in this video has to do with maturity and well-roundedness. There's definitely other ways for the types to be unhealthy, especially if you bring actual mental health issues into the picture.
As an Infj, I do relate to the unhealthy infp trait of getting into ruts. This is due to depression and burnout. I'll distract myself with binge-watching TV shows, eating things that aren't so great for my body, and online shopping a bit too much. An infj unhealthy trait of mine is I feel like I'm never doing enough for people, that I'm moving too slowly and often distracted. Thank you for the video!
INTJ input (sorry can't help it): Unhealthy version: indulging in sensory looping as a way of procrastination / avoiding the issue. Excessive overthinking. Extremely self-critical. Healthy version: not afraid to speak their mind and stick to their high standards. ** Methodical decision making. ** I honestly don't think any INTJ should ever settle just for the sake of 'getting along'. To me that would be a massive letdown. To thine own self be true is the only way we can exist.
Struggling to stop being people pleasing...im boiling to just saying it while i dont care about the oppinions that do nothing for me ......even have a vad habbit of apologising where i dont need to say sorry for
Dang, these are pretty accurate for some people I know (INTP, ENFP, and INTJ). When I was an unhealthy INTJ, I definitely felt like I had to break myself out of ice to connect with people. I felt that superiority/disappointment mixture. Like, “why couldn’t there be some people like me?” It takes time to learn to get used to people forgetting things, repeating themselves, and getting used to conversing in general lol To get over my unhealthy mindset, I really had to empathize with my friends, and learn that I can, really, gain something from any conversation. Interacting gives knowledge, fun, and learning moments
The thing about INFJ is so true. I find myself offering to take risks and not waiting for the best moment while absolutely quivering inside. I take it as a way to combat my perfectionistic tendencies.
Hey love who i want to add a thing to the infj when we are bad we become easily irritable with little unthankfullness and we need to talk our rage but at the same time we try to hide it.
I’m an… I/E…NTJ. Always seeking perfection at myself and making personal growth my primary objective. I don’t understand the concept of being ok with mediocrity. For me it’s like accepting defeat and acknowledging self-Failure. Someone help me understand the other side of this.
Accepting mediocrity and setting realistic standards are two different things. I think a marriage between your perspective (seeing from different types of lenses) and effectiveness (your metrics/standards/test) will give you understanding to differentiate the two. Applications: 1) Try to record and measure your results and make that your own standard, or whatever productivity gurus set things up. You'll have bad days and that will put into perspective on how you can be mediocre and bad sometimes...and that's okay. 2) Don't expect other people to match your standards. Record or mental note your team member's performance, then set it up as their standard. If you want your team to perform at their optimal level (especially in crucial moments), then find their values and use it. Since everyone is a slave to something. 3) Mediocrity is fine as long as it's not about your career or your values. If it's about games that don't really matter to you because of past time, then playing like a game journalist is fine. Meditation helps to calm things down. P.S. You probably knew these stuff but role-playing as a "sage" in internet is fun as an INTP.
I feel like very mature and well developed ENTPS can resemble ESFJ’s in social situations in the same way that a mature and well developed INTP can get mixed up with an ISFJ. One of my teachers I mistook for an ESFJ but when he expressed his life story, values, beliefs, and perspective on life he further resembled an ENTP to me.
"Too willing to follow their emotional whims down whatever bizarre avenues and alleyways it takes them, becoming somewhat ungrounded, as a result" Thank you! As a particularly whimsical ENFP, this happens to me a lot. If I follow my fancy without restraint I'll lose my attachment to reality and my obligations. Unfortunately, I mean that quite literally; the world becomes a big blur of feelings and concepts and the real, practical world becomes so unbearable, so horrid and sharp and defined, that I'll go deeper into my imagination to get away from it. I don't mean this in a 'look at me, I'm so imaginative and quirky' sort of way- it really isn't an attractive quality. It means I'll ghost my friends, ignore daily self-care routines, let important deadlines go ignored, avoid negative emotions, etc. At worst, I can get so deep into my own imaginationland that seeing my reflection surprises me- not because of what I look like, but because I have a body at all. I've sometimes wondered if I suffer with occasional derealisation. Regardless - It's the monotonous daily tasks that bring me back down to earth, and as much as I despise them, they keep me sane. On that note - I've been getting better at keeping to schedules! I've always wanted to write a book, but thought I'd never have the patience to actually do it - but here I am, 45,000 words in and still going strong! Must be a miracle!
Incredible, Dizzy, I deeply recognise myself in everything you wrote. I think I know what you mean by this description of derealisation. Good luck with your book. 😊🦾 I haven't started yet, I hope one day I'll have enough courage to do so. - ENFP.
as a fellow enfp suffering from all u mention, reading about your progress makes me sooo happy for you, and hopeful for myself! thank u for sharing i wish u all the fulfillment possible
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The role playing games make use of Meyers-Briggs as well: Trinity has eight psionic Orders. Each leader of each Order represents one of the eight Mentors, Advocates, etc, other games too. World of Darkness, Exalted (Big 5),
I think pretty good!👏👏 ... Should I be open to alternative viewpoints on these health tips though?😄 Maybe it's a good topic for future conversations ☺️☺️☺️
It's a Coincidence for me to watch this in the middle of my recovery from being a perfectionist and a pessimist. which is spot on as a former Unhealthy INTJ.
As an ENFJ I learned that when I‘m really unhealthy I am not able to be a people pleaser. Instead I feel completely burned out by everyone and everything and become very cold. I want everyone to leave me alone and do nothing all day long.
I’ve definitely seen this from ENFJs I know. We even joke that they go into “ISTP mode” during those times. They can come across completely at odds with how they usually are! ~ Nathan
I'm not an ISTP, but that one resonated with me more than the others. I was actually once typed as an ISTP, but I know now that I'm on the Ne-Si spectrum because I ask questions like what if people had birds for ears? Or what if their knee caps were filled with jelly, that seems like Ne to me. Also my Se is extremely low, usually on tests (I know it's not a reliable source, but there are consistent patterns that can help) but I usually score Se as the lowest, except on the last quiz I took where I got Te as the lowest. Usually I get Ne or Si as the highest which really doesn't make sense since their on the other side of the coin, but I guess if they were in the middle, like if you were an ESFJ or INTP then they could be a bit balanced, but them both being the highest seems more likely that I'm probably giving more weight to one than it actually has, but which one? I'm honestly not sure, currently I've settled on being an ISFJ. Great video btw, I learned a lot.
I’m grateful that not all mbti fans are angsty teenagers who think they’re istp, because they hate people. With that being said, what about infp? How’s the Fi doing?
@@pinkbanana1276 Thank you lol, I get what you mean, a lot of people I meet in typology servers or in general tend to be angsty INTJs or "rare" INFJs. Idk if people are just saying they're INFJ because it's the rare type (even though in typology servers, there will be 12 INFJs and like one or none SJ, which are said to be the most common type. However, that probably doesn't matter in this case, since I think that MBTI attracts N types more than S types, and plus didn't they take the pool of people, to decide the most common type, from an office job or something? That would make sense why the majority were SJs. I actually did think that I was an ENFP for awhile, but I'm pretty sure I'm on the Ti-Fe scale, I've watched a lot of videos, and that seems to resonate more with me but also I have trouble with Ti vs Fi, which should be simple, but a lot of things I value and choices I make, they make logical sense, but do I value them because they make logical sense, or do I find a way to make them make logical sense because I value them?
@@olivia-performanceartist3693 That's a bit of a shock to me, because I always thought ISTPs were the most intuitive out of the sensors, except for ISFPs, but it makes a bit of sense now why my ISTP brother never knows that I'm joking because I'll think of something funny to respond to something sometimes (mostly abstract responses), and it's almost like he gets offended because he doesn't get it or something, and even though I'm laughing when I tell the joke, he still doesn't know that I'm joking, but that could be inferior Fe.
@@oakhoax168 yep this is EXACTLY my experience with ISTPs, they just don't 'get' a quirky sense of humour, and if they are in a sour mood (which is often) being too chirpy will just annoy them even more. NT types though really appreciate random humour!!
Hello Nathan. I am just wondering whether you edited the video and changed the pitch a little bit lower starting from INFP? This possibly unhealthy INTP prefers your original voice pitch. Know however that this video is an excellent take in differentiating the 16 personalities healthy vs unhealthy ones and I appreciate it.
with the "-T" i know u did the 16personalities test, lol. that thing is based in the BIG-5. like the others comments said, learn about cognitive functions, will change almost everything.
Combative isfps are not unhealthy. There is duality and isfps can be any of those things simultaneously. There are times when it is perfectly suitable to be combatitive and its a healthy to learn that skill. Socionics Se is all about healthy assertion and force. All the qualities mentioned are of healthy isfps. Broody and moody is an Fi skill XD. It's perfectly healthy because sometimes it's amazing to react in such a way and get your needs met. It's life changing to be both sides of the coin and there is no such thing as truly unhealthy when you are balanced. If you are a stickler to one sidedness that is unhealthy regardless of the side you are on
I feel awful for not understanding anything in this video cuz this guy put so many big words I don't understand. English is not my first language but I think I'm pretty good. I just can't follow what he's saying
the British pronunciation of "hedonism" isn't very hedonistic. the American pronunciation has a gleefully long "e" followed by a rather libidinous schwa sound. Ergo, the Americam pronunciation is more hedonistic.
I didn't know that there was such a thing as healthy infps, even if they were categorized as healthy by the video, every infp including myself that I've met either has trauma abandonment or commitment issues,depression, anxiety, or is people pleasing to the point where they feel that people won't like them unless they do everything in their power to make everyone else happy.
I've made the same observatiom which has led me to believr that Infps arr made rather than born, and were maxbe supposed to grow to healthy enfps, esfps or enfjs had their development not been interrupted by trauma. To an extent, I personally believe almost all introverted types suffered some sort of trauma to "make" them introverted. I think intraversion or social anxiety is not a natural thing - me, also intraverted xD
Unhealthy INFP: Bossy, Hard-nosed, Unwilling to listen to other points of view, self-isolates, violates other's boundaries for the sake of their own emotions, makes other people responsible for their sensitivity. Healthy INFP: Chill as hell, beliefs strong enough to withstand considering other points of view, comfortable with their emotions, uses them as a strength
Oh my god, my mum is definitely an unhealthy ESFJ, too intrusive and always blaming us that we aren’t caring the same as she does. I have a dear friend who is INFP, a little bit unhealthy too, and a very unhealthy ESFP and ENFJ
I strongly disagree with the perfect moment point that you bring up regarding infj. Because, if you take a step back and look and see when the actual perfect moment is, then that is the perfect moment. That saying, that there's never a perfect moment, that applies to a different issue than INFJ's issues. "There's never a perfect moment" is for the person who refuses to take the Next Step. Infj doesn't refuse to take the next step. They're timing it correctly. That saying has always confused me, it's never been used directly toward me, but whenever people say it it always throws me off because I always do things at the appropriate time. And the appropriate time is the perfect moment. So it's just kind of funny that you bring that up regarding infj, because we do have a link to that, but it's kind of inverted. For us, the advice would be to trust our instinct and do wait for that perfect moment. Because we read all the instructions and we see how it works and we know when the perfect moment is going to hit and that's when you strike. Another saying that always gets me is that you have to step outside your comfort zone. That's not how I operate. I have already made it my comfort zone to be open to new experiences. So if you're comfortable with being open-minded, then why the hell would I step out of that zone. I'm already in the zone. That advice is more for people who are close minded. Not that anyone applied it to INFJ here. But yeah it always confuses me when people say that. But I guess it is a good saying because it encourages people to be open-minded. But I don't think you should be uncomfortable with that. I think you should be comfortable with healthy growth. Rather than stepping outside your comfort zone, I think you should get in the zone. Honestly my biggest issue as an infj is dealing with the other types. Most of the types are extremely disrespectful and close-minded. So I think, for me to grow from where I am, I need to learn to stop trying to lift people up who refuse to be uplifted. Because it's just causing me anger
I guess you are not open minded enough nor comfortable in "stepping out of comfort zone" as you proclaimed, base on my evaluation from the last paragraph. Open minded people never gets mad at people for being "close minded". I'm using my INTP sledgehammer but...Have you ever thought that you're the one whose being negative or close minded all this time? If you want to stop uplifting people who refuses to be positive, then....I don't have genuine advice for this. Having apathy is just natural for me so I don't have steps nor practical application for this. Try to change your values I guess.... like "helping people through problem solving" rather than "helping people through happiness meter". -INteaP
I am Infj too and while that desire to look for the perfect time is good, there isn't always a perfect time. Sometimes you have to take the chance before you else you would be paralysed by all the possibilities you have mapped out about the future and then the days keep getting wasted.
I HATE the UNHEALTHY label!! Sooo much! Because in MBTI community people easily dismiss the "unhealthy" type as not the real/healthy type, and therfore the "unhealthy" doesn't count. Soooo annoying. 🙄 Weather you're in a "healthy/unhealthy" state, all of these behaviors represent your type and are therefore VALID!! OK, my rant for today is done, carry on. -intj
It's more of how stereotypes the "unhealthy" versions are, while the "healthy" versions are what known great persons do (or give advice) from their respective types. -INteaP
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Timestamps!
Each personality type with unhealthy going first and healthy going second
Intro 1:40
ESTP 2:26 & 3:02
ENTP 3:37 & 4:18
INTP 4:55 & 5:33
ISFJ 6:08 & 6:46
ISFP 7:22 & 8:02
ESFP 8:28 & 9:01
ENFP:]] 9:36 & 10:21
INFP 10:57 & 11:43
ISTJ 12:20 & 13:27
ESTJ 14:05 & 14:50
ISTP 15:26 & 16:13
INFJ 16:46 & 17:24
ENFJ 17:52 & 18:40
ESFJ 19:14 & 19:53
ENTJ 20:24 & 21:17
INTJ 21:48 & 22:48
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I'd like to note that healthy and unhealthy isn't black and white we all struggle through life and face hardships that may for a time make any of us no matter how patient or kind, unhealthy. The other side of that coin is the beauty of being unhealthy and finding a healthy balance. It's wondrous when you see someone slowly find themselves healthier and happier it not only impacts them but the world around them.
ALSO as an infp I have to note. You need to accept when you can't change things from the inside. I basically put myself in a retail blender for years at the cost of my mental health and later physical health trying to change a flawed system. If you don't take care of yourself and find a balance for what you can and cannot handle you will never impact the world and people around you in the way you wish nor will you improve your own quality of life. We are all capable of amazing things but we need to care for our own mental health at times and appreciate what that means.
Dude the thing about healthy ENTPs being hard to spot is legit. I spent the longest time thinking I was just a more tolerant and realistic ENFP. Stereotypes can really mess people up
True. I was confused about my type before as well, going back and forth whether I was ENFP or ENTP. I am considered a "feeler" compared to the stereotypical edgelord ENTPs.
Relatable I am an ENTP with a highly developed Fe and like being a caretaker and empathic ENTP made most of my friends think that I am an ENFP which made me always doubt my mbti alot but at the end of the day I am still an ENTP
In addition to that the debate stereotype really doesn't make sense tbh I really have no passion for debate I mean yes it is fun when you find a person who has both good listening and speaking skills so the debate will come with good results and conclusions but when the debate is too chaotic (no one listen to the other one and everyone just want to prove their pov despite it is true or not and it end up without an actual solution) you'll just find me out of it or I simply stay quiet bcs tbh I prefer to keep my internal data and information to a better argument where "winning the argument" is not the aim of it and having fun by sharing different ideas and getting a right conclusion is the aim.
@@GG-lv8mi mean I don't want to make you doubt yourself more or anything I don't even know you but the second part of your reply really sounds INFJ
Personally I think the Jung and mbti system is flawed. I think all the archetypes exist in everybody's mind. And for some people one archetype might be the main one that they identify with or operate as. But I think we all kind of blend them all together. I don't think the brain is linear like that. Like, an entp and an ENFP have very much in common. So there's not really a way of delineating the two from each other. I don't really see them as actual solid categories. But that is just my personal opinion. For example, I usually get infj, but I've also gotten enfj, and I've gotten tests that have told me that I could possibly be isfj or intj, etc. I mean, the only difference between infj and intj, is that one of them factors in human kindness.
@@zzzcocopepe I get what your saying, but a major factor of that linearity is the function stack everyone posses (as in everyone uses each function, while some take seniority). Personality will never be a complete science, but humans really like putting things into boxes. Personality theories are more of a tool for self improvement and expression than anything else
Unhealthy Intj: pessimist.
Only one problem with how things are going, one problem, and it plagues my mind for a long time. I disrupt every long term effort and give up to short term ones. I sleep till noon, eat very little or a lot, chainsmoke and waste my time.
Healthy intj: Regular Se user. I found out that not multitasking and just focusing your energy at one task at a time is the way to go.
Sometimes, you must postpone thinking about something, until that thing or event is upon you.
Why are you chain-smoking? Think long term and find a different vice that won't kill you. I like highly technical drumming, particularly involving double-bass, which will constantly engage your fingers and mind day-to-day away from the drumkit... though I think we may already have had this conversation?
As an INTJ I've concluded that these types of videos feeds my Se addiction when I can't sleep bc it's much easier to relate to other dysfunctional human beings than face the world.
I wish job descriptions excluded multitasking. I don't understand why so many businesses are in love with it. You louse up two things rather than one.
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I'm an INFJ and I think that when I'm unhealthy, I also shut down and shut everyone out because I'm too overwhelmed by the state of people and the world. Usually after I've exhausted myself doing the things you said in the video. The whole Ni/Ti loop thing. I can spend months in it and just get less and less interested in social interaction.
Same, though I related to the INFP one too.
Istp the same....
Unhealthy INTJ here. Always struggling between how people should be, wise or just thinking before doing, and how they are in reality. "Ok stay home, don't meet anybody, this way you won't be disappointed"
Your video is on point.
I was an unhealthy ISTP once and it was not a pretty sight. I was in a really, really bad place in my last year of high school. After I shook out of that stupor, my friends told me the exact same thing you did in this video. I'm surprised they even stayed as my friends during that time.
I have noticed this in myself as well. I get very stressed and negative just before my graduations (I completed my masters). Maybe I feel sad and anxious during that time due to several uncertainties and possible loss of cohorts from my life. But as I can’t realize and deal actively with such emotions, I get to a pretty dark place.
I have to say thank you so much for this video, and it was perfect timing. Apparently, I am an unhealthy INTJ, and I knew something was wrong but I couldn’t place my finger on it. I haven’t been able to “accomplish” as much due to constantly seeing where I can improve and do things better. I’ve always had a need to accomplish something everyday. For a few years, it hasn’t been consistent. I can’t even sketch, build my website, research, without constantly finding a way it could be better. However, now I’ve seen and heard there is a problem. I can’t have that 😂. Now I have the motivation I needed.
Completely agree. I knew my planning was getting in the way of actually doing things, but thought I just had to find a way to make plans more efficiently… If he hadn’t practically broken my 4th wall and told me my character flaw, I probably wouldn’t have ever let it have the chance to sink in. Now I’m wondering what else has been flying over my head🫠
As an ENFJ, I can attest that this is a very accurate description of the healthy/unhealthy aspects of my personality. People-pleaser to a fault but I'm learning to become more forward with my thoughts/opinions.
I really wonder what happens when two unhealthy ENFJs are in a relationship. Is that when you get the "What do you want to do?" - "I dunno, what do you want to do?" conversations?
I definitely grew out of people-pleasing, at least mostly, after my divorce and the leaving my ex-bf. But I think certain relationships and conditions are apt to trigger it all over again, even now. It's not a matter of healing once and you're done. I wish it was that easy TBH.
(INTJ) I have an ENFJ friend (believe it or not!!!), and this people-pleasing aspect seems like it will turn off as many people as it will charm. It seems to me that first slot Fe is likely to over-promise and ultimately under-deliver simply by spreading oneself too thinly, and becoming unreliable as a result. As an introvert, it just seems more practical to me to focus more on a smaller trusted group of people, to whom one can promise and reliably deliver things simply by means of not being over extended.
I thought their willingness to manipulate for selfish ends might have been mentioned, as that's a hugely damaging thing to do to one of their "followers", but no.....
Love how theres nearly never any istp commenting on these. As an istp, this makes sense, but its still funny, as it means your probably right about whatever was said about us.
I find it amusing the comment directly under this one identifies as ISTP. You are right, though since it's the only other one I've seen
Yep...
This is now in my top 10 videos I've ever watched on TH-cam, never had so much insight into other people's mind.
Like I could always sense the theory was there, but you just put it together.
I also feel like real people are not binary, and the MB test should be approached like a heat map of a person's character.
Some would be more balanced and others more extreme in their inclinations.
"Seeing adventures in flesh world". I AM PASSING AWAY.
22:48 Happy to know that I'm a healthy INTJ, nice work!
So, as ENFP, is my belief that just “permanently cancelling school” is a perfect solution to deal with pandemics, school shootings, and kid’s and teenagers depression an example of too much reinventing the wheel and having unrealistic ideas for society? Or is it just a totally brilliant plan?😉
Very interesting video, one of the Unhealthy Habits of INTJs are their UNFAIR JUDGEMENTS especially towards people who are emotionally outspoken and exuberant.
Enfj here. I would say I'm rather healthy, but I definitely have some unhealthy tendencies. The workaholic this is the main one I still stuggle with. Sometimes I do stuff all day long, feel really good and then I realize it's 9 pm and I still haven't eaten. I've gotten better at not people pleasing so much and just trying to be myself though :)
_Healthy ENTP are hard to spot_
The same goes for INTJ!
(And yes, you've described my flaws pretty spot on)
And now for something completely off-topic: What's the font you're using for the types? It's beautiful.
Thank you for the helpful video for all types.
As an ISTJ, in the past when i was not healthy yet, I was struck by people' smooth ways of doing things. Now I accept the fact that I lack the knowledge, so that's why i'm back to ... learning stage for 1 year before actually jump into work.
way to use the bully pulpit for the good of the people! thank you for that♡
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I noticed how the "unhealthy" versions are the stereotypical characteristics we know in other personalities, while the "healthy" versions are what great known persons of their respective type do (or give advice) in their lives.
Very good point! I noticed it too! Really makes you wonder how many people actually use mbti for improvement instead of looking for something to excuse their behaviors and stroke their ego. (really side-eyeing xntxs and infjs here, the rest are pretty alright)
I'm curious, what type are you, Jankyyard?
Well noted, btw.
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Interesting. I definitely feel aging has helped this (in addition to seeking out opposing qualities in others).
Or perhaps the older you are, the more alternative strategies you've been exposed to.
I think both!
Istp here. Spot on indeed, right down to that secret protective streak whose random appearances make me re-consider my type, aha. The thing about seeing negative intentions is truly painful. It’s this odd mix of being certain about the conclusion, yet also questioning its legitimacy based on what I understand about the person in question, but being unable to break out of the former in the end. Perhaps one day I’ll find a way out. Any suggestions, istps?
I’m an istp and I found I can be quick to assuming worst intentions but I think the only cure I’ve found is taking extended breaks from people Ik he says that’s probably not to healthy but I think it’s ok as long as not used as a permanent solution this mbti stuff is nuts before realising I was an Istp I never noticed I start off a lot of my relationships trying to be some sort of protective father figure what about you
@@aodhanfitzgerald1491 I am the same way in terms of taking breaks from people. Comforting to see an istp share the same methods (for better or worse). Unfortunately I live with my family and they are the ones who affect me the most. The physical escape is currently impossible...but I'll keep working on it. I'm not quite the 'protector type' - it only shows up when someone is in actual trouble. My main contribution to friendships is listening to them and exploring issues + solutions I think. But it's great that you are, those around you must benefit from it!
I have a few people I trust and use as a sounding board. They are quick to tell me when I'm going off the deep end because I gave them the right to do so. I think it's important to check in with someone who cares for you so you be sure your thoughts processes are sound. When we don't get real time data we can make bad logical arguments that seem accurate on the surface
I like psychology. I have enjoyed every moment in learning things. And I will continue to do so just for the sake of learning. But seeing how divisive people have become online over this new 'system' and use it as a way to show arrogance/power/underestimate/hurt/drag people is just too unhealthy for me to handle. Thank you for being a different type of creator who tries to understand people. I will try to limit myself from engaging too much but I will continue to seek ways to help (if I can) and support your work. I really, really appreciate everything you do. Thank you 🙏🏻
My husband is a very healthy entp, his work is all about bringing people together and getting things done
As an insufferable infj, who's always exasperated with everyone at all times, this video was so validating
Very accurate but seriously it got me how unhealthy ISFP=Eren Jeager XD
I thought about it too. A very unhealthy speciment
@@indrickboreale7381 Oh yes...
You could also add Beatrix Kiddo of Kill Bill.
Not me, an unhealthy INFP, coming to this video to see what an unhealthy INFP looks like just to confirm that I know what an unhealthy INFP looks.
- An unhealthy INFP 😊
Same
I'd finally settled on me being an INFP but me at my most unhealthy resembles INFJ more. I've always put other peoples wants over my own needs to the point that I stay in toxic situations because I can see their side of the situation and I don't want to hurt their feelings by not at least trying to meet them halfway... even when they never make the same effort in return. I want to be liked and seen as helpful so I tell myself I will play along for now and wait till the time is right. Even my abusive relationship with my sister didn't end immediately once I made up my mind about going no contact because I saw how hard things were for her and was scared how cutting ties with her would make things worse for her. But just because I relate to this doesn't make me INFJ right? I really don't want to start all over in typing myself. I just managed to convince myself I'm not ENFP nor INTP.
INFP's are designed to outlast any storm with their Si child. Now take a look on what you just wrote. You are choosing the waiting game (Si) and not the INFJ door slam (Se) fx. You may also want to look up repulsion switch for Fi users. And lastly Linda Berens interacting styles or CSJ typegrid. This should help you a lot to figure out your type. I'm an INFP too.
@@Popcorn_Assassin Thank you. Just looked up repulsion switch and suddenly a lot of things makes so much sense. I also learned along the way more about grips and loops and I can definitely say I've felt both of those at some point. My grip in particular comes with something I call "autopilot mode" which I've worried about over using for some time now. I think I need to work on a little more self care.
@@Takisan111 You mean optimistic Fi + Si loop and pessimistic Ne + Te loop fx? Dont know about the grip thing.
This is amazing. This gives me an idea that you should really make a video on the types being in their grips and really coming across as their opposite types a lot of the times!
it seems like in many ways unhealthy/ healthy can be interchanged with immature/ mature. the staunch idealism of youth mellows with age it seems. for the infp anyway imho
Yeah, I think a lot of the stuff in this video has to do with maturity and well-roundedness. There's definitely other ways for the types to be unhealthy, especially if you bring actual mental health issues into the picture.
Beautifully explained, well done.
Wow, Nathan. This is all the way pro. Very impressive.
As an Infj, I do relate to the unhealthy infp trait of getting into ruts. This is due to depression and burnout. I'll distract myself with binge-watching TV shows, eating things that aren't so great for my body, and online shopping a bit too much. An infj unhealthy trait of mine is I feel like I'm never doing enough for people, that I'm moving too slowly and often distracted. Thank you for the video!
Omg I'm such an ENFP moving into being healthy! Structure! Organisation! Finally!
INTJ input (sorry can't help it):
Unhealthy version: indulging in sensory looping as a way of procrastination / avoiding the issue.
Excessive overthinking.
Extremely self-critical.
Healthy version: not afraid to speak their mind and stick to their high standards. **
Methodical decision making.
** I honestly don't think any INTJ should ever settle just for the sake of 'getting along'. To me that would be a massive letdown. To thine own self be true is the only way we can exist.
Struggling to stop being people pleasing...im boiling to just saying it while i dont care about the oppinions that do nothing for me ......even have a vad habbit of apologising where i dont need to say sorry for
Dang, these are pretty accurate for some people I know (INTP, ENFP, and INTJ). When I was an unhealthy INTJ, I definitely felt like I had to break myself out of ice to connect with people. I felt that superiority/disappointment mixture. Like, “why couldn’t there be some people like me?” It takes time to learn to get used to people forgetting things, repeating themselves, and getting used to conversing in general lol
To get over my unhealthy mindset, I really had to empathize with my friends, and learn that I can, really, gain something from any conversation. Interacting gives knowledge, fun, and learning moments
This video is... EXCELLENT!!! I would love a video about types and attachment styles! Avoidant, preoccupied, secure!
The thing about INFJ is so true. I find myself offering to take risks and not waiting for the best moment while absolutely quivering inside. I take it as a way to combat my perfectionistic tendencies.
Can I ask, what are your take on "Not all type (MBTI & Enneagram) is possible"?
Thorough and incisive. Thanks!!
Hey love who i want to add a thing to the infj when we are bad we become easily irritable with little unthankfullness and we need to talk our rage but at the same time we try to hide it.
found out that my mom's a very unhealthy infp and I'm surprisingly a somewhat healthy infj,, thanks for the revelation lmao
woop woop incoming unhealthy isfp sister, more discovery :D
Insightful and interesting video. One of my favorites. Thank you.
J’adore cette chaîne. J’y vois un moyen d’améliorer mon anglais tout en m’informant sur le MBTI.
I just love Nathans click photos! This one made me smile!
I’m an… I/E…NTJ.
Always seeking perfection at myself and making personal growth my primary objective.
I don’t understand the concept of being ok with mediocrity. For me it’s like accepting defeat and acknowledging self-Failure.
Someone help me understand the other side of this.
Accepting mediocrity and setting realistic standards are two different things. I think a marriage between your perspective (seeing from different types of lenses) and effectiveness (your metrics/standards/test) will give you understanding to differentiate the two.
Applications:
1) Try to record and measure your results and make that your own standard, or whatever productivity gurus set things up. You'll have bad days and that will put into perspective on how you can be mediocre and bad sometimes...and that's okay.
2) Don't expect other people to match your standards. Record or mental note your team member's performance, then set it up as their standard. If you want your team to perform at their optimal level (especially in crucial moments), then find their values and use it. Since everyone is a slave to something.
3) Mediocrity is fine as long as it's not about your career or your values. If it's about games that don't really matter to you because of past time, then playing like a game journalist is fine. Meditation helps to calm things down.
P.S. You probably knew these stuff but role-playing as a "sage" in internet is fun as an INTP.
Your take on INFPs is spot on, as that's exactly what I'm experiencing. Moments like these shock me as to how accurate MBTI can be.
Please mature vs immature types
I feel like very mature and well developed ENTPS can resemble ESFJ’s in social situations in the same way that a mature and well developed INTP can get mixed up with an ISFJ. One of my teachers I mistook for an ESFJ but when he expressed his life story, values, beliefs, and perspective on life he further resembled an ENTP to me.
I am on my journey of being the healthier version on me 🧘🏻♀️ - infj
intj: *reboots* nope, the world still sucks (returns to her ivory tower)
intj is a man
"Too willing to follow their emotional whims down whatever bizarre avenues and alleyways it takes them, becoming somewhat ungrounded, as a result"
Thank you! As a particularly whimsical ENFP, this happens to me a lot. If I follow my fancy without restraint I'll lose my attachment to reality and my obligations. Unfortunately, I mean that quite literally; the world becomes a big blur of feelings and concepts and the real, practical world becomes so unbearable, so horrid and sharp and defined, that I'll go deeper into my imagination to get away from it.
I don't mean this in a 'look at me, I'm so imaginative and quirky' sort of way- it really isn't an attractive quality. It means I'll ghost my friends, ignore daily self-care routines, let important deadlines go ignored, avoid negative emotions, etc. At worst, I can get so deep into my own imaginationland that seeing my reflection surprises me- not because of what I look like, but because I have a body at all. I've sometimes wondered if I suffer with occasional derealisation.
Regardless - It's the monotonous daily tasks that bring me back down to earth, and as much as I despise them, they keep me sane.
On that note - I've been getting better at keeping to schedules! I've always wanted to write a book, but thought I'd never have the patience to actually do it - but here I am, 45,000 words in and still going strong! Must be a miracle!
So well put!!!!
Incredible, Dizzy, I deeply recognise myself in everything you wrote. I think I know what you mean by this description of derealisation. Good luck with your book. 😊🦾 I haven't started yet, I hope one day I'll have enough courage to do so. - ENFP.
as a fellow enfp suffering from all u mention, reading about your progress makes me sooo happy for you, and hopeful for myself! thank u for sharing i wish u all the fulfillment possible
this was spot on
Kepp it up
Also writing a book is cokl
Do a "16 Personalities as Manga or Anime Characters"!
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I notice myself fitting into both INFJ and ENFJ. Interesting 👍👍
Playing on repeat, Nathan!
The role playing games make use of Meyers-Briggs as well: Trinity has eight psionic Orders. Each leader of each Order represents one of the eight Mentors, Advocates, etc, other games too. World of Darkness, Exalted (Big 5),
D&D ( Galen’s Melancholic, etc.); enneagram (nine traditions in Mage), etc.
As an Enfp I am weirded out by how accurate you were. Also I'd say we turn into a devil in disguise in order for gains.
I think pretty good!👏👏
... Should I be open to alternative viewpoints on these health tips though?😄
Maybe it's a good topic for future conversations ☺️☺️☺️
It's a Coincidence for me to watch this in the middle of my recovery from being a perfectionist and a pessimist. which is spot on as a former Unhealthy INTJ.
very spot on
As an ENFJ I learned that when I‘m really unhealthy I am not able to be a people pleaser. Instead I feel completely burned out by everyone and everything and become very cold. I want everyone to leave me alone and do nothing all day long.
I’ve definitely seen this from ENFJs I know. We even joke that they go into “ISTP mode” during those times. They can come across completely at odds with how they usually are! ~ Nathan
I'm not an ISTP, but that one resonated with me more than the others.
I was actually once typed as an ISTP, but I know now that I'm on the Ne-Si spectrum because I ask questions like what if people had birds for ears? Or what if their knee caps were filled with jelly, that seems like Ne to me.
Also my Se is extremely low, usually on tests (I know it's not a reliable source, but there are consistent patterns that can help) but I usually score Se as the lowest, except on the last quiz I took where I got Te as the lowest.
Usually I get Ne or Si as the highest which really doesn't make sense since their on the other side of the coin, but I guess if they were in the middle, like if you were an ESFJ or INTP then they could be a bit balanced, but them both being the highest seems more likely that I'm probably giving more weight to one than it actually has, but which one? I'm honestly not sure, currently I've settled on being an ISFJ.
Great video btw, I learned a lot.
Yup definitely not ISTP, the ones I know really struggle with abstract thinking. If it's not perceptible they can't imagine it.
I’m grateful that not all mbti fans are angsty teenagers who think they’re istp, because they hate people.
With that being said, what about infp?
How’s the Fi doing?
@@pinkbanana1276 Thank you lol, I get what you mean, a lot of people I meet in typology servers or in general tend to be angsty INTJs or "rare" INFJs.
Idk if people are just saying they're INFJ because it's the rare type (even though in typology servers, there will be 12 INFJs and like one or none SJ, which are said to be the most common type.
However, that probably doesn't matter in this case, since I think that MBTI attracts N types more than S types, and plus didn't they take the pool of people, to decide the most common type, from an office job or something? That would make sense why the majority were SJs.
I actually did think that I was an ENFP for awhile, but I'm pretty sure I'm on the Ti-Fe scale, I've watched a lot of videos, and that seems to resonate more with me but also I have trouble with Ti vs Fi, which should be simple, but a lot of things I value and choices I make, they make logical sense, but do I value them because they make logical sense, or do I find a way to make them make logical sense because I value them?
@@olivia-performanceartist3693 That's a bit of a shock to me, because I always thought ISTPs were the most intuitive out of the sensors, except for ISFPs, but it makes a bit of sense now why my ISTP brother never knows that I'm joking because I'll think of something funny to respond to something sometimes (mostly abstract responses), and it's almost like he gets offended because he doesn't get it or something, and even though I'm laughing when I tell the joke, he still doesn't know that I'm joking, but that could be inferior Fe.
@@oakhoax168 yep this is EXACTLY my experience with ISTPs, they just don't 'get' a quirky sense of humour, and if they are in a sour mood (which is often) being too chirpy will just annoy them even more.
NT types though really appreciate random humour!!
Hello Nathan. I am just wondering whether you edited the video and changed the pitch a little bit lower starting from INFP? This possibly unhealthy INTP prefers your original voice pitch. Know however that this video is an excellent take in differentiating the 16 personalities healthy vs unhealthy ones and I appreciate it.
Great topicnvideo as always
I'm looking forward to this video. I can't figure out if I'm an INFP-t or INSP-t 😅 I still don't know lol. Another great video Nathan🙂
Pro tip! Learn about the cognitive functions. 16 personalities is just a unbalanced SLOAN test posing as a MBTI test.
bro😂
INSP?
I think you need to dig deeper learn the cognetive function individually and then put them together
with the "-T" i know u did the 16personalities test, lol. that thing is based in the BIG-5. like the others comments said, learn about cognitive functions, will change almost everything.
yay long video 💖
Big confirmation on my previous judgement after watching this video, I have been dealing with so many unhealthy people😏 - infj
Combative isfps are not unhealthy. There is duality and isfps can be any of those things simultaneously. There are times when it is perfectly suitable to be combatitive and its a healthy to learn that skill. Socionics Se is all about healthy assertion and force. All the qualities mentioned are of healthy isfps. Broody and moody is an Fi skill XD. It's perfectly healthy because sometimes it's amazing to react in such a way and get your needs met. It's life changing to be both sides of the coin and there is no such thing as truly unhealthy when you are balanced. If you are a stickler to one sidedness that is unhealthy regardless of the side you are on
I feel awful for not understanding anything in this video cuz this guy put so many big words I don't understand. English is not my first language but I think I'm pretty good. I just can't follow what he's saying
the British pronunciation of "hedonism" isn't very hedonistic. the American pronunciation has a gleefully long "e" followed by a rather libidinous schwa sound. Ergo, the Americam pronunciation is more hedonistic.
STILL not sure whether I’m an INTP or INTJ!
First! Love your videos!
17:52
I am definitely healthy as an INTP.
hmm according to this I'm more on the healthy side? (enfp) I always thought I was more on the unhealthy side but I guess not
ENFJ, described perfectly!!!
So helpful.
I didn't know that there was such a thing as healthy infps, even if they were categorized as healthy by the video, every infp including myself that I've met either has trauma abandonment or commitment issues,depression, anxiety, or is people pleasing to the point where they feel that people won't like them unless they do everything in their power to make everyone else happy.
I've made the same observatiom which has led me to believr that Infps arr made rather than born, and were maxbe supposed to grow to healthy enfps, esfps or enfjs had their development not been interrupted by trauma. To an extent, I personally believe almost all introverted types suffered some sort of trauma to "make" them introverted. I think intraversion or social anxiety is not a natural thing
- me, also intraverted xD
23:24
smooth over my a**
def going with option one
Unhealthy INFP: Bossy, Hard-nosed, Unwilling to listen to other points of view, self-isolates, violates other's boundaries for the sake of their own emotions, makes other people responsible for their sensitivity.
Healthy INFP: Chill as hell, beliefs strong enough to withstand considering other points of view, comfortable with their emotions, uses them as a strength
I strive to be a healthy INFP
1000th like~♥✨
Oh my god, my mum is definitely an unhealthy ESFJ, too intrusive and always blaming us that we aren’t caring the same as she does.
I have a dear friend who is INFP, a little bit unhealthy too, and a very unhealthy ESFP and ENFJ
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That INFP description hits way too close to home.
I strongly disagree with the perfect moment point that you bring up regarding infj. Because, if you take a step back and look and see when the actual perfect moment is, then that is the perfect moment. That saying, that there's never a perfect moment, that applies to a different issue than INFJ's issues. "There's never a perfect moment" is for the person who refuses to take the Next Step. Infj doesn't refuse to take the next step. They're timing it correctly. That saying has always confused me, it's never been used directly toward me, but whenever people say it it always throws me off because I always do things at the appropriate time. And the appropriate time is the perfect moment. So it's just kind of funny that you bring that up regarding infj, because we do have a link to that, but it's kind of inverted. For us, the advice would be to trust our instinct and do wait for that perfect moment. Because we read all the instructions and we see how it works and we know when the perfect moment is going to hit and that's when you strike.
Another saying that always gets me is that you have to step outside your comfort zone. That's not how I operate. I have already made it my comfort zone to be open to new experiences. So if you're comfortable with being open-minded, then why the hell would I step out of that zone. I'm already in the zone. That advice is more for people who are close minded. Not that anyone applied it to INFJ here. But yeah it always confuses me when people say that. But I guess it is a good saying because it encourages people to be open-minded. But I don't think you should be uncomfortable with that. I think you should be comfortable with healthy growth. Rather than stepping outside your comfort zone, I think you should get in the zone.
Honestly my biggest issue as an infj is dealing with the other types. Most of the types are extremely disrespectful and close-minded. So I think, for me to grow from where I am, I need to learn to stop trying to lift people up who refuse to be uplifted. Because it's just causing me anger
I guess you are not open minded enough nor comfortable in "stepping out of comfort zone" as you proclaimed, base on my evaluation from the last paragraph. Open minded people never gets mad at people for being "close minded". I'm using my INTP sledgehammer but...Have you ever thought that you're the one whose being negative or close minded all this time?
If you want to stop uplifting people who refuses to be positive, then....I don't have genuine advice for this. Having apathy is just natural for me so I don't have steps nor practical application for this. Try to change your values I guess.... like "helping people through problem solving" rather than "helping people through happiness meter".
-INteaP
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I am Infj too and while that desire to look for the perfect time is good, there isn't always a perfect time. Sometimes you have to take the chance before you else you would be paralysed by all the possibilities you have mapped out about the future and then the days keep getting wasted.
me, an INFJ about to click on this video: surely i'm healthy, right?
me, getting to the INFJ part: oh.
I HATE the UNHEALTHY label!! Sooo much! Because in MBTI community people easily dismiss the "unhealthy" type as not the real/healthy type, and therfore the "unhealthy" doesn't count.
Soooo annoying. 🙄
Weather you're in a "healthy/unhealthy" state, all of these behaviors represent your type and are therefore VALID!!
OK, my rant for today is done, carry on. -intj
It's more of how stereotypes the "unhealthy" versions are, while the "healthy" versions are what known great persons do (or give advice) from their respective types.
-INteaP
Listen. I think the point of this video is to help u healthy types find their way to a better mental state
I got kicked or banned from the discord server. How do i get back in?
Movement
I’m an unhealthy INFJ 😭
Clearly, it’s much more fun being unhealthy!
an example of unhealthy infj can be seen in the movie detachment.
Or Hitler if you will
I can’t join discord lmao
Good video
Well, crap! If this is accurate, I am back to being INTP GRRRRRRRRRRR