The bit where she said, “I know I’m no model, but…” *HE told her that* Guaranteed. At some point, during some conversation, he told her that. Gutted for her. He’s a slimy, entitled, arrogant, narcissistic POS, and he doesn’t love you, babe. He loves himself. That speech of his was horrific. Poor girl is in for a life of being put down, belittled, undervalued and made fun of. She deserves better. Imho
Yup, Charlotte downplayed it a lot because she's a sweetie that wants to see the best. But I've seen that kind of emotional/ mental abuse play out irl. It never gets better. He never even mentioned his kids.
@Sonia Linsey idk, she might not be a shrinking violet, but that doesn't mean she taught her son to be respectful. I know women who are total power houses, but when it comes to their sons, spoil them rotten and let them get away with everything. That stuff doesn't come out of no where. In fact, she's might be fine with it as long as it's not in public and just expected him to behave for the wedding. She didn't publicly shame him, she joked that her grown ass son would be grounded. I'm sure he got a talk later, but I doubt it's the first or last time he's humiliated that poor girl.
Just because we don’t get their humor doesn’t mean she is gaslit. I’ve been though that kind of abuse and it’s really disrespectful to another woman to assume by one clip that she is dealing with the same. Unless you are making this judgement by more than what is in this video.
@@vsand9798 Oh, please. This wasn't "humour". This was a man disrespecting his wife and a wife disrespecting herself to please him. He's pushed her to think that way about herself and probably as a way of keeping her with him.
@@vsand9798 I agree, and talk about the go for blood attack on this guy when most of these women probably have not seen the full video. His was edited, and she’s talking about how she felt when she was in high school we all felt insecure and unsure of ourselves. My husband says I can’t cook all the time it’s true I’m not gonna get all bent out of shape about it. Normally I love her videos but this one the vibe felt like it was bash men’s day
@@laurazepeda6701 he tells you that you are just a place to "empty his balls"? because if the entire thing was about "she can't cook" it would be ok to me
Her self esteem is on the floor... her vows are all about apologizing for not being good enough and his are all about telling her she's replaceable... she is so out of his league and deserves better :'(
He mentioned in his vows what she needed to do to make him happy, and that she wasn't good at half of those things. She mentioned that she was 'no model, but thanks for loving me still'. It is heartbreaking to see this.
He probably made those vows in front of his two daughters. If my daughter's receive vows from a husband like that, it would be the shortest wedding ever. Mainly because the guy would have an "accident".
1st story: He acts like he did her a favor by being with him and she acts so honored to be in his presence. Low self esteem is a narcissist's favorite flavour.
Truth. His actions are disturbing. It appears that he sees himself as far "above" her......he's not. He should learn something called "humility".....as well as appreciation and gratitude for what he HAS.
I don't blame the bride for having low self-esteem, though. She is ugly, she's not pretty and needs to see an orthodonist to fix her big buck teeth and her massive overbite. Get herself some braces and a palette expander. I feel horrible for her kids who inherit her teeth.
We only accept the love we feel we deserve. She needs more than just therapy. She needs a hug and some strong ass women in her life to hype her ass up.
So, they have 2 daughters together and they had to listen to their father talk about their mother like that! How would he like to hear some guy talk to one of his daughters that way! Disgusting.
@@rheverendExactly!!! I feel bad for those daughter more then I do the mother, as they are getting RAISED by a person with those standards... The quote, "Every child deserves a parent, but not all parents deserve a child" comes to mind..
If my husband-to-be had made vows like that at my wedding, literally every male member of my family would've taken him aside to "give him a talking to" and every female member of my family would've taken me aside to tell me it's not too late to back out of the wedding.
Exactly!!! My Dad would have shot him there and then. My family would have asked if I was on drugs for being taken in by such a waste of space of a man. In her vows, she mentioned how she loved parts of his personality. Him, me me me. God she deserves better!
You realize that he said that speech not only in front of his mom and al the guests but in front of his two daughters!!! Imagine hearing your father say those things... I would honestly start crying
went to a wedding recently and ALL the speeches were about the groom. The bride came up just a few times, for a few mins. His people talked about him, her people talked about him. He talked about himself and she talked about him. It broke my heart, mainly because basically it was only me and a few others who noticed it during the whole day. She deserved better.
Oh that poor love. My heart breaks for all women and men who settle for less than they deserve. We only accept we feel we deserve. I can help but feel weighted down and sad when I encounter people like that. No one deserves to feel less than.
Story 1: There are already people in the comments voicing all the legit concerns about that marriage. My concern is the children, and what behaviour is being modeled for them. Hearing their dad talk about their mom like she's a s*x toy, and her apologizing for not being pretty enough. I sincerely hope those children have other better role models in their lives
Oo follow up question: were their daughters at the wedding? Did he say this in front of them? Despite his sense of humour: is this the type of guy he’d want his daughters to look for?
his vows basically said "be a better cook so you can be my submissive housewife and give me lots of sex and that's your purpose" and hers was "i'm not good enough for you but I am so eternally grateful that somehow you love me despite the fact that i'm not good enough for you, master"
Yeah pretty much. Dude's so disgusting. And he said that BS in front of their parents, AND daughters! (I'm assuming they're at the wedding though...and if they are, what's he gonna do when they ask about the "twinkie and toaster strudel" joke?) THe POS is NOT at all mature enough to be in a long term romantic relationship, let alone marriage. Hope the bride comes to her senses and divorces him, finds someone better who is actually mature and not a narcissist who puts her down.
@@alexielshadowangel i was thinking the same because his “vows” made a comment/bragging remark on how the kids would listen in on the sex, and I thought it was meaning the future till she mentioned they already had kids.
Yeah, you can definitely tell he is one of those guys that manipulates you into staying with him by convincing you that no one else could ever love you. Dated my fair share of guys like this.
I saw that too. Made me a bit sick. He thinks he’s some great catch, when nothing could be further from the truth. I don’t know how old the original content is, but I hope by now, in some way her eyes are open and she takes those girls away to see there are standards and self love. Kids learn from watching their parents.
First story is heartbreaking. It reminds me of the saying "We accept the love we think we deserve". What's even more heartbreaking is the example she's setting for her two daughters.
That man is definitely the type to criticize his daughters looks too I bet, and the mothers self esteem is so low that it sets a horrible standard for how those girls will view what is acceptable for future relationships. Also, I’d be devastatingly embarrassed, and disappointed if I were one of his unfortunate kids.
The first story wasn't sad because of the vows, it was sad because he had two kids with a woman who has huge teeth and a huge overbite. I hope her children don't have her teeth because that's sad and disgusting.
@@Supersoccerchic Okay, this is a messed up comment. Stupidity like your comment cannot be fixed. Teeth and overbites can be fixed if so desired. Troll you are.
Hearing the story about the guy with a gaming addiction was such a hurtful wake-up call for me... When his girlfriend told their story I was like "Yeah dump his stupid ass girl, you deserve better" and then it hit me like a shotgun to the stomach: I am that lazy, unwashed, irresponsible, uncaring addict. (minus the fact I bought my stuff with my own money, and would never in my dreams think about treating the best person to ever come into my life like my personal servant or not giving her attention when she wants) Not taking any care of myself, barely eating at all, absolutely neglecting my wonderful fiance, not doing anything in the house, only leaving the house every 2 weeks to get my cat to the vet... Thank you for unintentionally making me realize how much of a mess I am and how big of a problem I have. And that this has to stop. I'll get help and do my best to get better. I know this is just some random YT comment thats gonna get drowned out in a sea of other comments but I just wanted to personally say thank you. Unironically thank you for making me cry my eyes out. I'll be logging off for good now.
Stay strong. You got this. You will need to find a replacement for the strong hormones released by gaming that give you a false sense of accomplishment. I would seriously consider volunteering with a non profit or finding other ways to give to others (big brother program, etc) as a replacement otherwise you may be sucked back in.
Take the chance mate! I hope it gets better, if you can't break off immediately, set timers for yourself, to eat, to bathe, to game, to sleep. It's okay to fail a bit, but I wish you the best.
The first video was so hard to watch, you could hear it in her voice that her feelings were hurt. As an abuse survivor I just want to tell her that it's okay to feel hurt when someone is being hurtful.💔
I could have been her. Thankfully I loved my abuser enough to want better for him that what I could ever be for him (or so I thought) even if he didn't love himself enough to think he was worth better than me. A big reason I managed to leave was believing all his claims about me and wanting better for him. Which of course lead to me realising more and more how bad it had been once I got some distance from it.
@@tuftela I'm so sorry that you went through all of that. While you may have been given a different reason for putting distance, I'm glad you did, and I hope you found your worth ❤️
The first guy with his horrible wedding vows spilled out these words in front of their children, her family and her friends toO. Very insulting. He’s a narcissist, and took all her dignity the past 10 years. What a loser. Too bad she doesn’t have the courage to turn around and walk away from him.
The groom is astonishingly juvenile, and the bride's defense was 'we've been together 10 years so it's all okay.' It's honestly heartbreaking she believes he's too good for her. Her vows are sentimental and sweet, and ... Wait, wait! They have daughters and he made those vows in front of them? ::headdesk::
Those daughters are going to have messed up ideas of men to date…people tend to go after relationships with people similar to their parents because those are the relationships that were modeled for them when they were young. How awful…
My 4 yr old nephew has more class and maturity than this creep. I WOULD NOT be impressed if I were standing at the altar, with my husband to be, and THIS is what he came up with for his wedding vows to me. Not something beautiful and sincere, that tells of his love for me....but "I want you to bang me and feed me all day." IN FRONT OF HIS MOTHER, no less. He is ABSOLUTELY grounded for life.
Charlotte, I was disgusted by the first couple. Well, by him and sad for her. You sincere comment “you deserve better baby cakes” brought me to tears. She really does. So many women are blind to their own worth.
That first bride, my heart breaks. I feel like he has been putting her down and making her feel bad since highschool and she probably feels like she needs him because they have kids together. She is so beautiful and seems so kind but so beaten down. Even on her special day.
The way she talked about him was different than how he talked about her. BUT the way she talked about herself was sadly consistent with the way he talks about her. I can only imagine how much of this kind of low-key emotional abuse and humiliation she’s endured over the last 10 years. God bless mom for saying something, though a very gentle rebuke. Shame on him for doing that to his bride and even more, modeling this for two daughters!?! He’s lucky he’s kept her self-esteem in the toilet. She could undoubtedly do so much better. Even if she can’t cook, she’s beautiful, seems sweet, and I’m sure she’s good for more than 1 thing like he implied.
As someone who has a brother who was addicted to gaming, he lost his second wife because of that. She was working 3 jobs, cooking, cleaning, managing the bills, taking care of his daughter from his previous marriage, and pretty much everything in their life while he was gaming almost 24/7. She left him after 6 years. She was patient enough to even last those 6 years and was one of the best SIL I've ever had. The only thing I regretted was that she wasn't my sister, and that thing was my brother.
I got divorced largely over my husband being addicted to world of Warcraft and not working or doing anything but carry large things for me while I paid all the bills in nyc - rent of 2k myself, plus all the food etc etc. we were married for about 26 months. He became violent when I insisted he stop playing and talk to me or sleep normal schedule. He had finished law school and passed the bar and to this day 18 years later has never had a career.
I don't think this is a gaming addiction. Addicts I have some sympathy for. It's a slow burn.... it happens and worsens over time. (Like over the course of 6 years.) This guy became the worst possible case immediately. This was a PLAN. He strung her along long enough to get the life he thinks he deserves.... a domestic slave and a gaming computer. He didn't lose his job over time. He immediately just stopped working. He isn't even pretending to try or care about her anymore. Nah, he was farming her finances to get his computer faster and he thought he'd picked one that wouldn't ever stand up for herself. The fact her parents had nothing to say to her tells me all I need to know about how they treated her growing up and how she likely values herself as a result. As far as I'm concerned, this is no gaming addiction. This is a parasite. We're looking at something more like a sociopath or narcissist.
@@tashokukisune I do agree this is too hard and fast to be addiction. Some people can get selfishly obsessed with the New Shiny Thing for a while, and it's temporary, but horrible if they don't manage themselves and act like an obsessed child. The fact that he drained the accounts to get this thing though, and didn't specify he was going to take so much? That feels planned. Especially with the expensive chair and desk additions. The PC itself was way too expensive if that's all the money they had, but to add a chair and desk that might have cost up to $1000 between them was completely unnecessary, even if he wanted the best gaming set up ever. And speaking for where I live, the top of the line option for a popular brand gaming PC (known for being overpriced!), with all the most expensive additions added to it, comes to about £6.5k which is just over $8k USD (it was about $5.5k without the expensive options added on), so while yeah, he also bought the chair and desk so didn't necessarily get the most expensive everything, he must have come very close. He literally spent as much as he could on it, and it seems deliberate.
Had to pause the first groom due to my face being in pain. I had such a look of disgust my coworker thought i was having a stroke. RUN BRIDE RUN! Edit: "im no model " bride looks like a beautiful sunset mermaid!!!
I guess he is often telling her, who is prettier than her and that he "still" loves her. Wow that guy is so disgusting, just wow. I am not even against bringing up sex in the vows if one is that profane. But it should have been about making her "happy every night", aiming to be her chippendaleguy etc. He really was only listing what makes HIM happy. Guys like that give men a reputation as cave apes. eeewww
She's gorgeous and no offense to him (actually after those vows, absolutely offense to him and I mean this in the most disrespectful way possible) he is the most average looking man I've ever seen in my life.
It makes me so mad that people are just laughing the first wedding vows off like it's not abuse or anything, especially the mom. Bride deserves so much better.
@@missvoorhees7964 public humulation is only abuse a. If you dont like it and b. Youre actually bothered by what he said. She didnt seem to be, she was surprised at most and even in the comments which everyone seems to be ignoring said its not red flag for her theuve been together for 10 years. Why do strangers feel the need to tell someone else how they should feel, how horrible the perskn they love is or how abusive they are. We dont know them, we dont know their life or how they act/feel with each other on a daily basis. Youve made an assumption over a very edited clip online thats not even that long.
@@missvoorhees7964 again YOU have assumed it's abuse, you do not know this couple you are not in a position to judge them based on a small clip posted online. Abuse is meant to be a strong word not just one thrown around the minute people don't like the way someone spoke, it shouldn't be down to strangers to decide it's abuse for her especially when that word can have lasting consequences and if he's not abusing her like you claim could seriously impact their marriage, their lives and their children's lives.
My husband did the same thing as soon as we got married. The only difference is it was his Xbox (we had one each when we moved in together). I talked to him about it for years, even tried gaming with him to be able to communicate with him. After all this nothing changed so I left and took what I wanted from the house including his Xbox, leaving him mine with almost nothing on it. I had a mutual friend help me out who was there when he got home and apparently all he cared about was the Xbox. He wasn't bothered by me having packed my stuff and moved out without a word, just that I took his Xbox. So glad I walked, some battles just aren't worth fighting.
Yeah, that said it all. Man, that’s troubling stuff. My husband has had his share of gaming phases but in the end he’s moved on from them and still chosen me. There was damage done but it never reached this level, thankfully. Besides, he’s a very clean person and he never, ever expected me to be his waitress and maid!
Damn that is so hurrful!!! I am so so sorry and honestly I'm a little worried for his mental health. You seem like a person with compassion empathy and intelligence and loving relationships. So I think you're going to be able to move on with life successfully and happily! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Well... he sounds like someone who'll go into a horrible downward and possibly even dangerous spiral. I truly hope you are having a good life now and I hope that he gets the help he needs for the rest of our sake. He sounds like a sad nightmare of a human being.
Man, I felt so bad for that first bride. I'm glad someone in the comments there pointed out how she most likely has low self esteem based on her comments on herself in the vows. It's one thing to self burn in a funny way but those were just "I genuinely hate myself" vibe type comments. Saying "I'm no model" when she's absolutely drop dead gorgeous but (imo more importantly) when she said "I thought I didn't deserve you". Like girl. No. You deserve so much more than those pathetic excuses for "vows". All he talked about was "haha sex haha im gonna have sex with you, you're so good at sex but be better at cooking", not ONE mention of HER or what he loved about HER. That goes right into my "people that give you the ick" file.
Yh, this. Always I met someone my bf knew first they are like : "I couldn't wait to meet you, he always talks about you and how funny and smart you are." And those are not even our vows.
Wait didn't Charlotte already post that entire first half of the video in a previous wedding video a couple months ago? I know I've already seen half this video from her channel already 😅 it's because I cringed so hard I couldn't even finish listening to his vows the first time she showed this clip! Or was this a different guy who did different joke vows and this is a completely different clip 😂?
Story 1 triggered me. I’m old- not triggered easily. The bride extraordinarily thoughtful & kind, clearly capable of great love and forgiveness , absolutely beautiful and quite well spoken. These are GREAT qualities. I hope she finds someone to share her life with who appreciates the rare wonder that is her.
She is a bigger person than me , if my man said those things on our wedding day, there would be no wedding. It’s embarrassing and inappropriate. It’s like he lived to embarrass her . He did it in front of everyone. Nope not me kids or no I would be gone . Her wedding vow was an awesome, in my opinion he didn’t deserve it .
@@thegalhorowitz okay fair but uhh… to tell your wife that all he cares about on his wedding day is whether he’s going to cum inside her or on top of her IN FRONT OF HER WHOLE FAMILY & YOUR OWN & then give more compliments to a complete stranger & basically say “you’re not even my first choice & if a miracle happened where my first choice walked in the room, I’d leave you without question” ya no… sorry. But no. Especially when you listen to her vows & you see how sincere & caring she is…. He could have said “all jokes aside.. you’re the woman of my dreams & I can’t believe I get to call you my wife” or literally ANYTHING ELSE! But he talked about himself, his balls & another woman & didn’t pay her a single meaningful compliment. Nah he’s a POS. I’m not a serious person by any means.. my husband & I are pretend mean to eachother all the time & have what outsiders might consider mean nicknames for eachother.. we don’t take things too seriously… but if he did that on our wedding day? In front of our whole family? I’d kick him in the balls so hard that he would never have to worry about them being “empty” again..
@@thegalhorowitz i guess the point that everyone is trying to make is that there are VERY few occasions when “can’t speak in front of others” is not an excuse for a shitty behavior. A wedding is the most important event in any relationship (besides maybe having children), if you can’t pull it together for one single day, what does that tell you about your relationship? My fiancee is also a terrible public speaker but I’m 10000% sure that he would write the most heartfelt vow, even if I never hear him express his feelings any other time. Because that’s what you do on your wedding day, no matter how many years you are into the relationship.
All I know is even as a spectator at a wedding, as soon as the vows are being read, I'm getting emotional thinking about how much I love my girl and what I would say to her at our wedding. I could never, in a million years, think about saying those things to my wife. That is just so disgusting. And like, he already has kids with her. Is he seriously still that immature about sex? He strikes me as one of those people who just can't express how they feel because they think it makes you look weak or something.
We cant blame him, his brain is inside the pants and really want to open the pants to come out, its sick. And yes some ppl having brains inside pants so all they can think of is sex. I used to be with someone like him, and these ppl give their gfs no respect at all, no one should be with those kind of ppl
More scary... those two kids are two GIRLS. I can't imagine what he's teaching them about their worth and setting the example of how they should be treated. You already know the wife hasn't been treated right by her parents or she wouldn't think it was ok to be treated like this. For ten years. Now these two girls are growing up watching him berate, humiliate, and devalue their mother and learning that it is their place to be treated just like that.
@Catherine K True. He will treat small girls this way also. Any female becomes the target of THAT kind of ignorance, rage and inner anger. This will not turn out well. Seen it too many times, and had it happen to me too.
@@tashokukisune AND MINORS I couldn't even imagine hearing my family members talking ab sex and disrespecting the others in front of idk... my 9 yo ass or sth. Like wtf, that's so messed up
I actually met a girl that was addicted like this to her gaming system when I was in rehab. Her husband would do what this girl did. She wouldn't bathe either. I'm so thankful she's doing amazing now living her best life. Both these stories break my heart so much. That first girl hasn't known anyone else since she said they met in school. That gorgeous girl could get any dude she wants. 😢
She has had two children and looks fantastic. That groom should look in the mirror. He is fat and as he ages, he will only get fatter. She can find a better man.
Exactly how my ex husband described him being married to me: “no one else will ever put up with your bs, you’re lucky you found me” (by “my bs” he meant my severe depression and self harm)
My biggest concern with those vows is that THATS what he said about her in front of their daughters. Disregard the rest of the family, this is the relationship their daughters have to reference. Concerning.
That first story made me feel so awful for that bride. And then for her to defend it.... she's been conditioned to be okay with that. We accept the love we think we deserve, whether we're aware of it or not.
I blame her parents. The parents who either weren't at the wedding because they're dirtbags... or were and sat there silently letting him speak to her that way.
@Catherine K you can't blame the parents for the attitudes and actions of their crappy son in law. I'm sure if they disapprove of him they've made it known but they ultimately can't control their daughter nor would it be right for them to try to. At some point you have to hold your peace for a greater gain... like not pushing away your daughter.
It was my first marriage. And that only lasted a year and 6 months. Would’ve been sooner, but divorce takes a while and they weren’t willing to annul it. Even though I tried explaining he groomed me and everything. I was drinking the koolaid hard. Good thing my momma talked some sense into me.
Omg that first one was MORTIFYING. I would have walked off and said marry yourself. Even his MOTHER was like STOP! That was painful and humiliating and disrespectful to the bride and friends/family. Absolutely NOT babe! 😢😮 PS. She's GORGEOUS! If anything, HE doesnt deserve her! Her vows were so sweet and genuine. They show how she feels about him but his show how he feels about HIM.
Pervie.. a groom of almost 10 yrs, saying he loves his brides and his sex life.. you women love to accuse men of outlandish rubbish.. go like and subscribe to the mountain of over sexualising women and tell them their "slaying it babe".. yous are a bunch of hypercrits in this comment section and Charlotte's no better..
The second story is so similar to what happened with my husband. It almost broke us. The only reason it stopped is I did tell his parents and they tore him a new one and then I threatened to leave. He has gotten so much better now
NOOOO, sell the pc, sell the ring, HALF THE MONEY so he can't take you to small claims. BEFORE THAT gather all your things because he ain't gonna notice. As soon as you clear the effing PC (possibly by sending him to his parents) just get the eff out of there. He is an addict, and this behaviour is a major, major red flag.
@@Midorikonokami Having a lot of experience with PCs and being in a gamer marriage myself (but I'm a gamer too): The gaming PC will not fetch the purchase price if she seels it, and it's not only been the PC but also a desk and chair, reselling furniture is not a good Idea if you want to get your money back. I'd say: get a receipt of the purchases, copy them, keep the banking account statement that shows he withdrew it from the shared savings account, sell the engagement ring and keep your share of the ring and PC setup from that sale. Speaking from experience in my marriage: when a new game comes out that any of us really like to play, taking a vacation for it and holing up in front of the PC for one or two weeks are nothing new - to both of us, but then we come out of our gaming abodes again and return to adulting. We support each other in our hobbies, but also lay down all the games immediately, if something really needs to be done. To be fair... if my husband came to me during a gaming vacation and told me to "just spend some time together" I'd ask him "what for?" and it'd be the same the other way around. Phases like that come and go - at least with us and we've been together for 13 years now, although only married for 2. You need to know what you're getting into, if you want to keep up a relationship like that and it helps if you share the same interests. It's not an addiction, if you want to take a time-out now and then and immerse yourself into your hobbies. Nobody would call a guy taking a 2 week fishing or skiing trip addicted to fishing or skiing, either, but the same as a trip, it needs to be planned for and everyone has to be informed. I'd break up with a guy who'd take out our entire savings to go on a last-minute skiing trip as well. This isn't about the kind of hobby, this is about financial responsibility and respect for your partner.
@@hopejohnson6347 this is what I was thinking. I don’t believe he was a “novice” gamer. No one spends $8000 on their first gaming system/setup. Because you don’t even know what you’re doing, or if you’re going to enjoy it. He had to have been doing this for quite some time, and I wonder if he really had any intentions of getting married. It’s one thing when both are gamers, like you stated, but when the OP was surprised by his behavior, it made me think he was using her to get the cash for the purchase all along.
@@hopejohnson6347 I'm assuming during your gaming vacations you still take care of yourselves (eating, staying hydrated, showering etc) - because yeah, immersing yourself in a hobby of course doesn't mean you're addicted, but the way the fiance is described here (no showering, not feeding himself, not doing any chores etc) does sound like a red flag. Although with the way he handled the purchase, there's already enough of a reason to consider leaving him regardless.
I've already seen this on Twitter and yeah it really breaks my heart, she doesn't even realize she's in an emotionally abusive relationship, he negged her in his "vows" just WTF and the fact that he obviously makes her think that way about herself too and only sees her as a sexual object to please him. It's horrible, I really hope she sees the light and gets herself out
As a women who really loves to play video games. Married to my husband who is a gamer, too. I have to say that is such a big red flag. Me and He would never ever had done such a thing. No go.
Same here. Most evenings my partner and I play games alongside each other, but he would NEVER use money we set aside for wedding to purchase a gaming pc. Something else is going on there, but no idea what it could be.
I posted this on another video but feel it should be said again… If my fiancé said ANY of this in front of my family I’d literally walk out of my own wedding. I don’t even have kids but just in front of my mom dad and older sister id literally walk out. Like saying something goofy like “I’m so excited for our wedding.. but more excited for tonight” is probably as far as i would ever let this go, and even that I don’t really wanna hear in vows in front of my family. Also… the fact that she felt “grateful” because she thinks he somehow saved her and she says all these beautiful sweet things about this pig just makes me so sad for her. Like she really doesn’t think she deserves better than to be made a fool of, it’s also concerning that he mentioned Margot Robbie (which prob was the least aggregious thing in here) but she has to say things like “I’m not a model and I know I’m not the prettiest girl in the world” like girl what? She was stunning and he looked like a greasy thumb and she’s acting like she’s so disgusting it was a miracle she got a man? You KNOW he’s making her feel like that at home. And she’s the MOTHER of their children. Their GIRL children, what a wonderful role model he is for them to see… good lord.
She isn't the "prettiest girl in the world". Did you see her teeth? Her whole mouth was disgusting and it's a wonder she could even make-out or have sex with her husband to create two children with that man. I just hope her daughters don't inherit her teeth because if they do, they'll have to spend thousands of dollars to fix it.
I hope bride with the purple hair finally realizes she deserves better. He seems like the kind of guy that would say “well we aren’t married ¯\_(ツ)_/¯” when she asks him to be better to her
She was defending him and their relationship, fighting tooth and nail in the comments. Looks like she's way too far gone after those 10 years, he's definitely broken her down in that time.
And, to make it worse, he could be right (from a certain angle). Yes, you are technically (legally) already married when you say your vows. There's a whole process to getting that certificate. However, in many cultures, this isn't always the case - a marriage is binding on a more spiritual, or ceremonial, level. And, no matter how you spin it, those weren't vows. He didn't once promise her love or fidelity. The only promise he made was, in effect, that she would get to choose how their wedding night sexy-time would go (but not whether or not it would happen).
Similar thing said by my ex "well we don't look like couple at 1st place" when I asked him aren't we taking things too fast, bc I didn't loosed my vcard to him. Dw now I dumped him within 8 days after seeing red flags..but I felt sad that our friendship was good at that time...now I DON'T REGRET that about my doings. 1st video was way too HORRIBLE and TRAUMATISING
Hearing the bride's vows made me tear up. She let her heart do the all the talking. The groom's vows were absolutely vile. He definitely let his dick do all the talking. It sounds like to me, he manipulates her and psychologically abuses her. Making her feeling like it's an honor to be with him and no-one else is good enough for her. She put herself down so much in her vows and that breaks my heart. "I know I'm no model, but..." tells me that he has told her this at some point in their relationship and he has made her believe this as well. The bride is beautiful and he is a straight up disgusting pig of a man. The fact that she stood up for him in the tik tok video comments, shows the control he has over her already. I hope that one day she'll realise what he is truly like, divorce him and find someone who will treat her with respect. Because she truly deserves better than this.
Ugh...these poor ladies. My husband developed a gaming addiction around the time of our wedding. It was awful. He didn't just play, but he screamed, ranted, stomped the floor and spewed profanities and slurs. I hated it. He did go to work and meet his household obligations. I knew he was serious about our relationship because he sold his mustang and drove around in a beater to pay off some old debt that he didn't want to bring into our marriage because he believed I deserved better. FINALLY, he heard me loud and clear about how his behavior was affecting me. Getting woken up up in the middle of the night to screaming, cursing, and COD machine gun fire was setting off my anxiety. He initially agreed to some boundaries that included he wasn't allowed to yell, stomp, or turn his TV up when I was asleep, but he couldn't keep them. So after a good bit of tension and me questioning if I could stay in this relationship, he decided that me and our marriage were worth more than gaming with his friends. He realized that he really sucked at managing his behavior regarding gaming, so he stopped. Cold turkey. That was over 10 years ago and our marriage has been mostly wonderful since the gaming exited our lives.
@killerfreckles1162 Good luck. The brain of people who behave this way resembles the function of someone with a substance abuse disorder. In short, there are ways to support him, but an addict won't stop until they decide they need to do something different. I hope he is able to get it under control and not miss out on relationships and other life enriching things.
First girl: their relationship might work now, but if she EVER gets sick or hurt where she can’t do what he wants, he’s gone/cheating, and blaming her for it…
For the woman that fiancé has a gaming addiction, I totally felt for her. My father, brother, ex bf were the same way. I barely ever spent actual time with my father/brother growing up because they would always be on their computers. And my ex bf was the exact same way as that woman’s fiancé once I moved in with him. I did literally everything by myself and the only time I saw him was when he got up to get the food I cooked for us or when he left for work. No matter how many times I’d ask for some quality time he’d always tell me “okay after this game” and followed up by “oops, I forgot. Definitely after this game”. Then he got a work from home job and he NEVER left that chair. After so long I quit trying to get him to spend time with me and I would go out with a friend every few days. After about a month he finally caught on and got mad at me for never being home with him (even though he never spent actual time with me. Once Covid hit and he turned abusive and manipulative I knew I had to leave. When I started packing everything that was mine, he never noticed…..until the day I was taking all of my things to the car. He got mad and started saying hurtful things while also throwing in some ‘trying to be romantic’ things (trying to get me to stay) but he still never got out of his computer chair. I am so happy I left him, even if I had to move back in with my mother.
Hi just gonna state that that guy was horrible and he was using his gaming as an excuse to abuse you! My bf and i are gamers too but we are super respectful of each other, spend loads of time together and would drop any game in a second for each other. Im so sorry ou got entangled with a horrid abuser its a hard wound to heal
If you’re going to expect your partner to look like a model, you damn well better be one! And he sure doesn’t! The way it was so easy for them both to “joke” about it you know she heard all about her “flaws” on a regular basis. I’m genuinely angry at the man and I don’t even know him
She has really low self esteem obviously. It's sad because she clearly loves him, and he clearly loves what she does for him. It's sad. She even says "I didn't think I was good enough for you." And that's obvious that she still doesn't. It's really gross.
Oh my God! Seriously? If one of my sons ever spoke to his bride like that publicly EVER let alone at their wedding my husband would drag him away to have a "discussion" in private about honor and respect. That poor girl! 😡😢
Where her parents in the audience? If someone talked to my girl on her wedding day like that, I'd tackle him. I don't care if I'm splashed all over the internet and end up on this channel.
I have been this bride, I mean I wasn't a bride but I was her.. in a relationship with someone who had me speaking like this about him while he spoke nothing good of me. It was a horrific relationship that (after 4 yrs) had me feeling like I deserved no better ... I eventually left, after one day I just made the decision and walked away, hardest decision to make. Not only because you're not sure whether what you're seeing is true or not, but also because it takes a lot of strength to admit that you did you wrong, and haven't been loving yourself. Even now I am drowning in that guilt almost daily. Very difficult decision she made, I'm so sad because he will continue to break her down without her even realizing it. I hope she gets therapy.
I am proud of you for leaving. Stay strong.....and keep in mind, that quite a lot of guilt/shame is a side effect of long term abuse. Healing is a super slow process, but as you heal the guilt will significantly lessen.
That second story was so horrible to hear bc that's what happened with me and my ex. It was hard to feel he cared more about his game than his girlfriend. He also treated me as a servant. It was very bad for my self-esteem because I wondered if he hated the reality with me so much that he needed to escape it like that. I genuinely thought it was my fault. It didn't help that his words/actions always made me wonder if he truly loved me. We broke up and I was left with my self esteem on the floor. Luckily I went to therapy and am now in a much happier, healthier relationship with a man that actually cares. It feels so nice. For anyone who is in this position, please leave. You don't deserve that, there IS someone out there who will respectfully love you, don't doubt that.
Story #2 reminds me of a neighbor I once had. Wife gave him money and a list for Christmas gifts for their young daughter. He came home with some new monster tires on his truck! She packed up the kid and left. How do I know the details? They had a screaming match in the front yard! Everyone knew how he effed up! To show what a good guy he was, he had a new GF in the house before the end of the year. I'm pretty sure they didn't just meet, if ya know what I mean!
I told my wife how I felt about her all that I could even when I was in pain and she knew I was putting on a brave front. I loved her every day even telling her I loved her when she was giving birth to our children
You are correct... this is no joke! At my own wedding, I'm white, and married a black man who was 13 years my junior after being friends with him fir over a year. He treasured me during dating and treated me well in many ways. Often we were confronted with bigotry and it broke my heart for him, but we were strong through it all. When we were at the church just before the ceremony, I thought he was terribly nervous, as he was behaving in a very strange way and everything seemed to make him more short tempered. I thought it was just a bad case of nerves. Nothing could have prepared me for what happened at the end of our VERY CONSERVATIVE CHURCH WEDDING. We couldn't change out traditional vows, however, we were permitted to say anything we wanted to one another as soon as our traditional vows were spoken. We decided to say things from the heart in the moment and not stress out over writing anything. I went first and it was beautiful and there wasn't a dry eye in the house. As he spoke from his heart, it was the same... Sweet, loving, sentimental and more than I could've hoped for... and THEN... the last thing he said, came from some narcissistic, skeezy (P with a rick) who was secretly lurking inside of him, apparently. His expression changed and he turned to the guests and said, "HA!!! Dis (b with an itch) is about to find out what it's like to git herself busted out by some BIG. BLACK. D!@K, ya'll!!!" 😮😢 Crickets chirped after an uncomfortable silence... little old ladies, young children and our extremely pure hearted pastor nearly lost their minds. All things considered, this was WILDLY inappropriate at what, to everyone involved was considered a sacred ceremony. One close friend of mine whispered in my ear in the reception line... "RUN!" (How i wish i wouldve listened and fled that day!) My new husband changed at that moment and the man I'd dated disappeared forever. A month after we married... he tried to kill me. While I realize not everyone faces the same thing... This video actually scares me for her.
that is so deeply unsettling, I'm so sorry. i went through something similar; my mom married my ex stepdad when i was little, and he went from being our best friend to someone else practically overnight. he use to put me in bed with my mom in the morning bc he had a 5am work rise, he use to take me on hikes and teach me to boogie board at the beach, and when he decided to propose to my mom he picked me up from school, took me out for ice cream and very seriously got my little second grader blessing. You couldn't have asked for a better step dad. He and my mom had such a happy connection. I have so many memories of them laughing together. They made a cool down to earth couple. And then weeks after the marriage, that man disappeared and he became mean and belligerent and impatient. He suddenly had judgements about us he'd never expressed, and because overly authoritarian and crotchety. He never yelled all the many years of him dating my mom, and then he yelled all the time. To this day I can only theorize he just defaulted to this subconscious idea he had of what it meant to be a husband/family head... modeled after his very old fashioned dad maybe. I'm still grieving 16yrs later.
I think this is a classic example of why being together a long time isn't necessarily a good sign. I've seen some toxic relationships last a long time. I wonder if this is the case or if her husband is just clueless
I'm like shook to my core and also ever more grateful to my fiance... I just want to talk to the bride on how she's a person worthy of dignity, respect and love.
I wasn't even in the wedding and I already feel embarrassed. I feel sorry for the bride. If that were me I would have called everything off and left the guy standing at the altar.
I knew I wanted a serious intimate vibe for my wedding. Because trying to be a comedian & entertain your "audience" is not what you want to remember on what's supposed to be the happiest day of your life. My day was so sweet, everyone was so tearful & I will never forget how real the day was. We weren't a show, we weren't fake, & neither of us felt degraded by one another. The fact that he compared her to Margo Robbie & then her confirming that she's not a model was so sad. It sets a poor example for their daughters, like how would he feel if a dude spoke to his daughters in that way? Plus vows are supposed to be what you vow to do for your partner, but he made demands like he's such a catch.
I think it was fine for the fact that the voices if guests were laughing, the mother was lighthearted and wife was fine with it.. if that's what they both want than it's not my business. People just too judgemental and too concerned about other people when the information given is likely not a complete picture. Also this was my wedding and she was the dirty one. 17 years strong
My husband and I are both big gamers. We still take time for eachother. Chat. Make meals. Spend time. Do chores. We respect and love eachother. And we always check in before gaming to make sure we aren't neglecting eachother. There is no excuse for bad behavior like that.
Same with my love and I. Our PCs share the same table, so even whilst gaming we're able to pet each other and talk all the time. None of us would be happy, if our significant other would'nt be into gaming. This year is our 10th anniversary.
The 2nd situation is exactly why I ended a 7 year relationship. After doing so, I realized how gas lighted I was. I went into a drug rehab program, bought a house, got a raise. Best of all, I am with the love of my life...someone who would never make me feel the way I did. It is one of the most difficult things you can ever do, but making that move for yourself is so rewarding. If you are struggling...do it.
Same thing happened to me minus the rehab. I was severely gaslit in the relationship, compromising everything for him, he rather hang out with his friends than me
I have attended two weddings for couples that had been together over ten years, and neither of the grooms would have ever acted like this. The first was my older brother’s wedding, and I honestly don’t remember the vows they said, but I can tell you that it was obvious how much they both love each other. The second was for my cousin and they got married in a Catholic Church, so they didn’t have personal vows. The most comparable part would have been the best man’s speech, but what he talked about was how he and the groom had known each other for years, and he was really the third wheel in my cousin’s relationship, and how both of them probably would have died from doing something stupid in college if not for her. Being together for over a decade does not mean that saying shit like what he said is okay. I saw a video once where Tom Hanks talked about how he always says the same things to couples when they get married. He tells the grooms that they are, “a very lucky man,” and the brides that they, “could have done better,” and that is 10000000% the case here. He doesn’t deserve her, and I hope that someday she realizes that, before her daughters develop complexes of their own.
@@EH23831 for real. And since we don’t know their ages, I’m going to assume high school because that’s the age where you tend to be the most insecure. College aged kids start to develop more of a back bone. But again, both my cousin’s and my older brother and sister-in-law’s relationships have been going on since they were in school. My brother and sister-in-law met in college, and my cousin and her husband started dating their senior year of high school, and ended up at the same college because they’d both picked it before they started going out. Also with my cousin and her husband they went to different high schools. She went to an all girls school and I think he went to all boy’s school. I’m guessing that the couple in this video went to high school together, which also explains some things. My brother’s and I both went to non-coed schools, and I can honestly say I wouldn’t be the version of myself that I am now if I hadn’t gone to that high school. When you’re not around boys your age for eight hours a day, five days a week, you don’t care so much about how you look, how you act, or how the world perceives you. You learn to be yourself and not care about what others think. At least that’s how it was for me. But you could always tell if a girl was going to be around boys later if she was wearing makeup, when normally she didn’t.
That last gamer story hit me hard. I had a gaming addiction (mmo) when I met my partner. It worsened over a few years and got to the point it was interfering with our relationship. She told me what it meant to her, and how she felt when I would turn her down to finish a raid. So I quit. I stopped playing MMOs entirely, and I don't play multi-player games at all any more. My relationship with her was and is much more important. Single player games I can just turn off at any time if she wants me. There's no feeling of guilt of letting people down. This dude needs to get his priorities straight. Almost a decade together and never happier.
I know what I'm like so I've never allowed myself to play MMORPGs, I worry I'd never be able to pull myself out of it if I ever dip my toe into it. Obsessive personality, gotta be careful. Massive cred to you for being able to, seriously. I've been thinking I need to try to cut down on screen time just cos I'm always with several screens doing multiple thing, and I should be able to not spend my every waking moment I'm not at work looking at a screen.
@@Protagonistinfluence Thank you. Massive credit to you as well for knowing your limits and the risks and not starting. Its a rabbit hole. Good luck with reducing screen time. I recommend looking for things which are either adjacent to things you already like or do. e.g. I have a friend who took up cycling and now cycles for his commute. Table top or board gaming at a local store is a good option. Gardening, you could start with a pot plant on your desk which you take care of. You got this!
@@heyy13 I have too many hobbies, again obsessive personality and unmediated adhd. Basically didn't sleep this weekend cos I bought some chains from the hardware store so I decided I was gonna try to make chain jewelry, also cut up some clothes and linked them back together with chains and safety pins. Still very much on my phone while doing it. What I'd really like to get back to is art and studying languages properly, not just half assing it with the duolingo app. Maybe if I got my sketch pad and language books out on the table ready to use. Try to do some half hour timeout from tech as a start.
As the father of a daughter, and a son primarily raised by his mother. That first story fills me with a complex litany of emotions, none of which are positive. I’ve never been more thankful for learning patience, had a younger man with my face and mind attended that wedding. It would’ve quickly become a funeral, that family deserves more than better. And he barely deserves to breathe. Not in my deepest fever ridden nightmares would I say such derogatory things to the mother of my child, in front of them no less. Absolutely disgusting and we’re not even together anymore. She wanted something else that I couldn’t provide, so I left and we both moved on. But that’s neither here nor there, I could never. And what’s worse, the fact that he has her believing all his bullshit. If the gods are real, they’re cruel bastards.
I've been with a guy like the groom in the first video. He made me feel like no matter what I did,it wasn't good enough. It took me years to realize I deserved better and run.
I lived with a "gamer dude" that was exactly like this. He would ignore his kid, he treated me like I was an inconvenience, he even said he was too busy to "handle me" when I had witnessed a violent death on the way home from work. He ended up getting me my own computer and game so I would stop "bugging" him, then got super pissed that I was ignoring him. I wonder how long it would take for this guy to notice if she left.
probably about 12 hours, because he wouldn't notice she was in another state until he realized his servant was gone. God i hope she leaves him. take the computer too and sell it to get her money back. But I REALLY hope that at the very least, she leaves this man
The gaming addiction story really hit home. I was in that situation couple years ago. Had to gather up the courage and left him with his pc. I feel better now living alone.
Man I wish absolute happiness for the first woman. I hope she's in a good place despite how the wedding went and is able to stand her ground when required. She seems too giving and too compromising and I hope that's not the case.
What stands out to me in the first couple's vows is that he not only spends most of his being wildly inappropriate, super crass and with lust rather than any semblance of affection, he jokes about how he would "stick by you I suppose - unless I meet Margot Robbie" , while she talks about how she wants nobody else and promises to choose him every day for the rest of their lives. I'm really hoping that what we saw was just a colossal lapse of judgement and not indicative of their relationship as a whole.
Funny thing is, he could meet Margot Robbie all he wants... but that doesn't mean she'd actually WANT HIM. His wife he's disrespecting so hard here loves him so much, he really thinks he could have a shot at a woman like Margot. And that couldn't be further from the truth. But he breaks HER self esteem down??? No, that's ridiculous and honestly, I worry if the guy is abusive.
"I'm no model".....ah I see. Gorgeous girl with low self-esteem. Sad she puts up with this because she's deluded herself into thinking he's too good for her. Love is blind and this is proof.
She's not gorgeous to me. She needs to fix her teeth and her whole mouth. How do they even make-out or have sex? If you have a giant overbite like that, how do you even get to making out without hitting the other person's teeth? I bet her children inherited her teeth and that's disgusting to me. She's going to spend a ton of money on braces and headgear, along with a palette expander for her children, so sad.
By looks, she's the one who is way too good for him. Sad, that she's not aware of her worth. He is definitely manipulating her to be thinking this way.
Probably has been gaslighting her since they met in high school so she’s been conditioned to believe she doesn’t deserve the world. She deserves a partner that hypes her up. Makes me so so sad. 😢
The vows of the to be-bride marrying the gutless wonder the first story, were beautifully written, whilst se professed her love and made me sad as she stated that she isn’t a “model”, but can we tell her that she IS as beautiful woman and her vows were pulling on my heart strings 😢😢😢. He doesn’t deserve her, whether she empties his balls or not.
For the gaming story. Get a promissory note signed by him for the money he stole from you. You can take him to court over it when he inevitability fails to pay you back. In the note write that there is a time frame of X number of months (I world suggest the save amount of time that you were saving in the first place because you can easily prove to a judge that it is possible for him to save it in that time)
In that respect, they were the same. Neither looked at the person they were giving the vows to. If this is going to be how it goes (bad vows and not looking at each other) then it's best to do traditional vows.
We got married on our 10 year anniversary, thats not an excuse to be gross during your vows. My husband and i roast eachother constantly, we make dirty jokes, but our wedding was a day to celebrate love. The first goom was awful and im so sad that she doesnt see that
Those were the TACKIEST wedding vows ever! My man & I have a crazy sense of humor, & I literally say the exact same thing to my man "I keep your balls empty & your stomach full". BUT I'd NEVER say that in front of my parents, my family etc... Also, he didn't say 1 thing about her except how she doesn't cook well & how she empties his balls. Hey, get ready for a life where you feel alone even though he's in the next room.
I mean, if he said just the belly and balls joke it would have been « ok » and then continuing with him telling about how she is, her qualities, why she makes him better etc. But no! He had to criticize her, tell her how when he finds better he’s out and reducing her to being a c*m receiver basically…
@@vtetrooo1312 yup he literally wants a bang maid and she wants a partner. It’s honestly so depressing to hear how hers were so “I don’t deserve you you’re wonderful” while his was terrifyingly misogynistic and overtly sexual, like it sounded like what a gay guy would parody a straight man as. What a pig. I feel so sad for her and her girls. Truly scary this is their role model.
😢 this is so true, a relationship has to be built on communication and mutual respect which honestly I don't see either bride getting in this video... but in his vows to literally do that in front of everyone, and her comment about not being a model.. to me it just spells misery 💔
Not only tacky but practically nonexistent! I think we all just collectively forgot what VOWS even are. Like even though what she said was beautiful i was still rolling my eyes 🙄! The only actual VOW she made was to choose him, and of course he didn't even make a single one! Over time wedding vows have just become the bride and groom's reception speeches. Saying how much you love and appreciate your partner should be the INTRO to your vows, not the entire content... but that's just my opinion
@@aizenmorningstar how about my years in years of experience working with women and men leaving domestic abuse situations. Why is humiliating your wife your mother and every woman at the wedding worth it because you want to prove to your buddies would have bro you are. Why do you think it's appropriate to talk about your wife like that in front of your daughters? The fact that she felt the need to put in her speech that she's not good enough for him that he settled for her is very telling. And the fact the only defense she can come up with in the comments section as they've been together for 10 years. Because people never stay in toxic abusive relationships way too freaking long. Yeah you're right it is just an opinion but some opinions are educated by years of school and professional experience. And a lot of times what people see outside of a situation is more accurate than what people see in the situation especially when it comes to relationships.
One of my favorite quotes is from Sex and the City. Samantha says to Smith Jared, "I love you but I love me more." That really stuck with me and has helped me set healthy boundaries with my husband of 2 years, who also is sometimes a man-child.
If they ever get divorced (and they should) she will probably get his mom in the settlement. My mom’s best friend’s first husband was a total ass and when they divorced his entire family disowned him and kept her in the family. She made lots of trips to visit them because she loved them too.
At my cousin's wedding reception her husband said " she got her M.R.S. degree today and we're gonna be working on her M.O.M." I was ten and even I knew that was cringey. They got a divorce last year (married 15 yrs) and he hid most of his assets leaving her high and dry and has poisoned their oldest kid against her. Her sister got married a few years later and during that reception the groom spent the whole time networking (since the venue was his night club) rather than meeting the family or hanging out with his wife of two hours. Divorced within a year. Bad track record in that family aside from the eldest son who has been happily married for over 25 years. If a pre-teen can predict a toxic relationship...not good.
I think kids actually are very good at seeing it. They aren't prone to all of the justifications we make. They just feel that emotion and know it's bad.
I had a few friends with problematic relationships. I found the quickest way to straighten that out was to ask them if that's who they wanted raising their kids then. I'd ask if they wanted their children to see what they see and hear what they hear. And finish up with..don't you deserve the same life you'd want for them ? It's pretty effective.
I told that kind of thing to my best friend but she still keeps coming back to the guy because she feels she doesn't deserve happiness.... 🤦🏻♀️ It cme to the point that I threatened our 15 year friendship that if she doesn't leave the guy, then she can forget our friendship. (I had to do it because the guy made her extremely suicidal)
@@loosilu It has been. I had one friend that chose the worst partners I had ever seen. She stopped dead in her tracks. She never dated that type again. The secret is to just deliver it with love. You always want that friend to come back to you. And they need you.
I dated someone for 11 years and there was a reason why we never married, but if we did & I heard that 💩 I would’ve walked away. She is so lovely and to hear her put herself down was heartbreaking! 💔 Hopefully he apologized & he suggests renewing their vows. Just because you’ve been together for 10 years doesn’t mean your marriage will work and those vows would always have me thinking. And in case anyone wants to know I left that 11 year relationship, met a guy 5 months later on Tinder and we’ve been very happily married for almost 6 years. 😊
@@GieLee159 Thank you! 😊 I checked out around the 10 year mark and started socking away money until I had enough to leave with my 3 dogs. People always used to ask why I didn’t leave sooner and I always said because then I never would’ve met my husband since he live out of state at the time. It went the way it was supposed to be.
I felt even more mortified when she said they had two girls together knowing that more than likely they were also there to witness him saying this. He clearly has no fucks to give considering he even boldly and bluntly said that all directly in his own mother's face too. Yikes. The only thing that gives me a sliver of hope (maybe?) is his comment before his vows seemed kind of like a warning and therefore very self aware of what he's about to do. Not sure if that's any better, or worse. Hopefully he's much better person than what we have seen in this video.
Yeah, I'm fairly certain in one of the videos of this wedding they showed their girls there, and they are clearly under 10 years old. Knowing that their two young daughters were there makes his vows even worse than they already were imo.
The woman who’s fiancé stole her $ for a PC must sell it. She needs to leave that man child immediately. No one deserves to be treated that way. She needs to dig deep, respect herself and stop worrying about that guy who violated her trust. Leave now!
Don't sell it, you'll only get a fraction of the cost back, Make him pay you back instead. But first, leave without saying a word and see how long it takes him to figure it out.
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The bit where she said, “I know I’m no model, but…”
*HE told her that*
Guaranteed. At some point, during some conversation, he told her that. Gutted for her.
He’s a slimy, entitled, arrogant, narcissistic POS, and he doesn’t love you, babe. He loves himself. That speech of his was horrific. Poor girl is in for a life of being put down, belittled, undervalued and made fun of. She deserves better.
Imho
Yup, Charlotte downplayed it a lot because she's a sweetie that wants to see the best. But I've seen that kind of emotional/ mental abuse play out irl. It never gets better. He never even mentioned his kids.
I wonder how he ended up like that because his mom seems like no shrinking violet…she should have at least taught him respect.
He definitely told her that. My ex told me that. It’s completely gutting and it stays with you for a long time.
Not to mention she's straight up gorgeous.
@Sonia Linsey idk, she might not be a shrinking violet, but that doesn't mean she taught her son to be respectful. I know women who are total power houses, but when it comes to their sons, spoil them rotten and let them get away with everything. That stuff doesn't come out of no where. In fact, she's might be fine with it as long as it's not in public and just expected him to behave for the wedding. She didn't publicly shame him, she joked that her grown ass son would be grounded. I'm sure he got a talk later, but I doubt it's the first or last time he's humiliated that poor girl.
“I’m no model” “I’m not a good cook” “I thought you were too good for me” babe!! No!!! You’re gorgeous and you deserve better!!!
She's been gaslit for sure!
Just because we don’t get their humor doesn’t mean she is gaslit. I’ve been though that kind of abuse and it’s really disrespectful to another woman to assume by one clip that she is dealing with the same. Unless you are making this judgement by more than what is in this video.
@@vsand9798 Oh, please. This wasn't "humour". This was a man disrespecting his wife and a wife disrespecting herself to please him. He's pushed her to think that way about herself and probably as a way of keeping her with him.
@@vsand9798 I agree, and talk about the go for blood attack on this guy when most of these women probably have not seen the full video. His was edited, and she’s talking about how she felt when she was in high school we all felt insecure and unsure of ourselves. My husband says I can’t cook all the time it’s true I’m not gonna get all bent out of shape about it. Normally I love her videos but this one the vibe felt like it was bash men’s day
@@laurazepeda6701 he tells you that you are just a place to "empty his balls"? because if the entire thing was about "she can't cook" it would be ok to me
Her self esteem is on the floor... her vows are all about apologizing for not being good enough and his are all about telling her she's replaceable... she is so out of his league and deserves better :'(
Perfectly stated. He's a pig.
This!
I couldn't have said it better myself.
Her vows made his vows so much worse😢
Amen to this
He mentioned in his vows what she needed to do to make him happy, and that she wasn't good at half of those things. She mentioned that she was 'no model, but thanks for loving me still'. It is heartbreaking to see this.
He probably made those vows in front of his two daughters. If my daughter's receive vows from a husband like that, it would be the shortest wedding ever. Mainly because the guy would have an "accident".
1st story: He acts like he did her a favor by being with him and she acts so honored to be in his presence. Low self esteem is a narcissist's favorite flavour.
Truth. His actions are disturbing. It appears that he sees himself as far "above" her......he's not. He should learn something called "humility".....as well as appreciation and gratitude for what he HAS.
@@dede4004 He can't. He's a narcissist, he is poisonous scum, she deserves so much better.
I don't blame the bride for having low self-esteem, though. She is ugly, she's not pretty and needs to see an orthodonist to fix her big buck teeth and her massive overbite. Get herself some braces and a palette expander. I feel horrible for her kids who inherit her teeth.
Oooff, that hit home
Damn, that thesis statement though… you’re so right!
SHE thought HE was too good for HER????????? someone get her to a therapist
Exactly.
For real
We only accept the love we feel we deserve. She needs more than just therapy. She needs a hug and some strong ass women in her life to hype her ass up.
@@erikarussell1142yeah, doesn't even have to be a women, just anyone!! I truly hope she gets a better life then the one she has with him.
STAT!
So, they have 2 daughters together and they had to listen to their father talk about their mother like that! How would he like to hear some guy talk to one of his daughters that way! Disgusting.
I guess he wouldn't care ...
THANK YOU!! That was disgusting, and it taught the daughters that it’s ok for the man they love to debase them publicly
@@rheverendExactly!!! I feel bad for those daughter more then I do the mother, as they are getting RAISED by a person with those standards...
The quote, "Every child deserves a parent, but not all parents deserve a child" comes to mind..
He probably wouldn’t care. He’s probably high five the sleazbag
Guy like him would consider them Her daughters.
Only a son changes this type of guy even a little
If my husband-to-be had made vows like that at my wedding, literally every male member of my family would've taken him aside to "give him a talking to" and every female member of my family would've taken me aside to tell me it's not too late to back out of the wedding.
I don’t even know you and I already love your family!!
Especially how he ended with she being able to choose if she wants to be a toaster strudel or a twinkie. EEEWWWW!!!
@@phaedrapage4217 oh yeah that was just…..🤮🤢🤮🤢🤮🤢🤮🤢🤮🤢🤮🤢🤮🤢🤮🤢🤢
Exactly!!! My Dad would have shot him there and then. My family would have asked if I was on drugs for being taken in by such a waste of space of a man.
In her vows, she mentioned how she loved parts of his personality. Him, me me me.
God she deserves better!
what a bunch of weirdos.
You realize that he said that speech not only in front of his mom and al the guests but in front of his two daughters!!! Imagine hearing your father say those things... I would honestly start crying
I lost all respect and disowned mine for less than this shit.
@Khushe Khan It was in my emoji menu
Honestly, given the mild reactions, those kids have probably heard that and worse often enough that they probably think it's normal.
Those kids need to be taken off him asap! He's toxic af and those girls will grow up thinking they're worth nothing. 😢
@@lashinka2574 Yes!!!
went to a wedding recently and ALL the speeches were about the groom. The bride came up just a few times, for a few mins. His people talked about him, her people talked about him. He talked about himself and she talked about him. It broke my heart, mainly because basically it was only me and a few others who noticed it during the whole day. She deserved better.
Oh that poor love. My heart breaks for all women and men who settle for less than they deserve. We only accept we feel we deserve. I can help but feel weighted down and sad when I encounter people like that. No one deserves to feel less than.
Aw 😢
@@erikarussell1142 love the equality comment ❤😊
@@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh awe thanks!
@@erikarussell1142 yeah, all women, men, and nonbinary folx that settle for less. it's sad that it's often ladies that settle, though.
All jokes aside, this may be one of the saddest things I have ever seen. He has convinced her she is the lucky one.
I didn’t find a single joke, this was so disrespectful. And the bride coming out in support? Wth?!
She can’t see that the love of his life is himself
She is going to get sick of this very quick. I give it a couple of years and she’ll be poisoning his food.
Maybe the hair dye got to get brain.
I think his balls being emptied should be the least concern about his balls!
Story 1: There are already people in the comments voicing all the legit concerns about that marriage. My concern is the children, and what behaviour is being modeled for them. Hearing their dad talk about their mom like she's a s*x toy, and her apologizing for not being pretty enough. I sincerely hope those children have other better role models in their lives
Imagine what this man is telling his daughter to put up with in life. Imagine. They are prone to rape and insult from day 1. That is SO sick.
indeed it must be worse for the children to grow up with this man in their midst, might model the behavior or the faulty beliefs
Yes. My first thought was, 'Are there kids there?!' As soon as she said, 'our 2 children' my heart sank.
First girl deserves better ,even if she doesn’t know it. And he’s got daughters and he’s acting like that ?!!! Shame !!
I hope that was some joke to embarrass her, or something. There's no way that was genuine. I mean, if she's into it, I guess? Idk. It's so gross. 😂
Oo follow up question: were their daughters at the wedding? Did he say this in front of them? Despite his sense of humour: is this the type of guy he’d want his daughters to look for?
@@goodbher9244both are equally horrible
@@jessm.porthos he said it in front of his mom I wouldn’t be shocked
@@jessm.porthos O my i hope not thats disgusting
his vows basically said "be a better cook so you can be my submissive housewife and give me lots of sex and that's your purpose" and hers was "i'm not good enough for you but I am so eternally grateful that somehow you love me despite the fact that i'm not good enough for you, master"
Exactly. Some weirdos really so be like this. I just feel bad for the two daughters because the parents are so grossly blatant about it.
Summarized perfectly
it's disturbing and disgusting
Yeah pretty much. Dude's so disgusting. And he said that BS in front of their parents, AND daughters! (I'm assuming they're at the wedding though...and if they are, what's he gonna do when they ask about the "twinkie and toaster strudel" joke?) THe POS is NOT at all mature enough to be in a long term romantic relationship, let alone marriage. Hope the bride comes to her senses and divorces him, finds someone better who is actually mature and not a narcissist who puts her down.
@@alexielshadowangel i was thinking the same because his “vows” made a comment/bragging remark on how the kids would listen in on the sex, and I thought it was meaning the future till she mentioned they already had kids.
The smug face he had when she said she wasn't good enough for him was another concerning thing.
Good catch. Dude is a huge jerk.
Yeah, you can definitely tell he is one of those guys that manipulates you into staying with him by convincing you that no one else could ever love you. Dated my fair share of guys like this.
yeah they both believe he is too good for her
I saw that too. Made me a bit sick. He thinks he’s some great catch, when nothing could be further from the truth.
I don’t know how old the original content is, but I hope by now, in some way her eyes are open and she takes those girls away to see there are standards and self love.
Kids learn from watching their parents.
I came here to find this comment. I just want to punch that smug face.
She is trauma bonded to that man for some reason and she doesn't even realise it. It's gonna be another 10 years before the light finally clicks!
First story is heartbreaking. It reminds me of the saying "We accept the love we think we deserve". What's even more heartbreaking is the example she's setting for her two daughters.
I hope those daughters weren't at their parent's wedding.
That man is definitely the type to criticize his daughters looks too I bet, and the mothers self esteem is so low that it sets a horrible standard for how those girls will view what is acceptable for future relationships. Also, I’d be devastatingly embarrassed, and disappointed if I were one of his unfortunate kids.
The first story wasn't sad because of the vows, it was sad because he had two kids with a woman who has huge teeth and a huge overbite. I hope her children don't have her teeth because that's sad and disgusting.
@@Supersoccerchic 👈 Found the first guy's fake account 😂
@@Supersoccerchic Okay, this is a messed up comment. Stupidity like your comment cannot be fixed. Teeth and overbites can be fixed if so desired. Troll you are.
Hearing the story about the guy with a gaming addiction was such a hurtful wake-up call for me... When his girlfriend told their story I was like "Yeah dump his stupid ass girl, you deserve better" and then it hit me like a shotgun to the stomach: I am that lazy, unwashed, irresponsible, uncaring addict. (minus the fact I bought my stuff with my own money, and would never in my dreams think about treating the best person to ever come into my life like my personal servant or not giving her attention when she wants) Not taking any care of myself, barely eating at all, absolutely neglecting my wonderful fiance, not doing anything in the house, only leaving the house every 2 weeks to get my cat to the vet... Thank you for unintentionally making me realize how much of a mess I am and how big of a problem I have. And that this has to stop. I'll get help and do my best to get better.
I know this is just some random YT comment thats gonna get drowned out in a sea of other comments but I just wanted to personally say thank you. Unironically thank you for making me cry my eyes out. I'll be logging off for good now.
Charlotte just saved you.
♥♥You got this!! I'm rooting for you! Please remember to be kind to yourself on your journey!!
Stay strong. You got this. You will need to find a replacement for the strong hormones released by gaming that give you a false sense of accomplishment. I would seriously consider volunteering with a non profit or finding other ways to give to others (big brother program, etc) as a replacement otherwise you may be sucked back in.
Take the chance mate! I hope it gets better, if you can't break off immediately, set timers for yourself, to eat, to bathe, to game, to sleep. It's okay to fail a bit, but I wish you the best.
I hear "unmanaged depression" at least as much as "addiction" in these kinds of stories. Find someone you can really talk to, friend.
The first video was so hard to watch, you could hear it in her voice that her feelings were hurt. As an abuse survivor I just want to tell her that it's okay to feel hurt when someone is being hurtful.💔
I could have been her. Thankfully I loved my abuser enough to want better for him that what I could ever be for him (or so I thought) even if he didn't love himself enough to think he was worth better than me. A big reason I managed to leave was believing all his claims about me and wanting better for him. Which of course lead to me realising more and more how bad it had been once I got some distance from it.
The scene was shocking
Yep, I'd say she likely laughed along to keep from crying.
@@tuftela I'm so sorry that you went through all of that. While you may have been given a different reason for putting distance, I'm glad you did, and I hope you found your worth ❤️
@@tuftela so glad you've gotten away from that. And I hope you now realize how wonderful and amazing you are, and how much better YOU deserve
The first guy with his horrible wedding vows spilled out these words in front of their children, her family and her friends toO. Very insulting. He’s a narcissist, and took all her dignity the past 10 years. What a loser. Too bad she doesn’t have the courage to turn around and walk away from him.
The groom is astonishingly juvenile, and the bride's defense was 'we've been together 10 years so it's all okay.' It's honestly heartbreaking she believes he's too good for her. Her vows are sentimental and sweet, and ... Wait, wait! They have daughters and he made those vows in front of them? ::headdesk::
I would have walked away from the alter right after he finished that garbage
I am convinced that man actually hates women.
Those daughters are going to have messed up ideas of men to date…people tend to go after relationships with people similar to their parents because those are the relationships that were modeled for them when they were young. How awful…
He's vile
My 4 yr old nephew has more class and maturity than this creep. I WOULD NOT be impressed if I were standing at the altar, with my husband to be, and THIS is what he came up with for his wedding vows to me. Not something beautiful and sincere, that tells of his love for me....but "I want you to bang me and feed me all day." IN FRONT OF HIS MOTHER, no less. He is ABSOLUTELY grounded for life.
Charlotte, I was disgusted by the first couple. Well, by him and sad for her. You sincere comment “you deserve better baby cakes” brought me to tears. She really does. So many women are blind to their own worth.
Yeah, if that's his personality, put it in the trash.
That first bride, my heart breaks. I feel like he has been putting her down and making her feel bad since highschool and she probably feels like she needs him because they have kids together. She is so beautiful and seems so kind but so beaten down. Even on her special day.
Guarantee he told her she couldnt do better than him until she believed it
She has Stockholm syndrome.. he has brainwashed her since they were teens! 🤮 don’t forget their daughters who are kids are there and hearing this 🤮🤮🤮
100% agree, and I cannot believe Charlotte brushed this off the way she did. That shit was triggering and traumatic, my heart goes out to that girl.
The way she talked about him was different than how he talked about her. BUT the way she talked about herself was sadly consistent with the way he talks about her. I can only imagine how much of this kind of low-key emotional abuse and humiliation she’s endured over the last 10 years. God bless mom for saying something, though a very gentle rebuke. Shame on him for doing that to his bride and even more, modeling this for two daughters!?! He’s lucky he’s kept her self-esteem in the toilet. She could undoubtedly do so much better. Even if she can’t cook, she’s beautiful, seems sweet, and I’m sure she’s good for more than 1 thing like he implied.
That first guy is the kind of guy that will cheat on his wife because she won't have sex with him in the hospital bed after giving birth.
😂😂😂
That's both funny and true lol
Facts! It's so disturbing
Oh 100% he is cheating on her. His needs are all that matter in that sham of a marriage.
how the everloving fucking hell does this guy seem like a cheater?!?!m jesus you guys have some wild and stupid takes
As someone who has a brother who was addicted to gaming, he lost his second wife because of that. She was working 3 jobs, cooking, cleaning, managing the bills, taking care of his daughter from his previous marriage, and pretty much everything in their life while he was gaming almost 24/7. She left him after 6 years. She was patient enough to even last those 6 years and was one of the best SIL I've ever had. The only thing I regretted was that she wasn't my sister, and that thing was my brother.
Damn, poor girl.. and poor daughter.. I hope they are ok now..
I got divorced largely over my husband being addicted to world of Warcraft and not working or doing anything but carry large things for me while I paid all the bills in nyc - rent of 2k myself, plus all the food etc etc. we were married for about 26 months. He became violent when I insisted he stop playing and talk to me or sleep normal schedule. He had finished law school and passed the bar and to this day 18 years later has never had a career.
I don't think this is a gaming addiction. Addicts I have some sympathy for. It's a slow burn.... it happens and worsens over time. (Like over the course of 6 years.) This guy became the worst possible case immediately. This was a PLAN. He strung her along long enough to get the life he thinks he deserves.... a domestic slave and a gaming computer. He didn't lose his job over time. He immediately just stopped working. He isn't even pretending to try or care about her anymore. Nah, he was farming her finances to get his computer faster and he thought he'd picked one that wouldn't ever stand up for herself. The fact her parents had nothing to say to her tells me all I need to know about how they treated her growing up and how she likely values herself as a result. As far as I'm concerned, this is no gaming addiction. This is a parasite. We're looking at something more like a sociopath or narcissist.
@@tashokukisune interesting!
@@tashokukisune I do agree this is too hard and fast to be addiction. Some people can get selfishly obsessed with the New Shiny Thing for a while, and it's temporary, but horrible if they don't manage themselves and act like an obsessed child. The fact that he drained the accounts to get this thing though, and didn't specify he was going to take so much? That feels planned. Especially with the expensive chair and desk additions. The PC itself was way too expensive if that's all the money they had, but to add a chair and desk that might have cost up to $1000 between them was completely unnecessary, even if he wanted the best gaming set up ever. And speaking for where I live, the top of the line option for a popular brand gaming PC (known for being overpriced!), with all the most expensive additions added to it, comes to about £6.5k which is just over $8k USD (it was about $5.5k without the expensive options added on), so while yeah, he also bought the chair and desk so didn't necessarily get the most expensive everything, he must have come very close. He literally spent as much as he could on it, and it seems deliberate.
Had to pause the first groom due to my face being in pain. I had such a look of disgust my coworker thought i was having a stroke. RUN BRIDE RUN!
Edit: "im no model " bride looks like a beautiful sunset mermaid!!!
No question! 😳
I guess he is often telling her, who is prettier than her and that he "still" loves her. Wow that guy is so disgusting, just wow. I am not even against bringing up sex in the vows if one is that profane. But it should have been about making her "happy every night", aiming to be her chippendaleguy etc. He really was only listing what makes HIM happy. Guys like that give men a reputation as cave apes. eeewww
I agree with you, she is gorgeous.
She's gorgeous and no offense to him (actually after those vows, absolutely offense to him and I mean this in the most disrespectful way possible) he is the most average looking man I've ever seen in my life.
"Beautiful sunset mermaid"
That reminds me of the time someone called my friend a sunflower (their favorite flower) they were so happy 💜💜💜
First dude makes it sound like he would be equally happy with a blow up doll and a Factor subscription.
bahahahahahahahahaaaaa my ex husband uses that factor shit 🤣🤣🤣 so this got me a bit 🤣🤣🤣
It makes me so mad that people are just laughing the first wedding vows off like it's not abuse or anything, especially the mom. Bride deserves so much better.
Well, unfortunately it isn't a time or place to lay into him...!!...
Oh for.goodness sake, it's not abuse. They have a different sense of humour than you, and that's ok.
That first clip was edited. The full version includes more sweet and sentimental stuff. They were actually pretty cute and funny.
@@missvoorhees7964 public humulation is only abuse a. If you dont like it and b. Youre actually bothered by what he said. She didnt seem to be, she was surprised at most and even in the comments which everyone seems to be ignoring said its not red flag for her theuve been together for 10 years. Why do strangers feel the need to tell someone else how they should feel, how horrible the perskn they love is or how abusive they are. We dont know them, we dont know their life or how they act/feel with each other on a daily basis. Youve made an assumption over a very edited clip online thats not even that long.
@@missvoorhees7964 again YOU have assumed it's abuse, you do not know this couple you are not in a position to judge them based on a small clip posted online. Abuse is meant to be a strong word not just one thrown around the minute people don't like the way someone spoke, it shouldn't be down to strangers to decide it's abuse for her especially when that word can have lasting consequences and if he's not abusing her like you claim could seriously impact their marriage, their lives and their children's lives.
My husband did the same thing as soon as we got married. The only difference is it was his Xbox (we had one each when we moved in together). I talked to him about it for years, even tried gaming with him to be able to communicate with him. After all this nothing changed so I left and took what I wanted from the house including his Xbox, leaving him mine with almost nothing on it. I had a mutual friend help me out who was there when he got home and apparently all he cared about was the Xbox. He wasn't bothered by me having packed my stuff and moved out without a word, just that I took his Xbox. So glad I walked, some battles just aren't worth fighting.
I think I know who he really married!
Yeah, that said it all. Man, that’s troubling stuff. My husband has had his share of gaming phases but in the end he’s moved on from them and still chosen me. There was damage done but it never reached this level, thankfully. Besides, he’s a very clean person and he never, ever expected me to be his waitress and maid!
Damn that is so hurrful!!! I am so so sorry and honestly I'm a little worried for his mental health. You seem like a person with compassion empathy and intelligence and loving relationships. So I think you're going to be able to move on with life successfully and happily! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Well... he sounds like someone who'll go into a horrible downward and possibly even dangerous spiral. I truly hope you are having a good life now and I hope that he gets the help he needs for the rest of our sake. He sounds like a sad nightmare of a human being.
My ex-husband, too.
How can one get THIS addicted to video games that they can't even see that their life is falling apart.....
Man, I felt so bad for that first bride. I'm glad someone in the comments there pointed out how she most likely has low self esteem based on her comments on herself in the vows. It's one thing to self burn in a funny way but those were just "I genuinely hate myself" vibe type comments. Saying "I'm no model" when she's absolutely drop dead gorgeous but (imo more importantly) when she said "I thought I didn't deserve you". Like girl. No. You deserve so much more than those pathetic excuses for "vows". All he talked about was "haha sex haha im gonna have sex with you, you're so good at sex but be better at cooking", not ONE mention of HER or what he loved about HER. That goes right into my "people that give you the ick" file.
Amen ✨🙏✨
Yh, this. Always I met someone my bf knew first they are like : "I couldn't wait to meet you, he always talks about you and how funny and smart you are." And those are not even our vows.
Wait didn't Charlotte already post that entire first half of the video in a previous wedding video a couple months ago? I know I've already seen half this video from her channel already 😅 it's because I cringed so hard I couldn't even finish listening to his vows the first time she showed this clip! Or was this a different guy who did different joke vows and this is a completely different clip 😂?
I would have ditched him leaving behind a divorce summons and a blow up doll.
My heart just broke for the purple haired bride. She was doing everything to make it seem alright.
Story 1 triggered me. I’m old- not triggered easily. The bride extraordinarily thoughtful & kind, clearly capable of great love and forgiveness , absolutely beautiful and quite well spoken. These are GREAT qualities. I hope she finds someone to share her life with who appreciates the rare wonder that is her.
Yep, I hope she comes to her senses soon because she deserves SO MUCH BETTER than that dude.
Yeah very beautiful woman, hope she’s able to see that one day
She is a bigger person than me , if my man said those things on our wedding day, there would be no wedding. It’s embarrassing and inappropriate. It’s like he lived to embarrass her . He did it in front of everyone. Nope not me kids or no I would be gone . Her wedding vow was an awesome, in my opinion he didn’t deserve it .
😂 they prob dont take these things as seriously its a funny memory🎉 Some pple are jokers and cant give deep speeches in front of others
I’m not a violent person…. But girllllll… there isn’t a single thing on this planet that could have stopped me from knocking his ass out.
@@thegalhorowitz okay fair but uhh… to tell your wife that all he cares about on his wedding day is whether he’s going to cum inside her or on top of her IN FRONT OF HER WHOLE FAMILY & YOUR OWN & then give more compliments to a complete stranger & basically say “you’re not even my first choice & if a miracle happened where my first choice walked in the room, I’d leave you without question” ya no… sorry. But no. Especially when you listen to her vows & you see how sincere & caring she is…. He could have said “all jokes aside.. you’re the woman of my dreams & I can’t believe I get to call you my wife” or literally ANYTHING ELSE! But he talked about himself, his balls & another woman & didn’t pay her a single meaningful compliment. Nah he’s a POS. I’m not a serious person by any means.. my husband & I are pretend mean to eachother all the time & have what outsiders might consider mean nicknames for eachother.. we don’t take things too seriously… but if he did that on our wedding day? In front of our whole family? I’d kick him in the balls so hard that he would never have to worry about them being “empty” again..
@@thegalhorowitz i guess the point that everyone is trying to make is that there are VERY few occasions when “can’t speak in front of others” is not an excuse for a shitty behavior. A wedding is the most important event in any relationship (besides maybe having children), if you can’t pull it together for one single day, what does that tell you about your relationship? My fiancee is also a terrible public speaker but I’m 10000% sure that he would write the most heartfelt vow, even if I never hear him express his feelings any other time. Because that’s what you do on your wedding day, no matter how many years you are into the relationship.
Poor olittle o
All I know is even as a spectator at a wedding, as soon as the vows are being read, I'm getting emotional thinking about how much I love my girl and what I would say to her at our wedding. I could never, in a million years, think about saying those things to my wife. That is just so disgusting. And like, he already has kids with her. Is he seriously still that immature about sex? He strikes me as one of those people who just can't express how they feel because they think it makes you look weak or something.
You could be on to something. 😏
We cant blame him, his brain is inside the pants and really want to open the pants to come out, its sick. And yes some ppl having brains inside pants so all they can think of is sex. I used to be with someone like him, and these ppl give their gfs no respect at all, no one should be with those kind of ppl
More scary... those two kids are two GIRLS. I can't imagine what he's teaching them about their worth and setting the example of how they should be treated. You already know the wife hasn't been treated right by her parents or she wouldn't think it was ok to be treated like this. For ten years. Now these two girls are growing up watching him berate, humiliate, and devalue their mother and learning that it is their place to be treated just like that.
@Catherine K True. He will treat small girls this way also. Any female becomes the target of THAT kind of ignorance, rage and inner anger.
This will not turn out well. Seen it too many times, and had it happen to me too.
@@tashokukisune AND MINORS
I couldn't even imagine hearing my family members talking ab sex and disrespecting the others in front of idk... my 9 yo ass or sth. Like wtf, that's so messed up
I actually met a girl that was addicted like this to her gaming system when I was in rehab. Her husband would do what this girl did. She wouldn't bathe either. I'm so thankful she's doing amazing now living her best life. Both these stories break my heart so much.
That first girl hasn't known anyone else since she said they met in school. That gorgeous girl could get any dude she wants. 😢
It seems like a severe depression. Hope he can find his way outta the darkness.
@FukaiKokoro it was a lot of things. The number one being trauma. And SHE has found a way out.
“Thank you for loving me still,” is sooooo sad. He’s taught her that she’s the lucky one to have found a person that can actually love her.
He doesn't "love" her. He loves his balls being empty. As per his vows.
She has had two children and looks fantastic. That groom should look in the mirror. He is fat and as he ages, he will only get fatter. She can find a better man.
Exactly how my ex husband described him being married to me: “no one else will ever put up with your bs, you’re lucky you found me” (by “my bs” he meant my severe depression and self harm)
my ex husband did this to me too. good riddance!
My biggest concern with those vows is that THATS what he said about her in front of their daughters. Disregard the rest of the family, this is the relationship their daughters have to reference. Concerning.
That first story made me feel so awful for that bride. And then for her to defend it.... she's been conditioned to be okay with that. We accept the love we think we deserve, whether we're aware of it or not.
and even her “defense” comment was weak 😢
She said she would choose him over and over or something to that affect.
He’d choose her, unless Margo Robbie showed up.
😢
So true 👏
I blame her parents. The parents who either weren't at the wedding because they're dirtbags... or were and sat there silently letting him speak to her that way.
@Catherine K you can't blame the parents for the attitudes and actions of their crappy son in law. I'm sure if they disapprove of him they've made it known but they ultimately can't control their daughter nor would it be right for them to try to. At some point you have to hold your peace for a greater gain... like not pushing away your daughter.
That bride was stunning and could definitely be a model. I'm in awe
You know the marriage is doomed to fail when one partner demands total dominion over the other
It was my first marriage. And that only lasted a year and 6 months. Would’ve been sooner, but divorce takes a while and they weren’t willing to annul it. Even though I tried explaining he groomed me and everything. I was drinking the koolaid hard. Good thing my momma talked some sense into me.
@@erikarussell1142 I’m so glad you’re free
But she has been with this guy for 10 YEARS! She will take the abuse until HE finds someone else.
@@katigl me too!!! It’s like I had severe brain damage the entire time. I mean I do… but I should have never listened to his manipulations.
@@katigl that breaks my heart. I have been through this as well ❤️🩹 I just want to hug you guys 💓
Omg that first one was MORTIFYING. I would have walked off and said marry yourself. Even his MOTHER was like STOP! That was painful and humiliating and disrespectful to the bride and friends/family. Absolutely NOT babe! 😢😮 PS. She's GORGEOUS! If anything, HE doesnt deserve her! Her vows were so sweet and genuine. They show how she feels about him but his show how he feels about HIM.
He's so lucky to have her, not the other way around, pervie selfish vows and her insecurities are heart breaking 💕
Pervie.. a groom of almost 10 yrs, saying he loves his brides and his sex life.. you women love to accuse men of outlandish rubbish.. go like and subscribe to the mountain of over sexualising women and tell them their "slaying it babe".. yous are a bunch of hypercrits in this comment section and Charlotte's no better..
Yup. All she is to him is a penis receptacle. 😢
Yeah. I can only hope she one day comes to her senses and realizes that she deserves better. ❤
The second story is so similar to what happened with my husband. It almost broke us. The only reason it stopped is I did tell his parents and they tore him a new one and then I threatened to leave. He has gotten so much better now
Sell the gaming computer, sell your engagement ring, keep the cash & get the hell out of their quick. You deserve so much better.
NOOOO, sell the pc, sell the ring, HALF THE MONEY so he can't take you to small claims. BEFORE THAT gather all your things because he ain't gonna notice. As soon as you clear the effing PC (possibly by sending him to his parents) just get the eff out of there. He is an addict, and this behaviour is a major, major red flag.
@@Midorikonokami Having a lot of experience with PCs and being in a gamer marriage myself (but I'm a gamer too): The gaming PC will not fetch the purchase price if she seels it, and it's not only been the PC but also a desk and chair, reselling furniture is not a good Idea if you want to get your money back. I'd say: get a receipt of the purchases, copy them, keep the banking account statement that shows he withdrew it from the shared savings account, sell the engagement ring and keep your share of the ring and PC setup from that sale. Speaking from experience in my marriage: when a new game comes out that any of us really like to play, taking a vacation for it and holing up in front of the PC for one or two weeks are nothing new - to both of us, but then we come out of our gaming abodes again and return to adulting. We support each other in our hobbies, but also lay down all the games immediately, if something really needs to be done. To be fair... if my husband came to me during a gaming vacation and told me to "just spend some time together" I'd ask him "what for?" and it'd be the same the other way around. Phases like that come and go - at least with us and we've been together for 13 years now, although only married for 2. You need to know what you're getting into, if you want to keep up a relationship like that and it helps if you share the same interests. It's not an addiction, if you want to take a time-out now and then and immerse yourself into your hobbies. Nobody would call a guy taking a 2 week fishing or skiing trip addicted to fishing or skiing, either, but the same as a trip, it needs to be planned for and everyone has to be informed. I'd break up with a guy who'd take out our entire savings to go on a last-minute skiing trip as well. This isn't about the kind of hobby, this is about financial responsibility and respect for your partner.
Sounds like this guy has a video game addiction
@@hopejohnson6347 this is what I was thinking. I don’t believe he was a “novice” gamer. No one spends $8000 on their first gaming system/setup. Because you don’t even know what you’re doing, or if you’re going to enjoy it. He had to have been doing this for quite some time, and I wonder if he really had any intentions of getting married. It’s one thing when both are gamers, like you stated, but when the OP was surprised by his behavior, it made me think he was using her to get the cash for the purchase all along.
@@hopejohnson6347 I'm assuming during your gaming vacations you still take care of yourselves (eating, staying hydrated, showering etc) - because yeah, immersing yourself in a hobby of course doesn't mean you're addicted, but the way the fiance is described here (no showering, not feeding himself, not doing any chores etc) does sound like a red flag. Although with the way he handled the purchase, there's already enough of a reason to consider leaving him regardless.
First guy literally spoke about his WIFE as if she was an object. Literally compared her to food, a literal object you consume.
Absolutely 💯
Ok but what is the stroogle and a Twinkie (sp)
It’s disgusting ugly putrid behavior.
@@dmomma79 toaster strudel is "frosting" on the outside, twinkie is "frosting" on the inside.
If i am more crass i might get censored.
@@dmomma79 the sweet stuff is either inside or on top
I've already seen this on Twitter and yeah it really breaks my heart, she doesn't even realize she's in an emotionally abusive relationship, he negged her in his "vows" just WTF and the fact that he obviously makes her think that way about herself too and only sees her as a sexual object to please him. It's horrible, I really hope she sees the light and gets herself out
Charlotte got emotional during the first bride vows. Same here, I would leave the man at the altar
As a women who really loves to play video games. Married to my husband who is a gamer, too. I have to say that is such a big red flag. Me and He would never ever had done such a thing. No go.
Same here. Most evenings my partner and I play games alongside each other, but he would NEVER use money we set aside for wedding to purchase a gaming pc. Something else is going on there, but no idea what it could be.
It almost sounds like dude is spiraling into depression or some mental health issues.
I posted this on another video but feel it should be said again… If my fiancé said ANY of this in front of my family I’d literally walk out of my own wedding. I don’t even have kids but just in front of my mom dad and older sister id literally walk out. Like saying something goofy like “I’m so excited for our wedding.. but more excited for tonight” is probably as far as i would ever let this go, and even that I don’t really wanna hear in vows in front of my family.
Also… the fact that she felt “grateful” because she thinks he somehow saved her and she says all these beautiful sweet things about this pig just makes me so sad for her. Like she really doesn’t think she deserves better than to be made a fool of, it’s also concerning that he mentioned Margot Robbie (which prob was the least aggregious thing in here) but she has to say things like “I’m not a model and I know I’m not the prettiest girl in the world” like girl what? She was stunning and he looked like a greasy thumb and she’s acting like she’s so disgusting it was a miracle she got a man? You KNOW he’s making her feel like that at home. And she’s the MOTHER of their children. Their GIRL children, what a wonderful role model he is for them to see… good lord.
Oh yeah, absolutely terrified for her kids, you know he treats them just like her
I’m actually in tears for this woman. I know what it is like to marry a narcissist.
Here here! Great comment! I agree.
She isn't the "prettiest girl in the world". Did you see her teeth? Her whole mouth was disgusting and it's a wonder she could even make-out or have sex with her husband to create two children with that man. I just hope her daughters don't inherit her teeth because if they do, they'll have to spend thousands of dollars to fix it.
Yeah, I'm with you. And I don't know why his mom's standing there, but she needs to knock out the clown she raised.
I hope bride with the purple hair finally realizes she deserves better. He seems like the kind of guy that would say “well we aren’t married ¯\_(ツ)_/¯” when she asks him to be better to her
She was defending him and their relationship, fighting tooth and nail in the comments. Looks like she's way too far gone after those 10 years, he's definitely broken her down in that time.
And, to make it worse, he could be right (from a certain angle).
Yes, you are technically (legally) already married when you say your vows. There's a whole process to getting that certificate. However, in many cultures, this isn't always the case - a marriage is binding on a more spiritual, or ceremonial, level.
And, no matter how you spin it, those weren't vows. He didn't once promise her love or fidelity. The only promise he made was, in effect, that she would get to choose how their wedding night sexy-time would go (but not whether or not it would happen).
Similar thing said by my ex "well we don't look like couple at 1st place" when I asked him aren't we taking things too fast, bc I didn't loosed my vcard to him. Dw now I dumped him within 8 days after seeing red flags..but I felt sad that our friendship was good at that time...now I DON'T REGRET that about my doings. 1st video was way too HORRIBLE and TRAUMATISING
And seems like the guy who says, “she’s hot” and it’s not her.
Hearing the bride's vows made me tear up.
She let her heart do the all the talking.
The groom's vows were absolutely vile.
He definitely let his dick do all the talking.
It sounds like to me, he manipulates her and psychologically abuses her.
Making her feeling like it's an honor to be with him and no-one else is good enough for her.
She put herself down so much in her vows and that breaks my heart.
"I know I'm no model, but..." tells me that he has told her this at some point in their relationship and he has made her believe this as well.
The bride is beautiful and he is a straight up disgusting pig of a man.
The fact that she stood up for him in the tik tok video comments, shows the control he has over her already.
I hope that one day she'll realise what he is truly like, divorce him and find someone who will treat her with respect.
Because she truly deserves better than this.
Ugh...these poor ladies. My husband developed a gaming addiction around the time of our wedding. It was awful. He didn't just play, but he screamed, ranted, stomped the floor and spewed profanities and slurs. I hated it. He did go to work and meet his household obligations. I knew he was serious about our relationship because he sold his mustang and drove around in a beater to pay off some old debt that he didn't want to bring into our marriage because he believed I deserved better. FINALLY, he heard me loud and clear about how his behavior was affecting me. Getting woken up up in the middle of the night to screaming, cursing, and COD machine gun fire was setting off my anxiety. He initially agreed to some boundaries that included he wasn't allowed to yell, stomp, or turn his TV up when I was asleep, but he couldn't keep them. So after a good bit of tension and me questioning if I could stay in this relationship, he decided that me and our marriage were worth more than gaming with his friends. He realized that he really sucked at managing his behavior regarding gaming, so he stopped. Cold turkey. That was over 10 years ago and our marriage has been mostly wonderful since the gaming exited our lives.
Awesome for both him and you.
Yikes my son games like this. With the constant profanities and pounding the desktop. Idk how to get him to stop.
@killerfreckles1162 Good luck. The brain of people who behave this way resembles the function of someone with a substance abuse disorder. In short, there are ways to support him, but an addict won't stop until they decide they need to do something different. I hope he is able to get it under control and not miss out on relationships and other life enriching things.
First girl: their relationship might work now, but if she EVER gets sick or hurt where she can’t do what he wants, he’s gone/cheating, and blaming her for it…
100%
Sad but true
They’ve been together 10 years and gave two kids. He’s cheated already. More than once.
For the woman that fiancé has a gaming addiction, I totally felt for her. My father, brother, ex bf were the same way. I barely ever spent actual time with my father/brother growing up because they would always be on their computers. And my ex bf was the exact same way as that woman’s fiancé once I moved in with him. I did literally everything by myself and the only time I saw him was when he got up to get the food I cooked for us or when he left for work. No matter how many times I’d ask for some quality time he’d always tell me “okay after this game” and followed up by “oops, I forgot. Definitely after this game”. Then he got a work from home job and he NEVER left that chair. After so long I quit trying to get him to spend time with me and I would go out with a friend every few days. After about a month he finally caught on and got mad at me for never being home with him (even though he never spent actual time with me. Once Covid hit and he turned abusive and manipulative I knew I had to leave. When I started packing everything that was mine, he never noticed…..until the day I was taking all of my things to the car. He got mad and started saying hurtful things while also throwing in some ‘trying to be romantic’ things (trying to get me to stay) but he still never got out of his computer chair.
I am so happy I left him, even if I had to move back in with my mother.
Kudos to you for leaving!
I'm am so sorry you had to go through this. Good for you for leaving. He'll regret losing you.
@@Claudia-lq3ns thank you. And I really hope he does
Plot Twist: Mom spends all her time gaming & ignores daughter.
Hi just gonna state that that guy was horrible and he was using his gaming as an excuse to abuse you! My bf and i are gamers too but we are super respectful of each other, spend loads of time together and would drop any game in a second for each other. Im so sorry ou got entangled with a horrid abuser its a hard wound to heal
If you’re going to expect your partner to look like a model, you damn well better be one! And he sure doesn’t! The way it was so easy for them both to “joke” about it you know she heard all about her “flaws” on a regular basis. I’m genuinely angry at the man and I don’t even know him
Just imagine her poor daughters hearing that their whole lives.
That was the first thing I noticed too. She's gorgeous and this is him at his best? And he's so nastily smug and gross. 🤮
First story: Not a single "vow" was spoken. Just what he expected out of HER. :/
it's really sad how she doesn't see that, seems like he swiped her up during her teenage "I'm so ugly" phase and kept her in that box since then ...
YES
Well said
She has really low self esteem obviously. It's sad because she clearly loves him, and he clearly loves what she does for him. It's sad. She even says "I didn't think I was good enough for you." And that's obvious that she still doesn't. It's really gross.
@@goodbher9244 .
Yes, it was incredibly disrespectful towards her.
Two things:
1. Dressing a man in a suit doesn’t make him a gentleman.
2. Your hair is looking amazing in this video Char! 😍
Lipstick on a pig is still just a pig with lipstick.
@@cholieandresa That was kinda tacky, unless you’re referring to the dude.
Oh my God! Seriously? If one of my sons ever spoke to his bride like that publicly EVER let alone at their wedding my husband would drag him away to have a "discussion" in private about honor and respect. That poor girl! 😡😢
You could hear the mom's embarrassment when she couldn't help but speak up. 😬
I would have loyally boxed his ears like a child and said I felt they didn’t belong together. Even as his mother. Oh hell naw.
My mom has 3 sons. If any of them ever did what he did, they'd have a fat lip halfway through those "vows"
Where her parents in the audience? If someone talked to my girl on her wedding day like that, I'd tackle him. I don't care if I'm splashed all over the internet and end up on this channel.
@@loveli420 I don't blame her. I would have stopped everything at that point.
I hope someone gives his daughters the wedding vows he just gave his wife. See how he enjoys the amount of respect.
He probably thinks daughters are worthless and wifey better give him a SON or shes dumped.
I have been this bride, I mean I wasn't a bride but I was her.. in a relationship with someone who had me speaking like this about him while he spoke nothing good of me. It was a horrific relationship that (after 4 yrs) had me feeling like I deserved no better ... I eventually left, after one day I just made the decision and walked away, hardest decision to make. Not only because you're not sure whether what you're seeing is true or not, but also because it takes a lot of strength to admit that you did you wrong, and haven't been loving yourself. Even now I am drowning in that guilt almost daily. Very difficult decision she made, I'm so sad because he will continue to break her down without her even realizing it.
I hope she gets therapy.
I am proud of you for leaving. Stay strong.....and keep in mind, that quite a lot of guilt/shame is a side effect of long term abuse. Healing is a super slow process, but as you heal the guilt will significantly lessen.
I am so happy to hear you got away
HUGE respect for getting out!!!! That must have been terrifying!
@Yup Yup Agreed!!! Strongly recommend Crappy Childhood Fairy to help heal the effects of long term abuse!
@Yup Yup thanks, I just subscribed to the channel and will start watching and healing. Thanks for the plug.
That second story was so horrible to hear bc that's what happened with me and my ex. It was hard to feel he cared more about his game than his girlfriend. He also treated me as a servant. It was very bad for my self-esteem because I wondered if he hated the reality with me so much that he needed to escape it like that. I genuinely thought it was my fault. It didn't help that his words/actions always made me wonder if he truly loved me. We broke up and I was left with my self esteem on the floor. Luckily I went to therapy and am now in a much happier, healthier relationship with a man that actually cares. It feels so nice. For anyone who is in this position, please leave. You don't deserve that, there IS someone out there who will respectfully love you, don't doubt that.
What would you tell your younger self when you first met this guy?
Story #2 reminds me of a neighbor I once had. Wife gave him money and a list for Christmas gifts for their young daughter. He came home with some new monster tires on his truck! She packed up the kid and left. How do I know the details? They had a screaming match in the front yard! Everyone knew how he effed up! To show what a good guy he was, he had a new GF in the house before the end of the year. I'm pretty sure they didn't just meet, if ya know what I mean!
That's really sad especially not just for the wife but the daughter as well it means he doesn't care about either of them.
Good riddance
I told my wife how I felt about her all that I could even when I was in pain and she knew I was putting on a brave front. I loved her every day even telling her I loved her when she was giving birth to our children
You are correct... this is no joke! At my own wedding, I'm white, and married a black man who was 13 years my junior after being friends with him fir over a year. He treasured me during dating and treated me well in many ways. Often we were confronted with bigotry and it broke my heart for him, but we were strong through it all. When we were at the church just before the ceremony, I thought he was terribly nervous, as he was behaving in a very strange way and everything seemed to make him more short tempered. I thought it was just a bad case of nerves. Nothing could have prepared me for what happened at the end of our VERY CONSERVATIVE CHURCH WEDDING. We couldn't change out traditional vows, however, we were permitted to say anything we wanted to one another as soon as our traditional vows were spoken. We decided to say things from the heart in the moment and not stress out over writing anything. I went first and it was beautiful and there wasn't a dry eye in the house. As he spoke from his heart, it was the same... Sweet, loving, sentimental and more than I could've hoped for... and THEN... the last thing he said, came from some narcissistic, skeezy (P with a rick) who was secretly lurking inside of him, apparently. His expression changed and he turned to the guests and said, "HA!!! Dis (b with an itch) is about to find out what it's like to git herself busted out by some BIG. BLACK. D!@K, ya'll!!!" 😮😢 Crickets chirped after an uncomfortable silence... little old ladies, young children and our extremely pure hearted pastor nearly lost their minds. All things considered, this was WILDLY inappropriate at what, to everyone involved was considered a sacred ceremony. One close friend of mine whispered in my ear in the reception line... "RUN!" (How i wish i wouldve listened and fled that day!) My new husband changed at that moment and the man I'd dated disappeared forever. A month after we married... he tried to kill me. While I realize not everyone faces the same thing... This video actually scares me for her.
Omg what a nightmare. I’m so sorry
I’m so sorry. It really is true what they say: when they show their true colours believe them!
He tried to kill you? I hope you got away safe. I would've asked for a divorce IMMEDIATELY if I heard that come out of ANYONE'S mouth.
I’m not sure why you let the pastor seal that deal?…….he should have denied marrying you. Anyway hope your ok now.
that is so deeply unsettling, I'm so sorry. i went through something similar; my mom married my ex stepdad when i was little, and he went from being our best friend to someone else practically overnight. he use to put me in bed with my mom in the morning bc he had a 5am work rise, he use to take me on hikes and teach me to boogie board at the beach, and when he decided to propose to my mom he picked me up from school, took me out for ice cream and very seriously got my little second grader blessing. You couldn't have asked for a better step dad. He and my mom had such a happy connection. I have so many memories of them laughing together. They made a cool down to earth couple. And then weeks after the marriage, that man disappeared and he became mean and belligerent and impatient. He suddenly had judgements about us he'd never expressed, and because overly authoritarian and crotchety. He never yelled all the many years of him dating my mom, and then he yelled all the time. To this day I can only theorize he just defaulted to this subconscious idea he had of what it meant to be a husband/family head... modeled after his very old fashioned dad maybe. I'm still grieving 16yrs later.
I think this is a classic example of why being together a long time isn't necessarily a good sign. I've seen some toxic relationships last a long time. I wonder if this is the case or if her husband is just clueless
Longevity, doesn’t mean healthy
I'm like shook to my core and also ever more grateful to my fiance... I just want to talk to the bride on how she's a person worthy of dignity, respect and love.
I wasn't even in the wedding and I already feel embarrassed. I feel sorry for the bride. If that were me I would have called everything off and left the guy standing at the altar.
Oh yeah. Yep
I knew I wanted a serious intimate vibe for my wedding. Because trying to be a comedian & entertain your "audience" is not what you want to remember on what's supposed to be the happiest day of your life. My day was so sweet, everyone was so tearful & I will never forget how real the day was. We weren't a show, we weren't fake, & neither of us felt degraded by one another. The fact that he compared her to Margo Robbie & then her confirming that she's not a model was so sad. It sets a poor example for their daughters, like how would he feel if a dude spoke to his daughters in that way? Plus vows are supposed to be what you vow to do for your partner, but he made demands like he's such a catch.
@Yup Yup imagine the parenting that produced a guy like this
I think it was fine for the fact that the voices if guests were laughing, the mother was lighthearted and wife was fine with it.. if that's what they both want than it's not my business. People just too judgemental and too concerned about other people when the information given is likely not a complete picture. Also this was my wedding and she was the dirty one. 17 years strong
My husband and I are both big gamers. We still take time for eachother. Chat. Make meals. Spend time. Do chores. We respect and love eachother. And we always check in before gaming to make sure we aren't neglecting eachother. There is no excuse for bad behavior like that.
Same with my love and I. Our PCs share the same table, so even whilst gaming we're able to pet each other and talk all the time. None of us would be happy, if our significant other would'nt be into gaming. This year is our 10th anniversary.
Can we take a moment to appreciate that first bride's hair? GORGEOUS! ❤❤
The 2nd situation is exactly why I ended a 7 year relationship. After doing so, I realized how gas lighted I was. I went into a drug rehab program, bought a house, got a raise. Best of all, I am with the love of my life...someone who would never make me feel the way I did. It is one of the most difficult things you can ever do, but making that move for yourself is so rewarding. If you are struggling...do it.
Good bless you. Thank you for your story.
Same thing happened to me minus the rehab. I was severely gaslit in the relationship, compromising everything for him, he rather hang out with his friends than me
I have attended two weddings for couples that had been together over ten years, and neither of the grooms would have ever acted like this. The first was my older brother’s wedding, and I honestly don’t remember the vows they said, but I can tell you that it was obvious how much they both love each other. The second was for my cousin and they got married in a Catholic Church, so they didn’t have personal vows. The most comparable part would have been the best man’s speech, but what he talked about was how he and the groom had known each other for years, and he was really the third wheel in my cousin’s relationship, and how both of them probably would have died from doing something stupid in college if not for her. Being together for over a decade does not mean that saying shit like what he said is okay. I saw a video once where Tom Hanks talked about how he always says the same things to couples when they get married. He tells the grooms that they are, “a very lucky man,” and the brides that they, “could have done better,” and that is 10000000% the case here. He doesn’t deserve her, and I hope that someday she realizes that, before her daughters develop complexes of their own.
Yes- the comment about her crushing on him in school explains everything
@@EH23831 for real. And since we don’t know their ages, I’m going to assume high school because that’s the age where you tend to be the most insecure. College aged kids start to develop more of a back bone. But again, both my cousin’s and my older brother and sister-in-law’s relationships have been going on since they were in school. My brother and sister-in-law met in college, and my cousin and her husband started dating their senior year of high school, and ended up at the same college because they’d both picked it before they started going out. Also with my cousin and her husband they went to different high schools. She went to an all girls school and I think he went to all boy’s school. I’m guessing that the couple in this video went to high school together, which also explains some things. My brother’s and I both went to non-coed schools, and I can honestly say I wouldn’t be the version of myself that I am now if I hadn’t gone to that high school. When you’re not around boys your age for eight hours a day, five days a week, you don’t care so much about how you look, how you act, or how the world perceives you. You learn to be yourself and not care about what others think. At least that’s how it was for me. But you could always tell if a girl was going to be around boys later if she was wearing makeup, when normally she didn’t.
I was a wedding photographer for 17 years and never once saw anything like this. Ever. Never heard disrespectful vows.
@@DawnKellyMedia it’s on a whole other level, hey? Never thought I’d witness something like this. SMH
That last gamer story hit me hard. I had a gaming addiction (mmo) when I met my partner. It worsened over a few years and got to the point it was interfering with our relationship. She told me what it meant to her, and how she felt when I would turn her down to finish a raid.
So I quit. I stopped playing MMOs entirely, and I don't play multi-player games at all any more. My relationship with her was and is much more important. Single player games I can just turn off at any time if she wants me. There's no feeling of guilt of letting people down. This dude needs to get his priorities straight.
Almost a decade together and never happier.
I know what I'm like so I've never allowed myself to play MMORPGs, I worry I'd never be able to pull myself out of it if I ever dip my toe into it. Obsessive personality, gotta be careful. Massive cred to you for being able to, seriously. I've been thinking I need to try to cut down on screen time just cos I'm always with several screens doing multiple thing, and I should be able to not spend my every waking moment I'm not at work looking at a screen.
@@Protagonistinfluence Thank you. Massive credit to you as well for knowing your limits and the risks and not starting. Its a rabbit hole.
Good luck with reducing screen time. I recommend looking for things which are either adjacent to things you already like or do. e.g. I have a friend who took up cycling and now cycles for his commute. Table top or board gaming at a local store is a good option. Gardening, you could start with a pot plant on your desk which you take care of.
You got this!
@@heyy13 I have too many hobbies, again obsessive personality and unmediated adhd. Basically didn't sleep this weekend cos I bought some chains from the hardware store so I decided I was gonna try to make chain jewelry, also cut up some clothes and linked them back together with chains and safety pins. Still very much on my phone while doing it. What I'd really like to get back to is art and studying languages properly, not just half assing it with the duolingo app. Maybe if I got my sketch pad and language books out on the table ready to use. Try to do some half hour timeout from tech as a start.
To me the root cause of gaming addiction is severe depression..and if you can work on the severe depression you inheritly work on the gaming issues.
As the father of a daughter, and a son primarily raised by his mother. That first story fills me with a complex litany of emotions, none of which are positive. I’ve never been more thankful for learning patience, had a younger man with my face and mind attended that wedding. It would’ve quickly become a funeral, that family deserves more than better. And he barely deserves to breathe. Not in my deepest fever ridden nightmares would I say such derogatory things to the mother of my child, in front of them no less. Absolutely disgusting and we’re not even together anymore. She wanted something else that I couldn’t provide, so I left and we both moved on. But that’s neither here nor there, I could never. And what’s worse, the fact that he has her believing all his bullshit. If the gods are real, they’re cruel bastards.
I agree 100%
God didn't make this guy a bastard, he did that all by himself.
@@azuropixie5703 I never said “god” made him a bastard, I said, if the god’s are real THEY are cruel bastards.
I've been with a guy like the groom in the first video. He made me feel like no matter what I did,it wasn't good enough. It took me years to realize I deserved better and run.
I'm glad you did. You deserve so much more.
Same, i understand u, give u a hug
I lived with a "gamer dude" that was exactly like this. He would ignore his kid, he treated me like I was an inconvenience, he even said he was too busy to "handle me" when I had witnessed a violent death on the way home from work. He ended up getting me my own computer and game so I would stop "bugging" him, then got super pissed that I was ignoring him.
I wonder how long it would take for this guy to notice if she left.
probably about 12 hours, because he wouldn't notice she was in another state until he realized his servant was gone. God i hope she leaves him. take the computer too and sell it to get her money back. But I REALLY hope that at the very least, she leaves this man
He would probably notice pretty quickly since she was feeding and watering him the whole time he’s had the PC
The gaming addiction story really hit home. I was in that situation couple years ago. Had to gather up the courage and left him with his pc. I feel better now living alone.
I'm glad you're happier now, good on you for being strong enough to do what was right for you ❤
I'm gonna make a wild guess here and says that he was unemployed? cause how else could it be? congrats on leaving
Man I wish absolute happiness for the first woman. I hope she's in a good place despite how the wedding went and is able to stand her ground when required. She seems too giving and too compromising and I hope that's not the case.
What stands out to me in the first couple's vows is that he not only spends most of his being wildly inappropriate, super crass and with lust rather than any semblance of affection, he jokes about how he would "stick by you I suppose - unless I meet Margot Robbie" , while she talks about how she wants nobody else and promises to choose him every day for the rest of their lives.
I'm really hoping that what we saw was just a colossal lapse of judgement and not indicative of their relationship as a whole.
Funny thing is, he could meet Margot Robbie all he wants... but that doesn't mean she'd actually WANT HIM. His wife he's disrespecting so hard here loves him so much, he really thinks he could have a shot at a woman like Margot. And that couldn't be further from the truth. But he breaks HER self esteem down??? No, that's ridiculous and honestly, I worry if the guy is abusive.
"I'm no model".....ah I see. Gorgeous girl with low self-esteem. Sad she puts up with this because she's deluded herself into thinking he's too good for her. Love is blind and this is proof.
She's not gorgeous to me. She needs to fix her teeth and her whole mouth. How do they even make-out or have sex? If you have a giant overbite like that, how do you even get to making out without hitting the other person's teeth? I bet her children inherited her teeth and that's disgusting to me. She's going to spend a ton of money on braces and headgear, along with a palette expander for her children, so sad.
By looks, she's the one who is way too good for him. Sad, that she's not aware of her worth. He is definitely manipulating her to be thinking this way.
Probably has been gaslighting her since they met in high school so she’s been conditioned to believe she doesn’t deserve the world. She deserves a partner that hypes her up. Makes me so so sad. 😢
And if she was gorgeous and had high self-esteem, you would call her entitled
@@lavinialadlass9432 just because that's how you are, doesn't mean everyone is that way.
The vows of the to be-bride marrying the gutless wonder the first story, were beautifully written, whilst se professed her love and made me sad as she stated that she isn’t a “model”, but can we tell her that she IS as beautiful woman and her vows were pulling on my heart strings 😢😢😢. He doesn’t deserve her, whether she empties his balls or not.
If emptying his balls is all he wants then he could marry his hand and do it all himself.
For the gaming story. Get a promissory note signed by him for the money he stole from you. You can take him to court over it when he inevitability fails to pay you back. In the note write that there is a time frame of X number of months (I world suggest the save amount of time that you were saving in the first place because you can easily prove to a judge that it is possible for him to save it in that time)
I knew my wedding vows by heart and didn't need to write them down. I held her hands and looked her in the eyes when I told her my vows.
In that respect, they were the same. Neither looked at the person they were giving the vows to. If this is going to be how it goes (bad vows and not looking at each other) then it's best to do traditional vows.
We got married on our 10 year anniversary, thats not an excuse to be gross during your vows. My husband and i roast eachother constantly, we make dirty jokes, but our wedding was a day to celebrate love. The first goom was awful and im so sad that she doesnt see that
Those were the TACKIEST wedding vows ever! My man & I have a crazy sense of humor, & I literally say the exact same thing to my man "I keep your balls empty & your stomach full". BUT I'd NEVER say that in front of my parents, my family etc... Also, he didn't say 1 thing about her except how she doesn't cook well & how she empties his balls. Hey, get ready for a life where you feel alone even though he's in the next room.
I mean, if he said just the belly and balls joke it would have been « ok » and then continuing with him telling about how she is, her qualities, why she makes him better etc. But no! He had to criticize her, tell her how when he finds better he’s out and reducing her to being a c*m receiver basically…
@@vtetrooo1312 yup he literally wants a bang maid and she wants a partner. It’s honestly so depressing to hear how hers were so “I don’t deserve you you’re wonderful” while his was terrifyingly misogynistic and overtly sexual, like it sounded like what a gay guy would parody a straight man as. What a pig. I feel so sad for her and her girls. Truly scary this is their role model.
😢 this is so true, a relationship has to be built on communication and mutual respect which honestly I don't see either bride getting in this video... but in his vows to literally do that in front of everyone, and her comment about not being a model.. to me it just spells misery 💔
Not only tacky but practically nonexistent! I think we all just collectively forgot what VOWS even are. Like even though what she said was beautiful i was still rolling my eyes 🙄! The only actual VOW she made was to choose him, and of course he didn't even make a single one! Over time wedding vows have just become the bride and groom's reception speeches. Saying how much you love and appreciate your partner should be the INTRO to your vows, not the entire content... but that's just my opinion
05:28 Now THAT is a wedding vow done right.
The first couple... She loves him more than he loves her and also thinks he's too good for her. So she'll accept anything 🤷🏾♀️
We only accept the love we feel we deserve. It’s heart breaking.
Source : Trust me bro, I got an opinion
@@aizenmorningstar...the power imbalance was obvious to a lot of people.
@@aizenmorningstar how about my years in years of experience working with women and men leaving domestic abuse situations. Why is humiliating your wife your mother and every woman at the wedding worth it because you want to prove to your buddies would have bro you are. Why do you think it's appropriate to talk about your wife like that in front of your daughters? The fact that she felt the need to put in her speech that she's not good enough for him that he settled for her is very telling. And the fact the only defense she can come up with in the comments section as they've been together for 10 years. Because people never stay in toxic abusive relationships way too freaking long. Yeah you're right it is just an opinion but some opinions are educated by years of school and professional experience. And a lot of times what people see outside of a situation is more accurate than what people see in the situation especially when it comes to relationships.
@@aizenmorningstar Ah yes, with a name 'Aizen' you know what you are doing in the comments don't you?
One of my favorite quotes is from Sex and the City. Samantha says to Smith Jared, "I love you but I love me more." That really stuck with me and has helped me set healthy boundaries with my husband of 2 years, who also is sometimes a man-child.
I love that Smith understood that and dedicated their relationship to loving her ❤
He's so emotionless at her wedding speech, while his mom was in teary eyes.
If they ever get divorced (and they should) she will probably get his mom in the settlement. My mom’s best friend’s first husband was a total ass and when they divorced his entire family disowned him and kept her in the family. She made lots of trips to visit them because she loved them too.
2:14 and not in front of their kids, that were sitting in the front row. Yep, right there...just a few ft away from them!!!
At my cousin's wedding reception her husband said " she got her M.R.S. degree today and we're gonna be working on her M.O.M." I was ten and even I knew that was cringey. They got a divorce last year (married 15 yrs) and he hid most of his assets leaving her high and dry and has poisoned their oldest kid against her. Her sister got married a few years later and during that reception the groom spent the whole time networking (since the venue was his night club) rather than meeting the family or hanging out with his wife of two hours. Divorced within a year. Bad track record in that family aside from the eldest son who has been happily married for over 25 years. If a pre-teen can predict a toxic relationship...not good.
I think kids actually are very good at seeing it. They aren't prone to all of the justifications we make. They just feel that emotion and know it's bad.
I had a few friends with problematic relationships. I found the quickest way to straighten that out was to ask them if that's who they wanted raising their kids then. I'd ask if they wanted their children to see what they see and hear what they hear. And finish up with..don't you deserve the same life you'd want for them ? It's pretty effective.
I told that kind of thing to my best friend but she still keeps coming back to the guy because she feels she doesn't deserve happiness.... 🤦🏻♀️
It cme to the point that I threatened our 15 year friendship that if she doesn't leave the guy, then she can forget our friendship. (I had to do it because the guy made her extremely suicidal)
I wish it were that effective.
@@loosilu It has been. I had one friend that chose the worst partners I had ever seen. She stopped dead in her tracks. She never dated that type again. The secret is to just deliver it with love. You always want that friend to come back to you. And they need you.
You are a good friend 😊
So smart 👌🙏💜
I dated someone for 11 years and there was a reason why we never married, but if we did & I heard that 💩 I would’ve walked away. She is so lovely and to hear her put herself down was heartbreaking! 💔 Hopefully he apologized & he suggests renewing their vows. Just because you’ve been together for 10 years doesn’t mean your marriage will work and those vows would always have me thinking. And in case anyone wants to know I left that 11 year relationship, met a guy 5 months later on Tinder and we’ve been very happily married for almost 6 years. 😊
Not a chance he apologizes. He'll make her apologize.
@@loosilu I agree he probably won’t, but just in case he’s ever in these comments, he should ask her to do this if it’s not too late already.
@@GieLee159 Thank you! 😊 I checked out around the 10 year mark and started socking away money until I had enough to leave with my 3 dogs. People always used to ask why I didn’t leave sooner and I always said because then I never would’ve met my husband since he live out of state at the time. It went the way it was supposed to be.
❤️ that ending
She’s gorgeous! No model?… SHES STUNNING!
That first one, wow. I’d be so embarrassed.
HER VOWS, he should be ashamed.
I felt even more mortified when she said they had two girls together knowing that more than likely they were also there to witness him saying this. He clearly has no fucks to give considering he even boldly and bluntly said that all directly in his own mother's face too. Yikes. The only thing that gives me a sliver of hope (maybe?) is his comment before his vows seemed kind of like a warning and therefore very self aware of what he's about to do. Not sure if that's any better, or worse. Hopefully he's much better person than what we have seen in this video.
OMG! THE KIDS 😳😶🫥 I can’t begin to imagine HIS face if one of his girls had vows like that at her wedding… « It’s just jokes »…
Yeah, I'm fairly certain in one of the videos of this wedding they showed their girls there, and they are clearly under 10 years old. Knowing that their two young daughters were there makes his vows even worse than they already were imo.
The woman who’s fiancé stole her $ for a PC must sell it. She needs to leave that man child immediately.
No one deserves to be treated that way. She needs to dig deep, respect herself and stop worrying about that guy who violated her trust. Leave now!
She agreed to get the PC, not all the extra shit
Don't sell it, you'll only get a fraction of the cost back, Make him pay you back instead. But first, leave without saying a word and see how long it takes him to figure it out.
Even if he gets better…he still has these tendencies. No way I’d marry Eric Cartman. 🤢
If he gave the pc up she'd never hear the end of it. She needs to leave him. Not worth hearing about it for the rest of her life.
20 years ago we called these women "WoW widows."
The slight smile cracked when bringing up "burning the PC" was EPIC!
I feel so bad for that first bride oh gods that poor woman run girl run