YES and that we are not condemned to a life of misery and suffering. Its not easy to practice to start with. But it's worth it. I also found Qigong helping with present moment practice as well. :)
*“To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.”* - Eckhart Tolle
@rea3322 *I think my lover is going to abandon me* *I think my business will go wrong* *I think my friend will gossip about me* This baseless imagination turns on the switch of your anxiety. In this state, a logical approach is meaningless. If you can't calm down this anxiety, your imagination already becomes a reality. That is why you get anxious and impatient ..... search youtube "paradox of I can do it"
This is how I have tried to get a perspective on my own trauma - both finding forgiveness for myself and for those who have hurt me. But thank you for capturing that quote in the comments - I need a reminder to pin on my wall. 🙏💖
I wrote this quote to keep on my bedside.❤Thank you for quoting that✨ I continue to work on forgiving a family member who hurt me deeply. And I can know she simply acts within her level of consciousness.
The most beneficial, amazing and comforting thing in my personal journey was the discovery that there are so many kind and loving humans in this world. Thank you. All of you.
I find the more I work on my spirituality The more I realize these things I've learned I repel certain people and the people that have that love and are of comfort and are genuine come into my life I'm so grateful for Eckhart taking the time to explain He doesn't come in wanting worship or loads of money Anybody the poor or rich can listen He doesn't constantly ask for us to spend loads of money to get his teachings He's so refreshing
@@monarch2056 thank you for saying this monarch. About you repelling certain people. It always surprises me because I'm authentic. I don't know I think some people do their don't like it or don't understand it? genuine
Body centred therapies are most effective for resolving trauma. That's because the energy of trauma gets stuck in your body as negative emotions. That energy needs to be integrated and processed for you to be free 🙏🏽
Cannot agree more: I did a few years of full time talk therapy with dance therapy on one of the days. The last half year, once I was able to handle it, we did Authentic Movement. Very body centered, in connection with yourself and another person. Healed a lot.
I watched this video sometime ago and thought I had understood it. I've been working on my trauma in multiple ways and though I'm getting better and better theres times when the fear or hurt and sadness just comes up again. I got so discouraged I cried in sheer helplessness and despair thinking this will never end, I'll never get better. Then a little later the feelings of fear and sadness came up again but I was aware "There it is again" and I literally just watched it, acknowledged, allowed but did not become identified eg I felt so sad and scared but I just registered it and kept doing what I was doing and just noticed everytime a wave of it hit me but I realized it's not me, I dont feel like that it's just something inside me, how I felt before and its stuck inside me and keeps coming up ( and usually I would become it, terrified or sad, or angry). Today it came up repeatedly and I was aware, felt it observed it and eventually it subsided. I find that when you identify with it, give it what it wants it goes away but that's not good because its fed and it will never end. Anyway now i have understood what he means in this video since having experienced this and yes this is the only effective way to deal with trauma. Edit: Not an easy way but with awareness and practice I guess you finally get there.
The best way to heal trauma in my experience is to be completely 100% present in the discomfort, and the feelings that arise in the moment. Be the awareness of the feelings that arise, rather than unconsciously attaching to them as "who we are". It's all just patterns conditioning that is playing out and is something that needs to be "completed" by shining the light of awareness on it. It is not always easy but when you fully accept the feeling is there, it then eventually goes away. Thanks as always Eckhart for the impact you're having on the planet right now. Much Love. 🙏
Your comment gave me the energy to do it. I cried and felt a really strong pain in my heart. But not only emotional but also physical. Does someone know how to reduce the physical pain, because it really feels like the heart is braking into pieces.
@@schargiel7033 I cannot tell you how to reduce the pain immediately, but I can help you solve the issue so the pain is released from your body to diminish over time. Tell yourself this when you feel the pain and believe it (because it's true) : "I can handle this."
@@regulardude7961 That's what I made. But in that moment I really thought that if the pain would be bigger my hard could be hurt physically. It was only for a short moment. It was not scary because I could control it very good. But I thought if I go there next time, I would be happy to have something in my hands to handle that pain. I think when a muscles relaxes after a long time of contraction, some flexibility is lost. Today I have the feeling that a lot of energy came out of the pain body because I can feel some pain in some other parts of my body. Mainly the skin of my bones. But I know that's short term. Thanks.
If youre reading this, know that you are worthy of anything you desire. But you might have to let go of the past and release the huge accumulation of fear based beliefs and emotions you have picked up since childhood. Success isnt created by accident but by design. You have a creative mind and unlimited potential. Never forget it. Stay strong and be blessed 🙏
Never thought about this with so much depth. That I was really letting my pain trauma defining WHO I AM. I was totally identifying myself with the Pain. Thank you for reminding me that I'm beyond all that.
Oh no, I get irritated and frustrated at the faltering, weak energy.Some good parts though, def. But he is better for ppl with less compromised, complex, long-term damage.
Pain comes in waves. Look at the pain, respect the pain, accept the pain and then transcendance of pain, with a willingness to give it over to the universe and an open heart of self-love and nurture can take place. Gratitude, hope and your imagination; this is the innocence in you that can be rekindled whenever you call upon it. A combination of journaling, energy work with emotional and energetic release, verbal declarations with spirit, meditation and walking in nature, affirmations and engaging in the creative arts has helped me. Rise from the ashes of tragedy, reborn.
"No one knows how long the answer will be. Could be a minute, could be 30 minutes." Of course Eckhart naturally lands around 15 minutes, the middle-way
Like his words. " The pain is there and you are in the space around it. " In my sessions with clients I sometimes use a meditation of "the safe". A way to distance yourself from old pain. Recently I did this meditation with a couple who have spent their lives (60 to 70 years) fighting against their terrible childhood traumas. By now daily putting their bad experiences in their imaginary safe, (where only they can access) the worst nightmares and flashbacks disappeared. As a result, they no longer identify with their old pain. Beautiful how he explains this!
'you feed the old pain with the memory of what happened...' 'the acceptance itself creates the space' 'more and more who you are is not identified in, lodged with the pain' 'the sense of self begins to move out of the pain... the sense of self shifts from being identified with the pain and the suffering me to being the space behind or around it' 'Practise being the space when you are not in the grip of the pain' 'Disidentifying from the mental and emotional content that still lives in you, some fine, some painful, but without the 'me' in it ... disidentify so that it no longer has a sense of self in it' 'It can happen that ppl identify with some pain/something that happened to them in the past and it needs pointing out that that is not them.' Thank you Eckhart
Listening to Eckhart Tolle brings me to tears of joy✨ The “presence” that continually surrounds and engulfs us, LOVE, is always with us. As stated by Jesus, “and surely I AM with you always, even until the end of the age.” We commune with “presence, love, Holy Spirit” in the silence of our minds, where the heart sings✨
It's a blessing and a grace listening to you Echart! After almost three years feeling dead inside, I felt today something started to move! Very old trauma after divorce of my parents when I was 10, lasted for 15 years, exactly as Echart's experienced, and severe others traumas after went on for last 50 years. More than enough suffering. I believe you opened a door for a new light of consciousness through dis identification of pain body, anger, beeing a victim. Thank you, God bless you, all my love 😍
The Guest House by Rumi, a poem for the broken-hearted. ... Such is the popular poem 'The Guest House' by 13th century Persian poet Rumi. The Guest House This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes As an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.
These are some very powerful insights. It is true that once we are removed from stressful environments, we need to also remove the need to live in pure survival mode.
Wow. He has sooo much insight into this subject. I think that when anyone complains or cries out or is hurting that that is a big deal and should be met with the most compassion I can muster. This is because sometimes people have been through so much and they may just need to complain about something menial because really they can not explain the deep pain in their life that they may be experiencing if they are only an acquaintance. So I listen and I am sensitive to all others. I love this talk. I need to hit the repeat. I fully agree with it. I am excited to navigate trauma better; my own and perhaps be used as a tool to help heal others trauma, those who are open to it. It's so exciting that we can heal together, if we are willing to.
I had a pretty traumatic day a couple of days ago but somehow I kept it together. I usually cry and break down but this time I decided to go with the flow. I cried later to release but at the time of craziness that was happening, I acknowledged it but did not let it pull me down that rabbit hole. I’m a work in progress
There is a part of you that is already healed, that has never been anything but whole and perfect. Pain and trauma happens to the body and mind but not to the awareness that is truly YOU. You are whole and perfect and still. Life is happening in that stillness, that WHOLENESS. Everything else ( good or bad) is just flowing through that wholeness. We mistakenly identify with events that happen inside that space . But we ARE the space which holds all things .
I am a single mother of 1 child- at age 20 he drowned in a raging river. As a mother...this is so much deeper than outside external traumas....i will re listen to his words....but when your child- only child dies traumatically and you have no family or friends that can support whatsoever...this seems an impossible feat......ask any grieving childless mom. AliveAlone
Man, I love you Eckhart. I've been really struggling the last few weeks for a number of reasons and I have noticed my ego has been thrashing about in me. It has felt exhausting almost being dragged along by it at times, like a big dog out of control pulling it's owner along on the lead. I have even felt resistance to meditating - the thing that I know will help calm me down. I'm grateful for the notification to watch this video - it has helped me release some of the pressure I was holding in. Thank you.
They say we resist the exact thing that would help. Maybe try to envision with as many senses as possible what it will look like, feel like, be like once you meditate and get in that space that is a relief or towards relief. Good luck im in same place 💜
This had been my issue - holding on to victim mentality, as I so strongly associated my identity with being a victim, but also because I realised (sadly) that getting attention from being a victim was the only way I could surreptitiously get my emotional needs met...
My biggest lesson from my astronomical mental suffering was the fact that I'm so grateful for that suffering. And it's not coincidence when Eckhart says the same & the timestamp is 11:11
This speaks to physical pain also. my homeopath told me years ago, the only way thru chronic pain is to sit in it and feel it. We fight it, drug it, curse it. None lessen it and in fact, can create more. Tough to sit in it but it's what heals it.
Thanks for sharing such a powerful message. I used to play eckart tolle daily as I worked from home in my IT job. After awhile people used to notice and comment on how peaceful and calm I always was. Years passed and Now I am back to commuting to work again, except for lately, and I temporarily lost much of that peace. I feel like I want to go back to the practice of listening and going within, otherwise the world out there (disharmonious energy) can start to creep in and disturb your peace. I’ve noticed several of my neighbors with high degrees of disharmony and hostility and I just keep going within. I don’t engage with them.
When I'm around harmonious people (and honestly, almost everyone is, to one degree or another) I try to tune into my own spirit and then their spirit, just sensing the spaciousness. I try to BE joy and peace and stillness and to merge spiritually with people. Some spirits will block you, but most let you in.
Thank you🙏🏼 I've learned about trauma and trauma informed dharma only last year. I've been living in Buddhist communities, studying and doing retreats for years. I thought I was doing well until circumstances changed and I opened myself to an intimate relationship that I tried to avoid before. Oh dear... Suddenly all the teachings I learned were forgotten and there was only pain. After months of anxiety and agony I finally gave up and looked for help. I ended up with a fantastic psychotherapist and the EMDR sessions helped me so much - it's been quite a miraculous journey from them on... Also I did a course on trauma informed dharma which was mind blowing😅 Really fantastic stuff! Ever heard of spiritual bypassing? Well... I certainly have ☺️ May all the healed from trauma 🙏🏼❤️
@@GildaLee27 Spiritual bypassing is a "tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks" There are many ways of spiritual bypassing. It's fascinating. I personally used the idea of cherishing others to not look deeper. It looks like a virtuous activity to care about others but my underlying motivation was to avoid facing unconscious pain from my childhood (unprocessed trauma). And I wanted to become a Buddhist nun for a long time. No one ordained me though and only later I realised that the teachers knew that my motivation was not pure. I thought it was but actually I tried to avoid intimate relationships etc... Another example is being easy going to avoid conflict. We all love easy going people. But what is their motivation? SB is nothing bad. We all do it to some degree I'm sure, but if we really want to heal we have to dig deeper. It's painful but the result so worth it 🙏🏼❤️
@@margathea7072 I can certainly try ☺️ Dr Miles Neal is a Buddhist Psychotherapist & teacher. He called one of his Modules 'Trauma informed Dharma'. From my own experience I know that trauma is not a subject much discussed within spiritual communities. There is very little knowledge about what it means and how to integrate it. I only learned about the Buddha's teachings but they alone (although beautiful & deep) did not help me to deal with the energy of emotions that were lurking deep in my body and mind depending on the circumstances. To some extent knowledge helps but when one is flooded with anxiety then no knowledge helps. Trauma is stuck in the body and we have to acknowledge that and work with that. Anyways, Miles and others teach Dharma (here Buddhist teachings) combined with psychotherapy. Buddhist teachings through a lense of trauma. Or something like that. Hope that makes sense☺️
Is amazing, just by looking at him I feel nothing can hurt him anymore, no peaple, no situations, and the most importand no his mind.that’s so powerful.I think the point of awakening is making true friends with your mind... and walk together since them... bless everybodie!❤️❤️❤️
Grateful for these words. Very hard to stop the trauma from being like a virus that overtakes your thoughts constantly but time and inner work along with many walks in nature helps.
Pain is your best teacher in life. You never forget the most painful moments. Remove the pain and just let it go, because suffering is a useless option that doesn't serve you.
You make it sound like a button to push but it is hard work and the road is through many hills and valleys. I can't blame ppl who live hand to mouth having a bloody hard time finding the headspace for doing this work. The regular systems of parenting education mental health services sure won't help. All preparation to join a rat race. Alcohol? Not good, addiction. Here, we prescribe psychopharmaca. But it's still both numbing and not walking a healing path.
But suffering does serve you. We only work on ourselves and look to make changes when the suffering is overwhelming. That catalyst is needed for any growth to occur.
Yes this practice has helped me tremendously. Regonizing the deeper me during good times so I can do it while the trauma memories come back. That way it doesn't consume me for not only me but others.
I find the following to be so true, in the past and then present I suffered with many things and people yet wished I could keep them and that they were good for me or that would work out only if I did my best and made enough effort. Today I see it was never meant to be and I'm better off without them. "People retrospectively become thankful for their suffering" - Eckhart Tolle
I know what you mean by dispersed trauma. There were certainly events as well. I used to live in every time period but the present. Now I live in the present and I am FOREVER filled with gratitude for the pain that caused my conciousness. I wouldn't trade anything for this ability to see clearly. I always thought I was incredibly unlucky, turns out the opposite was true. My mom is deep in egoic narcissistic patterns so we only see each other once a month. I'm so proud of my dad. He has even started watching and loving an Eckhart vid I sent him. He's not the most tech savvy so I was SO pleasantly surprised. I love all of you and wish you presence and I feel all of your conciousness all the time and it fills me with joy.
This is perhaps not clear to anyone who has not put in a lot of personal growth already , I sat this as I try to help someone living in negative mind set. However eckhart has been very gentle in his words as always. Thank you.
Dear Echkart ! I think "how many times do I have to listen to this, before spasciousness arrives ? The trauma built on early traumas. My childhood was also One long drama. But my patents didn't her divorsed - unfortunately ! Much later as an adullt, I went to a thetapist for 3 years - i did not get ridd of the trauma ! I cry very much, when under pressure the painbody tales over ! I thought that all the listening to You daily for more than 2 years now had helped me to be conscious much more - but will I be able to leave the painbody "outside" before I die - This is very hard work, harder than any challenge I ever had in my 69 years in this life. I am thankful to You for bringing light to these very painfull emotions many human beings suffer from ❤
It took me over 25 years to clear out the trauma. I spent 20 years in therapy. Spaciousness is not going to just appear by osmosis. You're going to have to face what you don't want to face in order to release it. It has to be felt and faced and released. That's been my experience. I'm not accumulating other new trauma because o don't put myself in those situations. I've had to learn how to take care of myself, how to love myself and how to release all that pain. Once it's in there, there's no way around it.
People who have experienced trauma can be the greatest healers and the greatest source of light to others when they too experience trauma …use the energy for the greater good, do not let your ego let it define who you are ❤
It needs a great amount of presence for feeling the pain-body in its entire insanity. There are many repressed feelings we also carry in our bodies. We need to heighten the presence so as not be endlessly caught in the grip of old patterns, ancient schemes. It is not easy; from my experience it is an everyday training of the presence muscle. Patience is a virtue to enhance little by little. It is an ongoing process😊 I often get caught in the threads of my own pain-body. In the middle of its manifestations or at the end of them, I somehow remember the teaching of Eckhart. Thank you!
This was good to find. My trauma is like Eckhart's in that it was concentrated throughout my childhood (with some sifting in until our parents had passed and I could go no contact with a sibling with NPD). Learning to spend most of my time in the present has been priceless.
This is very timely. I'm processing some pain that my mother unearthed yesterday. I was until then unaware that I had been resisting that pain for decades. So today, I'm experiencing waves of pain and crying. But I'm just allowing that pain to be what it is and acknowledging its origins. Not attaching any judgements to it or wishing for justice or any external acknowledgment of wrongdoing, but just allowing it to flow through me. I'm watching the thinker and doing my best to feel the fact that I'm the watcher, not the thinker.
I am going to do trauma release exercises in conjunction with Eckhart Tolle as currently, I may not have the resources to deal with the emotions that come up, also I think 5he exercises will help me stop mentally and verbally having intrusive dialogue while trying to be in the here and now. I read Peter Levineards , he ties in well with Eckhart Tolle’s teachings as he goes into great detail with regards to how trauma is held in the body, and will signpost me to the right way to release this trauma.
The pain is the soul telling us dont be ego, separate or critical but stay in the presence and be a loving person that is not ego, separate or critical, but today we identify whit the pain instead and use all our energy to hold the pain back so we can use words and a game to act and talk true instead. In this "lures" we suffer and become a person that is not worthy anything...
I been experiencing something when I'm being the space and meditating during Ayahuasca ceremonies, I start vomiting, shaking, releasing all this trauma energy and it feels like it's this inner presence that's enabling the release to happen. I don't completely understand it but I can feel it like these dense energies trapped in my energy field are being released
For those who are still reaching for awakening - the teaching of acceptance is a portal to spaciousness even for those who've had no experience of the silence of the witnessing self - GRATEFUL AS ALWAYS TO YOU ET
How to heal from illness by this. I suffer greatly with swallowing and breathing issues ,central nervous system phycological.. please help I feel I won’t make it
Excellent...... Everyone acts according to their consciousness..... Learning to be with whatever feelings are moving through us, whatever sensations are moving through us, whenever thoughts are moving through us, without resistance, simply allowing ourselves to experience whatever is moving through us
Also look into Peter Levine’s trauma release. Holding one hand on your forehead and one on the chest is calming and releasing trauma that is trapped in the psychical body. And EFT is a gentle and easy way to release emotional triggers and can help with trauma and difficult thoughts and feelings. Brad Yates has many free videos on you tube.
Thanks for this great video. The important thing when trauma returns is not to be associated to it anymore. Instead, accept the pain but find your another self, the one that did not suffer this trauma, and only observe it from outside. Dissociated.
When you can identify where your present moment thoughts are coming from, the watcher in you can bring you to a place of wisdom and peace, deep within your body. You will need to be in full acceptance of what is and have a quiet mind with no resistance to the situation.
"Deepening" awareness brings awareness to trauma which is within the Ego realm, awareness of trauma - weakens it's intensity, reactivity & gradually it starts dissolving & liquifying & becoming less dense, there is more being as a witness rather than the identity which has to protect itself
Check out The Bioemotive Framework site. Go to "Free" and check out "Core Feeling assessment" and Interpersonal Assessment" Old friend of mine who developed method this over 30 years of private practice as a clinical psychologist. Hope this helps. Being going heavy through healing using this process for about 3 months, lots of childhood stuff came up that I had been unaware of, but realized after releasing the original pain usually through crying how this subconcious stuff was affecting my current behaviors and perceptions of life in general. Once the subconcious becomes concious, you become free of it. Pete from Canada.
Emotional release helps, feeling is ‘healing’ , time, process and love - love heals, pray for divine love and love yourself this will help a lot to heal the energy. 1 hour a day. While staying in that place, the ‘formless’, transcended dimension. Love it from the transcended dimension; release it
May all heal from their trauma and pain
It's so beautiful to realize there is a place within yourself where you can feel safe and in peace again.
.Hi Joe!
We need to access than in US which can not be touched by any Pain, trauma or sorrow. ♥️
It is! It is perfect!
YES and that we are not condemned to a life of misery and suffering. Its not easy to practice to start with. But it's worth it. I also found Qigong helping with present moment practice as well. :)
yep and to experience that fully and have continuous access into that dimension is the end of suffering
*“To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.”* - Eckhart Tolle
* Yes ~ the essence of Healing !!
Yes excactly 🙏
And..you have to experience it to realise it!
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@rea3322
*I think my lover is going to abandon me*
*I think my business will go wrong*
*I think my friend will gossip about me*
This baseless imagination turns on the switch of your anxiety. In this state, a logical approach is meaningless. If you can't calm down this anxiety, your imagination already becomes a reality. That is why you get anxious and impatient
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search youtube "paradox of I can do it"
Trauma can be a blessing in disguise - life pushing you to transform into what you are, instead of what you think you are
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Well said.
Amen to that, cracks are how the light gets in
OSSEIN LOVE YOUR POST SO ENCOURAGING THANKS
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‘Every day, nobody’s fault, every human being acts according to their level of consciousness’. I like this quote.
Agreed, it was so important to understand for me. 💚🙏
This is how I have tried to get a perspective on my own trauma - both finding forgiveness for myself and for those who have hurt me. But thank you for capturing that quote in the comments - I need a reminder to pin on my wall. 🙏💖
Those are great words. Thank You .
I wrote this quote to keep on my bedside.❤Thank you for quoting that✨
I continue to work on forgiving a family member who hurt me deeply. And I can know she simply acts within her level of consciousness.
The most beneficial, amazing and comforting thing in my personal journey was the discovery that there are so many kind and loving humans in this world.
Thank you. All of you.
We love you
I find the more I work on my spirituality The more I realize these things I've learned
I repel certain people and the people that have that love and are of comfort and are genuine come into my life
I'm so grateful for Eckhart taking the time to explain
He doesn't come in wanting worship or loads of money
Anybody the poor or rich can listen
He doesn't constantly ask for us to spend loads of money to get his teachings
He's so refreshing
Most of us are hiding from the world, lol
@@monarch2056 thank you for saying this monarch. About you repelling certain people. It always surprises me because I'm authentic. I don't know I think some people do their don't like it or don't understand it? genuine
I can’t find them!
Body centred therapies are most effective for resolving trauma. That's because the energy of trauma gets stuck in your body as negative emotions. That energy needs to be integrated and processed for you to be free 🙏🏽
YES> I love Peter Levine's work! And the most helpful thing to me was Breath Body Mind, which is coherent breathing and qi gong
Hypnosis, EFT, NLP, Havening, EMDR... There are a lot of therapies available to help lessen or remove trauma.
@Sabahat Ali EMDR worked for me 🙏🏼
Cannot agree more: I did a few years of full time talk therapy with dance therapy on one of the days. The last half year, once I was able to handle it, we did Authentic Movement. Very body centered, in connection with yourself and another person. Healed a lot.
@Sabahat Ali I also did many years of emdr for traumas I will say it was so difficult but it saved my life..bless you on your journey
This man is a gift to us all
Boy your not kidding. How blessed are we to have access to such wisdom.
yes...
✨Truly a gift from our creator/GOD✨
knowing you, was the most beautiful thing that happened to me Eckhart.
For me too❤️
Echarte Tolle on healing from trauma? Yes and yes please.
Right
Omg Spartan in the comments! 😍🙏🏻🌷
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RICHARD GRANNON Glad to see a therapist with a higher spiritual belief.....
I watched this video sometime ago and thought I had understood it.
I've been working on my trauma in multiple ways and though I'm getting better and better theres times when the fear or hurt and sadness just comes up again.
I got so discouraged I cried in sheer helplessness and despair thinking this will never end, I'll never get better.
Then a little later the feelings of fear and sadness came up again but I was aware "There it is again" and I literally just watched it, acknowledged, allowed but did not become identified eg I felt so sad and scared but I just registered it and kept doing what I was doing and just noticed everytime a wave of it hit me but I realized it's not me, I dont feel like that it's just something inside me, how I felt before and its stuck inside me and keeps coming up ( and usually I would become it, terrified or sad, or angry).
Today it came up repeatedly and I was aware, felt it observed it and eventually it subsided. I find that when you identify with it, give it what it wants it goes away but that's not good because its fed and it will never end.
Anyway now i have understood what he means in this video since having experienced this and yes this is the only effective way to deal with trauma.
Edit: Not an easy way but with awareness and practice I guess you finally get there.
The best way to heal trauma in my experience is to be completely 100% present in the discomfort, and the feelings that arise in the moment. Be the awareness of the feelings that arise, rather than unconsciously attaching to them as "who we are". It's all just patterns conditioning that is playing out and is something that needs to be "completed" by shining the light of awareness on it. It is not always easy but when you fully accept the feeling is there, it then eventually goes away. Thanks as always Eckhart for the impact you're having on the planet right now. Much Love. 🙏
Good information
agreed
Your comment gave me the energy to do it. I cried and felt a really strong pain in my heart. But not only emotional but also physical. Does someone know how to reduce the physical pain, because it really feels like the heart is braking into pieces.
@@schargiel7033 I cannot tell you how to reduce the pain immediately, but I can help you solve the issue so the pain is released from your body to diminish over time. Tell yourself this when you feel the pain and believe it (because it's true) : "I can handle this."
@@regulardude7961 That's what I made. But in that moment I really thought that if the pain would be bigger my hard could be hurt physically. It was only for a short moment. It was not scary because I could control it very good. But I thought if I go there next time, I would be happy to have something in my hands to handle that pain. I think when a muscles relaxes after a long time of contraction, some flexibility is lost.
Today I have the feeling that a lot of energy came out of the pain body because I can feel some pain in some other parts of my body. Mainly the skin of my bones. But I know that's short term. Thanks.
If youre reading this, know that you are worthy of anything you desire. But you might have to let go of the past and release the huge accumulation of fear based beliefs and emotions you have picked up since childhood. Success isnt created by accident but by design. You have a creative mind and unlimited potential. Never forget it. Stay strong and be blessed 🙏
help me
Very well said!
But how can it be done ?
Thank you so much 🥰
Never thought about this with so much depth. That I was really letting my pain trauma defining WHO I AM. I was totally identifying myself with the Pain. Thank you for reminding me that I'm beyond all that.
Me also.:-( But I will stop that now! :-)
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The pain is there but you are there.
He seems like the most calm person I have ever seen. Thank you
We are all complete, we all have everything we need within us. It is the mind that keeps us identifying with trauma, but the trauma is not who we are.
That's exactly what I needed, thank y💛u! 👁💡
His voice is so soothing, you could fall asleep to it.
Rami Ungar I have , numerous times
also his smile! so refreshing, love his talks
Oh no, I get irritated and frustrated at the faltering, weak energy.Some good parts though, def. But he is better for ppl with less compromised, complex, long-term damage.
What an adorable man
EMDR can help a lot with processing old pain. Sending love to all at this challenging time.
I am always awestruck by how he can articulate so accurately and precisely such complicated ideas and spiritual concepts. So gifted.
the human mind is increadable when free of its limits
Pain comes in waves. Look at the pain, respect the pain, accept the pain and then transcendance of pain, with a willingness to give it over to the universe and an open heart of self-love and nurture can take place. Gratitude, hope and your imagination; this is the innocence in you that can be rekindled whenever you call upon it. A combination of journaling, energy work with emotional and energetic release, verbal declarations with spirit, meditation and walking in nature, affirmations and engaging in the creative arts has helped me. Rise from the ashes of tragedy, reborn.
DivineMagic369 Thanks for sharing this! It is helping me.
@@alondraacosta-mora6504 thank you 💖
"No one knows how long the answer will be. Could be a minute, could be 30 minutes."
Of course Eckhart naturally lands around 15 minutes, the middle-way
the Tao
the most hilarious spiritual joke. goodness, now i'm going to look at spiritual jokes.
@@lpssweetumstv8453😂😂😂
Like his words. " The pain is there and you are in the space around it. "
In my sessions with clients I sometimes use a meditation of "the safe". A way to distance yourself from old pain. Recently I did this meditation with a couple who have spent their lives (60 to 70 years) fighting against their terrible childhood traumas. By now daily putting their bad experiences in their imaginary safe, (where only they can access)
the worst nightmares and flashbacks disappeared.
As a result, they no longer identify with their old pain. Beautiful how he explains this!
I wish I'll find a wonderful therapist like you one day ..❤️🙏
'you feed the old pain with the memory of what happened...'
'the acceptance itself creates the space'
'more and more who you are is not identified in, lodged with the pain'
'the sense of self begins to move out of the pain... the sense of self shifts from being identified with the pain and the suffering me to being the space behind or around it'
'Practise being the space when you are not in the grip of the pain'
'Disidentifying from the mental and emotional content that still lives in you, some fine, some painful, but without the 'me' in it ... disidentify so that it no longer has a sense of self in it'
'It can happen that ppl identify with some pain/something that happened to them in the past and it needs pointing out that that is not them.'
Thank you Eckhart
Well written, thanks so much! Cheers
Listening to Eckhart Tolle brings me to tears of joy✨
The “presence” that continually surrounds and engulfs us, LOVE, is always with us. As stated by Jesus, “and surely I AM with you always, even until the end of the age.”
We commune with “presence, love, Holy Spirit” in the silence of our minds, where the heart sings✨
Amen
It's a blessing and a grace listening to you Echart! After almost three years feeling dead inside, I felt today something started to move! Very old trauma after divorce of my parents when I was 10, lasted for 15 years, exactly as Echart's experienced, and severe others traumas after went on for last 50 years. More than enough suffering. I believe you opened a door for a new light of consciousness through dis identification of pain body, anger, beeing a victim. Thank you, God bless you, all my love 😍
He is so kind and loving. Big smile
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The Guest House by Rumi, a poem for the broken-hearted. ... Such is the popular poem 'The Guest House' by 13th century Persian poet Rumi. The Guest House
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they're a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
Thanks very much for for sharing that!
Non la conoscevo... Grazie 🌷
These are some very powerful insights. It is true that once we are removed from stressful environments, we need to also remove the need to live in pure survival mode.
Wow. He has sooo much insight into this subject. I think that when anyone complains or cries out or is hurting that that is a big deal and should be met with the most compassion I can muster. This is because sometimes people have been through so much and they may just need to complain about something menial because really they can not explain the deep pain in their life that they may be experiencing if they are only an acquaintance. So I listen and I am sensitive to all others. I love this talk. I need to hit the repeat. I fully agree with it. I am excited to navigate trauma better; my own and perhaps be used as a tool to help heal others trauma, those who are open to it. It's so exciting that we can heal together, if we are willing to.
I had a pretty traumatic day a couple of days ago but somehow I kept it together. I usually cry and break down but this time I decided to go with the flow. I cried later to release but at the time of craziness that was happening, I acknowledged it but did not let it pull me down that rabbit hole. I’m a work in progress
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We all are, a work in progress 😊
"Every human being acts to the level of their consciousness", I like this.
There is a part of you that is already healed, that has never been anything but whole and perfect. Pain and trauma happens to the body and mind but not to the awareness that is truly YOU. You are whole and perfect and still. Life is happening in that stillness, that WHOLENESS. Everything else ( good or bad) is just flowing through that wholeness. We mistakenly identify with events that happen inside that space . But we ARE the space which holds all things .
I am a single mother of 1 child- at age 20 he drowned in a raging river. As a mother...this is so much deeper than outside external traumas....i will re listen to his words....but when your child- only child dies traumatically and you have no family or friends that can support whatsoever...this seems an impossible feat......ask any grieving childless mom. AliveAlone
I hope there is some healing for you even in your grief.
Its not your mistake. You did a great job as a mom. Don’t feel quilty. I wish you healing. ❤️
Praying for healing for you
Love to you
Man, I love you Eckhart. I've been really struggling the last few weeks for a number of reasons and I have noticed my ego has been thrashing about in me. It has felt exhausting almost being dragged along by it at times, like a big dog out of control pulling it's owner along on the lead. I have even felt resistance to meditating - the thing that I know will help calm me down. I'm grateful for the notification to watch this video - it has helped me release some of the pressure I was holding in. Thank you.
They say we resist the exact thing that would help. Maybe try to envision with as many senses as possible what it will look like, feel like, be like once you meditate and get in that space that is a relief or towards relief. Good luck im in same place 💜
@@Savvysalamander Thank you for taking the time to comment and for your suggestion Wendy, I shall do that. Sending you positive thoughts.
This had been my issue - holding on to victim mentality, as I so strongly associated my identity with being a victim, but also because I realised (sadly) that getting attention from being a victim was the only way I could surreptitiously get my emotional needs met...
Too traumatic
That is a wonderful and mature realization.
You have to be the one to meet your own needs. Stop looking for others to do the job that belongs to you.
That woman was so sweet and full of pain she needs to cry i would love to talk to her and give her a hug ❤️
"Every human being acts acording to their own level of consiusness." Underline and read it every day. 🙏
Whenever I listen to ET. Everything makes so much sense
Such a compassionate man….his initial response to her question brought tears .
My biggest lesson from my astronomical mental suffering was the fact that I'm so grateful for that suffering. And it's not coincidence when Eckhart says the same & the timestamp is 11:11
This speaks to physical pain also. my homeopath told me years ago, the only way thru chronic pain is to sit in it and feel it. We fight it, drug it, curse it. None lessen it and in fact, can create more. Tough to sit in it but it's what heals it.
Finally someone who acknowledges that trauma is not something you get rid of in a blink of an eye! If you ever get rid of it!
Such a wonderful time to be alive.
I Read A New Earth many many years ago and it completely opened my eyes and holistically changed my life direction. Thank you!!
This man is so considerate and understanding wow
Thanks for sharing such a powerful message. I used to play eckart tolle daily as I worked from home in my IT job. After awhile people used to notice and comment on how peaceful and calm I always was. Years passed and Now I am back to commuting to work again, except for lately, and I temporarily lost much of that peace. I feel like I want to go back to the practice of listening and going within, otherwise the world out there (disharmonious energy) can start to creep in and disturb your peace. I’ve noticed several of my neighbors with high degrees of disharmony and hostility and I just keep going within. I don’t engage with them.
When I'm around harmonious people (and honestly, almost everyone is, to one degree or another) I try to tune into my own spirit and then their spirit, just sensing the spaciousness. I try to BE joy and peace and stillness and to merge spiritually with people. Some spirits will block you, but most let you in.
Oops! That was supposed to read DISharmonious.
Thank you🙏🏼 I've learned about trauma and trauma informed dharma only last year. I've been living in Buddhist communities, studying and doing retreats for years. I thought I was doing well until circumstances changed and I opened myself to an intimate relationship that I tried to avoid before. Oh dear... Suddenly all the teachings I learned were forgotten and there was only pain. After months of anxiety and agony I finally gave up and looked for help. I ended up with a fantastic psychotherapist and the EMDR sessions helped me so much - it's been quite a miraculous journey from them on... Also I did a course on trauma informed dharma which was mind blowing😅 Really fantastic stuff! Ever heard of spiritual bypassing? Well... I certainly have ☺️
May all the healed from trauma 🙏🏼❤️
thank you can explain trauma informed dharma a little please ?
Spiritual bypassing? Please say more.
@@GildaLee27 Spiritual bypassing is a "tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks"
There are many ways of spiritual bypassing. It's fascinating. I personally used the idea of cherishing others to not look deeper. It looks like a virtuous activity to care about others but my underlying motivation was to avoid facing unconscious pain from my childhood (unprocessed trauma). And I wanted to become a Buddhist nun for a long time. No one ordained me though and only later I realised that the teachers knew that my motivation was not pure. I thought it was but actually I tried to avoid intimate relationships etc...
Another example is being easy going to avoid conflict. We all love easy going people. But what is their motivation?
SB is nothing bad. We all do it to some degree I'm sure, but if we really want to heal we have to dig deeper. It's painful but the result so worth it 🙏🏼❤️
@@margathea7072 I can certainly try ☺️ Dr Miles Neal is a Buddhist Psychotherapist & teacher. He called one of his Modules 'Trauma informed Dharma'. From my own experience I know that trauma is not a subject much discussed within spiritual communities. There is very little knowledge about what it means and how to integrate it. I only learned about the Buddha's teachings but they alone (although beautiful & deep) did not help me to deal with the energy of emotions that were lurking deep in my body and mind depending on the circumstances. To some extent knowledge helps but when one is flooded with anxiety then no knowledge helps. Trauma is stuck in the body and we have to acknowledge that and work with that. Anyways, Miles and others teach Dharma (here Buddhist teachings) combined with psychotherapy. Buddhist teachings through a lense of trauma. Or something like that. Hope that makes sense☺️
I would love to learn more about your path, sounds similar to my orientation
Is amazing, just by looking at him I feel nothing can hurt him anymore, no peaple, no situations, and the most importand no his mind.that’s so powerful.I think the point of awakening is making true friends with your mind... and walk together since them... bless everybodie!❤️❤️❤️
She has the sweetest energy. ❤
Grateful for these words. Very hard to stop the trauma from being like a virus that overtakes your thoughts constantly but time and inner work along with many walks in nature helps.
Eckhart Tolle is really a present to humanity. I love him sm.
Trauma has ruined me, 12 years ago and still even after lots of therapy and meds, I still can't shake this feeling.
Pain is your best teacher in life. You never forget the most painful moments. Remove the pain and just let it go, because suffering is a useless option that doesn't serve you.
interesting right? because Buddha said life is suffering and it's hard to transcend it, only a few do
You make it sound like a button to push but it is hard work and the road is through many hills and valleys. I can't blame ppl who live hand to mouth having a bloody hard time finding the headspace for doing this work. The regular systems of parenting education mental health services sure won't help. All preparation to join a rat race.
Alcohol? Not good, addiction. Here, we prescribe psychopharmaca. But it's still both numbing and not walking a healing path.
But suffering does serve you. We only work on ourselves and look to make changes when the suffering is overwhelming. That catalyst is needed for any growth to occur.
surrendering to the now is the best wisdom I've ever known in my entire life
Yes this practice has helped me tremendously. Regonizing the deeper me during good times so I can do it while the trauma memories come back. That way it doesn't consume me for not only me but others.
I find the following to be so true, in the past and then present I suffered with many things and people yet wished I could keep them and that they were good for me or that would work out only if I did my best and made enough effort. Today I see it was never meant to be and I'm better off without them. "People retrospectively become thankful for their suffering" - Eckhart Tolle
I know what you mean by dispersed trauma. There were certainly events as well. I used to live in every time period but the present. Now I live in the present and I am FOREVER filled with gratitude for the pain that caused my conciousness. I wouldn't trade anything for this ability to see clearly. I always thought I was incredibly unlucky, turns out the opposite was true. My mom is deep in egoic narcissistic patterns so we only see each other once a month. I'm so proud of my dad. He has even started watching and loving an Eckhart vid I sent him. He's not the most tech savvy so I was SO pleasantly surprised.
I love all of you and wish you presence and I feel all of your conciousness all the time and it fills me with joy.
Beautifully said having had trauma all the way through to age 15 from parental care.
Dear Eckhart is golden love
You are LOVE. We are LOVE. Gratitude for your presence Eckhart. I love you .
This is perhaps not clear to anyone who has not put in a lot of personal growth already , I sat this as I try to help someone living in negative mind set. However eckhart has been very gentle in his words as always. Thank you.
The best teacher who I ever known, thank you Eckhart.
Dear Echkart ! I think "how many times do I have to listen to this, before spasciousness arrives ? The trauma built on early traumas. My childhood was also One long drama. But my patents didn't her divorsed - unfortunately ! Much later as an adullt, I went to a thetapist for 3 years - i did not get ridd of the trauma ! I cry very much, when under pressure the painbody tales over ! I thought that all the listening to You daily for more than 2 years now had helped me to be conscious much more - but will I be able to leave the painbody "outside" before I die - This is very hard work, harder than any challenge I ever had in my 69 years in this life. I am thankful to You for bringing light to these very painfull emotions many human beings suffer from ❤
It took me over 25 years to clear out the trauma. I spent 20 years in therapy. Spaciousness is not going to just appear by osmosis. You're going to have to face what you don't want to face in order to release it. It has to be felt and faced and released. That's been my experience. I'm not accumulating other new trauma because o don't put myself in those situations. I've had to learn how to take care of myself, how to love myself and how to release all that pain. Once it's in there, there's no way around it.
This is so true, it's how you can even cure yourself of ptsd
I have discovered this person tonight and watched many videos already. He explains difficult concepts so well.
People who have experienced trauma can be the greatest healers and the greatest source of light to others when they too experience trauma …use the energy for the greater good, do not let your ego let it define who you are ❤
It needs a great amount of presence for feeling the pain-body in its entire insanity. There are many repressed feelings we also carry in our bodies. We need to heighten the presence so as not be endlessly caught in the grip of old patterns, ancient schemes. It is not easy; from my experience it is an everyday training of the presence muscle. Patience is a virtue to enhance little by little. It is an ongoing process😊
I often get caught in the threads of my own pain-body. In the middle of its manifestations or at the end of them, I somehow remember the teaching of Eckhart.
Thank you!
This was good to find. My trauma is like Eckhart's in that it was concentrated throughout my childhood (with some sifting in until our parents had passed and I could go no contact with a sibling with NPD). Learning to spend most of my time in the present has been priceless.
Same here. I was married to one as well. I'm not identified with that pain. I don't care to keep recreating it.
@@rainncorbin8291 It feels good to be out from under those kinds of energy & thought processes!
@@DeannaAKADeanna no doubt
This is very timely. I'm processing some pain that my mother unearthed yesterday. I was until then unaware that I had been resisting that pain for decades. So today, I'm experiencing waves of pain and crying. But I'm just allowing that pain to be what it is and acknowledging its origins. Not attaching any judgements to it or wishing for justice or any external acknowledgment of wrongdoing, but just allowing it to flow through me. I'm watching the thinker and doing my best to feel the fact that I'm the watcher, not the thinker.
We are NOT the pain. ❤ I used to think it was ME....
No~ I am the calm underneath it. My core self is calm, caring, curious, creative....
Being present, acknowledge the feeling and enjoy the process.Thank you Eckhart Tolle for your wisdom.
More power to you🤗
..."it becomes a mental virus" (min. 10:00)
hearing these words, reminds me of our current situation...
Living in a fractal based universe is fascinating
I am going to do trauma release exercises in conjunction with Eckhart Tolle as currently, I may not have the resources to deal with the emotions that come up, also I think 5he exercises will help me stop mentally and verbally having intrusive dialogue while trying to be in the here and now. I read Peter Levineards , he ties in well with Eckhart Tolle’s teachings as he goes into great detail with regards to how trauma is held in the body, and will signpost me to the right way to release this trauma.
Eckhart Tolle, please help people with PTSD or CPTSD by recommending The Body Keeps the Score. Psychology does have a place in healing.
to anybody suffering from trauma I suggest Somatic experience therapy. This is a therapy by Peter Levine who is specialised in trauma threatment.
Thank you Ekhhart for making me see the pain in this way and to comprehend what you have told
The pain is the soul telling us dont be ego, separate or critical but stay in the presence and be a loving person that is not ego, separate or critical, but today we identify whit the pain instead and use all our energy to hold the pain back so we can use words and a game to act and talk true instead. In this "lures" we suffer and become a person that is not worthy anything...
I been experiencing something when I'm being the space and meditating during Ayahuasca ceremonies, I start vomiting, shaking, releasing all this trauma energy and it feels like it's this inner presence that's enabling the release to happen. I don't completely understand it but I can feel it like these dense energies trapped in my energy field are being released
I Love you Eckhart
" It forces you to go beyond identification with form" 💞💞💞💞
What shared regarding his childhood trauma and the nature is exactly how mine was as well- not one thing but dispersed over the childhood.
For those who are still reaching for awakening - the teaching of acceptance is a portal to spaciousness even for those who've had no experience of the silence of the witnessing self - GRATEFUL AS ALWAYS TO YOU ET
How to heal from illness by this. I suffer greatly with swallowing and breathing issues ,central nervous system phycological.. please help I feel I won’t make it
Excellent...... Everyone acts according to their consciousness..... Learning to be with whatever feelings are moving through us, whatever sensations are moving through us, whenever thoughts are moving through us, without resistance, simply allowing ourselves to experience whatever is moving through us
Also look into Peter Levine’s trauma release. Holding one hand on your forehead and one on the chest is calming and releasing trauma that is trapped in the psychical body.
And EFT is a gentle and easy way to release emotional triggers and can help with trauma and difficult thoughts and feelings. Brad Yates has many free videos on you tube.
Bessel van der kolt IS ANOTHER WORTHY PERSON TO LEARN ABOUT TRAUMA.
The truth will set you free, and only in suffering can you then see the “light” in life
A storm never lasts forever
I liked that we don't have to focus on battling our pain to move beyond it. And this ability we all have within us.
In addition to accepting trauma and letting it go, you can also try EMDR if you have PTSD
His smile is just fantastic
So much easier said than done.
Have a Good day Eckhart
I love you, Eckhart Tolle
Thanks for this great video. The important thing when trauma returns is not to be associated to it anymore. Instead, accept the pain but find your another self, the one that did not suffer this trauma, and only observe it from outside. Dissociated.
9:17 best takeaway from the brilliant Echart. Listen to it many times
When you can identify where your present moment thoughts are coming from, the watcher in you can bring you to a place of wisdom and peace, deep within your body. You will need to be in full acceptance of what is and have a quiet mind with no resistance to the situation.
"Deepening" awareness brings awareness to trauma which is within the Ego realm, awareness of trauma - weakens it's intensity, reactivity & gradually it starts dissolving & liquifying & becoming less dense, there is more being as a witness rather than the identity which has to protect itself
anyone else really deep into healing from trauma recently?
My trauma healing journey began only last year. It was the missing piece on my spiritual journey🙏🏼
Check out The Bioemotive Framework site. Go to "Free" and check out "Core Feeling assessment" and Interpersonal Assessment" Old friend of mine who developed method this over 30 years of private practice as a clinical psychologist. Hope this helps.
Being going heavy through healing using this process for about 3 months, lots of childhood stuff came up that I had been unaware of, but realized after releasing the original pain usually through crying how this subconcious stuff was affecting my current behaviors and perceptions of life in general. Once the subconcious becomes concious, you become free of it. Pete from Canada.
Peter Langes I will check this out, thank you Pete!
Yeah.... just moved on from a traumatic cheating in love
I try at least. Just have a lot of trouble with it, as I am so numb and dissociated all the time.
Label the pain. Label the peace...detach from oneself. Thanks Eckhart yet again.
Emotional release helps, feeling is ‘healing’ , time, process and love - love heals, pray for divine love and love yourself this will help a lot to heal the energy. 1 hour a day. While staying in that place, the ‘formless’, transcended dimension. Love it from the transcended dimension; release it