Lmao undiagnosed ADHD here because my parents didn't care but I'm with you g. I took some of my friends meds a few times because even they could see I needed something and holy shit it was the difference between night and day. But until I can get enough money or insurance Im just ruining my gut popping caffeine pills like pez to help me keep simi focus for a few hours at a time, I love life.... *because saying you wanna Ronnie Mcnutt yourself "isn't appropriate" apparently*
When he said, “But when you part the curtains a little bit and you recognise how distrustful they are of themselves because they can’t help it, nearly everything they’ve touched in their lives hasn’t gone the way it ought to” well cue the tears. ADHD is always so minimised, but it’s fucking hard to live with.
I have always felt like I'm the bad luck or "that bad thing " cause I fuck up every damn thing I touch and all I daydream of is about having a perfect life . I fuck up everything I don't meet deadlines keep promises cause every afternoon I feel like a different person passionate about a different thing . All I want for is to stop this roller coaster ride I am tired , I am done with it , I am so emotionally drained can't have friends socially very awkward Live in my dreams . I almost don't know what's real I can't feel what's real . Every time I'm low i wipe my own tears say it's gonna be okay but I can't lie no more . For a long time I thought I was the problem maybe if I am not in between these people maybe I won't fuck up and I from my heart wanted to be wrong but when I stopped being with them there was no fuck ups and it proved me right . I feel something crushing in my stomach everytime I remember I am the problem It has been 3 years now since I no more talk to anyone have stopped embarrassing myself in front of everyone I don't feel like living I don't hate myself to die . I love myself , I want the best for me but knowing I'm the problem hurts so much and the fact that it doesn't change no matter what I do crushes my stomach and I have this physical feeling of crushing in my stomach everytime I'm ashamed or embarrassed or fucked up ! I don't know what to do
@@just.An0therRand0m thank you so much. Sending so much love to you we all have this insane wiring but it is also the reason I can dream like there is no limitations and it is also the reason I am creative . I am brave to think with no limits it's a blessing if I look at it like that
@@marxmarx5058 when you talk about messing things up for others, do you mean your emotions cause problems (ADD’s Emotional Dysregulation can create unwanted drama and hurt feelings) lack of organization, spending too much, or something else entirely?
@@yarnpower yeah I act out of emotions and I am living in my head not the reality so I make decisions according to my imagination and nobody gets it . Nobody is gonna get it technically so it kinda fucks up the situation . And I do everything based on my imagination it almost feels reality is fake and I am thankful cause if I wasn't living like that I would be long gone ukwim and confrontation is something I can't do I run away from almost everything and anything I'm working on it won't let it go and will never loose hope . I am bipolar and have ADHD as long as I can pay the bills and creatively exist in my head I am fine . I don't need to fit in and that imagination I'm living in I promise I'll make it a greater reality
I’m 68 and was reading about adhd and I was saying that’s me ! I asked my doctor and I’m on adderal Now . I’ve had a terrible time health wise since 60 was waiting to die Now that I can do my art again I would like to stay around for a while .
Bless you. And i hope you do. Enjoy your life, and accomplish things in your own way and time. Adhd people get a seriously bad press, because of the ignorance and the "one size fits all" box created for everyone. Look at it this way...how many happillly fit into that safe, already created and provided box? You have to navigate it a bit differently. And that's ok. If you were a highly educated scientist, who cannot communicate with mere mortals, and is quite reclusive, but wealthy, no one would ever bat an eyelid or judge you for having anxiety or being different. It's all about sratus and wealth in our world, made that way to control us. You are you. Enjoy being you and accept yourself as being the bright light in a box of dull lightbulbs. Ps, look into niacin/niacinamide, gaba, 5htp and L-thanine. All the best
This is so heartbreaking... I'm glad you found purpose again. Please dont just wait to die ♡ my Nana did that and it was the most awful thing to witness. Brought me a great deal of depression as a teenager.
@@onemillionpercent same. There's nothing wrong with you - your brain is wired differently and like the rest of us, you'll need to accept that and look for solutions that work for you - I'm still searching...
“How many tasks did they not do because they learned not to try” That one hit me hard. I get that feeling that anything I try to do crumbles so it’s just better not to try.
I'll try anything. There's no fear of failure. My issue is always getting started. Overthinking delays the start of almost every single project and task no matter how small.
Anxiety makes complete sense when you have difficulty paying attention. You know you're missing things, but don't know what and have a history of getting in trouble for things you may not have even been aware of....so you're constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. How does one not feel anxious when that's your life experience?
@@JDXOGG No, the opposite. Untreated ADHD can create anxiety (for the reasons mentioned above). But treating the ADHD, can make the anxiety decrease to the point where it's no longer clinical.
@@JDXOGG Natural vs unnatural is kind of a meaningless distinction. The meds I take increase my dopamine (a completely natural process) in the places of my body that I need it. Naturally, my brain doesn't have enough dopamine, so anything I do to change that isn't natural. That being said, medication is only part of the treatment I have for my ADHD. The best thing I did was to go to a therapist, she and I together are treating my ADHD and life is better than it's ever been. That treatment does include medication. But meds for my ADHD are kind of like needing glasses. The quality of my life is far worse if I don't wear my glasses, that doesn't mean I'm addicted to my glasses...it means that it's harder to do what I want to without them, because my eyes need help to see.
ADHD i havent been diagnosed .but i i knpw i have .it, Car accidents. loss of keys.credit cardsj money food.,etc.I have coexisting diagnosis Substance. use,anxiety and depression and its gotten worse since i retired.staying sober is hard in 12 step program because my shame anf guilt and suffering continues.The loss of self esteem and self confidence tumbles.I stay sober for years 16 years.10 years etc AA is the only constant thing ive done for myself but even there all i can do is not drink.Well was a nurse for 51 years and my focus was pretty good.
It's easy to watch a 90min video about ADHD while greatly suffering from ADHD because every 30 seconds I point at the screen and yell, "IT ME!" [then try not to cry from the bittersweet message that this is one of the most treatable psychiatric disorders yet your physicians and counselors over the years have treated you like a junkie every time you asked to get an ADHD test. never even gave screener. i almost killed myself for something that is diagnosable and treatment has been available for a long time.]
I always wondered if I had ADHD, Watched a handful of vids tonight and I had the same experience. Ill talk to my Therapist soon and firmly suggest that I probably have ADHD :)
It’s sort of painful to know that your younger self suffered so much shit because of an undiagnosed disorder. I realised that everything in my life has been because of ADHD, my bad timekeeping, interrupting people, emotion fluctuation, forgetfulness, depression, suicidal thoughts, impulsiveness and the list could go on forever. What I thought was my personality flaws and something I could solely fix by being a ‘better’ person was something to do with how differently my brain is wired compared to a normal person. But I also know that having adhd I realised how much of a determined person I am to have gone and passed law school, be able to get a full time job, maintain family and friend close relationship, volunteer etc.
It both sucks and blows to finally have some answers Have you watched Em Rusciano National Press address. Great Australian performer, diagnosed @ 43. Funny, and sad...mostly funny 🌻
I’m 60 and often wonder “why am I riding my motorcycle like a madman, why is everyone going slow”. I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD but continually fail to realise the impact it has on my life. I live by myself, no way would I put someone through the stress of living with me. ADHD... the gift that keeps giving
Mood. Didja catch the part where he was talking about the things that we miss out on because we are avoiding it because all of our experience tells us that we'll f&%# it up? Yeah
@@nobody8328 . . . but when we do get it right, no matter how small, it gives such a thrill. You got the nobody right, that's for sure. The general answer to the Hard questions is . . . . "nobody knows" :-) A sense of humour is invaluable.
@@nobody8328 I hate that feeling. You look at the world and think "damn, why am I so inadequate?" Born into the 21st century golden age of information and too disorganized to make sense of it. Smart enough to see one's failures, but too unmotivated and shiftless to do anything about them. Life feels like a river that's dragging you along and over rocks with no input on your part. Perfect recipe for self hate... I'm going to try to get medicated and take a stab at a career involving medicine. But if the meds don't work, it looks like I'm going to continue the theme of being a failure in the land of opportunity.
Those that do find jobs, become fearful of losing said job - so we tend to learn how to mask ourselves in order to get thru a work day. But the flip side to that is once we get home, we've nothing left.
I'm a cleaner , I'm currently hiding in the supply closet listening to this instead of work. Best procrastination material ever it's inspired me to have another try at getting help ... It's also made me completely not interested in the next few hours of work I'd rather just go for a walk or call my psych and talk about this or something now I'm kinda pissed off I gotta go back to work now 😂😂😂😂 I'll come out if the closet (no pun intended) soon I'm building up to it 😅😅😅
I'm washing dishes, making dinner, laundry and getting my kids ready for bed as im listing it was my only way to focus to listen to this information. This is life saving information ❣❣❣❣
I've been treatment-resistant to meds my entire adult life. Been on 10 different meds for my depression and anxiety. Nothing seemed to help. All of this describes my life, hauntingly so. It's both terrifying and a revelation. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 30, a few weeks ago. Now on meds and hopeful for the future.
Good luck & I wish you success working with your new diagnosis. It's easy for people to say that giving something a label makes it worse or whatever. But honestly once we know what we're dealing with, we have somewhere to start.
ADHD is currently killing me, I cannot get meds, I've flunked out of school seven times, can't hold a job for long, and now my business is failing because I am missing deadlines and am taking too long to prepare for the day. I am afraid that if I cannot get the appropriate doctor and subsequent medication that I may be relegated to living in a tent and then cashing in my chips.
I hear you. I’m currently living/working in an area that looks at all adult ADHDers as addicts, but then hand out amphetamines like candy to 6 year olds (it’s a money maker). No counseling available either. Trying to hold on to the end of my contract (May), then getting the hell out of Dodge!
If you're in the USA there is plenty of help just by going to your Dr, in the UK it's almost impossible. I went to a famous expensive clinic in the UK with a specialist only to find out I lived to far away to get the meds, I went to my own Dr's after he said I commend you on getting the tests but we don't recognise it so we can't help you, 5 years later still on the same boat!
Just realized at 50 years old that I have ADHD. I’ve been diagnosed with treatment resistant depression and have tried every medication available. Watching this explained everything. Thank you for posting this. I will share it with my doctor.
This video describes me perfectly. I recently went to my Dr to see about adhd, he said since I graduated high school and held down a job, I don't have adhd, and he thinks I need antidepressants, which have never worked for me. When I straight up asked about trying methylphenidate, he told me I could go to a college campus and buy some speed to try it out. I was so angry I wanted to scream. There are a lot of terrible doctors out there.
Report that (doctor!!). Totally unprofessional and dangerous!... I am a registered nurse, mental health, woith a recent diagnosis of adhd.. It is so important to highlight so damaging just 'one' doctor can be.... Potential untold damage to the people he os supposed to be helping.. Bless you. Xxx
It's really impressive how well these doctors grasp life with ADHD, particularly the second speaker (missed his name). They've really done their homework and did it with a lot of empathy.
have you all lost your attention to sales pitch cause PHS are not in the business of saving or helping only to destroy innocent ones stuck in their synthetic zombie freakshow, illicit to illegal not the pretty pics unless you watch phs have a tenant rotting limbs off in lobby were had to pass to exit the bldg we rent maggots covered his feet.
As an ADHD brain, I am immensely grateful of this complication of information, it's a shame most ADHD people won't be able to focus this long - I'm fortunate to find this interesting/stimulating enough to focus on, but I am certainly an outlier.
I'm an outlier too, because I've trained myself over time. Despite severe ADHD, I can focus on every word of this, whatever the length. But I wish sooooooo much I'd known, and those around me had known, when I was a kid. So much damage caused.
I'm watching this and nodding my head at virtually every point being made. I have always known something was off but this is like having someone finally coming in and turning on the light. Everything that other adults accomplish with a normal amount of effort feels like a monumental task for me at times.
Minute 51 where he begins to talk about people with ADHD beginning to not attempt anymore... "how much do you not do bc you learn the hard way not to try anymore" to have less apparence of impairment ... learn the art of avoiding things... hit me right in the feels... :'( I have so many regrets and now that i'm 30, I feel like I am too old to go after what used to be my dreams. I wasn't diagnosed until mid-20s, after I was out of undergrad and sought out diagnosis myself when I had my own insurance, since my parents didn't believe in ADHD. I wish I had gotten treatment when younger. Some clued in teachers saw it, I think; others just thought I was quirky or whatever since I wasn't awful at school, was in honors/ap/gifted classes, but turned in everything late all the time and got away with it.
I'm about to blow your hypothesis out of the water: I was diagnosed at 35 and am going to school for a new career at 40, and I am not the oldest person in my classes. It's NEVER too late to better your life, you have to work on letting go of the past and learn to accept your present situation. Identify your strengths and run with them, cut yourself some slack when you screw up, everybody screws up Learn how to love and prioritize yourself. You are worth the effort! It helps to reach out to ADHD specialists in your area too, many have a sliding cost scale if money is an issue.
@@jmags2586 Exaclty, I was majoring in accounting because i was good at it. After a year internship, I realized that the most fun at had at work was doing tasks that involved research, creativity, and teamwork. I didnt like doing all documents and numbers. Now im a psychology major as a senior in college and id like to use my business experience for industrial psychology. I can inhale psychology like its air and I love to apply my knowledge.
I was diagnosed two months ago. I’m 47. I promise you it’s not too late. If I thought too hard about how much time I’ve lost, it would crush me. We can only look forward.
I always took pride in my intelligence and ability to multitask. I can see further than the present, anticipating what comes next and how the pieces better fit together. ADHD was a gift, until it wasn’t. I feel like my mind and body run on two separate circuits that make no sense together. One is often sleepier than the other or can’t keep up with the other. The more I accomplish, the more projects I look for. Or I make a mess of things just to clean it up again. This way, I don’t get bored. This is how the hyperactive part looks for me as an adult. And the daydreaming never stops since childhood. Meds make me feel like my brain is wearing a warm blanket, cozy, safe, focused. My anxiety goes away, the circuits of body and mind come together like two gears turning a clock. But finding a doctor to give the meds is so difficult! Not all of us are addicts. Some of us need it to function. Just like diabetes or high BP.
Too many ppl fall through the cracks. I just realized that I have ADHD. took 50 years to find out. highly dysfunctional. wish i had been diagnosed early in life. there is no doubt that my life would have been totally different had I been treated smh
I totally agree with you I was just diagnosed last week and now been on medication and it has made a huge difference. It mades me sad that I could’ve been working on this a lot longer and I would’ve been in a better place in life.
I got to the 10 minute mark guys... cant be too bad . Spent a good amount of it scrolling through your comments, and zoned out though. Guess I'll try again later...
I just wanted to say thank you for this. As a college student with untreated adhd, I've been dealing with a lot of emotional issues and struggles related to it, honestly just so much self blame, and this video helped me understand recontextualize stutt. I was honestly sobbing when he was talking about the hollowing out that adhd can create in one's life because it's been what's steadily been happening to me over the past 5 years and hearing it described and starting to understand that I shouldn't hate myself for these symptoms was a lot emotionally. I've honestly only gotten partway through the video but I've had a good lot of cathartic cries and am even more determined now to seek treatment. Also, hearing someone demanding adhd be considered as serious of a disorder as it truly is really means a lot.
The part that Tabatha spoke on about the clumsiness and being uncoordinated really resonated with me. I always wondered why my balance was off as a young child. Thank you for this video.
I had shocking coordination as a child thought it was due to my Aspergers but what if I also have comorbid ADHD Inattentive type too, then I have the double whammy no wonder I feel like an underachiever all my life
I only realized recently that I'm probably struggling with ADHD my whole life....but that it was masked by anxiety, overshadowed by depression, which was mainly a result of frustration and hopelessness, because I couldn't seem to figure out why everyone else was seemingly "just" able to do things, while I couldn't do the most mundane....but then at the same time I seemed to be impressively good at the things I was interested in....which then also made people start thinking that I'm just lazy or doing it on purpose...procrastination....not studying...doing everything in the last minute...on top of that, I believe to be quite intelligent and that might have further masked my struggles for myself and others. Then add a pinch of traumatic past and difficult childhood with constantly running into problems, because of "not paying enough attention" "having difficulties following directions" "being a daydreamer" etc. and you got yourself a cocktail of 30+ years of feeling like a chaotic mess....I was in therapy for last 3 years for mainly depression and anxiety....depression medication didn't work for me and even made me somewhat worse....the last I got was an SNRI, which helped with anxiety but not with depression...NOW I find out that I might just be anxious and depressed, because my whole life I have been struggling against a giant that no one paid attention to...because I was just a "shy, quiet and daydreaming" girl...
Hope you got diagnosed because you nailed it. Everything you wrote applied to me, and I got diagnosed at 30. Spent years blaming my anxiety for what turned out to be ADHD symptoms. The problem is anxiety is obvious. ADHD isn't. The symptoms are the symptoms of everyday life but excessively so. Everyone forgets things, but not like you. Everyone struggles with motivation and concentration, but not like you. Everyone procrastinates, but not like you. It's too easy to convince yourself that you just need to get a grip and be like everyone else, and never realise why that seems like such a miserable task that exhausts you every day.
I never knew adhd was that complex, I was diagnosed with it at a young age, but my mother never gave me the meds and we never talked about it. Now looking at this I can finally see how it relates to me. The procrastination of course is on point but especially the other stuff like a getting irritable fast, substance abuse disorder, panic disorder, depression it all relates to what I've felt increasingly getting worse the past years. Idk if this is also related, but if I don't have my outlets I get this almost manic feeling of wanting to do something reckless. Something to finally feel alive
Wow, this was such a captivating presentation as a future pharmacist and recently diagnosed woman with ADHD and co-morbid PTSD and major depression. Thank you so much for this, really gives me hope for my future and the medical field that there are physicians out there that care so much about their patients. I relate to Tabatha's story so much. Grateful to have come across this!!
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 32 years of age. This video sums up my experience. I had awful problems because of my untreated ADHD. Since starting medication and doing more reading on the subject, I'm not cured, but things have definitely improved a lot for me.
WOW. Every doctor needs to watch this. Amazing information. I have ADHD and this video hits home. It seems like most medical professionals don’t really understand ADHD, but they need to.
For 35 years I thought I had anxiety. My whole life I couldn't focus, I failed a few times, and didn't make it passed 8th grade. I did obtain my GED few years after that when I was 19. It wasn't until I went to treatment for addiction to oxycodone that my Dr came to the conclusion that I had ADHD. Prescribed me Adderall and that turned my life around. My light bulb was turned on. Things got better and better a little at a time. Went from being a truck driver to managing warehouses to starting my own tech business. I always thought ADHD was for people who couldn't sit down and was off the wall with energy. My excess energy wasn't expressed with being hyper in the way. It was on the inside which I thought was anxiety. Adderall got rid of that feeling.
Finally got diagnosed at 31. I was diagnosed with depression as a kid, had peripartum and postpartum depression at 21/22, and was diagnosed with bipolar ii a few weeks later when their treatment plan didn't work out. I lost everything, including my child, because I'm being told I had this diagnosis and I didn't feel like someone like me should be around a baby. And because of that bipolar diagnosis at 2 months postpartum, I never got help for my postpartum depression and that entire time is now discussed in therapy as trauma. In 2019 I received neuropsych testing and was told I didn't register for bipolar. Instead, I'm now diagnosed with major depression, generalized anxiety, PTSD, mild OCD, and ADHD. I suffer from imposter syndrome constantly. I stopped working in 2018 because my health and my mental health crashed, and I'm JUST NOW feeling well enough to get a part time job and start taking back control of my life. If your therapist or psych isn't listening, please find someone who does. And please keep in mind, I'm sure at some point I would have fit the criteria for bipolar, but I went my entire life not being medicated for it. Having ADHD and leaving it untreated can leave you vulnerable to mental illness, especially if you grew up in an environment in which you were talked down to for acting the way you did, and you learned to cope with these neurological differences on your own. If you're reading this, please keep at it. ❤
@@LancelotVantuyckom ADD is now called ADHD, inattentive type. However, a lot of adults who think they don’t have the ‘H’ actually do-it’s just internal or in speech.
I use the settings button to slow the video down or speed it up to my comfort level and go back a lot. I agree, I use self help and I'm looking for a doc that I like, to try some medical intervention. I've had some success with chiropractors in my area helping with diet. removing sugar, eating meals on time, removing foods that bother me, supplementing vitamins and mineral. Not eating grains has helped. Still can't spell, but brain fog is reduced.
Thank you for addressing the issue of ageism! My 70th birthday was in January and I was diagnosed with ADHD in January. I have the comorbity of major depressive disorder a
and anxiety. I saw my psychiatrist because of increased depression and anxiety. I also presented with complaints of inability to concentrate and focus. Since the diagnosis and treatment my life is vastly improved. There is still some tweaking to be done but I’m getting there.
Depression can be treated even if you're adhd ..you must demand treatment and have the doctor acknowledge that the treatment is working so that it doesn't become chronic. Depression has a tendency to just get worse over time.
I could write a book on the lies we tell ourselves; the biggest ones for me being that I'll remember that person's birthday this year for sure, and the other that I'll only have one glass of wine - max two!! You may already do some of these as your "adapt and overcome" strategies, but when you have memory issues and poor impulse controls everything helps lol. - Text yourself ideas, appointments, etc. that you want to remember / write down / put in calendar later. - For appointments put a sticky note in the bathroom or kitchen so you're reminded first thing in the morning. - If you're bringing something the next day, put it in front of your door the night before (or put a note on or near the door if that's not possible). Bonus points if you remember the night before. - My keys hang on a nail right beside my door so it's impossible for me to leave without taking them. - Set yourself up for success. Keep apples etc. in the fridge to eat instead of ice cream or cookies. I can't resist the siren call of these items so I keep them out of my home. I'm mostly off the sugar train, but it's challenging when you have hypothyroidism, menopause, and poor sleep ha ha ha. - Nature and exercise make you feel better. To help get motivated I put on some fun music beforehand - it always perks me up. The rewards are hearing birds singing, seeing flowers and greenery, and better overall health. I suspect others will have some tips to share as well - I'd love to know how others adapt and overcome :)
Thank you for mentioning this... as a past crack addict (12 years clean now) - I am insanely grateful that my Doctor was willing to put my on Vyvanse a few years ago. I was struggling very badly and it's been making a huge difference. I appreciate that you are clearly educating about how ADHD causes a path to addiction that can be reasonably understood. I also appreciate that this video addresses the issues of shame that effect our quality of life. (I am diagnosed ADHD & Autistic).
I suffered horribly as a child. Hated school. I would sit in my chair miserable. It didnt help that I went to 16 different schools. As an adult ADHD hits me harder than ever before. HELP!!
Clearly your parents had it too. My whole family had it. 13 schools here.... Brother in prison, dad died of OD. Mom remarried and helped my youngest brother. He is married with 3 kids and stable. Go figure.... 3 out of 5 still alive & not incarcerated.
There's so such thing as ADHD. You have a set of symptoms that include attention impairment that was *CAUSED* by trauma in your childhood. Treat the cause: trauma. Stop treating the symptoms ("ADHD").
At 65 I still struggle with ADD (adhd- I still don’t know the difference). At the age of 58 went back for a masters degree and then applied and got accepted to a PhD program. The activities associated with learning and applying my new knowledge keeps my mind active and removed from thinking all those negative thoughts and engaging in harmful behaviors. Although my Aderal XR is extremely helpful with keeping focused I still struggle with so much more, and as a result of one ir more of the struggles, I put myself in a logistic situation that is a nightmare (a relative safe one ). As a result, and because of my thinking I cannot connect on an ambitious level like others because what I perceive is an age issue, I feel like crawling into a hole. This presentation armed me with information that I will use to pull the articles I need to provide evidence to support the need to change my medication AGAIN! As a research scientist, I cannot overestimate the positive if effect your presentation 😉 Thank you wholeheartedly
Went about 25 years with untreated adhd. I always knew something was off. I never understood why I struggled so hard with everything. I finally got diagnosed and medicated within the last couple of years. Medication absolutely helps get you back on track. I just wish I had taken it at a younger age. I ended up developing so many mental disorders. If you suspect a loved one has it please encourage them to get treated! I went from failing 9th grade, graduating with a 2.1 gpa, bounced job to job, failed relationships, unorganized lifestyle, cheating, with uncontrollable anger, and volatile emotions to now, Serving eight years in the military, homeowner, good credit, and a 3.71 gpa in college, about five months until I graduate with a bachelors. Its still a struggle, but I've come so far.
Pre-medicated at 8:30am on a Friday and I am rapt by every word coming out of my phone. I pause frequently to take screenshots (I'll go back later and take proper screencaps of the slides to help my family and friends) then just up and move to the laptop so I can fiddle with my phone while I watch and listen. This is how adult ADHD can present: if the video is compelling enough you will have me the whole ride. That's it. Thank you, folx, this was lifechanging.
my mom refuses me any form of treatment so- when i was younger adhd was so much easier to manage but now I feel like Im ruining my life and everyone around me
Have you seen the How To ADHD channel? It helps keep a positive attitude while at the same time acknowledging the hardships. And the episodes are short about 5 min each!
I'm sure your mom believes she is "protecting you," but as noted in the video, there is harm being done. Hopefully you do look up a lot of information on your own, and you ask to talk to a counselor at your school. More than anything, I suggest that you find online support groups for ADHD. It's amazing how much talking to people who understand, really does help. I'm glad you are searching for solutions -- that's the key to getting better, is having tenacity to grow through the difficulties.
You're not alone and YT is a great platform to find free resources and coping strategies. I know the feeling of having to find everything out myself, but you can do it. Also look at exercise and nutrition recommendations, they alone could make a huge difference.
@@serenityedits1857 I had to switch from dance to Psychology because of a physicals illness but I am super glad I did because I love psych and want to get my masters in the field. However I super love languages and I could have double majored in Japanese. I was so afraid of never graduating that I just rushed to graduate. I feels you.
@@MistedForest Yeah I'm a senior and I changed to Pyschology. I can't get enough, I read scholarly artilces and research studies from various disiplines. I want to apply my learning of business to industrial psychology. The only problem I have with the school is that it's too fast pace and we dont focus on applying our knowledge. Testing and studying have always been a struggle with me (because ADHD), but if you ask me to apply my knowledge, im the smartest guy in the room.
@@MistedForest I'm bilingual and i love to learn french, german, russian, and arabic. Most the time i learn phrases then i shout then around my friends at random. I want to teach myself another languange properly one day.
I failed with my first two wives, couldn't keep a job, failed my businesses. Then I took a few transformative training and I can concentrate on what is really important to me and what is not important I have the tools to reach out for support. No meds.
@@lycorislune3846 than you. 1. You are a treasure and Unlike how it looks it is ok just the way it is. You are loved, appreciated and respected. 2. Don't fake. Be in communication with everyone about what you can do and what will take much longer to do. 3. The voices in the head that tell you that tell you that: there is something wrong here, I am not enough, I am all alone or I don't belong - are just voices, are not reality and each human being has a version of it. 4. Rather than looking for a change put your eyes on: honoring your word ( when you don't keep your word clean up proudly). 5. Practice being SLOW. 🌷
I was diagnosed at 43 and after an appropriate heart test was started on concerta. It was Frustrating even at the higher dose. But when switched to Barr Dextroamphetamine Sulphate at the correct dose my life changed for the better; it was a miracle for me. I began to add Holistic practices like breathing courses, meditated, and volunteered. I was hopeful for the first time in my life. Then during the Obama Administration it all went to hell. A secret "Shortage", Lies, and All other ADHD meds were inferior, progressively worse as time went on. All of the Medications were in Authentic, non standardized and misrepresented. I've returned more than I can count as well as filed formal grievances with all : politicians, Insurance Cos, Director of NYS mental Health. Teva bought out Barr and the manufacturer in NJ Lied when he denied Any changes to my 12 year Medication. Life is a perpetual Hell and the toxic Heavy Metals are still ongoing. All are Non standardized and Harmful. So many Lies And total disregard from negative now Chronic Health Effects. This is fraud and I've been Robbed of almost 10 years of my life. Other Medications are covertly changed to Placebos with side effects . This is Criminal
@@kqp1998gyy thank you so much. im 19 and i feel like i have it because theres nothing else that describes my situation better than adhd. i feel so scared bc i got into college with a LOT of mental effort and difficulty and i just couldnt figure out why it was so hard for me to concentrate through high school, and i'm in my first year of college and everything is crashing down upon me. i dont know what to do. i need to get diagnosed first of all, if it is truly this, but i dont know it feels like a roadblock. ur words are so kind and patient.
This has got to be the most informative video on ADHD I have ever seen, just amazing. All perspectives - the statistics, the studies, the treatment options and the human side, all in just one lecture/seminar. Simply amazing, so many thanks to all of the three speakers, and to HMPe for publishing this. Greatly appreciated.
Anyone else been diagnosed with Bipolar when it has been ADHD all along.! I was diagnosed with Bipolar 20 years ago, I was depressed because I was not coping with ADHD. Bipolar has since been changed to depression but they will not diagnose ADHD although I am positive that this has been the underlying problem my who life. I’m 51! My cousin, her son, and my own son all diagnosed with ADHD. It is very hard to get a diagnoses here and medicated in New Zealand.
I'm the literal definition of ADHD after listening to this and even tho I knew I had this since I was a kid I'm now 38 and forgot how much this disorder has controlled me my whole life and still is but now I don't feel hopeless I feel empowered knowing I'm not a failure and just need to work with what I got
I was diagnosed with ADD when I turned 27, today I am 36 and felt that around the age of 35 I started to get an idea of the situation with the help of a psychologist and therapist. It can still get very messy easily, from the time it is cleaned to it is CRAZY… .never sees when it gets messy… .it just happens 😅 so I have to clean every day, and dare not leave any dishes… because then it will get messy fast 🤪
My god I wish I could find a Dr with this much patience and understanding.. Imagine having trauma, military ptsd, depression, anxiety and feeling like adhd fits better than any other diagnosis but they over look all that bc of your past and experiences.. And not the right ones might I add
I can't believe I just watched 1:10 hours of this out of 1:26 hours of this presentation from description, pharmacology to a patient's success story. I have a history with ADHD and associated comorbidity issues and that lady patient is amazing. What makes her even more encredible is her ability to advance in a law enforcement/corrections occupation where the stigma of mental issues is especially severe. If this lady patient was a man, she has balls of steel. Admiration for her and her doctor. There is still a huge weakness in our medical and social work community to dealing with ADHD because of the massive amounts of time and cost in dealing with its challenges.
There’s a blood test you can do called a PGX-Panel which will indicate the metabolism rates of a large list pharmaceuticals commonly available. You’ll see exactly what will work and what to avoid.
I really felt for Tabitha discussing her parenting troubles. I have a son with ADHD, and my goodness the tears. I myself feel that same exact thing. A great story from her.
I’ve been diagnosed for years, but I’m just now trying to take an active role in bettering myself and not living my life conformed to my anxiety and emotional dysregulation. I cried quite a few times listening to this video, especially Rh part about being hollow inside like termites in a house, I get so tired of the media driven representation of adhd. I’m just tired and exhausted. thanks so much for all the information
Wow I needed to hear this. So appreciate the presenters audible excitement and emphasis as he speaks. It makes this a million times easier to listen to than the standard monotone that a lot of other videos have
Oh my gosh!!. I am soooo uncomfortable in my own skin. I feel akward when I'm in a room with another person. Its worse when its in a meeting. I binge eat. I absolutely cannot sit still to save my life. I chew a lot of gum. I am 49 years old. When I was a kid it was a nightmare for me. It didn't help that I went to 16 schools. No my parents weren't in the military.
Wow, you sound like me.. My parents also moved me a lot as s child. I often feel like an alien to others. I also feel stressed around people, though cannot stand being alone with my mind. Terrible illness. I tried meds but they made my heart rate super high and anxiety worse. So what do I do?
@@aaymathebest4705 Yes, they can. Medication will not be a problem for children, even though the kids will be at high risk of having ADHD, because it's genetic. Adult ADHD without treatment will be a huge problem, though. Parents absolutely need to get their own condition under control FIRST (with medication or any other way that works) or come to peace with it. Or else the whole family will be very, very unhappy and it could be a disaster (ask me how i know).
I have adhd and want to die. I can't stand this anymore. I can't keep living like this. It's like I have a smart brain being held inside a mental prison. I hope my brain can be studied and benefit the future. I'm so glad I watched this video though. There's so many things that never made sense to me. I've always felt depressed because of how my brain works to the point life felt hopeless and crippling. I've tried dozens of SSRI and SNRI medications, but absolutely nothing has worked. They've only made my focus worse. I'm so glad to now understand why. I'm so grateful for doctors like this who genuinely care and have compassion for people like us. I genuinely love them for fighting for us. I'm so sick of it being treated like a quirky joke. No, ADHD has ruined my life and held me back from becoming my best self. I once had dreams of being a pilot and couldn't do it because I kept messing up. I struggle so much and try my best to not get confused, forgetful, or make careless mistakes, but nothing works or ever will. Anyways, I've reached my breaking point because after 36 years on this planet, I know things will never get better. There will never be a cure. It will always be a challenge to live a normal life and more than anything, I'm tired. I'm so tired.
I just "chunk it down". That's the beauty of a format you can "freeze". It might take me a week to get through something this long, but the smaller pieces make it more digestible. If I'm really into it, I can chunk it down again with pen and paper, and command quite an understanding of the material. I've been looking for something recent on these conditions since coming upon Dr. Barkley's work a few months ago.
I'm 35. A Facebook short where an adhd person started explaining what it is to have it....that's me. How many of these symptoms do I have? All of them. Now I'm learning how to cope. So thankful for modern science, I can get little life hacks to help me live a more fulfilling life.
I have pretty bad adhd, impulsive abuse of substances especially stimulants can be caused by adhd. Not only with impulse control, but with dealing with the negativity adhd brings to alot of peoples lives. Its ironic that stimulants like amphetimines are prescribed for a disorder that is in my observation and experience more at risk of abusing them lol.
66 yo female here diagnosed in past 3 years only because my adult son was tested. So many good YT channels but HealthyGamerGG is my hero. A psychiatrist with ADHD who aims his content toward the young and male but ends up covering every topic really well. Smart and very real
James Smith this is your life! Diagnosed at 50 years old only a few months ago the medication has transformed me! I feel like I’ve lost the first 50 year’s!
Dr Jain was very, very funny. And I also have ADHD, diagnosed late and after I brought it to the Doctor. I resonated with Dr Jain's talk the most. And I'm relieved seeing all of you actually taking ADHD seriously, I used to be extremely scared that people would find out how flawed I was, especially with my memory, before I was diagnosed at 45. My biggest worry is how long I'll be able to take the meds because there's such a stigma about them being 'meth.' They're so regulated that the hoops we have to go through is hard especially for people with our challenges. For example being required to call the Dr's office every month to ask for the prescription to be renewed.. That's challenging. Add having to do that for your child too on a different schedule is extremely challenging. It's unlikely I'll be successful at both of ours for very long. In other states people have to get drug tested regularly, but they have to remember to sign themselves up for it, and get there, pay for it, and not be late. So we are punished for not being neurotypical, and are basically forced off the meds that help us the most. It would be nice to have one medication that treated ADHD and at least one of the comorbid conditions. Also, I bet we are more creative than the base population. Like old studies that correlated Schizophrenia with higher creativity.
I'm a 40 years old woman of the Basque Country and I'd been diagnosed six month ago. In this 6 months, I have CBT but without results, I can't do mindfullness, it doesn't work for me. Two weeks ago my doctor gave me Atomoxetin, but I don't feel any diference, maybe it's too soon... I have neurophatic chronic pain because a back hernia, so I have a lot of medication(gabapentine, buprenorphine, benzodiazepine, amiltriptimine, trazadone...) and also I have a drug abuse problem since I was teenager(marihuana, cocaine, anphetamines...). I have problems with my family, I can't mantein parthners, problems with neighboords, I have had many different jobs... My doctors have the suspect of a comorbility of a bipolar trastorn type II. My life has been a chaos. And now I'm completly alone. I'm trying to understand myself and find out how to improve and that's why I'm watching this video. It's great to hear that there are treatments and to know that it's not late, that maybe there is hope for me. Thank you all for this video!! (I apologize for my English, I wasn't a good student. I'm sorry if there are mistakes.)
Since my niece was diagnosed with severe ADHD, I now know I’ve had this all my life!! I wish they dedicated more of the talk to people without health insurance, and how they should best go about treatment. I know they went over exercise, nutrition, and mindfulness. I just wish there was more access to treatment for everyone, not just those with health insurance! #greatresignation lol
You should have the same right as anybody to have a healthy life. I live in England, my eldest son had severe ADHD, or what was then known as 'hyperactivity'. He was diagnosed, but never treated.Then I realise that two more f my five kids have it (one diagnosed), and I got diagnosed at the age of 66. I have to say that life has not dealt me a good hand. I have an excellent Degree, and was a Registered Midwife, on meds for depression, but I was never right. I had to stop that med because of heart changes, and wham, have been so ill ever since. Things used to became too much for me quite a lot of the time before, now it takes me hours to get ready!. I continually piss people off with my argumentiveness. My whole life has been a waste. Please do whatever you can to get some proper help. It only gets worse. Lots of love to you and your family
My life has been nothing but a big disaster, I'm 50 and just got diagnosed. I'm on Wellbutrin and vyvanse, it's been 3 months and I've noticed a big difference " I'm actually trying to do things I thought I would fail at before " I'm able to do art again for longer than 5 minutes 😅 I actually want to go outside....yes I was afraid to go out for years. I just hope anyone else going through anything like what is talked about in this video gets help, because there's light at the end of our very long dark tunnel.
This video is great for professionals WITHOUT ADHD, but if you have it, you will most definitely have to pause, rewind, let it sit on your desktop for a few days, go back, maybe bookmark, and get around to watching the rest before you die.
As someone with ADHD from childhood into adulthood without medication (wasn’t officially diagnosed until later in life) when I was put on medication it almost made things worse. I grew up with people telling me I had it so I tried to learn how to live with it. Didn’t work so well, drugs, alcohol.....the usual problems for someone like me.
I have ADD ...was diagnosed long ago in Jr highschool. I started setting all my clocks 15 minutes ahead to help me not be late. Totally helps. I used to be late for everything.
I told a friend that you might have ADHD and your kid probably too. But he said medications are bad, and finding ADHD is not helpful so he refuse to look for help. I'm so sad. But it's not possible to help someone who refused to get help.
As an adult with ADHD: - adulthood it’s another difficult level… Yesterday I forgot my meds, I’ve also forgot I was eating cause someone from work called me… so I left my plate there, half eaten… Nobody to remember me… And come back hours later, hungry… my cold meal no as good as it was before… it was sad. Also: anxiety, depression, low self esteem…
I was a kind of interested but then he said Texas tech and now I’m all ears! When I lived in Lubbock, I catered and delivered to TTUHSC multiple times a week! I had the great honor of meeting tons of residents, physicians, staff, etc in nearly every department at the HSC and I just have to say, I’ve never met friendlier, more intelligent, genuine people! Just hearing TTUHSC brought me the greatest dopamine rush haha. Obv the chances that I ever met Dr. Jain are slim as I never went to Midland, but still brought a smile to my face to see TTU represented. Great presentation and wreck em tech!
I told my doctor I think I have adhd and he said well you also have depression and anxiety so let’s treat that first, but with a quick google search I saw that adhd can cause anxiety and depression. Anyways. Doctor gave me anti depressants. They didn’t work. (I got worse) I went back and you know what they did ? They gave me a different anti depressant😐 guess what ? IT DIDNT WORK. I told them I’ve done a lot of research on adhd and I really do think I have it so they’ve finally referred me to a psychiatrist. I’m waiting for them to call me. I’ve experienced every single issue in this entire video and cried when I realised how debilitating this disorder has been for me.
This video was AMAZING! I was diagnosed a month ago but want further testing by a psychiatrist! If I would have been diagnosed at a young age it would have changed my life. So very very helpful!!!
Gotta love that I looked up “tips for inattentive ADHD” and got a video that’s an hour and a half long lol
some parts will get your attention if you leave it playinmg in the background, like the symptoms that you relate to and stuff. That's what I did.
Lmao! I totally get it but, honestly...as a severe sufferer this gives me hope. I hope all is well 🙏🏻♥️
My first thought Lmao
2 times speed up is audible
Ha! That's what I thought, too.
I am now hyper-focused on understanding my ADHD and have binged like 10 of these talks so far.
Well I hope you found better content & value on this topic than from this low life’s view.
I found it insulting personally..
Same
@@nireeburr how so?
Same
Lmao undiagnosed ADHD here because my parents didn't care but I'm with you g. I took some of my friends meds a few times because even they could see I needed something and holy shit it was the difference between night and day. But until I can get enough money or insurance Im just ruining my gut popping caffeine pills like pez to help me keep simi focus for a few hours at a time, I love life.... *because saying you wanna Ronnie Mcnutt yourself "isn't appropriate" apparently*
When he said, “But when you part the curtains a little bit and you recognise how distrustful they are of themselves because they can’t help it, nearly everything they’ve touched in their lives hasn’t gone the way it ought to” well cue the tears.
ADHD is always so minimised, but it’s fucking hard to live with.
Everything they've touched in their lives they have destroyed
Fixed it for you
I have always felt like I'm the bad luck or "that bad thing " cause I fuck up every damn thing I touch and all I daydream of is about having a perfect life . I fuck up everything I don't meet deadlines keep promises cause every afternoon I feel like a different person passionate about a different thing . All I want for is to stop this roller coaster ride
I am tired , I am done with it , I am so emotionally drained can't have friends socially very awkward
Live in my dreams .
I almost don't know what's real
I can't feel what's real .
Every time I'm low i wipe my own tears say it's gonna be okay but I can't lie no more . For a long time I thought I was the problem maybe if I am not in between these people maybe I won't fuck up and I from my heart wanted to be wrong but when I stopped being with them there was no fuck ups and it proved me right . I feel something crushing in my stomach everytime I remember I am the problem
It has been 3 years now since I no more talk to anyone have stopped embarrassing myself in front of everyone
I don't feel like living I don't hate myself to die . I love myself , I want the best for me but knowing I'm the problem hurts so much and the fact that it doesn't change no matter what I do crushes my stomach and I have this physical feeling of crushing in my stomach everytime I'm ashamed or embarrassed or fucked up !
I don't know what to do
@@just.An0therRand0m thank you so much. Sending so much love to you we all have this insane wiring but it is also the reason I can dream like there is no limitations and it is also the reason I am creative . I am brave to think with no limits it's a blessing if I look at it like that
@@marxmarx5058 when you talk about messing things up for others, do you mean your emotions cause problems (ADD’s Emotional Dysregulation can create unwanted drama and hurt feelings) lack of organization, spending too much, or something else entirely?
@@yarnpower yeah I act out of emotions and I am living in my head not the reality so I make decisions according to my imagination and nobody gets it . Nobody is gonna get it technically so it kinda fucks up the situation . And I do everything based on my imagination it almost feels reality is fake and I am thankful cause if I wasn't living like that I would be long gone ukwim and confrontation is something I can't do I run away from almost everything and anything
I'm working on it won't let it go and will never loose hope .
I am bipolar and have ADHD as long as I can pay the bills and creatively exist in my head I am fine . I don't need to fit in and that imagination I'm living in I promise I'll make it a greater reality
I’m 68 and was reading about adhd and I was saying that’s me !
I asked my doctor and I’m on adderal
Now . I’ve had a terrible time health wise since 60 was waiting to die
Now that I can do my art again I would like to stay around for a while .
Art is Life.
Bless you. And i hope you do. Enjoy your life, and accomplish things in your own way and time. Adhd people get a seriously bad press, because of the ignorance and the "one size fits all" box created for everyone. Look at it this way...how many happillly fit into that safe, already created and provided box? You have to navigate it a bit differently. And that's ok. If you were a highly educated scientist, who cannot communicate with mere mortals, and is quite reclusive, but wealthy, no one would ever bat an eyelid or judge you for having anxiety or being different. It's all about sratus and wealth in our world, made that way to control us. You are you. Enjoy being you and accept yourself as being the bright light in a box of dull lightbulbs.
Ps, look into niacin/niacinamide, gaba, 5htp and L-thanine. All the best
This is so heartbreaking... I'm glad you found purpose again. Please dont just wait to die ♡ my Nana did that and it was the most awful thing to witness. Brought me a great deal of depression as a teenager.
♥️🎨♥️
Do you feel any resentment over your missed diagnosis?
Avoidance as a coping strategy has become a major obstacle to nearly every aspect of my life...
ayyee twinsies.
Social anxiety has same roots
Me too
same! i literally even avoid replying to texts i genuinely dont know what's wrong with me. i need help
@@onemillionpercent same. There's nothing wrong with you - your brain is wired differently and like the rest of us, you'll need to accept that and look for solutions that work for you - I'm still searching...
“How many tasks did they not do because they learned not to try”
That one hit me hard. I get that feeling that anything I try to do crumbles so it’s just better not to try.
If you fail to plan…. You probably have adhd.
I'll try anything. There's no fear of failure. My issue is always getting started. Overthinking delays the start of almost every single project and task no matter how small.
@@peterread705 I plan until it's due! Then it's too late to get it done on time. Failure to act may mean you have ADHD.
it's also a trauma response
@@sachab6098 it can be, but likely there's a genetic component that's triggered by trauma
Anxiety makes complete sense when you have difficulty paying attention. You know you're missing things, but don't know what and have a history of getting in trouble for things you may not have even been aware of....so you're constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. How does one not feel anxious when that's your life experience?
I found this comment helpful to me. Thank you.
What do you mean? Like anxiety is often the problem instead of adhd?
@@JDXOGG No, the opposite. Untreated ADHD can create anxiety (for the reasons mentioned above). But treating the ADHD, can make the anxiety decrease to the point where it's no longer clinical.
@@cathiehealey4608 is there anything natural that can help adhd? I feel mine is getting worse. I can’t even watch a tv show anymore
@@JDXOGG Natural vs unnatural is kind of a meaningless distinction. The meds I take increase my dopamine (a completely natural process) in the places of my body that I need it.
Naturally, my brain doesn't have enough dopamine, so anything I do to change that isn't natural.
That being said, medication is only part of the treatment I have for my ADHD. The best thing I did was to go to a therapist, she and I together are treating my ADHD and life is better than it's ever been. That treatment does include medication.
But meds for my ADHD are kind of like needing glasses. The quality of my life is far worse if I don't wear my glasses, that doesn't mean I'm addicted to my glasses...it means that it's harder to do what I want to without them, because my eyes need help to see.
This video made me cry because I wish everyone could see how difficult it is to live with ADHD. Thank you so much to the doctors in this video
I did too
ADHD i havent been diagnosed .but i i knpw i have .it, Car accidents. loss of keys.credit cardsj money food.,etc.I have coexisting diagnosis Substance. use,anxiety and depression and its gotten worse since i retired.staying sober is hard in 12 step program because my shame anf guilt and suffering continues.The loss of self esteem and self confidence tumbles.I stay sober for years 16 years.10 years etc AA is the only constant thing ive done for myself but even there all i can do is not drink.Well was a nurse for 51 years and my focus was pretty good.
It's easy to watch a 90min video about ADHD while greatly suffering from ADHD because every 30 seconds I point at the screen and yell, "IT ME!" [then try not to cry from the bittersweet message that this is one of the most treatable psychiatric disorders yet your physicians and counselors over the years have treated you like a junkie every time you asked to get an ADHD test. never even gave screener. i almost killed myself for something that is diagnosable and treatment has been available for a long time.]
^Omg THIS!!
I’m sorry brother. I feel you 100%
Me too lol
This comment describes my life perfectly.
Similar, almost 29 and nobody realized it. Hope you're doing better.
Yes! I was misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder until I was 36 years old. I was mad all the time because I knew I wasn't bipolar.
The statistics in this lecture actually blew my mind. Holy cow. This was basically a narration of my life, as a woman late-diagnosed in her early 40s.
I always wondered if I had ADHD, Watched a handful of vids tonight and I had the same experience. Ill talk to my Therapist soon and firmly suggest that I probably have ADHD :)
I wasn't diagnosed until I was 36. I'm 44 now.
I was 45 (1year ago). Got my depression diagnosed 15 years ago.
@@lauramalizia9636 how are you doing now?
@@dreamwalker-sj5er do you need insurance for ADHD?
Everyone talking about the irony of a vid on ADHD being so long...it was a presentation for healthcare providers.
I was going to make the same comment. Some ADHD minds think alike.
Only for the healthcare providers who don’t suffer from ADHD themselves... :(
Everyone talking about how it’s a presentation for healthcare providers... we know. The joke was still funny.
Thankfully you said it!!
@@bakerfritz4681 it is kinda ignorant and an overused joke tho
It’s sort of painful to know that your younger self suffered so much shit because of an undiagnosed disorder. I realised that everything in my life has been because of ADHD, my bad timekeeping, interrupting people, emotion fluctuation, forgetfulness, depression, suicidal thoughts, impulsiveness and the list could go on forever. What I thought was my personality flaws and something I could solely fix by being a ‘better’ person was something to do with how differently my brain is wired compared to a normal person. But I also know that having adhd I realised how much of a determined person I am to have gone and passed law school, be able to get a full time job, maintain family and friend close relationship, volunteer etc.
It both sucks and blows to finally have some answers
Have you watched Em Rusciano National Press address. Great Australian performer, diagnosed @ 43. Funny, and sad...mostly funny 🌻
@@p.a.c.k1728 thanks for your recommendation. I'm enjoying watching Em Rusciano now
I’m 60 and often wonder “why am I riding my motorcycle like a madman, why is everyone going slow”. I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD but continually fail to realise the impact it has on my life. I live by myself, no way would I put someone through the stress of living with me.
ADHD... the gift that keeps giving
Mood. Didja catch the part where he was talking about the things that we miss out on because we are avoiding it because all of our experience tells us that we'll f&%# it up?
Yeah
We'd get along, promise :)
@@nobody8328 . . . but when we do get it right, no matter how small, it gives such a thrill.
You got the nobody right, that's for sure. The general answer to the Hard questions is . . . . "nobody knows" :-)
A sense of humour is invaluable.
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@@nobody8328 I hate that feeling. You look at the world and think "damn, why am I so inadequate?" Born into the 21st century golden age of information and too disorganized to make sense of it. Smart enough to see one's failures, but too unmotivated and shiftless to do anything about them. Life feels like a river that's dragging you along and over rocks with no input on your part. Perfect recipe for self hate... I'm going to try to get medicated and take a stab at a career involving medicine. But if the meds don't work, it looks like I'm going to continue the theme of being a failure in the land of opportunity.
Those that do find jobs, become fearful of losing said job - so we tend to learn how to mask ourselves in order to get thru a work day. But the flip side to that is once we get home, we've nothing left.
I'm a cleaner , I'm currently hiding in the supply closet listening to this instead of work. Best procrastination material ever it's inspired me to have another try at getting help ... It's also made me completely not interested in the next few hours of work I'd rather just go for a walk or call my psych and talk about this or something now I'm kinda pissed off I gotta go back to work now 😂😂😂😂 I'll come out if the closet (no pun intended) soon I'm building up to it 😅😅😅
That's so funny! I hope you always get away with it. But don't drag your day out because of it!
Hope you eventually got out of the closet? And if not, it’s still OK. Rooting for you!!!
Please tell us the next instalment!
Yessss hahahaha, I always hide in the locker room every chance I get at work lmao
I'm washing dishes, making dinner, laundry and getting my kids ready for bed as im listing it was my only way to focus to listen to this information. This is life saving information ❣❣❣❣
That's me too I try to do everything while doing other things because I think I'm too good for just one thing 😅
I've been treatment-resistant to meds my entire adult life. Been on 10 different meds for my depression and anxiety. Nothing seemed to help. All of this describes my life, hauntingly so. It's both terrifying and a revelation. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 30, a few weeks ago. Now on meds and hopeful for the future.
Good luck & I wish you success working with your new diagnosis. It's easy for people to say that giving something a label makes it worse or whatever. But honestly once we know what we're dealing with, we have somewhere to start.
Same here. Done get me started on the struggles of finding a prescriber willing to treat adult ADHD patients.
AND THE WAITLISTS!!!!😭😭😭
ADHD is currently killing me, I cannot get meds, I've flunked out of school seven times, can't hold a job for long, and now my business is failing because I am missing deadlines and am taking too long to prepare for the day. I am afraid that if I cannot get the appropriate doctor and subsequent medication that I may be relegated to living in a tent and then cashing in my chips.
I hear you. I’m currently living/working in an area that looks at all adult ADHDers as addicts, but then hand out amphetamines like candy to 6 year olds (it’s a money maker). No counseling available either. Trying to hold on to the end of my contract (May), then getting the hell out of Dodge!
Keep pushing man, you'll get through it!
Damn, mate, I'm in the same situation
If you're in the USA there is plenty of help just by going to your Dr, in the UK it's almost impossible. I went to a famous expensive clinic in the UK with a specialist only to find out I lived to far away to get the meds, I went to my own Dr's after he said I commend you on getting the tests but we don't recognise it so we can't help you, 5 years later still on the same boat!
You deserve better, and I hope you can find the balance you need man.
Just realized at 50 years old that I have ADHD. I’ve been diagnosed with treatment resistant depression and have tried every medication available. Watching this explained everything. Thank you for posting this. I will share it with my doctor.
This video describes me perfectly. I recently went to my Dr to see about adhd, he said since I graduated high school and held down a job, I don't have adhd, and he thinks I need antidepressants, which have never worked for me. When I straight up asked about trying methylphenidate, he told me I could go to a college campus and buy some speed to try it out. I was so angry I wanted to scream. There are a lot of terrible doctors out there.
Please go to another dr, as many as you Anne to go get amen seriously. I got diagnosed by a psychologist as the gp didn’t see me seriously.
Dr = scumbag 90%...
@Pamela Roble 1 with integrity = needle in 2M haystacx!!!
Report that (doctor!!). Totally unprofessional and dangerous!... I am a registered nurse, mental health, woith a recent diagnosis of adhd.. It is so important to highlight so damaging just 'one' doctor can be.... Potential untold damage to the people he os supposed to be helping.. Bless you. Xxx
It's really impressive how well these doctors grasp life with ADHD, particularly the second speaker (missed his name). They've really done their homework and did it with a lot of empathy.
They really do care about their jobs, can't say I've meet many like that where I live.
Good doctors
have you all lost your attention to sales pitch cause PHS are not in the business of saving or helping only to destroy innocent ones stuck in their synthetic zombie freakshow, illicit to illegal not the pretty pics unless you watch phs have a tenant rotting limbs off in lobby were had to pass to exit the bldg we rent maggots covered his feet.
As an ADHD brain, I am immensely grateful of this complication of information, it's a shame most ADHD people won't be able to focus this long - I'm fortunate to find this interesting/stimulating enough to focus on, but I am certainly an outlier.
I recommend setting the speed to 1,5x
Listened to the whole thing while playing video games
I'm an outlier too, because I've trained myself over time. Despite severe ADHD, I can focus on every word of this, whatever the length. But I wish sooooooo much I'd known, and those around me had known, when I was a kid. So much damage caused.
@@SBJBeats I did it, it's still too slow for me
Listening to this while reading the comments.
I'm watching this and nodding my head at virtually every point being made. I have always known something was off but this is like having someone finally coming in and turning on the light. Everything that other adults accomplish with a normal amount of effort feels like a monumental task for me at times.
Minute 51 where he begins to talk about people with ADHD beginning to not attempt anymore... "how much do you not do bc you learn the hard way not to try anymore" to have less apparence of impairment ... learn the art of avoiding things... hit me right in the feels... :'( I have so many regrets and now that i'm 30, I feel like I am too old to go after what used to be my dreams. I wasn't diagnosed until mid-20s, after I was out of undergrad and sought out diagnosis myself when I had my own insurance, since my parents didn't believe in ADHD.
I wish I had gotten treatment when younger. Some clued in teachers saw it, I think; others just thought I was quirky or whatever since I wasn't awful at school, was in honors/ap/gifted classes, but turned in everything late all the time and got away with it.
I'm about to blow your hypothesis out of the water: I was diagnosed at 35 and am going to school for a new career at 40, and I am not the oldest person in my classes. It's NEVER too late to better your life, you have to work on letting go of the past and learn to accept your present situation. Identify your strengths and run with them, cut yourself some slack when you screw up, everybody screws up Learn how to love and prioritize yourself. You are worth the effort! It helps to reach out to ADHD specialists in your area too, many have a sliding cost scale if money is an issue.
@@jmags2586 Exaclty, I was majoring in accounting because i was good at it. After a year internship, I realized that the most fun at had at work was doing tasks that involved research, creativity, and teamwork. I didnt like doing all documents and numbers. Now im a psychology major as a senior in college and id like to use my business experience for industrial psychology. I can inhale psychology like its air and I love to apply my knowledge.
I was diagnosed two months ago. I’m 47. I promise you it’s not too late. If I thought too hard about how much time I’ve lost, it would crush me. We can only look forward.
@@serenityedits1857 You would think the ADHD brain would not make a good researcher, however it is the exact opposite.
@@lowbatteries6391 Yeah its really weird, research isnt all fun but it's satisfying to arrive at conculsions with our unique perspective.
I always took pride in my intelligence and ability to multitask. I can see further than the present, anticipating what comes next and how the pieces better fit together. ADHD was a gift, until it wasn’t. I feel like my mind and body run on two separate circuits that make no sense together. One is often sleepier than the other or can’t keep up with the other. The more I accomplish, the more projects I look for. Or I make a mess of things just to clean it up again. This way, I don’t get bored. This is how the hyperactive part looks for me as an adult. And the daydreaming never stops since childhood. Meds make me feel like my brain is wearing a warm blanket, cozy, safe, focused. My anxiety goes away, the circuits of body and mind come together like two gears turning a clock. But finding a doctor to give the meds is so difficult! Not all of us are addicts. Some of us need it to function. Just like diabetes or high BP.
Oh my god. This
Who can you tell,I have had to struggle alot..
Too many ppl fall through the cracks. I just realized that I have ADHD. took 50 years to find out. highly dysfunctional. wish i had been diagnosed early in life. there is no doubt that my life would have been totally different had I been treated smh
I totally agree with you I was just diagnosed last week and now been on medication and it has made a huge difference. It mades me sad that I could’ve been working on this a lot longer and I would’ve been in a better place in life.
I got to the 10 minute mark guys... cant be too bad . Spent a good amount of it scrolling through your comments, and zoned out though. Guess I'll try again later...
Play it at 2x speed until Tabatha speaks then slow it down to 1.25x
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Don't leave without going to 27:30 for Dr Jain. Humor, visuals, empathy for who and where we are. Tabitha is at 58:50 Great stuff!
I can’t express how grateful I am for this, thank you!
I just wanted to say thank you for this. As a college student with untreated adhd, I've been dealing with a lot of emotional issues and struggles related to it, honestly just so much self blame, and this video helped me understand recontextualize stutt. I was honestly sobbing when he was talking about the hollowing out that adhd can create in one's life because it's been what's steadily been happening to me over the past 5 years and hearing it described and starting to understand that I shouldn't hate myself for these symptoms was a lot emotionally. I've honestly only gotten partway through the video but I've had a good lot of cathartic cries and am even more determined now to seek treatment. Also, hearing someone demanding adhd be considered as serious of a disorder as it truly is really means a lot.
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The part that Tabatha spoke on about the clumsiness and being uncoordinated really resonated with me. I always wondered why my balance was off as a young child. Thank you for this video.
I had shocking coordination as a child thought it was due to my Aspergers but what if I also have comorbid ADHD Inattentive type too, then I have the double whammy no wonder I feel like an underachiever all my life
I only realized recently that I'm probably struggling with ADHD my whole life....but that it was masked by anxiety, overshadowed by depression, which was mainly a result of frustration and hopelessness, because I couldn't seem to figure out why everyone else was seemingly "just" able to do things, while I couldn't do the most mundane....but then at the same time I seemed to be impressively good at the things I was interested in....which then also made people start thinking that I'm just lazy or doing it on purpose...procrastination....not studying...doing everything in the last minute...on top of that, I believe to be quite intelligent and that might have further masked my struggles for myself and others.
Then add a pinch of traumatic past and difficult childhood with constantly running into problems, because of "not paying enough attention" "having difficulties following directions" "being a daydreamer" etc. and you got yourself a cocktail of 30+ years of feeling like a chaotic mess....I was in therapy for last 3 years for mainly depression and anxiety....depression medication didn't work for me and even made me somewhat worse....the last I got was an SNRI, which helped with anxiety but not with depression...NOW I find out that I might just be anxious and depressed, because my whole life I have been struggling against a giant that no one paid attention to...because I was just a "shy, quiet and daydreaming" girl...
I heard Mushrooms are good for adhd, as well as other phycadelics check it out
Hope you got diagnosed because you nailed it. Everything you wrote applied to me, and I got diagnosed at 30. Spent years blaming my anxiety for what turned out to be ADHD symptoms. The problem is anxiety is obvious. ADHD isn't. The symptoms are the symptoms of everyday life but excessively so. Everyone forgets things, but not like you. Everyone struggles with motivation and concentration, but not like you. Everyone procrastinates, but not like you. It's too easy to convince yourself that you just need to get a grip and be like everyone else, and never realise why that seems like such a miserable task that exhausts you every day.
@@LethalJizzle waiting list is long, so still waiting, but i have been told that even on a glance it seems pretty obvious now.
You have just described my life, hope things are better now for you.
I never knew adhd was that complex, I was diagnosed with it at a young age, but my mother never gave me the meds and we never talked about it.
Now looking at this I can finally see how it relates to me. The procrastination of course is on point but especially the other stuff like a getting irritable fast, substance abuse disorder, panic disorder, depression it all relates to what I've felt increasingly getting worse the past years.
Idk if this is also related, but if I don't have my outlets I get this almost manic feeling of wanting to do something reckless. Something to finally feel alive
The relief of finding out you have ADHD even at 40 years old is life changing now I know how to try and help myself
Wow, this was such a captivating presentation as a future pharmacist and recently diagnosed woman with ADHD and co-morbid PTSD and major depression. Thank you so much for this, really gives me hope for my future and the medical field that there are physicians out there that care so much about their patients. I relate to Tabatha's story so much. Grateful to have come across this!!
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 32 years of age. This video sums up my experience. I had awful problems because of my untreated ADHD.
Since starting medication and doing more reading on the subject, I'm not cured, but things have definitely improved a lot for me.
WOW. Every doctor needs to watch this. Amazing information. I have ADHD and this video hits home. It seems like most medical professionals don’t really understand ADHD, but they need to.
For 35 years I thought I had anxiety. My whole life I couldn't focus, I failed a few times, and didn't make it passed 8th grade. I did obtain my GED few years after that when I was 19.
It wasn't until I went to treatment for addiction to oxycodone that my Dr came to the conclusion that I had ADHD. Prescribed me Adderall and that turned my life around. My light bulb was turned on. Things got better and better a little at a time. Went from being a truck driver to managing warehouses to starting my own tech business.
I always thought ADHD was for people who couldn't sit down and was off the wall with energy. My excess energy wasn't expressed with being hyper in the way. It was on the inside which I thought was anxiety.
Adderall got rid of that feeling.
Finally got diagnosed at 31. I was diagnosed with depression as a kid, had peripartum and postpartum depression at 21/22, and was diagnosed with bipolar ii a few weeks later when their treatment plan didn't work out. I lost everything, including my child, because I'm being told I had this diagnosis and I didn't feel like someone like me should be around a baby. And because of that bipolar diagnosis at 2 months postpartum, I never got help for my postpartum depression and that entire time is now discussed in therapy as trauma. In 2019 I received neuropsych testing and was told I didn't register for bipolar. Instead, I'm now diagnosed with major depression, generalized anxiety, PTSD, mild OCD, and ADHD. I suffer from imposter syndrome constantly. I stopped working in 2018 because my health and my mental health crashed, and I'm JUST NOW feeling well enough to get a part time job and start taking back control of my life. If your therapist or psych isn't listening, please find someone who does. And please keep in mind, I'm sure at some point I would have fit the criteria for bipolar, but I went my entire life not being medicated for it. Having ADHD and leaving it untreated can leave you vulnerable to mental illness, especially if you grew up in an environment in which you were talked down to for acting the way you did, and you learned to cope with these neurological differences on your own. If you're reading this, please keep at it. ❤
Even though I was diagnosed it was treated the same anyway.
I got assessed and diagnosed on Wednesday, everything is better already.
That’s so great. I hope you’re able to continue doing better!
That's great. Stay strong. Its a great point on the journey.
Same I was diagnosed last week and suddenly everything makes sense lmao
Thank you so much for putting this conference on TH-cam !!
im so grateful to find something that talks so clearly about adult adhd and how important a diagnosis is
The main speaker exudes compassion. Whole video was very inspiring.
What I think is difficult is when you have all the symptoms of ADHD but little of the hyperactivity.
That’s ADD
hyperactivity doesn't have to be physical, it can be mental, like jumping from one idea to another etc
Reframe it as restlessness... does it make sense now?
@@LancelotVantuyckom ADD is now called ADHD, inattentive type. However, a lot of adults who think they don’t have the ‘H’ actually do-it’s just internal or in speech.
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My heart goes out to Tabatha. Hearing her story brings light and insight to living with ADHD. Wonderful video
Woah as an adult with ADHD I found this 90’ detailed and slowly-explained very hard to follow. Glad you guys research and care for us! Thank you
Yea i just kept pausing and coming back . Twas long but very informative!
I use the settings button to slow the video down or speed it up to my comfort level and go back a lot. I agree, I use self help and I'm looking for a doc that I like, to try some medical intervention. I've had some success with chiropractors in my area helping with diet. removing sugar, eating meals on time, removing foods that bother me, supplementing vitamins and mineral. Not eating grains has helped. Still can't spell, but brain fog is reduced.
In fairness i think a lot of this video was geared towards practitioners dealing with adhd patients, however i am only 26 mins in
I'm cutting my nails and doing some online shopping while "watching" it :)
Turn the playback speed to 1.5x
Thank you for addressing the issue of ageism! My 70th birthday was in January and I was diagnosed with ADHD in January. I have the comorbity of major depressive disorder a
and anxiety. I saw my psychiatrist because of increased depression and anxiety. I also presented with complaints of inability to concentrate and focus. Since the diagnosis and treatment my life is vastly improved. There is still some tweaking to be done but I’m getting there.
Congrats on being diagnosed, I'm 40 and am ashamed at how my generation and older generations dismissed mental health issues.
@@linklein7270 wow it's so great to hear how you stuck through. i'm in the tweaking phase myself. good luck to you!
Depression can be treated even if you're adhd ..you must demand treatment and have the doctor acknowledge that the treatment is working so that it doesn't become chronic. Depression has a tendency to just get worse over time.
Issues like adulthood/aging can be more difficult to get to terms with for an adhd person.
I could write a book on the lies we tell ourselves; the biggest ones for me being that I'll remember that person's birthday this year for sure, and the other that I'll only have one glass of wine - max two!!
You may already do some of these as your "adapt and overcome" strategies, but when you have memory issues and poor impulse controls everything helps lol.
- Text yourself ideas, appointments, etc. that you want to remember / write down / put in calendar later.
- For appointments put a sticky note in the bathroom or kitchen so you're reminded first thing in the morning.
- If you're bringing something the next day, put it in front of your door the night before (or put a note on or near the door if that's not possible). Bonus points if you remember the night before.
- My keys hang on a nail right beside my door so it's impossible for me to leave without taking them.
- Set yourself up for success. Keep apples etc. in the fridge to eat instead of ice cream or cookies. I can't resist the siren call of these items so I keep them out of my home. I'm mostly off the sugar train, but it's challenging when you have hypothyroidism, menopause, and poor sleep ha ha ha.
- Nature and exercise make you feel better. To help get motivated I put on some fun music beforehand - it always perks me up. The rewards are hearing birds singing, seeing flowers and greenery, and better overall health.
I suspect others will have some tips to share as well - I'd love to know how others adapt and overcome :)
Thank you for mentioning this... as a past crack addict (12 years clean now) - I am insanely grateful that my Doctor was willing to put my on Vyvanse a few years ago. I was struggling very badly and it's been making a huge difference. I appreciate that you are clearly educating about how ADHD causes a path to addiction that can be reasonably understood. I also appreciate that this video addresses the issues of shame that effect our quality of life. (I am diagnosed ADHD & Autistic).
I suffered horribly as a child. Hated school. I would sit in my chair miserable. It didnt help that I went to 16 different schools. As an adult ADHD hits me harder than ever before. HELP!!
Hey there, how are you holding now?I don't if I have it or not but from what I have seen can I relate to the symptoms
I absolutely hated school, I went to between 16-20 schools myself. High school drop out. Community college drop out. Failed business.
Clearly your parents had it too. My whole family had it. 13 schools here.... Brother in prison, dad died of OD. Mom remarried and helped my youngest brother. He is married with 3 kids and stable. Go figure.... 3 out of 5 still alive & not incarcerated.
When I listen to this lecture, they say they can do wonders. I'm going to check it out. Can't get worse!
There's so such thing as ADHD. You have a set of symptoms that include attention impairment that was *CAUSED* by trauma in your childhood. Treat the cause: trauma. Stop treating the symptoms ("ADHD").
This CME is a blessing for Adult ADHD, for both patients and their families as well as providers. Heartfelt thank you!
i like how the doc openly admits that he was the one who misdiagnosed tabitha. accountable ppl are rare #respect
At 65 I still struggle with ADD (adhd- I still don’t know the difference). At the age of 58 went back for a masters degree and then applied and got accepted to a PhD program. The activities associated with learning and applying my new knowledge keeps my mind active and removed from thinking all those negative thoughts and engaging in harmful behaviors. Although my Aderal XR is extremely helpful with keeping focused I still struggle with so much more, and as a result of one ir more of the struggles, I put myself in a logistic situation that is a nightmare (a relative safe one ). As a result, and because of my thinking I cannot connect on an ambitious level like others because what I perceive is an age issue, I feel like crawling into a hole. This presentation armed me with information that I will use to pull the articles I need to provide evidence to support the need to change my medication AGAIN! As a research scientist, I cannot overestimate the positive if effect your presentation 😉 Thank you wholeheartedly
Went about 25 years with untreated adhd. I always knew something was off. I never understood why I struggled so hard with everything. I finally got diagnosed and medicated within the last couple of years. Medication absolutely helps get you back on track. I just wish I had taken it at a younger age. I ended up developing so many mental disorders. If you suspect a loved one has it please encourage them to get treated!
I went from failing 9th grade, graduating with a 2.1 gpa, bounced job to job, failed relationships, unorganized lifestyle, cheating, with uncontrollable anger, and volatile emotions to now,
Serving eight years in the military, homeowner, good credit, and a 3.71 gpa in college, about five months until I graduate with a bachelors. Its still a struggle, but I've come so far.
I wish I could meet the second speaker. So empathetic, funny and just UNDERSTOOD ME
Pre-medicated at 8:30am on a Friday and I am rapt by every word coming out of my phone. I pause frequently to take screenshots (I'll go back later and take proper screencaps of the slides to help my family and friends) then just up and move to the laptop so I can fiddle with my phone while I watch and listen.
This is how adult ADHD can present: if the video is compelling enough you will have me the whole ride. That's it. Thank you, folx, this was lifechanging.
my mom refuses me any form of treatment so- when i was younger adhd was so much easier to manage but now
I feel like Im ruining my life and everyone around me
Have you seen the How To ADHD channel? It helps keep a positive attitude while at the same time acknowledging the hardships. And the episodes are short about 5 min each!
Yes, you're not alone.
saaaame.
I'm sure your mom believes she is "protecting you," but as noted in the video, there is harm being done.
Hopefully you do look up a lot of information on your own, and you ask to talk to a counselor at your school.
More than anything, I suggest that you find online support groups for ADHD. It's amazing how much talking to people who understand, really does help.
I'm glad you are searching for solutions -- that's the key to getting better, is having tenacity to grow through the difficulties.
You're not alone and YT is a great platform to find free resources and coping strategies. I know the feeling of having to find everything out myself, but you can do it. Also look at exercise and nutrition recommendations, they alone could make a huge difference.
Damn when you talked about omission, I cried. So true. You just stop trying.
It's true, i was majoring in something i was good (not my passion) at because i didnt want to drop out.
I should have taken a risk but i defaulted to what i was already exprienced at
@@serenityedits1857 I had to switch from dance to Psychology because of a physicals illness but I am super glad I did because I love psych and want to get my masters in the field. However I super love languages and I could have double majored in Japanese. I was so afraid of never graduating that I just rushed to graduate. I feels you.
@@MistedForest Yeah I'm a senior and I changed to Pyschology. I can't get enough, I read scholarly artilces and research studies from various disiplines. I want to apply my learning of business to industrial psychology. The only problem I have with the school is that it's too fast pace and we dont focus on applying our knowledge. Testing and studying have always been a struggle with me (because ADHD), but if you ask me to apply my knowledge, im the smartest guy in the room.
@@MistedForest I'm bilingual and i love to learn french, german, russian, and arabic. Most the time i learn phrases then i shout then around my friends at random. I want to teach myself another languange properly one day.
I failed with my first two wives, couldn't keep a job, failed my businesses. Then I took a few transformative training and I can concentrate on what is really important to me and what is not important I have the tools to reach out for support. No meds.
Zevi Kramer please tell me some tips for my boyfriend
@@lycorislune3846 than you. 1. You are a treasure and Unlike how it looks it is ok just the way it is. You are loved, appreciated and respected. 2. Don't fake. Be in communication with everyone about what you can do and what will take much longer to do. 3. The voices in the head that tell you that tell you that: there is something wrong here, I am not enough, I am all alone or I don't belong - are just voices, are not reality and each human being has a version of it. 4. Rather than looking for a change put your eyes on: honoring your word ( when you don't keep your word clean up proudly). 5. Practice being SLOW. 🌷
Zevi Kramer wow! thank you for writing so much
I was diagnosed at 43 and after an appropriate heart test was started on concerta. It was Frustrating even at the higher dose. But when switched to Barr Dextroamphetamine Sulphate at the correct dose my life changed for the better; it was a miracle for me. I began to add Holistic practices like breathing courses, meditated, and volunteered. I was hopeful for the first time in my life. Then during the Obama Administration it all went to hell. A secret "Shortage", Lies, and All other ADHD meds were inferior, progressively worse as time went on. All of the Medications were in Authentic, non standardized and misrepresented. I've returned more than I can count as well as filed formal grievances with all : politicians, Insurance Cos, Director of NYS mental Health. Teva bought out Barr and the manufacturer in NJ Lied when he denied Any changes to my 12 year Medication. Life is a perpetual Hell and the toxic Heavy Metals are still ongoing. All are Non standardized and Harmful. So many Lies And total disregard from negative now Chronic Health Effects. This is fraud and I've been Robbed of almost 10 years of my life. Other Medications are covertly changed to Placebos with side effects . This is Criminal
@@kqp1998gyy thank you so much. im 19 and i feel like i have it because theres nothing else that describes my situation better than adhd. i feel so scared bc i got into college with a LOT of mental effort and difficulty and i just couldnt figure out why it was so hard for me to concentrate through high school, and i'm in my first year of college and everything is crashing down upon me. i dont know what to do. i need to get diagnosed first of all, if it is truly this, but i dont know it feels like a roadblock. ur words are so kind and patient.
This has got to be the most informative video on ADHD I have ever seen, just amazing. All perspectives - the statistics, the studies, the treatment options and the human side, all in just one lecture/seminar. Simply amazing, so many thanks to all of the three speakers, and to HMPe for publishing this. Greatly appreciated.
Anyone else been diagnosed with Bipolar when it has been ADHD all along.! I was diagnosed with Bipolar 20 years ago, I was depressed because I was not coping with ADHD. Bipolar has since been changed to depression but they will not diagnose ADHD although I am positive that this has been the underlying problem my who life. I’m 51! My cousin, her son, and my own son all diagnosed with ADHD. It is very hard to get a diagnoses here and medicated in New Zealand.
I'm the literal definition of ADHD after listening to this and even tho I knew I had this since I was a kid I'm now 38 and forgot how much this disorder has controlled me my whole life and still is but now I don't feel hopeless I feel empowered knowing I'm not a failure and just need to work with what I got
I was diagnosed with ADD when I turned 27, today I am 36 and felt that around the age of 35 I started to get an idea of the situation with the help of a psychologist and therapist. It can still get very messy easily, from the time it is cleaned to it is CRAZY… .never sees when it gets messy… .it just happens 😅 so I have to clean every day, and dare not leave any dishes… because then it will get messy fast 🤪
My god I wish I could find a Dr with this much patience and understanding.. Imagine having trauma, military ptsd, depression, anxiety and feeling like adhd fits better than any other diagnosis but they over look all that bc of your past and experiences.. And not the right ones might I add
This video hit a checkmate for me.
what an awesome doctor! acknowledging and questioning the expertise of the patient! please other professionals learn from this man. much respect.
My ADHD pro-tip: Put this (and all lecture type videos) on 1.75x speed. Only way to keep my attention.
I can't believe I just watched 1:10 hours of this out of 1:26 hours of this presentation from description, pharmacology to a patient's success story. I have a history with ADHD and associated comorbidity issues and that lady patient is amazing. What makes her even more encredible is her ability to advance in a law enforcement/corrections occupation where the stigma of mental issues is especially severe. If this lady patient was a man, she has balls of steel. Admiration for her and her doctor. There is still a huge weakness in our medical and social work community to dealing with ADHD because of the massive amounts of time and cost in dealing with its challenges.
It's so frustrating how every time I've reached out for help for this; they throw an antidepressant at it. It's ineffective every time.
U got to seek out particular prescribers indeed.
Very relatable. Does it also make you restless and feel awful?
So true... it's really annoying 😒
Always made me feel awful and more anxious.
I am not depressed!!!!!
Yeah, the SSRI's don't do anything for the adhd person. Complete waste of time.
There’s a blood test you can do called a PGX-Panel which will indicate the metabolism rates of a large list pharmaceuticals commonly available. You’ll see exactly what will work and what to avoid.
I really felt for Tabitha discussing her parenting troubles. I have a son with ADHD, and my goodness the tears. I myself feel that same exact thing. A great story from her.
I’ve been diagnosed for years, but I’m just now trying to take an active role in bettering myself and not living my life conformed to my anxiety and emotional dysregulation. I cried quite a few times listening to this video, especially Rh part about being hollow inside like termites in a house, I get so tired of the media driven representation of adhd. I’m just tired and exhausted. thanks so much for all the information
me too so tired
Wow I needed to hear this. So appreciate the presenters audible excitement and emphasis as he speaks. It makes this a million times easier to listen to than the standard monotone that a lot of other videos have
Oh my gosh!!. I am soooo uncomfortable in my own skin. I feel akward when I'm in a room with another person. Its worse when its in a meeting. I binge eat. I absolutely cannot sit still to save my life. I chew a lot of gum. I am 49 years old. When I was a kid it was a nightmare for me. It didn't help that I went to 16 schools. No my parents weren't in the military.
I feel the same. It's just so many years running around with treatments for what I now know were just symptoms of this illness. So much wasted time.
Wow, you sound like me..
My parents also moved me a lot as s child. I often feel like an alien to others. I also feel stressed around people, though cannot stand being alone with my mind.
Terrible illness. I tried meds but they made my heart rate super high and anxiety worse. So what do I do?
@@meekee1490 can you tell me,thise people can have childrrns,even if they are taking the medicines??
@@aaymathebest4705 Yes, they can. Medication will not be a problem for children, even though the kids will be at high risk of having ADHD, because it's genetic. Adult ADHD without treatment will be a huge problem, though. Parents absolutely need to get their own condition under control FIRST (with medication or any other way that works) or come to peace with it. Or else the whole family will be very, very unhappy and it could be a disaster (ask me how i know).
@@davyd28 how parents can control through other ways?...
I have adhd and want to die. I can't stand this anymore. I can't keep living like this. It's like I have a smart brain being held inside a mental prison. I hope my brain can be studied and benefit the future.
I'm so glad I watched this video though. There's so many things that never made sense to me. I've always felt depressed because of how my brain works to the point life felt hopeless and crippling. I've tried dozens of SSRI and SNRI medications, but absolutely nothing has worked. They've only made my focus worse. I'm so glad to now understand why.
I'm so grateful for doctors like this who genuinely care and have compassion for people like us. I genuinely love them for fighting for us. I'm so sick of it being treated like a quirky joke. No, ADHD has ruined my life and held me back from becoming my best self. I once had dreams of being a pilot and couldn't do it because I kept messing up. I struggle so much and try my best to not get confused, forgetful, or make careless mistakes, but nothing works or ever will. Anyways, I've reached my breaking point because after 36 years on this planet, I know things will never get better. There will never be a cure. It will always be a challenge to live a normal life and more than anything, I'm tired. I'm so tired.
This was very informative. The statistics of comorbidities were eye opening. Inattentiveness and impulsiveness have landed me a lot of doctor visits.
I just "chunk it down". That's the beauty of a format you can "freeze". It might take me a week to get through something this long, but the smaller pieces make it more digestible. If I'm really into it, I can chunk it down again with pen and paper, and command quite an understanding of the material. I've been looking for something recent on these conditions since coming upon Dr. Barkley's work a few months ago.
Wow...I’m so happy I found this video. This gives me hope I can get a diagnosis and help.
I'm 35. A Facebook short where an adhd person started explaining what it is to have it....that's me. How many of these symptoms do I have? All of them. Now I'm learning how to cope. So thankful for modern science, I can get little life hacks to help me live a more fulfilling life.
As an adult suffering with adhd with recent diagnosis.....
I really hate those people who abuse these drugs which are essentially our life savers....
abhinandan sonu 💯💯💯
Most of these people you claim to hate also suffer from mental illness themselves though
manny maker how would Ritalin and Adderall help them though?
I have pretty bad adhd, impulsive abuse of substances especially stimulants can be caused by adhd. Not only with impulse control, but with dealing with the negativity adhd brings to alot of peoples lives. Its ironic that stimulants like amphetimines are prescribed for a disorder that is in my observation and experience more at risk of abusing them lol.
66 yo female here diagnosed in past 3 years only because my adult son was tested. So many good YT channels but HealthyGamerGG is my hero. A psychiatrist with ADHD who aims his content toward the young and male but ends up covering every topic really well. Smart and very real
The patient perspective was nice to hear
James Smith this is your life! Diagnosed at 50 years old only a few months ago the medication has transformed me! I feel like I’ve lost the first 50 year’s!
Dr Jain was very, very funny. And I also have ADHD, diagnosed late and after I brought it to the Doctor. I resonated with Dr Jain's talk the most. And I'm relieved seeing all of you actually taking ADHD seriously, I used to be extremely scared that people would find out how flawed I was, especially with my memory, before I was diagnosed at 45. My biggest worry is how long I'll be able to take the meds because there's such a stigma about them being 'meth.' They're so regulated that the hoops we have to go through is hard especially for people with our challenges. For example being required to call the Dr's office every month to ask for the prescription to be renewed.. That's challenging. Add having to do that for your child too on a different schedule is extremely challenging. It's unlikely I'll be successful at both of ours for very long.
In other states people have to get drug tested regularly, but they have to remember to sign themselves up for it, and get there, pay for it, and not be late. So we are punished for not being neurotypical, and are basically forced off the meds that help us the most.
It would be nice to have one medication that treated ADHD and at least one of the comorbid conditions.
Also, I bet we are more creative than the base population. Like old studies that correlated Schizophrenia with higher creativity.
Thank you all for taking ADHD seriously.. Maybe ine day ir will be easier to get help.
3:52am seems as good a time as any to watch this.
It was 3:52 when I started. Freaky.
@@kungfungify 3:41 here :D Done in 5 Minutes without sound. I only checked the stats for medication :DDD
2:49am for me :D
2:35am here🤣
47 just now getting the help I need. This video is the perfect primer for family and friends.
I'm a 40 years old woman of the Basque Country and I'd been diagnosed six month ago. In this 6 months, I have CBT but without results, I can't do mindfullness, it doesn't work for me. Two weeks ago my doctor gave me Atomoxetin, but I don't feel any diference, maybe it's too soon... I have neurophatic chronic pain because a back hernia, so I have a lot of medication(gabapentine, buprenorphine, benzodiazepine, amiltriptimine, trazadone...) and also I have a drug abuse problem since I was teenager(marihuana, cocaine, anphetamines...). I have problems with my family, I can't mantein parthners, problems with neighboords, I have had many different jobs... My doctors have the suspect of a comorbility of a bipolar trastorn type II. My life has been a chaos. And now I'm completly alone. I'm trying to understand myself and find out how to improve and that's why I'm watching this video. It's great to hear that there are treatments and to know that it's not late, that maybe there is hope for me. Thank you all for this video!!
(I apologize for my English, I wasn't a good student. I'm sorry if there are mistakes.)
Since my niece was diagnosed with severe ADHD, I now know I’ve had this all my life!! I wish they dedicated more of the talk to people without health insurance, and how they should best go about treatment.
I know they went over exercise, nutrition, and mindfulness. I just wish there was more access to treatment for everyone, not just those with health insurance! #greatresignation lol
You should have the same right as anybody to have a healthy life. I live in England, my eldest son had severe ADHD, or what was then known as 'hyperactivity'. He was diagnosed, but never treated.Then I realise that two more f my five kids have it (one diagnosed), and I got diagnosed at the age of 66. I have to say that life has not dealt me a good hand. I have an excellent Degree, and was a Registered Midwife, on meds for depression, but I was never right. I had to stop that med because of heart changes, and wham, have been so ill ever since. Things used to became too much for me quite a lot of the time before, now it takes me hours to get ready!. I continually piss people off with my argumentiveness. My whole life has been a waste. Please do whatever you can to get some proper help. It only gets worse. Lots of love to you and your family
My life has been nothing but a big disaster, I'm 50 and just got diagnosed. I'm on Wellbutrin and vyvanse, it's been 3 months and I've noticed a big difference " I'm actually trying to do things I thought I would fail at before " I'm able to do art again for longer than 5 minutes 😅 I actually want to go outside....yes I was afraid to go out for years. I just hope anyone else going through anything like what is talked about in this video gets help, because there's light at the end of our very long dark tunnel.
This video is great for professionals WITHOUT ADHD, but if you have it, you will most definitely have to pause, rewind, let it sit on your desktop for a few days, go back, maybe bookmark, and get around to watching the rest before you die.
As someone with ADHD from childhood into adulthood without medication (wasn’t officially diagnosed until later in life) when I was put on medication it almost made things worse. I grew up with people telling me I had it so I tried to learn how to live with it. Didn’t work so well, drugs, alcohol.....the usual problems for someone like me.
I have ADD ...was diagnosed long ago in Jr highschool. I started setting all my clocks 15 minutes ahead to help me not be late. Totally helps. I used to be late for everything.
I feel bad for all the people that is struggling with ADHD but haven’t find out the have it
That was me for so long and I thought I was just a failure :( I hope there is more awareness and everyone who has ADHD can know it isn’t them
I just found out 2 weeks ago, I’m 52.
@@urbanlady1. you’ve done well! And you’ve found your own coping mechanisms, now you can get extra help too , I need it bad
I told a friend that you might have ADHD and your kid probably too. But he said medications are bad, and finding ADHD is not helpful so he refuse to look for help. I'm so sad. But it's not possible to help someone who refused to get help.
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Not me continuously watching videos about ADHD while I have things I need to do but somehow trying to understand myself is more interesting.
As an adult with ADHD:
- adulthood it’s another difficult level…
Yesterday I forgot my meds, I’ve also forgot I was eating cause someone from work called me… so I left my plate there, half eaten…
Nobody to remember me…
And come back hours later, hungry… my cold meal no as good as it was before… it was sad.
Also: anxiety, depression, low self esteem…
I was a kind of interested but then he said Texas tech and now I’m all ears! When I lived in Lubbock, I catered and delivered to TTUHSC multiple times a week! I had the great honor of meeting tons of residents, physicians, staff, etc in nearly every department at the HSC and I just have to say, I’ve never met friendlier, more intelligent, genuine people! Just hearing TTUHSC brought me the greatest dopamine rush haha. Obv the chances that I ever met Dr. Jain are slim as I never went to Midland, but still brought a smile to my face to see TTU represented. Great presentation and wreck em tech!
I told my doctor I think I have adhd and he said well you also have depression and anxiety so let’s treat that first, but with a quick google search I saw that adhd can cause anxiety and depression. Anyways. Doctor gave me anti depressants. They didn’t work. (I got worse) I went back and you know what they did ? They gave me a different anti depressant😐 guess what ? IT DIDNT WORK. I told them I’ve done a lot of research on adhd and I really do think I have it so they’ve finally referred me to a psychiatrist. I’m waiting for them to call me. I’ve experienced every single issue in this entire video and cried when I realised how debilitating this disorder has been for me.
Incredible talk. I as a 44 yr old woman understand the struggle. Thank you for explaining medication etc...
As someone who is seriously considering that I might have ADHD this was so helpful
This video was AMAZING! I was diagnosed a month ago but want further testing by a psychiatrist! If I would have been diagnosed at a young age it would have changed my life. So very very helpful!!!