The ABCs and 123s of Nervous System Regulation
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- I am always talking about the basics of nervous system health and healing. I am always teaching these basics in my monthly drop-in classes and throughout my online programs. My students practice them relentlessly, make them part of their daily lives, and from here their capacity (their nervous system and somatic capacity) grows. THIS is what creates the space for the old survival stresses (aka: stored trauma) to bubble up and heal. I call these basics the ABCs and 123s. This week’s vlog outlines what these basics are.
Resources I mention during this video:
►A simple analogy for nervous system healing
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►Why non dumbed down nervous system education is essential
irenelyon.com/2021/05/30/why-...
►Functional Freeze Explained.
irenelyon.com/2020/07/12/func...
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My website is a wealth of information, free resources, and information on how to start this work, so here it is one more time: irenelyon.com
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Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤
so grateful to have irene in this world
Your work is powerful and we totally need to understand our nervous system in order to access our deeper capacities of being human. I love your teachings!
Thanks for your help, this is very important for me at the moment where I am trying to learn how to regulate my nervous system.
Wow! A, b and c, and 1 and 2 I’m okay with, but 3 resources sent me down a rabbit trail! Resources yes, I have been giving plenty by others, but to know why I need them on an emotional level…. Nobody ever explained that! With the new idea that they help me feel calm, connected and regulated, I can sit down and figure out what works for me. I just spent 10 minutes coming up with resources that I think would replace cigarette smoking.
Thanks Irene!
@Janet Sanford
Great that you came up with a whole list!!
I just realized that I do have a resource that helps me to reconnect with my body, to become present. It's a soft little monkey toy with a very friendly face. It's very helpful, but not a tool that I can carry with me. I would love to hear your resources!
Would you like to share (some of) them?
Maybe you give me some ideas!
Love,
Savannah 🐒
@@SavannahE1972 well, I don’t know where your faith and spiritual practices are at, but I use prayer and worship because I use my mouth and hands to sing and praise. Also I use art because it totally distracts me and again I’m using my hands plus it’s creative and the reward is great. It was House circular reasoning and shows me what’s going on inside to try to put my feelings and thoughts into picture painted or otherwise. A third resource is meaningful significant music. Singing uses my mouth and I use my hands to express how it makes me feel plus lol if you’re singing you can’t be smoking. Some of my resources not related to smoking but related to negative feelings, particularly anxiety, are dark chocolate and small foods like nuts, berries, and chunks of watermelon. Although those might help with smoking because it is a hand to mouth thing. I think I’ll add them to my list!
@@janetsanford2342 How beautiful! Thank you for sharing. And wonderful that you could add another resource to your list :-)
I would like to hear your perspective on being tired & resting when being in freeze a lot of the time vs resting in a way of integrating and actually resting the ns. I wonder about this because I am dealing with fatique but a lot of freeze as well. It should be important to actually rest but as well move the survival energy out of my system?
Yes would like to hear about that, too!
OH MY YES. Following.
Such a great question, something I've also wondered! 🙏
Hi Elena Koelink, Jen here from Team Lyon. Yes, it is important to rest but we also want to gently engage the system. The amount we want to do this will depend on the person and the degree of depletion. For example, some people actually have a lot of energy but can't access it due to freeze. This is different to someone whose system is severely depleted.
So generally speaking, we want a balance of rest and engaging the system in titrated ways. We do so, and then notice what happens and adjust accordingly.
@@IreneLyonSo it's a matter of testing where our limits are? I've had ME for more than 20 years, and my SE practitioner said she thought I have probably been in a freeze state for the most part of my life. I have made progress with trauma work, but still activity feels like danger to my system. Is titration what to focus on then? 🙏💖 Is there something else one can do to teach the body it's safe to move?
Thank you again for all you do Irene...I am a completely different person inside of my body & mind because of you 💗🙏💗
So good and so helpful! Thank you Irene!!
This is pure gold. Thank you 💐
I am forever grateful for this message.
This was brilliant. Thank you Irene
Thank you, Irene 🙏💕
Thank you. I need this now 🙏
Brilliant! So well spoken. You are an inspiring teacher and truly gifted person✨
thank you Irene , you're such a really amazing human. im 20 years old now, and im learning that it is never too late to regulate my nervous system more and more
Very helpful🙌🏻 Thank you❤
What you are saying is profound!
Thank you, we really appreciate your video, information and the way that you explain this practice. - Violet and Vince
These videos are great thank you ❤
This was really helpful! I've learned a lot about the ans and it's nice to have some actionable tips!
thank you so much great video
Irene, The information you shared through this video is so so amazing. We are all so lucky to get the fruits of your knowledge and experience in such a
simple way that we can easily assimilate and implement it, in our daily lives
. This is one of "3- THE resources", of your 1,2,3.
It felt like an angel was sitting in front of me and giving me all the answers to help regulate my Nervous system. I myself am a psychotherapist from India(and mainly a person who has been looking,
trying to help regulate my fragile and super-sensitive nervous system....) I feel called to help others around me in the same area as well. Thank you Irene for the great help you are offering to people all across the Globe.
This is so unbelievably mind blowing and eye opening. I know these things, but your way of presenting here is helping me acknowledge and sum up my deficiencies/problems/shortcomings etc in such a precise, easy an to the point way that even my doctor/psychologist has to understand it now 🤔 😂💖✨🍀
Humor aside. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, again! 💖
PS. It also helped me acknowledge alot of strengths and progress already made 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
PS. 2.
Social engagement. I've had this down always. This even though I'm actually an introvert ⬅️ I'm so sociable that no one believes me when I claim to be a introvert, but oh, I am! This has pussled me for a while. I think it's a part of my learned survival strategies. It could be, couldn't it?
Also a funny story. Or not 🙃. My employees, before i got ill, also put me in a more red kind of leadership while all my tests show a pretty even range between red, blue, only a tad yellow, and green with the green being the accent one 🤔 My childhood really did a number on me I think 😁🙃😅
Thank you so much. 💛
Thank you. I feel you.
Learning a new language for my NS to be my ally in adulthood. 💖😃✨🦋✅
Thank you! 😍
Thank you 🙏
love to hear all these good things , I am familiar with fJohn Barnes work and I have a Therapist who does this lovely work , I can see the correlation between these theories, love the unwinding , practicing now the sensing with in , and I experience releases through out the body, quite amazing . great teaching, thank you
I appreciate your efforts to define and give examples of these terms which are indeed a foreign language. Books and articles and therapists repeat the terms as if saying them louder and more frequently will help us understand. Resources, capacity, connection, regulation, - these English words do not convey the somatic concepts clearly. It’s like trying to explain how to ride a bike by telling someone to find the balance. But on a bicycle, one often has to do the opposite of what one does on foot to maintain balance. So kids fall a lot while learning because they don’t get the concept of balance until they actually do it themselves by trial and error. This video helped with some of the concepts. Additional concrete examples would be appreciated.
loved it
Hello Iren. Thanks a lot for all the videos. Could you please talk about tinnitus stress and brain 🙏🙏🙏 thanks.
Hi Warda Warda, Jen here from Team Lyon. I'll pass your response along to Irene and will also add that with tinnitus, they have found over 100 different causes. Some of these are nervous system related, some are not. This work can definitely be worth exploring if you're curious about it - even when pain/discomfort doesn't go away, we often have more capacity for dealing with it and overall quality of life tends to improve.
I'd like to make a few suggestions about how you present information in your videos. I feel that if these elements would be helpful me, they might also benefit others. Truly, I suggest this in the most respectful way possible.
Your presentations are mostly "non-visual" (i.e. no visual aids used). Using a whiteboard or even a chalkboard, something to show the A. B. C. list etc. would be helpful. If not an actual visual list, at least telling us the full list at the start will provide an outline/preview so we can visualize it for ourselves. Providing that list at the beginning of the presentation (preview), referring back to it when discussing details, and then using the list at the end of the presentation as review would help your audience orient themselves to follow your message better. It is a very standard format for presentations because it does help the audience anticipate, note key points, and retain/recall information with repetition of key words.
I REALLY do want to learn the things you are teaching, but your presentation style lacks these structural cues which makes it seem very meandering, incohesive, and difficult to maintain focus. I get frustrated because I find I'm midway into the video and I've already forgotten the ABCs that were just given while still feeling clueless about what the " 1, 2, 3s" may be.
Please take this feedback into consideration. I'm sure I'm not the only one who would find it helpful if you added this structure.
Hi there, Susan here from Team Lyon. Thank you for your suggestion, I'll pass it along. Irene's TH-cam videos are meant to be a sample of the education she offers. I invite you to checkout the free resources on her website here - irenelyon.com/free-resources-2/, where you will find alternative ways of taking in the information through ebooks, audio samplers, and video trainings that do offer visual components to support you on your nervous system learning/healing journey.
my biggest problem with trying to relate to others is
they can't comprehend the difference between
felt sense and concepts
Thank you very much Irene!
Hi Lena. Whoops! We forgot to add them. They are up there now. Please know that if something is mention, and it is not there, to type in the name that I mention into the TH-cam platform and my name, and that should also guide you to the video. Irene :)
Thank you! I have the most random symptoms at times. I’m noticing repetitive thoughts.. of worry. wanting to focus on other things without overly distracting myself just for distraction.. not sure if you have any comments on that.. but sharing.
@aliciaschreader1981 Hello, Sophia here from Team Lyon. Thank you for your comment and for sharing about what is going on for you. We don't generally assess individual symptoms because of the complex nature of this work. Irene's work helps most people heal at the nervous system level, which generally has a positive impact on the entire human system.
Here is what Irene has previously said about anxiety th-cam.com/video/HZRS83l35ac/w-d-xo.html Please do reach out to our support inbox if you have more questions. I hope this helps!
Thanks for all the videos you upload. They are gentle, kind and very helpful.
I want to give a warning regarding the book 'The Body Keeps The Score'. A trauma coach recommended it as a must read for anyone with PTSD to heal. I am heavily re-traumatized and frankly in new ways of the horror that man displayed. Please. Don't listen to what the masses say and don't read or listen to that book if you have CPTSD or PTSD. It can be heavily triggering and make matters worse. Be well. Much love.
Why are so many people posting that do not appear to have benefited from all the course material and acronyms memorization???
What are your thoughts on using mindfulness meditation to connect back to the body and the present moment? It helps me reconnect to what my body is feeling and get out of my head.
Hey Gear Head, Seth here with Team Lyon. Yup, mindfulness meditation can be super helpful! And, it also can reinforce traumatic patterns without us realizing it, so it is a tricky beast! I HIGHLY recommend watching this video for a fuller understanding of what I mean...
th-cam.com/video/nBH3u2OPERM/w-d-xo.html
Thank you for taking the time to share this information in such an accessible way, I hope good karma comes your way soon ❤
Maybe someone from Irene Lyon's team could answer me.
I absolutely hate when someone (whether it's someone in a store where I go shopping or even my mother) says to me "Are you doing well ?" because on the one hand I find it completely hypocritical and secondly it reminds me of when I was sick in bed 24 hours a day for years when no one helped me and nurses who were not concerned about my fate asked me if I was doing well out of habit when they had absolutely nothing to do with me. Sick for more than 21 years, I fought alone to get better, I learned about nutrition, autoimmune and neurological diseases etc.
I have a trauma from that time when I was just dying without anyone's help. But I also wonder if I don't blame myself for answering "yes" to this stupid question just to be polite because you have to be polite in society in theory. I feel like I'm not listening to myself. I wish I could not answer and don't care about people. Thanks.
HI Winnie, Jen here from Team Lyon. It sounds like you have a have a lot of strength and persistence and that you were able to tap into this to find your way to healing in quite challenging circumstances, which is inspiring to hear!
It also sounds like you may have some anger and/or frustration, about the hypocrisy of the question, about the way you felt that you were dying without anyone there to help, and perhaps towards yourself for the way that you answer "yes" when your authentic answer might be quite a different one.
In this nervous system work, these are all forms of what we call healthy aggression. It's quite an important energy and one that's often overlooked due to the negative and destructive associations with anger in many cultures. I'll link to a related resource of Irene's in case you'd like to learn more.
What is Healthy Aggression? - irenelyon.com/2019/08/19/what-is-healthy-aggression/
I find that people in North America constantly try start social interactions with me by talking about the weather or traffic or alike and I experience it as very creepy and intrusive. It is like they can't stand to be in silence with others.
What are your thoughts on cold showers ? You mentioned honouring your ns need to regulate your temperature, but I’ve been using cold showers to help build immunity to stress ( softening my body/breath whilst in the midst of a cold shower). Thankyou
Hey there! Seth here with team Lyon. That's probably fine. Cold exposure is good to a degree for sure, and a cold shower is different than staying submerged in freezing cold water. We want to avoid being in the cold so long that it trips our survival responses, which can happen with some of the ice bath methods currently being popular.
Hi Irene, I was wondering about the advice to get socially involved by starting a light conversation e.g.about the weather etc. in order to learn and regulate. My observations nowadays are that more and more people are stressed and rute when ones starts to get in contact... could your advice not even have a negative trainings effect when trying to learn positive regulation but receiving negative vibs from stressed and unregulated people? Your take on that would be helpful. Thanks Claudia
Claudia Muster, Jen here from Team Lyon. Part of this invitation can involve learning to tune into your instincts about who may be receptive to an interaction or a conversation, and who might not be. This doesn't mean you'll always be able to predict this accurately, and it will give you practice and likely offer some clues.
If you're nervous about this, you might find a shop or a cafe where you feel (relatively) comfortable, and then notice if any of people working there are prone to chatting. If you find a person who is prone to chatting and order a coffee from them (for example), you'll up your chances that you're engaging with someone who's open to a chat. Any they may even initiate!
I definitely see that I've been in functional freeze for years (after being stuck in fight or flight for so long). I'm tired of feeling abandoned by therapists (even bodywork therapists) who haven't helped me address this on a deeper level (in terms of validating and not shaming my natural fight response) and then have left me feeling blamed for not being able to be assertive, for example. I also understand that our nervous systems are shaped by our environment so is it possible to heal this after receiving lots of abandonment?
Hello, Sophia from Team Lyon here. Irene addresses all this and more in her various free resources, as well as her paid courses in-depth, so I encourage you to start from here, if this type of work interests you: irenelyon.com/free-resources/ (tip: Watch the Healing Trauma mini-training)
Hello, I hope someone can help me solve this question. I watched the 3-part webinar on healing trauma, and I've been consuming a lot of Irene's content, I still have this question: what would be a proper flow between adaptive responses of fight and flight, freezing and being able to enter ventral mode? That is to say, before I tried to stay exclusively in ventral mode, now I understand that adaptive responses are necessary and even then I don't know how long to stay in them, or if it is necessary to go through both to "get out" the stress, or if there is a signal to know that they have fulfilled their function that I should be aware of in my sensations?
Infinite thanks for all the content
Hi Luis Roberto Martínez Acevedo, Jen here from Team Lyon. Generally speaking, growing nervous system regulation is about growing access to all of the various nervous system states as well as the systems' ability to engage and move been them to meet what's happening moment to moment.
For example, if you are relaxing and watching a mellow movie with a friend, you'd likely want to engage a little bit of sympathetic to allow you to laugh, cry, sit up, etc., along with some ventral vagal to support feeling connected to your friend and what you're watching as you stay somewhat relaxed, and low-tone dorsal vagal to support healthy digestion and rejuvenation. If you're watching a scary movie, or an action adventure picture, ideally more of your sympathetic system would engage. And the extent to which any of the systems are "on" will ideally shift as you cook dinner, take a walk, go to sleep, and so on.
As we do this work, we may have responses arise seemingly "out of the blue". When this is the case, we want to allow them to move through to the extent that we have the nervous system capacity to do so. When we do have capacity, we may notice what we call a settling after a response moves through - there might be breath, or a sigh, or a yawn, we may become more aware of our surroundings, to name a few possibilities. When we don't yet have capacity to hold what's arising, we may stay activated, check out, etc, which is a sign that more capacity is needed. I'll link to a few related videos of Irene's in case you'd like to learn more.
How is trauma really released? - th-cam.com/video/K2VKgBX9QrE/w-d-xo.html
How to build somatic and nervous system capacity - irenelyon.com/2022/01/16/how-to-build-somatic-and-nervous-system-capacity/
@@IreneLyon Oh great! This has been extremely instructive!
I did not quite understand and believed that the only option was freeze and fight or flight because of my early experience with threats and that the dorsal ventral was the only state to aspire to, there was a lot of frustration and I was looking for that "monoculture" through the practices , I'm a little more open to sensations now. Thanks again!
I didn't know how bad my dissociation was until after many days I just went to do my errands. Through out my drive I felt so internalize and felt my vision was blocked and all my feelings were just in my head. To top that I could'nt do any of my errands because I forgot a lot of them. I felt helpless and powerless all day that I broke down at the end of the day. For this situation what would you say to start with?
Hi lilac, Jen here from Team Lyon. In the moment when that happens you might try a practice of Irene's that I'll link to below called "DIY: Ancient Anxiety Medicine". I'll also link to a free resource of her's that's designed to help with overwhelm.
To help lessen the tendency to dissociate over time, you might consider checking out Irene's 21 Day Nervous System Tune Up. It's a self-study course where you learn some basics related to nervous system education and healing and you also have the opportunity to ask questions about your experience as you go through the course and receive answers from trained nervous system practitioners. I'll link to that too in case you'd like to learn more.
DIY: Ancient Anxiety Medicine - th-cam.com/video/0ICsbXUCKmM/w-d-xo.html&lc=UgzKvm65Pqe9xARznlN4AaABAg
4 Simple Steps to Calm Overwhelm - irenelyon.com/4-steps-to-calm-overwhelm/
21 Day Nervous System Tune Up - 21daytuneup.com
Very interesting summary,thank you!
I resonate and identify with a lot of what you are saying but in light and differentiated way. It seems to kinda depend on the phase of my life I am in. If I am in a phase of responsibility or desire to achieve things I can easily go into procrastination, isolation, rigidity, addiction and kind of functional freeze.Yet when I’m in a phase of freedom and lightness I can be very careless, connected, enthusiastic, light and motivated. I tackle that through rather Psychotherapy approaches and parts work right now since it’s highly linked to my early build rejection to school and the system, from my feeling.
Would you have a specific approach for that? I am playing with the idea to maybe really pay the money and start doing the 21 day tune up course. I am implementing as much of what I can from your free recourses but sadly there is no really clear description on how to start feeling, touching and moving in ways to regular and cultivate the nervous system.
Hello JobbaMoscha. The 21 Day Nervous System Tune-Up is a great way to invest in your nervous system's health and healing! Be sure to check out student testimonials at 21daytune.com. Also, when you sign up for the 21 Day Tune-Up you have access to a student-only message board where you can ask course and nervous system related questions and get in-depth responses from trained moderators. Another bonus is that if you decide to take SBSM (JoinSBSM.com) down the road, the amount you paid for the 21 Day Tune-Up is deducted from your SBSM tuition 🙂 Happy learning, Jobba!
@@IreneLyon i would really appreciate an answer to my question since it is detrimental factor for my decision.
I read up about the course already.
@@JobbaMoscha, Jen here from Irene's Team. You mentioned that sometimes you're in a state of functional freeze, and somtimes you're in a state of freedom and lightness. You also mentioned that you're working through this with psychotherapy and parts work.
You asked if we would have a specific approach for ""that". I'm not clear what you mean by that and don't want to offer an answer that doesn't reflect your question.
You mentioned that you haven't found a clear description on how to start moving, feeling and touching in ways to regulate the nervous system. Irene has extensive free resources, and often people need to curated content and additional support offered in her online course or program to learn this.
She does offer neurosensory exercises, both in her Free Resource Center and on YT. Exploring these practices may start to offer different approaches to starting to connect with and listen to yourself.
Free Resource Center - irenelyon.com/free-resources-2/
Free YT playlist of neurosensory exercises - th-cam.com/video/RoPOmAb108w/w-d-xo.html
Later in the day for now.very deep wound originally felt like a dagger thrust into my heart. As above so below. I hate those fucking stupid smiley faces. Thank you
I'm interested in the part about resourcing. As a child I never sucked my thumb and instead used the corner of the blanket to rub against my arm, hand , face etc. In my mid teens when I was going through a trauma I started doing it again and now as a 37 yr old woman I'm carrying around a unicorn plush toy to rub my arm and hand everyday lol. I think this is what you are describing except it has turned into a bit of an addiction. I've always known it was a self soothing technique but could not stop. Should I try to stop?
Alicja M, Jen here from Team Lyon. It's great that you found a way to soothe yourself when you need it. No, you don't need to try to stop this. Often as people take steps to grow foundational nervous system capacity and regulation, they find that these habits become less compelling. We may still use them from time to time if they provide enjoyment, and we don't rely on them in the same ways.
I was retraining and experienced a day of bliss earlier this week - no symptoms, it was magic. My nervous system then crashed and I’ve been stuck in really bad fight or flight for the last three days. Noises and thoughts send me into a spiral and I’m experiencing insomnia. It’s so intense that I’ve wondered if I need medication.. Does it get worse before it gets better? How can I retrain safely…
Hi commenter, Jen here from Team Lyon. As we do this work, sometimes symptoms do intensify before improving, or we may move between things feeling a bit easier and then less so. The other thing that can happen sometimes is that the system can read a deeply relaxed or settled state as "dangerous" (remember that safety = familiarity to the nervous system) and respond by going into a state of high activation.
When this is the case, we often want to focus on things that feel settling, soothing, and/or resourcing to the system (and not typically on trying to focus on the sensations). I'll link to a few of Irene's related resources in case you'd like to check them out.
DIY: Ancient Anxiety Medicine - th-cam.com/video/0ICsbXUCKmM/w-d-xo.html&lc=UgzKvm65Pqe9xARznlN4AaABAg
4 Simple Steps to Calm Overwhelm - irenelyon.com/4-steps-to-calm-overwhelm/
@@IreneLyon thank you for this response. It makes a lot of sense.
Since diving into retraining, I seem to have developed new symptoms. My breathing dysfunction has abated, but now my skin is burning as if I have a sunburn… and I somehow lost the ability to sneeze. I wonder if my brain is now identifying that as dangerous? (a schedule a Dr appointment just in case).
Is it possible for brand new symptoms to come up as you retrain?
@@commenter7375 Seth here with Team Lyon. Yes! It is very very common for new symptoms to arise and in this work this is generally thought to be a good sign, as the nature of trauma is to be stuck. When new symptoms pop up it is often an indication of new things happening in the system, which usually indicates less stuck-ness.
The cup of tea sounds like a safety behaviour. Can you explain the difference please?
Why can't I not stop the anxiety emotion when I have it ..when there is no lion around me...
th-cam.com/video/HZRS83l35ac/w-d-xo.html I just came across this video. Maybe this one will help you with your question? (I have not seen it myself, but remembered your question) I hope it brings you some relief. Love, Savannah
th-cam.com/video/dLQOiyWLcHk/w-d-xo.html And this one helped me some while ago when I woke up with a panic attack.
Hi Giesle Vandenndorpe, Jen here from Team Lyon. When we have trauma, our physiology can perceive many things as threatening, including our own internal experience. It often generates threat signaling in the absence of any external threat. This is very common. The way to stop it is to this nervous system work. I'll link to a free video training that Irene has, as well as to a few free resources you might try.
free Healing Trauma video training - irenelyon.com/healing-trauma
DIY: Anxiety Anxiety Medicine - th-cam.com/video/0ICsbXUCKmM/w-d-xo.html&lc=UgzKvm65Pqe9xARznlN4AaABAg
4 Simple Steps to Calm Overwhelm - irenelyon.com/4-steps-to-calm-overwhelm/
Is autism also a trauma response? When the child experience no social healthy connection from the caregiver because they are overloaded with there unresolved problems.
Do you have academic references for any of this?
Elle, I'll link to a few books by the teachers Irene has studied with and draws from. You may find references in those.
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma - www.goodreads.com/book/show/384924.Waking_the_Tiger
Nurturing Resilience: Helping Clients Move Forward from Developmental Trauma-An Integrative Somatic Approach
By Kathy L. Kain and Stephen J. Terrell - www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/562452/nurturing-resilience-by-kathy-l-kain/
The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe. by Stephen Porges - www.stephenporges.com/books
- Jen from Team Lyon
Engaging with people, I find feels threatening and forced stemming from my upbringing. How does one start to get through this when the body goes immediately into freeze and signals are firing as an unsafe person or place to be?
Hello, Sophia from Team Lyon here. We cannot assess individual symptoms or offer consultation on this comment section, but we can confidently say that Irene's free resources could offer you a good starting point for this work, to restore safety into the body. You can check them out here irenelyon.com/free-resources-2/
Can I work with you or anyone on your team 1:1?
Hi Steph Jackson, Jen here from Team Lyon. Irene doesn't work with clients on a 1-1 basis anymore as she focuses on teaching people to work with their own nervous system through her free education and paid course, program and classes. Some of the Team Lyon members may be accepting new clients, I'll link to the Team list in case you'd like to check it out. I'll also link to two other places where you can search for a practitioner and a video that Irene made with some information you might consider when choosing a practitioner.
Team Lyon - irenelyon.com/meet-the-team/
Somatic Experiencing Practitioner Directory - directory.traumahealing.org
Co-Regulating Touch - coregulatingtouch.com
How to Find a Good Somatic Practitioner - irenelyon.com/2019/11/14/how-to-find-a-good-practitioner/
What if you cannot sleep at night, even if you are orienting and self regulating. Sleep has not returned
Hi S Marie, Jen here from Team Lyon. You might need to take steps to grow your capacity and access to more down regulated states that support sleep, rejuvenation and regeneration. Working with directly with the organs involved in the stress response is often especially helpful.
You can do this by working with a practitioner trained in Kathy Kain's Somatic Practice work or Stephen Terrell's Transforming the Experience Based brain. Irene also incorporates elements of this work into SmartBody SmartMind.
I'll link to a video where Irene talks about working with the stress organs and to two practices you might explore when you can't sleep.
How to Heal Adrenal Fatigue by Working with the Stress Organs - irenelyon.com/2019/11/03/how-to-heal-adrenal-fatigue-by-working-with-stress-organs/
4 Simple Steps to Calm Overwhelm - irenelyon.com/4-steps-to-calm-overwhelm/
DIY Ancient Anxiety Medicine - th-cam.com/video/0ICsbXUCKmM/w-d-xo.html&lc=UgzKvm65Pqe9xARznlN4AaABAg
i dont think thers that much wrong with thinking how we're feeling or pausing to connect to the body or body sensations, as interoception refers to also being aware of body and internal sensations, and integrating it with the mental or cognitive so at times it might need to be thought of, or paused to connect to it, or described or starte with it while with a safe person to unpack the entirey of the feeling or sensation................
I'm good at self-care I was long enough in meetings. This piece of advice is not helpful
Lost me at yoga
I bet you don’t know what yoga really is and you never really did it.
@@AmorimNaiara haha I did 😭
This is such an important teaching!! The basic practices that help to regulate and heal the nervous system.
I just watched it at a moment that I felt very down and disconnected to myself. (I notice I go frequently up and down today: from down the ladder to up and back down again)
I got lost in my mind, thinking about what to do, desperately searching for the tools I could use to get out of the freeze mode. Feeling like a failure for not being able to help myself despite of all that I have learned the last months.
And than I got a message from TH-cam with the suggestion to watch this video.
I do not believe in coincidence and I instantly felt I had to press the play-button.
Am I glad I did!! By listening to you, speaking about the basic steps I felt a release and I participated directly when you mentioned the B and C. Só simple and yet so out of reach for me in the state I was in.
It helped me to listen to you and simultaneously act on what you said. I touched my hands and my legs while you spoke about the importance of touching myself.
I looked around to the plants and beautiful flowers in my living room while you talked about connecting to the environment outside me. It helped me right away to get out of my head.
I notice that I long for a community where I can connect with other people who are practicing and are on this healing journey. To co-regulate, to exchange experiences, to reach out for support or give support.
But for now I feel grateful for this teaching and will write down the 'simple' steps on a card that I can carry with me. So I can grab it the moment I notice I am down the ladder and need a reminder on what I can do.
Thank you (again ;-) 🙏🏼🥰🙏🏼
Savannah
The Netherlands
Hi Savannah Engelenberg Personal, Jen here from Team Lyon. It was lovely to read about the way you listened too, digested and explored the teachings in this ABC's and 1,2,3's video. I saw that you wrote about your longing for a community where you can connect with other people who are practicing. It's quite possible that you could create such a community!
Irene also teaches a course and a comprehensive program related to learning and practicing this work and to healing trauma, and there are are people in those that you can interact with. Simply reading other people's questions and about what they are going through is often quite helpful. I'll share links to those in case they are or interest, and also to Irene's Drop In classes which can be a lovely way to both learn from Irene love and to learn in the presence of others.
21 Day Nervous System Tune Up - 21daytuneup.com
SmartBody SmartMind - smartbodysmartmind.com
Drop In classes - irenelyon.com/drop-in-class-1