Julia Samuel on grief, post traumatic growth and dealing with our dark side
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 มี.ค. 2023
- In arguably our most valuable crisis conversations yet, we’re joined by one of the world’s best psychotherapists - author and fellow podcaster, Julia Samuel - and in this episode we focus on possibly the most important theme that has come out of our conversations so far.
That is grief. How we approach it, how we accept it and how we then move forward productively.
In the sixty episodes we’ve recorded so far, we’ve had some incredible discussions with our guests on this subject - and so I thought it might be a good idea to look back on some of those conversations with a real expert; someone who can help us navigate our way through this most difficult of crisis subjects.
Julia has been helping people through loss and a range of other issues for more than thirty years. Her first counselling job was as a volunteer for Westminster Bereavement Services - here Julia found herself stepping into the homes (and indeed the lives) of people whose children had died under some of the most challenging of circumstances. It was clear early on that Julia had found her vocation. Ever since Julia has worked both in private practice and in the NHS, at London’s St Mary’s Hospital, where she pioneered the role of Maternity and Paediatric Psychotherapist.
In 1994 Julia helped launch and establish Child Bereavement UK, and as Founder Patron she continues to play a role in that brilliant charity today. Moreover, she has written a number of successful books including Grief Works, This Too Shall Pass and Every Family Has a Story, and she also hosts the successful podcast Therapy Works - which I could not recommend more.
So a huge thanks to those guests we discuss in this episode - for sharing their stories, but also to Julia for taking the time to help us take stock.
Topics covered:
- Resilience
- Grief
- Acceptance
- PTSD
- Good death vs bad death
Julia’s Crisis Comforts:
- Recognise that you are suffering. Let the emotions of the pain, of your suffering, through your system.
- Kickboxing. Keith, who’s my kickboxing teacher, I’ve been with him for 28 years. He cannot believe how much I want to hurt him… physiologically exercise is the equivalent to a low dose of antidepressants.
- I make sure I have fun. I don’t watch frightening things on TV - I drive my husband nuts because he wants to watch all the kind of frightening dramas, and I want to watch Mamma Mia. I want happy endings.
Links:
Julia’s Instagram - / juliasamuelmbe
Grief Works app - apps.apple.com/gb/app/grief-w...
Therapy Works Podcast - juliasamuel.co.uk/podcasts/gu...
Every Family Has A Story: How we inherit love and loss - amzn.to/3JXfDnR
This Too Shall Pass: Stories of Change, Crisis and Hopeful Beginnings - amzn.to/40uYDMN
Grief Works: Stories of Life, Death and Surviving - amzn.to/3zjjx5D
The Road Less Travelled - M. Scott Peck - amzn.to/3M5ozu6
On Death and Dying - Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross - amzn.to/42UNZQW
Stream/Buy ‘Allies’ by Some Velvet Morning: ampl.ink/qp6bm
Some Velvet Morning Website: www.somevelvetmorning.co.uk
Your Daily Practice: Sleep by Myndstream: open.spotify.com/track/5OX9Xg...
Host - Andy Coulson
CWC production team: Louise Difford, Ed Isaacs and Jane Sankey
With special thanks to Global
Can’t imagine why you don’t have more viewers or subscribers as this podcast is of such a high caliber. I can’t wait to continue watching for more episodes. Very much appreciate your talk with Julia Samuels who more than most tells it straight about life and grieving. I believe this podcast would be a very strong fit for the Rumble app to not squelch and instead uplift viewership.
An excellent discussion. Julia is absolutely brilliant, insightful and compassionate. She truly helped us work through our own loss. You never move on. I’ve just learned to live with it and accept it.
This is the best video on grief in this period of my life losing my husband late last month. I understand I need to accept the new person I am and I understand that my husband is in my heart and the memories are in my heart so when I am doing decisions, I can ask my heart. Hey Phil, should we do this this or that, and his influence still remains even after death. This lady is brilliant.
Ive just found you and don't think I'm going to let you go - you are a diamond but the thing I like besr is your concise interviewing and your guests are of a high calibre who talk about journies everyone goes through with positivity. Thank you. Very much ❤.
My 82 year old mother lost her unconditionally loving husband 11 weeks ago. They were married for 14 years together 15. I'm worried about her chronic fatigue. This morning she had a little bit of energy but by noon she was completely exhausted. She looks tired. She's home with me.
We've been trying to get her out for a walk every day, a very short walk to the stop sign and back. It's very slow to make much difference.
I cannot believe that this fascinating podcast has not been seen by more viewers. I lost my husband two weeks ago (September 2nd) and it is so helpful and comforting.
She has tons of material on grief. Her books are terrific and she has her own podcasts.
So very sorry for your loss, dear. May your darling husband, rest in eternal peace & happiness ❤
So very sorry for your loss.
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I understand this person’s experience and had the same reaction from a counsellor just over 10 years ago. Mine went further and told me to be quiet and not talk about it. Finding a good counsellor is difficult.
Keep looking don't give up! You'll find the right one I promise xx
"incrementally adapt" perfect
What an incredibly wise lady ❤
I spent the night with my daughter when she died. I really needed that. I also have my mum’s ashes near me and I feel happier because she feels close. It is personal. I needed to hold her before letting go of her body.
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Thankfully, a year’s wait and six sessions of CBT is not always true. Five months wait and eight sessions of NHS Talking Therapy has been my experience. Plus good signposting to sources of help if there had been a crisis in the meantime.
Could we buy a written transcript of this conversation ?
Hi Angela - the full transcript is available on our website underneath Julia's episode details. Hope you enjoyed the conversation. We thought she was wonderful. www.crisiswhatcrisis.com/podcasts/julia-samuel-on-facing-loss-managing-grief-and-finding-joy-again/
So glad to know that too as this interview was so comforting and informative but currently having my own grief experience I became distracted at times with my own thoughts as you do so having the transcript will be so helpful. ❤
Thank you SO much for this. Wow! Your channel is fantastic 👏
Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 ❤️
With love from your Commonwealth sister, 'down under'.
✨️🌈🌞FYI- Julia Samuel just did a TedTalk (2 weeks ago now). 🧁☕️