For those out there dealing with one of these signs, be honest with yourself and make changes in your life. We all struggle and we all can do better. Great video!
In my experience anyone in the grip of an addiction be it drugs, alcohol, gambling, compulsive spending, gluttony etc., is best avoided like the plague. Their "habit" will take primacy over everything else and they will probably try and ease the shame and degradation they feel about their behaviour by getting you to participate in it.
Man, well said… it takes over them so bad, a crackhead can get on a store to steal something, but steal just barely above for their next fix. The urgency for the next fix is so high that they just need to go and buy the next shot as soon as they have enough for it.
Let's sum this up , great video, by the way. We need stricter laws on child upbringing. Love begins at home. People, if you don't want a family, don't have one. Don't let your bad life out on everyone' else, bad home life, take it up with your parents, NOT US!
I met the love of my life 30 years ago and we are happily married. He’s never had many friends and he’s chronically late but I have my faults too. We make it work and I couldn’t be happier with him as my spouse.
Hi Ed, love this stuff. The younger guys and some girls need this as well. I am non drinking or smoking, and stay away from any drug users, nothing good comes from it. In short, clean and sober is the way to go. Keep up the great work Soldier🙏✝️🇺🇸👍
My red flag is clean, bright and stands strong. I destroy relationships in fantastic fashion, and its not even intentional. IM 47 now, and have not let myself materialize any romantic relationship. It breaks my heart how selfish ive been in the past
Good looking on the talk. Seen a few things in myself listening to this, in the plus and the minus; and being in a genuinely reflective place, I can look forward to being better with all my relationships. Thanks.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!! I definitely struggle with time management…it’s been a struggle for years, but I’ve always made excuses for myself and that’s really been a bad habit of mine. Watching this video though reminds me that I have to do better. Taking that first step though is first admitting that there’s a problem.
@EdLatimore1 Yes, classy. But I also liked that you spent time (in a concise way) expounding to the meaning of each point. Very valuable video. Thanks, brother.
If you stay away from drugs, whether it’s dealing them or doing them, your life is ALWAYS limited difficulty in how hard it CAN be. Keep it easy for yourself! 😊
I disagree about the no friends red flag. I'm a highly introverted person who only spends a few hours per week socializing at the most - and I have no close friends outside my immediate family. My family isn't obligated to spend time with me, but some of us get along very well and so we spend time together (others not so much!) In spite of my introverted nature and lack of outside friends, I have been complimented multiple times on my public speaking ability and I have very good relationships with the people I do business with and my employees. I would rate my social skills as above average, but I just enjoy spending most of my free time by myself instead of socializing.
@@fewarechosenpodcast5325 Mr who are you who disagrees? Do you think you re ok (no disordered/ND) & your pov is valid? Sadly reality is past 60y ppl have 0.1 friends per individual (used to be 4 friends if i remember correctly). Point is a huge number of ppl nowdays deal w mental illness. Future ll be great for you. Idk if it s so great/progress for humanity. Noone is possible to have "many friends" under normal circumstances as it takes time to know 1 person. Ppl may be happy being unaware /living in illusions or delusions etc. Since relationship involves communication that s why having "friends" may be indicative - that s all but when i see ppl beleive their subjective experience may be a general conclusion..
One red flag for me: a guy who has a reputation for being a "nice guy" but nobody really knows him or anything about his background. Some guys are very good at putting on a good show in public but when it comes to being alone with them another side emerges. I'd also have to add, guys will stick up for guys EVERY TIME. The ones you want to ask "how well do you know him" are his female friends, not his male friends. If he doesn't have any female friends, or again, nobody seems to know anything about him (and I'm not talking about someone who's just moved into your community) be very careful, especially if the general consensus is that he's a nice guy. What are they basing this off of if they've only seen him in a public situation like church? Now, I know your channel is mainly directed towards younger viewers, but as a senior, I have to say there is another red flag, and that is when you combine a significant age gap (he being 10 or more years older than you) with significant health problems. There are guys out there who are looking for "hospice wives". Don't be one of them. These guys are deliberately looking for younger women with assets who will take care of them. Run!
Right so I have mixed feelings about this. Firstly I completely agree, you have to be pretty ruthless with distancing yourself from toxic influences, however I think what makes someone a toxic influence is a bit deeper than if they take hard drugs or if they still have friends from below a certain age. What counts, is things like genuinely wanting to see you succeed, courage, resilience and humility. I know good, authentic, hard working, humble successful people who love snorting cocaine and popping pills every weekend. On the other hand, I also know, pathetic, judgemental, insecure, narcissistic, self righteous, condescending idiots who think the sun shines out their ass who have maintained all their friendships over time have immaculate finances, dont do drugs, and generally waddle around lauding their trivial successes over everything within a 100 mile radius. My point is, while I generally agree with you, I think its important to take this with a pinch of salt and not be super judgemental, because for me, being overly judgemental, is the worst red flag of all. Forgot to mention, I am a deeply spiritual person, and have noticed God tends to use, outcast's, rejects, losers and weirdos to do great things. Often its the weird guy with no friends and poor finances who is crowned king. I believe greatness often hides in the guise of weakness. And I really don't want to be the fool who underestimated the next Bill Gates or Albert Einstein.
I'm with youm, but remember. I'm not being judgemental when I warn people about staying away from hard drug users. My advice is mainly to keep you from getting caught up in any collateral damage associated with them living that way.
@ 0:34 ANY person that lacks any sense of DISCIPLINE Responsibility AND Accountability it is definitely NOT a person BUT still a little child.. No matter how loud that they talk, how good they look, or how they're talking game is.. To me those are the "real " "red flags"
Every person (especially women) should read “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft. It is THE book about domestic abuse. It dispels stereotypes about what people assume domestic abusers are like and anyone who might even know someone who could be in that situation needs to have a grasp on what to do to help. Recognizing early signs can save your life. I appreciate your blunt but not particularly judgmental perspective on this subject. You don’t make judgments about someone being a worthless person if they have these “red flags” but are realistic about what that could mean for people to get tied up with them.
Why does he do that? Because he is one of those clowns who let his anger out on others. He should have take his bad home life up with his parents, NOT ON OTHERS! Get abused? Talk to the school counselor.
Someone without friends may have had a rough start early on in life. Making friends as you get older becomes harder. It's a sign of social struggles but not necessarily who they are in quality of character.
I've met a lot of people with rough starts. I've never met one who didn't play outside or go to school with other people their age. There are so many ways to make friends that if you don't have at least one from before you were adult, there are a lot of issues. And this is mainly geared at a 20-30 year old audience. At 40 plus, things tend to get interesting for a lot of different reasons, at least in this regard.
@@EdLatimore1 It's likely a sign of a rough start but, as with addictions, we might agree it is only one factor to who the person is today. Neurodivergence often plays a role too as it's to do with social awareness. Overall, the question is a good one to meditate and reflect on for someone in that position.
Getting sober was the best thing I did for myself. Women are off the table guys, they don't want us anymore, but this list is essential. If you see yourself here it's time to make a change.
@@CoachSteveJandS I hope it does. When I got sober, I started as not being anti-alcohol. That was 11 years ago. Now though, I'm pretty against it because along the way, I learned about things like this.
@@EdLatimore1if it does or it doesn t is meaningless. It s similar to the new law in UK about "coercive control". It s just to say they do something about the issue. The issue is nowdays way of being. 5% w npd or aspd & 15% w traits plus other mental health issues related w narcissistic values & way of being. Any kind of addiction is some of the offered ways to escape this reality. Could be workoholism/ use of social/ "legal dru*s" ppl w depression anxiety use also sold in the streets..
I'd like to think there is a deeper undercurrent at work with that....not arguing the fact that it's detrimental in so many ways, especially health-wise, which includes it being used to cope with deeper problems.
@@breeburrows6608 Yoooo, the crackweed!! lol. That shit is definitely on the hard drug list. I know a lot of cats who have *literally* lost their mind haha
@@EdLatimore1I can agree with that lol. The headrush you get from it I'd definitely on a level you cluld compare to hard drugs. I see people hit a big dab and basically be in comatose for 30 minutes😂
@@EdLatimore1 Yeah 1.procrastination 2.time-management 3.life-distractions that's something I have battle with as middle age gentlemen these traits have caused me to have missed opportunities in mental, emotional, and financial growth,
a lot of people will have at least one of those flags depending on their age. that social recluse one is a big popular one that should probably not warrant much worry on its own unless your looking for an outgoing person of course. like a 35+ year old recluse guy that still speaks and see all his family is probably ok and just shy, many pos tend to lose touch with at least 1 family member by 35-40. but i guess you should try to find someone with no flags at all if you have that option but not many can. just my opinion.
@@EdLatimore1 well by families i meant siblings and such not kids. i assumed you meant bachelors when you talked about social recluse's. for your kids to hate you, it takes way more then siblings and it will probably be written all over you to stay away. .
My Ex and I broke up. I didn’t take notice that some of his issues were red flags as our relationship progressed I noticed them, he would have good jobs but didn’t stay at them long because he always felt that he had hater’s and end up lashing out over his ego. Always feeling like people were trying to sabotage his character. He didn’t have any friends. He dealt with his family from a distance only online or over the phone. He didn’t like my friends or my co workers. He told me my family was just using me. I have the biggest trust issues now because of him 😝
Standing up to bad bosses and covid policies can get you black listed at corporations like a felon. So I don't completely agree with the not having a legal job portion. The systems a sick, corrupt, joke.
@EdLatimore1 aw,I job people based on what they do to me, not based on rebelling against a dieing, corrupted system, who's billionaire owners want us all poor, and sick, or jabbed and dead.
@@EdLatimore1 careful how you judge lest you be judged as harshly as you judge others. If you have a job ,and money in the bank. Be grateful. That can change very quickly. Having a job, is really the only reason so many support this corrupted system. Those that got hired 6 months or less before the covid bs were not eligable for any workers comp, or bail outs as you believe. I know, I was one of them, put out of work as none essentail. Then fired not long after that when a drunk hit me, and my girlfriend leaving work, hid the surveillence video, all for shady reasons. This system isn't what you claim it to be.
The part about self proclaimed male feminists is exactly what the idiot king who rules Canada is. He turned out to belittle and usurp/destroy any woman who worked with him and or defied him. Love your discussions about all your topics. The school systems need guys like you to tour different high schools and speak in the auditoriums/gyms to the new students in first year, but I think the prison industry won't like that.
This ain’t worth much, sorry. First of, talking about your past relationships when entering a new one is very important. You can look up Prof Sam Vaknin on this. Interview your partner. Second, it is completely ok to live with your parents, over most part of history it was considered normal. And when they get older you can help them out. Third, I agree that drinking in public can be dangerous but having a friend you regularly drink with is one of the best things in life. I don’t want to live a sober life, if you can’t handle alcohol that is your problem. And last but not least, I do not give a damn about the financial situation of a man if he is loyal and fun to be around, I’m not a woman.
1) I said talking about the ex is normal. You heard something else entirely, for some reason. 2) It's 2024. If you aren't taking care of your parents, don't be 30 years old living at home. 3) Again, you really didn't listen. I didn't say anything about light drinking. You really didn't listen, despite this long comment. 4) That's cool if you don't. Just know what it symbolizes. This comment sounds more like YOU have these traits and got triggered. Because you mistook a least 3 of them.
@ I don’t like people who use the word ,triggerd’. It’s mostly people who insult others and then, when those people react, use that name. It’s like me saying don’t deal with black people (I don’t say that, just to be clear). Does that trigger you? See. I just don’t like stereotypes. I am 41 and live with my parents. Can you imagine how often I get insulted because of that, as if I do anyone bad. I just like my parents and I am happy to be around my family. I once moved out and hated it, just sitting alone in my apartment. The house we live in is big, no one has a problem with that. And I like to sit in my basement and drink beer. It just makes me happy. Again, I don’t hurt nobody. I listen to music and talk to friends who moved away. It’s peaceful. A lot of great thinking people did it like that, Churchill, Schopenhauer, Bukowski, just to name a few. And Iike to do it alone, mostly. Because most people are not the kind of human being I want to be around. And than we come to relationships. Most women I encountered had some sort of mental illness. I don’t date for 9 years now, because of that. When I was in my 20s we had no modern internet, so I didn’t know about things like BPD. Sad story. But if you are a man in 2025 and don’t see that something is very wrong with women in our current culture you must live under a rock. Again, you are shaming men here for women’s issues. Yes I know some women who are nice to be around, but they are A a tiny minority and B they usually also lack awareness of basic knowledge of modern men’s issues. Wich brings me to the main thing I don’t like about this video. Male shaming. Misandrist talk is everywhere these days, and I am not even talking about feminism. No it’s the Jordan Petersons, the Andrew Tates, you and basically everybody and his grandma. The only message men ever get is work hard, don’t have fun (video games, drinking, watching tv, etc.) or in other words: be the status object women want. You, your thoughts, your feelings, they don’t matter. It’s always just about gaining status. Think about that. Channels like City Crusher opened my eyes to this, and I can’t close them no more. Yes I do live with my parents and I drink and I have problems with women (if you don’t have problems with modern female behavior, than there must be a will in you to not see things as they are). But I also am a very skilled pianist and composer, I produce music in my own studio wich I built in our basement. I make music videos, and I am a natural bodybuilder, go for long hikes and I cook excellent meals. I am also very well read and a sharp thinker. I have an acting degree, I wrote a book, I am interested in religion(s) and I’m very much into literature and philosophy. So I think I’m quite an interesting guy. More interesting than any guy I know to be honest. But according to your video, I’m just a walking red flag. I am NOT saying this to defend my life here. What do I care what some stranger on the internet thinks about me. I just want to open men’s eyes when it comes to the status message. We are not work horses, we are people. Of course you are right with drugs. Dudes who do illegal drugs, are violent, or even criminal should be avoided. And I don’t want to hate on you here. I get where you’re coming from and that you want to be a good example for people. The world is cruel, a man has to be sharp and strong. I just don’t like stereotypes and the internet discourse is full of them. So peace and respect to you and your mission, but please consider thinking about my point of view. Greetings
I’d argue that marijuana is addictive. I would consider it a red flag if a person smoked every weekend to “blow off steam”, much like people going out for drinks every weekend is a huge red flag in my opinion. It’s been scientifically proven that consumption of alcohol even twice a week wrecks health. Now, on the other hand, OCCASIONAL use of mushrooms can even be beneficial. In my experience, people who don’t want to grow (afraid to take a look on the inside/afraid of their “shadow”) tend to steer clear of them because they don’t like introspection and say they had “a bad trip”. Great content by the way!
1 Though there are exceptions you need to check their parents relationships facts Ppl don’t realize have invaluable this is throughout the relationship They know what’s up ok 😅 No need for baby sitters ppl you can trust well in the past but still some good ones out there etc big one they need ❤oh $ help 😅do right get treated right OK FACTS Thus I count this as the No 1 true and tested method DISAGREE ESP at the 9:17 this is definitely not what I’m seeing because too many out there still having multiple baby daddies just facts some still want them cute babies SOME EVEN HOOKING UP WITH INCARCERATED ONES FACTS Oh a deep one BETTER LOOK FOR THEM DL signs 😮some ladies have experienced this okay EVERYONE BE BLESSED
For those out there dealing with one of these signs, be honest with yourself and make changes in your life. We all struggle and we all can do better. Great video!
In my experience anyone in the grip of an addiction be it drugs, alcohol, gambling, compulsive spending, gluttony etc., is best avoided like the plague. Their "habit" will take primacy over everything else and they will probably try and ease the shame and degradation they feel about their behaviour by getting you to participate in it.
Yep. You spend time around crackheads, and it's only a matter of time before you become one.
Man, well said… it takes over them so bad, a crackhead can get on a store to steal something, but steal just barely above for their next fix. The urgency for the next fix is so high that they just need to go and buy the next shot as soon as they have enough for it.
@@tdgs62 If that's not hardened truth then it's pretty close. It's too bad.
Rule of thumb: If you have a friend who changes their cell number more than once a year, you should probably steer clear of them.
Let's sum this up , great video, by the way. We need stricter laws on child upbringing. Love begins at home. People, if you don't want a family, don't have one. Don't let your bad life out on everyone' else, bad home life, take it up with your parents, NOT US!
I met the love of my life 30 years ago and we are happily married. He’s never had many friends and he’s chronically late but I have my faults too. We make it work and I couldn’t be happier with him as my spouse.
Hi Ed, love this stuff. The younger guys and some girls need this as well. I am non drinking or smoking, and stay away from any drug users, nothing good comes from it. In short, clean and sober is the way to go. Keep up the great work Soldier🙏✝️🇺🇸👍
Thank you kindly!
Very very Excellent. Thanks for the knowledge.💯💯
My red flag is clean, bright and stands strong. I destroy relationships in fantastic fashion, and its not even intentional. IM 47 now, and have not let myself materialize any romantic relationship. It breaks my heart how selfish ive been in the past
Very interesting, well stated advice. Thank you for your frankness.
Good looking on the talk. Seen a few things in myself listening to this, in the plus and the minus; and being in a genuinely reflective place, I can look forward to being better with all my relationships. Thanks.
Thank you for digging the talk
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!! I definitely struggle with time management…it’s been a struggle for years, but I’ve always made excuses for myself and that’s really been a bad habit of mine. Watching this video though reminds me that I have to do better. Taking that first step though is first admitting that there’s a problem.
Knowing is half the battle!
Very good advice and also some good things to follow if oneself can see one owns red flags.
Can definitely save your life
Respectable description of these listed characteristics.
Thanks! I sometimes keep it classy over here
@EdLatimore1 Yes, classy.
But I also liked that you spent time (in a concise way) expounding to the meaning of each point.
Very valuable video.
Thanks, brother.
@@EriPages I appreciate you my guy
great list!
And Vice versa Everything he said Applies to Women's too. Nice Work and Thanks so much for sharing. 💜
Always have to bring women into everything 😅
If you stay away from drugs, whether it’s dealing them or doing them, your life is ALWAYS limited difficulty in how hard it CAN be. Keep it easy for yourself! 😊
Facts!
I disagree about the no friends red flag. I'm a highly introverted person who only spends a few hours per week socializing at the most - and I have no close friends outside my immediate family. My family isn't obligated to spend time with me, but some of us get along very well and so we spend time together (others not so much!)
In spite of my introverted nature and lack of outside friends, I have been complimented multiple times on my public speaking ability and I have very good relationships with the people I do business with and my employees. I would rate my social skills as above average, but I just enjoy spending most of my free time by myself instead of socializing.
I know a guy who’s had a kid with every woman he’s been in a relationship with. He’s got four exes, meaning he’s got four kids. That shit is crazy.
That's nasty work
I disagree with the lack of friends, I’m happy not having many friends.
I didn't say "many." I said "any."
I agree. @@EdLatimore1
@@fewarechosenpodcast5325 Mr who are you who disagrees? Do you think you re ok (no disordered/ND) & your pov is valid? Sadly reality is past 60y ppl have 0.1 friends per individual (used to be 4 friends if i remember correctly). Point is a huge number of ppl nowdays deal w mental illness. Future ll be great for you. Idk if it s so great/progress for humanity. Noone is possible to have "many friends" under normal circumstances as it takes time to know 1 person. Ppl may be happy being unaware /living in illusions or delusions etc. Since relationship involves communication that s why having "friends" may be indicative - that s all but when i see ppl beleive their subjective experience may be a general conclusion..
@@ioannafardella3717they say they have no friends those 60 year olds always have someone that would be their friend if they tried
They just don’t wanna get to know people
One red flag for me: a guy who has a reputation for being a "nice guy" but nobody really knows him or anything about his background. Some guys are very good at putting on a good show in public but when it comes to being alone with them another side emerges. I'd also have to add, guys will stick up for guys EVERY TIME. The ones you want to ask "how well do you know him" are his female friends, not his male friends. If he doesn't have any female friends, or again, nobody seems to know anything about him (and I'm not talking about someone who's just moved into your community) be very careful, especially if the general consensus is that he's a nice guy. What are they basing this off of if they've only seen him in a public situation like church?
Now, I know your channel is mainly directed towards younger viewers, but as a senior, I have to say there is another red flag, and that is when you combine a significant age gap (he being 10 or more years older than you) with significant health problems. There are guys out there who are looking for "hospice wives". Don't be one of them. These guys are deliberately looking for younger women with assets who will take care of them. Run!
That nice guy thing is real. Also, I'm cracking up at "hospice wives" haha
Absolutely
I thought about dealing but it's just too much work
Right so I have mixed feelings about this. Firstly I completely agree, you have to be pretty ruthless with distancing yourself from toxic influences, however I think what makes someone a toxic influence is a bit deeper than if they take hard drugs or if they still have friends from below a certain age. What counts, is things like genuinely wanting to see you succeed, courage, resilience and humility. I know good, authentic, hard working, humble successful people who love snorting cocaine and popping pills every weekend. On the other hand, I also know, pathetic, judgemental, insecure, narcissistic, self righteous, condescending idiots who think the sun shines out their ass who have maintained all their friendships over time have immaculate finances, dont do drugs, and generally waddle around lauding their trivial successes over everything within a 100 mile radius. My point is, while I generally agree with you, I think its important to take this with a pinch of salt and not be super judgemental, because for me, being overly judgemental, is the worst red flag of all.
Forgot to mention, I am a deeply spiritual person, and have noticed God tends to use, outcast's, rejects, losers and weirdos to do great things. Often its the weird guy with no friends and poor finances who is crowned king. I believe greatness often hides in the guise of weakness. And I really don't want to be the fool who underestimated the next Bill Gates or Albert Einstein.
I'm with youm, but remember. I'm not being judgemental when I warn people about staying away from hard drug users. My advice is mainly to keep you from getting caught up in any collateral damage associated with them living that way.
@@EdLatimore1yeah, 100% I'm with you on that. Happy we agree 😎
@ 0:34 ANY person that lacks any sense of DISCIPLINE Responsibility AND Accountability it is definitely NOT a person BUT still a little child..
No matter how loud that they talk, how good they look, or how they're talking game is..
To me those are the "real " "red flags"
I completely agree
Every person (especially women) should read “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft. It is THE book about domestic abuse. It dispels stereotypes about what people assume domestic abusers are like and anyone who might even know someone who could be in that situation needs to have a grasp on what to do to help. Recognizing early signs can save your life.
I appreciate your blunt but not particularly judgmental perspective on this subject. You don’t make judgments about someone being a worthless person if they have these “red flags” but are realistic about what that could mean for people to get tied up with them.
Hey thank you for recognizing that. I tried.
And that book sounds like something right up my alley.
Why does he do that? Because he is one of those clowns who let his anger out on others. He should have take his bad home life up with his parents, NOT ON OTHERS! Get abused? Talk to the school counselor.
Great video ❤🎉
Glad you liked it!
Thank you for this video man. I really wish you can be my counselor or something, bro I agree with you a lot.
Hey appreciate it! I try to keep it real.
Someone without friends may have had a rough start early on in life. Making friends as you get older becomes harder. It's a sign of social struggles but not necessarily who they are in quality of character.
I've met a lot of people with rough starts. I've never met one who didn't play outside or go to school with other people their age. There are so many ways to make friends that if you don't have at least one from before you were adult, there are a lot of issues. And this is mainly geared at a 20-30 year old audience. At 40 plus, things tend to get interesting for a lot of different reasons, at least in this regard.
@@EdLatimore1 It's likely a sign of a rough start but, as with addictions, we might agree it is only one factor to who the person is today. Neurodivergence often plays a role too as it's to do with social awareness. Overall, the question is a good one to meditate and reflect on for someone in that position.
Getting sober was the best thing I did for myself.
Women are off the table guys, they don't want us anymore, but this list is essential. If you see yourself here it's time to make a change.
Sobriety changed my life too. Best thing I ever did for myself, hands down.
Congrats my dude.
getting off adult material too
Surgeon general says that alcohol is cancerous, even in small/infrequent quantities...
All the health nuts been known this. It's crazy that it's finally going mainstream
@EdLatimore1 Theres talk about making the companies add a warning label similar to tobacco, though no guarantee that will happen.
@@CoachSteveJandS I hope it does. When I got sober, I started as not being anti-alcohol. That was 11 years ago. Now though, I'm pretty against it because along the way, I learned about things like this.
@@EdLatimore1if it does or it doesn t is meaningless. It s similar to the new law in UK about "coercive control". It s just to say they do something about the issue. The issue is nowdays way of being. 5% w npd or aspd & 15% w traits plus other mental health issues related w narcissistic values & way of being. Any kind of addiction is some of the offered ways to escape this reality. Could be workoholism/ use of social/ "legal dru*s" ppl w depression anxiety use also sold in the streets..
I'd like to think there is a deeper undercurrent at work with that....not arguing the fact that it's detrimental in so many ways, especially health-wise, which includes it being used to cope with deeper problems.
Spot on, as always.
Much appreciated
If I broke up with every woman who was late for a date I'd still be a virgin.
I see your channel is growing 👀
Doing what I can!
I'm always late. Gotta be more punctual.
Acknowledging it is a necessary step toward improving.
Do you include hash oil on the hard drugs list?
That's a question I've never gotten...who even smokes that anymore? I think it's big in Europe?
@@EdLatimore1 I think they call it dabs here in the States.
@@breeburrows6608 Yoooo, the crackweed!! lol. That shit is definitely on the hard drug list. I know a lot of cats who have *literally* lost their mind haha
@@EdLatimore1I can agree with that lol. The headrush you get from it I'd definitely on a level you cluld compare to hard drugs. I see people hit a big dab and basically be in comatose for 30 minutes😂
This channel is such Gold.
Hey thank you man!
I'm not going to lie I have 1 to 3 traits on this lists, other traits I have observed in others in certain environments that I've grown up in.
Knowing is half the battle!
@@EdLatimore1 Yeah
1.procrastination
2.time-management
3.life-distractions
that's something I have battle with as middle age gentlemen these traits have caused me to have missed opportunities in mental, emotional, and financial growth,
a lot of people will have at least one of those flags depending on their age. that social recluse one is a big popular one that should probably not warrant much worry on its own unless your looking for an outgoing person of course. like a 35+ year old recluse guy that still speaks and see all his family is probably ok and just shy, many pos tend to lose touch with at least 1 family member by 35-40. but i guess you should try to find someone with no flags at all if you have that option but not many can. just my opinion.
If you're 35 and you have kids, yeah. But that's not quite the type of guy I'm talking about hete.
@@EdLatimore1 well by families i meant siblings and such not kids. i assumed you meant bachelors when you talked about social recluse's. for your kids to hate you, it takes way more then siblings and it will probably be written all over you to stay away. .
My Ex and I broke up. I didn’t take notice that some of his issues were red flags as our relationship progressed I noticed them, he would have good jobs but didn’t stay at them long because he always felt that he had hater’s and end up lashing out over his ego. Always feeling like people were trying to sabotage his character. He didn’t have any friends. He dealt with his family from a distance only online or over the phone. He didn’t like my friends or my co workers. He told me my family was just using me. I have the biggest trust issues now because of him 😝
At least you know the dude was the red flag haha
Holy shit this was a great video. Very insightful. Keep up the good work, dude.
Hey thank you man!!
Standing up to bad bosses and covid policies can get you black listed at corporations like a felon. So I don't completely agree with the not having a legal job portion. The systems a sick, corrupt, joke.
Yeah but you gotta. And now all those Covid firings are getting paid
@EdLatimore1 aw,I job people based on what they do to me, not based on rebelling against a dieing, corrupted system, who's billionaire owners want us all poor, and sick, or jabbed and dead.
@EdLatimore1 not all of them.
@@999EmergencyAlert3 Yeah, but many of them. There's a legal precedent that's set and many continue to win.
@@EdLatimore1 careful how you judge lest you be judged as harshly as you judge others. If you have a job ,and money in the bank. Be grateful. That can change very quickly. Having a job, is really the only reason so many support this corrupted system. Those that got hired 6 months or less before the covid bs were not eligable for any workers comp, or bail outs as you believe. I know, I was one of them, put out of work as none essentail. Then fired not long after that when a drunk hit me, and my girlfriend leaving work, hid the surveillence video, all for shady reasons. This system isn't what you claim it to be.
I dig this channel. Very real shit
Hey thank you! We dig you too
The part about self proclaimed male feminists is exactly what the idiot king who rules Canada is. He turned out to belittle and usurp/destroy any woman who worked with him and or defied him. Love your discussions about all your topics. The school systems need guys like you to tour different high schools and speak in the auditoriums/gyms to the new students in first year, but I think the prison industry won't like that.
Green flag good at something top 20% that you find cool. It can be anything. Shows he has the discipline and focus to see things through
Those are the ones you gotta look for!
This ain’t worth much, sorry.
First of, talking about your past relationships when entering a new one is very important. You can look up Prof Sam Vaknin on this. Interview your partner.
Second, it is completely ok to live with your parents, over most part of history it was considered normal. And when they get older you can help them out.
Third, I agree that drinking in public can be dangerous but having a friend you regularly drink with is one of the best things in life. I don’t want to live a sober life, if you can’t handle alcohol that is your problem.
And last but not least, I do not give a damn about the financial situation of a man if he is loyal and fun to be around, I’m not a woman.
1) I said talking about the ex is normal. You heard something else entirely, for some reason.
2) It's 2024. If you aren't taking care of your parents, don't be 30 years old living at home.
3) Again, you really didn't listen. I didn't say anything about light drinking. You really didn't listen, despite this long comment.
4) That's cool if you don't. Just know what it symbolizes.
This comment sounds more like YOU have these traits and got triggered. Because you mistook a least 3 of them.
@ I don’t like people who use the word ,triggerd’. It’s mostly people who insult others and then, when those people react, use that name. It’s like me saying don’t deal with black people (I don’t say that, just to be clear). Does that trigger you? See.
I just don’t like stereotypes. I am 41 and live with my parents. Can you imagine how often I get insulted because of that, as if I do anyone bad. I just like my parents and I am happy to be around my family. I once moved out and hated it, just sitting alone in my apartment. The house we live in is big, no one has a problem with that.
And I like to sit in my basement and drink beer. It just makes me happy. Again, I don’t hurt nobody. I listen to music and talk to friends who moved away. It’s peaceful. A lot of great thinking people did it like that, Churchill, Schopenhauer, Bukowski, just to name a few. And Iike to do it alone, mostly. Because most people are not the kind of human being I want to be around.
And than we come to relationships. Most women I encountered had some sort of mental illness. I don’t date for 9 years now, because of that. When I was in my 20s we had no modern internet, so I didn’t know about things like BPD. Sad story. But if you are a man in 2025 and don’t see that something is very wrong with women in our current culture you must live under a rock. Again, you are shaming men here for women’s issues. Yes I know some women who are nice to be around, but they are A a tiny minority and B they usually also lack awareness of basic knowledge of modern men’s issues.
Wich brings me to the main thing I don’t like about this video.
Male shaming. Misandrist talk is everywhere these days, and I am not even talking about feminism. No it’s the Jordan Petersons, the Andrew Tates, you and basically everybody and his grandma. The only message men ever get is work hard, don’t have fun (video games, drinking, watching tv, etc.) or in other words: be the status object women want. You, your thoughts, your feelings, they don’t matter. It’s always just about gaining status. Think about that. Channels like City Crusher opened my eyes to this, and I can’t close them no more.
Yes I do live with my parents and I drink and I have problems with women (if you don’t have problems with modern female behavior, than there must be a will in you to not see things as they are).
But I also am a very skilled pianist and composer, I produce music in my own studio wich I built in our basement. I make music videos, and I am a natural bodybuilder, go for long hikes and I cook excellent meals. I am also very well read and a sharp thinker. I have an acting degree, I wrote a book, I am interested in religion(s) and I’m very much into literature and philosophy. So I think I’m quite an interesting guy. More interesting than any guy I know to be honest. But according to your video, I’m just a walking red flag.
I am NOT saying this to defend my life here. What do I care what some stranger on the internet thinks about me.
I just want to open men’s eyes when it comes to the status message. We are not work horses, we are people.
Of course you are right with drugs. Dudes who do illegal drugs, are violent, or even criminal should be avoided.
And I don’t want to hate on you here. I get where you’re coming from and that you want to be a good example for people. The world is cruel, a man has to be sharp and strong. I just don’t like stereotypes and the internet discourse is full of them.
So peace and respect to you and your mission, but please consider thinking about my point of view.
Greetings
I’d argue that marijuana is addictive. I would consider it a red flag if a person smoked every weekend to “blow off steam”, much like people going out for drinks every weekend is a huge red flag in my opinion. It’s been scientifically proven that consumption of alcohol even twice a week wrecks health. Now, on the other hand, OCCASIONAL use of mushrooms can even be beneficial. In my experience, people who don’t want to grow (afraid to take a look on the inside/afraid of their “shadow”) tend to steer clear of them because they don’t like introspection and say they had “a bad trip”.
Great content by the way!
Yeah that booze is rough. And thank you!
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Though there are exceptions you need to check their parents relationships facts
Ppl don’t realize have invaluable this is throughout the relationship
They know what’s up ok 😅
No need for baby sitters ppl you can trust well in the past but still some good ones out there etc big one
they need ❤oh $ help 😅do right get treated right OK FACTS
Thus I count this as the No 1 true and tested method
DISAGREE
ESP at the 9:17 this is definitely not what I’m seeing because too many out there still having multiple baby daddies just facts some still want them cute babies SOME EVEN HOOKING UP WITH INCARCERATED ONES FACTS
Oh a deep one BETTER LOOK FOR THEM DL signs 😮some ladies have experienced this okay
EVERYONE BE BLESSED
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Much love
Another significant red flag is knowing ALL of them 😂😂 Familiarity is suspicious 🤨 😂
@@xo_ectophylla_alba_xo I specifically said in another video leading people here that I was this dude. You're exactly right.
Male feminists 😂 . Based, my man, based!
Haha just keeping it real
😂😂😂 You're a big red flag yourself!
Ha how do you think I know em!