Sexual Market Place | The Feminine Ego

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The one thing I hear women complain about in their relationships is the level of emotional labour that they render to their partners that are often never reciprocated. I have wondered why women were the ones who seemed to be plagued by these one-sided relationships until I came to the realization that women might be the ones guilty of enabling this behaviour in their partners.
I have noticed that many women are unaware of their co-dependent nature; a trait that I strongly believe originates from both nature and nurture (socialization). If you are not sure of what a co-dependent relationship means, I have an article that explains it in details, but the gist of it is that a co-dependent relationship is one where one person is giving more in the relationship because the other person requires more attention and psychological support.
But why do I believe women enable this behaviour? Well! Because, of what we call the Female Ego- where women take pride in nurturing their partners or people around them. This ego is fostered by socialization as women are often taught to “serve”, that when one is asked of the qualities of a good woman, it is not uncommon to hear that she must give a lot of herself and sacrifice for her partner or children. But, this ego is not only fostered through socialization, but nature also comes into play as some women are innately more nurturers than men.
This ability to nurture is certainly not a bad trait to possess but once one begins to determine her self-worth from her ability to nurture people then it sends a red flag.
A prime example is when a woman dates a “bad boy” with the belief that she would be the one to change him, and even though she might not recognize that train of thought, it becomes evident when there’s a little change in his behaviour and she takes pride in the fact that she was the one who changed the man.
However, things could easily go down South from there. For instance, If the woman is dating a man who drinks a lot and begins to realize that he has reduced his alcohol intake and continues to spend more time around her; both of them love the change and the woman is happy because she has rescued him from himself and can finally be with the King she knew he could be. But after a while, he goes back to his old habit, and instead of walking away from the situation that she knows would drain her emotionally, she refuses and takes it as a challenge to work harder to rescue him- after all she has done it before so she can do it again!

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