The Buddha said the human mind has an infinite capacity to delude itself. He's not talking about lying to other people, he's talking about the lies we tell ourselves. The self deception, which I imagine most of the time we are completely unaware of
Simple solution, make it part of your personality to never lie for any reason. Over time you will naturally stop lying to others and eventually you will discover how you lied to yourself. Education and Silence is the key.
I don't lie to myself least I don't see it that way? Surely I tell the truth to the best of my abilities but if it's secondhand information I speak upon take it with a grain of salt... Because not everything spoken is true....but if you know how to decipher it through your own experiences...Then you can remove the "junk" (lie,useless, misinformation etc) have a wonderful night
John Hurley That’s true. But I don’t even care anymore. Whenever someone can’t handle the truth ... it shows that they are not truthful to themselves. That should never stop you from speaking the truth though- don’t dim your light because it’s too bright for some people. Of course there is also a fine line between speaking the truth and being rude by telling everyone your opinion :)
+JSavic I'm familiar with it, but allot of their content is shitty. They tend to focus on a small part of someone's philosophy, and ignore some of their much bigger and more prominent ideas. They also have a tendency to turn everything into relationships advice.
The best that these videos can offer is like that of a good spiritual teacher or mentor. They point the way. They highlight what we need to focus on my mind on in order to recondition our thought patterns. Because it is that conditioning that leads us astray.
My biggest deceptions are : 1) I pretend to love my some selfish friends who disturb me regularly , yet I pretend that they are my friends . 2) sometimes I get false admiration and I think that's true compliments . 3) I pretend that i can not live without my friends , but I always live alone in their company . And now I'm going to dismantle my all deceptions .
This channel is brilliant. Thank you for taking the time out to help us discontinue being self-defeating. Some of us *really* don't want to be "losers" and prefer not to settle for mediocrity. That doesn't necessarily mean we will achieve greatness, but I'd rather at least try my hardest and fail than to make no effort. I'm going down swinging.. or ascending to where I belong (once I have earned it)
this is why it's impossible to be completely honest with people when you know that they are probably stuck in self deceit. It can almost be cruel to pull them out of it because chances are they wont be able to handle their reality.
If someone is willingly acting upon selfdefeit and pussing their ill and twisted will on others, I wish they could see their true inner self all day and night, untill they have become a better person. It's makes a better world, so I would not see what is wrong with mirroring a lie back to it's source. For the peace of the almighty God and the blood of Jesus, amen!
@@jewishbride5010 Your illusory tales of the living, no sacrifice will truly help you, not from whatever odd pedestrian idioms taken to rationalize your fantasies. you say krishna, you say mark, you say jesus, buddah, or whatever methaphor that is not to be seen like a absolute and put it into extreme abstractions to justify your own sick fanatical fantasies.
Old comment but you shouldnt put print your own conscious on another. You can only help yourself by not lying. Agreeing with anothers lies is the same thing as lying to yourself. The truth will set you free.
@Karaa7595 The video isn't about being honest with other people, it's not about lying to others its about not deceiving yourself. And how do you know when you think you are just being honest with someone else, that you aren't just sharing your opinion with them. Your opinions of someone else could be wrong. We often deceive ourselves about our real motives for doing things. I think a lot of the time most of us aren't even aware that we are deceiving ourselves. And if we ask others they will most likely just give their opinions which may not be that accurate and they may well not understand us well enough. I guess we need to become much more self aware, and this isn't easy
Self-deception sounds very dark and bad when in reality it's just a mechanism of the brain to cope with a very complex world while having limited processing capability. We cannot live in constant doubt or state of conflict, we are just not efficient when we are in doubt, doubt is a transitional state. .Also we cannot focus on more than one thing at a time. With all this in mind you see how ignoring the part that brings the conflict is the most efficient solution and the brain knows this(quite remarkable). What Nietzsche is saying I think is that because of our inherent limitations, we will have to ignore some things over others but at least do it in a smart way by deciding yourself what to ignore, don't do it automatically.
Wrong. This is an excuse. Making excuses is a thinking error. No amoumt of justification makes a negative a positive. Sorry but no. Im a blunt and straight forward person. Being this way keeps me from IG, FB Twitter and alcohol and drugs as a means to cope. Yet everyone around me is the complete opposite. Because they too justify the very things ruining them. Your comment doesn't deserve likes. However it proves people are weak minded and seek only to be justified in their wrong doing. Survival of the fittest. At what point is survival baded on lies and excuses? It isnt. Survival and true achievement are gained through an acceptance of reality. Not a running away from.
The concept you're hinting at is acception, not self deception. We can simply accept that there are things that we cannot understand or cannot control, which constitutes a healthy attitude towards life. The meaning here is to search for truths at all costs even if it disturps or causes discomfort. What you're implying is exactly the opposite.
I think my biggest flaws are: Being lazy some times/ often Being judgmental when it is not necessary Being overly sensitive sometimes Stubborn What are your flaws? Don't deceive yourself!
My life is better every single day and I show my appreciation by squandering my potential and wanting to die. I fear pursuing my greatest creative endeavors because I think I know that they will bring me no real joy in life, even though logically I could assume that the joy would be in building my confidence and creating things.
This is the first time I'm commenting on a video from AoI even though I've watched all of his videos on philosophy and have been a subscriber for months. This video shattered everything that I was, in a good way. Totally woke me up from my delusions and dropped me further into the pit of nihilism. I keep deceiving myself that I'm some genius but really I'm just smarter than average, far from a genius. Yet, it's this yearning for greatness that I strive to become and so I lie to myself hoping that one day those lies become reality. The last quote really hit home "...and so loses all respect for himself and for others."
I don't know you so I'm not saying you'll never be a genius. But there is something that you can do that is exceptional. For every person with average or above average capabilities, if they work their ass off in the pursuit of some great goal, they will become great. Perhaps not a genius, but great. And that greatness will justify your life for you.
Beautifully inspiring. Where would i be without the wonderful works of Academy of Ideas and my man Dr. Jordan Peterson? In the words of the doctor, "god only knows?"
Yes, it is a good channel! This one made me feel so proud of me. I have worked hard all my life to be a decent person and I've learned to live me and be truthful with me. Lies get you nowhere and puts you out of balance! If I didn't like parts, I changed them, its work, but you do have to live with you, best get to know you. It takes a lifetime, I'm 65!
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I've been going through an emotional journey as of late, and this video has really hits the nail on the head for me. I've known for a long time how deep my denial can go, and it's only until I've found this video that I can understand it more objectively. Change may be difficult, but it will come if you actively seek it. This channel has been very helpful, inspiring, and enlightening, and I'm so very glad to have been recommended it!
I remember doing a 10 page essay, for school, on the quote you chose, from "The Brothers Karamazov", at the end of the video. I think that is my favorite book and it's a collection of teachings that are really valuable and that are, universally, true and healthy. Really love your channel, man! Keep up the incredible work!
Another helpful view from Eckhart Tolle and others is that since the mind/ego is not our true "selves," its faults don't mean our very being is flawed. That's like saying having kidney problems means your whole existence is flawed. The mind/ego is the brain, just another organ serving the body, same thing. Knowing that "we" are not our flaws and that we are not fundamentally a blight on the universe is a step toward unconditional self-love. I recommend Eckhart's work for going into this. (Not to say that flaws shouldn't be addressed, but without unconditional self-love, it's harder to address them compassionately and forgivingly).
@@francineemma2051 The Power of Now for sure, that book really helped changed my perspective of things and help me understand my psyche and ego better.
Being 70, lifelong learning, understanding, observation, experience, re-examination 24/7 365. An artist, scientist, economist, ecologist, anthropologist, psychologist, physiologist etc is the way. Love always
The lies i tell to myself are: Acting like i have magically transformed my character in which all forms of depression are longer existent Thinking i have overcome toxic behaviours towards women Thinking i am really attractive when in fact i have never had a girlfriend Thinking that the likely personality disorder i have can be overcome by supreme moral effort Edit: Thinking i wrote this without any deeper intention behind when in fact i just wanted to show off how honest i am with myself which also applies to this edit
I dont know the rest, but I began this journey for my authentic self when I was 16. Now I am 20 and I think I am doing well, I became more unique among others.
@@TheLily97232 yes. The one that is fearful, angry, jealous, envious, and judgmental about other people. The one that wants to be pretty, handsome or gorgeous whenever you look in the mirror. The one who is afraid for its survival and want to accumulate more and more in order feel secure. Find that out for yourself because that is not who you truly are.
There is no authentic self, other than that self that we want to be. The challenges of life that seem to hijack us, are merely events that provide us with insight into our internal disposition, wants and aversions. These hijacking events are necessary for us to discover what really makes us "tick" inside (aka, our authentic self).This is why most people don't discover who they really are(authentic self) until they have been pummeled by the vagaries of life and consequently only then realize who and what they are. and what it takes to truly find contentment. The wise ones, stop trying to be something that goes against their authentic self, and instead embrace their authentic qualities and build their life around it.
Academy of Ideas pieces always hit home! They are top notch productions for sure. We ourselves are the favorite target of our deceptions and we are rarely aware of it. Mindfulness matters.
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I find it really interesting that the discussion of unmasking the false self is being held right now. I don't know if it's just my perception of things, but I have the impression that a lot of us are going through this right now. It is so hard to breathe sometimes, it feels like my heart is breaking, and the weight of every choice or lack of is unbearable. However, as I keep moving forward I see the shadows fade away. For anyone going through this: do not lose faith. Keep honest with yourself and others, even if it hurts, and as stated in the lecture, only move towards that which you will also become. Do not run away from yourself, nor stagnate on your mistakes and fears.
5 years down the line and this perfectly encapsulates how I feel. Thank you for this message, and how are things for you today?
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@@wildawwg3468 that particular stage of the story is over. Thank God things continue progressing. Very relevant books for me regarding that struggle: the book of Psalms, and also, The Path of the Just by the Ramchal. Maybe they will help someone else here. Be well.
Throughout my life. My possessions were of necessity. There no connection with what others may think of me. When I look back I can see that I dressed well, and had what allowed me to survive. This way was not to impress anyone. But, to see myself and be satisfied with what I see. Not what others might see. Therefore, I was always at peace with how I lived my life.
Continuing in my addiction to your fantastic videos, this one I can relate to 100% ! At the age of 68 and in remission for throat cancer, there is so much to look back on and keep the mirror of my appearance to others clean as well as to myself, so that I can be as honest and forthcoming as possible with tactfulness to avoid being judge mental towards others while in violation of that very thing myself. That being said however, total honesty can be very dangerous in the day by day interactions with others. Case in point.....your wife asks, honey does this dress make me look fat ? Hahaha......this has been the age old trap many of us men fall into and to hold onto our relationship we have the choice to lie to our partner and too ourselves or face the dreaded couch for many a night ! As with my first wife in telling the truth to her on several occasions I found myself in divorce court by her hand. The truth is... No the dress doesn't make you look fat, because you are fat and you picked the wrong size for your abundant flesh ! Hahahaha......in my second marriage I had to assume to be a different person and lie to myself to maintain my sex life and avoid the couch. However that became tiresome and frustrating to my wanting to be an honest man, and later in the relationship my honesty came out and low and behold, another notch in the handle of my gun of truthful answers, left me once again in divorce court. Since then I have acquired the skills of self defense in that area and will not go for strike three !. I find it a very lonely existence to be honest with everyone, but more important to be honest with myself that I cling to the saying.... What you see, is what you get !. For what ever time I have left, this is my way of life and have abandoned worrying whether or not I please anyone, for it is their choice not mine to except the truth I might give,or reject it and me as well. In the 1960's I was a proffesional drummer and on stage had to be who I wasn't for the crowds, but in doing so lost my own identity as to who I was because of living the lie. I find now that that the best filter to lasting relationships with the right people is the truth. I won't waste anymore time living a lie to please others, and thus being true to myself.
Allen, your comment resonated within me being on a parallel track although my epiphany came after many more years. Mine came after congestive heart failure and put me close to the end. I thought I'd been a pretty honest person, but was shocked to learn that was a lie. Other insights followed. I hope you're still faring well. After 3 or 4 hospitalizations last year, I'm doing surprisingly well, thankfully. This channel has contributed to my healing process with its phenomenal presentations and candid comments.
I wish James Lyndsay would emulate your format. Brilliant work. I have based more of my follow up research on your presentations than I can say. You never lie.
You can fake being gentle and then become gentle, or your can fake thinking you were not gentle and through hard work you became gentle, so now you have something to value within yourself. You overcame your self-made story. Congrats.
Dude! You are taking several thousand words to put forth a very simple concept. When I was very young my Mom told me to never lied to myself because we tend to believe it when we do. But, if a stranger lies to us we'll likely question it. She also stressed that lying to oneself is a forecast for disaster. The result is I've always been a realist and being a retired pilot it was good that I constantly faced reality. You know, not pretending "flame-out" was ten minutes later than it was.
For the people who work to make these videos possible, you sure are great. I go to these videos and seek philosophical enlightenment or at least, just be aware of certain philosophies. Watching your videos give me intense satisfaction as well as determination to fully open my eyes and free myself from the chains of social conditioning. Thanks again for posting videos. I am one of the many who appreciates it.
It's like cheating your Degrees but In the end you get a high paying job that only requires you to retain a little amount of the information you received .
I think he nailed it in the first minute. The question is why do we have a need to feel good about ourselves. The answer could be more intriguing than we think.
The more you know about your parent's likes and dislikes, their behaviors, the environment you grew up in. The better you will know yourself. The environment, watching tv, cartoons, movies, the books you read with antagonist, music, conversations...etc
No. Never *EVER* suffer for what you want unless you want to. Never do anything unless you want to. I never suffer for anything. If I have to feel pain for it then it doesn't deserve to be in my possession.
“Don't ever, for any reason, do anything for anyone, for any reason, ever, no matter what. No matter where. Or who, or who you are with, or where you are going or... or where you've been... ever. For any reason, whatsoever.”
Wow! is the reality of our existence really all that tragic and dark? I am beginning to think that too much self-exploration is too toxic to our existence, maybe being happy go lucky is the way to be in this weird world.
They say ignorance is bliss for a reason, however, there are dangers in this theory as well, for example, do you really want to be a blind and manipulated slave of the state? If a paycheck is an agreeable exchange for you, in order to overlook this fact of modern society, then yes, self exploration = bad. If you are naturally curious, and want more out of your life, then self exploration is one of the few ways to get there....
It all depends on what you want before you leave this existence forever. We can argue for eternity without clear cut proofs on what we should or shouldn’t do 😄. To each their own.
I am nothing, I believe nothing, and strive only to remove myself from the hinderance of the financial trap I’ve unknowingly succumb too, so that I can remove myself from the world to explore the inner world without the exponential distractions and constant stimuli of modern living.
Just got sober after 10 years of addiction, I lied and manipulated and had to change the way I was all the time so I didn’t look weak and get taken advantage. At 29 year old I am discovering who I really am for the first time in life
Sounds like everyone I know. Sounds like the human condition. Sounds like you and I. Really sounds like it all has been said and done before. Your point?
Self-deception and self-sabotage, these are our defense mechanisms to the *Chasm of Life!* _"You can ignore reality, but not the consequences of its avoidance."_ -Ayn Rand(?)
But if we make conscious decisions in our behavior to become the person we wish to become how can you say the self we develop is any more than a persona
It may not be, but a well-developed persona is necessary for psychological health. I think a lot of people discredit the persona, but as long as you realize that it's not the totality of who you are, it's a very important element of your personality.
That's the point! To develop your personality! Being born isn't an accomplishment, friend. You don't just come into the world a perfectly whole human being, not sure if you had noticed :P So we have to "work at" becoming who it is we yearn to be. This was ALWAYS a tough issue for me though growing up. Figuring out how to juxtapose who I wanted to be with who I was. Eventually I learned that "what I am" is exactly that "who I am", and nothing else. So if I'm a CEO of BK, or a fry cook at Red Lobster, I'm still ME, no matter what. The question I have to pose to myself though is "Who do I want ME to be?" We all have that choice, to a degree. There's parts of us that are simply lock & stock lol but that's OK cause there's still a world of "moving parts" we can adjust in our personality. Take for example, one of my ABSOLUTE favorite things in the world is to laugh. This is part of "who I am at the core". Why do I say that? Because I enjoy it, and I'm not willing to "give it up". So I "accept" it as an integral part of who I am. Now how I choose to incorporate that in my daily life is where all the choice comes in. I can choose to go the route of a comic, or I can just try to be a funny person in general, I can choose the kinda comedy I pursue, and when I tell what jokes. But the core, the real "meat" of who I am, someone that loves to laugh and get others to laugh, THIS doesn't change no matter which route I choose to take it. That's how I was able to combine the two ideas. Once I realized there was a "basic nature" to me, you take that and try to understand it's "potential". And that this potential has an infinite number of ways of manifesting itself. THATS what you decide on. HOW to manifest the parts of yourself that are integral to YOU. Cause as well all know, there's a good time to make a joke about rape.....and a terrible time lol and THAT is where the choice comes into play. But yea, there's parts of me that I didn't really...."choose" per say, like the love of comedy I have, it was just always there. So find out what you love, and figure out HOW to love it!!! ;) That's all. Take care.
You know, this is good content but the way you explain it is not that great, I feel like im reading a passage from a book, you could make it way easier
Long ago, a young family friend replaced a broken water main for a family member. Even tho this young man later worked for the local city water company, taking water samples and analyzing them, he never admitted that to save money he used irrigation piping. He never acknowledged nor corrected his mistake. This caused the usual blue-green algae which breeds neurotoxins which sickened the family member and others. For decades he has lied to himself and everyone else about his nearly-deadly cost-cutting. Now he does not respond to questions regarding these actions....and I'm pretty sure this is upon the advice of a lawyer. Needless to say, I had to dig this "stuff" up and repair it myself, with help from people who actually knew what they were doing. Karma catches up, indeed! Thank you for this video.
I always liked Aristotle's definition of virtue, to do something, (presumably positive) that you don't want to do until it becomes a habit or part of you.
The Buddha said the human mind has an infinite capacity to delude itself. He's not talking about lying to other people, he's talking about the lies we tell ourselves. The self deception, which I imagine most of the time we are completely unaware of
Simple solution, make it part of your personality to never lie for any reason. Over time you will naturally stop lying to others and eventually you will discover how you lied to yourself. Education and Silence is the key.
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I don't lie to myself least I don't see it that way? Surely I tell the truth to the best of my abilities but if it's secondhand information I speak upon take it with a grain of salt... Because not everything spoken is true....but if you know how to decipher it through your own experiences...Then you can remove the "junk" (lie,useless, misinformation etc) have a wonderful night
@Anthony Quirk Yes.
John Hurley That’s true. But I don’t even care anymore. Whenever someone can’t handle the truth ... it shows that they are not truthful to themselves. That should never stop you from speaking the truth though- don’t dim your light because it’s too bright for some people. Of course there is also a fine line between speaking the truth and being rude by telling everyone your opinion :)
Anthony Quirk I agree...as I am, too.
This is easily the best channel on TH-cam
jordan peteson is better
+spacium he's also great, but I prefer AOI. But it's hard to compare well edited 10 minute videos to a man standing in an auditorium giving lectures.
AOI is better than Jordan imo.
Jordan is OK but he's a bit hit-and-miss. AoI is always good. Always. The amount of great ideas packed into these 10 minute videos is amazing.
+JSavic I'm familiar with it, but allot of their content is shitty. They tend to focus on a small part of someone's philosophy, and ignore some of their much bigger and more prominent ideas. They also have a tendency to turn everything into relationships advice.
Self deception: Convincing myself that by watching hours of these videos on end will inspire me.
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The best that these videos can offer is like that of a good spiritual teacher or mentor. They point the way. They highlight what we need to focus on my mind on in order to recondition our thought patterns. Because it is that conditioning that leads us astray.
Watching with action will change you. Watching and no action will do you no good.
Bruh
100% what we are all doing.
Honesty and dropping judgement is a fast track to cleaning one's Spirit.
My biggest deceptions are :
1) I pretend to love my some selfish friends who disturb me regularly , yet I pretend that they are my friends .
2) sometimes I get false admiration and I think that's true compliments .
3) I pretend that i can not live without my friends , but I always live alone in their company .
And now I'm going to dismantle my all deceptions .
Candid Kafka how’s it going? same position as you
This channel is brilliant. Thank you for taking the time out to help us discontinue being self-defeating. Some of us *really* don't want to be "losers" and prefer not to settle for mediocrity. That doesn't necessarily mean we will achieve greatness, but I'd rather at least try my hardest and fail than to make no effort. I'm going down swinging.. or ascending to where I belong (once I have earned it)
this is why it's impossible to be completely honest with people when you know that they are probably stuck in self deceit. It can almost be cruel to pull them out of it because chances are they wont be able to handle their reality.
If someone is willingly acting upon selfdefeit and pussing their ill and twisted will on others, I wish they could see their true inner self all day and night, untill they have become a better person. It's makes a better world, so I would not see what is wrong with mirroring a lie back to it's source. For the peace of the almighty God and the blood of Jesus, amen!
@@jewishbride5010 Your illusory tales of the living, no sacrifice will truly help you, not from whatever odd pedestrian idioms taken to rationalize your fantasies.
you say krishna, you say mark, you say jesus, buddah, or whatever methaphor that is not to be seen like a absolute and put it into extreme abstractions to justify your own sick fanatical fantasies.
I am a self deprecating man ,I don't take myself too seriously ,but I can be serious when called upon!
Old comment but you shouldnt put print your own conscious on another. You can only help yourself by not lying. Agreeing with anothers lies is the same thing as lying to yourself. The truth will set you free.
@Karaa7595
The video isn't about being honest with other people, it's not about lying to others its about not deceiving yourself. And how do you know when you think you are just being honest with someone else, that you aren't just sharing your opinion with them. Your opinions of someone else could be wrong. We often deceive ourselves about our real motives for doing things. I think a lot of the time most of us aren't even aware that we are deceiving ourselves. And if we ask others they will most likely just give their opinions which may not be that accurate and they may well not understand us well enough. I guess we need to become much more self aware, and this isn't easy
Self-deception sounds very dark and bad when in reality it's just a mechanism of the brain to cope with a very complex world while having limited processing capability. We cannot live in constant doubt or state of conflict, we are just not efficient when we are in doubt, doubt is a transitional state. .Also we cannot focus on more than one thing at a time. With all this in mind you see how ignoring the part that brings the conflict is the most efficient solution and the brain knows this(quite remarkable). What Nietzsche is saying I think is that because of our inherent limitations, we will have to ignore some things over others but at least do it in a smart way by deciding yourself what to ignore, don't do it automatically.
That's what I do, mostly being too real with myself and yes it does ruins my life. The balance is important
@@TheLily97232 sigh. temme bout it.
Our brains operate phenomenologically. It's difficult to walk the tightrope between abstraction and delusion.
Wrong. This is an excuse. Making excuses is a thinking error. No amoumt of justification makes a negative a positive. Sorry but no. Im a blunt and straight forward person. Being this way keeps me from IG, FB Twitter and alcohol and drugs as a means to cope. Yet everyone around me is the complete opposite. Because they too justify the very things ruining them. Your comment doesn't deserve likes. However it proves people are weak minded and seek only to be justified in their wrong doing. Survival of the fittest. At what point is survival baded on lies and excuses? It isnt. Survival and true achievement are gained through an acceptance of reality. Not a running away from.
The concept you're hinting at is acception, not self deception. We can simply accept that there are things that we cannot understand or cannot control, which constitutes a healthy attitude towards life. The meaning here is to search for truths at all costs even if it disturps or causes discomfort. What you're implying is exactly the opposite.
I think my biggest flaws are:
Being lazy some times/ often
Being judgmental when it is not necessary
Being overly sensitive sometimes
Stubborn
What are your flaws? Don't deceive yourself!
I'm gay
Jen Anna I'm very judgemental.
Judgemental, arrogant, terrified of rejection, greedy, uncaring ...
Sometimes I'm not grateful. I focus more on what I want instead of what I have but I'm working on it.
My life is better every single day and I show my appreciation by squandering my potential and wanting to die. I fear pursuing my greatest creative endeavors because I think I know that they will bring me no real joy in life, even though logically I could assume that the joy would be in building my confidence and creating things.
A certain extent of self-deception is healthy and motivational, fake it untile you make it. But don't indulge yourself in false ego.
What ever “make it” means
It hung good comes from lying to yourself
Janjua __ .......what?? What are you even saying?? You figure that out first, Jumangi. Then come talk
Love the Nietzsche quote! How seeming becomes being.
Another quote I like is "Believing is seeing".
You seem to be an automan
The modern version is "Fake it till you make it."
This is the first time I'm commenting on a video from AoI even though I've watched all of his videos on philosophy and have been a subscriber for months.
This video shattered everything that I was, in a good way. Totally woke me up from my delusions and dropped me further into the pit of nihilism. I keep deceiving myself that I'm some genius but really I'm just smarter than average, far from a genius. Yet, it's this yearning for greatness that I strive to become and so I lie to myself hoping that one day those lies become reality.
The last quote really hit home "...and so loses all respect for himself and for others."
Excellent!
On to the next phase.
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Got a clue where to start?
Yeah, that last part resonated with me as well. Especially because I've been trying to be more mindful of the times I feel that way.
I don't know you so I'm not saying you'll never be a genius. But there is something that you can do that is exceptional. For every person with average or above average capabilities, if they work their ass off in the pursuit of some great goal, they will become great. Perhaps not a genius, but great. And that greatness will justify your life for you.
If you realise most people are like you then how will you respect others when you can’t come to terms with your own deficiencies
This is why in part near death experiences are so transformative.
Yeah, it messed me up, i was doing soo good. Thne i gave up
Beautifully inspiring.
Where would i be without the wonderful works of Academy of Ideas and my man Dr. Jordan Peterson? In the words of the doctor, "god only knows?"
Yes, it is a good channel! This one made me feel so proud of me. I have worked hard all my life to be a decent person and I've learned to live me and be truthful with me. Lies get you nowhere and puts you out of balance! If I didn't like parts, I changed them, its work, but you do have to live with you, best get to know you. It takes a lifetime, I'm 65!
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Academy of Ideas thank you very much for expanding my knowledge. Your content is amazing thank you again
Vatsla Singh will he tell his name?
Gaurav Thapa Nothing's in a name, but I really hope he tells.
Can you provide sources to the artwork? I love them all
I've been going through an emotional journey as of late, and this video has really hits the nail on the head for me. I've known for a long time how deep my denial can go, and it's only until I've found this video that I can understand it more objectively. Change may be difficult, but it will come if you actively seek it.
This channel has been very helpful, inspiring, and enlightening, and I'm so very glad to have been recommended it!
I remember doing a 10 page essay, for school, on the quote you chose, from "The Brothers Karamazov", at the end of the video. I think that is my favorite book and it's a collection of teachings that are really valuable and that are, universally, true and healthy. Really love your channel, man! Keep up the incredible work!
Such amazing choice of art work, exemplifies the philosophy behind.
You have chosen the most perfect images to accompany your deeply insightful lectures. Bravo!
My problem is the other way round, often times ignoring the flaws of others as “not a big deal” but expecting nothing short of perfection from myself.
Yes me too
Thanks for sharing
Another helpful view from Eckhart Tolle and others is that since the mind/ego is not our true "selves," its faults don't mean our very being is flawed. That's like saying having kidney problems means your whole existence is flawed. The mind/ego is the brain, just another organ serving the body, same thing. Knowing that "we" are not our flaws and that we are not fundamentally a blight on the universe is a step toward unconditional self-love. I recommend Eckhart's work for going into this.
(Not to say that flaws shouldn't be addressed, but without unconditional self-love, it's harder to address them compassionately and forgivingly).
TV-8-301 I’ve never read him. What book would you recommend I begin with?
@@francineemma2051 The Power of Now for sure, that book really helped changed my perspective of things and help me understand my psyche and ego better.
Being 70, lifelong learning, understanding, observation, experience, re-examination 24/7 365.
An artist, scientist, economist, ecologist, anthropologist, psychologist, physiologist etc is the way.
Love always
The lies i tell to myself are:
Acting like i have magically transformed my character in which all forms of depression are longer existent
Thinking i have overcome toxic behaviours towards women
Thinking i am really attractive when in fact i have never had a girlfriend
Thinking that the likely personality disorder i have can be overcome by supreme moral effort
Edit: Thinking i wrote this without any deeper intention behind when in fact i just wanted to show off how honest i am with myself which also applies to this edit
I admire all the videos. The quotations are the product of devotion, concentration and thorough research and deeper understanding of the topic.
We are hijacked as soon as we are born Leaving little time to discover our authentic self.
Spot on Hailey
Can we discover our authentic self to begin with ?
I dont know the rest, but I began this journey for my authentic self when I was 16. Now I am 20 and I think I am doing well, I became more unique among others.
@@TheLily97232 yes. The one that is fearful, angry, jealous, envious, and judgmental about other people. The one that wants to be pretty, handsome or gorgeous whenever you look in the mirror. The one who is afraid for its survival and want to accumulate more and more in order feel secure. Find that out for yourself because that is not who you truly are.
There is no authentic self, other than that self that we want to be. The challenges of life that seem to hijack us, are merely events that provide us with insight into our internal disposition, wants and aversions. These hijacking events are necessary for us to discover what really makes us "tick" inside (aka, our authentic self).This is why most people don't discover who they really are(authentic self) until they have been pummeled by the vagaries of life and consequently only then realize who and what they are. and what it takes to truly find contentment. The wise ones, stop trying to be something that goes against their authentic self, and instead embrace their authentic qualities and build their life around it.
Watching educational videos makes me feel calm and blissful. A good escape from everyday worldliness.
I'm so glad I'm learning all this at the age of 22.
Academy of Ideas pieces always hit home! They are top notch productions for sure.
We ourselves are the favorite target of our deceptions and we are rarely aware of it. Mindfulness matters.
I find it really interesting that the discussion of unmasking the false self is being held right now. I don't know if it's just my perception of things, but I have the impression that a lot of us are going through this right now. It is so hard to breathe sometimes, it feels like my heart is breaking, and the weight of every choice or lack of is unbearable. However, as I keep moving forward I see the shadows fade away.
For anyone going through this: do not lose faith. Keep honest with yourself and others, even if it hurts, and as stated in the lecture, only move towards that which you will also become. Do not run away from yourself, nor stagnate on your mistakes and fears.
5 years down the line and this perfectly encapsulates how I feel. Thank you for this message, and how are things for you today?
@@wildawwg3468 that particular stage of the story is over. Thank God things continue progressing. Very relevant books for me regarding that struggle: the book of Psalms, and also, The Path of the Just by the Ramchal. Maybe they will help someone else here. Be well.
Throughout my life. My possessions were of necessity. There no connection with what others may think of me. When I look back I can see that I dressed well, and had what allowed me to survive. This way was not to impress anyone. But, to see myself and be satisfied with what I see. Not what others might see.
Therefore, I was always at peace with how I lived my life.
Continuing in my addiction to your fantastic videos, this one I can relate to 100% ! At the age of 68 and in remission for throat cancer, there is so much to look back on and keep the mirror of my appearance to others clean as well as to myself, so that I can be as honest and forthcoming as possible with tactfulness to avoid being judge mental towards others while in violation of that very thing myself. That being said however, total honesty can be very dangerous in the day by day interactions with others. Case in point.....your wife asks, honey does this dress make me look fat ? Hahaha......this has been the age old trap many of us men fall into and to hold onto our relationship we have the choice to lie to our partner and too ourselves or face the dreaded couch for many a night ! As with my first wife in telling the truth to her on several occasions I found myself in divorce court by her hand. The truth is... No the dress doesn't make you look fat, because you are fat and you picked the wrong size for your abundant flesh ! Hahahaha......in my second marriage I had to assume to be a different person and lie to myself to maintain my sex life and avoid the couch. However that became tiresome and frustrating to my wanting to be an honest man, and later in the relationship my honesty came out and low and behold, another notch in the handle of my gun of truthful answers, left me once again in divorce court. Since then I have acquired the skills of self defense in that area and will not go for strike three !. I find it a very lonely existence to be honest with everyone, but more important to be honest with myself that I cling to the saying.... What you see, is what you get !. For what ever time I have left, this is my way of life and have abandoned worrying whether or not I please anyone, for it is their choice not mine to except the truth I might give,or reject it and me as well. In the 1960's I was a proffesional drummer and on stage had to be who I wasn't for the crowds, but in doing so lost my own identity as to who I was because of living the lie. I find now that that the best filter to lasting relationships with the right people is the truth. I won't waste anymore time living a lie to please others, and thus being true to myself.
Allen, your comment resonated within me being on a parallel track although my epiphany came after many more years. Mine came after congestive heart failure and put me close to the end. I thought I'd been a pretty honest person, but was shocked to learn that was a lie. Other insights followed. I hope you're still faring well. After 3 or 4 hospitalizations last year, I'm doing surprisingly well, thankfully. This channel has contributed to my healing process with its phenomenal presentations and candid comments.
This channel saved me . I have joined a new job . 1st time happy in 3 years not just because of job but mindset.
A video of quality, in content and graphics.
"Speech was given to man to disguise his thoughts." - Talleyrand
I wish James Lyndsay would emulate your format. Brilliant work. I have based more of my follow up research on your presentations than I can say. You never lie.
Outstanding lectures informative, interesting and well researched.
Every living narcissist human should watch this video. One of the best channels of TH-cam,
EVER.
This is a great TH-cam channel.
You can fake being gentle and then become gentle, or your can fake thinking you were not gentle and through hard work you became gentle, so now you have something to value within yourself. You overcame your self-made story. Congrats.
To summarize one should get real with themselves then fake it till they make it
Thierno Deme look up A call for an uprising.
Thierno Deme no, be both
Thierno Deme the self isn't real though. To "get real" would be to get rid of "you".
And that culture is not your friend.
Stunami Actually culture is your friend, in fact it's whatever we do. There is no such thing as being a human without culture.
Dude! You are taking several thousand words to put forth a very simple concept. When I was very young my Mom told me to never lied to myself because we tend to believe it when we do. But, if a stranger lies to us we'll likely question it. She also stressed that lying to oneself is a forecast for disaster. The result is I've always been a realist and being a retired pilot it was good that I constantly faced reality. You know, not pretending "flame-out" was ten minutes later than it was.
You are so extreme pure on point, many respect! -peace
For the people who work to make these videos possible, you sure are great. I go to these videos and seek philosophical enlightenment or at least, just be aware of certain philosophies. Watching your videos give me intense satisfaction as well as determination to fully open my eyes and free myself from the chains of social conditioning.
Thanks again for posting videos. I am one of the many who appreciates it.
My biggest self-deception was believing that there was an inherently-real self being deceived
Berno Inferno that’s deep
Didn't expect to see someone understand this
Wow
This is great to see how much your channel has grown from its first days!
Many people saying 'faking till you make it' approach is bad. Watch 8:40 ! It is FAKE till you MAKE it. Not just Fake it! :)
It's like cheating your Degrees but In the end you get a high paying job that only requires you to retain a little amount of the information you received .
I think he nailed it in the first minute. The question is why do we have a need to feel good about ourselves.
The answer could be more intriguing than we think.
The first thing you must do is not fool yourself. For you are the easiest person to fool.
Yes even when you wrote that you were fooling yourself
The more you know about your parent's likes and dislikes, their behaviors, the environment you grew up in. The better you will know yourself.
The environment, watching tv, cartoons, movies, the books you read with antagonist, music, conversations...etc
The future's so bright, I gotta wear shades....
So much amazing art!
Martial arts. Military training. Mathematics. Suffer for your art whatever it may be.
As long as it starts off with an 'M' !
McDonalds food then :)
No. Never *EVER* suffer for what you want unless you want to. Never do anything unless you want to. I never suffer for anything. If I have to feel pain for it then it doesn't deserve to be in my possession.
zuminaguzuki Why do you avoid pain?
Sculpt yourself free from the rock
Another brilliant video, brilliant art etc. An absolute joy this channel. Good work.
Mind, one can also dwell in self-deception by continually wondering whether one is deceiving oneself.
“Don't ever, for any reason, do anything for anyone, for any reason, ever, no matter what. No matter where. Or who, or who you are with, or where you are going or... or where you've been... ever. For any reason, whatsoever.”
I want you to know that made me laugh. I got it.
When i took acid, i had a complete realization of all the things i wAs lying to myself about and not fixing. Then i got depressed asf for a while
Tnx ... definitely a life changing message ... plus good job on the audible and visual presentation. this channel is worth a monetary support.
Wow! is the reality of our existence really all that tragic and dark? I am beginning to think that too much self-exploration is too toxic to our existence, maybe being happy go lucky is the way to be in this weird world.
They say ignorance is bliss for a reason, however, there are dangers in this theory as well, for example, do you really want to be a blind and manipulated slave of the state? If a paycheck is an agreeable exchange for you, in order to overlook this fact of modern society, then yes, self exploration = bad. If you are naturally curious, and want more out of your life, then self exploration is one of the few ways to get there....
Ignorance is bliss.
They say a puppet is happy as long as he loves his strings.
@@jJust_NO_ This is such a great comment
It all depends on what you want before you leave this existence forever. We can argue for eternity without clear cut proofs on what we should or shouldn’t do 😄. To each their own.
2:30 the scene in shrek where they cross the rickety bridge makes so much more sense now.
bottle of tough to swallow pills just laying around on youtube.
Besquared Films ...to be ‘woke’ is to slumber in the most noble of lies!
@@suzimonkey345 there's woke and then there's awake . Woke sleep and dream, The awake realize the difference between dreams and reality and live life.
Woke is an attack against the Awakened, it could be a political attack, a psychological attack , or maybe a spiritual attack
Thank you for this video, I'm trying to be less deceitful and this was helpful, that last quote from Dostoyevsky hit me well
What is a flaw? What is a weakness? Who is to answer?
Rita Ibarra Maybe what prevent you from being who you want to be, like laziness
Why is gamora
I like that. That shit rhyme
Read your Bible.
this is the best channel on youtube, keep up the good work
7:07 Dang, that's me, lost in possibility
I am nothing, I believe nothing, and strive only to remove myself from the hinderance of the financial trap I’ve unknowingly succumb too, so that I can remove myself from the world to explore the inner world without the exponential distractions and constant stimuli of modern living.
"What is a human, but a miserable pile of secrets?"
Just got sober after 10 years of addiction, I lied and manipulated and had to change the way I was all the time so I didn’t look weak and get taken advantage. At 29 year old I am discovering who I really am for the first time in life
Perfection is perfectly impossible
Thanks! Been looking for a way to express this concisely.
Perfection is imperfection ..
I know for a FACT, I Don't Need someone else's words to SAVE Myself! Many do Not have books! Yet they can still save themselves!
Sounds like everyone I know. Sounds like the human condition. Sounds like you and I.
Really sounds like it all has been said and done before.
Your point?
I'm liking the videos before watching them everytime from now on. Simply exquisite as every other video.
Self-deception and self-sabotage, these are our defense mechanisms to the *Chasm of Life!* _"You can ignore reality, but not the consequences of its avoidance."_ -Ayn Rand(?)
This is beautiful and enlightening, perfect timing for youtube to reccomend this video to me also.
But if we make conscious decisions in our behavior to become the person we wish to become how can you say the self we develop is any more than a persona
That's what I thought too. AOI ought to make a lecture about that
with time and dicipline
It may not be, but a well-developed persona is necessary for psychological health. I think a lot of people discredit the persona, but as long as you realize that it's not the totality of who you are, it's a very important element of your personality.
+towardsthesun good point
That's the point! To develop your personality! Being born isn't an accomplishment, friend. You don't just come into the world a perfectly whole human being, not sure if you had noticed :P
So we have to "work at" becoming who it is we yearn to be. This was ALWAYS a tough issue for me though growing up. Figuring out how to juxtapose who I wanted to be with who I was. Eventually I learned that "what I am" is exactly that "who I am", and nothing else. So if I'm a CEO of BK, or a fry cook at Red Lobster, I'm still ME, no matter what.
The question I have to pose to myself though is "Who do I want ME to be?" We all have that choice, to a degree. There's parts of us that are simply lock & stock lol but that's OK cause there's still a world of "moving parts" we can adjust in our personality.
Take for example, one of my ABSOLUTE favorite things in the world is to laugh. This is part of "who I am at the core". Why do I say that? Because I enjoy it, and I'm not willing to "give it up". So I "accept" it as an integral part of who I am. Now how I choose to incorporate that in my daily life is where all the choice comes in. I can choose to go the route of a comic, or I can just try to be a funny person in general, I can choose the kinda comedy I pursue, and when I tell what jokes.
But the core, the real "meat" of who I am, someone that loves to laugh and get others to laugh, THIS doesn't change no matter which route I choose to take it.
That's how I was able to combine the two ideas. Once I realized there was a "basic nature" to me, you take that and try to understand it's "potential". And that this potential has an infinite number of ways of manifesting itself. THATS what you decide on. HOW to manifest the parts of yourself that are integral to YOU.
Cause as well all know, there's a good time to make a joke about rape.....and a terrible time lol and THAT is where the choice comes into play. But yea, there's parts of me that I didn't really...."choose" per say, like the love of comedy I have, it was just always there.
So find out what you love, and figure out HOW to love it!!! ;) That's all. Take care.
I captured myself in denial once upon a time, then I analyzed myself for like a year. Now I don’t deceive myself
Fuck! This chanel digs DEEP! Its nearly unbearable to watch and explore myself through the ideas of the greatest men in history.
Reminds me of ‘Fake it to Make it’
When we first step out of old patterns.
ah I almost removed my like trying to like a second time
I like that!
Walter Strong i like that you like that
i like that you guys like that
Amazing job as usual. Great choice of quotes and art to complement. Gave me a lot to think about!
this process also opens the door to insanity
One of my favorite channels. Great images, great writing
am i the only one who calls this channel jordan petersons study guide?
Totally. Its a greater reviewer when sorting the Self.
I always come here before raiding the dragon nest.
Yep. I too had suspicion this was a great student of the great Peterson
You are too good. Thanks for putting this series up. Otherwise it’s very hard to pursue this knowledge with my profession.
Notification squaaa first
Your videos are getting better and better! Love this channel!
You know, this is good content but the way you explain it is not that great, I feel like im reading a passage from a book, you could make it way easier
Know thyself. This is exactly why shadow work is so very important. 🔥🔥🔥
*dab*
Deadass underated channel man, ur videos are soooooo goood omg, i would love if u did a video on resurection from complete despair .
Keep it up!
Remember whenever you encounter issues , “ problems are complicated solutions are simple”
Where you believe or not, you are truly doing God's work brother.
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Thank you for this beautiful video. I am in the process of reviewing myself and the ideas put together help.
This dude deserves WAY more subs...its a sad state we live in that he doesn't have more
Thats a great reason why people like us have a sense of respect towrds people like us.
The art work alone is amazing.
Maria Antonelle rightly said “ it is in the ability to deceive ourselves that our best talents are shown”
Long ago, a young family friend replaced a broken water main for a family member. Even tho this young man later worked for the local city water company, taking water samples and analyzing them, he never admitted that to save money he used irrigation piping. He never acknowledged nor corrected his mistake. This caused the usual blue-green algae which breeds neurotoxins which sickened the family member and others. For decades he has lied to himself and everyone else about his nearly-deadly cost-cutting. Now he does not respond to questions regarding these actions....and I'm pretty sure this is upon the advice of a lawyer. Needless to say, I had to dig this "stuff" up and repair it myself, with help from people who actually knew what they were doing.
Karma catches up, indeed! Thank you for this video.
I can only express : “ wow , this contribution of truth “ a big slap to awakening .... , so cool 🤲👍🙏
this channel is very informative and thought-provoking
I always liked Aristotle's definition of virtue, to do something, (presumably positive) that you don't want to do until it becomes a habit or part of you.