We could not be a more loving, stable, and hard working family. We have spent years on medication and therapy on our son, and in family counseling. Our beloved son is still so broken, broken beyond any kind of normal life we can imagine. At age 66, I can see no end to my husband and I supporting him forever. I see no end to his unhinged rantings and behavior. We feel there is nowhere else to turn.
This is a very very difficult situation to be in and I feel for you. I strongly recommend you read 'scattered minds' by Gabor Mate. It's focus is on adhd but it is deeply relevant mkre generally to the role that families can have in the mental health of their children.
Keep in mind that all conventional mental health care is designed to only sort-of suppress symptoms, not cure anyone. When my loved one was "incurably mentally ill" with so-called "bipolar with psychosis," I asked a dozen psychiatrists what was causing the illness. Not one of them had a clue. Why not? Because they're not taught to look for any physical causes. They're only taught to match up symptoms to patented psych drugs to suppress symptoms until the victim, er, patient, dies. Fortunately, I did my own research and found the "orthomolecular" approach. I have 3 YT videos on it at "Linda Van Zandt's Mental Health Recovery Channel." I also wrote a book about what my family went through and how others can use BIOchemical repair (orthomolecular approach) to restore one's mental health. It enabled me to gradually, over 4 months, reduce and finally stop, all 3 different, daily antipsychotic drugs. Title of the book: "The Secrets to Real Mental Health." Years later someone told me of another approach, homeopathy, which cured my loved one at a very deep level. So I wrote another book about what my family went through and how to use homeopathy: "Goodbye, Quacks - Hello, Homeopathy!" MY loved one is doing well. All Americans deserve to know that conventional mental health care exists for the profit, not to cure anyone.
This is some great info!!! As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I can attest to the importance of treating the whole system (family) when working with children and adolescents! I especially love the idea of teaching non-reactivity. Dr. Sunseri’s family- oriented approach with the focus on connectivity is the gold standard for child and adolescent well-being. I have seen in my own practice an increase in positive outcomes in therapy for adolescents when the parents and family are integrated into treatment. Thank you for shedding a light on these principles for parents and clinicians alike!
Thank you so much mam for your comments. I am writing a report on this topic with the help of this video. Your comment has helped me write public opinion on this topic . Thank you again
This really makes total sense. When a family as a whole functions better, the child's attitude and behaviors are better, but it does start with the parents making those family behavior changes. Paul has helped our family with putting the "Components of a Well-Functioning Family" in place. It takes practice but we've seen the benefits. Thank you, Paul, for sharing your research and for putting this out to help struggling families. Everyone would benefit from hearing this information...
After 30 years as a psychologist working with children and teens, I wholeheartedly agree that families can be the most powerful medicine. If the adults in the family aren't able or willing to commit to resetting repeatedly to non-reactivity, encouragement, and compassion it is much less likely that the child or teen will heal.
change is hard but very much worth it, and no one wins on a fight, everyone gets hurt and often the fight is worse than the problem that triggered it. as parents we want to help our children and a loving environment always helps
Love this! From a public health perspective, environmental factors (aka the family) are always going to influence how we approach mental health issues. Social support is one of the best coping mechanisms for battling mental illness especially. Family therapy comes from a holistic perspective that treats more than just individual factors. This treatment approach has so much potential to change family dynamics as we know it!
When one parent is connected and the other disconnected over a 26 year span and the child is now 25 years old suffering from multiple mental illnesses and the one parent has washed their hands cleaned and all of both families have washed their hands clean More importantly when the attorneys, hospitals/crisis centers, cops, courts, government won’t step in unless a crime is committed Plus you add economy, inflation and no job/insurance and no one wants to speak to you like you have a disease Hence the full jails and horrendous homeless issue No one cares and no one’s coming It’s a living unbearable nightmare to endure and not looking forward to each day Signed, 2023
We could not be a more loving, stable, and hard working family. We have spent years on medication and therapy on our son, and in family counseling. Our beloved son is still so broken, broken beyond any kind of normal life we can imagine. At age 66, I can see no end to my husband and I supporting him forever. I see no end to his unhinged rantings and behavior. We feel there is nowhere else to turn.
This is a very very difficult situation to be in and I feel for you. I strongly recommend you read 'scattered minds' by Gabor Mate. It's focus is on adhd but it is deeply relevant mkre generally to the role that families can have in the mental health of their children.
Keep in mind that all conventional mental health care is designed to only sort-of suppress symptoms, not cure anyone. When my loved one was "incurably mentally ill" with so-called "bipolar with psychosis," I asked a dozen psychiatrists what was causing the illness. Not one of them had a clue. Why not? Because they're not taught to look for any physical causes. They're only taught to match up symptoms to patented psych drugs to suppress symptoms until the victim, er, patient, dies. Fortunately, I did my own research and found the "orthomolecular" approach. I have 3 YT videos on it at "Linda Van Zandt's Mental Health Recovery Channel." I also wrote a book about what my family went through and how others can use BIOchemical repair (orthomolecular approach) to restore one's mental health. It enabled me to gradually, over 4 months, reduce and finally stop, all 3 different, daily antipsychotic drugs. Title of the book: "The Secrets to Real Mental Health." Years later someone told me of another approach, homeopathy, which cured my loved one at a very deep level. So I wrote another book about what my family went through and how to use homeopathy: "Goodbye, Quacks - Hello, Homeopathy!" MY loved one is doing well. All Americans deserve to know that conventional mental health care exists for the profit, not to cure anyone.
This is some great info!!! As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I can attest to the importance of treating the whole system (family) when working with children and adolescents! I especially love the idea of teaching non-reactivity. Dr. Sunseri’s family- oriented approach with the focus on connectivity is the gold standard for child and adolescent well-being. I have seen in my own practice an increase in positive outcomes in therapy for adolescents when the parents and family are integrated into treatment. Thank you for shedding a light on these principles for parents and clinicians alike!
Thank you so much mam for your comments. I am writing a report on this topic with the help of this video. Your comment has helped me write public opinion on this topic . Thank you again
This really makes total sense. When a family as a whole functions better, the child's attitude and behaviors are better, but it does start with the parents making those family behavior changes. Paul has helped our family with putting the "Components of a Well-Functioning Family" in place. It takes practice but we've seen the benefits. Thank you, Paul, for sharing your research and for putting this out to help struggling families. Everyone would benefit from hearing this information...
This is a beautifully hearted treatise on connection.I love how Dr. Sunseri 'connects' the dots and brings it all squarely home to the family.
After 30 years as a psychologist working with children and teens, I wholeheartedly agree that families can be the most powerful medicine. If the adults in the family aren't able or willing to commit to resetting repeatedly to non-reactivity, encouragement, and compassion it is much less likely that the child or teen will heal.
change is hard but very much worth it, and no one wins on a fight, everyone gets hurt and often the fight is worse than the problem that triggered it. as parents we want to help our children and a loving environment always helps
Love this! From a public health perspective, environmental factors (aka the family) are always going to influence how we approach mental health issues. Social support is one of the best coping mechanisms for battling mental illness especially. Family therapy comes from a holistic perspective that treats more than just individual factors. This treatment approach has so much potential to change family dynamics as we know it!
Great video and great insights provided!!❤❤
Excellent talk. Useful points. As a mental health professional I intend to share this information with others.
Thank you
Very simplistic approach.When there has been intergenerational dysfunction there is no quick fix.
True, no there no quick fixes but there definitely fixes. Or at least clinical interventions that can make things far better.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge!
This is a very good post. I will save it.
What an awesome helpfulll video !!!
THANK YOUU
When one parent is connected and the other disconnected over a 26 year span and the child is now 25 years old suffering from multiple mental illnesses and the one parent has washed their hands cleaned and all of both families have washed their hands clean
More importantly when the attorneys, hospitals/crisis centers, cops, courts, government won’t step in unless a crime is committed
Plus you add economy, inflation and no job/insurance and no one wants to speak to you like you have a disease
Hence the full jails and horrendous homeless issue
No one cares and no one’s coming
It’s a living unbearable nightmare to endure and not looking forward to each day
Signed,
2023
Yeah let’s not Kidd ourselves psychiatric care is very very expensive. And if you’re low income your choices and options will be more limited.
I agree but government usually overides family and friends
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Courts ordering both parents to work does not in my opinion help.
It’s the family’s fault the child has issues. So how can the parents actually help when they are the problem in the first place?