I told my 23 year old son, don’t bring anyone else to my house until he decides he wants her as a wife. I’m tired of these girls. 😂😂 he needs to commit before I invest.
My red flag is that you have not called or texted me all day but wait until after 8pm, that means I am a after thought, especially if I called you at lunch
It’s so refreshing seeing ppl with more traditional views on dating! Setting boundaries, no games, this is all I want! I should stay with my elementary boyfriend too because I hate how toxicity, situationships, & blurred lines have been normalized by society. 😩
Guy told me he's getting to know me by phone the last few months. Ok but you've never asked me for a date. You are inviting yourself to my house for the cookie. Wanted to see if we were compatible. Boy bye!!! Exit stage left and right. 😂😂
Yep. Im going through this now with someone I met two months ago. Started off strong, now he’s changed. Obviously seeing someone else who is local to him. I’m not.
@@kendramlittlejohnI hope you’re doing OK 💕. And I hope you’re expanding your horizons, no need to lock things down with someone after a short time and they’re already display inconsistencies. You deserve more. Just Speaking from experience, wishing you the best
He's right about being cordial with exes. I dated someone who told his ex to f off, and I asked him to apologize. He wouldn't. It was one more thing that pushed me away.
I think it depends on the text. If it’s thinking of you, hope your day is going well, that’s fine. But memes all day or texts that require a response is annoying
Wanting to get physical without knowing you at all. Expecting you to be physical without knowing them. *Actions not matching words.* Not-committal “agreeing.” Watch out if you start doing all the talking and planning, and they’re just kinda “ok…” and not agreeing or giving a committed yes.
Lost my husband 3 years ago and am just now open to the idea of joining the dating world. What I see and hear about it doesn’t make me too hopeful, but not trying is not an option. My husband broke every mold and raised every bar and he’s probably smiling down on me, maybe even laughing and poking out his chest saying yup that’s me. He always had jokes. So I’m going back out into this world like I used when I was single before him, to enjoy meeting good men and letting them decide what role, if any, they want to be in my life….and I simply and quietly decide if that’s ok or enough for me. I keep things as simple as possible…do you add value to my life or do you need to go. No drama. No second guessing. No diminishing me to make you feel better about you. As my husband always said, “don’t let anyone steal your joy”.
Yes, this dating world isn't the easiest...but it is what it is. Been single for a good time now. I'm in NYC, so most ppl here aren't fully single. And the ones that are, most out here either playing games or not ready for something & someone real....so yeah, it is what it is. But it's definitely doable. Just gotta keep on keeping on I guess. Lol Wish you the best. 💜❤️💜
@@MsVee58 I’m sending you all the good vibes and blessings! I’m sorry for your loss. And with all I’ve been through, the hard stuff can’t be for nothing. So here’s to more joy in both our lives. lol but I really might stay home just a bit longer. These streets are rough!
@@mcf5878 What you mean by stay home? The dating pool & scene will be different depending on where you're at. So NYC may be easier to find a decent man...but you just gotta be good at vetting...so you wein off those 9 players that holla at you when you see those signs...and maybe get to know that 1 out of 10 man...if you're attracted to him. In places like ATL/Houston, the dynamics may be completely the opposite. So like I said, it's just different depending on where you reside. I always feel like my soulmate might be somewhere down south anyway. Idk 🤔
Some red flags for me when it comes to dating is if we just started talking and we’re texting or calling as a way to get to know each other, and the person who I’m talking to decides to text me on and off, but not consistently( I lose interest fast if we’re not in consistent communication), when a person who you just met talks about how they love you and see a future with you, clinginess, wanting to marry after a short while of being together, if they want to have s*x on the first date, etc.
Chance was spot on about people’s parents (I think the word he was looking for is “Passive”). Let me meet them early! Especially if they have a close relationship. How the parents are often mirrors how your date is behind the facade.
That’s a whole lie because there are some toxic parents that do not have toxic children…so looking at the parent to see something in who you are dating would be a wrong move.
Tab & Chance really enjoyed this show, I was grinning ear to ear. I've been married long time like u guys, but I so agree with you guys about when you should introduce others to families..My kids used to intoduce right away, they break up I still had the relationships of course I had to cut it off...I finally said I don't want to meet anyone unless y'all getting ready to be married..Great show!.😂😂😂😂
Possible topics: What to do with crazy family members? How to balance work/home? How to make friends as a married person? Wills, trusts, and investment - how to bring up estate planning with family? What candy was the worst? What stores/restaurants you wish could come back?
Dating is different these days for sure so many things and the chasing part that Tab said all I can do is shake my head because I have found more men these days want you to chase after them. I understand showing your interest but it has to be mutual ..
I love me some Fridays with Tab and Chance! Tab l saw your Donna’s Recipe in Target today and purchased the extra creamy hair & scalp oil. My hair is relaxed so hopefully it will do wonders for my hair. Great topic being aware of those 🚩
Tab, stop yawning when Chance is talking 😂! He makes totally valid points. You may have heard them before, but dang let the man speak his mind 😂. On a serious note, I really appreciate both of you. One love!❤
If they’re trying to keep you a secret. If we’re committed, it better be on your socials. If you’re posting your friends and never your partner, red flag
I had to chime in on the posting on social media part. My spouse specifically requested not to be posted when he joined law enforcement for my and my daughter's safety.
I’m so glad that I am married because everyone who is single says it is horrible trying to date in 2024 ages 40 to 50 years old. They want you to be their side chick.
Social media is it! that really does tell a story even if they never post or rarely post but they are constantly on their social media account. They are not private they are unsure of you or just playing games!
Not necessarily! It all depends on the circumstances. I was like that at first, and he was too. It was only because we both had kids and I won't going to let just anyone meet my children or my parents. Sometimes a year is not enough people can change after 2 years .Needless to say we've been together 19 years. It's not always a red flag just caution.
It's not cute for you to check on me every hour when I have told you I'm at work. Don't call me for at least another 8 hours, or I'll call you if I have something to say.
They may not be able to help you there per se only give their opinion like I'm about to. First thing you can't make an addict decide anything they have to make that choice for themselves. However you can let them know that you love them but you can no longer stay and watch them destroy themselves and just give them a choice you try for their own sake as well as the relationship or this is it for you
On a dinner date right after you both left your places of employment in office settings. It is a second date. Your date does not drink any alcoholic beverages during dinner, most likely because he has learned through phone conversations that you don't drink. When you are finished eating dinner and are standing near each other, you smell alcohol coming from his pores. Red flag!
During the early stages of getting to know each other through phone conversations, he has repeatedly spoken negatively about his mother and also about his Ex. Red flag! Yes he may have valid reasons/experiences to feel as he does, but that is still a red flag. A man with deep-rooted mommy issues, is a man likely to have issues with women. Red flag!
You're right, Mr. Chance....all day long texting is unacceptable . That happened to my sister....it never stopped. She married him and it continued. Now she passed away by his hand...it's a definite red flag. We kept trying to tell her but she wouldn't listen.
PLEASE CONSIDER THIS!!! Hi y’all! This goes back to what Auntie Tab said…I was raised in the “yes ma’am no ma’am, yes sir no sir” mindset. My daughter is 7 and I’m struggling to find the right approach in today’s society with respect to pronouns. I want my children to be respectful, but some people take offense to addressing the gender. Are we still teaching children to address other’s as ma’am or sir????
It would be me and Jesus 😂if my husband passed away because I don’t have time to play games with men period. Most of the are not ready for relationship 🙄🤷🏾♀️
Chance nailed it with his definition of "friends" vs "friendly." Great episode Tab and Chance!
Periodt!
Yes he did.
That’s it! Wisdom!
The dating pool is tainted with social media etc. It's horrible
Unrealistic expectations
💯
The world is tainted
No one wants to be friends first which is a red flag 🚩
I told my 23 year old son, don’t bring anyone else to my house until he decides he wants her as a wife. I’m tired of these girls. 😂😂 he needs to commit before I invest.
My red flag is that you have not called or texted me all day but wait until after 8pm, that means I am a after thought, especially if I called you at lunch
I'm DEALIN'& It's NOT the 1st
Yesssss I have that
Facts!
@@Rellstv50 Keep it moving then sis
@@jayc5756 exactly bro you’re right
It’s a red flag 🚩 when someone wants to text you all day 😂. They should be working
Hello!
RED FLAG
WHEN HE DOESN'T CALL YOU UNTIL HE WANTS SOME GOOD AND PLENTY!
Absolutely!
It’s so refreshing seeing ppl with more traditional views on dating! Setting boundaries, no games, this is all I want! I should stay with my elementary boyfriend too because I hate how toxicity, situationships, & blurred lines have been normalized by society. 😩
Friends with ex is definitely a red flag 🚩
I'm older, so I don't subscribe to posting my relationship on social media. Some of the other red flags you mentioned are spot on, though.
I appreciated how they said if you're the type to be posting with your friends all the time, but now if you're not, not a red flag. 😂
My red flag is the guy wanting the cookie first without getting to know me💔
Guy told me he's getting to know me by phone the last few months. Ok but you've never asked me for a date. You are inviting yourself to my house for the cookie. Wanted to see if we were compatible. Boy bye!!! Exit stage left and right. 😂😂
@@valeriebrim4435😭😭😭😭
Min, got me... 😢😮
Red flag, when they stop doing things they were doing when you first started dating
THISSSSS WHOLE ENTIRE PARTTTTTTTT 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯‼️#CONSISTENCYMUSSSSSTTTTTBEKEY or It's A COMPLETE DEAL BREAKER ALLLLLLLDAY💯💯💯💯💯💯💯‼️
Yep. Im going through this now with someone I met two months ago. Started off strong, now he’s changed. Obviously seeing someone else who is local to him. I’m not.
@@kendramlittlejohnI hope you’re doing OK 💕. And I hope you’re expanding your horizons, no need to lock things down with someone after a short time and they’re already display inconsistencies. You deserve more. Just Speaking from experience, wishing you the best
Chance is such a wise man ... Tabitha you are truly blessed! Put together by God To God be the Glory 🙌
🚩If he treats his Mother like💩, he'll treat you the same way! #TalkinFromExperience
He's right about being cordial with exes. I dated someone who told his ex to f off, and I asked him to apologize. He wouldn't. It was one more thing that pushed me away.
Not "that big eyed gurl"!!! 👀👧🏾😩😫😄😆😅😂😂🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
Lol 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Texting throughout the day is annoying. People who are busy can't text ALLL DAY.
I think it depends on the text. If it’s thinking of you, hope your day is going well, that’s fine. But memes all day or texts that require a response is annoying
Amen
Establish that day one... I know we love the first few day but then reality hits and you are nolonger pulling out your phone every few minutes...
The Ex boyfriend said his ex wife was “crazy” and he also had issues with his mother who lived three miles away and he wouldn’t speak to her. Nope.
Wanting to get physical without knowing you at all. Expecting you to be physical without knowing them.
*Actions not matching words.*
Not-committal “agreeing.” Watch out if you start doing all the talking and planning, and they’re just kinda “ok…” and not agreeing or giving a committed yes.
Lost my husband 3 years ago and am just now open to the idea of joining the dating world. What I see and hear about it doesn’t make me too hopeful, but not trying is not an option. My husband broke every mold and raised every bar and he’s probably smiling down on me, maybe even laughing and poking out his chest saying yup that’s me. He always had jokes. So I’m going back out into this world like I used when I was single before him, to enjoy meeting good men and letting them decide what role, if any, they want to be in my life….and I simply and quietly decide if that’s ok or enough for me. I keep things as simple as possible…do you add value to my life or do you need to go. No drama. No second guessing. No diminishing me to make you feel better about you. As my husband always said, “don’t let anyone steal your joy”.
Yes, this dating world isn't the easiest...but it is what it is. Been single for a good time now. I'm in NYC, so most ppl here aren't fully single. And the ones that are, most out here either playing games or not ready for something & someone real....so yeah, it is what it is.
But it's definitely doable. Just gotta keep on keeping on I guess. Lol
Wish you the best. 💜❤️💜
Hey Sis! It's been 3 years for me too. And these dating streets don't look too promising. I think I'm just gonna be patient. And let my Boaz find me.🙏
@@jayc5756 ooohhhh that sounds horrible. lol maybe imma stay home just a little longer.
@@MsVee58 I’m sending you all the good vibes and blessings! I’m sorry for your loss. And with all I’ve been through, the hard stuff can’t be for nothing. So here’s to more joy in both our lives. lol but I really might stay home just a bit longer. These streets are rough!
@@mcf5878 What you mean by stay home?
The dating pool & scene will be different depending on where you're at. So NYC may be easier to find a decent man...but you just gotta be good at vetting...so you wein off those 9 players that holla at you when you see those signs...and maybe get to know that 1 out of 10 man...if you're attracted to him.
In places like ATL/Houston, the dynamics may be completely the opposite.
So like I said, it's just different depending on where you reside.
I always feel like my soulmate might be somewhere down south anyway. Idk 🤔
Some red flags for me when it comes to dating is if we just started talking and we’re texting or calling as a way to get to know each other, and the person who I’m talking to decides to text me on and off, but not consistently( I lose interest fast if we’re not in consistent communication), when a person who you just met talks about how they love you and see a future with you, clinginess, wanting to marry after a short while of being together, if they want to have s*x on the first date, etc.
Chance was spot on about people’s parents (I think the word he was looking for is “Passive”). Let me meet them early! Especially if they have a close relationship. How the parents are often mirrors how your date is behind the facade.
Yes I look at how a dude relationship is with his mom especially. That dictates if I be in a relationship with the dude.
@@DaniD-zy2rlwith if their parent is deceased?
That’s a whole lie because there are some toxic parents that do not have toxic children…so looking at the parent to see something in who you are dating would be a wrong move.
@@luvnyaalwayz K
ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL COUPLE❤💪🏽💯
Exactly....when someone starts telling you all their red flags...RED FLAG
I t hink it's wonderful that Tab can say something to Chance or give him a certain look and actually make him blush.❤❤❤
Y'all should talk about how women can leave a relationship mentally before physically
It’s not just women, it’s people thing.
That part
Right on! 👊🏽
Tab & Chance really enjoyed this show, I was grinning ear to ear. I've been married long time like u guys, but I so agree with you guys about when you should introduce others to families..My kids used to intoduce right away, they break up I still had the relationships of course I had to cut it off...I finally said I don't want to meet anyone unless y'all getting ready to be married..Great show!.😂😂😂😂
Happy Friday!!!! We are so honored to be featured as this week's "Very Good Monday's" Candle of the Week🎉🕯️❤️. Thank you Tabitha Brown!
Great topic, I loved it. Also love the way the two of you make eye contact with each other, can see the connection there❤
Your earrings are beautiful!
'Sometimes you know, and then you're wrong." That one hit hard 😂😂😂
Hey y'all 👋. HAPPY FRIDAY 😊. I love this conversation ❤❤. You two make such a great couple ❤❤❤
I love Chance energy on friends with an ex. Not the red 👁️ 😂😂😂
Possible topics: What to do with crazy family members? How to balance work/home? How to make friends as a married person? Wills, trusts, and investment - how to bring up estate planning with family? What candy was the worst? What stores/restaurants you wish could come back?
Chance has a lot of wisdom
I hope and pray that I meet my person.😃
Exactly 💯
Wishing the same for you. You are wonderful and your personal is out there.
Love the smiles 😊 you two share ❤
Disagree with the social media.
Had a public relationship never post my men.
I don't want to be posted on theirs.
Those who know will know.
I really enjoy these questions! 😀👍🏾 🥑🏌🏾♀️
Im single, and yes I Totally Agree with All of these. FR
Dating is different these days for sure so many things and the chasing part that Tab said all I can do is shake my head because I have found more men these days want you to chase after them. I understand showing your interest but it has to be mutual ..
Thank you Chance!!! I just cut things off with a guy because he didn’t understand this concept.
Great advice! Thank you both for sharing your wisdom.
I love me some Fridays with Tab and Chance! Tab l saw your Donna’s Recipe in Target today and purchased the extra creamy hair & scalp oil. My hair is relaxed so hopefully it will do wonders for my hair. Great topic being aware of those 🚩
Thanks for always sharing great inspirations. 🥰🥰🥰
Tab, stop yawning when Chance is talking 😂! He makes totally valid points. You may have heard them before, but dang let the man speak his mind 😂. On a serious note, I really appreciate both of you. One love!❤
If they’re trying to keep you a secret. If we’re committed, it better be on your socials. If you’re posting your friends and never your partner, red flag
Dating over 40 whew 😮…but God 😅
Try 55 lol
@@dorisminter485 I can only imagine… I’m sure it has to be worst.
Chance just called me crazy and you right Unc I’m going to slow down.
Just have to love her and celebrate her contentment 🎉of cause and that winning smile!! ❤
Them being passive while you do all the emotional work
I'm already hollering! 🤣 I'm a movie person but I had to check this segment out. Love these guys. 🌟
I didn't read the red flags correctly. Good talk
Yes,Chance friend vs friendly! Great distinction. Thank you
I had to chime in on the posting on social media part. My spouse specifically requested not to be posted when he joined law enforcement for my and my daughter's safety.
I watched the part you got something in your eye about 10 times. 🤣🤣😂😂
I’m so glad that I am married because everyone who is single says it is horrible trying to date in 2024 ages 40 to 50 years old. They want you to be their side chick.
I loooooove Tabitha!!! You are hilarious love! And you are so wonderful Chance ( though I know you don’t need to hear it from me) for loving Tab.😂❤
Not the big eyed girl 😂😂😂…. He set you up with that parking space
Social media is it! that really does tell a story even if they never post or rarely post but they are constantly on their social media account. They are not private they are unsure of you or just playing games!
I love the accapella intro song 🎵 and beat!
Not “Big Eyed Girl” now wayment! 😂😂😂
My husband lost 2 at work and to me you can not keep replacing it! It's not the original one!
Yall are some fools and I love every second of it. Love my auntie and uncle
Awe, he’s blushing!! I love watching you guys!! ❤️❤️❤️
Dating over a year and haven’t met his parents is a red flag. Keep in mind both are over 40
Who have you met yet?
Not necessarily! It all depends on the circumstances. I was like that at first, and he was too. It was only because we both had kids and I won't going to let just anyone meet my children or my parents. Sometimes a year is not enough people can change after 2 years .Needless to say we've been together 19 years. It's not always a red flag just caution.
@@PYTU no one
Yall dating...definitely not in a serious relationship. C'mon on you know something wrong with that.
@@Rellstv50 Big🚩... something ain't right fr!
It's not cute for you to check on me every hour when I have told you I'm at work. Don't call me for at least another 8 hours, or I'll call you if I have something to say.
Friday Blessings Y'all💛💙💚
Yes keep pushing
Friendly respectable Yes
I love you Tabithaaaaaaa HAPPY FRIDAY luv from Cali ✨🌴🌤️ GOD is Good all the time I all the time GOD is Good 💐💞👏🏾
Can you guys do a topic on,
How do you help your spouse whose suffers with an addiction and don't won't the help,how can your marriage succeed.
Great topic!
They may not be able to help you there per se only give their opinion like I'm about to.
First thing you can't make an addict decide anything they have to make that choice for themselves.
However you can let them know that you love them but you can no longer stay and watch them destroy themselves and just give them a choice you try for their own sake as well as the relationship or this is it for you
Very good episode ❤
Y'all such a beautiful couple.
On a dinner date right after you both left your places of employment in office settings. It is a second date. Your date does not drink any alcoholic beverages during dinner, most likely because he has learned through phone conversations that you don't drink. When you are finished eating dinner and are standing near each other, you smell alcohol coming from his pores. Red flag!
These are good. Yall forgot, when you take someone on a date and the person orders an expensive dish and you didn't, but you're paying.
During the early stages of getting to know each other through phone conversations, he has repeatedly spoken negatively about his mother and also about his Ex. Red flag!
Yes he may have valid reasons/experiences to feel as he does, but that is still a red flag. A man with deep-rooted mommy issues, is a man likely to have issues with women. Red flag!
Can you and Chance talk about marriage finances?
Great episode,I loved it, wonderful topics ❤😊....
Tab you guys are awesome!
Could y’all bring Chance’s mom on for an episode??? I think we would all love her, she seems to be so full of personality!
I would like to know what your opinion is on the topic of couples going 50/50 on the bills?
Great Flag discussion 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Cute shirts y'all
Luv you Tab 🎉❤🎉😊.
Definitely do this again! So good
Great video love y’all! ❤
You're right, Mr. Chance....all day long texting is unacceptable . That happened to my sister....it never stopped. She married him and it continued. Now she passed away by his hand...it's a definite red flag. We kept trying to tell her but she wouldn't listen.
💜 wishing you peace
My condolences to your sister.
Good conversation
Yes RED EYE AND RED FLAGS 😂😂😂😂
This episode was hilarious and great advice. 😂
Enjoyed this topic
I miss y'all ❤❤
PLEASE CONSIDER THIS!!!
Hi y’all! This goes back to what Auntie Tab said…I was raised in the “yes ma’am no ma’am, yes sir no sir” mindset. My daughter is 7 and I’m struggling to find the right approach in today’s society with respect to pronouns. I want my children to be respectful, but some people take offense to addressing the gender. Are we still teaching children to address other’s as ma’am or sir????
My husband doesn’t text but will call me during the day to see what I am doing 😂
It would be me and Jesus 😂if my husband passed away because I don’t have time to play games with men period. Most of the are not ready for relationship 🙄🤷🏾♀️
And most are on the down low too😅
@@dede8089 yes 🙄😂
Most have more than one woman as well.
😆 he wiped the smile off
I like the shirts...
21:00 @Tab Is Mama Zane from the Islands?!
She sounds like an Island girl!
Tab!!!! Oh man she cracks me up. 😂
😂😂😂I just love yall!! That's it!!