Yes! I love this video! So many great tips & suggestions! My relationship tools are all centered around communication, because without effective communication there is no healthy relationship. One key tool I use is one I got from Lisa Nichols: I have nothing to defend, I have nothing to protect, I have nothing to prove, I have nothing to hide. This allows me to show up fully, actively listen, & connect in a deeper way. When beginning a particularly difficult conversation I will state that this is where I am coming from. By establishing it the beginning I allow them to see I am willing to be vulnerable & honest. I will own my mistakes & will not deflect. It is also an invitation to show up in the same way. I have no expectations that they will, & to stay in my integrity, I will hold to it, even if they don't.
Yes, we do! You can find a more in-depth explanation of this and other tools by Coach Byran Reeves in this video: th-cam.com/video/crcGQad-4f0/w-d-xo.html. And you might also find this video interesting: th-cam.com/video/6kmzfVYXg9o/w-d-xo.html. Enjoy and thanks for sharing ❤
So glad you enjoyed it, Tere! And guess what - YOU CAN! 🙃 The complete session is part of our Coaching Mastery program - you can try it today for only $1. Just click here: bit.ly/try-coaching-mastery 😉
Wow, this is frightening. First, “invitation and the catalyst” conversation doesn’t make sense, she didn’t take any information out of that conversation, it was pointless, she didn’t have a verbal input other than listening to what you have said, you didn’t even give an explanation to exactly how that works in a relationship, she is confused based on her facial expression. Like I said, this didn’t relieve tension; she is still tense. Trying to put her at ease doesn’t mean breaking in the “ice” and trying to make her feel that this is common, well, no duh this is common, I’m pretty sure she knows that along with most people on this planet. Her releasing information from the frustration within her relationship is releasing tension, she is looking for relief through guidance and understanding of behavior, that’s what she is looking for. The catalyst and telling her that this is normal didn’t put her at rest, it was one of the most useless conversation. "7:03 What would happen if this doesn’t change? And reveal Urgency?" Since the beginning of the video, there is tension coming from her, there is an urgency and that’s why she invested in this coaching program, so this conversation is useless, a waste of money, a waste of time and is completely unnecessary. He keep talking to her like she is a daughter rather than being someone who listens, understands, go back and forward in the conversation straight looking for the behaviors, he is just lecturing her. 9:21 POINT PROVEN, she is still confused, he hasn’t said anything useful at all throughout the conversation. Request vs Requirement was a useless conversation, she is trying to save her relationship, she is “TRYING TO SAVE” so let’s work with saving and in the end if nothing was resolve than she can come up with the next measures. It’s funny how he repeats “tell me what I need to do” this was awkward for him because he didn’t do anything to bring actual useful information to the relationship. 9:29, you see that blank stare coming form him, he is lost and then he repeats garbage that doesn’t match with what he said in the beginning He is now saying invitation vs obligation Before he said invitation vs catalyst 9:47, he pauses because he is lost, and now he says something else that it’s not related to her concern. She is your client, not you daughter. Honestly, yes, he is right, telling him what to do or anyone what to do is not good but that's just common sense, hence she is here looking for why her husband is behaving strange. Here’s what should have happen. He should have said from the very beginning, At what point did you start noticing these behaviors? She would say, it started blah blah blah. Does it feel like he is doing it out being lazy, do you feel like there is a hidden intention? Why ask this? Because intuition always makes sense. If it’s just laziness then she can comprise with him to mix the work, If he is hiding something that you further look for the root of the information by back tracking. You look for the source and rectify those behaviors through communication once found. This was awkward. She feels awkward. And this is a pointless conversation and no there is no connection. She didn’t take ANYTHING out of this and he wasted her time and money. How does this guy even have a business?
Hi there! We're sad you didn't find this video useful in any way. The reason why you might have pointed out all these items is that the full coaching session was cut to fit the purpose of this video which is a session breakdown. We focused only on specific tools master coach Bryan Reeves used, so there's a lot of information there missing which might have answered your queries above. Thanks for sharing your opinion nevertheless!
Counselor or a therapist, goes deep into things in your past and try to find solutions to help you like medication. A coach , basically coaches you to get you to get where you want to be, without all the other stuff.
@@quemun4540 " coaches you to get you to get where you want to be, without all the other stuff" Everyone wants to be in a certain place that's just common sense. Coaching and therapy is the same thing minus the government and medication.
As a therapist that also coaches, I’d say there are differences in training and framework but it’s not as simplistic as “therapists work with the past”. There are many different approaches to therapy just as there are different coaching models and you can be a therapist and be very solution-focused. Therapists are trained to do all the things coaches do, although we tend to not give direct advice and the focus is definitely on the “inner game” and the intention or context of a conversation might be a little less direct or focused on action steps (not necessarily though). However, relationship therapy does require some facilitation and mediation if both parties are in the room. I’d say, it might look similar, but in coaching, if there are deeper psychological problems or deeper dysfunction, referring to therapy might be more appropriate. In some therapy models, looking at patterns that stem from family of origin or attachment styles, for example, might come into play. Therapists don’t prescribe medication though-only psychiatrists do that.
We totally get you, Mary Ann! This video is actually not the full coaching session, we selected clips to highlight tools and techniques Bryan Reeves used for the purpose of this particular video. The full coaching session is inside our Coaching Mastery program, you can learn more about it here: go.evercoach.com/q2Q2z6f7 Hope this clarifies! :)
@@ohreallymaryann you are in the right! She looks tense throughout the conversation and she looks lost, frustrated, and confused. He did most of the talking and it sounded more like a parent lecturing a daughter than anything else. It was a waste of time and money. He should have asked her question relating to the behaviors and back tracking at the time she started noticing her husband behaving out of the norm. You know, At what point did you notice your husband behaving this way. Do you feel like he does it out of laziness or do you feel like he is hiding something? And if the husband is hiding something, is there aggression involving your husband? Why aggression? Because aggression can be caused out of resentment, many things could have been explored but he just kept lecturing nonsense and she was obviously frustrated. I posted a comment of behavioral breakdown you can check it out on the top unless the user deleted my comment :)
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Yes! I love this video! So many great tips & suggestions!
My relationship tools are all centered around communication, because without effective communication there is no healthy relationship. One key tool I use is one I got from Lisa Nichols: I have nothing to defend, I have nothing to protect, I have nothing to prove, I have nothing to hide. This allows me to show up fully, actively listen, & connect in a deeper way.
When beginning a particularly difficult conversation I will state that this is where I am coming from. By establishing it the beginning I allow them to see I am willing to be vulnerable & honest. I will own my mistakes & will not deflect.
It is also an invitation to show up in the same way. I have no expectations that they will, & to stay in my integrity, I will hold to it, even if they don't.
Nice!
Yes I do love his request vs requirement
Yey ❤︎ Thanks for sharing, Grace! :)
I love the request vs requirement . Yes
Thank you for sharing, Bruno! ❤
So glad I found this channel!
We're so glad you did, Chyna! ❤❤❤
Yes! I appreciate this TH-cam video. "Invitation" is a great tip!
And we appreciate YOU :)! Thanks for sharing :)
This is very helpful for me in my coaching business. Thanks for providing this demonstration.
You're so welcome, Tonetta! Glad it was useful ❤
Thank you so much for this❤
We're so glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for sharing
Excellent!
Thanks for sharing, Debra ❤
very interesting!
Thanks for sharing, Nicole! ❤
These tips are just so good!!!
So glad you enjoyed it, Abdirahman! Thanks for sharing ❤️
Do you have a video on the 'language needles' you mentioned to coach the client on?
Yes, we do! You can find a more in-depth explanation of this and other tools by Coach Byran Reeves in this video:
th-cam.com/video/crcGQad-4f0/w-d-xo.html. And you might also find this video interesting: th-cam.com/video/6kmzfVYXg9o/w-d-xo.html. Enjoy and thanks for sharing ❤
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@@Kittenprrrr Sounds like a great afternoon, Emma! ❤
Extremely valuable. Thanks!
Thanks Howard!
Ajit you are doing a wonderful service. God bless!
Thank you so much, Preeti! We appreciate you ❤
Great tips !
Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed it ❤︎
This is sooo useful!! i wish I could watch the whole session!! ;)
So glad you enjoyed it, Tere! And guess what - YOU CAN! 🙃
The complete session is part of our Coaching Mastery program - you can try it today for only $1. Just click here: bit.ly/try-coaching-mastery 😉
Yes i do.
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Yes. Excellent suggestions. I believe by incorporating some I can increase effectiveness.
Fantastic!! So glad it was useful ❤
I really appreciate this. I might as well apply this in our own relationship concerns.
Exactly, Ran! As great coaches say, "You can only take your clients as far as you've gone yourself." Thanks for sharing :)
Thanks for that! G
You are most welcome, Gabriel! Happy you found it valuable :)
Loved this one! Thank you for sharing these tips! 💛
We're so happy you enjoyed it! Thanks for sharing ❤
I love this!
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Thanks very helpful.
Glad you found it valuable, Nilu! Thanks for sharing :)
great information thanks :)
Glad you enjoyed it, Raheela! Thanks for sharing ❤
@@mindvalleycoach been watching your videos all are amazing 👏
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Wonderful breakdown of the session. Thanks for the tips 🙏
So glad it was valuable, Deepak! Thanks for sharing ❤
Wow, this is frightening.
First, “invitation and the catalyst” conversation doesn’t make sense, she didn’t take any information out of that conversation, it was pointless, she didn’t have a verbal input other than listening to what you have said, you didn’t even give an explanation to exactly how that works in a relationship, she is confused based on her facial expression.
Like I said, this didn’t relieve tension; she is still tense. Trying to put her at ease doesn’t mean breaking in the “ice” and trying to make her feel that this is common, well, no duh this is common, I’m pretty sure she knows that along with most people on this planet. Her releasing information from the frustration within her relationship is releasing tension, she is looking for relief through guidance and understanding of behavior, that’s what she is looking for.
The catalyst and telling her that this is normal didn’t put her at rest, it was one of the most useless conversation.
"7:03 What would happen if this doesn’t change? And reveal Urgency?"
Since the beginning of the video, there is tension coming from her, there is an urgency and that’s why she invested in this coaching program, so this conversation is useless, a waste of money, a waste of time and is completely unnecessary.
He keep talking to her like she is a daughter rather than being someone who listens, understands, go back and forward in the conversation straight looking for the behaviors, he is just lecturing her.
9:21 POINT PROVEN, she is still confused, he hasn’t said anything useful at all throughout the conversation.
Request vs Requirement was a useless conversation, she is trying to save her relationship, she is “TRYING TO SAVE” so let’s work with saving and in the end if nothing was resolve than she can come up with the next measures.
It’s funny how he repeats “tell me what I need to do” this was awkward for him because he didn’t do anything to bring actual useful information to the relationship.
9:29, you see that blank stare coming form him, he is lost and then he repeats garbage that doesn’t match with what he said in the beginning
He is now saying invitation vs obligation
Before he said invitation vs catalyst
9:47, he pauses because he is lost, and now he says something else that it’s not related to her concern.
She is your client, not you daughter.
Honestly, yes, he is right, telling him what to do or anyone what to do is not good but that's just common sense, hence she is here looking for why her husband is behaving strange.
Here’s what should have happen.
He should have said from the very beginning,
At what point did you start noticing these behaviors?
She would say, it started blah blah blah.
Does it feel like he is doing it out being lazy, do you feel like there is a hidden intention?
Why ask this? Because intuition always makes sense.
If it’s just laziness then she can comprise with him to mix the work,
If he is hiding something that you further look for the root of the information by back tracking.
You look for the source and rectify those behaviors through communication once found.
This was awkward.
She feels awkward.
And this is a pointless conversation and no there is no connection.
She didn’t take ANYTHING out of this and he wasted her time and money. How does this guy even have a business?
Hi there! We're sad you didn't find this video useful in any way. The reason why you might have pointed out all these items is that the full coaching session was cut to fit the purpose of this video which is a session breakdown. We focused only on specific tools master coach Bryan Reeves used, so there's a lot of information there missing which might have answered your queries above. Thanks for sharing your opinion nevertheless!
This is so helpful....An insightful session.....Thanks Bryan !!! #LeenaParanjpe #MillennialMarriageCoach
Glad you enjoyed it, Leena! Thanks for sharing ❤️
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How does this differ from relationship counseling? We aren't therapists.
Counselor or a therapist, goes deep into things in your past and try to find solutions to help you like medication. A coach , basically coaches you to get you to get where you want to be, without all the other stuff.
@@quemun4540 " coaches you to get you to get where you want to be, without all the other stuff"
Everyone wants to be in a certain place that's just common sense.
Coaching and therapy is the same thing minus the government and medication.
As a therapist that also coaches, I’d say there are differences in training and framework but it’s not as simplistic as “therapists work with the past”. There are many different approaches to therapy just as there are different coaching models and you can be a therapist and be very solution-focused. Therapists are trained to do all the things coaches do, although we tend to not give direct advice and the focus is definitely on the “inner game” and the intention or context of a conversation might be a little less direct or focused on action steps (not necessarily though). However, relationship therapy does require some facilitation and mediation if both parties are in the room. I’d say, it might look similar, but in coaching, if there are deeper psychological problems or deeper dysfunction, referring to therapy might be more appropriate. In some therapy models, looking at patterns that stem from family of origin or attachment styles, for example, might come into play. Therapists don’t prescribe medication though-only psychiatrists do that.
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WIsh I could hear her better.
Ahh.. did it not work?
I'm master of my will. I can talk to anyone the only problem is to watch out what I say. I am the most confident man in the world. I'm Russian. 👍😎🇷🇺
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... What?
The coach did 95% of the talking which seems unpleasant for a very good coaching experience.
We totally get you, Mary Ann! This video is actually not the full coaching session, we selected clips to highlight tools and techniques Bryan Reeves used for the purpose of this particular video. The full coaching session is inside our Coaching Mastery program, you can learn more about it here: go.evercoach.com/q2Q2z6f7
Hope this clarifies! :)
Gotcha! Makes sense now
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@@ohreallymaryann you are in the right!
She looks tense throughout the conversation and she looks lost, frustrated, and confused.
He did most of the talking and it sounded more like a parent lecturing a daughter than anything else.
It was a waste of time and money.
He should have asked her question relating to the behaviors and back tracking at the time she started noticing her husband behaving out of the norm.
You know,
At what point did you notice your husband behaving this way.
Do you feel like he does it out of laziness or do you feel like he is hiding something?
And if the husband is hiding something, is there aggression involving your husband?
Why aggression? Because aggression can be caused out of resentment, many things could have been explored but he just kept lecturing nonsense and she was obviously frustrated.
I posted a comment of behavioral breakdown you can check it out on the top unless the user deleted my comment :)